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Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Coaches Takeover Series – People-Pleasing & InsecurityWelcome to Relationship Truth: Unfiltered, where we bring truth with love to the tough topics of emotionally destructive relationships. In today’s special Coaches Takeover episode, Leslie Vernick team coaches Diana Bala and Susan King dive into people-pleasing, insecurity, and the transformative path toward freedom in Christ. We’re fresh off our 5-Day Insecurity Coaching Challenge—and in this conversation, we’re going even deeper. In This Episode: A recap of the 5-Day Insecurity Challenge: Self-doubt Shame and guilt Perfectionism The inner critic People-p...

2025-07-1412 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered God Didn’t Ask Me to Be Nice: Reclaiming Truth, Boundaries, and Peace📌 Episode Summary: In today’s episode of Relationship Truth Unfiltered, host LeAnne Parsons, Professional Certified Coach and trauma-informed practitioner on Leslie Vernick’s coaching team, sits down with Vickie a woman whose life was built on saying yes to everyone—until she learned how to say yes to God first. From taking on adult responsibilities at age six to becoming everyone’s helper as a wife, mom, and ministry leader, our guest was admired for her generosity and "niceness"—but underneath was exhaustion, resentment, and a quiet spiritual disconnect. Through the Moving Beyond People Pleasing program, she...

2025-07-0743 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered “I Chose to Be Well”: One Woman’s Journey Through Betrayal, Boundaries, and Becoming Whole AgainHave you ever felt like you were losing yourself just to keep the peace? That you were constantly saying “yes” when your heart was crying out “no”? If you’ve ever struggled with people pleasing—especially in the wake of betrayal or in the midst of a painful marriage—this episode is for you. In this powerful Coaches Takeover episode, Coach Diana Balla and Coach Susan King are joined by Mara, a courageous woman who vulnerably shares her journey through profound betrayal, emotional trauma, and ultimately, healing and transformation. Mara opens up about how Leslie Vernick & Co.’s “Moving Beyond...

2025-06-3031 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered A Fresh Voice, A Familiar Mission: Welcoming Our Coaches TakeoverIn this special episode, LeAnne Parsons (PCC, TBRI Practitioner, and coach on Leslie Vernick’s team) shares an exciting update. With Leslie’s full blessing and invitation, the coaching team is stepping in to bring a new Coaches Takeover Series to the podcast! You’ll hear encouragement, real transformation stories, and coaching insights that align perfectly with the biblical foundation and trauma-informed care this podcast is known for. Expect practical tools, Christ-centered truth, and deep reminders that your healing matters and your voice is not too much. Highlights: Why Leslie invited her coachi...

2025-05-0506 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered From Lost to Found: Reclaiming Your Voice, Identity & Faith in Destructive RelationshipsHave you ever felt like you've lost yourself trying to make a relationship work? You go through the motions, trying to be the "good wife," the "submissive woman," the "faithful helper"—but deep inside, something feels off. You’re exhausted, resentful, and unsure how you even got here. In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered, Leslie welcomes psychotherapist and leadership coach Michelle Moffitt for a candid conversation about what it means to wake up, reclaim your voice, and start honoring the woman God created you to be. Michelle shares her personal journey of trauma, toxic theology, and...

2025-04-2144 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Nick Stumbo on Breaking the Silence: The Hidden Impact of Porn on Christian MarriagesWhat do you do when trust is shattered, but no one around you seems to take your pain seriously? In today’s deeply honest and hope-filled episode, Leslie sits down with Nick Stumbo, former pastor and Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries, who opens up about his personal battle with pornography—and the profound impact it had on his wife, his marriage, and his ministry. Nick's story isn’t just one of addiction—it's about healing, honesty, and hope when everything seems lost. Together, Leslie and Nick dismantle toxic messaging that pressures wives to “just forgive” or “have mor...

2025-04-1449 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Healing After Sexual Abuse: A Powerful Conversation with Tabitha WestbrookHave you ever wondered if healing is truly possible after the deepest kind of betrayal? Maybe you’ve been carrying the weight of shame, confusion, or silence for years. Or maybe someone you love is walking that road and you don’t know how to help. In this honest and hope-filled episode, Leslie is joined by Tabitha Westbrook, licensed therapist, abuse recovery expert, and survivor, for one of the most vulnerable conversations we’ve had yet. Tabitha courageously shares parts of her own story of sexual abuse—both in childhood and in marriage—and offers profound i...

2025-03-3146 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Money, Marriage & Moving Forward: A Financial Guide for Women Facing Divorce with Rhonda NoordykDivorce is never the goal, but sometimes it’s the only solution to an abusive, destructive marriage. Yet, for many Christian women, the fear of financial ruin keeps them stuck in unhealthy relationships. Today, we’re tackling that fear head-on with financial expert Rhonda Noordyk, founder of the Women’s Financial Wellness Center and host of the podcast Disrupting Divorce Conversations for Women. Rhonda has dedicated her career to helping women navigate the financial complexities of divorce with confidence and clarity. In this episode, she shares practical strategies for financial empowerment, ways to uncover hidden assets, and how to...

2025-03-1735 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Power, Abuse, and the Church: Exposing the Truth with Dr. Diane LangbergWhen the Church Harms Instead of Heals: A Conversation with Dr. Diane Langberg Does the church always protect the vulnerable? Unfortunately, the answer is no. Too often, church leaders and institutions protect their own reputation, power, and influence instead of the wounded and abused. This episode is a crucial conversation with world-renowned trauma expert Dr. Diane Langberg, who has spent over five decades counseling survivors of abuse and working to bring truth and light into the darkest places within the church. In this episode, Leslie Vernick and Dr. Langberg discuss how churches can—and must—do b...

2025-03-0334 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Acceptance: Facing Hard Truths Without Giving Up HopeHave you ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of hoping things will change, only to be disappointed over and over again? Maybe you’re in a destructive marriage, and deep down, you know the truth... but accepting it feels impossible. In this episode, Leslie Vernick and Julie Sedenko dive into what true acceptance looks like, especially for women in difficult relationships. But here’s the key: Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up. It doesn’t mean resigning yourself to misery. Instead, it’s about facing the truth so that you can take back your power and choose you...

2025-02-2431 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Pastor's Wife: Called or Confined?RESOURCES: Join Walking in Core Strength Today! Beth Allison Barr's website "Becoming the Pastor's Wife" by Beth Allison Barr What does it mean to be a pastor’s wife? Is it a God-ordained role, or has it been shaped by culture? And how do women in ministry or marriage find freedom when their identity feels crushed under the weight of unrealistic expectations? In this powerful and eye-opening episode, Leslie sits down with Dr. Beth Allison Barr, a medieval historian, pastor’s wife, and author of The Making of Biblical Womanhood and Beco...

2025-02-1747 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered His Faith Was FictionEpisode Title: The Courage to Walk Away: Leah’s Story of Love, Loss, and Finding Strength Introduction Have you ever found yourself questioning everything you thought you knew about love, trust, and commitment? What if the dream you’ve been waiting for suddenly didn’t feel right? In today’s episode, Julie Sedenko sits down with Leah, a woman who was weeks away from getting married when she made the gut-wrenching decision to call off her wedding. Leah’s story is different from our usual guests—she’s never been married—but her journey of faith, resilience, and...

2025-02-1039 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Power in Powerlessness: Reclaiming Your Decision MakingResources Register for Leslie's Webinar, February 13: "I'm Not Okay When You're Not Okay" Think you might be in a destructive marriage? Get Leslie's Quick Start Guide here. Do you feel like the weight of every decision in your marriage or family is on your shoulders? Are you struggling with a spouse who refuses to engage or, worse, actively makes things harder? If decision-making feels overwhelming and you're stuck in fear of making the wrong choice, this episode is for you. Leslie Vernick shares insights on overcoming decision paralysis, handling an unengaged spouse, and finding clarity e...

2025-02-0346 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered The Night I Stopped PretendingResources Register here for Leslie's free workshop, "I'm Not Okay When You're Not Okay" Leslie's Quick Start Guide Introduction Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship that looked perfect on the outside but was suffocating behind closed doors? In this episode, Michelle shares her courageous journey from hiding abuse within the walls of the church to stepping into freedom, healing, and a mission to help other women recognize when difficult crosses into destructive. If you’ve ever questioned whether your struggles in marriage were just normal hardships or something more harmful, Michelle’s stor...

2025-01-2740 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Why Churches Resist Abuse MinistryRESOURCES Leslie's Quick Start Guide Brad Hambrick's Blog: Why Is It So Hard to Have Constructive Conversations About Abuse? Church Cares American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) Equip Show Notes: Why Churches Resist Abuse Ministry Introduction Have you ever wondered why churches sometimes hesitate or even resist addressing abuse within their congregations? In today’s episode, Leslie Vernick unpacks this difficult but vital question. She shares her years of experience working with churches and individuals to create safer spaces for those harmed by abuse. Whether you’ve felt dismissed by your church, or you’...

2025-01-2037 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Hidden in Plain Sight: Recognizing Emotional Abuse in MarriageHear this raw conversation with Julie Sedenko and Jessica about recognizing and escaping covert abuse in her Christian marriage RESOURCES Leslie Vernick's website Leslie's Quick Start Guide The Relationship Timeline Love bombing during dating phase Emotional regulation issues during engagement Marriage lasted 2 years Ended with 6-week separation Red Flags & Patterns Husband proud of his "manipulation talent" Consistent gaslighting and emotional control Sexual addiction disclosed pre-wedding Financial dependence despite her being primary breadwinner Isolation from family and friends Turning Points The wedding incident revealing deeper issues Writing "the letter" that sparked...

2025-01-1352 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered The Scriptural Case for Women's Value with Elyse FitzpatrickResources: Elyse Fitzpatrick's website Elyse's Books Leslie's Website Leslie's Quick Start Guide In this episode, Leslie Vernick talks with Elyse Fitzpatrick the author of over 25 books on Christian living. Elyse holds a master's degree in biblical counseling from Trinity Theological Seminary and is a popular conference speaker and grandmother to six. Discussing 'Worthy: Celebrating the Value of Women': Overview of Elyse's book 'Worthy.' The book celebrates the value of women in the church and society. The inspiration behind writing 'Worthy.' Writing and Reception: Elyse's experiences around 2019...

2025-01-0649 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Reconcilation: Ready or Not?In this episode of Relationship Truth Unfiltered, Julie Sedenko and relationship expert Leslie Vernick tackle the tough topic of reconciliation. If you've ever wondered when or if you should reconcile in a relationship, this episode is for you. They discuss everything from the reasons why someone might separate to how to know if it's really the right time to come back together. Why Separate? Leslie talks about the big reasons people choose to separate—from safety concerns to ongoing negative behavior and its impact. Separation as a Wake-Up Call Separation can sometimes be a wa...

2024-12-3036 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Break Free From the Breakdown MindsetImportance of Mindset Discusses the critical role of mindset in making real changes. Leslie explains the difference between breakdown and breakthrough mindsets. Uses biblical examples like Esther and Joseph to illustrate points. Breakdown Mindset Leslie describes what a breakdown mindset is. Explains its effects using stories of people stuck in victim mentality. Denial of Reality Leslie explains how people deny reality to avoid suffering. Shares examples of false spirituality and its impact on lives. Personal Story of Grief Julie shares a personal story about her sister’s tragic death and subsequent family losses. Discusses the weight of grief and the co...

2024-12-1647 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Reclaiming Her Life: Mary's FightResources: Empowered to Change: www.leslievernick.com/empowered Darby Strickland https://www.darbystrickland.com/ In this heart-wrenching and inspirational episode, Mary shares her powerful story of overcoming decades of abuse. From her tumultuous marriages to finding the strength to rebuild her life, listeners will be moved and motivated to find resilience in their own struggles. Mary's Background Insights into Mary’s early life and personal history. Brief mention of her age and pride in overcoming challenges. First Marriage The emotional and psychological abuse Mary experienced. Efforts to maintain a normal hom...

2024-12-0947 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Habits for a Healthier MindRESOURCES: Register Here for Leslie's Free Workshop on December 5th! Honey Lake Clinic Leslie's Quick Start Guide In this episode of Relationship Truth Unfiltered, Leslie Vernick chats with Dr. Karl Benzio about integrating faith and psychiatric science for healing and better decision-making. Dr. Benzio, from Honey Lake Clinic, shares his journey and practical tools like the SPEARS model to help improve mental health and relationships. Don't miss this insightful conversation! Personal Story Karl's journey of struggle and redemption Early Influences Childhood challenges and the impact of faith Faith and Psychiatry Integrating science and faith...

2024-12-021h 06

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Embrace the Past, Write the Future: Alyson's StoryRESOURCES Register for Leslie's Free Workshop December 5th! www.leslievernick.com/story Leslie's Quick Start Guide www.leslievernick.com/start In this episode, Julie Sedenko sits down with Alyson Zurek, who opens up about her tumultuous life marked by three marriages, a traumatic brain injury, and childhood trauma. From early instability and maternal abandonment to overcoming abusive relationships and exploring emotional recovery, Alyson shares her story of resilience and healing. She discusses how finding faith and joining supportive communities like Conquer helped her reclaim her life an...

2024-11-2550 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Five Signs of a Toxic RelationshipRESOURCES Quick Start Guide: www.leslievernick.com/start Pattern Questions to Ask: When was the first time ... When was the last time... What is a typical time? What's the worst time? Summary: In this episode, Julie Sedenko and relationship expert Leslie Vernick discuss how to recognize and address destructive relationships. Leslie highlights five key signs of a destructive relationship and offers advice on navigating these challenging situations. Identifying Red Flags in Marriage Explanation of common red flags that may indicate a relationship is becoming destructive. Recognizing Patterns of Destructive Be...

2024-11-0438 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Surviving the Unthinkable: Michelle Hord's Story of ResilienceIn this episode of Relationship Truth Unfiltered, Leslie Vernick interviews Michelle Hord, a former producer of Good Morning America. Michelle shares her heartbreaking yet inspiring story of losing her daughter Gabrielle at the hands of her soon-to-be ex-husband and her journey of resilience and faith thereafter. The Tragic Event Description of the tragic event involving Michelle's daughter, Gabrielle. Emotional and psychological impact on Michelle and her family. Life Before the Tragedy Insights into Michelle's marriage and reasons for the divorce. Discussion about emotional abuse and its impact. Gabrielle's Personality Michelle's memories of Ga...

2024-10-0739 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Betty's Story: How CONQUER Changed EverythingRESOURCES: REGISTER HERE for Leslie's FREE Workshop, If He Doesn't Hit Me, Is it Still Abuse? God Cares. September 24th, 2024, 12pm & 7:30pm Eastern JOIN CONQUER!! September 24 - October 4th In this episode, Betty shares her journey through CONQUER, a program that played a pivotal role in her life, first as a married woman and later after her divorce. She discusses how she rediscovered her core values, tackled people-pleasing habits, and found invaluable community support. Her story is a testament to personal growth and resilience, offering hope and a heartfelt prayer for those facing tough...

2024-09-2346 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Courageous Resilience: Pam's Path to HealingRESOURCES: Register Here for Leslie's Free Workshop Are You in a Destructive Marriage Test/Quick Start Guide Pam's Journey: Reflects on her marriage of over two decades overshadowed by manipulation and deceit. Discovering her husband's hidden behaviors: excessive gambling, pornography use, and financial mismanagement. The emotional toll of deception and cycles of hope and disappointment. The turning point: uncovering infidelity and confronting the reality of emotional abuse. Navigating Healing and Transformation: Coping with legal and financial challenges amidst ongoing deceit and manipulation. Finding solace in resources like Leslie Vernick's...

2024-09-1654 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Ask Leslie About SexResources: Leslie's Quick Start Guide "She Deserves Better" by Sheila Gregoire "The Great Sex Rescue" by Sheila Gregoire Questions answered in this episode Can Women Offer Affection Without It Being Interpreted as a Sexual Invitation? Women may hesitate to show physical affection due to fear of it being seen as an invitation for sex. It’s important to communicate intentions clearly when offering hugs, kisses, or other forms of affection. An effective way to set boundaries: “I love being close to you, but I don’t always want it to lead to sex.” Men shou...

2024-09-0238 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered A Story of StrengthRESOURCES: Leslie's Quick Start Guide Walking Away from Unhealthy Dynamics Lynne's decision to metaphorically "walk off the court" when facing marital challenges. Importance of recognizing when to stop playing a destructive game. Setting Boundaries and Maintaining Self Lynne's experience with setting boundaries post-separation. The significance of boundaries in self-preservation and emotional well-being. Recognition of Destructive Patterns Lynne's journey from questioning to validating the destructive nature of her marriage. Impact of validation on personal clarity and self-trust. Shift in Perspective and Faith Lynne's revelation about personal value and the impact...

2024-08-2641 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Core Strength: Practical tools for Life’s ChallengesRESOURCES: Leslie's Free Webinar: www.leslievernick.com/o Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE Leslie Vernick’s book: The Emotionally Destructive Marriage In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered, Julie Sedenko and Leslie Vernick delve into the concept of "core strength" and its critical importance for women navigating destructive relationships. This episode is designed for any woman who feels she may be in a harmful relationship, offering practical insights on how to build and use core strength in everyday life, whether she chooses to stay or leave. Understanding Core Strength: Leslie shares her personal jo...

2024-08-1251 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Transforming Pain into Power: Laura's Story RESOURCES Just Enough Light for the Step I'm On: Trusting God in the Tough Times by Stormie OMartian Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick Quick Start Guide: www.leslievernick.com/start Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) Reflecting on the Past Laura talks about her hard memories of the marriage bed and how she took time after leaving her marriage to observe how others interacted in their marriages. She realized that healthy relationships exist and had to rewrite the script in her mind about what is normal and healthy.

2024-08-0545 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Why I Believe: Dr. Henry Cloud's JourneyResources: Dr. Henry Cloud’s new book: "Why I Believe" Online platform with courses by Dr. Cloud Dr. Cloud's book, Necessary Endings Leslie's Quick Start Guide: Find out if you're in a destructive relationship In today's episode, Leslie Vernick sits down with Dr. Henry Cloud, the acclaimed leadership expert, clinical psychologist, and best-selling author known for his influential books "Boundaries" and "Necessary Endings." With over 45 years of experience, Dr. Cloud has helped millions integrate faith and psychology into their lives. In this enlightening conversation, Leslie and Dr. Cloud discuss his newest book, "Why I Believe," a de...

2024-07-2945 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Can a Wife Say "No" to Sex?RESOURCES: Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE Are you in an emotionally destructive marriage? Get Leslie's Quick Start Guide HERE. Listen to this podcast where Alicia tells the story of being married to a sexually abusive pastor. In this episode, Leslie and Julie explore the challenging issue of marital rape, drawing on personal experiences and insights from biblical teachings. Join them for an honest conversation that sheds light on this sensitive topic with compassion and understanding. Understanding Marital Rape Definition and misconceptions. Societal and religious views. B...

2024-07-0834 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered The Connection Between Trauma and People PleasingResource: Leslie's People Pleasing Course In this episode, Julie and Leslie explore the connection between trauma and people-pleasing habits. They discuss how past experiences can lead us to prioritize others' approval over our own well-being. Through real-life stories and practical tips, they empower listeners to break free from these patterns, find their voice, and foster more authentic connections. Why Understanding the Connection is Important Childhood patterns: Survival mechanisms that may not serve us well in adulthood Impact of unresolved trauma on adult relationships and well-being Signs of People-Pleasing Behavior Difficulty saying...

2024-07-0134 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Virtues and Vulnerabilities: Why Good Christians Can Attract Toxic PeopleResources: Register here for our UNLIMITED Moving Beyond People Pleasing Drop-In Group Coaching + Video Curriculum Today, Julie & Leslie are exploring how some of your best qualities and highest Christian virtues can make you a target for toxic individuals. Have you ever wondered why you seem to attract destructive people despite your kind heart and good intentions? This episode will help you understand and transform how you navigate relationships, allowing you to embrace your strengths while safeguarding your heart. People Pleasing: People pleasers are often generous and eager to make others happy, which...

2024-06-2436 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Healing from Hurt: Kay’s Story of Survival and StrengthRESOURCES: JOIN HERE: Moving Beyond Insecurity Coaching Week Day One Journal App Lundy Bancroft: Why Does He Do That? Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) In this episode, Julie talks to Kay, a woman who adopted children later in life and dealt with a very destructive marriage. She knew from the beginning there were issues, but chose to try and make it work anyway. Learn from her mistakes and listen to the hope she has to offer. Early Signs and Struggles: Kay recounts the lack of red flags d...

2024-06-0345 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Faith and Legal Battles: Insights from Molly Catherine GoodsonRESOURCES: Quick Start Guide - www.leslievernick.com/start Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered, Leslie sits down with Assistant District Attorney and Adjunct Professor, Molly Catherine Goodson to explore the intersection of faith, justice, and abuse. Molly Catherine shares personal journey and professional insights, discussing how her faith sustains her in this high-stakes role. She provides practical advice for victims of abuse, highlights the church's role in supporting and protecting them, and emphasizes the importance of empowering women within the church community. Note: Molly Catherine is no...

2024-05-2746 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Ask Leslie Episode! Divorce, Detachment, Indifference, Narcissism, and EmpathyRESOURCES: Leslie's Quick Start Guide: www.leslievernick.com/start If you'd like to ask a question for a future "Ask Leslie" episode, go to www.leslievernick.com/askleslie Questions in this episode: Doesn’t there have to be infidelity, domestic violence or abandonment as a reason for divorce? 8:51 What does it mean to detach and can I detach from my husband who shows contempt for me and dismisses my feelings and needs 23:56 How is empathy different from people pleasing? 27:47 What is a narcissist and how do we appropriately use this ter...

2024-05-2047 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Questioning Control: Elizabeth's Emotional Journey In this deeply personal episode, Elizabeth courageously shares her journey of facing the reality of her marriage and finding the strength to pursue freedom and healing. Here's a comprehensive overview of her story: RESOURCES: JOIN CONQUER: www.leslievernick.com/join Leslie's website: www.leslievernick.com Darby Strickland: www.darbystrickland.com Lysa Terkeurst: www.lysaterkeurst.com Episode with Jeremy Pierre & Greg Wilson: https://www.podbean.com/pu/pbblog-g8pj3-b3457b "When Home Hurts: A Guide for Responding Wisely to Domestic Abuse in Your Church," by Greg Wilson and Jeremy Pierre Peaceworks Live 2024 Quick Star...

2024-04-1549 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Deciphering Transformation: How to Trust His ChangeSegment 1: Setting Boundaries with Compassion Leslie emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries for safety without resorting to shaming or demeaning language. Discussing the misconceptions around divorce and the true essence of God's stance on marriage, rooted in love and protection for women. Segment 2: The Journey of Forgiveness Examining the stages of forgiveness and repentance in rebuilding a fractured marriage. Understanding the woman's role in moving forward, including evaluating trust, releasing resentment, and embracing personal growth. Segment 3: Confronting Painful Realities Sharing poignant stories of tragedy and anger to illustrate the lasting impact of recklessness and...

2024-04-0837 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Courage Found: Marie's Path to Freedom In this episode, we dive deep into Marie's inspiring journey of breaking free from an emotionally destructive marriage, finding strength in faith, and building a new life of purpose and empowerment. Part 1: Recognizing Toxic Patterns In the first part of our show, Leslie and Marie confront harmful beliefs perpetuated by society and religion. They discuss the misconceptions surrounding marriage, divorce, and self-sacrifice, shedding light on the importance of discerning between true biblical teachings and damaging ideologies. Part 2: Embracing Healing and Growth Marie courageously shares her story of recognizing warning signs, seeking...

2024-04-0146 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Untwisting Scriptures: Seeing Beyond the SpinLeslie interviews Rebecca Davis, author of the Untwisting Scriptures series. 1. The Genesis of "Untwisting Scriptures" Discover the origins of Rebecca's groundbreaking series, sparked by the urgent need to address misuses of scripture in handling sensitive issues like sexual abuse. Learn how Rebecca's journey evolved from social media advocacy to a comprehensive exploration of scriptural interpretations. 2. Challenging Authority and Misinterpretation Rebecca's transition from missionary storytelling to theological discourse, as she courageously challenges flawed interpretations of scripture. Understand the significance of Rebecca's work in addressing gender disparities and offering fresh perspectives within theological discussions. 3. Addressing C...

2024-03-2538 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Self Esteem: A Biblical PerspectiveDefining Self-Esteem and Self-Image Julie poses the question: What constitutes healthy self-esteem, especially from a biblical standpoint? Leslie explores the concept of self-esteem in relation to self-image. Discussion on the formation of self-image through interactions and perceptions, particularly in childhood. Highlighting the role of parental influence and societal standards in shaping self-esteem. Understanding Humility and Self-Acceptance Expanding on the notion of humility as a component of healthy self-esteem. Drawing parallels between humility and accepting one's limitations. Leslie emphasizes the importance of embracing truth about oneself and avoiding unrealistic expectations. Discussing the difference between self-improvement and self-condemnation.

2024-03-1836 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Is Porn Adultery? The Danger of Pornography: It's not just a biblical issue; studies in psychology and science show the harmful effects of pornography. Pornography can lead to sexual dysfunction, making individuals less responsive to a normal sexual relationship with their partner. Internet addiction, including pornography, is causing societal problems, making people less connected and more self-absorbed. The Objectification and Harm of Women: Leslie points out the mistreatment, objectification, and even trafficking of women in the pornography industry. She quotes Jesus, who condemned those who harm children, linking this to the harm caused by pornography, especially when c...

2024-03-1127 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Confronting Depravity: Essential Steps for Abusers & the Abused Understanding Abuse Dynamics: Andrew and Leslie delve into the multifaceted nature of abuse, encompassing emotional, psychological, and spiritual manipulation. They highlight the insidious tactics employed by abusers to exert control and maintain power over their victims, emphasizing the importance of recognizing red flags and setting boundaries. Breaking the Silence: Both hosts underscore the significance of breaking the silence surrounding abuse and fostering environments of safety and support for survivors to share their experiences. They encourage listeners to validate and honor their own narratives, while also extending empathy and understanding to those who may struggle to disclose...

2024-03-0451 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Rebuilding Trust and Becoming TrustworthyIn this poignant and candid episode of "Relationship Truth, Unfiltered," Leslie's guest, Mark Savage bares his soul as he shares his extraordinary journey from the depths of a devastating affair to the triumphant rebuilding of trust with his spouse, Jill. Mark takes us through the challenges of personal growth, honest conflict resolution, and celebrating individual strengths within their marriage. This episode serves as a powerful testament to Mark's inspiring story of redemption and resilience, offering a beacon of hope for those looking to break free from destructive relationship patterns and embark on the path to a brighter, trust-filled...

2024-02-0553 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Traci’s Transformed Life: Her Escape From a Destructive MarriageIn this podcast episode, Julie Sedenko talks to Traci, a member of Leslie Vernick's Conquer support group, about her experiences in a destructive marriage and her journey towards healing and self-discovery. Traci opens up about her traumatic childhood, raised by a single mother who struggled with addiction and neglect. She shares how her early life experiences, including abuse and gaslighting from her mother, influenced her perceptions of relationships. Traci talks about her first marriage, which ended amicably, and how she entered her second marriage with hope and optimism. She discusses the red flags she overlooked in her second...

2024-01-2933 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Help! I'm Married to a Sex AddictWelcome to this episode where we tackle the tough topic of sexual addiction. Julie Sedenko chats with relationship expert Leslie Vernick, and they dig deep into the emotions and challenges involved. If you or someone you know is dealing with a similar situation, stay tuned for some valuable insights and practical tips. Understanding Anger: Julie discusses the challenges faced by individuals dealing with a spouse's sexual addiction. Leslie emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and addressing anger as a valid emotion in this situation. Part 1: Dealing with Anger Leslie shares insights on how individuals can...

2024-01-2243 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Healing After Infidelity: Dee’s Journey Discovering the Betrayal Dee's life as a pastor's wife and the shock of discovering her husband's affair. The initial emotions of hurt, anger, and confusion. The difficulty of facing infidelity within the confines of the church community. Seeking Support and Clarity Dee's decision to reach out to her pastor for guidance and support. The disappointment of the pastor's response and the need to find alternative help. Her discovery of the Conquer program and how it provided clarity in a confusing situation. Taking Control of Her Life Dee's realization that she had the p...

2024-01-0848 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Christmas Memories and the Gift of PresenceMerry Christmas to our podcast listeners! In this episode Leslie and Julie share some Christmas memories and some practical advice, especially for those who find this to be a difficult holiday. The Gift of Presence: Leslie emphasizes the importance of preparation and the opportunity to create a more positive Christmas experience. She recommends starting the day with gratitude and setting intentions for how you want to feel. Leslie explains the significance of recognizing that God is in you and with you. She also explains how to use breath as a tool to calm...

2023-12-2520 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Breaking Down Purity Culture: Impact, Myths, and Empowered LivingToday's episode is a deep dive into the concept of purity culture. Many women have expressed feeling damaged by the pressure to remain pure or to marry someone with whom they had sex before marriage. Leslie and Julie discuss what purity culture is and its impact on individuals. Defining Purity Culture: Purity culture is rooted in the belief that sex outside of marriage is wrong, based on biblical teachings. It emphasizes the importance of keeping oneself sexually pure until marriage and the sanctity of the marital relationship. God designed marriage to be a...

2023-12-1829 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered What Is Your Anger Telling You? Understand and Manage Your Strong Emotions Title: Empowered Podcast Episode 2 - Managing Anger and Guarding Your Heart During Difficult Times Introduction Welcome back to the Empowered Podcast. In this episode, we delve into the topics of managing anger and guarding your heart during challenging moments. Leslie and Elise share valuable insights and practical advice. Handling Anger in Parenting Leslie shares a personal story of her teenage son challenging her. Emphasizes not letting emotions hijack your values as a parent. Discusses the impact of emotions on self-esteem and personal story. Releasing Anger in a Healthy Way Elise provides tips...

2023-12-1146 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Unlocking Personal Growth: Overcoming Challenges and Embracing Change Recognizing the Signs of Abuse Carrie reflects on her experience of being in abusive relationships, particularly with her third husband, who exhibited gaslighting and narcissistic behaviors. She discusses the covert nature of her second husband's abuse and how he could present himself as kind and harmless to others. Seeking Safety and Coping Mechanisms Carrie opens up about her motivation to stay in her second marriage despite recognizing the abuse. She attributes this decision to her desire to provide financial stability for her son. She discusses how her husband would use extravagant gestures to...

2023-12-0458 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Empowering Women: How to Recognize and Overcome Financial Abuse in RelationshipsIn this episode, Leslie shares her expertise and guidance on recognizing, addressing, and overcoming financial abuse within intimate partnerships. Understanding Financial Abuse Financial abuse involves controlling or manipulating a partner's access to money and resources. Leslie highlights the importance of recognizing the signs of financial abuse, such as limiting access to funds, monitoring spending, or making unilateral financial decisions. The Impact of Financial Abuse Financial abuse has far-reaching consequences, affecting not only your finances but also your emotional and psychological well-being. Leslie emphasizes the need to acknowledge the seriousness of financial abuse and its...

2023-11-2737 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Don’t Be Afraid to Flourish Seeking Guidance and Empowerment Mentorship from a couple within her denomination. Realizing her right to financial independence. Support in confronting deception in her marriage. Involvement of church leadership in her marital issues. The Power of Supportive Community Joining a Bible study and a revealing conversation about divorce. Articulating the decision to leave her abusive marriage. Difficulty in deciding to leave due to various abuses endured. Recognizing the abuse with the help of a friend. A New Beginning Pursuit of educational growth, including a bachelor's and master's degree. Commitment to a slow and steady approach...

2023-11-1350 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Married to a Mostly Great Man Segment 1: Identifying Abusive Behavior Leslie and Julie discuss the challenge of identifying abusive behavior in relationships, even when it occurs infrequently. They emphasize the common tendency to believe the best about people while acknowledging that everyone has flaws and dark sides. Segment 2: Evaluating Responses The importance of evaluating the husband's response when he acts abusively. Unhealthy responses, such as blame shifting and deflection, are signs of an unhealthy, controlling person. Leslie contrasts these unhealthy responses with healthy ones, emphasizing that healthy individuals take responsibility for their actions. Segment 3: Biblical Examples Biblical examples, specifically David...

2023-11-0623 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered She Deserves Better: Raising Healthy DaughtersLeslie's special guest on this episode is Sheila Gregoire, author of "She Deserves Better" and "The Great Sex Rescue." Together Sheila and Leslie delve into debunking harmful stereotypes and fostering meaningful connections with your daughters. Segment 1: Harmful Beliefs About Girls and Their Consequences: Sheila discusses (and debunks) the damaging belief that girls talk excessively and its adverse effects on their lives. Explore the potential consequences of buying into this stereotype, including the risk of marrying an abuser. Segment 2: Nurturing Healthy Communication with Daughters: Sheila underscores the significance of parents actively listening to their daughters...

2023-10-0246 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Is Your Relationship Abusive?No Relationship is perfect. But when does "not perfect" cross the line into abuse? That's the question Leslie answers in today's episode. 1. Types of Relationships: Differentiate between difficult, disappointing, and destructive marriages. Difficulties can bring couples closer if handled maturely. There are many external stressors in marriages. 2. Disappointing Marriages: Discuss common expectations that lead to disappointment. Emphasize the importance of accepting imperfections in a spouse. 3. Recognizing Destructive Relationships: Define abusive and destructive relationships. What the Bible teaches about love, harm, and taking responsibility. If an abusive incident happens, it is very important t...

2023-09-2530 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Unhumanable Love: A Journey of Redemption and Restoration in Marriage”Leslie interviews Jill Savage, host of the No More Perfect Podcast, a creator of online courses, and the author of 14 books, including "No More Perfect Moms" and "No More Perfect Marriages." The episode dives deep into Jill's personal journey of resilience, redemption, and unconditional love in the face of a significant marital detour. The Marital Detour and Learning to Love Unconditionally: Jill's husband, Mark, resigned from pastoral ministry after 20 years, a decision that initiated their challenging journey. The difficulties they faced during a church plant took a toll on both of them. Mark's personal struggles with s...

2023-09-1150 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered ”Ask Leslie” Part 2: Speaking Up in a Destructive RelationshipIn this episode, Leslie & Julie discuss the following listener questions/topics: How does staying calm help others see their own behavior more clearly? What distinguishes appropriate reactions from inappropriate ones? How should one handle a spouse who insists on arguing in front of children? What advice can you provide for overcoming the fear of speaking up and handling criticism? How can one respond to a spouse who uses profanity and initiates fights? What strategies can be employed to address criticism and communication shutdowns? How do you balance assertiveness with expressing love in a relationship? How does personal healing...

2023-09-0537 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered ”Ask Leslie” Speaking Up in a Destructive MarriageIn this episode, Julie Sedenko & Leslie Vernick discuss the importance and the challenges of speaking up in relationships, particularly in difficult or destructive marriages. The Challenge of Speaking Up: In destructive marriages, speaking up can be scary and unsafe. Balancing the need to speak up for oneself with the potential negative responses. Referencing Matthew 7, where Jesus warns about casting pearls before swine. The Value of Learning to Speak Up: Emphasizing the importance of speaking up for oneself in mature relationships. The need for effective communication to build healthier relationships. Acknowledging that speaking up doesn't...

2023-08-2834 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Breaking Free: A Journey from Destructive Marriage to Hopeful HealingIn this episode of "Relationship Truth Unfiltered," join host Julie Sedenko in a powerful conversation with Kim, a courageous woman who shares her story of transformation from a brutally destructive marriage marred by serial infidelity and emotional abuse. Kim's journey of discovering the truth, finding her self-worth, and rebuilding her life offers hope and inspiration to women facing similar challenges. From the struggles of uncovering deception to the healing process of breaking free and eventually finding love and acceptance, Kim's story reminds us of the importance of recognizing our own value, seeking support, and embracing the potential...

2023-08-2136 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Gymnast & Dr. Nassar Abuse Survivor Addresses Sexual Abuse in ChurchesEmpowering Survivors and Shining Light: Addressing Abuse in Churches Introduction: Guest: Rachel Denhollander - attorney, author, advocate, educator. Role in exposing sexual abuse, notably Dr. Larry Nassar's abuse in USA Gymnastics. Highlighting the importance of discussing abuse in religious contexts. Rachel's Background: Pursuit of justice against Dr. Larry Nassar. Over 300 survivors, including Olympic medalists, came forward. Book "What's a Girl Worth?" recounts her journey and exposes the truth. Collaboration on "churchcares.com" for educating church leaders on abuse and trauma. Importance of Speaking Up: Debunking the misconception about survivors' reluctance to speak...

2023-08-1439 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered From Abuse to Empowerment: Ayana’s Faith JourneyDisclaimer: The content shared in this episode contains sensitive and potentially triggering topics related to domestic abuse and miscarriage. Listener discretion is advised. 1: The Beginning of the Destructive Marriage Ayana and her current husband met after both having experienced previous failed marriages. They initially appeared to be a perfect match with similar spiritual values, but things changed drastically after they got married. Ayana's husband started exhibiting controlling and verbally abusive behavior, and she couldn't understand where it was coming from. Friends and family were concerned about Ayana and tried to check on her, but they were...

2023-07-3145 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Necessary Changes for Changed BehaviorsIn this episode of Relationship Truth Unfiltered, Leslie provides valuable insights and guidance for Christian women who find themselves in destructive marriages. Drawing upon her expertise as a counselor and Christian author, Leslie discusses the importance of recognizing destructive patterns, setting healthy boundaries, and seeking personal growth and healing. With a focus on faith and wisdom, she offers practical advice on emotional regulation, rebuilding trust, and creating new patterns of behavior. Join Leslie Vernick and Julie Sedenko as they empower women to navigate their challenging relationships with grace, love, and self-care. Part 1: Recognizing Destructive Patterns ...

2023-07-1739 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Unmasking Control: A Courageous Journey Out of a Destructive MarriageCarrie is a brave woman who shares her story of being in a destructive marriage for 26 years and her journey towards healing and finding the strength to leave. Early Signs Carrie grew up in Canada but moved to California after marrying her American husband. Her husband exhibited controlling behavior from the beginning of their marriage. It's not as great as it sounds Carrie explains complementarianism, a belief system prevalent in the evangelical church during the '70s and '80s. Complementarianism emphasizes the equal yet distinct roles of men and women within a m...

2023-07-1038 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Special Invitation from Leslie! Listen this weekend! ”The High Price of Being Too Nice”Welcome to a special edition of Relationship Truth Unfiltered. In this episode, we have a very exciting invitation for all our podcast listeners. Leslie would like to invite you to join a transformative program called Moving Beyond People Pleasing. This program, starting this Monday, July 10th, is designed to help you learn to speak up for yourself and set healthy boundaries. Moving Beyond People Pleasing is a small group coaching program specifically tailored for Christian women. If you've ever felt like you've lost your voice due to betrayal, addiction, abuse, or any form of mistreatment, this program...

2023-07-0728 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered The Toxic War on Masculinity- Part 1Leslie welcomes guest, Nancy Pearcey, author of The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes, as well as Love Thy Body, The Soul of Science, Saving Leonardo, Finding Truth, and Total Truth. She is professor and scholar in residence at Houston Christian University. She has been quoted in The New Yorker and Newsweek, highlighted as one of the five top women apologists by Christianity Today, and hailed in The Economist as "America's preeminent evangelical Protestant female intellectual." Dispelling Misconceptions about Christian Men: Nancy shares the surprising claim from her book that evangelical Christian men...

2023-06-2634 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered The Power of DetachmentIn this episode, we dive into the topic of "Detachment" and explore how detaching can bring freedom and peace in destructive marriages. Understanding Detachment: Leslie defines detachment as the ability to show up as the person you want to be without expecting the other person to meet your expectations. Detachment doesn't mean disconnecting or not caring; it means letting go of the need to control or fix someone else's behavior. Detachment in Everyday Situations: Julie and Leslie explore how detachment can manifest in normal, everyday situations, such as preparing dinner for your spouse without expecting their appreciation. It's...

2023-06-1939 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered An Expert in Sexual Addiction Speaks to WivesIn this episode, we are joined by special guest, Jim Cress, an expert in the field of sexual addiction recovery and marriage restoration. Part 1: Understanding Destructive Marriages Leslie and Jim delve into the reality of destructive marriages, especially in the area of sexual addiction, and its impact on individuals and relationships. Jim's shares his personal story and how he came to recovery. Part 2: The Power of Boundaries Jim Cress shares his wisdom on establishing healthy boundaries with a husband who is dealing with sexual addiction. Jim and Leslie discuss how boundaries can serve as...

2023-06-1242 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Surviving Emotional Abuse & Addiction: Katarina’s Journey to FreedomIn this powerful episode, join our host, Julie, as she engages in a heartfelt conversation with Katarina, a brave survivor who shares her personal journey of breaking free from an abusive marriage. Together, they explore the challenges Katarina faced, the transformative moments that led her to question her circumstances, and the profound impact of finding hope and healing in the midst of adversity. Episode Highlights: The Horrendous Years: Katarina opens up about her 30-year marriage, revealing that 15 of those years were filled with emotional and psychological abuse. She describes the impact of being in denial...

2023-06-0538 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Addressing Domestic Violence in the Church Title: Relationship Truth Unfiltered: Addressing Domestic Violence in the Church Description: In this episode of Relationship Truth Unfiltered, host Leslie Vernick engages in a thought-provoking conversation with Pastor Dan, discussing the often overlooked issue of domestic violence within Christian marriages and the church. Together, they explore the challenges faced by pastors and church leaders in recognizing and addressing abuse, as well as the importance of equipping oneself with the necessary knowledge and tools to provide appropriate support. They emphasize the significance of understanding the power and control dynamics in abusive relationships, the need for...

2023-05-2247 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered A Story of Staying WellJoin us on this compelling episode as we dive into Connie's courageous journey of overcoming marriage struggles, finding healing, and experiencing personal growth. Through her candid and heartfelt story, Connie shares the challenges she faced in her marriage, including infidelity, unmet needs, and emotional disconnection. She opens up about her journey of self-discovery and the transformative impact of resources like the Conquer series and Leslie Vernick's teachings. Episode Highlights: Connie's upbringing and how it influenced her views on love and marriage. The breakdown of trust and emotional disconnection in her relationship. The impact of infidelity and...

2023-05-1550 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Biblical Reasons to SeparatePart 1: Understanding Destructive Marriages In this episode, Leslie defines what a destructive marriage is and explains the difference between a difficult marriage and a destructive one. Part 2: Why It's Not Your Fault Leslie discusses the common misconception that women in destructive marriages are responsible for the behavior of their spouses. She offers insight into how to overcome feelings of guilt and shame and empowers women to take steps toward healing and wholeness. Part 3: Confronting the Truth This is where Leslie talks about the importance of confronting the truth about yo...

2023-05-0845 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered The Pastor of Murder Victim, Stacy Peterson, Has a Message for Women & Churches In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered, we have a special guest, Neil Schori, a pastor who has dedicated his life to helping victims of abuse find safety and healing in the church. Pastor Neil Schori shares his personal experience counseling Stacy Peterson. Stacy missing shortly after telling Pastor Neil that her husband had confessed to her that he killed his former wife, Kathleen Savio. Stacy has never been found. Pastor Neil shares how that tragedy led him to a deeper understanding of the prevalence of abuse in the church. Pastor Neil discusses the challenges of identifying an...

2023-05-0152 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Ask Leslie!In this episode Leslie answers these listener questions: So how do you deal with your husband when you remove yourself either to a different room or a walk in the woods or even leaving the house and he tells your that you are just running from your problems. My husband had been verbally and sexually abusing me for years. I told him I want a separation a month and a half ago l. He finally moved to another room a month ago and started going to therapy, church, acting nicer and helping around the house. I see he i...

2023-04-1745 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Leslie and Lysa TerKeurst Talk BoundariesIn this episode Leslie talks with best selling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, Lysa TerKeurst. Lysa’s latest book, “Good Boundaries and Goodbyes,” helps readers stop the dysfunction of unhealthy relationships by showing them proven ways to set boundaries—and, when necessary, how to say goodbye—without losing the best of who they are. Prepare to hear some very practical advice when it comes to boundaries, especially in the area of destructive relationships. Subscribe Apple * Google * Spotify * Amazon * iHeart Takeaways There IS a problem when, in order to cover up t...

2023-04-101h 04

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Ten Dangerous BeliefsEveryone has an ingrained belief system…a sort of hard-wiring that we don’t even think about. Today Leslie is going to talk about ten of the most common - and dangerous beliefs. Dangerous because believing them could seriously damage your life. Life Should Be Fair Hard is bad I should be able to have my cake and eat it too. It’s all my fault It’s never my fault I can control the outcome If I wait, the problem will go away My choices only affect me I can’t do it I don’t need God For m...

2023-02-0655 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered A Pastor’s Advice for Dealing with Destructive RelationshipsIn this episode Pastor Brad Hambrick and Leslie will tackle some tough topics: Why do you think the church is making the same mistakes over and over again? Why is it so hard to believe the victim? “Innocent until proven guilty” is cultural, but, when applied to a person telling their story we too often look at it as “liar until proven truthful.” Is it wrong to let the legal system, CPS and other authorities, into matters involving church families? Is the institution of marriage more important than the individuals in the marriage?

2023-01-2345 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Dealing with the Trauma of Betrayal What is betrayal trauma? There can be financial, emotional, betrayal, sexual, etc. When betrayal happens the picture you had of your spouse is shattered and so is the picture you had of yourself. It can be a struggle to even trust yourself again … because you trusted this person who once betrayed you. The priority, beyond any problem, is your self-care. When you’ve been betrayed, you must take care of yourself in order to deal with the problem. Coach Jen Cole experienced betrayal trauma in her own...

2023-01-1749 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered You Don’t Have To!You. Don't. Have. To. Most women are stuck in the lie that, "I have to..." I have to stay married, I have to go to church, I have to go to work...there is a resignation to a life that is choice-less. But that's not true. You don't have to do any of those things. With every choice we make there are consequences. But we DO have a choice. God created Adam and Eve with choice. They could choose to listen to Him and they could choose not to listen. But there were con...

2023-01-0932 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered What a Godly Woman Really Looks LikeDate: January 2, 2023 Name of podcast: What is a godly woman? Many Christians have a certain image of what a godly woman looks like, how she behaves, and what her priorities are (her husband being at the top of the list). In this episode Leslie takes a look at what the Bible really has to say about the virtues and priorities of a godly woman. A godly woman is God-centered, not self-centered or other-centered. Our love for God has to be first. Being a godly woman does not mean livi...

2023-01-0241 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Is Fear In Charge?In this episode of Relationship Truth: Unfiltered you’ll hear some of Leslie and Julie’s experiences with the emotion of fear and how it has, at times, been in the driver’s seat of their lives. Leslie will share how fear can be a good thing but also when it becomes detrimental to decision making and living the life God has called you to live. Notes from this episode: Fear can be a good thing. Our bodies warn us of danger and it’s good to heed the body’s warning. Fear can also be detri...

2022-12-051h 04

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Is It Abuse?In this episode Leslie interview Darby Strickland, a faculty member and counselor with Christian counseling & educational foundation as well as the author of, “Is It Abuse? A Biblical Guide to Identifying Abuse and Helping Victims.” 3:10 - What has been the hardest part of getting people to understand? Oppressors don’t often look like oppressors to the outside world. Their public face is often much different. They come from such a problem in their heart. Victims have a hard time believing their spouse’s heart is that commited to self vs. living for the Lord. They rationalize, wanting to believ...

2022-11-2141 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Parenting PrioritiesIn this episode Leslie shares seven fundamentals truths parents must teach their kids in order for them to be healthy and strong. Chapter #1 1:45 It’s important that kids know they are loved unconditionally. Children need to know they matter and they are important. This gives them a secure base from which to flourish and grow. This is also their first taste of the love of God. Admit and own when you make a mistake. This gives kids permission to not be a perfect kid, too. Chapter #2 4:00 They need to know...

2022-11-1539 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Fighting FairIn this episode of Relationship Truth, Unfiltered, Leslie discusses why conflict doesn’t have to be a negative part of relationships. She’ll address some of the hard parts of disagreements and how to fight fair. Chapter 1 (2:10): How do you keep conflict from escalating? Talk first about how you can talk about a topic and have both people feel safe. Talk about the way you deal with problems so that issue can be dealt with first. Chapter 2 (3:29) When do you stop talking about the past? It depends. If someone...

2022-10-3138 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Dealing Biblically with Domestic ViolenceDomestic Violence is rampant…even in the church. 1 in 4 Christian women report being in an emotionally destructive marriage. In this episode you’ll discover when behavior crosses the line, how the church should handle these situations, and what women can do to get safe. Leslie will share biblical support for all of this crucial advice. Chapter #1 :43 A definition of domestic violence. Domestic violence is about controlling another. The Bible’s word for this is “oppression.” A person can hold “power over” someone physically, emotionally, financially, and even spiritually. Chapter #2 3:08 Can...

2022-10-1744 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered How Do I Know If This Relationship Is Dead?This is a special audio version of a workshop Leslie conducted where she answers the questions, "How Long Do I Keep Trying?" and "How Do I Know if This Relationship is Dead?" CLICK HERE for a free handout to take notes as you listen: leslievernick.com/webinarhandout You'll also get a roadmap to rebuilding broken safety and trust. Conquer doors are open for new members...but just for a short time. If you'd like to join Conquer, go to www.leslievernick.com/jointoday.

2022-10-0359 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered A Story of Faith, Loss, and LearningIn this episode Leslie introduces you to a powerful member of her coaching team. Elise Berryhill shares, vulnerably, about her experience with grief and dealing with a family member entrenched in addiction.

2022-09-2629 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Healing From Emotional AbuseIn this episode Leslie shares stories you haven’t heard before about her personal experience with emotional abuse and the impact it had on her, even into adulthood. Hear how Leslie dealt with her destructive mother, even into adulthood. And, learn how she found healing and the real, practical steps you can implement in your own healing journey. Healing from Emotional Abuse: Three Practical Steps “I’m lost. Where am I?” Re-educate yourself on what is healthy. Learn to identify your emotions so you can address them. “What is my problem with their problem?” Identify and t...

2022-09-1946 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Dealing with Sexual BetrayalHave you been impacted by sexual betrayal? Take the FREE QUIZ HERE: www.braveone.com/freequiz Dr. Sherri Keffer knows - personally - the devastation of sexual betrayal. In this episode Sherri tells her story and shares how denial and depression kept her from dealing with the truth of what was happening in her marriage. Learn the TWO PILLARS every sexually betrayed partner needs. Hear what you should do - and what you shouldn't do - when dealing with the sin of sexual betrayal. Find out what you CAN DO...

2022-08-1552 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Three More Lies Christian Women BelieveIn this episode we discover three more lies that Christian women often believe...lies that keep them stuck, afraid, and silent. 1. It's your fault your husband acts the way he does. 2. God hates all divorce. 3. If I try harder, he'll change. To register for Leslie's live, free webinar, go to www.leslievernick.com/joinwebinar

2022-08-0830 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered My Husband Doesn’t CareIn this episode Leslie deals with the topic of indifference. When does it cross the line and become an abusive apathy?

2022-08-0124 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered When a Good Christian Girl’s Marriage Goes Bad Part 2In part 2 of Leslie’s interview with author Gretchen Baskerville you’ll hear more about what God has to say about marriage and divorce. They will tackle questions like, ”Is divorce always harmful to kids?” ”Is staying for the kids always the right thing to do?” And, ”Is divorce only permitted when they’re sexual infidelity?” And finally, ”How do you respond if you’re being judged or attacked for leaving a destructive marriage?” Question 1 [1:10] Is Marriage a Permanent Covenant No Matter What? Question 2 [3:50 ] What about the verse, “God hates divorce?” Question 3 [11:0...

2022-07-1836 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered How to Stay Sane in a Destructive MarriageLeslie's advice when it comes to a destructive marriage is to "stay well" or "leave well." In today's episode she talks about staying well. When leaving isn't an option how do you maintain your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being? Chapter #1 3:49 Take care of you. There are a couple essentials that you must do if you want to be a healthy person even if you're in a good situation but especially if you're in a bad situation. First of all you must prioritize your sleep. If you want to keep your sanity you must give your bo...

2022-07-0459 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Jesus and Gender RolesIn this episode Leslie Vernick talks to Elyse Fitzpatrick & Eric Schumacher, authors of, "Jesus and Gender: Living as Sisters and Brothers in Christ." You'll hear them talk about the church's traditional teaching of women being subservient to their husbands ... is that biblical? And, should a woman give up her identity in order to serve the marriage? (And does that actually serve the marriage?)

2022-06-2043 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered What Does a Healthy Relationship Look Like?In this episode Leslie reveals the three must-have ingredients in any healthy relationship. And, she reveals when the line is crossed and a relationship becomes destructive.

2022-06-1333 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Three Lies that Keep Victims of Abuse SilentIn this episode Leslie breaks down three popular teachings of the church that keep victims of abuse silent: 1. God calls us to forgive and forget 2. Die to yourself. Don't worry about your own happiness 3. Suffer, Sacrifice, and Submit - You can win your husband through your submission

2022-06-0630 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered Men Who AbuseLeslie Interviews Reverend Chris Moles, author of, "The Heart of Domestic Abuse: Gospel Solutions for Men Who Use Control and Violence in the Home."

2022-06-0653 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered The Importance of this PodcastIn this episode, Leslie explains why she's so passionate about helping people with destructive relationships and how her ministry impacted Julie's life.

2022-06-0619 min

Relationship Truth: Unfiltered RelationshipTruth: Unfiltered TrailerFind out what you can expect from Leslie Vernick's brand new podcast

2022-06-0403 min