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The Shadow DiariesYour Obsession with Shortcuts Is Sabotaging You: Why Real Change Takes TimeSend us a textWhat if the fastest way to real change is the slow and steady path no one celebrates?In this episode, we explore why shortcuts feel so seductive, how they quietly sabotage long term growth, and what it really takes to build systems that last. From 28 day challenges and “million in a year” promises to quick fixes in relationships, we talk about the difference between information and integration and why your nervous system needs steadiness more than sprints.You’ll learn how neural pathways shape habits, why old patter...
2025-10-1356 minThe Shadow DiariesWhat if “no abuse” still isn’t safe? With Guest Coach CaitlinSend us a textIn this episode of The Shadow Diaries, shadow work coaches Lurinda sits down with Caitlin—mum, counsellor, and mentor—to explore the quiet kind of relationship misalignment that looks fine from the outside but leaves the body shutting down.Caitlin shares her story of months of throat tension, sudden weight changes, and constant messages to “be grateful, he’s a good dad.” When she finally said, “I can’t do this anymore,” her body exhaled for the first time in years.Together we unpack what e...
2025-10-031h 01The Shadow DiariesIntroducing: The Shadow DiariesSend us a textWelcome to The Shadow Diaries—a podcast by shadow work coaches Lurinda and Steph, where real women share real stories about healing, self-discovery, and emotional growth.After a year as Unhinged and Unfiltered, we’ve evolved into something deeper and more intentional. This new chapter is about demystifying shadow work and bringing compassion to the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to hide.Each episode explores the everyday moments that shape transformation—pausing before reacting, recognizing a trigger, or showing yourself kindness when it feels im...
2025-09-1521 minThe Shadow Diaries#57 - Why "I Just Need To Get Through This" Is A Recipe For Burn OutSend us a textThe dangerous game of constantly pushing through emotions eventually backfires - just like a pressure cooker that can't contain its contents forever. In this raw conversation, Steph and Lurinda explore why our "I'll deal with it later" mentality creates a ticking time bomb of suppressed emotions that inevitably explodes on those around us.We introduce the powerful concept of "glass and rubber balls" - a practical framework for determining what responsibilities are essential (glass) versus what can temporarily bounce when your capacity is reduced. This approach gives you permission to drop...
2025-09-0129 minThe Shadow Diaries#56 - Choosing A Different Path with Guest Jess GilpinSend us a textReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.
2025-08-1546 minThe Shadow Diaries#55 - Unlearning The Need To Give To ReceiveSend us a textEver caught yourself creating chaos when everything's going smoothly? Or felt like you need to give, give, give until there's nothing left just to be worthy? You're not alone.After a year of consistent weekly episodes, we've made the decision to shift to a fortnightly schedule. This choice wasn't made lightly—it emerged from deep reflection on our patterns of overgiving, people-pleasing, and the sometimes uncomfortable feeling of stability.Both of us have recognized familiar shadows: the belief that our worth comes from constant production, the discomfort that arises wh...
2025-07-2936 minThe Shadow Diaries#54 - You're Not Broken, You're Human: Why Personal Development Never EndsSend us a textThat moment when you're years into your healing journey and suddenly realize you're still a hot mess? We've all been there, and it's actually a sign you're doing the work right.In this raw conversation, we dive into the uncomfortable truth about personal development—it's not a linear path to becoming "fixed" but rather a lifelong journey of acknowledging, accepting, and integrating our shadows. We explore how the deeper you go, the more sophisticated your defensive mechanisms become, and how the spiritual ego loves to whisper that you should be "beyond" ce...
2025-07-2135 minThe Shadow Diaries#53 - Lurinda's Mid Year ReflectionSend us a textWhen was the last time you questioned what success really looks like? In this raw, vulnerable mid-year check-in, Lurinda reveals how her carefully mapped business plans took an unexpected detour after her daughter's serious car accident thrust her into survival mode for months.The perfectionist who started 2023 with rigid financial goals found herself humbled by life's chaos, discovering that her true values weren't aligned with the success metrics she'd been chasing. "I needed to have those goals to really see that finances don't equal success," she confesses, describing a pivotal moment...
2025-07-1535 minThe Shadow Diaries#52 - What IS Shadow Work And How Can In Actually Help You?Send us a textWhat happens when we shine light on the parts of ourselves we've been taught to hide? Shadow work invites us to reconnect with our whole selves, beyond the conditioning that has labeled certain traits as "good" or "bad."In this milestone 52nd episode (marking our one-year podcast anniversary!), we explore the profound world of shadow work—what it is, how it transforms lives, and what actually happens in a session. Far from the ominous social media portrayal of "doing the dark work," shadow work is simply about meeting parts of yourself th...
2025-07-071h 20The Shadow Diaries#51 - Midyear Recalibration: Steph's Honest JourneySend us a textThe turning point came when Steph's dog died because she was rushing. Then an ectopic pregnancy requiring surgery showed how disconnected she'd become from her own body. These wake-up calls forced a hard look at the hustle mentality she'd embraced for 35 years."I don't want to live like this anymore," Steph reveals in this vulnerable mid-year reflection. Halfway through 2025, she's discovering what happens when you create space instead of filling every minute. The transformation hasn't made her life any less full—with three kids, a husband working long hours, and her ow...
2025-07-0626 minThe Shadow Diaries#50 - Nervous System Regulation vs. Processing: Finding the BalanceSend us a textThe nervous system revolution has swept through wellness spaces, with "regulation" becoming the ultimate goal. But have we swung too far in one direction? In this thought-provoking episode, we pull back the curtain on what happens when regulation becomes avoidance.Emotional regulation has its place - returning to your window of tolerance is crucial for functioning. But when regulation becomes your only tool, you might be missing the crucial healing that comes from actually processing your emotions. That sock on the floor that sends you into rage? Constantly regulating without processing...
2025-06-2347 minThe Shadow Diaries#49 Wait? Body Confidence? Yes, Body Confidence With JemmaSend us a textReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.
2025-06-1652 minThe Shadow Diaries#48 - From Glass Slippers to Broken Hearts: How Disney Shaped Our Love LivesSend us a textRemember all those Disney movies you loved as a kid? Turns out they've been secretly messing with your relationships ever since. From Cinderella teaching us to be martyrs who do everything for everyone, to Ariel literally trading her voice just to chase a man she'd never spoken to, these fairy tales have programmed us with some seriously questionable relationship beliefs.We dive deep into how these childhood stories created unrealistic expectations about love. The Beast taught us that we should rehabilitate emotionally unavailable men with our kindness. Snow White showed us...
2025-06-0959 minThe Shadow Diaries#47 - Unmasking Our Projections: Why We Push Our Feelings Onto OthersSend us a text"Whose baggage is it anyway?" That's the question at the heart of today's deep dive into projections—those moments when we unconsciously push our feelings, fears, and past wounds onto others.We explore the fascinating psychology behind why we project our emotions onto those around us and how these projections shape our daily interactions, particularly with our children and partners. Through vulnerable personal stories (including Lorinda's anxiety during her son's math competition that was entirely her own projection), we unpack how our unresolved issues can create unnecessary tension in relationships and ev...
2025-06-0243 minThe Shadow Diaries#46 - What ACTUALLY Happens On A Retreat? - Lurinda's Surrender RetreatSend us a textIn this episode Lurinda shares all about her "Surrender" retreat - we get an insight on the backend of what goes into this and how it is all painstakingly considered.For busy women juggling countless roles and responsibilities, the idea of surrender feels both terrifying and desperately needed. We're experts at taking care of everyone else while abandoning ourselves, creating an exhausting pattern of control, resentment, and disconnection. The Surrender Retreat offers a rare opportunity to step away from these patterns and discover what lies beneath.Lurinda vulnerably shares...
2025-05-2756 minThe Shadow Diaries#45 - From Victim to Voice: Cat Dunn's Journey Through Domestic ViolenceSend us a textCat Dunn shares her powerful journey as a domestic violence survivor and how she transformed her 20-year experience of abuse into advocacy for women's voices and stories.• Surviving domestic violence for 20 years, learning it was a behavior pattern from childhood• The challenge of rebuilding self-trust after trauma and how the body physically holds onto past experiences• Discovering hypermobility diagnosis after years of unexplained injuries, connecting physical pain to emotional trauma• Why leaving abusive relationships is so difficult – you're not just leaving a person but your entire identity• How to suppo...
2025-05-2050 minThe Shadow Diaries#44 - Can AI REALLY Replace Therapy?Send us a textThe digital age has transformed nearly every aspect of our lives, but can artificial intelligence truly replicate the depth and nuance of human connection in therapeutic relationships? Steph and Lurinda tackle this provocative question head-on, exploring whether tools like ChatGPT could potentially replace human therapists and coaches. Drawing from their extensive experience working with clients, they unpack the fundamental differences between AI-generated responses and the irreplaceable value of genuine human connection.While acknowledging AI's impressive capabilities for providing information and initial guidance, the hosts identify critical limitations that prevent t...
2025-05-1238 minThe Shadow Diaries#43 - Slow Down to Feel More: How Body Connection Creates Better SexSend us a textWhat if the key to unlocking pleasure isn't something external, but simply learning to reconnect with your own body? This intimate conversation with embodiment therapist Jazz reveals how many women struggle with pleasure because they're fundamentally disconnected from their bodies, living in their heads rather than experiencing through physical sensation."We are taught to exist from a very masculine perspective," Jazz explains, highlighting how our society's emphasis on constant achievement and productivity has disconnected us from our natural feminine rhythms. This disconnection doesn't just affect sexual pleasure—it permeates every aspect of...
2025-05-0757 minThe Shadow Diaries#42 - Behind The Scenes Of Our BusinessesSend us a textEver wondered what really goes on behind the scenes of a transformation coach's life? After 42 episodes of helping you navigate life's chaos, we're pulling back the curtain on our personal journeys, businesses, and why we're so passionate about this work.Lurinda reveals how her own disconnection from self during a relationship breakdown became the catalyst for her coaching career. Now specializing in helping women reconnect with themselves first—before their roles as mothers and partners—she shares how shadow work and somatic practices have not only transformed her clients' lives but help...
2025-04-281h 10The Shadow Diaries#41 - You've Just Done A Process... Now What?Send us a textHave you ever done a breathwork session, shadow work, or healing process and found yourself wondering "now what?" You're not alone. The growing personal development industry has created a powerful narrative around emotional breakthroughs, but often leaves people hanging when it comes to what happens after the tissues are put away.In this raw conversation, we expose the missing link in transformation work – integration. Beyond the dramatic moments of release lies the real work of change. Your nervous system remains sensitive and open for days after deep process work, creating both vu...
2025-04-2132 minThe Shadow Diaries#40 - The Real Reason You Can't Stop Yelling At Your KidsSend us a textWe've all been there—that moment when your child ignores you for the fifth time and something inside you snaps. The volume rises, your body tenses, and later comes the guilt: "Why did I react that way?" In this raw, enlightening conversation, Lurinda interviews Steph about her journey from struggling with parental rage to becoming what Lurinda calls "the habit queen."Steph reveals how her experience of unexplained anger in early motherhood led her to discover powerful connections between our nervous systems and our children's behaviour. "When I cleaned up my sh...
2025-04-1457 minThe Shadow Diaries#39 - When The Coaches Get CoachedSend us a textRaw, unfiltered, and completely unrehearsed - welcome to an episode where we strip away the polish and dive straight into questions that made us squirm, reflect, and occasionally gasp.This conversation began with a simple premise: what happens when two coaches who regularly challenge clients face unexpected questions themselves? The result is a fascinating exploration of vulnerability that reveals as much about coaching as it does about us. From examining what traits we attract in clients that mirror our own growth edges to confronting which past versions still hold the most...
2025-04-0723 minThe Shadow Diaries#38 - Stop Doing This One Thing To Help You Hit Your GoalsSend us a textEver caught yourself promising "I'll start Monday" week after week? You're not alone. This raw conversation tackles the uncomfortable truth about why we set intentions that rarely translate into action.We unpack the fascinating psychology behind why your brain actually gets a dopamine hit just from declaring your intentions—especially when others affirm them—creating the illusion you've already accomplished something. This reveals why so many of us get stuck endlessly planning rather than doing. As Steph bluntly puts it: "Your brain does not care that you're trying to grow and thri...
2025-03-3142 minThe Shadow Diaries#37 - What Doesn't Kill You Leaves Your Nervous System CookedSend us a textWhat if everything you've been told about trauma making you stronger is actually allowing you to sink further into chaos? In this deeply personal conversation, we challenge the popular notion that suffering builds character and instead explore how trauma fundamentally rewires our nervous systems.Our bodies become calibrated to chaos and uncertainty after traumatic experiences. This calibration explains why so many of us find ourselves unconsciously drawn to chaotic situations, destructive relationships, or overwhelming busyness—our nervous systems are desperately seeking the familiar, even when it hurts. We share vulnerable stories ab...
2025-03-2448 minThe Shadow Diaries#36 - Relationships Get To Be Really Simple with Relationship Coach Paige LousieSend us a textEver wondered why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns despite knowing better? Relationship therapist Paige Louise joins Lurinda to unravel the invisible threads that connect our past wounds to our current partnerships.Paige shares her powerful journey from being trapped in generational cycles of toxic relationships to becoming the empowered woman who helps others break free. After becoming pregnant at 16 and enduring years in a relationship marked by infidelity, she discovered the transformative power of self-responsibility. Her revelation? The moment we stop blaming others and start owning our choices is...
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