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The Safe Enough PodcastEp 22: ALWAYS Right About Your ExperienceThe critical ingredient that makes magical healing relationships, but is often missed. The last of a series of 3 episodes on working with healing providers.
2022-05-2313 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 21: Where Does That Leave You?When evaluation of you is inaccurate. The 2nd of a series of 3 episodes on working with healing providers.
2022-05-2309 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 20: You Must Be Right?Working with professional providers during a healing process is a tricky thing. What evaluation and assessment have to do with it. The 1st of a series of 3 episodes on working with healing providers.
Deepak Chopra The Book of Secrets
2022-05-2310 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 19: Without Safety There Can Be No LoveEveryone deserves genuine love, but you can’t do it without safety. How to bring safety into love. The 3rd of a series of 3 episodes on love.
Show Notes:
Lisa Feldman Barrett - How Emotions Are Made
bell hooks - all about love
The Polyvagal Theory
Additional episodes in this series:
Ep 17 - Love Is Not A Feeling
Ep 18 - Learning Loving
2022-02-0912 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 18: Learning LovingGenuine love requires learning how to put the intention into action. How to unlearn love as a feeling, and learn the “love ethic.” The 2nd of a series of 3 episodes on love.
Show Notes:
bell hooks - all about love
Additional episodes in this series:
Ep 17 - Love Is Not A Feeling
Ep 19 - Without Safety There Can Be No Love
2022-02-0915 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 17: Love Is Not A FeelingWhat if genuine love had nothing to do with a feeling? I propose a more concrete definition. The 1st of a series of 3 episodes on love.
Show Notes
M Scott Peck -The Road Less Travelled
bell hooks - all about love
Additional episodes in this series:
Ep 18 - Learning Loving
Ep 19 - Without Safety There Can Be No Love
2022-02-0916 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 16: How Reading Can Help You HealWhy reading, and consuming content, can be a tool for gently connecting with your body and creating a felt sense of safety. The 3rd of a series of 3 episodes on gentle ways to connect with your body.
Show Notes
FREE RESOURCE: My favorite books on body-based healing and transformation
Gabor Mate
The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Cracked Up: The Darrell Hammond Story
Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Judith Herman
In An Unspoken Voice: How The Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by...
2022-01-0820 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 15: How Journaling Can Help You HealHow a special kind of journaling can be a tool for gently connecting with your body and creating a felt sense of safety. The 2nd of a series of 3 episodes on gentle ways to connect with your body.
Show Notes:
FREE RESOURCE: 3 Journal Prompts For Gently Connecting With Your Body
The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron
2022-01-0812 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 14: How Movement Can Help You HealHow a special kind of movement can be a tool for gently connecting with your body and creating a felt sense of safety. The 1st of a series of 3 episodes on gentle ways to connect with your body.
Show Notes
Download Free Resource: This Movement Can Help You Gently Connect With Your Body
2021-12-2416 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 13: How To Grow Self-WorthHow do you grow your sense of worth and value? Some folks have higher amounts of self-worth, and some folks have lower amounts, so how do you grow yours? This is the 2nd of a 2 episode series on self-worth.
Brene Brown The Gifts of Imperfection
Brene Brown Braving The Wilderness
Stephen Porges The Polyvagal Theory
2021-12-0616 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 12: What Is Self-Worth?What is self-worth? Don't you need it first, in order to grow it? In this short 2 episode series on self-worth, I’ll be talking about what self-worth actually is, and how to grow it.
Brene Brown The Gifts of Imperfection
Online Etymology Dictionary - definition of worth
Online Etymology Dictionary - definition of value
Online Etymology Dictionary - definition of strength
2021-11-2522 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 11: It's All About You!What’s at the heart of safety when using a nervous system informed approach. This is the last of 4 episodes on the basics of feeling safe enough to heal and make changes towards a life that is full of love, connection, belonging and purpose.
The Polyvagal Theory via Stephen Porges
Maurice Merleau-Ponty
Other Episodes In Basics of Safety Series:
Ep 8: What Is Safety?
Ep 9: Beyond Trauma-Informed
Ep 10: All For Naught
2021-10-1310 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 10: All For NaughtAll about how to make real, lasting change in a way that is the most effective and also happens to be gentle. This is the 3rd of 4 episodes on the basics of feeling safe enough to heal and make changes towards a life that is full of love, connection, belonging and purpose.
The Polyvagal Theory via Dr Stephen Porges
The Polyvagal Theory via Deb Dana
Other Episodes In Basics of Safety Series:
Ep 8: What Is Safety?
Ep 9: Beyond Trauma-Informed
Ep 11: It's All About You!
2021-10-1316 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 9: Beyond Trauma-InformedWhy I think it’s time to go beyond trauma-informed approaches. This is the 2nd of 4 episodes on the basics of feeling safe enough to heal and make changes towards a life that is full of love, connection, belonging and purpose.
When The Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Dr Gabor Mate
Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse To Political Terror by Dr Judith Herman
Dr Bessel van der Kolk
The Gifts of Imperfection: To Let Go Of Who You Think You're Supposed To Be And Be Who You Are by Dr Bren...
2021-10-1319 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 8: What Is Safety?What is safety really? If we're going to talk about safety, we have to define what it is. This is the 1st in a series of 4 episodes on the basics of feeling safe enough to heal and make changes towards a life that is full of love, connection, belonging and purpose.
Dr Gabor Mate
Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence-From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror by Dr Judith Herman
Dr Stephen Porges
Cracked Up: The Darell Hammond Story
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go Of Who You Think You're Supposed To Be And Be Who You Are...
2021-10-1316 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 7: How Do You Make Relationships Fulfilling? (formerly The Felt Sense Podcast)In this final episode in the series on The Felt Sense and relating, I talk about how to have fulfilling relationships, because that’s really what we all crave!
Thomas Hanna book "Bodies In Revolt"
Ep 6: What You Can't "Just Let It Go"
Eugene (Gene) Gendlin
Dan Siegel - Interpersonal Neurobiology course
FREE workshop - Together: The Felt Sense While Relating
2021-09-0611 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 6: Why You Can’t “Just Let It Go” (formerly The Felt Sense Podcast)In the 2nd episode in the series on The Felt Sense and Relating, I’ll talk about why it can seem like common methods for connecting just aren’t working.
Brene Brown on vulnerability
Brene Brown on shame
Ep 5: The Wonderful Part of Relating
Ep 7: How Do You Make Relationships Fulfilling?
2021-09-0607 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp 5: The Wonderful Part of Relating (formerly The Felt Sense Podcast)In this first episode of the series on the felt sense during relating, I’ll talk about what’s possible when relating feels safe, and why relating can feel so dangerous.
What is Complex Trauma? (Article)
Episode 4: What Friendliness Leaves You With
Episode 6: Why You Can’t “Just Let It Go”
2021-09-0610 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp. 3 - The Best Kind of Friend When You're Having A Hard Time (formerly The Felt Sense Podcast)When you’re struggling or experiencing emotional pain, this can be the most helpful thing. This is the 3rd of 4 episodes in a series on Befriending Yourself. In this episode, I talk about what makes something unbearable, less unbearable.
"How can we learn to treat other people with this kind of affirming respect, or know that we CAN actually expect it from others in return, if this isn't demonstrated to us?"
The 4 parts of empathy
What emotional pain needs
What happens when emotional pain gets what it needs
2021-08-1107 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp. 4 - What Friendliness Leaves You With (formerly The Felt Sense Podcast)Why attachment, attunement, empathy and friendliness alter your brain and body chemistry. What modern neuroscience demonstrates occurs when you receive friendly regard, validation, affirmation and space for your experience. This is the final episode in a series on Befriending Yourself.
Self-confidence is the feeling of “I trust myself to be able to figure it out”
Self-determination is the feeling of “I know that I have the power to make choices about what happens to me"
Resilience is the feeling of “even if it’s hard and doesn’t work out, I’m going to be okay”
2021-08-1111 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp. 2 - Making Friendly Space (formerly The Felt Sense Podcast)What do you need to feel really good in someone’s friendly company? This is the 2nd of 4 episodes in a series on Befriending Yourself. In this episode, I talk about why friendly space is needed, and how to create it.
"I think that the greatest feat of humanity, is for two people with differing needs and perspectives to be fully open to the other, curious and respectful and engaging, but without dominating or giving in"
2021-08-1107 minThe Safe Enough PodcastEp. 1 - Friendly Regard (formerly The Felt Sense Podcast)What's the difference between a true friend, and any other person? Actually, it's in the word "regard," which means: to take notice of. This is the first of a month-long series on Befriending Yourself.
2021-08-0607 min