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Shall We Unpack This?It Doesn't Have To Make Sense Anymore: Cursing God and Surrendering to Faith (SEASON FINALE!)In this season finale, join host Leilani Carrasco as we explore the concepts of going through a process without needing to fully understand it, and finishing without equating it to quitting. You'll also discover her process of surrender to faith, including two profound spiritual moments when she cursed God and was astonished by what happened next.
2024-06-2038 minShall We Unpack This?Sex Before Coffee: And Why I Chose to RemarryShe vowed never to remarry. He desired marriage. She preferred to live alone. He preferred to share a home. So, what happened next?
Join host Leilani Carrasco and her husband Tim as they share how a quirky travel show introduced them to the concept of "sex before coffee" and led to some surprising insights about their own relationship. You'll also discover what events caused Leilani to embrace marriage.
@DatingBeyondBorders https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J89yrh1mDyw
Read the blog post mentioned at time stamp 24:52: https://wilddesertwoman.wordpress.com/2022/08/16/conversation-with-imaginary-man/
Conan O'Brien Must Go2024-06-0647 minShall We Unpack This?Feeling Stuck? Ask Yourself This Question.Do you ever feel stuck in a rut or like you just can't seem to get clarity?
Join host Leilani Carrasco as she shares how this one key question helps her find clarity, a sense of Enough-ness and forward motion.2024-05-2314 minShall We Unpack This?"I Found God On My Own Terms": Believing in love instead of religion's most powerful lieDid your upbringing involve religion? Was it a source of love or shame?
Join host Leilani Carrasco and guest Denae Wood as they unpack her unconventional spiritual journey from The Jesus Movement to Sex, Drugs and Rock& Roll to working for a televangelist to ultimately leaving church. Discover how she maintained a love-focused faith in the midst of religious dogma and why she feels a more profound spiritual connection post-deconstruction.
Trigger Warnings: Abortion 10:55, Traumatic death 12:262024-05-0954 minShall We Unpack This?Is "I'm Sorry" Enough? How to Support Friends in Tough TimesDo you find yourself at a loss for words when faced with someone in the midst of grief or hardship? Are you unsure of how to offer support in a meaningful way?
Join host Leilani Carrasco and guest Beckah Farrow as they discuss the most powerful way to show love and support to friends navigating grief and stress. Beckah also shares her experience giving birth to a "micro preemie" and how she and her husband maintained balance during their months-long stay at Cook's Children's Hospital.2024-04-2542 minShall We Unpack This?Balancing Grief and Joy: Navigating the Loss of a Twin Mid-Pregnancy*Trigger Warning: This episode discusses the loss of a fetus.*
Have you ever struggled with guilt for feeling joy in the midst of a loss? Or that awkward feeling of being simultaneously jealous and happy for a friend?
Join host Leilani Carrasco and guest Beckah Farrow as they unpack the bittersweet journey of celebrating life in the midst of loss, how to move forward when it feels like there is no time to grieve and how to create boundaries for yourself in emotionally vulnerable times.
2024-04-1844 minShall We Unpack This?BDSM: Is It All About Power & Pain?Is there more to BDSM than sex and power dynamics?
Join host Leilani Carrasco and her guest Mistress Kay, a professional dominatrix, as they unpack the rules of BDSM and how it can be an empowering tool for trauma recovery. Topics include the rules of kink, mommy dommes, inner child healing and neural reprogramming.
1. https://www.choosingtherapy.com/bdsm/
2. https://societyforpsychotherapy.org/an-introduction-to-bdsm-for-psychotherapists/
3. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/a-loving-introduction-to-bdsm-for-couples
Music: DocumentaryIn LeonardoPR2024-04-1134 minShall We Unpack This?Kink in the Bible Belt: A Dominatrix's JourneyIf you've ever wondered why people are drawn to BDSM or what it's like to be a sex worker (in the Bible Belt no less!), then this episode is for you.
Join host Leilani Carrasco and her guest Mistress Kay as they unpack Kay's journey from a conservative upbringing to a career as a professional dominatrix and artist. You will also learn how religion has come full circle in her work. /
Trigger warning timestamps: PTSD (19:18,28), suicide (19:33,15), miscarriage (25:41, 02).
Follow Mistress Kay on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/mistresskintx/
Music: Documentary IN by LeonardoPR2024-04-0434 minShall We Unpack This?Call Your Power Back (with this affirmation)How do you overcome feeling like you're not enough? This belief is an energy drain and can leave you feeling stuck, lost or hopeless. Where does one begin to call their power back?
Join host Leilani Carrasco in this brief episode as she shares an affirmation that is helping her maneuver through the thick fog of Not-Enoughness.2024-03-2810 minShall We Unpack This?Finding Love &Acceptance As A Gay ChristianThe Church and the LGBTQ+ community have long been at odds. But what if you're a homosexual who still desires to practice your faith? Is it possible to be loved and accepted in your church if you're gay?
Join host Leilani Carrasco and her guest Tyler Sparks as they unpack the journey of coming out and still choosing to practice Christianity. Tyler, Master of Divinity from Abilene Christian University, also explains gaps in the translation of go-to scriptures the Church uses to condemn homosexuality.
If you have ever wondered what being gay and having a strong Christian faith looks like...2024-03-211h 01Shall We Unpack This?"But What If I Can't Forget?": How to keep your peace and protect your energy TODAY"FORGIVE AND FORGET." We've all heard this phrase (and probably hate it), but how realistic or valid is it? What if you can't forget? What if you have to see that person who hurt you again? How do you heal while keeping your peace? What is the cost of holding a grudge?
Join host Leilani Carrasco and guest Lauren Webb as they unpack these questions and offer a roadmap to true forgiveness. This episode covers the last two steps of the forgiveness process. (Spoiler alert: Neither of them involve reconciliation.)
This is Part 2 of a 2-part series that covers topics...2024-03-1441 minShall We Unpack This?When Forgiving Feels Like Bullshit: A No-B.S. Guide To True ForgivenessForgiveness is essential to our peace and freedom, and yet it is one of
the most heavy subjects to face--in part due to traditional advice on
forgiveness which feels manipulative, preachy and unhelpful. How does
one experience the true release that forgiveness can bring? What if you
forgive and still feel angry? Can you forgive and still maintain
boundaries? Do you have to forgive immediately?
Join host Leilani Carrasco and guest Lauren Webb as they unpack these
questions and offer a roadmap to true forgiveness. This episode covers
the first two practical steps to start off the forgiveness process.
(Spoiler...2024-03-0754 minShall We Unpack This?Initiating Divorce: What To Do When You're the "BAD GUY"If you've ever been the one to initiate a breakup or divorce, then you
know how easily you can be considered the "bad guy." How do you stand your ground in the face of judgement, guilt and shame?
In this solo episode, host Leilani Carrasco shares her experience as the "walkaway wife," how divorce made her a more honest person and the
permission slips everyone who is going through a divorce needs.
This episode covers topics of dishonesty in marriage, radical
self-acceptance, walkaway wives, and divorce.
Resources: The Gottman Institute www.gottman.com / Didgeridoo music for panic attacks: https://www...2024-02-2926 minShall We Unpack This?Unpacking Our Reconciliation: Never Say NeverThey never wanted to see each other again. So what caused this divorced couple to suddenly become friends? If you've ever wondered if friendship with an ex is possible or necessary and what a healthy reconciliation looks like, then this episode is for you!
Join host Leilani Carrasco and her former partner D. Grant Smith as they unpack the circumstances that unfolded which led to their
reconciliation.
This is part 3 of a series in the story of one divorced couple's road
towards forgiveness and reconciliation.
Resources:
Codependent No More by Melody Beattie / www.CoDA.org / Read "The Apology Letter...2024-02-2242 minShall We Unpack This?Unpacking Our Marriage: We Also Kissed Dating GoodbyeRemember the purity movement of the mid 90's to early 2000's? If the True Love Waits campaign and the book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" influenced your approach to dating as a teen and young adult, then this episode is for you! Join host Leilani Carrasco and her former partner D. Grant Smith as they unpack:
How they met, and
How their views on dating and marriage as young adults immersed in a purity culture set their marriage up for failure.
This is Part 2 of a series in the story of one divorced couple's road
towards forgiveness and...2024-02-0854 minShall We Unpack This?Unpacking Our Divorce: From Power Couple to Suddenly SeparatedOne minute, they were a power couple; the next minute, they were separated and hiring lawyers...
How is it that some couples who seem so happy together suddenly end up getting divorced?
Join host Leilani Carrasco and her former partner, D. Grant Smith, as they unpack the last year of their marriage, their experience in the divorce process, and insights into why their relationship fell apart.
This is Part 1 of a series in the story of one couple's road towards forgiveness and reconciliation, and it's one you will not want to miss.
Find D Grant on IG @dgrantsmith or at...2024-02-0149 minShall We Unpack This?Unpacking Creativity: Why It Feels Unsafe to Create (and what we can frikin do about it)Why is it so difficult to create with joy? What are we missing?
Today we unpack why it feels unsafe to create the things we want as well as GAMECHANGING tool to help you get out of your own way.
A timely listen for this Leo full moon and for anyone who wishes to create with more freedom. Host Leilani Carrasco unpacks why it feels unsafe for her to create and shares unexpected techniques that have helped her move forward in her creative process.
Whether you're an artist, writer, or simply someone seeking to reconnect with the joy of creation...2024-01-2541 minShall We Unpack This?What the HELL Am I Doing?: Unpacking My Podcast JourneyWelcome to the inaugural episode of SWUT podcast! Host Leilani Carrasco shares a life-altering realization she had in 2017 and the discovery that led to the idea for this podcast.
This episode delves into themes of personal growth, authenticity, and the transformative questions that reshape our lives.
The Anatomy of Trust by Brene Brown: https://youtu.be/QuO639CGBhw?si=TM_UDbpHS4q5F2lz
Music: "Documentary In" by LeonardoPR
2024-01-1817 minShall We Unpack This?Podcast TeaserA small taste of what to expect on "Shall We Unpack This?", a new podcast that unpacks the misconceptions, cliches and societal programming surrounding messy, taboo and otherwise misunderstood topics. Airs Thursdays starting January 18th.
Music: "Trailer Beautiful Christmas" by Yellow_Hedgehog2024-01-0508 min