Lydia Santos - Christian Wife Coach

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The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#118 - Could Your Sense of Entitlement Be Causing Discontentment in Your Marriage? Two Strategies to Overcome Entitlement Mentality as a Christian Wife“I try so hard to work on communicating better with my husband. I don’t understand why I still can’t manage to have a happy marriage.” “I deserve to have a good marriage, so why am I struggling with loving my husband? After all, isn’t this marriage a blessing from God?” “I’m tired of being the one making an effort. I’ve tried so hard to do what the Bible says, so why hasn’t God made my marriage easier?” “I just did all the laundry, pu...2023-05-0628 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#112 - Wish Your Husband Would Be the Spiritual Leader in Your Marriage? 3 Ways to be a Godly Wife When Your Husband Doesn’t LeadYour husband is not leading you spiritually, and you’re tired of always being the one to start family devotions and just wish he would take initiative. You feel like you have to force him to grow in his relationship with the Lord and lead your family. You’re trying to be a Godly wife and support him but you’re frustrated with his spiritual immaturity. How do you stay patient? How do you wait for him to lead? How do you obey God when your husband isn’t even trying...2023-03-2530 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#100 - From Near-Divorce, Separation, Shame, and Brokenness to This: My Redemption Story and My Full Circle Celebration!Are you feeling alone this New Year's Eve? Not filled with much hope for your marriage as you prepare for the new year? I've been there. In fact, 7 years ago today I sat all alone, uninvited, broken, and filled with shame, separated from my husband and unsure of the new year. Here are some questions that can help you reflect on this year, set goals for next year, and determine some action steps to take so that you can go where God's called you to in your marriage. This is a clip of the Live episode in t...2022-12-3126 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#99 - Advent Series: Have You Lost Hope in Your Marriage? Hold Onto Hope in the Middle of Your Broken Marriage with this Special Christmas MessageI remember what it felt like… reading through the divorce papers, first through tears, then with a burning sensation in my stomach when I saw the section explaining the holidays we’d split with the kids. How can I EVER spend a Christmas away from my boys? I literally didn’t think I could survive that. Weekends were hard enough. I’ve never spent time near the holidays feeling so…hopeless. It felt dark, depressing, painful, and permanent. And maybe that’s you today. It’s Christmas Eve and the joy of the season is nonexistent and...2022-12-2425 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#98 - Advent Series: 3 Tools to Shift from Sadness to Joy When Your Broken Marriage Overshadows Your Holiday SeasonSomeone says “Merry Christmas” and you could just roll your eyes. You see two friends laughing while shopping and you want to barf. Even worse, someone asks you how you’re doing or what your plans are for the holidays, and you just instantly start crying. Not everyone is looking forward to Christmas… in fact, this year? This year you would rather hide from everyone because the pain is too much to bear and things are just too different and difficult. You feel swallowed by sorrow. You’re sitting there in sadness ov...2022-12-1728 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#97 - Advent Series: Tired of Carrying the Weight of Shame in Your Life or Marriage? How to Surrender Your Shame to the Lord and Walk in FREEDOM as a Daughter of the KingJust one more glass… and the regret and headache the next morning. See him one more time… and cry in shame on your drive home the next morning. Let those angry words fly… and choke on the shame of destructive words you can’t take back. Deny the choices you’ve made… and hide the shame of lying until it burns inside. We are faced with decisions on a regular basis: to continue to choose to give into temptation or to surrender our will to the Lord’s. To satisfy our immediate desi...2022-12-1021 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#96 - Advent Series: 3 Signs You’re Carrying a Secret Burden of Shame That Is Hurting Your Marriage and Affecting Your Mindset This Christmas SeasonYou’re going about the motions of showing up to the parties, baking the pies, hanging stockings, decorating the Christmas tree, and you’re putting on the smile and the “Merry Christmas!” to your neighbors when you walk outside. But when you walk back inside, there’s a heaviness. There’s a deep longing in your heart for more but you can’t quite put your finger on WHY you feel this way. I KNOW you want to truly feel the joy of the season– you just would like the arguing with your husband to stop. You wish you wouldn’...2022-12-0326 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#95 3 Simple Steps to Decrease Your Anxiety and Overwhelm as a Mom and Wife and Increase Joy and Peace in Your Daily Routine with Guest: Lisa LizotteYour husband asks “What’s the matter?” and you want to yell “EVERYTHING’S THE MATTER!” because your to-do list is a mile long, the house is a pig sty, and you’re feeling all the pressure to say yes to every holiday event or get together with friends or sports teams or family. The overwhelm hits, and you feel like all you can do is scream, cry, or escape. In today’s special guest episode, my friend and fellow podcaster Lisa Lizotte gives us 3 simple things to minimize overwhelm and simplify our mindset so we can function from an...2022-11-2639 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#94 Wish You Could Limit Anxiety and Arguments with Your Husband Over the Holidays? 2 Ways to Improve Communication with Your Husband and Navigate Tension This Thanksgiving WeekOh man, it’s Thanksgiving next week– and just the thought of multiple get-togethers, feasts, cooking for large groups, seeing extended family, the hustle and bustle, the extra busy season, expectations on showing up or getting gifts, can really cause anxiety to be at an all-time high. And that means you’re primed and ready for the smallest thing to trigger big feelings and arguments. Are you traveling this year? Or hosting at your home? Do you have a good relationship with your inlaws or is it strained? Already rolling your eyes at how conversations will go and dr...2022-11-1921 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#93 - Tired of Fighting with Your Husband? Learn What to Fight FOR and What to Fight AGAINST in Your MarriageRaise your hand if you’re sittin' in your car right now in your driveway, not wanting to go back inside because you know another fight with your husband is inevitably going to happen the second you walk in. Maybe you’re at work and the way you left your husband and your home this morning was NOT pretty and you regret fighting with him before leaving the house. Or girl, you’re standing at your kitchen sink with your earbuds in while he’s playing with the kids and ever...2022-11-1223 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#92 Do You Want Your Children Repeating Your Mistakes? My #1 Tip to Break the Cycle of Sin and Find Healing for Generational Impact“That's just who I am!” or “I’m willing to work on that.” Which one leads to growth and which one keeps you stuck? The answer is obvious. But why do we care? When my marriage crumbled, and we were causing a lot of pain then began to reconcile, we worried about our boys. Did we scar them forever? Will they have tendencies and habits that stem from this time? Are there traits and things in our boys that will cause them to say in the future “that’s just how I am” not realizing that it's rooted from in the...2022-11-0527 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#91 Feeling EXHAUSTED in Your Marriage or Motherhood? The #1 Reason You Are Running on Empty and How to Find F.U.E.L for Your SoulI know you’ve been there before. Exhaustion. Pure exhaustion. A sudden awareness of how empty you are. The clutter in your home, conflict in your marriage, and chaos in motherhood come out as angry overstimulation, overwhelming emotions, and then… just… fumes. The fiery panic turns to apathy, going about the motions, glazed-over looks, almost numb, and you wonder how much longer this can on until you just can’t. One more disagreement might be the end. But in our exhaustion, we push through. We keep picking things up. We keep wiping toddler butts. We keep correcting, redirect...2022-10-2924 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#90 Is Temptation REALLY a Bad Thing? This Life-Giving, Biblical Perspective Will Change Your MindAre you flying under the radar? Is your sin going undetected? Does it come out only inside the four walls of your home, but others outside see a smiling face and someone well put together? Do you scream and rage OR keep information to yourself and hide, and feel like it’s eating you alive? What if the way to uncover your sin, expose your darkest struggles, and actually start healing, finding wholeness, and LIVING is actually found in something we all were told growing up is something to run from? So...2022-10-2329 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#89 3 Action Steps to Biblically Respond, Instead of Retaliate, to Your Husband’s Hurtful Confession or SinTears fill your eyes, a fire is burning in your chest, and you’re reeling with confusion and you don’t know how to respond. Your husband’s just confessed a sin struggle or you’ve just discovered hurtful things he’s done. You’re instantly thrown into this very physical reaction, a surreal feeling, where senses are heightened, feelings are BIG, and your every sense of security and peace and normalcy are uprooted. What do you do? How do you walk through this? It’s new territory (or maybe it’s not, and this time is the last straw...2022-10-1535 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#88 Suddenly Heartbroken by Your Husband’s Confession or Sin Struggle? 3 Steps to Process Your Pain and Respond Instead of ReactIt’s like an elephant suddenly sat on your chest. Instant physical and emotional reactions begin brewing and brimming as your mind starts spinning with the news your husband is confessing, the sin you’ve just found out about: his infidelity, porn addiction, gambling habit, lustful thoughts, dishonesty, etc. Fight or flight mode begins instinctively to kick in, and you either want to punch and scream or grab your keys and drive far far away. How do we process such hurtful information, such destructive choices from our most loved person? Does our reaction have...2022-10-0824 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#87 Is It Even Possible to Revive a Lifeless Marriage? The #1 Thing That Brings LIFE Back Into Your Heart and Revives Your MarriageDoes your marriage feel dull, lifeless, and empty? Are you feeling neglected, forgotten, left behind, and unimportant? Maybe you want to change that, to reignite a spark, and to bring some LIFE back into your dying marriage by reviving your OWN heart toward your husband. You're sick of feeling so hardened toward him, angry, and bitter. But you just don’t see how it’s possible. You feel so numb and hopeless that it’s easier to just leave things as they are. Maybe you’re sitting there and things in your heart are looking pretty dried up. Kind...2022-10-0225 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#86 - Is It Too Late for Your Marriage to Recover? Unravel the Curse of Shame in Your Marriage and Find Wholeness (Part 2) with Guest: Jules MorletWhy do we wives lean into control or feel the need to fix? What is that actually about?? Did you know the root cause is often..... shame? So what do we do with that? How are we supposed to unravel the curse of shame in our marriages? Can we really find wholeness? Tune in to Part 2 of my conversation with guest Jules Morlet today and hear how she and her husband worked through shame and how you can, too. Loads of Love, Lydia --> FO...2022-09-2425 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#85 - Is It Too Late for Your Marriage to Recover? Unravel the Curse of Shame in Your Marriage and Find Wholeness (Part 1) with Guest: Jules MorletHas your marriage turned out nothing like you expected? You’ve faced some pretty tough and dark moments and feel pretty hopeless about it. Maybe you’ve walked through some difficult things like infidelity, deception, porn addiction, or worse and you’re wondering if it’s too late to recover. You just want to know that it’s possible! My guest today, Jules Morlet, helps us understand the curse of shame, its effect on us, and the war the enemy rages on our marriages, since the beginning of time… and the healing hope and path to recovery...2022-09-1726 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#84 - Do You Desire to Have a Closer Walk with God? 3 Things Holding You Back from a More Intimate Relationship with GodHey, Friend, I’m glad you’re here. Something in this title made you click and listen, and my hunch is: you’re feeling a bit distant from God. You want more but you aren’t sure why you still feel that longing in your heart, that distance or emptiness. And it’s even impacting the intimacy with your husband– you feel far from him, too. You’ve tried “drawing near to God so He will draw near to you.” You’ve spent time reading the Word and going to church…and still you long to feel close...2022-09-1017 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#83 - 4 Practical Steps to Find Freedom from Your Emotions and Reactions as a Spirit-Led WifeDo you get irritated and annoyed sometimes… with YOURSELF? Do you find yourself unable to stop the verbal vomit from spewing? (ew. Sorry. That was gross. But hey, so are our words sometimes!) You want FREEDOM from yourself, your sin, your tendencies to think or act a certain way. Okay, so now you KNOW you can be FREE from yourself, and you know you need to “control only what you can control,” and you nodded along to last episode’s 4 things to expect when you’re filled with the Holy Spirit. You’re a smart person...2022-09-0318 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#82 - Are You Tired of Your Emotions Controlling You? 4 Things to Expect as a Spirit-Led Wife.Are you a wife, a Christian wife, or even a separated wife and you want FREEDOM from… yourself? That’s kind of a weird question, but hear me out. Do you want to be FREE from your controlling nature, your anger, your knee-jerk responses, or your lack of self-control? Are you sick of dealing with the instant regret after emotionally exploding on your spouse or tired of feeling the slow guilt after verbally vomiting on your husband? How come you can deal with other people’s crap, read your Bible, and go to church...2022-08-2720 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#81 - 3 Ways to Partner with God in Your Recovery from Pain in Your MarriageImagine walking through a still-smoldering forest after a wildfire. Smell the burnt wood, the sharp sting of the smoke in your nose. Listen to the eerie silence of no birds chirping and the sound of crunching under your feet as you step on twigs and fallen branches. Then see the bottom of your shoes covered in soot and ash, smears of black… It’s unrecognizable. You know this forest well, and it looks nothing like it used to. I bet this has been your marriage at one point. After the toughest time you’ve faced, the mo...2022-08-2027 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#80 - Is Your Marriage Ruined? Lessons Learned from a Forest Fire and 4 Responses to Help Your Marriage Thrive After DestructionHave you walked through the fire in your marriage? Have you looked back at the remains of your marriage, the smoldering charred remnants that leave the marriage you once knew unrecognizable? The damage done seems irreparable, permanent, a total loss. But… what if you knew there was life underneath? What if you knew that BECAUSE of the fire, the growth after the burn was in fact MORE green, lusher, more beautiful? I know it’s hard to believe or even care about in the midst of destruction, and this isn’t to discount that loss or pain. ...2022-08-1324 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#79 - Do You Want to Get Well? 4 Steps to Removing Labels and Reclaiming Your Identity in ChristHave you ever picked weeds in your front yard? It’s slightly annoying and sweaty, back-breaking work, but it’s satisfying work that makes you feel good about your landscaping and helps the bushes to grow and HOA to not send notifications. Around here in Texas, it also helps keep snakes and spiders out! Now imagine trying to take care of a lawn that you’ve neglected for a couple of months– the time you’d have to spend pulling weeds, the tools you’d need now to help you yank the deeply-rooted ones, the gloves you’d have to wear...2022-08-0622 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#78 - 4 Questions to Uncover Strongholds, False Beliefs, and Lies that Lead to Sin and Keep Us from Walking in Your Identity in ChristWe close our eyes or raise our hands during worship and sing words like “Christ is enough for me” or “I am a child of God,” and we nod our heads when the pastor says “you were made in the image of God,” only to walk out the church doors to return to sin. Or maybe you squirm in your seat as you hear things like that because you struggle with the shame of what you’ve done or what’s been done to you and you don’t believe you’re worthy of that kind of image to bear. Do you...2022-07-3018 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#77 - Suffering from Loneliness, Longing, and Low Self-Esteem in Your Marriage? 4 Steps to Restoring Your Identity in ChristWhat do you say when people ask you about yourself? “I’m a wife, a mom, a teacher, a….” But suddenly you’re faced with a lackluster marriage, kids that argue back, and a job that’s no longer fulfilling? And maybe that’s you right now. If we got to meet face to face, you would not really know what to say about yourself or you’d struggle to name your titles because you’re going through such a hard time that nothing is going the way you thought it would. What if. What if you believed th...2022-07-2324 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#76 - Not on the Same Page as Your Husband? 3 Rhythms of Communication that Lead to Unity and Connection in Your Marriage w/ Dr. Carol TanksleyCommunication in marriage is one of the most foundational elements and yet one of the most frustrating parts of marriage. I know this from personal experience and also from listening to you… those of you that have joined my Facebook community and that I have the privilege of getting to know better have also said communication is your #1 struggle in marriage. So today I brought you a guest. Her name is Dr. Carol Tanksley. She’s an author, speaker, personal coach, licensed OBGYN physician, and ordained Dr. of Ministry, and she loves to help people find the tran...2022-07-1633 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#75 - Overwhelmed and Weighed Down by the Problems in Your Marriage? 5 Benefits from Building Biblical Resilience and How They Bring HopeHey, friend. I just wanted to let you know that I see you. You might be putting on a brave face right now. You might be holding your emotions down, and you might even be pretending pretty well– maybe no one around you sees how overwhelmed and weighed down you feel about the state of your marriage. You carry a burden of wanting more for your husband and you yet feel discouraged and even depressed about the lack of movement and growth. Or you’ve got your earbuds in right now on a walk because you ha...2022-07-0920 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#74 Are You and Your Husband Complete Opposites? 3 Things to Remember When Your Differences Are Causing ConflictHave you ever looked at your husband (or he at you) and thought you could NOT be any more different than each other? Have your differences collided into conflict, and increasingly so, to where you feel like all you do is misunderstand each other or are fighting constantly? What are you supposed to do when you’re just so opposite of each other in your thinking, communication styles, and more? In this episode, I'm giving you 3 things to remember when your differences are causing division and what you can begin to do differently to...2022-07-0221 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#73 Surrender Your Anger to God and Fight for Your Marriage God’s Way with this Biblically Based Battle PlanHas your husband done something to hurt you: been unfaithful, struggled with pornography, been unkind, neglectful, or absent? Are you filled with anger every time he reaches for that game remote again instead of having a conversation with you? Do you feel angry enough to want revenge when you discover yet another time he’s done something hurtful toward you? I know what it’s like to struggle with wanting to fight for my marriage yet feel so angry that I’d end up fighting WITH him instead of for him.2022-06-2524 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#72 Have You Become Bitter in Your Grief, Shame, or Fear? 3 Steps to Find True Healing to Walk in Freedom from Your Past“And I thought we finally were free…It seemed a just and simple equation. Thousands of miles of ocean separated us from barbed wire, police searches, camps for the condemned, camps for the displaced. I did not yet know that nightmares know no geography, that guilt and anxiety wander borderless…I believe the past couldn’t touch me here….” (The Choice by Dr. Edith Eger) Do you think you’re free from guilt and shame or grief in your past? Are you truly walking IN freedom or are you just free FROM that fear? Or have you been stuck in...2022-06-1828 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#71 Let’s Get to Know Each Other! Today I Get Vulnerable and Share 37 Facts About Me on This Special Birthday Episode!Not that any of you are super interested in knowing more about me personally, BUT, I used to struggle with vulnerability, not opening up to others, keeping others at bay since I moved so much, hiding behind pride and perfection, and at one point in my life, behind shame. But. That bandaid was essentially ripped off, and I’ve since learned the value of being vulnerable and honest and open when it’s necessary for growth, for healing, and for sanctification. So we’re gonna have some fun in this episode, and I’m gonna share 37 facts about me...2022-06-1112 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#70 Is Your Anxiety Causing Conflict or Miscommunication in Your Marriage? How to Surrender Your Anxious Thoughts and Have Better Communication with Your Husband (Part 2) with guest Erika Diaz CastroAre you really rooted in God’s Word as a Christian Wife? Do you spend time in God’s Word often yet haven’t actually allowed it to sink in and transform you? And this is obvious when you snap at your husband when he makes a comment you don’t like or mumble under your breath with a bad attitude. What is preventing you from applying what you read in the Bible? What’s stopping you from using these biblical tools in your marriage and communication with your husband? I was gonna post this Part 2 of my convers...2022-06-0825 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#69 Is Your Anxiety Causing Conflict or Miscommunication in Your Marriage? How to Surrender Your Anxious Thoughts and Have Better Communication with Your Husband with special guest Erika Diaz-CastroI bet you don’t go into a conversation with your husband, typically, looking for a fight. I bet you start to have a conversation with him with good intentions, hoping for something to get resolved or to be heard, but then something derails, emotions get bigger, careless words are thrown, and you leave the room sort of stunned of like “what just happened?” Today I’m talking with my girl Erika Diaz-Castro, a Christ-follower, wife, mama & life coach for Christian women who struggle with anxiety, burnout or overwhelm. Our conversation is all about how we wives tend to...2022-06-0428 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#68 Tired of Feeling Invalidated or Unheard During Conversations with Your Husband? 5 Steps to Having Better Communication in Your MarriageHave you ever been trying to communicate with your husband and… as his eyes glaze over, you realize you’ve been talking for a while, but what you’re talking about now is not even close to what you originally started talking about? Come on, Linda, yes, yes you have. Then your husband pipes in, making a comment that he deems “helpful,” but it only makes you feel unheard and invalidated. He sees a problem and wants to fix it, while you just want him to listen. If you’re sitting there right now at a poi...2022-05-2826 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#67 Trying to Navigate a Difficult Marriage, Separation, or Divorce? 3 Biblical Truths to Believe in the Midst of Your Brokenness and Begin to HealAre you at the point of complete and utter brokenness? Do you feel like your marriage is on its last leg or even worse…dying? Or maybe you’re dealing with consequences of your own sin and feeling like an unworthy failure… And perhaps you’re just sick and tired of feeling so sick and tired of it all. Hey. I’ve been there. Today we’re going to walk through 3 biblical truths that you can count on in the middle of brokenness in your marriage or that even apply to your own personal walk with the Lord...2022-05-2120 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#66 Are You Drinking Alcohol to Avoid Conflict or Frustrations in Your Marriage? 3 Steps to Get Sober, Battle the Shame, and Connect with Your Husband Again with Guest Michelle PorterfieldThe kids are finally in bed; the husband is on his phone, and your favorite show is about to come on. You grab a wine glass, fill it up, and settle into the other couch. No harm, right? It's been a long day. Your kids are arguing, and your husband is in a bad mood. You sigh, head to the cabinet to get that trusty glass and pour a glass because you just need something to calm your nerves. You walk downstairs after yet another stupid fight with your h...2022-05-1433 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#65 Feel Like You Want to Give Up on Your Marriage? 4 Tools to Stay Engaged and Committed as a Christian WifeAre you sitting there right now imagining yourself on vacation…alone? Do you wish you could escape your marriage just momentarily and get away from the dysfunction? Or are your bags packed and you’re ready to call it quits? I see you, friend… and I’m here today to give you four tools that will help you find peace, quiet the noise (whether that’s arguments with your husband or just the chaotic jumble of your thoughts), and begin to recommit to the man you said yes to on the altar. ...2022-05-0721 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#64 Are You Escaping Your Marriage? 3 Questions for You to Figure Out Why You Numb Out When Things Get HardI see you, Friend, sitting on the couch with your glass of wine after a long day, scrolling Instagram, thumbing through the picture-perfect filtered photos instead of facing the unfiltered truth of your life right now. I see you turning on Netflix to binge-watch that show instead of braving the conversation you know you need to have with your husband about when you felt frustrated earlier that day. I see you grabbing your car keys to head out to get a mani-pedi for some "me time" when you know the funds are low and time i...2022-04-3020 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#63 Struggling to Forgive Your Husband and Recover from Pain in Your Marriage? 5 Steps to Get to the Place of Surrender (Part 2) with Guest Beatriz VargasHow do you KNOW if you've truly forgiven your husband? What do you do when your heart still hurts and hasn't fully healed from the pain in your marriage? You've tried everything to make it work, to fix it, to fix...him. But it's not working. You're living undivorced under the same roof, he's left you and wants a divorce, or things are just so bad that SOMEthing is about to give. Tune in to Part 2 of my interview with my friend Beatriz Vargas from The Grace Fueled Wife podcast to hear 5 steps t...2022-04-2331 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#62 Waiting for a Miracle or for God to Move in Your Marriage but NOTHING Seems to Be Happening? Two Signs of Victory and Hope on This Silent Saturday Before Resurrection DayHAVE YOU EVER GIVEN UP ON YOUR MARRIAGE? Have you lost hope, wanted to just toss it out, and, like a seed planted in soil, rolled your eyes at the thing that’s probably never going to actually grow, turned your back and decided who cares and let the sun scorch it cuz it’s already dead? OR MAYBE YOU TRIED. You tried watering, following all the instructions, shading it and giving just the rights amount of water, researching just how much to give it and when…only to become so exasperated that nothin...2022-04-1619 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#61 Struggling to Forgive Your Husband and Recover from Pain in Your Marriage? 5 Steps to Get to the Place of Surrender (Part 1) with Guest Beatriz VargasAre you tired of being the spiritually mature one in your marriage? Do you feel like your husband just isn't invested in your marriage like you are? Have you gotten to the point of GIVING UP because... well, he just isn't in this. Maybe he's even left you, and you're living separated right now...either physically or emotionally but under the same roof. Friend, in this two-part series with my friend Beatriz Vargas from The Grace Fueled Wife podcast, I encourage you to listen with the willingness to learn YOUR part in the dynamic, k...2022-04-0929 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#60 Feeling Frustrated, Annoyed, or ANGRY Toward Your Husband?! 3 Biblically-Based Ways to Handle Your Anger in a Godly WayShut down and avoid? Lash out with a torrent of harsh words at your husband? Bottle it up, shove it down and move on when you feel frustrated? As different as each of these ways of dealing with this emotion are, they all have one thing in common-- anger. Whether or not you claim to be an "angry person," or whether you know you're actually angry and not just slightly annoyed, there IS a way to manage your anger in a way that honors God. I...2022-04-0226 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#59 Has Your Marriage Hit Rock Bottom? How to Recover and Find Hope and Healing with Guest Katie ThornhillAre you sitting there feeling hopeless since your husband walked out? That his struggle with pornography is ongoing? That infidelity has wrecked your marriage (whether it was yours or his)? Maybe your marriage is at rock bottom right now, and you're struggling to see the light. If you're not sure how something so broken can be restored or how God can possibly work a miracle in your marriage, this episode is for you, Friend. I see you, and I was you. And so was my guest Katie Thornhill, and she is bringing a message o...2022-03-2639 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#58 My Husband Isn’t Supportive! 4 Questions to Help You *gasp!* Submit to Your Husband, W.A.I.T. on the Lord, and Obey God When You and Your Husband Disagree on Finances, Jobs, and Purpose.Maybe you’re the girl in the coffee shop, sitting across from a friend, and dabbing at your tears as you share with her how frustrated you are that your husband “just doesn’t understand” this… thing in your heart. Maybe you’re the mom on her phone at the park, being misjudged for ignoring your kids, when you’re just trying to let them have fun and not see how defeated you really feel as you text a friend from church about how you don’t know how to follow God when your husband is against your dreams....2022-03-1927 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#57 One Year of Podcasting! Happy Anniversary to The Jar Podcast! Come Celebrate with Me!HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to The Jar Podcast and all of YOU who have listened once or have been here since the beginning-- thank you. God can do SO much with our obedience, and the results are always up to Him. Any "success" is a testament to His faithfulness in my life, in healing me from the inside out, in mending my broken marriage, and in reclaiming my identity in Him. As a Christian wife, it can be hard to know how to communicate well, to know what the Bible says about how to treat your husband, or...2022-03-1215 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#56 Are You CONTAGIOUS?! 6 Steps to Prevent Spiritual Disease and Find Soul HealthAnd the LORD spoke to Moses and Aaron, saying: “When a man has on the skin of his body a swelling, a scab, or a bright spot, and it becomes on the skin of his body like a leprous sore, then he shall be brought to Aaron the priest... The priest shall examine the sore on the skin of the body; and if the hair on the sore has turned white, and the sore appears to be deeper than the skin of his body, it is a leprous sore. Then the priest shall examine him, and pronounce him unclean....2022-03-0530 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#54 Wives, FIND FREEDOM FROM SIN Series–Step 4: Don’t Be Bound by Your Past ANYMORE– 4 Ways to Trust the TransformationIf you’ve had an encounter with God–He knocked you on your butt, healed you, broke you, met you on the bathroom floor at your lowest of lows...and that led you to surrender, full surrender, and you are now surrounded by community and have accountability and wise input from mentors– you can trust that this next step of transformation is REAL and TRUE and you can experience freedom from your past life, from the sin you were caught up in. Don’t rely on me, but God’s word says in John 8:36 “So if the Son sets you...2022-02-2426 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#53 Wives, FIND FREEDOM FROM SIN Series- Step 3: The Key to Spiritual Growth After RepentanceIt’s easy to want to hide in a corner and lick our wounds, cover up the scars and signs of our brokenness and need for a Savior and recent surrender to Him after facing our realities and sinful actions or natures. God gave us something to keep us from getting kicked while we’re down, stepped and trampled on in our vulnerable moments just after surrender to Him, something to empower us to grow spiritually and begin to fight against the sin we just repented from. But because we are made in His image, God...2022-02-2123 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#52 Wives, FIND FREEDOM FROM SIN Series–Step 2: Don’t Skip This Crucial Step in Your Journey to Break Sin’s Power Over YouYou know how it goes: one side wins. The other side loses. One comes out victorious, and the other side has surrendered and is the loser and defeated. The losing side that surrendered took the easy way out. Or is it? What if surrender was actually the hard part? The better choice? What if the "defeated" were actually the victors? You have experienced Step 1 in finding freedom from sin (go listen to the previous episode if you haven't yet!), and now it's time for Step 2. This is a pivotal po...2022-02-1922 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#51 Are You a Wife Struggling to Feel Significant in Your Marriage? 3 Truths About Connecting with Your Husband this Valentine's DayWhether or not your husband got you flowers, made you breakfast, is taking you out to dinner, or if he completely forgot, or you are single or separated and feel unloved by a man you're with. As much as the flowers and candy and extra attention might be nice... As much as maybe gestures of love and affection from your person on this day are extra special.... Or even if you absolutely can’t STAND today not only for all the consumerism and hype but also because you’re not a good place in y...2022-02-1413 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#50 Finding FREEDOM from Sin Series- Step 1: Finally Break Free with This ONE Thing!Are you stuck in a pattern of behavior that is damaging your marriage? Have you tried to stop, make better choices, and change but you keep coming up short? You repeat the cycle and then you spiral into negative self-talk, shame, and you just feel defeated. I know you've tried. I know you want to find freedom and the strength to resist sinful urges, to persevere and not let this sin define you anymore. You’ve tried seeing a counselor. You’ve tried praying. You’ve even tried fasting– you want freedom from this sin...2022-02-1217 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#49 Are Your Wounds from a Painful Past Damaging Your Relationship? The Power of Inner Healing in 3 StepsYou're just minding your own business, doin your thing, when your husband makes a comment that rubs you the wrong way. Your eyes fill with tears and your stomach grows hot inside. You scrub the pot a little more aggressively or cut the sandwich you're making with extra force, feeling at that moment much like that sandwich--cut deeply. Whether your tendency in the next moments would be to silently stuff that pain down and allow it to grow because that's your mantra or if it's to turn around (put the knife down first) and r...2022-02-0518 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#48 6 Biblical Mindset Shifts to Help You CHANGE Your Mind About Your MarriageWhat do you do when you're stuck in a negative Nancy spirit? You can't seem to kick the cranky and stop spinning in a negative mindset about your husband or your marriage. And it's starting to feel like things will never get better. Listen, Linda, today I have 6 practical steps you can take to biblically shift those thoughts and change your mindset. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join the C...2022-01-2923 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#47 I'm Not Married to the Same Man...4 Keys to Staying Committed When Your Husband ChangesEver had a moment where you looked over at your husband on the couch or when he wakes up and thought, "Who is this man I'm married to? This is not the same person I married ___ years ago" and wondered when and how he'd changed? Maybe those thoughts invoked feelings of sadness or resentment or maybe just a feeling of distance and loneliness. Maybe it's even gotten so bad that you aren't sure you even want to stay married to him anymore and you've started questioning your commitment to him. Linda, listen in to...2022-01-2222 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#45 How to Use Change to Your Advantage & GROW Closer to GodAre you avoiding change, refusing to participate, letting it run you over, or getting mad at it? If change is inevitable, life happens, and circumstances and people don't stay the same, then... what do we DO with change? How do we deal with it without falling apart? In today's episode I give you three ways to use change to your advantage so that you can actually grow closer to God and deeper in your relationship with Him, the Solid Rock, the Unchanging One, and navigate change from a firm foundation. L...2022-01-0826 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#44 "New Year, New You"? 3 Actions to Take NOW So You Can Navigate Change This YearIs change good or bad? Do you love it or hate it? Guess what? Some change is inevitable whether we like it or not... and the New Year is often what brings both desire for change and/ or resistance to it to the surface. We are going to spend the month of January talking about newness and change (the good, bad, AND the ugly). What does GOD say about it vs. the world? How do fears surrounding change hold us back? Whether you're excited for NEW things or not... let's talk about it...2022-01-0117 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#43 Feeling Unloved, Unseen or Unappreciated? Let Christ’s Love Be Enough for You.What's wrong with me?? Why am I feeling this way? Sad, unseen, unloved, unappreciated, lonely, etc. Believe it or not, that's the PERFECT time, the perfect moments, the perfect places for Love to come down and meet you where you are. Tune in for a short episode on how to let God's ultimate Gift of Love, fill you up, heal you, and be ENOUGH for you. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave...2021-12-2507 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#42 You MIGHT Be Contributing to the Chaos… 5 Benefits to Creating Calm & Communicating with Your Husband from a Place of PeaceIs it just me, or are the holidays especially rough on us wives/ women?! SHEESH! The errands, the gifts, the cookie baking and gift wrapping... so I know if I'm not alone in feeling overwhelmed, I must also not be alone in reacting emotionally when I'm overstimulated from it all, right? (Don't leave me hangin' Linda!) LADIES. You & I...we are most likely contributing to the chaos, and I'm here today to remind you of the benefits, the rewards, of operating from a place of peace. **wooosahhh** I didn't say it was easy. But it sure will...2021-12-1817 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#41 Change Your WAITING to ANTICIPATING with These 4 Tips for Handling Hardships Around the HolidaysDoes Christmas or the holidays bring up tough stuff: buried feelings, sadness around a loss, discord with family members, loneliness? Do you find yourself sneaking away not just for the overstimulation of the music, lights and crowd but also the inner turmoil that's been triggered? Here are 4 tips that will help you process and HEAL as you learn to anticipate the change and growth through the discomfort. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating...2021-12-1117 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#40 Does Your Marriage Need a Miracle? Renew Your Hope in THIS First...There's something about Advent, the season of waiting, anticipation, and ardent desire for HOPE. But you feel pretty hopeless in your marriage right now. Maybe you're just hopeless that it will get any better or that you're stuck in this feeling of unhappiness. Maybe you're hopeless for reconciliation as you battle divorce papers. Whatever your circumstance is, as you hope for a miracle in your marriage, find hope HERE first... Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave...2021-12-0516 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#39 5 Reasons You’re Feeling Disappointed During the Holidays & How to Strengthen Your Marriage Through This SeasonSitting in the aftermath of post-holiday disappointment and let down? Replaying scenes filled with frustration, arguments, or division? Chalking it up to family members and their typical tendencies, knowing the next holiday will be just the same? Don't let these 5 reasons you're feeling disappointment drive a wedge between you and your husband. Use it as fuel to ignite a bond and closeness that will bring you closer to the Lord and to each other and finish this holiday season with renewed strength and focus! Loads of Love, 2021-11-2716 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#38 Shift Your Perspective from Earthly to Eternal & How It Changes EVERYTHINGHow do you just "let go and let God"? Is it that easy when it feels like life is crushing you and you're struggling to see the point? Do you find it easier to just numb the pain, find pleasure in other things, or give into temptation? It isn't easy, but I have the solution. Tune in and find out how a simple (not easy!) shift in perspective can help change everything. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show 2021-11-2019 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#37 BONUS! How to Be a Keeper of Your Soul and Find Wholeness Again: the Story Behind The JarTune in for a special *bonus* episode of a little behind-the-scenes Holy Spirit moment that led me through a dark time that YOU will find hope in! (Spoiler Alert: NO ONE is too damaged for Him to redeem) Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join the Christian Wife and Marriage Facebook community 2021-11-1712 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#36 How to Have Emotional Wellness and Live Shame-Free So You Can Increase Connection with Your HusbandYour husband walks in the door, takes one look around the messy living room, and says, "What did you do all day?" Cue the ball of fire in your stomach and the shame in your gut. As mad as you are at him for that question (or is that a statement??), you find yourself questioning if you're really cut out to do this whole stay at home mom thing... you shut down, start picking up the mess, and you quietly hide in your shame. or In the middle of an argument, your husband brings up...2021-11-1325 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#35 Feeling Disappointed and Misunderstood When You Communicate with Your Husband? This is for You.Hold up. Wait a minute. You're telling me that *I* am "empowered" to communicate better with my husband when HE's the one not getting it? I feel misunderstood and disappointed because he's not listening, and you want ME to work on how *I* communicate? Yep. Listen, Linda, we wives hold more power than we think we do in situations like this, and I've got some simple tools you can use! Come on, let's sit down and talk. *Notes taken from Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenburg* ...2021-11-0623 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#34 5 Ways to LOSE an Argument with Your HusbandWill the competitive wives please stand up?? As a former athlete, my competitive nature needed some sort of outlet, and unfortunately, my husband was often it! But just when I thought I was "winning," WE were in fact, losing. Listen in for what NOT to do, gain some biblical tools that can help you course-correct an argument, and walk away ready to fight FOR your marriage, not against your husband. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5...2021-10-3026 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#33 Separated from Your Husband? The 3 C's that Will Help You Navigate Separation or Divorce in a Healthy WayThe deep work I did helped for either outcome: together or not. Married or single-mom. I was whole regardless. And you can be, too. Walk through separation or divorce AND experience healing and wholeness? Today I walk you through the three Cs that will help you navigate a broken marriage and separation. Counseling services, articles and more: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/ Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join the C...2021-10-2328 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#32 You're Never a Better Christian Than You Are in Your Home. 5 Questions to Stop & Check Your Impact.How can we possibly make a kingdom impact and a difference OUTside our home if our impact IN the home is hurtful or hypocritical or harmful? How do you become a woman of your word? What do we need to do to stop acting one way in public and another way in our homes? Today I ask you 5 questions that will challenge you to be the Christian wife and mom in your HOME first and foremost. Bring your cup of coffee and a notebook and tune in. Loads...2021-10-1619 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#31 Hypocrite or Holy Transformation? 4 Ways to Tell If It's Real Change.There's a scene in the show The Chosen where two disciples are walking and talking together about when Jesus called them, and one of them says, "I was one way... and now I am completely different. And the thing that happened in between... was Him." But what if you've been hurt by this person claiming they're different now? The world will say "Once a ___ always a ___." Does Jesus think that? How can you tell if someone is a hypocrite or if they've truly had a holy transformation? Here are 4 ways to tell if...2021-10-0930 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#30 Are Your Differences Causing a Divide? A 3-Step System to STOP Believing the Lies of Incompatibility and START Creating Unity in Your Marriage"I'm an introvert. He's an extrovert." "I'm an early bird. He's a night owl." "He's a homebody. I'm an outdoor adventure girl." We are just.so.different! Ever felt like it's hard to find things in common anymore? You thought you knew him, but these days it feels like he's a stranger. How do we keep our differences from causing division, resentment or divorce?? Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave...2021-10-0221 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#29 Is Communication a Problem in Your Marriage? Start Implementing THIS One Solution to Communicate in a Healthy Way.WIVES, are you sick of repeating yourselves, feeling unheard? Do you sometimes decide to step up and take over, get things done and think "why bother" when things don't get done around the house and he's not helping? Do you find yourself mumbling "SOMEone's gotta do it..." and you stuff your feelings down? I see you. And I can tell you there are better ways! No more exploding emotionally. No more festering and quiet bitterness growing until anger implodes. Tune in for this ONE solution that I've found to work! 2021-09-2519 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#28 Are Your Past Mistakes Haunting You? A 3-Step Strategic Battle Plan to Help You Combat Shame and GuiltYou've sinned. You've screwed up. You failed someone you loved. But you've repented, turned from your sin, and you've begun healing. You're forgiven and are trying to take steps forward, but comments are still being made. People still stare, glare, whisper, and point. You feel the shame and defeat in your gut and the tears brimming in your eyes. How do you move forward when others keep throwing your dirt back in your face? How do you heal when the hurt is still very real? Listen in to this 3 Step Strategic Plan based on...2021-09-1824 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#27 Stuck in a Hopeless Place in Your Marriage? Exchange Your Spirit of Heaviness with This ONE Biblical Solution.Stop the scrolling. Put the wine down. Turn off Netflix. I know, I know. Your marriage is not what you'd like it to look like right now, and you're wallowing in hopelessness. It's just too heavy and too big to deal with--and why are you always the one to have to "deal with" it or work on it or care anyway? Get UNstuck, exchange your spirit of heaviness, and walk away empowered with this ONE simple, Biblical, solution. Loads of Love, Lydia ...2021-09-1124 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#26 BONUS! How to Pray Scripture Over Your Children and Activate God's Word Over Their LivesEver comforted your crying child as they list their fears before bed and not been sure what to say? Or maybe they had a tough day at school, and you feel tongue-tied. Or maybe it's worse. Maybe your family is separated or divorced, and you feel completely helpless to help them through their hard feelings. Mama, don't reinvent the wheel! God's Words are right there, available, and POWERFUL. If His Word is living and active, then girl, *activate* them over your children and watch Holy Spirit move. Come on, Mama Bears, it's time to fight...2021-09-0814 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#25 Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People? 5 Steps to Grow Through Grief and Shift Your Mindset from Angry to At PeaceDivorce. Separation. Abuse. Miscarriage. Loss. Death. Destruction. Natural Disasters. You name it, it's bad and it's happening to good people. WHY? Have you ever asked God why these things happen? When life doesn't go as planned and expectations are shattered, how do you go from anger, anxiety, and all the "what if" questions to a solid, sure "even so" faith? Tune in to today's episode to learn the 5 Steps that will help you grow through your grief and shift your mindset to where you are at peace with whatever comes your way to where you ca...2021-09-0427 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#24 God, Not Your Marital Status, Defines You. Is This True For You?I stared at the boxes on the form and suddenly didn't know which one to choose: single? married? Why wasn't there one for getting-divorced-but-it's-not-final-yet-and-this-is-awkward-and-I-want-to-cry?? Have you been there, too? Or maybe you haven't, but you sure have cried yourself to sleep a time or two (or ten) because of how lonely you feel in your marriage or how small you feel when he doesn't see what you do. As someone who learned the hard way, take it from me: your marital status *does*not*define*you! Can you hear me clapping to those words? Only th...2021-08-2821 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#23 Feeling Mentally Weighed Down or Spiraling Out of Control?? THREE Hacks to Set Your Mind on Things AboveAlarm goes off. You drag yourself to the bathroom to brush your teeth as you begin mentally replaying the past week, month...make that months. Nothing ever changes, and you sigh as you get your day started, just waiting for "that argument" to come up again or for the remorse and self-criticism that comes immediately after losing your cool with your kids...again. Your brain feels like it's heavy, and your thoughts feel like they're spiraling. **Stop** Linda, stop. Let me put my arm around you and tell you first of all? I get it. S...2021-08-2113 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#22 Did You Marry the Wrong Person? The ONE Thing Keeping You from a Happy MarriageHas your husband or significant other ever called you out on something and your thought might be “Ok, maybe I shouldn’t have done or said that but...he just doesn’t understand me!” Do you have friends in your life that enable your negative thoughts toward him with phrases like “gotta look out for number one!” Have you ever lain in bed at night and wondered if you’d made a mistake? Or have you ever watched a romantic comedy that leads you think “love shouldn’t be this hard; it should come naturally”?2021-08-1420 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#21 Are You a Nagging Wife? The REAL Issue We Women FaceNo Christian wife wants to admit that she nags and she DEFINITELY doesn't want to hear her husband say she is. But are you? Our words are so powerful, and the Bible talks so much about the power of the tongue, the damage your words can do, and the value in using wisdom with our words. What if your words were indicators of the state of your heart? What if what you say was a symptom of sin you may be harboring inside? Tune in to hear some hard truth but also the HOPE we have in the fact tha...2021-08-0716 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#20 Lacking Fulfillment in Your Relationship? 4 Ways to Foster Contentment Right Where You Are!Stop scrolling and listen, Linda. Lean in close... What you want is change in your relationship or marriage, but there are three things you might be doing that in fact lead to your own discontentment, lack of fulfillment, and missed opportunities! Tune in so you don't continue to make these common mistakes and learn how to USE discontentment to your advantage! Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join th...2021-07-3122 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#19.2 How to REBUILD Trust in Your Marriage After Trauma or Brokenness. Six Ways to INCREASE Trust!When the going gets tough, the tough get going! Rebuilding trust takes TIME, ENERGY, PATIENCE, and most of all, a DEEPLY rooted sense of self in Christ alone. Your person will fail you. Without fail. Increasing trust begins with YOU and your relationship with the Lord THEN the other person. Tune in to hear some helpful tips on how to do this! Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join the C...2021-07-2411 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#19.1 How to REBUILD Trust in Your Marriage After Trauma or Brokenness. Six Ways to INCREASE Trust!Ever thought you could never trust your spouse/ significant other/ family member or friend again? Too much damage done and no chance to rebuild trust? Tune in to hear how MY marriage recovered and trust was reestablished, maintained, and INCREASED! Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join the Christian Wife and Marriage Facebook community 2021-07-1712 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#18 Feeling Small, Invisible or UNWORTHY? Kick Shame to the Curb with These Two Tips!Curled up in a ball on the bathroom floor. Sitting in the back row at church and leaving the second service is over. Declining an invitation to lunch with a friend. Not answering calls. Self-sabotaging with food. Shame can show in many different forms, some more obvious than others. When we feel shame, we are essentially wearing our circumstance or sin as our identity, and it's time to SHAKE. IT. OFF. Sister! Tune in for two tips that helped me recover from shame and keep it at bay! Loads o...2021-07-1016 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#17 Are You in a Season That Feels Like It Will NEVER End?! How to Wait Well...What do you do while you're sitting in a waiting room, waiting for a diagnosis? How do you walk through a separation in your marriage, unsure of the final outcome? What about job insecurity, singleness, or infertility? I don't have answers to your questions, but I can tell you that there is a way to wait "well," and by that I don't mean perfectly. Tune in to today's episode to hear some biblical examples of both those who waited on the Lord WELL and those who did not. Loads of Love, Lydia 2021-07-0327 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#16.2 Twelve Lessons Learned in Twelve Years of Marriage w/ an EXTRA Special GuestMy special guest (my husband!) and I continue the conversation, get real about lessons we've learned and offer a little dash of humor to encourage YOU in YOUR marriage. Marriage is great? Praise the Lord! What lessons have you learned? Would LOVE to hear! Marriage just meh? Need to spice things up? Well, we actually suck at dating but are getting better haha! Still tune in. Living undivorced and barely speaking OR constantly arguing? THERE IS HOPE. Not married yet? Come listen to to some wisdom and insight we've gained in ours so far. Loa...2021-06-2626 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#16.1 Twelve Lessons Learned in Twelve Years of Marriage w/ an EXTRA Special GuestYep! You probably guessed correctly: my husband is my special guest, and we are spilling all the beans on what we've learned in our dozen years of marriage. As we crossed the 12 year mark this month, we looked back and remembered all God's done and some lessons we've learned along the way--lessons from the good, bad, and the ugly. And we sure have been through some "uuuuglay" (She's the Man reference). IYKYK Tune in to Part 1 to laugh with us and hear the hope we found! Loads of Love, 2021-06-1918 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#15 Conflict Resolution Series Part 3: How to MINIMIZE the Sting of Someone's Words & Soak in What GOD Says About You!Ouch. The words your spouse just said stung. Or maybe it’s something a parent or childhood bully said to you years ago, and you can still feel that pain now. What if you were able to lessen the sting, to confidently forgive those hurtful words, and to resolve conflict because you know who you are and Whose you are... because what He says matters more, and His words hold more weight? Tune in today to hear how to minimize the effects of someone's harsh words and turn to God's Word for comfort and healing those wounds wi...2021-06-1220 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#14 Conflict Resolution Series Part 2: You Have a CHOICE to Make!Tired of the blame game? Feeling like a victim during conflicts? Ever find yourself saying things like “You make me feel mad every time you...”? Listen, Linda, we have a CHOICE in how we feel and in how we respond to someone in a conflict that either helps us resolve the conflict or makes it worse. Let’s start owning our part and see how the Lord brings unity and understanding to our relationships when we do! Come gain insight and get some TOOLS to help you resolve conflicts in a God-honoring way. ...2021-06-0522 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#13 Pouring from an Empty Cup? How to RESET Your Motherhood w/ Guest: Karissa BarberMamas, we’ve all been there, or you ARE there: as you sweep Cheerios off the floor for the hundredth time today the thought crosses your mind, “Who am I now?” You pass by your reflection in a mirror and roll your eyes as you tighten your mom bun back up to the top of your head where it belongs. “How did I go from actress/ athlete/ CEO... to glorified butt wiper??” The Acting Mom, Karissa Barber, is on the show today to share how she went from a post-adoption depression fog to a mama on a m...2021-05-2932 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#10 Quit Hiding, Isolating, and Running: Jesus Meets You Where You AreRunning and hiding has been the human response to pain, shame, guilt, and grief ever since Adam and Eve. Isolating in our pain and inability to be vulnerable leads to staying stuck. But El Roi, The God Who Sees, sees every bit of what we are trying to avoid or hide. And He has healing and wholeness in store for those that honestly and humbly bring our brokenness to Him. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join the Christian Wife and Marriage Facebook community 2021-05-1120 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#9 I Spy a Fake! How to Identify, Dismantle, and Replace Counterfeit Gods & Keep God First.When asked about priorities, most people say, “God. Family. Friends. Job.” But according to Timothy Keller, “The true god of your heart is what your thoughts effortlessly go to when there is nothing else demanding your attention.” Can you still say God is first? What good (or bad) things have moved from good to “god” of your life? How do we dethrone them? Listen, Linda, we need to “wake up & pay attention” (Sister Act, anyone?). It’s time to put God back where He belongs: FIRST, ONLY, & ULTIMATE God of our hearts. Loads of Love, Lydia 2021-05-0119 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#8 Overcome Shame & Reclaim Your Identity in Christ w/ guest Dub JonesAre we on two different planets?! Ugh. Miscommunication in marriage can be so frustrating, right? How about more serious issues like pain and shame that make reconciliation in marriage that much harder? WWJD? (Does that age me? Ha!) For real, though, what does Jesus’ example empower you as a wife or SO to do? How does forgiving others heal YOU?? Girl, this special episode with my guest, my former counselor, is filled with biblical truths that will encourage you and challenge you. ((*Side note, toward the end I mention “Elijah and the dry bones,” and it w...2021-04-2429 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#7 How to Stay Rooted in Christ: a Spiritual Emergency Plan (Part 2)What would you do if a tornado or a hurricane was headed your way? You’d follow your emergency plan! Do you have an *spiritual* emergency plan? When life falls apart, what’s going to get your through it? Come listen to how being rooted in Christ can help you weather the storms of life. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join the Christian Wife and Marriage Facebook community 2021-04-1713 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#6 How to Stay Rooted in Christ: a Spiritual Emergency Plan (Part 1)Shallow roots and poor soil make for easily uprooted, withering plants. Our souls are the same! We must cultivate healthy “soul-soil” and pick out weeds that want to prevent us from growing. Come listen to how you can grow deeper roots in Christ. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join the Christian Wife and Marriage Facebook community 2021-04-1017 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#5 GIRL, Get Off The Spinning Wheel! What to Do When Sin Has a Hold on YouRaise your hand if you have found yourself far from God and wondering how you got there. Quit lookin' at your neighbor or friend, Linda. It’s ok to raise your hand and admit when sin has brought ruin. The GOOD NEWS is you do not have to stay ruined, and the Resurrected One can resurrect, redeem, and reclaim you. Listen in to find out how to get unstuck and how to keep from spinning in this cycle of sin. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a s...2021-04-0321 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#4 We Are Formed and Molded In the Potter’s Hands w/ guest Michelle EastWe were formed from the dust of the earth, and we are simply a lump of clay until The Potter forms us, firmly and lovingly, with His hands. Come hear artist and potter, Michelle East, talk about how each step in the pottery-making process applies to our spiritual walk with the Lord. **For more information about her incredible work, visit her at @michelleeastart on IG and FB and her website michelleeastart.com** Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a...2021-03-2729 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#3 Do You Have A Hardened Heart? What It Can Lead to & How to Change It!Ouch! This one might sting. The truth can sometimes hurt, but when the Word of God that is “sharper than any double-edged sword” is used to carefully shape us and mold us into something better, it is for our benefit and God’s glory! Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written review --> Join the Christian Wife and Marriage Facebook community 2021-03-2030 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#2 Stuck in a Fixed Mindset & Can't Get Out? Tips on How to Foster a Growth Mindset“How did we end up here?” “Why am I always yelling at my kids?!” “I don’t know how to fix my marriage.” If you’ve found yourself thinking or saying something like this, then, Linda, listen in to today’s episode. You’ll walk away with some practical tools and tips that will help you shift your mindset and choose new ways. Our thoughts are powerful, but God’s Word is even more so! Grab your coffee and let me sit with you as we learn together. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so...2021-03-1320 min

The Jar Podcast | Dignity, Restored, Marriage, Healing, Forgiveness#1 My "Why": Letting Light Shine Out of My Darkness"Damaged goods"? or "Redeemed"? Whose voice are you listening to, and how do you view yourself? I've felt shame and pain, but as real as my feelings were, they weren't reliable. The truth is, we are not abandoned, in despair, or beyond redemption. NOTHING is beyond Him. Come listen to find out what treasure we hold and how it empowers us to recognize and walk in our identity in Christ. Loads of Love, Lydia --> SUBSCRIBE so you don't miss a show --> Leave a 5-star rating & written...2021-03-0607 min