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The Shadow DiariesTwo Neuro-Spicy Women - Two Completely Different Journey'sSend a textIn this episode, Steph and Lurinda share their personal ADHD journeys, and they don’t fit into neat, inspirational narratives.One experience of medication increased productivity but felt like it muted joy and personality.The other created rare calm, spaciousness, and the ability to actually choose instead of react.We talk openly about ADHD in women, masking, late diagnosis, misdiagnosis, and the stigma that still surrounds medication. This isn’t about being pro or anti. It’s about honesty. Medication can be an assist, not an identity. A tool, not a...
2026-03-0953 minThe Shadow DiariesSo...we went MIA for a hot minute and here's whySend a textEver felt deeply grateful for your family and completely overwhelmed by the invisible load at the same time?In this episode, we come back after a month off the podcast and tell the truth about what was really going on. We talk about default parenting, running flexible businesses, emotional labour, and the quiet resentment that builds when you’re the responsible one holding it all together.Instead of pretending everything is fine, we unpack what capacity actually looks like in real life. We explore nervous system regulation as something seasonal, no...
2026-02-2455 minThe Shadow DiariesYear-End Shadow Work:Our Goodbye to 2025Send a textWhat if growth isn’t about fixing yourself, but about finally letting yourself be seen—mess and all? We close out a turbulent year with a grounded reflection on health, impact, authenticity, and the quiet power of permission. Along the way, we unpack how “healthy” moved beyond routines to include grief capacity, relational repair, and self-compassion; how “impact” masked a drive to prove worth; and how our golden shadows, like hard work and resilience, can tip into self-sabotage when we make life harder just to feel deserving.You’ll hear the story of a “shame sh...
2026-01-271h 05The Shadow DiariesHow To Make/Break Your Shitty Habits And Take Control Of Your Life With Tayla BubeckSend a textChange gets easier when it stops being punishment and starts being honest. We sit down with business coach Tayla Bubeck to unpack why willpower fails, how shadow work reveals the hidden needs behind our habits, and the values first approach that turns intentions into evidence. From weight loss that lasts to building a business you actually want to run, we move past shame and into a practical, humane framework.Tayla walks us through a be do have pyramid that begins with values and identity, then adds beliefs and stories, the right skills...
2026-01-051h 10The Shadow DiariesHow To Manage Grief In The HolidaysSend a textThe lights go up, the invites roll in, and suddenly the quiet aches feel louder. We sit down for an honest, compassionate look at grief during the holidays—how it shows up after death, through estrangement, in separations that split Christmas morning, and in the futures we planned but never lived. No scripts, no tidy stages, just two humans telling the truth about love, loss, and the courage it takes to set boundaries when the world says “be merry.”We share fresh, raw experiences from the past year: saying goodbye to a 16 year c...
2025-12-211h 06The Shadow DiariesWhy You Feel Like You're Drowning Every December (And It's Not About Christmas)Send a textThis week we're getting real about why December makes us want to curl up in a ball and disappear - and spoiler alert, it's not actually about having too much to do.We dive into the uncomfortable truth: most of our holiday overwhelm is self created. Not because you're doing it wrong, but because of unconscious patterns and shadows that have you believing you need to be everyone's Christmas hero while sacrificing your own sanity.In this raw conversation about holiday overwhelm and shadow work, we explore:Why you're...
2025-12-081h 03The Shadow DiariesHow Being 'Too Busy' Is Actually Your Biggest Block to Getting What You Want - With Cinda BrandhamSend a textEver feel like you're constantly exhausted but somehow never getting ahead? This week, Cinder shares how she went from killing herself in corporate (literally first in, last out every day) to working 15 hours a week - and somehow doing better than ever.We get into the real shit about why we stay so fucking busy all the time. Spoiler: it's not because we need to be. Through shadow work, Cinder discovered that her need to be the hardest worker in the room was actually about proving she was enough - and it...
2025-11-231h 05The Shadow DiariesWe Nearly Broke Up - Friendship EditionSend a textWe unpack the near breakup that almost ended our friendship and how we found our way back. From anxious and avoidant attachment styles to business comparison, unmet needs, and emotional repair, this conversation explores the messy, human side of female friendship.We talk about: • spotting the slow cracks and micro-moments of disconnection • anxious vs. avoidant attachment in friendships • over-responsibility, boundaries, and honest communication • comparison in business and diverging life paths • repairing ruptures while emotional (without bypassing) • long-distance friendship structures that actually work • asking for what you need in clear, gr...
2025-11-1153 minThe Shadow DiariesBoundaries, Business, and Being Seen With Guest Steph DicksonSend a textLurinda sits down with her sister-in-law Steph to trace a raw path from over-giving and anxiety to boundaries, receiving, and award-winning service.Steph shares how hypnotherapy, somatic work, and shadow work reshaped her life and business—and why she believes personal and professional growth are the same path.In this episode: • Moving from Australia to Canada and learning to receive love • High standards, expectations, and the cost of poor boundaries • Codependency awareness and the power of validation • Regulating anxiety th...
2025-10-261h 14The Shadow DiariesYour Obsession with Shortcuts Is Sabotaging You: Why Real Change Takes TimeSend a textWhat if the fastest way to real change is the slow and steady path no one celebrates?In this episode, we explore why shortcuts feel so seductive, how they quietly sabotage long term growth, and what it really takes to build systems that last. From 28 day challenges and “million in a year” promises to quick fixes in relationships, we talk about the difference between information and integration and why your nervous system needs steadiness more than sprints.You’ll learn how neural pathways shape habits, why old patterns resurf...
2025-10-1356 minThe Shadow DiariesWhat if “no abuse” still isn’t safe? With Guest Coach CaitlinSend a textIn this episode of The Shadow Diaries, shadow work coaches Lurinda sits down with Caitlin—mum, counsellor, and mentor—to explore the quiet kind of relationship misalignment that looks fine from the outside but leaves the body shutting down.Caitlin shares her story of months of throat tension, sudden weight changes, and constant messages to “be grateful, he’s a good dad.” When she finally said, “I can’t do this anymore,” her body exhaled for the first time in years.Together we unpack what emotiona...
2025-10-031h 01The Shadow DiariesIntroducing: The Shadow DiariesSend a textWelcome to The Shadow Diaries—a podcast by shadow work coaches Lurinda and Steph, where real women share real stories about healing, self-discovery, and emotional growth.After a year as Unhinged and Unfiltered, we’ve evolved into something deeper and more intentional. This new chapter is about demystifying shadow work and bringing compassion to the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to hide.Each episode explores the everyday moments that shape transformation—pausing before reacting, recognizing a trigger, or showing yourself kindness when it feels impossib...
2025-09-1521 minThe Shadow Diaries#57 - Why "I Just Need To Get Through This" Is A Recipe For Burn OutSend a textThe dangerous game of constantly pushing through emotions eventually backfires - just like a pressure cooker that can't contain its contents forever. In this raw conversation, Steph and Lurinda explore why our "I'll deal with it later" mentality creates a ticking time bomb of suppressed emotions that inevitably explodes on those around us.We introduce the powerful concept of "glass and rubber balls" - a practical framework for determining what responsibilities are essential (glass) versus what can temporarily bounce when your capacity is reduced. This approach gives you permission to drop certain...
2025-09-0129 minThe Shadow Diaries#56 - Choosing A Different Path with Guest Jess GilpinSend a textReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.
2025-08-1546 minThe Shadow Diaries#55 - Unlearning The Need To Give To ReceiveSend a textEver caught yourself creating chaos when everything's going smoothly? Or felt like you need to give, give, give until there's nothing left just to be worthy? You're not alone.After a year of consistent weekly episodes, we've made the decision to shift to a fortnightly schedule. This choice wasn't made lightly—it emerged from deep reflection on our patterns of overgiving, people-pleasing, and the sometimes uncomfortable feeling of stability.Both of us have recognized familiar shadows: the belief that our worth comes from constant production, the discomfort that arises when li...
2025-07-2936 minThe Shadow Diaries#54 - You're Not Broken, You're Human: Why Personal Development Never EndsSend a textThat moment when you're years into your healing journey and suddenly realize you're still a hot mess? We've all been there, and it's actually a sign you're doing the work right.In this raw conversation, we dive into the uncomfortable truth about personal development—it's not a linear path to becoming "fixed" but rather a lifelong journey of acknowledging, accepting, and integrating our shadows. We explore how the deeper you go, the more sophisticated your defensive mechanisms become, and how the spiritual ego loves to whisper that you should be "beyond" certain st...
2025-07-2135 minThe Shadow Diaries#53 - Lurinda's Mid Year ReflectionSend a textWhen was the last time you questioned what success really looks like? In this raw, vulnerable mid-year check-in, Lurinda reveals how her carefully mapped business plans took an unexpected detour after her daughter's serious car accident thrust her into survival mode for months.The perfectionist who started 2023 with rigid financial goals found herself humbled by life's chaos, discovering that her true values weren't aligned with the success metrics she'd been chasing. "I needed to have those goals to really see that finances don't equal success," she confesses, describing a pivotal moment at...
2025-07-1535 minThe Shadow Diaries#52 - What IS Shadow Work And How Can In Actually Help You?Send a textWhat happens when we shine light on the parts of ourselves we've been taught to hide? Shadow work invites us to reconnect with our whole selves, beyond the conditioning that has labeled certain traits as "good" or "bad."In this milestone 52nd episode (marking our one-year podcast anniversary!), we explore the profound world of shadow work—what it is, how it transforms lives, and what actually happens in a session. Far from the ominous social media portrayal of "doing the dark work," shadow work is simply about meeting parts of yourself that co...
2025-07-071h 20The Shadow Diaries#51 - Midyear Recalibration: Steph's Honest JourneySend a textThe turning point came when Steph's dog died because she was rushing. Then an ectopic pregnancy requiring surgery showed how disconnected she'd become from her own body. These wake-up calls forced a hard look at the hustle mentality she'd embraced for 35 years."I don't want to live like this anymore," Steph reveals in this vulnerable mid-year reflection. Halfway through 2025, she's discovering what happens when you create space instead of filling every minute. The transformation hasn't made her life any less full—with three kids, a husband working long hours, and her own bu...
2025-07-0626 minThe Shadow Diaries#50 - Nervous System Regulation vs. Processing: Finding the BalanceSend a textThe nervous system revolution has swept through wellness spaces, with "regulation" becoming the ultimate goal. But have we swung too far in one direction? In this thought-provoking episode, we pull back the curtain on what happens when regulation becomes avoidance.Emotional regulation has its place - returning to your window of tolerance is crucial for functioning. But when regulation becomes your only tool, you might be missing the crucial healing that comes from actually processing your emotions. That sock on the floor that sends you into rage? Constantly regulating without processing means...
2025-06-2347 minThe Shadow Diaries#49 Wait? Body Confidence? Yes, Body Confidence With JemmaSend a textReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.
2025-06-1652 minThe Shadow Diaries#48 - From Glass Slippers to Broken Hearts: How Disney Shaped Our Love LivesSend a textRemember all those Disney movies you loved as a kid? Turns out they've been secretly messing with your relationships ever since. From Cinderella teaching us to be martyrs who do everything for everyone, to Ariel literally trading her voice just to chase a man she'd never spoken to, these fairy tales have programmed us with some seriously questionable relationship beliefs.We dive deep into how these childhood stories created unrealistic expectations about love. The Beast taught us that we should rehabilitate emotionally unavailable men with our kindness. Snow White showed us that...
2025-06-0959 minThe Shadow Diaries#47 - Unmasking Our Projections: Why We Push Our Feelings Onto OthersSend a text"Whose baggage is it anyway?" That's the question at the heart of today's deep dive into projections—those moments when we unconsciously push our feelings, fears, and past wounds onto others.We explore the fascinating psychology behind why we project our emotions onto those around us and how these projections shape our daily interactions, particularly with our children and partners. Through vulnerable personal stories (including Lorinda's anxiety during her son's math competition that was entirely her own projection), we unpack how our unresolved issues can create unnecessary tension in relationships and even pa...
2025-06-0243 minThe Shadow Diaries#46 - What ACTUALLY Happens On A Retreat? - Lurinda's Surrender RetreatSend a textIn this episode Lurinda shares all about her "Surrender" retreat - we get an insight on the backend of what goes into this and how it is all painstakingly considered.For busy women juggling countless roles and responsibilities, the idea of surrender feels both terrifying and desperately needed. We're experts at taking care of everyone else while abandoning ourselves, creating an exhausting pattern of control, resentment, and disconnection. The Surrender Retreat offers a rare opportunity to step away from these patterns and discover what lies beneath.Lurinda vulnerably shares how...
2025-05-2756 minThe Shadow Diaries#45 - From Victim to Voice: Cat Dunn's Journey Through Domestic ViolenceSend a textCat Dunn shares her powerful journey as a domestic violence survivor and how she transformed her 20-year experience of abuse into advocacy for women's voices and stories.• Surviving domestic violence for 20 years, learning it was a behavior pattern from childhood• The challenge of rebuilding self-trust after trauma and how the body physically holds onto past experiences• Discovering hypermobility diagnosis after years of unexplained injuries, connecting physical pain to emotional trauma• Why leaving abusive relationships is so difficult – you're not just leaving a person but your entire identity• How to support s...
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