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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDivorce Redefined: Navigating the Journey to Freedom and PeaceIn this special Saturday episode, recorded at the barn, Lesa Koski discusses the importance of mindset, especially through challenging times like divorce, cancer, or general difficulties. Lesa shares her journey of using mindset-shifting tools to manage anxiety, and her commitment to relying on God to improve her emotional wellbeing. She introduces JJ Flizanes, an expert whose courses on emotions and core childhood experiences have profoundly impacted her. Lesa emphasizes the need to understand and fulfill personal needs, identifying feelings and practicing self-responsibility. She also introduces the Hawaiian practice of Ho'oponopono for emotional healing. Tune in to learn how you...2024-11-1919 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyEncore: Divorce Dilemmas UnveiledAcross all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other...2024-03-1925 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyHacking HappinessHacking Happiness through Divorce with Penny LacasoIn this episode of we welcome Penny Lacaso from Melbourne, Australia, to discuss how individuals facing or going through divorce can find happiness and empowerment. Penny, a happiness hacker and author of 'Hacking Happiness,' shares her personal journey, including her childhood experience with her parents' divorce and her own divorce after a long-term marriage. She emphasizes the significance of defining happiness on one's own terms and provides techniques for cultivating joy and self-compassion during challenging times like divorce. The conversation covers the importance of allowing oneself to feel a...2024-03-1234 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment Co-Parenting Well Through DivorceIn this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski revisits an enlightening conversation with well-known author and expert, Sharon Pope. Sharon shared significant tools for helping children cope during a divorce, including creating a list of changes and a larger list of things that will stay the same to alleviate fear of the unknown. Lesa expanded on Sharon’s insights about the unforeseen lessons children might learn from divorce, such as self-advocacy and setting boundaries. Lesa also highlighted the importance of maintaining a cordial relationship with the co-parent for the sake of children. This episode serves as a resource fo...2024-02-2206 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyTo Stay or to go and What About the Children with Sharon PopeThis episode of the 'Doing Divorce Different' podcast features an enlightening conversation between the show's host, Lesa Koski, and guest, Sharon Pope, a master life coach and relationship expert. They discuss the various ways to manage the process of divorce and how to make the experience less traumatic through self-empowerment. Sharon offers a unique perspective, given her personal experience with divorce and subsequent transformation into a relationship and life coach. The episode provides helpful advice and tools for listeners who may be contemplating divorce, notably the importance of self-work and setting boundaries. Special attention is given to the impact...2024-02-2030 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment The Heartache of DivorceNavigating Divorce and Personal GrowthIn this episode of 'Doing Divorce Different', Lesa Koski, a family law attorney and mediator, talks about grappling with the idea of ending a marriage. Koski emphasizes the importance of introspection, highlighting her own experience of maintaining a marriage through self-growth. She encourages her listeners to confront their feelings about their marriage and shares strategies for self-improvement. She notes the potential benefits these changes can have on their spouses or their own perception of themselves. Koski also discusses how personal growth can equip individuals to be independent, should they decide to end...2024-02-1507 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment You May Be Able to Divorce Better!In this episode, Lesa Koski, a family law attorney and mediator, hosts a conversation about managing divorce effectively. She emphasizes the importance of education about divorce laws and procedures, recommending divorce mediation and collaborative law as potential paths. Lesa warns about situations involving power imbalances or abuse, advising such individuals to consult an attorney. She also highlights the importance of being well-informed and less naive in navigating divorce, especially considering the legal binding nature of marriage. Guest Paulette Rigaud, founder of Better Divorce Academy, shares her challenging divorce experience that lasted eight years. Lisa finishes by encouraging listeners to...2024-02-0808 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment The Power of Self-Reflection in Divorce In this episode of "Doing Divorce Different," Attorney turned Mediator, Lesa Koski, shares her insights and advice on how to alleviate the fear of divorce and heal through empowerment. She emphasizes the importance of working on oneself before making the decision to divorce, and how this can positively impact the relationship dynamics. Lesa also shares personal anecdotes and lessons learned from her own marriage, highlighting the transformative power of self-love and setting boundaries. Tune in to discover valuable tips and resources for navigating the divorce process in a better way.- Episode Highlights: - Introduction...2024-02-0110 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyThe Power of Collaboration in DivorceIn this podcast episode, Lucia Ramirez Levias, a collaborative law attorney, shares her personal journey that led her towards a career of helping people work together instead of fighting it out in court. Graduating with an aim to do immigration law, she found a niche in family law, which she ultimately blended with her experience in youth development work before law school. With collaborative divorce, Lucia discusses how it fosters a peaceful and durable settlement that mitigates the negative impacts on children, unlike traditional litigation. She emphasizes the role of a professional team consisting of collaborative attorneys and a...2024-01-3029 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Tips to Help You Communicate Better During a DivorceSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today is all about communication. Lesa is sharing some of her favorite communication tools that she teaches her mediation clients. These tips can help you whether you are working through divorce mediation, navigating collaborative law, or having issues with co-parenting. Tune in to hear Lesa’s 5 tips to communicate better. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday. ResourcesLesa Koski WebsiteLes...2024-01-2509 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment Part 2 on People PleasingSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Do you find yourself getting lost in people pleasing? Traci is back to talk about what people pleasing is and how you can start living for yourself. People pleasing is in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes it may feel good to be available for the people around you, there may also be times when you feel like you are being dragged around to do what everyone else wants. Tune in to learn how to...2024-01-1818 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDivorce Dilemmas UnveiledAcross all the mediation meetings I have had, there seem to be seven common dilemmas that come up. I have teamed up with my coach, Tracy Pleschourt, to put together a half-day workshop to empower women to suffer less while going through divorce. During this episode, Tracy and I give a sneak peak into the seven dilemmas, and what we will cover regarding each one during the workshop. If you are local to the Minnesota area and looking for support, tune in to hear about this wonderful opportunity to not only work through common roadblocks, but also meet other...2024-01-1625 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Healing Your Inner People PleaserSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Do you find yourself getting lost in people pleasing? Traci is back to talk about what people pleasing is and how you can start living for yourself. People pleasing is in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes it may feel good to be available for the people around you, there may also be times when you feel like you are being dragged around to do what everyone else wants. Tune in to learn how to...2024-01-1115 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 4Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. As we wrap up our four part series on believing in your future self, I wanted to do a recap of each episode. If you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, we want you to know that that suffering is unnecessary, that it does not have to be a part of your life any longer. These episodes will help you to reframe how you look at the circumstances in your life and learn...2024-01-0416 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 3Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today we are talking about connecting with your future self, and how to make that future version of yourself a reality. If you are connected to your painful past, you are feeling the fear of duplicating your past. It keeps you stuck or stunted. Decide who your future self is, so you can use him or her to make decisions about today. The three steps to getting to your future self are to begin seeing who...2023-12-2818 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 2Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Instead of just 2x’ing your life, imagine you decided to ask yourself what is currently impossible, and then chase after that ‘impossible’ thing, and end up 10x’ing your life? That’s the topic Traci Pleschourt of SelfMadeU, and I talk about today: How to dream up a new goal, focus your time on it, and change your life. We typically spend 20% of our time focusing on the changes we really want to make, and 80% of our tim...2023-12-2115 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Believing in Your Future Self Even After Divorce Part 1Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. For the next four weeks, my coach Traci Pleschourt, will be talking about connecting with our future selves. This week we are talking about connecting with your past. We start by encouraging you to look at how far you’ve come instead of focusing on the past or what you have left to do to reach your goals. We discuss having faith in God and faith in the direction that you are going. Then we talk ab...2023-12-1415 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyThriving Through the Tinsel: 7 Ways Divorced Parents Can Make Holidays Special for Their ChildrenHolidays can be tough when you are divorced, but coming up with a strategy to enjoy them is possible! I am discussing 7 things you can do to help your children and yourself navigate the holidays. From creating new traditions, to having expectations around finances, and even dealing with high conflict parenting situations, I have some wonderful ideas throughout this episode. Tune in to learn more ways to make your holiday special after divorce. In this episode:[2:48] How do kids feel during the holidays when their parents are divorced and how can you support them with those f...2023-12-1217 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: What is a Divorce Coach vs. a Therapist?Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. If you’ve ever been unclear about what a therapist is vs what a coach is, this is a great episode that breaks it down. Lesa talks about her experience working with a coach, and digs in to where a therapist might be able to future help her with other things she is dealing with. You’ll also hear about the difference of working with an attorney vs a mediator. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to chec...2023-12-0709 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Finding Love Again After A Gray DivorceSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week on the podcast we talked a lot about the reasons why we are seeing more gray divorces as well as what it looks like to enter into the dating world when over 50. It can be easy to think you are too old for love or dating, but the truth is we all need love! If you’ve decided that you are ready to meet your next partner and want some strategy tips, tune in to...2023-11-3011 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Reclaiming Power From Your PastSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today I am sharing my experience with taking Johanna’s advice from Tuesday’s episode and seeing if I can release my anxiety. Johanna recommended closing your eyes, picturing the person where you think the unresolved issues came from, and letting them know that it’s impacting your life and you’d like to give the emotion back. Tune in to hear what I did and if I think it worked for my anxiety. Like what you're h...2023-11-2308 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: The Importance of a Power of Attorney During a DivorceSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. There are things you need to think about when you’re going through divorce when it comes to estate planning. This includes your power of attorney and health care directive, which really should be updated, if necessary, during the divorce in case anything happens to you during the divorce process. After the divorce you’ll be able to update beneficiaries, your will, and trust, but discussions can happen during the divorce process for this as well, to see...2023-11-1604 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Lesa Reflects On Her Mediation CareerSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Feeling confident that there is a way to support yourself and your children after divorce and years of being a stay at home mom can feel so refreshing. Take a look at what you are passionate about and decide if there is something you can do to take that passion to the next step by building your own business. Our guest this week really helped me reflect on the business I have created and how blessed I...2023-11-0906 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Divorcing A Better WaySaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. The way you end one thing, sets you up, sets the stage, and it's the way you begin the next thing. While it takes two willing people to do a divorce collaboratively, it also takes effort on each individual to be working on themselves. There will be stress that comes along with divorce, but think about how you want your life to look on the other side, and hold that vision while you go through the process...2023-11-0206 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Speaking Positively About Your Co-ParentSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week Karen McMahon from Journey Beyond Divorce, shared with us how to be a boundary setting badass! Not only did she give some incredible tips, but she also talked about how respecting your boundaries and identifying your triggers can help you work on your emotional intelligence. Not only will you come out stronger, but you’ll be an incredible example for your children by modeling how they can protect themselves from difficult situations. This was an...2023-10-2606 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: How to Deal With Triggers While Co-ParentingSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. On this week's episode we talked about dealing with triggers and how to love yourself enough to give empathy. If you are feeling triggered, notice the feeling, take a deep breath, and realize that you do not have to react to it at that moment. You can walk away, think about it, and decide if there needs to be a discussion at a later time when you are not feeling triggered. Tune in for more great...2023-10-1905 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyNavigating the Storm: High Conflict Parenting Tools for Managing TriggersToday is part 1 of a 2 part episode with Karen McMahon, the founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. During this episode we discuss managing triggers while dealing with a high conflict co-parenting relationship. Karen discusses how to set boundaries and alleviate obstacles that may get in the way. She explains emotional energy and how to uplevel the energy you are projecting in order to benefit yourself but also hopefully raise the energy of your co-parent. Tune in for great tips on boundary setting and don’t miss next week’s episode about becoming a boundary bad ass!
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Finding Yourself After An Abusive RelationshipTrigger Warning: Domestic Abuse. If you or someone you know is suffering from domestic abuse, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for 24/7 Confidential Support: 800-799-7233
Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Understanding what an abusive relationship looks like can be truly life changing for yourself or someone you love. Hiring a coach to help you navigate divorce after an abusive relationship, whether financial, emotional, physical or mental, can be a very empowering decision so that you can move forward...2023-10-1205 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Advice From A Divorce Lending ProfessionalSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today, Lesa is reflecting on her conversation with Tami Wollensak, a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP®). Tami shared all of the things to consider about your mortgage when negotiating a divorce settlement. Whether you are considering keeping your home or selling your home or maybe even keeping the home together after a divorce, Tuesday’s insightful episode is for you. Tami’s key takeaway from the episode is to surround yourself with experienced professionals when you are going...2023-10-0506 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Communicating as Co-Parents vs As A Married CoupleSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. When you are co-parenting, you are no longer parenting as a couple. Your marriage is over, but your relationship will go on forever because of the children that you share. So how should you communicate with your ex-spouse to keep as much peace as possible? Karen shares how to parent skillfully in Tuesday’s episode, you don’t want to miss it! Tune in today to learn how. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out...2023-09-1406 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Having Courage To Feel SadSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Do you find yourself running from uncomfortable feelings such as sadness? It may feel icky, but if you have the courage to dig into it, you’ll find confidence in your decisions and the circumstances you are experiencing. You can feel sadness AND joy. Tune in today to learn how. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes and new releases every Tuesday.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Reclaiming and Understanding Your Finances During a DivorceSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week, Lesa reflects on her conversation with forensic accountant Tracey Coenen. While a divorcing couple utilizing mediation may not need a forensic accountant per se, it is still a good idea to gain an understanding of your combined and individual finances. If you are not in charge of the finances, please do not feel ashamed for not having this information. Lesa touches on different ways you can start this process and create a spending plan for...2023-08-1006 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Using Your Divorce As An OpportunitySaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. On this week’s podcast, Lesa reflects on her discussion with mediator and family therapist, Brian Burns. Lesa shares about the importance of accountability and humility during the divorce process. She also shares great tips on how to look at divorce as an opportunity for growth. Lesa also discusses the importance of communicating and showing up from an honest, grounding place of truth. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes and new re...2023-07-2005 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Seeing Kindness As A Strength In DivorceSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one key takeaway that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Tosh Brittan joined me this week, and she has so many amazing nuggets that she shared with us on the podcast this week. We talked about her book Kindness for Conflict and how you can do it through a divorce. She talked about the benefits of cold water swimming and the benefits. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes, new releases every Tuesday.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Ending Toxic CyclesSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one key takeaway that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Mikki Gardner shares how to build the muscle of pausing and giving yourself the space to figure out what is the next most loving decision. Learning how to pause, and step back, and give yourself the space will help you calm down. When you are in a calm state you can make different decisions rather than react to situations. This teaches you to be conscious and awake in the decisions and actions that you are...2023-06-1505 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Assessing The Reality of Your GoalsSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Meghan shares how vital it is to have an accurate assessment of the reality of your goals. Knowing the truth of your reality also gives you a way to move closer to your vision even though you can’t have the full expression of it. Talk about your realistic goals in a way that isn't depriving you of your vision. Also, ensure that you are working with someone who can share legal information about what is po...2023-04-2008 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Using Hard Feelings to Change Your MindsetSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. If you expect that you’re never going to feel bad and that life will be amazing once you change your mindset, you will be disappointed. These feelings are opportunities; they teach us what we like and don’t like. Learn to use your feelings to change your mindset, and keep practicing! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes and new releases every Tuesday.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDo You Blame Yourself for the Divorce? Learn How to Suffer Less Through ItToday is our monthly episode with Tracy Pleschourt, founder of Self-Made U. This week; we discuss feelings of shame, blame, guilt, and any other negative feelings we may experience through divorce. Tracy talks with us about the fact that there is no right amount of time to sit with those feelings, but there will come a point when you are ready to move on. She gives a great reminder that we must sit with uncomfortable feelings so then we know what it’s like to feel joy. Tune in today for some great strategies for facing your difficult emotions.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Becoming Present And Aware To End Your SufferingSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. During this week’s episode, Laurel shared the reminder to breathe through the moment and remember that this is just a point in time. She also wanted listeners to acknowledge that they are in a grief process when going through a divorce. Grief is not linear; we don’t check off each stage and move on to the next. This is a grieving process (even if you wanted out). Have the sensitivity that it is a grie...2023-03-3004 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Benefits of MediationSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Kim Best wants us to remember that this situation is for now. Where you are is just for now, and it will get better. She also wants you to remember that as you go through the divorce process, it's easy to place blame on your soon-to-be ex-spouse; instead of assigning a label to them that they are a liar, change your mindset and wording to ‘my ex has lied, it doesn't mean that is who they ar...2023-03-1605 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySuffer Less Through Divorce & BeyondToday I am sharing some tools that can help you to view suffering differently. Shifting your focus during a difficult circumstance to look for the gifts or opportunities being shown to you instead of getting stuck in the situation can make a world of difference. I walk through three scenarios of realizing the amazing gifts I’ve received through challenging times. Tune in today to learn how to switch up your mindset.
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[2:09] How do you approach your mindset and feelings? [3:56] What is a tactile way you can do a PQ Rep? [5:50] Why is...2023-03-0719 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyTen Minutes with Tracy - WorthinessEach month I am joined by life coach and founder of Self-Made U, Tracy Pleschourt. This month we talk about worthiness and walk through a recent circumstance that made me second guess my own worthiness. Tracy talks about the best ways to shift your thinking and turn a negative situation into a positive one. Life will always come at us with difficulties. However, if you have the right tools in your toolbox, you’ll be able to handle them more quickly and find the gift within the situation. Tune in today to learn how to live life with intention!...2023-02-0728 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Become Financially SavvySaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Lisa Zeiderman’s number one tip is to become financially savvy. It is crucial that you understand your finances and that someone else isn’t doing it for you. If you need assistance walking through your finances, Savvy Ladies is an excellent free resource that pairs women with financial advisors! Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes, and new releases every Tuesday.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Finding Your North Star Through DivorceSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Sarah Armstrong advises focusing on your North Star through the divorce. Have a picture of what you want the divorce to turn out like and have that in your mind each time you are dealing with pieces of the divorce. Step back and keep your child(ren) in focus as well. Remember that people can live a new phase of life just under a new structure. Learning to co-parent and create a good divorce will be...2023-01-1906 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Forgiveness Does Not Excuse What Somebody DidSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Forgiveness does not excuse what somebody did, however, it is a way for you to feel freedom after difficult situations. As you work through forgiveness, you will gain an understanding of what happened, and you set yourself up to move forward. It doesn't mean you won’t feel bad again; it means that when old stories pop up, you gain the ability to know you are safe. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out th...2023-01-1204 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyForgiveness Through Divorce in MN and BeyondOn today’s episode of our monthly session with Tracy Pleschourt, we discuss the importance of forgiveness. Tracy walks us through the Four N’s of forgiveness and how to work through each step. Holding on to resentment can cause a lot of turmoil in life, affecting your friendships and relationships. Forgiving someone doesn't mean that the person is correct; it just means that you are letting go of the emotions impacting your life and setting yourself free. Tune in today to learn how to find thankfulness and positive intentions out of the things in life that feel heavy.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyIs it Time to Divorce? You Don't Have to Fight it Out in CourtToday I am so excited to share my interview with Keith and Sheila Hittner from the Our Healthy Homes radio show. In this dynamic episode we talk about why I became a mediator and how I work with and support my clients. We also discuss one of the biggest stressors in relationships, why mediation is so important, and who is a good fit for mediation. Tune in to learn more about the mediation process from beginning to end and so much more!
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[01:00] Why Lesa became a mediator. [05:00] Why finances are stressors in...2023-01-0340 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Creating A Thought That You Can Believe InSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Today we talked about truly loving yourself and creating a thought you believe in. Lesa’s thought is, “I am a woman learning how not to care what people think when I jump into a pool in a bathing suit with my grandson.” Next, set up boundaries for yourself! Hop on my website to grab your boundary worksheet and learn what your boundaries are, the consequences, and how to set them up. Like what you're hearing? Be sur...2022-12-0804 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Tips for Co-Parenting Well TogetherSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week Lesa talks about the importance of co-parenting well together, putting the focus on working together for your kids. The goal of parenting is to create resilient, strong humans. If you are feeling triggered by your ex, put a picture of your children on the phone, so when they are with your ex, and they call, you’ll think of your children rather than any negative emotions. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check ou...2022-12-0103 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyParenting Through DivorceFor today’s episode, we’re sharing an episode from the Peace and Parenting Podcast where Lesa was a guest. During this interview, Lesa gives some great tips on how to work together in a co-parenting relationship. Lesa and Michelle discuss how to create a healthy relationship and why it is vital for children to see their parents working together. Lesa dives into creating a parenting plan and what to keep in mind while working through some tough decisions. Lastly, Michelle talks about hope after divorce and how there is life afterward! Tune in today for some of Lesa’s best...2022-11-2925 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: How Do You Do Divorce Differently?Saddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing our listeners can do right away to add value to their lives. Today’s episode is a compilation of this month's guests, Duana Welch and Dan Simon. Duana’s advice is to reach an agreement between you and your ex as best you can. Be kind and respectful, remembering there was a time you chose this person. If that is not possible, hire someone who can help guide a collaborative divorce. Dan’s advice is to get clear on what matters to you, don’t be influenced by friends, your law...2022-11-0304 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyTen Minutes with Tracy: Sharing Painful Stories to Support Clients Through Divorce in Minnesota and BeyondDuring our monthly session with Tracy, Lesa gets coached on a difficult topic. We discuss focusing on ourselves and our image, taking away the opportunity to impact others' lives. Tracy coaches how people can become aware of their thoughts and work to change them. Tune in today to learn how to avoid spending your life chasing circumstances.
In this episode:
[4:20] Tracy coaches Lesa on focusing on how to leave people feeling a certain way. [8:26] What does it mean to have a self-made mind? [13:28] How do we neutralize and normalize our thoughts? [18:14] How can people push...2022-11-0126 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: How To Handle Conflict in Minnesota and BeyondSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Minnesota Mediation Trainer Dan Simon shares how to handle conflict. Whenever you are experiencing conflict with someone, you are a person in conflict at that moment because you are judging the other person a certain way. Whenever you are in that situation, step away and do an empowering activity (deep breathing, a walk outside, yoga, etc.) to get to a better place. Then come back to the situation and reevaluate how you feel. You’ll likely be...2022-10-2705 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDivorce Mediation Benefits and Why it Works in Minnesota and BeyondIn today’s episode, Minnesota Mediation Trainer Dan Simon talks about what it means to be a transformative mediator. He discusses what that means when working with clients and how it leaves them feeling empowered in their decisions. Dan dives into how he handles escalated conversations and creates space and light for clients to work through difficult decisions. Lastly, Dan tells us about his book Self Determination in Mediation and how it can help those outside the mediation field. Tune in today for some amazing mediation tips.
In this episode:
[1:29] Dan shares his history as a...2022-10-2531 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: You Are Meant To Be LovedSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. To re-cap, in both parts 1 and 2 of our conversation with Dr. Duana Welch, remember that you are meant to be loved! Have the courage to put in the work and find that love. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Find and Be Someone Kind and RespectfulSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. Love Doctor Duana Welch’s piece of advice is, “If you can find and be someone kind and respectful, your love life will probably go well. And if you can’t, it won’t.” This has been a saying for over 60 years and still holds true today. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDating After Divorce with the Love Doctor, Doctor Duana Welch Part OneIn today’s episode, we are talking to Love Doctor Duana Welch. Duana is an author and love coach who helps women find love the love of their life. Using her experience of finding love after divorce, she tells us how to get out there and find love again. Duana talks about the ten steps she has created to find a beautiful and solid relationship, also available in her book. It can feel intimidating to start dating and putting yourself out there again, but tune in to this episode for some great tips!
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Envision Your LifeSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. We asked both Heather and Terri what you could start doing now to move forward. They mentioned creating a vision board or creating short-term and long-term goals to get you started on what you envision your life looking like. Then work towards those goals. Heather and Terri also remind us to start small, pick one space, and grow your organization. Don’t get overwhelmed trying to do the whole house at once. Like what you're hearing? Be...2022-09-0106 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDivorce De-Clutter (Divorce and Organizational Opportunity) with Spruce Solutions Heather Bender and Terri LinkIn today’s episode, we are joined by co-owners of Spruce Solutions, Heather Bender and Terri Link. Heather and Terri founded the organizing company together to help people tackle their tasks with less stress. They’ve joined us to discuss their different services and give some great examples of rooms they have helped clients re-organize. We also talk about how organizing your home can make a difference in how the house feels to bring clarity, calmness, and peace to the home. Tune in today to learn more about their services and tips that you can do on your own to s...2022-08-3027 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyThe Journey Beyond Divorce an Opportunity to Plan Your Future with Attorney Elizabeth NeyensIn today’s episode, we are joined by Estate Planning Attorney, Elizabeth Neyens. Elizabeth talks about the importance of Estate planning in general and after divorce. Estate plans cover everything from a home to financial planning for your children and animals! Elizabeth also talks about career planning and the significance of LLCs. Tune in today to learn more about estate planning and how to handle it after divorce.
In this episode:
[2:07] What made Elizabeth decide to become an attorney and go into the estate planning space? [5:20] Elizabeth shares tips about what people need to do af...2022-08-2324 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySaddle Up Segment: Listening Through DivorceSaddle Up Segments are bite-size, bonus episodes offering one thing that our listeners can do right away to add value to their life. This week, Lesa discusses the importance of being self-aware when you listen. Becoming aware of how you listen when someone is sharing can help move a difficult conversation in the right direction. Finally, when someone tells you how they are feeling, believe them, even if it doesn’t make sense to you. Like what you're hearing? Be sure to check out the full-length episodes; new releases every Tuesday.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce Differently6 Steps to Divorce Better and Co-Parent Well with Divorce Attorney Lesa KoskiOn today’s episode of Doing Divorce Different, Lesa Koski is sharing how she helps her clients navigate difficult conversations throughout the divorce process. Throughout her experience as a divorce attorney and mediator, Lesa has learned six impactful steps to help her clients feel heard, feel understood, and to find common ground. Whether you’re experiencing divorce or want to learn how to co-parent, tune in for insight into how Lesa helps her clients move successfully through the divorce process.
In this episode:
[01:45] Listen with the intention of understanding rather than reacting. [03:18] Build rapport and find...2022-07-1916 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyBecoming Divorce with Claire SamuelsIn today’s episode, we are joined by Claire Samuels, an attorney with a background in family law and divorce mediation. Claire talks to us about how she approaches divorce and mediation through the attitude of “Becoming Divorce” with her clients. She shares with us the fantastic curated community of expert services she provides to her clients, which helps give them all the contacts they may need or want while going through the divorce process. Tune in as we hear about how she provides clients with the support they need to use divorce as a transformation and a catalyst to liv...2022-07-1227 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyParenting through Divorce, a Childs Perspective with Bella DuncanThis episode is for children of divorce and their parent's. Bella Duncan is a delightful 23 year old who comes to us all the way from Australia. Her parents divorced when she was just 3 years old. She now shares her insights through blogging on her webiste: A Kid with Two Homes. Today we focus on one specific blog about Decision-making. Think about all the decisions kids of divorce must make. We can view it as an opportunity to better prepare them for their futures by doing it right. Here are Bella's tips from her blog:
Decision Making Tips
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDivorce Mediation or Marriage Mediation with attorney Dawn ClementsMarital Mediation is on the rise and todays guest is an expert in this field. As you know Court does not have to be the answer. Marriage Mediation like divorce mediation has conflict resolution at its core. Most divorcing clients are arguing about: 1. Finances. 2. Parenting. 3. Communication. 4. Division of labor. As Attorneys turned Mediators we help you understand your positions, interests, needs and a resolution. We are not therapists. They are important too. Rather than looking in the rearview mirror Attorney Mediators help you look straight ahead and find conflict resolution for your future; whether you stay married or divorce.
Da...2022-05-1734 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyBetrayal and Marriage with Dr. Debi SilberBetrayal is a different type of trauma for two reasons: 1. It feels intentional, it is rejection which is different than if you lose someone you love. 2. There are a collection of symptoms (physical and mental) and time does not heal them. Today Dr Debi Silber the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute a holistic psychologist and author shares her insight into betrayal. And there is a lot. During her recent PHD study she learned the 5 stages of betrayal.
1. Set up stage where you ignore your feelings.
2. Shock and trauma-your world view is shattered.
3. S...2022-05-1033 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyFree Divorce Tools with guest Divorce Journalist Ilyssa PanitzSurvive and thrive through your divorce. Today’s guest, Ilyssa Panitz the red carpet journalist who became the only Divorce Journalist/Columnist committed to helping others navigate this major life transition: covering every angle and exploring every topic when it comes to a divorce.
Today's episode contains a wealth of information available to you as you walk through the divorce process. “Let me be your waze…I will get you there.” Ilyssa Panitz. The first and most important step is to do your homework. Learn what you have, what you owe and make a list. Sometimes you can learn a...2022-05-0333 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDivorce Dating and your Children with Divorce over 40's Daniel Herrold on Doing Divorce Different with host Attorney turned Mediator Lesa Koski # 44Are you Divorced, over 40 and thinking about dating. Daniel Herrold the Divorced Dad walks us through how he navigated dating and divorce with teens. Daniel shares his authentic story and some feelings of shame about how he handled dating when his marriage ended. In this episode he shares what he would have done different and what he did right. This delightful conversation begins with answering when should I start dating? Daniels heartfelt response is not before the decree is signed. He urges people to heal themselves first, hire a therapist, get comfortable with your new parenting situation; and when you fe...2022-04-1932 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyA Divorce Coach in Your Back Pocket with Jennifer Warren MedwinHappiness is an inside job. In this episode Jen Medwin coaches us to empowerment through divorce and beyond. Jen uses mnemonics (easy to remember words and phrases/I am sharing because I had to look it up) in her new book Strategies and Tips from a Divorce Coach. It is like having a divorce coach in your back pocket. She urges people going through divorce to pause and be aware or how you are feeling. Here is just one example of her mnemonics: E + R= O. The Event + how you React = the Outcome. You have control over how you react...2022-04-1235 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyHow can I Help my Children Through a Divorce with Guest Author and Mediator Despina Mavridou and Host Attorney Turned Mediator Lesa Koski on Doing Divorce Different #42Helping your kids through divorce is paramount to divorcing parents. Author Despina Mavridou knows first hand. Growing up in Greece, she was the child of a tumultuous divorce. She shares her story of being alienated from her father for almost 29 years. Despina's book, Mum, Dad Can you Hear Me? Addresses all the feelings she had going through divorce as a child. She is passionate about sharing this information because she was afraid to speak her feelings as a child of divorce. Her book is a way to give children going through a divorce a voice. The book is an amazing...2022-04-0530 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyStarting Over Helping Single Parents get on their feet with guest Meghan Wick and host Attorney turned Mediator Lesa Koski on Doing Divorce Different #41Feeling blessed to have this breath of fresh air on Doing Divorce Different today. You know how much I love supporting people who have been through difficult times and want to help others through them. Meghan Wick is doing just this and in such a unique way. Listen up to learn how she can, "help single moms/dads get on their feet again and give them something that could remind them of their resilience and courage." How you make ask? Through styling and photography.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyHow to Start my Divorce? With Attorney turned Mediator Lesa Koski on Doing Divorce Different Bonus #40This is the nuts and bolts of what you need to begin your Divorce Mediation process. Yes, the paperwork. Here it is in a nutshell:
Taxes
Pay stubs
Retirement Plan Statements
Health and Dental coverage information
Stock information and values
Property deeds
Life Insurance Paperwork
Bank Account information
Debts
Budgets
If you begin pulling all of this information together you are off to a good start. Budgets are difficult; they are so important. It gives you a leg up to know how much you need to survive and thrive after the divorce. It will also better prepa...2022-03-2414 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyEmotionally Preparing for your Divorce with Tracy Pleschourt and host attorney Lesa Koski on Doing Divorce Different #39Emotionally preparing for divorce is essential to a successful mediation. Host Lesa Koski is on a mission to help people prepare emotionally as well as logistically. Todays episode shares an amazing Yoga inspired body connection with Coach Tracy Pleschourt (Founder of Self Made U and Lesa Koski's personal coach). Feelings run rampant during divorce. That being said, You still need an amazing divorce plan that will set you in the right direction for the rest of your life. By utilizing this process you will be in control of your mind even during these volatile moments.
Tracy Pleschourt, the Fo...2022-03-2215 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyCan I Afford a Divorce with Guest Dare to Change Live's Millin Livis and host attorney Lesa Koski on Doing Divorce Different #38Don't let finances keep you in a bad marriage. Learn how to become Financially independent from Millen Livis. You may just want to listen to hear Millen's beautiful french accents. Millen escaped from Lithuania 30 years ago, while it was under Soviet rule, with her young daughter and husband. Finding herself in a strange country, not knowing the language and divorced was terrifying for Millen. She pulled herself up from the depths of despair and now wants to help others through difficult financial situations. She is living a life she loves by: helping people through difficult times, re-married to a wonder...2022-03-1539 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyHow do I Survive Divorce with Journey Beyond Divorce Founder Karen McMahon and host attorney Lesa Koski on Doing Divorce Different #37How do you survive and even thrive through a tumultuous divorce? You will be surprised to learn that sometimes when you mend yourself you won't actually need to end your marriage. The guest on Doing Divorce Different this week was special; Karen McMahon Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce. Her insight comes first hand. When you hear her unique story, you will be amazed that she picked up from the ashes and created a beautiful life. Now she helps other people through the process.
One of my favorite moments was when Karen talked about mending yourself first and then...2022-03-0836 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyHow a Divorce Litigator and a Divorce Mediator Do Divorce Different; and yet Both are Gaining Momentum Toward Divorcing a Better Way with Attorney Jill Coil and Host Attorney Lesa Koski #36If you are wondering if divorce mediation is right for you and you want to learn how to prepare for a divorce mediation, tune into this episode. Attorney Jill Coil, a high profile divorce litigator and Lesa Koski, a divorce mediator; sit down and discuss the realm of possibilities on how to do divorce different and better. Lesa coaches you through her 5 steps to get you to a better mindset for a successful mediation session. Jill gives you the nuts and bolts of what you need to know before you head into a divorce mediations session. First list your prio...2022-03-0133 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyWhat if I Suspect my Spouse is Cheating on Doing Divorce Different with guest Brian Burns and host attorney Lesa Koski #35What if I suspect my spouse is cheating. Sadly you are probably right, according to marriage and family therapist Brian Burns. Brain urges you to trust your gut and be particularly attentive if your spouse is putting up a good defense. If he or she is this demonstrates lack of empathy for your feelings and should be a warning sign. No one gets to tell you how to feel.
And remember it is scary to face the truth; but is is the path to finding meaning in your life. Brian urges to be brave and courageous. Love yoursel...2022-02-2218 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyAffairs Damage and Divorce on Doing Divorce Different with Marriage and Family Therapist Brian Burns and host attorney Lesa Koski #34What constitutes an affair? This weeks guest on Doing Divorce Different Brian Burns defines it like this: "Behaviors or actions a reasonable spouse would feel uncomfortable with." Brian goes on to share that whether the affair is physical or emotional; both are equally difficult to heal from. In order to heal from an affair you need:
1. Both parties need to be willing to work to heal the marriage.
2. The offending party must take full accountability.
3. The hurt party needs to be open to forgive.
Brian also explains how the offending party can...2022-02-1533 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyWill I survive Divorce? Doing Divorce Different #33 with the Divorce Rehab's Wendy Sterling and host attorney Lesa KoskiWill I survive Divorce? The Divorce REHABs Wendy Sterling did and she is sharing her secrets in this episode! "I believe divorce can be the most empowering thing we go through to find our true identity and voice to start designing a life we chose instead of a feeling of being stuck on auto pilot." Wendy share's her REHAB acronym:
R Re-discover yourself.
E End the victim mentality.
H Healing all the wounds.
B build your life.
Listen in for her 3 tips on how to recover from divorce quicker. You...2022-02-0837 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyWill Divorce Ruin my Child? Doing Divorce Different #32 with guest Mary Jeppsen PHD and host Attorney Lesa KoskiCo-Parenting your children mitigates the damage of divorce. Today Mary Jeppsen teaches us some of her tried and true tools to co-parent well. Mary has been a counselor for 15 years, primarily working with children, couples and families. Prior to becoming a licensed professional counselor, and earning a PhD in Counselor Education and Supervision, she raised 11 children, so she has lots of family experience.
We begin by working through how do you address the fact that you are getting divorced with your kids. Mary advises to be specific with limited details. First approach your children together as a unite...2022-02-0132 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDoing Divorce Different, Can you be happy through Divorce? With the Happy Hustler Cary Jack and host attorney Lesa Koski #31You can be happy through your divorce! Or at the very least balanced! Join us as the Happy Hustler (Cary Jack) walks us through the 10 alignments and how you can get his book free! (when you pay for shipping). Doing Divorce Different was honored to welcome this top .5% podcaster to share his secret to blissful balance. Cary Jack was moved be a part of Doing Divorce Different. He is totally in to adding value to peoples lives; even those going through a rough spot. He also experienced a gut-wrenching divorce as a child. He hopes this episode can help even on...2022-01-2530 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDoing Divorce Different #30 Making the Difficult Decision to Divorce w/ Kim Geiken and host attorney Lesa KoskiThis episode makes sense of all the noise we have heard about how you know it is time to divorce. No one can help us more that guest Kim Geiken; who was a divorce mediation client and became a mediator. Join us as we discuss the three A's. Addiction, Abuse and Adultery, some say they lead to a sure fire path to divorce. Others say they are the only reason to divorce. We re-examine Brian Burns 4 step process: 1. Know yourself-Are you willing to change and grow to make the marriage work? 2. Check-in with your spouse, are they willing to change an...2022-01-1831 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyHow Do I Know it is Time to Divorce w/ Marriage and Family Therapist Brian Burns and Host Attorney Lesa Koski on Doing Divorce Different #29It is divorce month and everyone is wondering is it time to go...or do I want to stay? This episode is so so good. Brian shares all the information that can help you make the right decision. Brian helps listeners with a couple easy steps to a very difficult decision.
1. Know yourself. Work on yourself and look at whether or not you are willing to change and grow to make the marriage work.
2. Check in with your spouse, are they willing to work with you on the marriage.
3. If this is new give you...2022-01-1125 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDivorce-Hardship-Holidays and Food (What?) Coach Tracy Pleschourt on Doing Divorce Different with Attorney Lesa Koski #28Divorce-Hardship-Holidays and You heard me food. Coach Tracy gives you a free coaching session. On todays special New Years episode Tracy teaches how taking control of what you put in your body can be the best self care ever. Lesa Koski shares her journey through a difficult holiday season and how coach Tracy's mind math has helped her see abundance even in the hard things.
Solving the mind math is the first step in Tracy's S.E.L.F approach. You can learn the 5 steps in episode 5. E represents eating food that fuels. There is no better time t...2021-12-3138 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDivorce Mediation is a Better Way; The Why and the How of Divorce Mediation with attorney and Mediator Lesa Koski on Doing Divorce Different #27In this episode attorney and mediator Lesa Koski shares why she choses Mediation over adversity and why working collaboratively is a better way. We all know Divorce Mediation saves time and money; but did you know you can mitigate the damage divorce does to your children when you are a united front in your parenting?
If you are thinking about divorce you need this episode. You will understand divorce mediation and the steps involved after listening. Please contact Lesa Koski.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyRoadmap for your Post Divorce Future with Life Coach Jenn Krusinski and Host Attorney Lesa Koski on Doing Divorce Different #26Friends you will feel comforted about your divorce after listening to life coach Jenn Krusinski. You can put even the messiest divorces behind you and create a much richer, truer life. Jen explains how she had her own dark night of the soul. She grieved. A lot. And, then she made a decision. She stood in her truth and everything changed. It's why she wants to work with you. So you can have this too.
Do you feel isolated? Broken? Empty?
Are you keeping your life small? Still blaming your ex? Holding onto anger?
Do you long f...2021-12-2134 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlySheletta Makes me Laugh Shares her Divorce Story on Doing Divorce Different w/ host Attorney Lesa Koski #25Sheletta Brundidge is a broadcaster and Emmy award-winning comedian who loves Jesus, bacon and brown liquor. She joins us on Doing Divorce Different to share her divorce story and how she is maneuvering through the hard stuff with 4 kids in tow. (All 4 kids are homeschooling with her as she records this episode-yes, you can hear them in the background at times- real life). Learn more about Sheletta and find her podcasts at website. Sheletta makes me laugh is a podcast network with shows to tickle your funny bone, make you think and cause you to cry.
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDoing Divorce Different #24 The Science Behind Dating, Love Factually's Dr. Duana Welch with attorney Lesa KoskiLearn the science behind dating with author Dr. Duana Welch. In this fun episode we learn what men are looking for and how it is different than what women are looking for in a mate. Duana coaches clients on how to write their dating profile and she unveils some unique tips that will help you find love again. We also delve into dating and kids, how to handle it and what to watch out for.
Dr. Duana Welch is the original Love Factually author and coach, known for using social science to solve real-life relationship issues. She has...2021-12-0738 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDoing Divorce Different Episode 23 with Smart Step Families' Ron Deal and host Attorney Lesa KoskiWondering about divorce, dating and step-parenting and how it all affects your children. Today's episode will help you learn how to have a successful step family; how this will help your kids and what to stay away from even in the beginning stages of dating. There is so much good learning going on in this episode. I was delighted by Ron's advice when you have kids date with both eyes open wide. (He also stated when your married keep one eye shut :)-Great idea!).
First, Ron walks us through some red and yellow lights when dating with kids...2021-11-3043 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDivorce a New Beginning with Daisy Camp Attorney Angela Heart on Doing Divorce Different #22In this weeks episode Attorney and Mediator Lesa Koski is joined by Attorney Angela Heart who is sharing information on the non-profit Daisy Camp. This resource is available to all of our listeners whether they are just beginning the divorce process, in the middle of a divorce or recovering from a divorce. Angela share's how Daisy Camp empowers people with resources and tools on the divorce process. Daisy Camp never turns anyone away. Go to Daisycamp.org and see what's coming. These webinars allow you to be in community with others; while remaining anonymous if you like!
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyAttorney Lesa Koski Helps You Find Relief in Your Divorce Journey Through Science with author, Duana Welch, Ph.D. on Doing Divorce Different Podcast #21Finding relief in your divorce journey can actually begin with science. You will learn the science behind relationships, the importance of forgiveness and how to keep your kids out of the middle of your divorce on today's episode. Dr. Duana Welch is the original Love Factually author and coach, known for using social science to solve real-life relationship issues. She has been a professor at universities in Florida, California, and Texas across 20 years, and has contributed to NPR, PBS, Psychology Today, and numerous other outlets, podcasts and videos. Check out her books and resources on her website below and co...2021-11-1635 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyAttorney Lesa Koski Interviews Her Divorce Client who Became a Mediator on Doing Divorce Different #20 with guest Kim Geiken.You will have fun today on Doing Divorce Different. Thank you so much for tuning in. This is my birthday episode and I get to chat with my good friend and apprentice, Kim Geiken. She has all the fun stories about how she is thriving through her divorce journey. We even delve into the world of dating a bit. Enjoy!
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyDoing Divorce Different with Peace and Parenting's Michelle Kenney #19 w/ host Lesa KoskiYou will learn how to connect with your kids from Peace and Parenting's Michelle Kenney. Michelle's tools on connecting with kids rather than discipling them has changed my parent child relationship first hand. I am feeling blessed to be able to share her insights with you. When you see behavior in your child that you know isn't helpful you can connect with them and help them think well. Michelle teaches that empathy, play and one on one connection are the ways you can connect and then model behavior that will serve them through life. I was struck by her comme...2021-11-0229 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyAttorney Lesa Koski Goes Across the Pond to Catch up with The Divorce Goddess on Doing Divorce Different #18You will find peace in this episode. If you are going through a Divorce you need: Tosh Brittan AKA The Divorce Goddess. She teaches that Kindness is the power. Listen to how she maneuvered through her own divorce using the courage of kindness. Tosh's mission is, "to empower and support those going through divorce to change their mindset. From victim and blame and anger to acceptance and forgiveness, compassion and self kindness, to thrive rather than survive so that you can live a wonderful life beyond!"
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Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyAttorney Lesa Koski Leans into Self-Care Through Divorce Finding that Divorce is an Opportunity to Heal with JJ Flizanes, Doing Divorce Different #17You will enjoy a new perspective from a well rounded fitness, mind and body instructor.
In this episode JJ Flizanes teaches that you are the creator of your own reality. She shares three steps to overcoming a victim mentality and creating effective communication. JJ walks you through her own divorce journey and how she healed her core wounds through the process.
JJ Flizanes is an Empowerment Strategist and Host of The Fit 2 Love Podcast Show. She is the Director of Invisible Fitness, an Amazon best-selling author of Fit 2 Love: How to Get Physically, Emotionally, and Sp...2021-10-1935 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyOur Happy Divorce with Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond on Doing Divorce Different #16 (hosted by Lesa Koski)You will love this story! Learning how to have a happy divorce is easy and enjoyable with Nikki and Ben. As they share their story you will discover how you too can divorce a better way; a different way. Join attorney and mediator Lesa Koski as she has a fun conversation about their book and their happy life after divorce. Find Our Happy Divorce How Ending Our Marriage Brought Us Together here!
The greatest lesson learned on todays episode is that there is another way to divorce. There is hope to work together as a family even when y...2021-10-1236 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyAttorney Lesa Koski Learns How Divorce Affects Children on Doing Divorce Different #15 with Award Winning Filmmaker Ellen BrunoYou will learn how divorce affects your children in this insightful episode. Lesa Koski interviews award-winning filmmaker Ellen Bruno on her documentary film Split (see trailer here). Learn the lessons taught by the children themselves. Bruno shares her personal journey through divorce and what she learned creating this film. A sequel is on the way, and we could not be more pleased. There are many lessons that can help you help your kids through divorce. Here are the four main ones:
1. Children want to know what is happening. (without all the hurtful details).
2. Children need to know...2021-10-0535 min
Doing Divorce DifferentA Podcast Guide to Doing Divorce DifferentlyFear Not! Simplify Divorce Finances With Wealth Advisor Will Berigan, Doing Divorce Different #14Financial discussions can be fun. Really! Wealth advisor Will Berigan joins host Lesa Koski as they tap into all the tools to keep you feeling calm when dealing with your finances. When you are beginning your divorce journey it is extremely important to get your financial paperwork in order. Gathering information on all your assets will make the process smoother. In addition to your assets, budgeting is a big deal. It is the number one thing Divorce Mediation clients need when discussing some form of support. Finances can be easy when you understand what you have, what is coming in and...2021-09-2832 min