Lyschel Burket - Podcast Details

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Hope For Wives When She Endures BlameLyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com with special guest, Cat Etherington, nakedtruthproject.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, Cat, Lyschel and I are tackling the very relevant topic of self-blame and victim-blaming. These are common responses to betrayal and trauma, and blame distorts the truth of what's really happening.In this episode, we'll look at why people blame themselves, why others sometimes shift blame onto victims, and how these patterns affect healing. By raising awareness, we can challenge harmful narratives and move to...

2025-11-0428 min

Hope For Wives When is it time? A divorce conversation with Kim PetroniWith your co-hostesses: Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Lyschel and divorce coach, Kim Petroni, take advantage of time together at a conference to explore the question, "When do you know it's time to move toward divorce?" We Will be Discussing: 1. When do you know it's time to let the marriage go? 2. As a divorced woman, how do you see God's love for you? Resources mentioned in this show: Y...

2025-08-2619 min

Hope For Wives Identifying Covert Spiritual and Emotional Abuse with Natalie Hoffman (2/2)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we continue our discussion with Natalie Hoffman. Natalie is the author of, "Is it Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman's Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual abuse," and "All the Scary Little Gods." She's also the host of the Flying Free Podcast. She is a passionate advocate for Christian women in abusive homes and churches. Through the Fly...

2025-05-2040 min

Hope For Wives Grief and Global Support with Cat Etherington (part 1)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Cat Etherington is the Director of Recovery for Naked Truth Project, an international Christian charity opening eyes and freeing lives from the damaging impacts of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviours. We Will be Discussing: The importance of grief in the recovery process. What happens if you try to skip the grief process? What grief does the betrayer experience? How do you...

2025-04-0822 min

Hope For Wives Exploring Forgiveness (2/2)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, we are concluding our discussion around the tender topic of forgiveness after betrayal. We Will be Discussing: What about when we are reminded from Matthew 6:14-15,"For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins?" What about intellectual forgiveness vers...

2025-02-2724 min

Hope For Wives Exploring Forgiveness (1/2)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, we are moving solidly into the second phase of healing by discussing all the ramifications of forgiveness. We Will be Discussing: What are some definitions of forgiveness? What are some myths about forgiveness? Resources mentioned in this show: What is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure? Full Therapeutic Disclosure (part 2) Scripture references:

2025-02-2526 min

Hope For Wives Overcoming Shame of Female Sexuality with Dr. Christy BaumanWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, we continue our discussion with Dr. Christy Bauman. Christy is an author, teacher and psychotherapist. A mother of 4, fierce dreamer and passionate about advocating for women. Christy received her Bachelors degree in Communication at Texas A&M in 2002 and then her Masters in Counseling at Reformed Theological Seminary in 2007. She published the book Unearth in 2008, A Brave Lament in 2018, and Her Rites in 2024. She...

2025-02-1119 min

Hope For Wives The Female Birthright with Dr. Christy BaumanWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, we are talking with Dr. Christy Bauman about the female body, sexuality, and theology with the added layer of trauma. Christy is an author, teacher and psychotherapist. A mother of 4, fierce dreamer and passionate about advocating for women. Christy received her Bachelors degree in Communication at Texas A&M in 2002 and then her Masters in Counseling at Reformed Theological Seminary in 2007. She published the...

2025-02-0426 min

Hope For Wives More Relational Safety with Matthew and Joanna RaabsmithWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, we are continuing our conversation around relational safety with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. From their website, "It is a privilege that we get to use our experience, training, and talents to help others find what they have been desperately searching for: safe and supportive relationships which empowers them to not just survive, but thrive. Our growing team represents a community of dedicated professionals who passionately pur...

2025-01-2827 min

Hope For Wives Relational Safety with Matthew and Joanna RaabsmithWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, we discuss the very important topic of relational safety with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith. From their website, "It is a privilege that we get to use our experience, training, and talents to help others find what they have been desperately searching for: safe and supportive relationships which empowers them to not just survive, but thrive. Our growing team represents a community of dedicated professionals who pas...

2025-01-2233 min

Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS She Needs a Relapse Plan, Too with Lyschel BurketNo one wants to prepare for a storm or consider the necessary steps to get to safety. Yet most would say they have a fire escape plan in their home for such an emergency. Most couples solely rely on the betraying partner’s relapse plan to find stabilization and repair. In the interview with Lyschel Burket, she invites betrayed partners to consider a plan for themselves in the aftermath of a slip or relapse. A plan allows the betrayed partner to find personal strength apart from the betraying partner's strength in order to navigate the storm. ...

2025-01-1051 min

Hope For Wives Experiencing Christmas WellWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today we discuss the upcoming Christmas season and how to, "Experiencing Christmas Well." We Will be Discussing: What are some things you navigated or things you've heard you clients navigate during Christmas while trying to heal from betrayal? What are some ways you or your clients have navigated Christmas and found peace? What hope would you like to leave our listeners? ...

2024-12-1248 min

Hope For Wives Attachment Styles and Healing with Stacey SmithWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are talking with Stacey Smith, Chief Clinical Officer at Daring Ventures, about attachment and its role in healing. Stacey is an EMDR Certified Therapist and a Trainer for The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) Multi-Dimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). In this 4-Day training she teaches coaches and clinicians how to ethically treat partners of sex addicts who are suff...

2024-12-0348 min

Hope For Wives Helping Faith Communities Navigate Betrayal with Dr. Barb SteffensWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, we are approaching another type of betrayal we hear far too often from women navigating their healing journey, being missed when going to their community of faith after betrayal. We thought we would approach this conversation a little differently and encourage faith communities. Many of us don't know what we don't know. When we learn and know better we can do better. Dr. Barb Steffens is jo...

2024-11-2654 min

Hope For Wives Revisiting Therapeutic SeparationWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: In episode 12, we first explored the concept of therapeutic or healing separations. Since two years has passed since we published that episode, we want to revisit this topic and share a little more around a couple of questions. We Will be Discussing: She kicked him out in the heat of the moment and now she wants to transform the separation into therapeutic, what wou...

2024-11-1436 min

Hope For Wives Stay Shame and Go Shame with Kathy Reynolds (2/2)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, Lyschel and Kathy Reynolds, APSATS-cpc/PSAP, finish their discussion around the shame a wife experiences, whether she stays or goes. We Will be Discussing: What about stay shame? What if your decision changes? What hope can we offer our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Recalibrate Coaching Services with Kathy and Conrad Reynolds Serenity Prayer...

2024-11-0530 min

Hope For Wives Stay Shame and Go Shame with Kathy Reynolds (1/2)Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, Lyschel and Kathy Reynolds are talking about the shame a wife experiences, whether she stays or goes. Kathy is our special guest today! Her training under renowned professionals such as Dr. Barbara Steffens and Dr. Jake Porter has equipped her with expertise in the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model and the Couple-Centered Recovery Model. She also holds certification as a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP) through the...

2024-10-2931 min

Hope For Wives About Boulder Recovery with Crystal Botero-RandWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are talking with Crystal Botero-Rand and her work supporting partners whose husbands are attending Boulder Recovery, 14-Day healing intensive. Crystal lives in the Chicago suburbs with her husband Jon. She is a betrayal trauma coach, trained through the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS). She group coaches the wives/partners of men undergoing intensives at Boulder Recovery, a Chri...

2024-10-2347 min

Hope For Wives When Your Story Involves Same-Sex Attraction (part 2 - with guest, Vicki Tiede)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are continuing our discussion with Vicki Tiede. Vicki is a certified APSATS partner coach whose specialty is walking with wives who have same sex attraction in their story with their sexually addicted spouse. Vicki is a betrayal trauma recovery coach, speaker, and the author of "When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography: Healing Your Wounded Heart." Vicki has a passion for...

2024-10-1514 min

Husband Material How Women Heal From Sexual Betrayal Trauma (with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket)What are the 3 phases of healing from sexual betrayal? In part 2 of our series with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket, you'll get a helpful overview of the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). You'll also learn the difference between forgiveness vs. reconciliation vs. trust and how to avoid "good boy syndrome" while working on rebuilding trust.Dr. Barbara Steffens is the founding president of APSATS, the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists. She has specialized in providing help for the partners of sexual addicts since 1999. Dr. Steffens is a recognized expert in the field, and...

2024-10-1442 min

Hope For Wives When Your Story Involves Same-Sex Attraction (part 1 - with guest, Vicki Tiede)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are talking through a specific betrayal for many women. Over the course of the 10+ years I have been walking through betrayal stories with other women, many have a story that includes Same Sex Attraction. During discovery or disclosure women learn that their husband has been acting out with men or viewing same sex pornography. Typically, we approach our topics with a broad stro...

2024-10-0840 min

Husband Material When A Wife Discovers Her Husband's Porn (with Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket)What happens to the brain and body of a wife who discovers her husband's relationship with porn? This is part 1 of our 2 part series on the trauma of sexual betrayal taught by Dr. Barbara Steffens and Lyschel Burket. You'll learn why wives react the way they do, how to tell the difference between wives expressing anger vs. engaging in abusive behavior, how to set appropriate boundaries while practicing empathy, and what wives really want from their husbands in the healing process (VOWS). This teaching is absolutely brilliant. Take notes!Dr. Barbara Steffens is the founding president of...

2024-10-0734 min

Hope For Wives Coupleship Recovery: Grieving Together With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are discussing and important piece of coupleship recovery, grieving together. We Will be Discussing: What place does grief have in trauma healing? What place does grief have in coupleship healing? What are some practical tips or suggestions to help couples understand mourning and grieving as a couple? Resources mentioned in this show: Episode 15: Full Ther...

2024-09-1020 min

Hope For Wives Staying Sane When He AvoidsWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Before we get started, we just want to make sure to say that we are not licensed therapists. We are ethically credentialled coaches. As coaches, we pick up on patterns. One of the patterns we see in recovering couples is that the person with problematic sexual behavior exhibit being avoidant of connecting with his wif...

2024-09-0324 min

Hope For Wives Practical Ways to Lift Your Self-EsteemWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are continuing our discussion around how trauma negatively impacts our self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth. We are going to explore ways to gain the confidence you lost after discovery and empower yourselves in truth. We Will be Discussing: What are some ways you personally found your way to empowerment? What are some other practical tools we can offer our listeners in ord...

2024-08-2724 min

Hope For Wives Why and How Self-Esteem Plummets after DiscoveryWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: Today, we are discussing why and how a betrayed partner's self-esteem decreases after discovery. Self-esteem is your sense of overall personal worth or value. Similar to self-respect, it describes your level of confidence in your abilities and attributes. One of the criteria for post traumatic stress in the DSM-5 is "Persistent and exaggerated negative beliefs or expectations about oneself, others, or the world." So, it makes...

2024-08-2029 min

Hope For Wives Navigating Insensitive Friends and FamilyWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Listen now: We are continuing our exploration of how to navigate when friends or family in this episode. Today, we are sharing practical tools and tips when friends and family are unintentionally insensitive to complexities of pain involved in betrayal from sex addiction. We Will be Discussing: What can a betrayed wife put in place or think about before she interacts with friends and...

2024-08-1329 min

Hope For Wives The Reality of Insensitive Friends and FamilyWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation We Will be Discussing: Today, we are exploring the reality of the insensitivity of some friends or family to complexities of pain involved in betrayal from sex addiction. What are some experiences either you or your clients have shared regarding insensitive friends and family? Why is this kind of situation so uncomfortable? What hope can we leave? Resources mentioned in this show: Visit episode 68's...

2024-07-2318 min

Hope For Wives Practicals of Staying in Option CWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Support HFW through a donation Today, Lyschel and Bonny continue the discussion, because Pam is away with other obligations, about Option C. We talk about staying well through choice, change, the complexities, and Christ. We Will be Discussing: How do we stay well in Option C? What if she starts to feel hopeless? What hope can we leave? Resources mentioned in this show: "Do I Stay Well or L...

2024-07-1623 min

Hope For Wives What is Option C?With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: Today, we are discussing what it means to stay while waiting in the hallway between pre-discovery and true solid recovery in the betrayer. Option C includes choice, change, complexity, and Christ. We Will be Discussing: What is Option A and Option B? What is Option C? What hope can we leave? Resources: https://leslievernick.com/blog/do-i-stay-well-or-leave-well/...

2024-07-0924 min

Hope For Wives How Religious Leaders Can Serve Betrayed Couples WellWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: Lyschel and Pam had other obligations, so I, Bonny will be speaking with a special guest today – Dr. Barb Steffens! Barb is the retired founder of the association of partners of sex addicts trauma specialists, or APSATS. APSATS was a response to her empirically supported work that betrayed partners are traumatized by the discovery of their spouses problematic sexual behavior and should be suppor...

2024-06-1139 min

Hope For Wives The Reality of Marital RapeWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: We are continuing to tenderly discussing sexual abuse in marriage and today we are moving into the intense end of the spectrum and will be talking about marital rape. So, again, we invite you to check in with yourself. Are you in a grounded enough place to listen to this conversation? If you are not, please come back another time and listen. If you choose to stay...

2024-06-0421 min

Hope For Wives Consent and Sexual CoercionWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: The next two episodes we are tenderly discussing topics around sexual abuse in marriage. So, we invite you to assess whether you are in a grounded enough state to listen to this conversation. If you are not, please come back another time and listen. If you choose to stay, please take some grounding breaths and hold yourself in compassion and love, knowing Jesus is sitting with you right now. It's hard to consider that...

2024-05-2837 min

Hope For Wives When He Is Frustrated With Her Slow Healing Process With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: We often work with women who experience a lack of understanding from their husbands on what it takes to heal from sexual betrayal trauma. So, today, we are discussing, "When the husband is frustrated with her slow healing process." We Will be Discussing: Let's revisit the definition and experience of betrayal trauma. What are the definitions and how betrayal trauma impacts a woman's functioning? How...

2024-05-2143 min

Hope For Wives 3 More Keys to Coupleship RecoveryWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: If you've been with us from the beginning, or have binged us up until this point, you'll know that we have purposely laid out content to follow a trajectory from first discovery, through safety and stability, grief and mourning, and at some point we will move through post-traumatic growth. The past episode and this one deal with coupleship recovery and lands in the spa...

2024-05-1442 min

Hope For Wives 3 Keys to Coupleship RecoveryWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: Pam and Bonny discuss 3 Keys to Coupleship Recovery – Safety/stability, Prioritizing the Relationship, and Radical Honesty. We Will be Discussing: What would you like couples to know about safety and stability? What does it mean to prioritize the relationship? What's the definition of Radical Honesty and how does it play out? What hope can we leave our listeners?

2024-04-3036 min

Hope For Wives So What, Lord?With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: Today, Lyschel and Bonny discuss, "So What, Lord?" or, "Prove it, Lord." This isn't our typical episode. It's a conversation as Lyschel shares a devotional she recently connected with on a deeper level and wants to share with you. We Will be Discussing: What attribute of God has meaning for the emotions in our story. What does a praise party look like? What hope can we leave our...

2024-04-2337 min

Hope For Wives Faulty Messages and the TruthWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Help Us Help Others Listen now: Today, we are discussing faulty messages women have received from church or society's teachings and how these teachings have impacted betrayed wives. Proverbs 31:8-9 in the message says, "Speak up for the people who have no voice, for the rights of the down-and-outers. Speak up for justice, for the poor and needy!" That's what this episode is about, giving you words and a voic...

2024-04-1636 min

Hope For Wives Episode 57: Make Time to Heal with Kids and Career with Casey Allison 2/2With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Today, we are continuing our discussion around, "How to Make Time for Healing." In the last episode, we walked through how she can care for herself through the first phase of healing, safety and stability. Our incredible guest, Casey Allison, is back with us today! In our questions now, we will focus on the second stage of healing, remembering and mourning. We Will be Discussing: 1.What are some experiences busy...

2024-03-1925 min

Hope For Wives Episode 56: Make Time to Heal with Kids and Career with Casey AllisonWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Today, we are discussing how to make time for healing, especially when you are a busy, maybe you're a mom with a full-time career, or a woman who runs her own small business, or a woman who has a passion for volunteering. We Will be Discussing: What are some experiences busy women have when first discovery rocks her world? What are some first steps for her to consider to move tow...

2024-03-1329 min

Hope For Wives Episode 55: Divorce Care with Kim Hansen PetroniWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Today, Lyschel has a conversation with Kim Hansen Petroni around the question of divorce. Kim is an APSATS certified partner coach and has experienced divorce. She is in the process of becoming a certified divorce coach. We Will be Discussing: What should a wife ask herself when she's struggling around the decision of divorce? What about the tension between the grief/the emotions and the next right thing? Wha...

2024-03-0537 min

Hope For Wives Episode 54: How Do I Know I'm Healing? (2/2)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Today, Pam and I are finishing our conversation around "How Do I Know That I'm Healing." (Lyschel still isn't with us, but she will be back soon! We have a practical conversation, about things you can do to assess are you healing or stuck? We Will be Discussing: What can she practically do to help her move forward in her healing and recovery? What hope can we leave our listeners? R...

2024-02-2729 min

Hope For Wives Episode 53: How Do I Know I'm Healing? (1/2)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Today, Pam and I are discussing, "How Do I Know I'm Healing?" (Lyschel isn't here because she is taking a very small sabbatical because her plate is very full at the moment. She will be back soon, promise! I know we will all miss her!) Back to our topic, "How Do I Know I'm healing?" sometimes, in the worst of the pain or when we have a day full of triggers it can...

2024-02-2021 min

Hope For Wives Episode 52: When He Keeps Lying (2/2) With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today we are continuing our discussion around, "When Your Husband Keeps Lying," adding practical tools to care for yourself while navigating continued deception. So, the scenario is, she keeps discovering his deception (and possibly it is not deception about his acting out behaviors, it can be deception about anything), whether it's through words or actions. We Will be Discussing: What are some things she should ask herself? What are some practical strategies to help her...

2024-02-1333 min

Hope For Wives Episode 51: When He Keeps Lying (1/2) With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today we discuss, "When Your Husband Keeps Lying." We understand that experiencing constant deception is not only emotionally exhausting, but can keep us in a state of complex trauma. . We Discuss: Let's talk about what women are desiring when it comes to honesty in their marriage relaitonship. What is complex trauma and how does continual deception promote it? What hope can we leave? Resources Episode 6: Boundaries for Partners of People with Unwant...

2024-02-0624 min

Hope For Wives Episode 50: The Betrayed Family with Jessica Eidens (2/2) With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, Bonny continues her conversation with Jessica Eidens, a betrayed families specialist. We Discuss: How does a betrayed partner (wife) navigate when the person with SA has been objectifying their own child (not in a physical manner, just in the brain). What does a healthy family in recovery look like? What hope can we leave our friends? Resources You can find Jessica through her practice's website: https://www.eidenstherapy.com/j...

2024-01-3030 min

Hope For Wives Episode 49: The Betrayed Family with Jessica Eidens (1/2) With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Our previous episode, "What about the kids?" is one of our most downloaded episodes. This tells us there is a need for more insight and understanding around how problematic sexual behavior affects the family. So, today, I'd like to welcome Jessica Eidens, a betrayed families specialist. We Discuss: What are the red flags children exhibit from the dynamics of a marriage in conflict over problematic sexual behavior? What are some tool...

2024-01-2341 min

Hope For Wives Episode 48: Your Healing is Not Dependent on His Recovery (2/2) With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we continue our discussion around how a wife can heal even when her husband is not in good emotional and behavioral health, yet. We will be focusing on practical tools and ideas you can use to care for yourself and move into personal growth in spite of her husband's lag in recovery. We Discuss: Why should a wife focus on herself in this season? What are some ways a wife can care for hers...

2024-01-1616 min

Hope For Wives Episode 47: Your Healing is Not Dependent on His Recovery (1/2) With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com In today's episode, we are discussing how your healing is not dependent on your husband's recovery. This conversation has wives in mind that have been on this road for several years now and there is still a good bit of relational conflict in the marriage. In our next episode, we will talk about practical tools you can consider to care for yourself while he is still moving toward solid emotional health. For today, we are talking about...

2024-01-0932 min

Hope For Wives Episode 46: Navigating the Holidays after Betrayal With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com With the holidays right around the corner, we talk about how to navigate this season that can be tricky for betrayed wives. We Discuss: What makes the holidays hard to navigate after a recent discovery? What are some practical tools for finding stability and sanity during a holiday season? What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: True Cotton Etsy Store The Huberman Lab: The Science of Gratitude and...

2023-11-2825 min

Hope For Wives Episode 45: Sobriety Is Not Enough (part 2) With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we continue our discussion of how sobriety isn't enough to build a mutually connected relationship in marriage. We Discuss: What can a wife do to help him in his recovery? What are some practical tools a wife can implement if her husband is sober and still displaying dysfunctional ways of coping and relating to others? What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned in this show: Clarity and Peace thro...

2023-11-2133 min

Hope For Wives Episode 44: Sobriety Is Not Enough (part 1) Help Us Help Others With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we unpack recovery just a little more. In episode 35 we had an insightful discussion with Dr. Jake Porter about the three legged stool of recovery - her recovery, his self-discovery, and the coupleships relational repair and growth. We are calling this episode sobriety isn't enough because we are exploring a wife's experience with a husband who may be sober but is not in a space of self-discovery. We Discu...

2023-11-1429 min

Hope For Wives Episode 43: Neurodivergent Couples with Shawna MeekWith: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today: We have our special friend back, Shawna Meek. She shares her own recovery journey and wisdom/training around neurodivergent couples. "Here's what my husband would say, 'Neurodivergence is not an excuse. It's an insight,'" Shawna Meek. We discuss: What is neurodiversity? What are some common concerns in neurodiverse couples' dynamics? What are some of the challenges a neurodiverse couple will face? How does a couple go around getting te...

2023-11-0754 min

Hope For Wives Episode 42: Sexual Reintegration After BetrayalPam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are continuing the discussion around sexual experience for wives healing form betrayal. Sexual intimacy is a part of a healthy marriage. However, how can a wife want to engage sexually after infidelity or betrayal. We discuss: Let's talk about what a wife should ask herself before considering whether to engage sexually with her husband in recovery? What hope can we leave our listeners? Resources mentioned: Disclaimer: The following recommendation was written for the general pop...

2023-10-3117 min

Hope For Wives Episode 41: Sexual Identity Rupture after BetrayalPam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com TRIGGER WARNING. This content may be trigger your threat response. Please use your self-compassion and decide whether this is right for you to hear at this time. NOT SAFE FOR SMALL EARS. Please wear your ear buds for privacy and to protect small ones. Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Today, we are discussing a very important topic, the impact sexual betrayal has on a wife's sexuality. We Will be Discussing: What is a sexual iden...

2023-10-2432 min

Hope For Wives Episode 40: Dear Pastor (part 2)Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are continuing our conversation around the church's response to betrayal trauma, sex addiction, and sexual issues in marriage. Last episode we shared stories of churches that have responded well and churches that responded poorly. We finish this topic by brainstorming solutions for the leadership of churches to consider in this vulnerable and tender area of sex and betrayal. We Discuss: What would you tell Pastors about the consequence problematic porn viewing has on the husband? Wha...

2023-10-1721 min

Hope For Wives Episode 39: Dear Pastor (part 1)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are diving into a hard conversation. How can the church better navigate walking with wives trying to heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, husbands struggling with problematic sexual behavior, and couples presenting with sexual problems? We are engaging in this conversation to help you have richer understanding of this complicated plague of pornography and the fall-out it has on the wives and families of men struggling with problematic sexual behavior. "Do t...

2023-10-1041 min

Hope For Wives Episode 38: The Growth of Recovery (part 2)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are continuing our discussion around the "work of recovery" for the wife overcoming the impact of sexual betrayal. Last episode we generally defined what it means to work out our recovery and what it looks like in the days immediately following discovery. In this episode, let's discuss what recovery work entails when we are further down the healing path? "Grief is a luxury for the brain that knows it's safe," Dr. Jake Porter. We D...

2023-10-0324 min

Hope For Wives Episode 37: What is the Work of Recovery (part 1)?Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are discussing the "work of recovery." For ladies who have newly discovered their husbands' sexually problematic behavior, the idea that they can somehow heal from this intolerable devastation seems impossible. As they contemplate this, the question, "What is the work of recovery?" often comes up. We Discuss: 1, So, ladies, let's generally define, "The work of recovery," concept. 2. Now, let's talk about what this work looks like in the days immediately following discovery. 3. Wha...

2023-09-2626 min

Hope For Wives Episode 36: Reconnecting with Your Intuition After BetrayalPam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are discussing intuition or gut instinct. Intuition is a type of unconscious reasoning. For example, when I have a hunch that it's better to avoid the highway today when I run my errands, that's intuition. It oftentimes disappears after a discovery or disclosure because trauma can block intuition for a time. Typically, women are tuned into their intuition and when it goes offline we can feel that everything is unsafe, even when it is not. This is a sca...

2023-09-1933 min

Hope For Wives Episode 35: A Recovery Conversation with Dr. Jake PorterPam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com We are so excited that, today, Dr. Jake Porter is joining our candid conversation. Jake is the founder of Daring Ventures and is both an APSATS certified clinical partner specialist and a CSAT (among other things). Our discussion with Jake, today, revolves around what recovery looks like. We all know that recovery is the goal for a marriage trying to heal from problematic sexual behavior. However, recovery is an elusive entity. I get asked all the time, "What does...

2023-09-1247 min

Hope For Wives Episode 34: How Do We Navigate or Heal From Cognitive Distortions?Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are continuing our discussion around cognitive distortions. How do we navigate or overcome them as we grow and heal? There are over 13 common cognitive distortions that we navigate over and over in daily thoughts. CDs are important to understand because they can negatively affect our emotions and choices. They can keep us stuck and interfere with our ability to set boundaries, gain self awareness, and live in community. We are bringing this to our listeners today bec...

2023-09-0518 min

Hope For Wives Episode 33: Why Are Cognitive Distortions Important to Understand When Healing from Betrayal Trauma?With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Today, we are discussing Cognitive Distortions. There are over 13 common cognitive distortions that we navigate over and over in daily thoughts. CDs are important to understand because they can negatively affect our emotions and choices. They can keep us stuck and interfere with our ability to set boundaries, gain self awareness, and live in community. We are bringing this to our listeners today bec...

2023-08-2931 min

Gentle Path Project Ep. 23 - Hope Redefined - ft. Lyschel BurketJoin Austin and special guest Lyschel Burket as they talk about betrayal trauma and what spouses of sex addicts go through in their own Recovery journey. You can find out more about Lyschel and access resources for spouses by visiting https://hoperedefined.org/. Support the showNew episodes every other Monday! Learn more at gentlepathproject.com. Follow us on Instagram, Facebook & TikTok!

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Hope For Wives Episode 32: What She Wants to Know About His Thought LifeWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Since we know that many spouses in recovery are listening to our podcast, today we are talking to you. We are continuing the discussion around, "How to share my recovery work with my spouse?" This is sometimes tricky to navigate as balance is needed between oversharing and possibly triggering her, and undersharing or just appearing to check boxes and not truly have your hea...

2023-08-2233 min

Hope For Wives Episode 31: What She Wants to Know About His Recovery Work With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Since we know that many spouses in recovery are listening to our podcast, today we are talking to you. We are discussing, "How to share my recovery work with my spouse?" This is sometimes tricky to navigate as balance is needed between oversharing and possibly triggering her, and undersharing or just appearing to check boxes and not truly have your heart in it....

2023-08-1524 min

Hope For Wives Episode 30: Practical Ways to Navigate the Emotional Roller CoasterWith Your Co-Hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Today we are continuing our discussion around the emotional roller coaster nearly all betrayed wives experience after discovering sexual betrayal in their marriage. We explore practical, real life ways to surf the wave of these intense feelings. As always, we share from our professional and personal experience. We Will be Discussing: What are some practical ways to navigate the intense roller coaster of emotions? Resources mentioned in this show:...

2023-08-0826 min

Hope For Wives Episode 29: The Roller Coaster of Emotions (part 1)With Your Co-Hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Today we are discussing the emotional roller coaster nearly all betrayed wives experience after discovering sexual betrayal in their marriage. These intense emotions aren't due to triggers, which we've recently explored on some previous episode. What we are going to focus on today are the random waves of big emotions that seem to flood us out of nowhere. We Will be Discussing: Why are we on such an emotional roller coa...

2023-08-0119 min

Hope For Wives Episode 28: Spectrum of TriggersWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are finalizing our conversation around the more nuanced aspects of triggers. We Will be Discussing: What are the spectrum of triggers? What about when someone else in her world is triggered? Resources mentioned in this show: Intimate Deception by Dr. Sheri Keffer Hope For Wives Episode 11: What are triggers? How to navigate them? Scripture references: Psalm 16:1-11 Help Us Hel...

2023-07-2524 min

Hope For Wives Episode 27: Hidden Wounds Under TriggersWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are further exploring triggers. We talked about triggers last season in episode 11. Our discussion now will include the sneaky aspect of triggers, more subtle effects. Triggers are annoying and tend to stick around longer than we want them, too. I often hear how my clients are exhausted from the triggers. We Will be Discussing: Will triggers ever end? What are your thoughts around Dr. Sheri Keffer's quote that says, "Under eve...

2023-07-1815 min

Hope For Wives Episode 26: Coming Out Of Denial (part 2) Welcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Listen now: Today, we continue our discussion around denial (or betrayal blindness) and how to navigate the big emotions that surface when denial starts to dissipate. We Will be Discussing: What happens when she is starting to see reality and come after denial? What's the plan out of the darkness? What grace/hope can we offer our listeners around denial? And...

2023-07-1117 min

Hope For Wives Episode 25: What's up with denial (part 1)?With your Co-Hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Welcome to Season 2: At Hope For Wives where we acknowledge the devastation of sexual betrayal and infidelity while offering practical insight and hope for healing, all through a Christian lens. We also hope you'll find some joy through laughter in spite of our serious subject. Pam, Lyschel, and I are returning to the recording studio from a 6 month hiatus which was loudly protested by many of our precious listeners. We heard you! and We also want to mod...

2023-07-0423 min

Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS The Unexpected Gift of Betrayal: Friendship, with Lyschel Burket and Dr. Jake PorterThe aftermath of betrayal can put all of our relationships into question. Secrecy, confusion, fear of judgement, and shame can lead to the loss of long time relationships as a woman sorts through her pain and tries to make sense of her reality. Join us as we talk with Lyschel Burket, Lead Hope Caster for Hope Redefined and podcast co-host for Hope For Wives. She will talk about the unexpected gift that comes when we are able to find community that can walk in the mud with us in this particular season. Suddenly they become new friends that were v...

2023-03-0250 min

Hope For Wives Episode 24: What about the kids?With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are discussing a very tender and complicated topic. What is appropriate to disclose to your children about your husband's problematic sexual behavior? We want to remind you that we are not therapists, we are coaches. We will be giving you what we understand as best practices. You can reach out to us for further discussion, or you can contact a licensed therapist who is APSATS certified to explore this topic. The lin...

2022-12-0532 min

Hope For Wives Episode 23: How to Navigate Anger ResponsiblyWelcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are discussing how to handle anger in a responsible way. Anger is a part of our make-up as human beings and God put it there. God, himself, displays anger throughout the Bible. Anger is a part of the threat response when we face a traumatic experience. We either fight, flee or freeze. That fight part is anger. Anger is also a p...

2022-11-0939 min

Hope For Wives Episode 22: The Secret of Values-Based Boundaries and How to Figure Out Your ValuesWelcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are discussing values. Values are a person's beliefs that motivate the way they behave and live out their life. They are also a guide for your behavior. What are your definition of values? What are our personal two top values and why? How can a betrayed wife start to figure out what her values are? How are knowing your top values important for establishing boundaries? B...

2022-11-0131 min

Hope For Wives Episode 21: Listener Questions - Boundaries and Why do I stay?Welcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are answering two questions that have been submitted to us in the recent months. The questions are: Can you give me some examples of boundaries and consequences? I really do not feel co-dependent. So, can you please answer why I want to stay and make this marriage work? Books mentioned: Boundaries: When to Say Yes and How to Say No and...

2022-10-1934 min

Hope For Wives Episode 20: Healing from the Impact of Sexual Betrayal Through GriefWelcome to Hope For Wives. With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today we are discussing how grief plays a part in our healing from the impact of sexual betrayal. As I've mentioned in previous podcasts, when the main person in your life betrays you, he murders the trust you had in him. Neurologically, your brain does not know the difference between the death of a person and the death of trust. So, the same process that brings about hea...

2022-10-0542 min

Hope For Wives Episode 19: Restoring Trust With GodWelcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we finish our discussion revolving around trust. How do I restore trust with God? This may sound a little different as we are having more of a conversation than just answering questions. We will be discussing: Our personal experiences with loss of trust with God Is it okay not to trust God? How do we hear women talk about their lack of t...

2022-09-2033 min

Hope For Wives Episode 18: How Will I Ever Trust My Partner, Again?Welcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are continuing our discussion around trust. Our specific topic is, "How do I ever trust My partner, again? How will I ever trust that he loves me, will protect me, won't do this to me again. If I were hurting and sick how do I trust he won't abandon me?" We share some of our personal experiences in losing trust with our husbands What do we...

2022-09-0638 min

Hope For Wives Episode 17: Trusting Yourself Again After DiscoveryWelcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are beginning a series of discussions about Trust. Trust is defined as an assured reliance, or firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. After discovery, typically, a betrayed partner feels a loss of trust in any or all of the following areas: With yourself, your spouse, with others around us, and God. Our firs...

2022-08-2428 min

Hope For Wives Episode 16: Full Therapeutic Disclosure (Part 2)With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Today we extend our discussion around Full Therapeutic Disclosure. We explore some myths around Full Therapeutic Disclosures. We also talk about preparation work and post after-care typically looks. We will be discussing: Myths around Full Therapeutic Disclosure What preparation work looks like for the betrayed partner and the truth teller. What after-care looks like for the betrayed partner and the truth teller.

2022-08-1040 min

Hope For Wives Episode 15: Full Therapeutic DisclosureWelcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Welcome to another episode of Hope for Wives. Today, we are discussing Full Therapeutic Disclosure. In the Pyramid of Intimacy, the foundational piece of any relationship is honesty and truth. The full therapeutic disclosure includes many parts, not just the sharing of truth. Overall, it is a guided process usually led by trained professionals who will help couples get to a level playing field of...

2022-07-2749 min

Hope For Wives Episode 14: Is it a Struggle, a Compulsion, or an Addiction?Welcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we're going to do something a little different. We are inviting some of our professional male colleagues to share on the topic of, "Is it a struggle, a compulsion, or an addiction?" The root of this topic comes from questions we get most often, "Do I really need a group when he is just struggling?" Or, "My husband refuses to call it an addiction." W...

2022-07-1323 min

Hope For Wives Episode 13: Group Support and Why It Is ImportantWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Welcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Today, we are discussing why support groups are important for women overcoming sexual betrayal. For over 50 years support groups have been empirically supported as a place of healing for trauma survivors. Groups offer partners an opportunity to connect with other partners who really get it because they have been through very similar experiences. Groups help ease partners' emotional stress, including feelings of isolation, loneliness, depression, helplessness and hopelessness. Groups...

2022-06-2934 min

Hope For Wives Episode 12: Therapeutic or Healing SeparationWelcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. Today we are discussing therapeutic separation otherwise known as a healing separation. What are some myths about therapeutic or healing separation? In your personal story, what role did therapeutic separation play, if any? What are some practical thoughts or suggestions for our listeners in regards to therapeutic separation? How can we offer hope to our listeners when it comes to therapeutic separation? Recovered Peace (Pam Blizzard) - Boundaries Group Hope Redefined (Lyschel Burket) - Online Support Strong Wives (Bonny Burns) - To be n...

2022-06-1634 min

Hope For Wives Episode 11: What are Triggers? With Practical Ideas for Navigating ThemWelcome to another episode of Hope For Wives. With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we will be discussing, Trauma Triggers. A trigger is an event that rings an alarm bell that sends our body into fight, flight, or, freeze response. sense of safety to evaporate. You may experience the consequence of a trigger as a flashback, panic attack, intense of emotions, feelings of anxiety and/or grief. These are common to the betrayal trauma experience. How have trig...

2022-06-0130 min

The Daily Grace Podcast Pornography: Can My Marriage Recover with Lyschel BurketThis is the last episode in our series on pornography, and this week Shelby is joined this week by Lyschel Burket. Lyschel is the founder of Hope Redefined. Lyschel has been working with women since 2008, as they take steps towards healing and their pursuit of God. She has facilitated support groups, specific to partners of sex addicts since 2013, both locally in Knoxville, Tennessee, and online through Vicki Tiede Ministries. We know that you are going to appreciate Lyschel’s vulnerability as she shares her story and provides practical wisdom on this topic. Come join us in this con...

2022-05-2448 min

Hope For Wives Episode 10: Listener Questions about the 90-Day Sex FastWith your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we are answering listener questions regarding the 90-Day Sex Fast for marriages overcoming the impact of sexual betrayal and trying to build a new sexually intimate life. We answer: Under what circumstances is the fast helpful and when might it be harmful/unnecessary? How does this differ from a betrayed partner who doesn't desire physical intimacy and needs boundaries to feel safe? What if we don't make it? Do we mess everything up? Doe...

2022-05-1715 min

Hope For Wives Episode 9: 90-Day Sex FastWith co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we discuss the intimacy building experience called the 90-Day Sex Fast. It is also known as the celibacy statement or plan. Many couples approach this as they step into their recovery journey. We want to start the conversation about what it is, how you navigate through it, and share some of our personal experiences. We explore these questions: What is the purpose of a 90 day sex fast for her...

2022-05-0435 min

Hope For Wives Episode 7: Acronyms, Terms, and Definitions Surrounding Betrayal, Sexual Addiction, and Couples RecoveryWith: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com Today, we talk through the acronyms, terms, and definitions surrounding the topics of betrayal, addiction, and couples recovery. We will specifically focus on the middle stages of discovery and healing. You may have heard our previous episode where we discussed the early stages of recovery. 1-3 years post disclosure/discovery. In a future episode, you will hear us share ac that are common in the later stages of healing.

2022-04-0528 min

Hope For Wives Episode 6: Boundaries for Partners of People with Sex Addiction or Unwanted Problematic Sexual BehaviorWelcome to Hope for Wives. With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from recoveredpeace.com Lyschel Burket from hoperedefined.org Bonny Burns from strongwives.com Today we are discussing how to build safety around ourselves when living with a person with problematic sexual behavior. This safety measure is oftentimes called boundaries. Boundaries are basically a way to ensure your personal values are respected. I repeat, Boundaries are basically a way to ensure your personal values are respected, in such things as sexual integrity. Recovered Peace Boundaries Quick Start Tip Sheet (Pam Blizzard) - Receive a Boundaries Quick Sta...

2022-03-2242 min

Hope For Wives Where is God in the Suffering of Sexual Betrayal Trauma?Welcome to Hope for Wives With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from RecoveredPeace.com Lyschel Burket from HopeRedefined.org Bonny Burns from StrongWives.com In coaching betrayed wives, we see that some betrayed partners lean into the Lord hard and some are tremendously angry at him. So, today, we are going to discuss suffering and God. Where is he in all of this? 1. Can you pick one moment where you saw God caring for you in your suffering as a betrayed partner? 2. Can you pick one moment whe...

2022-03-0836 min

Hope For Wives Episode 4: What is Relational Safety?Welcome to Hope for Wives. With your co-hostesses: Pam Blizzard from recoveredpeace.com Lyschel Burket from hoperedefined.org Bonny Burns from strongwives.com In Today's episode, we are going to discuss emotional or relational safety. What is it? How do you navigate it? How do you try to rebuild it? We Discuss What is relational or emotional safety to you? How is emotional or relational safety ruptured when one spouse has a sex addiction? How does a betrayed partner start to rebuild emotional safety? How can we offer hope to our listeners when it...

2022-02-2241 min