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The Sex Reimagined PodcastMax Carey: Filmmaker Confession - I Thought I Knew Sex Until I Made This Documentary | #146Send us a text & leave your email address if you want a reply!In a world where 85% of BDSM practitioners state that consent and boundaries are critical factors in their activities, there's a revolutionary approach to intimacy that mainstream relationships desperately need to learn. What if the secret to deeper sexual satisfaction isn't found in vanilla dating trends, but in the structured communication practices of the kink community? Join hosts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown as they dive deep with filmmaker Max Carey, creator of the provocative documentary "Touch Kink." This isn't just another sex documentary—it...2025-07-011h 05
Good Girls Talk About SexPop Culture Pillow Talk: Starstruck on HBOWhat happens when your brain is so busy it can't slow down to enjoy having sexy time with the cute guy who's totally into you? In today's episode, we break down the first two episodes of the HBO show Starstruck with teen sex and relationship educator Julia Sheldon (who also happens to be Leah's dear friend.) We focus on lead character Jessie and how overthinking gets in the way of being present. Upcoming Beyond Permission class schedule: Thursday, Feb. 22 - Embracing your inner MILF with Danielle Tuesday, Feb. 27 - Dating at midlife with Leah T...2024-02-1552 min
Good Girls Talk About SexNavigating the sex talk demonsLeah joins Danielle of Marriage & Martinis to talk about why Danielle's conversation with her husband about intimacy and pleasure was explosive and chaotic. Leah breaks down what we need to remember during these very tough conversations: we’ve been conditioned differently from the time we’re very young, and are often simply adhering to the roles we’ve been instructed to fulfill. They talk about why we can’t always trust our bodies’ physical responses during intimacy, games that can be played in lieu of telling our partner, “we’re not satisfied” as means to get a similar message a...2023-12-301h 22
Good Girls Talk About SexI wish they would SLOW DOWN - Coaching MariaIn this coaching episode, Maria asks the age old question: why is it so hard to ask for what I want?! She's convinced that her problem is in poor communication skills, but it doesn't take long to discover that the issue lies in a complete different area. Leah works with Maria to: understand how gender dynamics are creating friction in the "what do you want?" conversation, rethink how her definition of "sex" makes asking so difficult, practice the way she'd like to initiate a conversation about sex with potential partners. Maria is a 27-year-old cisgender...2023-12-0755 min
Good Girls Talk About SexLeah faces an identity crisisLeah delves into a deeply personal topic: how trauma and mental health have impacted her ability to show up authentically. She talks about the impact her demanding, charismatic father had on her psyche and sense of safety. In admitting her fear of being viewed as not good enough or too much like their father, Leah discusses the creation of a performative persona and the desire to shift to a more authentic voice. Who Is Your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego? www.leahcarey.com/quiz Work with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching ...2023-11-0930 min
Good Girls Talk About SexMy mother said "Don't sell your body" - Coaching LisaIn this coaching episode, Lisa talks about learning to stay present when she's having pleasure. Currently her mind wanders during sex to making grocery lists or worrying that what she's doing is wrong. Leah works with Lisa to: understand what's underneath her brain's tendency to wander, reframe her judgments about sex workers, and recognize the effects of early childhood parentification. Lisa is a 44-year-old cisgender woman who lives in Italy. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, single & having fun, and exploring different relationship styles because she's not sure she believes in monogamy anymore. She had a...2023-10-2648 min
Good Girls Talk About SexAll labia are beautiful - Hypermobility and a labiaplastyLeah shares the next step in her health care journey: hypermobility. And this one has even more wide-ranging implications than the endometriosis diagnosis that upended her world six months ago. Take the brand new quiz to find your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego! Find the quiz at www.leahcarey.com/quiz Links to earlier health update episodes: March 2nd May 25th July 20th Also mentioned in this episode: Hypermobility coach Tracy Rodriguez - www.instagram.com/thetracyrodriguez/ Hypermobility and Proprioception: What’s with the clumsiness? - https://www.mybendybody.com/body-awareness-hypermobility/ Psyc...2023-10-1255 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI have panic attacks during oral sex - Coaching SavyIn this coaching episode, Savy talks about getting more comfortable with her genitals and with having sex in a fat body. She's had limited sexual experiences and wants to expand her horizons, but is afraid of being rejected in the middle of the act. Leah works with Savy to: realize that by the time she gets naked with a potential suitor, they won't be surprised by her body, recognize the difference between what her brain is telling her and what is happening in reality, and identify ways to explore the type of touch she desires. ...2023-09-1453 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI'm a hot mess - Coaching JenIn this coaching episode, Jen is a listener who struggles with body image and emotional baggage in her relationships. She was abused beginning at age seven, and the scars have faded but haven't disappeared completely. She is self-conscious about her body, which is affecting her ability to be present for intimacy with her husband. She feels like a "hot mess" because dealing with her body insecurities and emotional baggage has been a significant challenge. Leah works with Jen to: examine the patterns established in her sexual relationship, discover how pausing to breathe could make a major...2023-08-1742 min
Good Girls Talk About SexRenovating my innards & podcast announcement - LeahLeah provides an update on her health journey after two surgeries within four weeks of each other (earlier updates are here and here.) Plus: BIG news about changes coming to the podcast! Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching/ Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes: www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/my-innards2023-07-2033 min
Good Girls Talk About SexCrushes and Confessions: Coaching with CaitlinWhen Caitlin left her marriage, she found herself exploring sex as a single woman and discovering new interests. Through coaching with Leah, she admitted to herself that she might be interested in queer sex. This led to a realization that everything she thought was true about herself shattered, similar to a glass shelf breaking. She is finding freedom in exploring her desires and leaving behind what no longer serves her. In this coaching conversation, Caitlin and Leah talk about how she can dip her toe into queer dating. Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com...2023-06-0849 min
Good Girls Talk About SexThings didn't go as expected - Update from LeahLeah provides an update to her health journey. When last we spoke, Leah was preparing for a hysterectomy surgery. However, when her surgeon had her on the operating table, he discovered that he couldn't do the hysterectomy as expected. Instead, she's spent the last month recovering from surgery #1 and preparing for surgery #2. GoFundMe - https://www.leahcarey.com/GoFundMe Class replays - https://www.leahcarey.com/courses2023-05-2530 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI feel better when I'm naked - This Is Not About Your BodyIn a special crossover episode, Leah talks with Jessi Kneeland on the This Is Not About Your Body podcast about how body image and sexuality intersect; body image in partnership; advocating for your own needs; and much more. Fall in love with your sex life in 2023 - register for "Tune In To Your Turn Ons": www.leahcarey.com/classes Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Jessi Kneeland, body image coach: www.jessikneeland.com This Is Not About Your Body podc...2023-03-301h 22
Good Girls Talk About SexOpening my relationship made it even better - LeahLeah sits down with her good friend Danielle of the Marriage & Martinis podcast to talk about her own relationship. The two discuss Leah's new adventure into pursuing an open relationship with her long-time partner. How did they know it was the right time to explore non-monogamy? What is different about their relationship now that allows them to trust one another enough to pursue sexual experiences outside of their relationship? What are the boundaries for sexual encounters outside their primary relationship? What can we learn from healthy open relationship about how all couples can communicate around sex...2022-11-101h 11
Good Girls Talk About SexThick thighs save lives - LeahHaving trouble loving your body? In our culture that’s normal, no matter your shape or size. In a special crossover episode, Leah talks with Rachael and Kelsea on the Thick Thighs Save Lives podcast about how public nudity experiences along her journey sexual awakening transformed her understanding about what kinds of bodies are lovable. She gives tips on how to feel better naked, tune into what you want, and communicate it to your partner. Thanks to our episode sponsor: Kindra – try Kindra at www.ourkindra.com using code goodgirls20 for 20% off your first p...2022-02-1758 min
Good Girls Talk About SexHow I ended up on Dan Savage's podcastSurprise! It's a bonus episode! Leah shares how she became a featured guest on the #1 sex and relationship advice podcast, and why it is such a big deal for her. Savage Lovecast episode - https://savage.love/lovecast/2022/01/04/a-study-of-hypno-porn/ Read excerpts of Leah's memoir-in-progress - https://landing.mailerlite.com/webforms/landing/s9e0j0 Full show notes - https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/how-i-ended-up-on-dan-savages-podcast/2022-01-1328 min
Good Girls Talk About SexSex with women is 10/10, highly recommend - ToriTori grew up in a church that preached purity culture, which mostly taught her what she didn’t want—a life with far more shame than sex, compounded by firmly fixed instructions around gender. She followed her pleasure down roads less traditionally traveled and created polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships with people across the gender spectrum. It works for her, her partners, and the children for whom she wants to make a better, healthier world. Tori is 37-years-old. She describes herself as Black, pansexual and polyamorous. She has a partner who she lives with, plus she’s in a rela...2021-09-0255 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI want be pushed against the wall – Ar BliaIt’s our 100th episode!!!!! Ar Blia is a listener-turned-guest who has been untangling early experiences of trauma, limiting cultural beliefs, and confusing desires to first explore and then advocate for her own pleasure. Even within the constricts of a conservative community, she has been able to find adventure, find herself, and find a partner who truly works for her. Ar Blia is a 27-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as straight, monogamous, and partnered with her boyfriend of five years. She describes her body as average (though by white American stan...2021-08-051h 25
Good Girls Talk About SexSex and the 7th Day Adventist Church - ChandraChandra grew up in the 7th Day Adventist church, which she equates to a cult. She faults the church for being an educational, social, and religious system that neither acknowledges nor teaches that consent exists for women. She became (mildly) rebellious, experimented with illicit hand-holding, got married, got out, and then embarked on a season of experimentation. Chandra is a 29-year-old, cisgender female. She grew up in the 7th Day Adventist Church in the United States and describes herself as mixed race including Black, white, Chinese, and east Indian. She is bisexual, single, and has n...2021-07-081h 14
Good Girls Talk About SexI was afraid he would kill me - GinaGina grew up as a hot babe, the kind we’d all be jealous of. It took a long journey of sexual acting out and questionable marriages for her to realize that she was both groomed to be this way, and that it’s a trauma response to early assaults. Being performative, dominant, or checking out are still common ways her body responds, even though she loves her husband. She is the mother of two daughters and is committed to finding a path to sex that feels safe, and hopefully even enjoyable. Gina is a 43-year...2021-06-241h 19
Good Girls Talk About SexNot saying ‘no’ doesn’t mean ‘yes’ – DanielleDanielle is a therapist who has also graduated from the school of life. Her earliest sexual experiences were non-consensual and impacted her for long after the events happened in implicit, explicit, and confusing ways. She found healing within a happy marriage, then suffered a miscarriage with its own series of impacts. She’s doing well now, and still loves a Reverse Cowgirl. Danielle is a 35-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as straight, monogamous, married, and pre-menopausal. She describes her body as athletic. Bookmark moments: 3:10 - Danielle shares her first memor...2021-06-171h 12
Good Girls Talk About SexI like to get tied up - NatalieNatalie is a 30-year-old, cisgender female who describes herself as monogamous, straight and engaged to be married. She describes her body as petite. Natalie talks about her experiences with both binge and purge eating behaviors, and how they affected her experience of sex and her body. She also talks about sometimes trading sex for lodging when she didn’t have steady housing. Bookmark moments: 4:06 - Natalie shares her first memory of sexual pleasure, in high school. She’s the middle of 7 kids and grew open in a pretty open household, though it’s hard t...2021-05-201h 15Good Girls Talk About SexWhen the world gets too hard - LeahPatreon: All Good Girls Talk About Sex audio extras are FREE! They can be accessed at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. I've done this because not everyone has the means to pay for access, and I know this additional material can be deeply important for some listeners. But creating this show isn't free, so if you’d like to support the work I do, I am grateful for your contributions at www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex. BE PART OF THE SHOW: Rate this pod: Leave a rating and review at Apple Podca...2021-04-2210 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI settled for someone who wasn't the biggest jerk – HopeHope is trapped in a sexually repressive, emotionally abusive marriage shaped by the patriarchal traditions and relationship culture of her country of origin. With awareness comes healing, and she hopes to spread the message to other women that they are allowed to speak up, deserving of basic decency, and even worthy of real love. Hope is a 38-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as Pakistani, Sunni Muslim, straight, married, and monogamous. She deals with polycystic ovarian syndrome and describes her body as “fluffy”. Bookmark moments: 4:56 - Hope’s first memory of sexual pleasure...2021-04-151h 08
Good Girls Talk About SexDo I have a porn addiction?You don’t worry about having a bathtub masturbation addiction. Leah answers a listener’s questions about whether she has a porn addiction, and why she can’t orgasm with her husband. She talks about identifying the function of porn, not taking on shame, and navigating a relationship agreement around it. Bookmark moments: 2:12 - “Am I normal?” A listener calls in with two inter-related questions: is it normal to be unable to orgasm through intercourse with my husband, and is it normal that I only can with porn? 4:11 - Leah responds to the listener. Difficulty...2021-04-0826 min
Good Girls Talk About SexCOACHING SESSION: Cindy explores mismatched libidoLeah shares a coaching session with Cindy, a married mother of one, for support around a very human variety of issues: decreased libido, sex after motherhood, love languages, pandemic life, sex for connection vs. conception, miscarriage, self-care, homework, and grace. Bookmark moments: 3:18 - Cindy talks about participating in coaching in one of Leah’s group sessions, and catches us up on what life looks like (sexually and otherwise) a year into the pandemic. 7:46 - Stress can have varied effects on libido—up or down. 9:35 - Can you turn your libido back “on”? Cindy talks about wha...2021-03-2544 min
Good Girls Talk About SexCOACHING SESSION: Caitlin & Chris explore BDSMCaitlin returns for a follow-up coaching session with her partner, Chris. They check in with Leah about their BDSM explorations, dom/sub dynamics, communication in and out of play sessions, aftercare, safe words, bruising, pleasure, and sourcing and trying new ideas. Bookmark moments: 4:20 - Caitlin and Chris catch Leah up on the new-to-them BDSM they’ve been exploring and what they’d like support with. 7:31 - Caitlin is clear that sub is her turf. 8:38 - They get into specifics with impact tools, paddles, riding crop, switch, etc. Chris explains how he manages and escalates the i...2021-03-1156 min
Good Girls Talk About SexUnhappily married - TeeTee is unhappily married, and unhappy with her sex life—like so many people. Also like too many, she experiences the lingering impacts of sexual assault. She’s doing the work of setting boundaries, trying to provide a good example for her kids, and is still hoping someday she’ll find a communicative and loving partner. Bookmark moments: 3:33 - Tee shares her first memory of sexual pleasure around age 16, having an electrifying first kiss with an annoying boy. 9:13 - Tee talks about growing up in a conservative Baptist congregation, then opens up about seeing her pare...2021-03-0451 min
Good Girls Talk About SexCOACHING SESSION: Exploring Caitlin's queernessLeah shares a coaching session with client Caitlin to give us an in-depth experience of what coaching looks and feels like. Caitlin is divorced and currently in a friends-with-benefits heterosexual relationship. She and Leah had discussed fantasies and BDSM in previous private sessions; here they focus on Caitlin’s new (or perhaps not new?) sexual attraction to women, and how she might begin to explore that in real life. Bookmark moments: 2:15 - Leah explains what coaching does—and doesn’t—involve. She introduces Caitlin, the coach-ee! 4:44 - Caitlin catches Leah up on a big real...2021-02-2544 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI thought my vagina was broken - StephanieStephanie shares how childhood shame about feeling good in her body led to an eating disorder. She talks about how the eating disorder affected her ability to relate with sexual partners, including her now-husband. Healing the eating disorder has allowed her to begin relating in a new way with her body and her husband. Bookmark moments: 2:37 - Stephanie shares her first memory of sexual play at age 5 or 6, accidentally discovering that rubbing her genitals felt good. The adults around her shamed her, leading her to believe masturbation was a terrible secret....2021-02-1857 min
Good Girls Talk About SexDealing with post-sex UTIsDr. Evelin Dacker returns to answer a listener’s question about common and chronic UTI’s that occur after sex. She breaks down the how and why, and addresses prevention and treatment. She explains how naturopaths can restore balance to your vaginal ecology without creating a medical wasteland, and recommends some home remedies so that you too can help your vagina help itself. Bookmark moments: 1:06 - Listener question: Do I really have to take antibiotics the rest of my life to avoid post-sex UTIs? 3:21 - Dr. Dacker breaks down the anatomy behind UTI’s. 5:51 - Lube...2021-02-1124 min
Good Girls Talk About SexThey can't find the clit without a roadmap - Alexa (take 2)“Deaf U” star Alexa Paulay-Simmons gets candid about who she is (and always has been) as a sexual person, and how that’s shaped her life—both on the inside through her choices and experiences, and on the outside with the tight-knit Deaf community and the show’s global audience. Alexa is a 24-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, with a sporty body. She was featured in the Netflix series “Deaf U”. At the time of this broadcast, she is dating fellow Deaf U cast member Braxton. BOOKMARK MOMENTS: Alexa share...2021-02-0751 min
Good Girls Talk About SexThey can't find the clit without a roadmap - Alexa“Deaf U” star Alexa Paulay-Simmons gets candid about who she is (and always has been) as a sexual person, and how that’s shaped her life—both on the inside through her choices and experiences, and on the outside with the tight-knit Deaf community and the show’s global audience. Alexa is a 24-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, with a sporty body. She was featured in the Netflix series “Deaf U”. At the time of this broadcast, she is dating fellow Deaf U cast member Braxton. Bookmark moments:2021-02-0452 min
Good Girls Talk About SexMy pandemic sex life“The story of our pandemic sex life: it has not been pretty.” Host Leah gets raw and real about how her intimate life has weathered the storm of a year-long international crisis, and about how confronting her partner’s depression spiral turned out to be a better strategy—for both of them—than enduring it competently. Bookmark moments: 1:05 - We have transcripts! Plus: part of why that is awesome is our upcoming interview with a deaf guest! 4:55 - Leah opens up about her own sex life during the pandemic. 6:44 - Built into our society, and therefor...2021-01-2826 min
Good Girls Talk About SexHe was a god and I was a kid - DebbieDebbie was formed by experiences of both pleasure and pain. She was blessed with good early relationships, but also is a survivor of the epidemic of sexual abuse in elite women’s sport. Her faith in herself helped her choose to heal. Debbie is a 52-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, married, and post-menopausal. She describes her body as average. Bookmark moments: 3:40 - Debbie’s first memory of sexual pleasure is at age 16 with her first boyfriend, who had learned a fabulous trick with ice. 9...2021-01-2153 min
Good Girls Talk About SexImprove your sex life with the STARS talk STARS is an easy-to-remember acronym for conversations that lead to awesome consensual sex. Dr. Evelin Dacker developed the STARS method to create a way for potential and current partners to have a thorough and safe conversation about physical and relationship expectations. Public Service Announcement: Sometimes discovery is the mother of tension. Intimate play can be easier and much more fun if you go in knowing what each other likes, or doesn’t. Bookmark moments: 2:39 - What is the STARS conversation? Plus, if you’ve had it bef...2021-01-1444 min
Good Girls Talk About SexWhat’s your favorite kind of touch? What kind of touch do you enjoy? Have you thought about the ways, and places? Touch is a many-splendored thing. PSA: If you don’t know what kind of touch you like, there’s nothing wrong with you—but you have some (really great) homework to do. Bookmark moments: 3:13 - A chorus of voices answer the question “What is your favorite kind of touch?”. 14:23 - Leah answers. She first discovered what kind of touch she likes while drifting during a high school class. 16:31 - Podcast recommendation - As part...2020-12-0328 min
Good Girls Talk About SexWhat are your hard red lines?Even people who think they’re sexually open have hard red lines. This week Leah digs into discerning where your absolute no’s are, why they might be there, and how to share them with your partner(s). Bookmark moments: 3:42 – A chorus of voices answer the question, “What are your hard red lines?” 14:40 - Leah talks about her own hard red lines, a surprising number of which have to do how she is treated rather than specific act. 17:58 - Leah talks about both setting boundaries and defending them when it comes to your red lines. 19:1...2020-11-1928 min
Good Girls Talk About SexSex, mattresses and wheelchairs - CandiOverview: Candi lives with Muscular Dystrophy. She shares how it progressed and how it changed her physical capabilities over her lifetime, and what it’s like to date and to have sex with a visible disability. She also opens up about loving rough sex and BDSM, despite an appearance—and often others’ assumption—of fragility. Public Service Announcement: Never judge a book by its wheels. Bookmark moments: 4:30 - Candi shares her first memory of sexual desire, a seemingly spontaneous discovery of masturbation in 9th She grew up in a conservative Christian...2020-11-1254 min
Good Girls Talk About SexLetting go of shameAfter having a baby, a mom is left feeling alone in the process of re-learning her body. Leah explains why it’s more than okay to seek support, and how that can generate its own kind of healing. Bookmark moments: 1:31 - A listener gave birth 3 years ago, and is still struggling with her altered body. She asks if she’s supposed to deal with it on her own, or if she can ask per partner for support. 2:06 - Leah shares her own struggle with body image, starting at a young age, and how hearing heali...2020-11-0519 min
Good Girls Talk About SexDo you worry about your smell or taste?Bookmark moments: 1:05 - You can say no at any point, even when you’re in the middle of it. Leah talks about how to do this in real life. 6:24 - Men are socialized to feel entitled to an ending once the sex has started. 7:33 - Leah shares a guide she created to help find words for navigating mid-sex consent: “Take a Breath.” 9:16 - The “Am I Normal?” phone line (720-GOOD-SEX) goes to anonymous voicemail. Call away! 12:00 - The Lowdown question is answered by a variety of women. 19:15 - Leah answers. She opens up about problematic recurring yeast infections in her you...2020-10-2226 min
Good Girls Talk About SexWhen exercise = danger Leah talks about a consent violation she experienced during medical care last year, and also shares her insights into her own fear around exercising. Bookmark moments: 1:52 - Leah begins by sharing about her quarantine weight gain, which led her to confront a lifetime’s worth of avoidance issues around exercise — and an insight into how that mirrors the effects a negative body image had on safety in her sex 3:52 - Leah shares a traumatic memory of assault at age 12 at the hands of her father. 6:55 - Built-in responses to trauma complicate our culture’s idea that pushin...2020-10-0824 min
Good Girls Talk About SexDo you enjoy receiving oral sex?Receiving oral sex isn’t just about a tongue on a clit – it’s about all the emotional and mental conversation happening at the same time. Bookmark moments: 6:13 - The women answer “Do you enjoy receiving oral sex?” 10:21 - Leah answers. She opens up about the relationship dynamics in which her first experience of receiving oral took place, and how that impacted subsequent relationships. 14:10 - Leah suggests a new technique to her second partner, which works, but he doesn’t stick to it. 16:10 - She shares how she’s working on staying present with the physical se...2020-09-2433 min
Good Girls Talk About SexDo you swallow?We follow the oral sex question with a deep dive into swallowing ejaculate (or *not*.) We hear a wide variety of yes/no answers, but also yes/no conditions. Then Leah share her personal experience with blowjobs and the journey she took to make sure it was as good for her as it was for him. How Healing Happens: Little boys get just as much bad messaging as little girls do. Learning how to openly and safely communicate with your sexual partner can re-educate and heal you both. Bookmark moments: 1:49 – A chorus of...2020-09-1034 min
Good Girls Talk About SexDo you enjoy giving blow jobs?A variety of women answer whether or not they enjoy giving oral sex; host Leah goes more in-depth about her own personal experiences and preferences, and about how to engage in, negotiate, and enjoy the act. Then, the discussion turns to navigating a polyamorous relationship for someone new to the practice. Extra Bits: PSA—Beware of performative standards (what you see in porn), and always feel free to negotiate the specifics of a sex act according to what is both comfortable and pleasurable for you—like, if you have a sensitive gag reflex, or don’t want...2020-08-1333 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI had no idea what a vagina looked like - MelMel had plenty of boyfriends but had trouble being faithful. She has chosen ethical non-monogamy as a way of meeting her variety of relational and physical attractions and needs. Mel is a 55-year-old, cisgender female. She describes herself as very petite, polyamorous, and post-menopausal. Public Service Announcement: If you think monogamy is the vanilla prison for which there is no safe word, or find yourself cheating yet again to get your needs met, it may be time to think outside the box. Relationships—both romantic and play—can accommodate a variety of numbers, shap...2020-08-0650 min
Good Girls Talk About SexHair down there or are you bare?Leah asks the women’s she’s interviewed about their relationship status with their pubic hair. Then she shares her own story of growing up with a combination of a genetically inherited bountiful mound and a learned lady-like horror of the same. EXTRA BITS: What we learned: Once again we learned that the range *is* the norm. Women go from no hair at all, to all the hair there is. Even for one person, it varies by day, week, month, or major life event. Bookmark moments: 2:00 – Chorus of voices answering the que...2020-07-3038 min
Good Girls Talk About SexDon't marry someone you haven't slept with - HeatherHeather grew up assuming she would marry a man and have children. So she did. But sex was never a good experience. Then she had sex with a woman for the first time, and her life was changed forever. Today she lives with her female partner and co-parents her four daughters with her former husband. She opens up about her early sexual journey through the lens of parenthood, and what she wants for her daughters compared to what she experienced. Heather is a 45-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as lesbian, monogamous, peri-menopausal, and...2020-07-2347 min
Good Girls Talk About SexDo you prefer clit stimulation or penetration?Leah tackles the hierarchy of orgasms—and getting there at all. This week women respond to whether they prefer clit or vaginal stimulation, which opens up a penetrating (see what we did there?!) discussion about preferences. Sex Ed For Adults: “You are the only one who knows what’s right for your genitals.” As long as what’s under consideration is consensual, pretty much everything else falls on a scale from “I desire it” to “I don’t desire it.” There is no norm within that scale—the scale IS the norm. You can be anywhere on it, and still be “norm...2020-07-1631 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI'm so f'ing multi-orgasmic - StaceyStacey grew up aware of and comfortable with her own pleasure from an early age. She has a daughter and is twice divorced. She’s had a rich sex life, and now finds happiness, satisfaction, and opportunity for personal growth in open relationships. Stacey is a 45-year-old, cis-gender female, who describes herself as Black, heterosexual, and non-monogamous. She is currently single and open to exploring a relationship with a “primary partner.” This is a re-broadcast of episode 5. Public Service Announcements: How to be multi-orgasmic, step 1: Pay attention to what is happe...2020-07-0951 min
Good Girls Talk About SexHow many people have you had sex with?Leah has asked many of her interviewees how many sexual partners they’ve had. The answers, in their surprisingly wide variety, show that there is no “normal.” This also opens up a discussion about what “counts” as sex. Here’s a Thought: Your sexual desires don’t always overlap with your romantic relationship preferences. You can be attracted to and visually stimulated by both men and women, but maybe you only want to engage in long-term committed partnerships with men—or vice versa. Bookmarks for this episode: 6:38 – Chorus of voices answering “How many people have you...2020-07-0234 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI was told I had 'such a pretty face' - JessicaJessica is one of so many women who have been told, “You have such a pretty face, if you could only lose 50 pounds…” During her teenage years, she allowed that to define her perception of herself. Then, at the end of high school, she discovered that there were cute clothes that fit her body and she could show off her curves and get attention. And that’s just the beginning of the story! Jessica is a 38-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as white, bisexual, monogamous, and married to a man. She grew up in the United...2020-06-2549 min
Good Girls Talk About SexDo you have sex during your period?In this episode, Leah begins answering the Lowdown questions – with a twist! To date, she has done well over 60 interviews, most of which have included an in-depth Q&A. As she answers each Lowdown question, you’ll hear a chorus of voices answering the same question. The goal is to remind you, once again, that no matter what your answer is, you are completely normal and you are not alone. In the second half of the show, she answers an “Am I normal?” question about feeling attractive after major surgery. 2:00 – Chorus of voices answ...2020-06-1825 min
Good Girls Talk About SexIs it sex if he doesn't ejaculate? - MelissaMelissa experienced childhood sexual abuse and is dealing with its long-term impacts. She has a complicated pleasure response and is working on reframing how she views sex after abuse. Melissa is a 40-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as Latina, heterosexual, monogamous, married with 3 boys. She grew up in the United States and currently lives with her family in Australia. Public Service Announcements: Sex is not just about the male partner’s ejaculation, and the male partner’s ejaculation is not your job! For more on this, listen to our conversation at 42...2020-06-1154 minGood Girls Talk About SexVoices of Color - Raising the volumeThis week we put aside the regular episode to feature the stories and voices of women and non-binary folx of color. The first half of the show calls back to clips from previous Good Girls Talk About Sex interviews: 2:01 – Jazz from the episode “Vibrators changed my life” 7:12 – Tenisha from the episode “I had to get drunk to have sex” 9:59 – Shana from the episode “It was never: I’m ready, let’s do this” 12:58 – Maya from the episode “The worse I felt, the more sex I had” 15:49 – Michelle from the episode “A throbbing in my nether regions” The second half of the show feat...2020-06-0438 min
Good Girls Talk About SexSolo – When I got a tantric massageIn part 4 of my conversation with Jessi Kneeland, we talk about how I ended up doing a six month solo road trip around the country in my car, and talk about the sexual healing I never expected to find while on the road. In “Am I normal?” we talk about female lubrication – is there such a thing as too much? Thanks to Jessi for interviewing ME! She is an amazing body image coach and I highly recommend following her on Instagram and signing up for her weekly #TransparentTuesday emails. Here are some time markers for this e...2020-05-2138 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI resented that my body was attractive to men - LoisLois carried shame into her adulthood due to childhood sexual abuse. As an adult, she found healing and had wonderful sex with her current husband, which has dwindled as they’ve gotten older. She talks about her how the abuse affected her relationship with her body and sex, participating in “free love” during the 60s, and her relationship with sex as she has gotten older. Lois is a 70-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as mostly white, straight, married for 38 years, monogamous, and post-menopausal. She has three grown children. Here are some of the notab...2020-05-1451 min
Good Girls Talk About SexSolo – When I went to a Jamaican sex resortIn part 3 of my conversation with Jessi Kneeland, we talk about how I learned the difference between sensual and sexual touch, learning how to determine and voice my boundaries, and my ongoing battle with body image issues. Thanks to Jessi for interviewing ME! She is an amazing body image coach and I highly recommend following her on Instagram and signing up for her weekly #TransparentTuesday emails. 3:05 – Conversation with Jessi 23:36 – Preview of “COVID Confidential: Behind closed doors” video series 26:39 – AM I NORMAL? question – Is it normal that my libido is higher than my male partner’s? 27:00 – Leah’s answer – Myth bus...2020-05-0734 min
Good Girls Talk About SexSolo - When I learned to say NOIn part 2 of my conversation with Jessi Kneeland, we talk about working through the messaging I received as a child about my body and sexuality, learning to say “no”, and how women protect men’s feelings during heterosexual sex. Thanks to Jessi for interviewing ME! She is an amazing body image coach and I highly recommend following her on Instagram and signing up for her weekly #TransparentTuesday emails. 3:20 – Being assaulted by my dad, but not believing it was sexual because his hands didn’t get under my clothing 6:07 – Confronting my father about the assault 8:49 – Silencing and gaslighting 9...2020-04-2338 min
Good Girls Talk About SexThe ‘queer’ label feels good - JuliaJulia and her partner have agreed to a certain amount of openness in their relationship – openness that they haven’t taken advantage of yet. But their conversations on the topic – and Julia’s clear-headed consideration of the potential pitfalls – provide an amazing example for anyone who is considering opening this door with their partner. In fact, it’s so good that I think it should be required listening! Julia is a dear friend and I love how deeply she thinks about how we can all be better to ourselves and each other. Julia Sheldon is a 30-year-ol...2020-04-1647 min
Good Girls Talk About SexSolo - When I read Clan of the Cave BearGood Girls Talk About Sex is now a weekly show! Every other week you’ll get these shorter solo episodes where I tell bits of my story and answer YOUR questions about sex and sexuality. Thanks to Jessi Kneeland for interviewing ME! She is an amazing body image coach and I highly recommend following her on Instagram and signing up for her weekly #TransparentTuesday emails. Here are some time markers for this episode: 4:57 – Jessi Kneeland interviews Leah 5:42 – Leah’s first memory of sexual pleasure, including a significant kink interest 11:15 – Looking at her father’s ad...2020-04-0935 min
Good Girls Talk About SexNever having sex again would be great – JillianJillian offers us a glimpse into a story that I am intimately familiar with. It’s the story of having huge blank spots in your memory along with an aversion to sex. There’s nothing specific to grab on to so you can say, “This is what happened,” but it’s obvious that something happened. I usually sit back and let the guests tell their story, but in this instance, Jillian is actively searching for answers and for healing. So in this episode, you’ll hear us doing a bit of exploration and coaching. I offer her a couple of...2020-04-0252 min
Good Girls Talk About SexVoluptuous LeahVoluptuous Leah is a plus-size model and Instagram influencer. At the time this episode is released, she has over 166,000 followers and she regularly posts photos of herself, her adorable dog Luna, cute plus-size fashion, and plus-size lingerie. You can find her on Instagram at Voluptuous Leah and her website at www.VoluptuousLeah.com Voluptuous Leah is a 31-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, plus-size, and in a new relationship while going through a divorce from her previous husband. The major theme in this episode is sex as a plus-sized women. 2020-03-1927 min
Good Girls Talk About SexWe are brand-new baby swingers - Brianna (part 2)Part 2 of our conversation with Brianna! Today she details her recent entrance into the swinger lifestyle with her husband. She spares no details about how they discovered their mutual interest in swinging, their early conversations, and their first experiences. She talks about the state of their relationship and how swinging has affected it, her feelings about monogamy, jealousy, and so much more. If you’ve ever wondered about swinging – DON’T MISS THIS CONVERSATION! Brianna is a 30-year-old cis-gender female who describes herself as white, bisexual, married, monogamish, Baptist, and exploring swinging for the first time. She and her hu...2020-03-0645 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI lied about orgasms every time - Brianna (part 1)(Part 1 of a 2-part episode) Brianna grew up in the Baptist church where she learned that sex was sinful. Today, Brianna talks about her childhood sexual explorations with other little girls, her unfortunate first relationship with a boy, and the beginning of her relationship with her husband, including their recent introduction into the world of swinging. Brianna is a 30-year-old cis-gender female who describes herself as white, bisexual, married, monogamish, Baptist, and exploring swinging for the first time. She and her husband have two young children. Major themes in this episode include growing up Baptist...2020-03-0545 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI've had two abortions and zero regrets - TimariTimari is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, married and the mother of two children. She is a listener who contacted me to say that she’d like to talk about her history with abortion, because it hadn’t been addressed much on the show yet. Along the way, we also talk about being raised in the Mormon church, being in an abusive marriage and cheating, and her sex life with her current husband. Here are some of the notable moments she shared with us: 4:40 – Timari’s first memory of being...2020-02-2046 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI had to get drunk to have sex - TenishaTenisha is a 29-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as black, heterosexual, monogamous, average body type, currently in a relationship, and Christian. A few months ago, Tenisha interviewed me for her podcast Choose Love. During that conversation, Tenisha mentioned that she was a practicing Christian who chose a period of intentional celibacy as an adult. So of course I wanted to interview her here! In this conversation she talks about her early conversations in internet chat rooms, needing alcohol in order to have sex, her choice to become celibate at age 23, and the relationship she’s...2020-02-0653 min
Good Girls Talk About SexVibrators changed my life - JazzJazz is a 31-year-old gender non-conforming, femme-identified person who uses the pronouns "they" and "theirs". They describe themselves as black, polyamorous, and pansexual with an active dating life. The major theme of this episode is gender. Jazz talks about how genitals are not the be-all-end-all of gender. If all of the recent talk about gender as a spectrum has you confused or uncomfortable, this is the episode to listen to! Here are some of the notable moments they shared with us: 3:55 – Jazz’s “attacks of pleasure” in elementary school 7:45 – Their first time masturbating at age 14 9:4...2020-01-2350 minGood Girls Talk About SexSOLO - I have to put on my own oxygen mask firstIn this special episode, Leah talks about her recent slide into anxiety and depression. The "too long, didn't listen" version is: the podcast will continue on a regular schedule, but I'm taking a step back from everything else to give myself some time to reset and refocus. Also, listener emails mean the world to me, so if you want to send something please do: leah@goodgirlstalkaboutsex.com.2020-01-0919 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI had sex with a lot of people while I was married – LisaLisa is a 40-year-old cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, currently in a relationship that is heterosexual, monogamous, and long-distance. She has also long been attracted to women and is considering the likelihood that she is bisexual. Major themes in this episode include body image and eating disorders, sex outside marriage, long distance relationships, and exploring kink. Here are some of the notable moments she shared with us: 5:20 – Lisa’s discovery of sexual pleasure in the shower 6:45 – Growing up as a gymnast, giving her a heightened sense of body awareness as a kid 8:00 – Developi...2019-12-1250 min
Good Girls Talk About SexSecrets are complicated - SarahSarah is a 35-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, married, monogamous, and pansexual. She clarified however that while she has experienced attractions to people of all genders, her sexual experiences have been limited to cis-gender males. Through her teens and early 20s, Sarah dated MUCH older men. She reflects back on those experiences, sorting through the ramifications of her partner choices, including the pressures she felt and how the power differentials in those relationships worked. She is now married to a man her own age and in the second half of the show we talk...2019-11-2752 min
Good Girls Talk About SexA throbbing in my nether regions - MichelleMichelle is a 42-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as black and married. She is currently sorting through whether she is gay or bisexual, and in the process she and her wife have opened up what was previously a monogamous marriage. Major themes in this episode include discovering (and re-discovering) sexual orientation, mismatched libido in a marriage, infidelity and honesty within a marriage, and discovering physical desire in her 40s. Here are some of the notable moments she shared with us: 5:35 – Michelle’s first-grade crush on her female teacher 10:00 – Michelle’s experience of inappropriate touch at...2019-11-141h 01
Good Girls Talk About SexPeople don't f*ck me, I f*ck them – ShastaShasta is a 45-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as Canadian First Nation/Cree, heterosexual, monogamous, and married to her husband who she has been with for 20 years. Major themes in this episode include balance of power in heterosexual relationships, bedroom boredom in a long-term relationship, and working to heal childhood issues as an adult You can find Shasta online at www.ShastaTownsend.com. Her book, Happy, Sexy, Shameless – What Our Mother’s Didn’t Know About the Birds and the Bees, is available at Amazon. Here are some of the notable moments she sh...2019-10-1743 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI wish my husband would leave me - AimeeAimee is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, and married. Although Aimee considers herself monogamous, she has recently begun an affair with another man that her husband does not know about. We talk about this extensively in the second half of the episode. This is a challenging subject, but it’s also real – there are so few places to learn about healthy relationships and healthy sexuality that many people are struggling in unhappy marriages and looking for affirmation and connection outside of their primary bond. I am not condoning cheating or viol...2019-10-0347 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI'm the funny one, not the pretty one – ErinErin is a 34-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as queer, in a new relationship, she isn’t certain of her preferred relationship style. Erin deals with OCD, plus related mental conditions that cause her to pull her hair (Trichotillomania) and pick her skin (Dermatillomania). Those conditions cause her nervousness when exposing herself with a new partner. Major themes in this episode include being queer, OCD, and exploring sex in adulthood. Here are some of the great moments she shared with us: 3:25 - Feeling the tingle watching animated cartoons 6:10 - Gro...2019-09-1946 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI thought I couldn't orgasm - MartynaMartyna is a 29-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, and in a relationship. She grew up in Poland and now lives in South Africa. Martyna deals with depression, and she talks today about how that has affected her relationships and sex. She also talks about how the season 1 STARS episode affected her thinking about how to talk about consent. You can find that episode at https://www.leahcarey.com/podcast/episode-8a-bonus-the-stars-conversation Major themes in this episode include depression, learning about consent as an adult, and exploring BDSM. Here...2019-09-0549 min
Good Girls Talk About SexSex is like Domino's Pizza - MargotMargot is a 39-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as black, British, bisexual and currently in an open, long-distance relationship. She also travels widely and lives for extended periods in other parts of the world, giving her insight into different sexual cultures around the world. Major themes in this episode include open relationships, later-in-life sexual explorations, and learning about sexuality in a culture that was not open about the subject. Here are some of the great moments she shared with us: 9:20 – Margot’s first experience of intercourse 13:15 – Exploring sex post-divorce 16:30 – Her relationship with her...2019-08-0844 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI saw myself through the male gaze - DianaDiana is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, married and monogamous. Diana had a traumatic birth with her older son, which led to a disconnection from her body and her pleasure. She was able to have a vaginal birth with her younger child, which helped reconnect her with her body and sexuality. Major themes in this episode include sexuality after trauma from childbirth and reclaiming your body after motherhood. Here are some of the great moments she shared with us: 10:30 – Diana’s first sexual experience 13:30 – Masturbation as an import...2019-08-0143 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI feel like my belly’s too big – JaneJane is a 36-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heteroflexible, monogamous and with a partner of three years. Jane went to Catholic School while she was growing up in Scotland and in her family she learned that certain topics should never be discussed – including sex. Major themes in this episode include difficulty in communicating about sex, body image and sex, and exploring BDSM. Here are some of the great moments she shared with us: 9:00 – The meager sex ed classes Jane received in Catholic school 14:00 – How Jane found access to contraception 15:30 – Jane’s r...2019-07-1848 min
Good Girls Talk About SexWhen we started to explore kink – BetsyBetsy is a 38-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, monogamous and in a relationship. Betsy had sex for the first time at age 27, and after a brief period of one-night-stands, married a man whose sexual desires were significantly different than hers. She says her naturally high libido was “beat right out of me.” Today, divorced and reclaiming her sexuality, Betsy is with a new partner and exploring her long-suppressed interest in BDSM. Last year Betsy came to me to do sexual communication coaching. She tells some of that story in this episode. 2019-07-1145 min
Good Girls Talk About SexMasturbation was more sinful than sex – ShellyShelly is a 44-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, lesbian, living with her girlfriend and monogamous. She grew up in the Mormon church, got married and had seven children as she was expected to do. Then several years ago she started questioning her faith and left the church. She then realized that she’s also a lesbian, which is an extreme no-no in the Mormon church. Major themes in this episode include the interplay of Mormonism and lesbianism, and recovering from guilt and shame from rejecting childhood teachings. Here are some of the gr...2019-07-0347 min
Good Girls Talk About SexWe have sex about once a month - LainaLaina is a 33-year-old cis-gender woman who describes herself as Chinese, heterosexual, married, and monogamous. Laina has one child and struggles with body image. She believes that nobody would want to have sex with her, and that her husband only does it because she’s his only option. Major themes in this episode include body image, libido, and changes in sexuality after giving birth. Here are some of the great moments Laina shared with us: 3:00 – The objectification of Asian women in culture and media 7:33 – Connecting pleasure to sex and sexuality 8:20 – How media conditio...2019-06-2743 min
Good Girls Talk About SexI don’t know if I was ever sexually gratified - InezInez is a 32-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, married with children, and monogamous. Inez is dealing with chronic illness and is in a currently sexless marriage. Topics covered in this interview include: recovering personal pleasure after abuse/trauma, body image, chronic illness and its impact on sexual activity, and how a partner's mental health diagnosis impacts the relationship. Here are some of the great moments she shared with us: 5:40 - How it felt as an adult to tell her father about childhood sexual abuse 8:50 - The culture difference...2019-06-1348 min
Good Girls Talk About SexBad self-esteem but a great body – DanielleDanielle is a 41-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, Jewish, heteroflexible, married and monogamous. Danielle and her husband Adam host the podcast Marriage and Martinis, where they explore every hilarious, heartfelt, shocking, embarrassing, and completely inappropriate facet of marriage and parenting. Major themes in this episode include how OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) affected Danielle’s early experience of sex, how we allow our assumptions of what other people think affect our actions and decisions, and how sex changes after marriage and kids. Here are some of the great moments she shared wi...2019-06-0646 min
Good Girls Talk About SexIt was never: I'm ready, let's do this - ShanaShana is a 41-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as biracial (half black/half white), heterosexual, monogamous and currently in a relationship. Major themes explored in this episode include healing from old hurts, learning about consent, and discovering our own pleasure, rather than just focusing on pleasing our partner. Here are some of the great moments Shana shared with us: 3:35 – How she came to relate running late to eroticism 9:48 – Her first sexual experience, and how it conditioned her to not trust white men 18:38 – The moment Shana first had intercourse and why it was so devast...2019-05-3042 minGood Girls Talk About SexMinisode with Reema ZamanWelcome to a between-the-seasons mini episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex! Reema Zaman is a 35-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as Bangladeshi, heterosexual, monogamous, and single. Because her father was a diplomat, Reema lived in many countries during her growing-up years. She came to the United States by herself at age 18 with a dream of being an actress. She released the book I Am Yours in February 2019. It is the story of reclaiming her voice after years of trauma and abuse. I spoke with Reema ahead of the release of her book, but f...2019-04-1819 minGood Girls Talk About SexSeason One finale - The Quick Five extravaganzaIt's the season one finale of Good Girls Talk About Sex! When I began this podcast, I had the typical fears - primarily, I wasn't sure it was any good! I've been overwhelmed and humbled and so grateful for the responses I've gotten back from you, dear friends. I've had feedback from people telling me deep, personal stories about changes they've made and things they've learned as a result of this podcast. Nothing could make me happier! Thanks to every one of you who has reached out to me publicly or privately. I am so...2019-04-0437 minGood Girls Talk About SexSubmission is a gift because it’s hard - AmyIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Amy, a 47-year-old cis-gendered white woman who describes herself as bisexual and married. I was interested in talking with Amy because she teased me with this bit of info: after being with her partner for almost 30 years, they discovered a previously undisclosed mutual interest in a new sexual adventure. How did they go for so long without discovering this shared interest? She tells us in this conversation. Here are some of the great moments she shared with us: 6:44 – The librarian whose support al...2019-03-2847 minGood Girls Talk About SexI warned him that I’m a plus-size girl – ElizabethIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Elizabeth, a cis-gendered white woman in a monogamous heterosexual relationship who is approaching 40. Elizabeth has an active sex life with her male partner, which includes pegging. While that is something that might be considered relatively common in some circles, for others it is out on the fringes of “normal” sexual activity. Elizabeth opens up about how they got into it, why she loves it, and why it’s scary to admit to when living in a small, conservative town. Here are some of the gr...2019-03-2145 minGood Girls Talk About SexI’m trans and here’s why it’s awesome – TrystanIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Trystan Reese, a transgender white man in a monogamous gay marriage who is 35 years old. In 2017, Trystan gave birth to a baby conceived with his husband Biff. Their story has been shared in People Magazine, CNN, Cosmo and more. You can find them online at BiffAndI.com. While Trystan has been living as a man for the past 15 years, he was raised and socialized as a female for his first 18 years. That gives him an intimate understanding of both sides of the gender spectrum – including in...2019-03-1449 minGood Girls Talk About SexSex scenes in movies turn me on – YazIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Yaz, a 30-year-old who describes herself as half-Persian/half-European, polyamorous, and single. I wanted to interview Yaz because I recently saw her describe herself this way: “My assets include diversity (I am genderqueer, pansexual, a person of color, fat, and make under $30,000/year), a playful attitude (I am really a kid in an adult body), and a know-how of holding space for those whose voices get lost in the shuffle.” Here are some of the great moments we shared with Yaz: 6:24 – Discovering the de...2019-03-0751 minGood Girls Talk About SexSex workers are selling a fantasy – KateIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Kate, a cis-gendered white woman in a monogamous heterosexual marriage who is 37 years old. Kate is a stripper in Portland, Oregon. I met her one afternoon when I visited Sassy’s with a friend of hers and she sat down to chat with us between sets. The first thing I noticed about Kate was that even though I had just seen her dancing naked on a pole, she was one of the most articulate and intelligent women I'd met in a long time. Sh...2019-02-2847 minGood Girls Talk About SexMy sex education came from Judy Blume – EvelinIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Dr. Evelin Dacker, a cis-gender half-Mexican, half-Jewish polyamorous woman who is 53 years old. Evelin is a sex-positive physician in Eugene, Oregon and the CEO of Sex Positive Portland, an organization dedicated to understanding and exploring all aspects of human sexuality. She is also the creator of the STARS Talk, a format for talking about your sexuality and preferences so that we can ALL have more satisfying sexual encounters with both current and new partners. 3:30 – Evelin’s history with masturbation from the time she was a ba...2019-02-2147 minGood Girls Talk About SexAttention came with a price tag – JessiIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talked with Jessi Kneeland, a 31-year-old cis-gendered white woman who is bisexual, monogamous, and currently single. Jessi is a coach, speaker, writer, and altogether kickass person who is passionate about helping women to understand their bodies and their sexuality. She is the coach who has stood with me through my sexual exploration and reclaiming my body. You can find her online at www.JessiKneeland.com and on Instagram at @jessikneeland Here are some of the amazing moments she shared with us: 4:54 – The lesson Jessi le...2019-02-1446 minGood Girls Talk About SexMost people don’t assume I’m gay – JennaIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Jenna, a 34-year-old, cis-gendered female who describes herself as white, lesbian, monogamous, and engaged to be married. Jenna knew from an early age that she was attracted to women, and jokes that she “experimented with boys” when she was in her early 20s. The sex life she shares with her fiancée is helping Jenna to sort through and release some of the sexual trauma she experienced earlier in her life. Here are some of the great moments Jenna shared: 2:27 - The first...2019-02-0746 minGood Girls Talk About SexI made out with a cousin in the closet - StaceyIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Stacey, a 45-year-old, cis-gendered female who describes herself as black, heterosexual, single, and non-monogamous. While some may know the term ethical non-monogamy, it’s still not spoken about often in social circles. That can lead to the misconception that it’s rare, when in fact people of all types – and even in the most conservative communities – are engaging in various forms of open relationships. Stacey is totally down-to-earth, so she’s a great person to ease us into this conversation the first time. And stick around for...2019-01-3150 minGood Girls Talk About SexBecause I was a good girl – TerriIn this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Terri, a 32-year-old, cis-gendered female who describes herself as Pakistani, straight, married and monogamous. Terri was born in Pakistan and for the first ten years of her life, she lived in a culture where physical affection was not seen and it was assumed she would have an arranged marriage. When her family moved to the United States, everything changed. Terri provides us with a fascinating glimpse into what it’s like to live with a foot in two worlds. Here are some of th...2019-01-2451 min