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The QueryAbout Dating (with Robert Pruitt) - Part 2"It's hard to regret anything that's taught, shown, or revealed something to you - especially relationships." ~ Robert Pruitt. In our quest to seek out the new - before moving forward - Pruitt encourages us to seek clarity about what we've learned from the old. We talk re-engaging love, dating, and marriage after break-ups, separation, and divorce. If soul mates are real? The critical distinction between warning flags and deal breakers (where's your list?) And the importance of dating yourself first. Credits: Robert Pruitt (www.robertpruitt.com) Music: "Former Fiancé" - by Electric C...2018-10-1800 min
The QueryAbout Dating (with Robert Pruitt) - Part 1Data scientists believe the art of modern dating to be lost. We invite Robert Pruitt: life coach, author, and international motivational speaker, to guide us back to foundational principles of dating, and relationships. Are our beliefs sabotaging our success? Are we clear about the rules and messages upon which we live our lives, and how they drive our choices? Can healthy and unhealthy co-exist? Pruitt shares why our answers matter, and how they serve as a source of who and what shows up in our lives. Credits: Robert Pruitt (www.robertpruitt.com) Music: "...2018-10-0400 min
The QueryFind The Love of Your Life (with Ken Kizer) - Part 2What keeps us from experiencing the love we say we want? We answer listener questions... and discuss: resolving guilt, the importance of honesty, loyalty to family patterns, staying together for the kids, unhealthy marriages, the courage to walk away, the pain of staying, how to stop blowing up our lives... and more. Credits: Ken Kizer (www.kenkizer.com) Music: ‘Former Fiancé’–by Electric Cowbell (CSC Funk Band) Audio Editor: Alicia Barrett2018-07-2600 min
The QueryFind The Love of Your Life (with Ken Kizer) - Part 1"Love isn't all we need. We need direction." That's what Ken Kizer: spiritual life coach, expert leader in conscious breathwork, relationships, and astrology, wants us to know. In this first two-part episode of our 'Men, Wisdom, Love & Relationships' series–Ken directs us on finding the love of our lives–by consciously attracting, creating, and sustaining the relationships we most desire. Credits: Survey Reveals Just How Many People End Up With Their True Love Ken Kizer Music: ‘Former Fiancé’–by Electric Cowbell (CSC Funk Band) Audio Editor: Alicia Barrett2018-07-1300 min
The QueryThe Power of ChoiceInspired by the Caroline Myss TEDx Talk ‘Choices that can Change your Life’ we discuss the principle and power of Choice. Mainly you’ll hear about: - the energetic distinction between choice and decision - different types of choices and why they matter - how belief systems drive the direction of our choices - the essentialness of integrity - the necessity of personal development - shifting from victimization and fear into empowerment; and - why having a foundation to sustain our choices isn’t really optional. REFERENCE...2018-04-1200 min
The QueryThe Missing Voices of ‘Me Too’: Including Men, LGBTQIA and Minorities in the ConversationLast year, 2018 was predicted to be the “Year of Woman”. Countless women emerged from the shadows of silence, fear and shame into solidarity, to radicalize movements like Me Too and Times Up—which advocate against sexual violence and unequal treatment of women. Yet many voices remain missing from these conversations and movements. We discuss the absence of men, LGBTQIA community, minorities and the church, whose experiences of sexual violence and trauma remain silenced in the face of newfound solidarity. REFERENCES / CREDITS: Experts: Males Also Are Victims of Sexual Assault. Department of Defense. J. Garamon...2018-03-2200 min
The QueryA Look Into Our Hurt (with Ruby Sales)In her interview with Krista Tippett, civil rights icon Ruby Sales invites us to look into the collective consciousness of where we hurt. Sales “unsettles some of what we think we know about the force of religion in civil rights history, and names a “spiritual crisis of white America” as a calling of this time.” We discuss how historical shame in the white community has designed attitudes of denial and minimization towards the minority experience–and how wounds cannot heal until they cease being touched. REFERENCES / CREDITS: Where Does It Hurt? with Ruby S...2018-02-0800 min
The QueryShithole countries and international legacies of racismIn our most difficult show to date, recorded on the birthday of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and days after more racist remarks from President Donald Trump color negotiations for the protection status of black and brown immigrants; we look beyond a moment into how the international legacy of systemic racism has set a precedent of deciding which human life is valued, entitled, and worthy. While exasperation aggravates Manaz’s feelings of separation, Melinda hopes in those working to make our world better. REFERENCES / CREDITS: Divided island: How Haiti and the DR bec...2018-01-2500 min
The QueryForgiveness: the freedom to feel and create something differentForgiveness is often a word visited upon us by way of religiosity, spirituality, morality, addiction and recovery. Yet more than just a word that can be pressed upon us–forgiveness is a process that we get to practice until the weight of what we’ve been holding is cleared from our minds, bodies, energy and environments. Forgiveness is ours to both create and receive, in ways which invite us to tell our whole truth, feel all our feelings and care for ourselves along the way. Today, we examine this and more. REFERENCES / CREDITS: ...2018-01-1000 min
The QueryAbout 2017!Along with Trump, natural disasters and women’s rights, Melinda talks surrendering attachments, new cast of clarity in her worldview, no longer fearing death, sitting with Koans, and Zen training. Manaz talks being okay with loving someone from her past, newfound sensual and sexual energy, relationship equality, and staying out of the Universes business. In our final episode this year, we share our most impactful moments, learnings and resolves, about 2017! REFERENCES / CREDITS: Music: Burning by Tri-Tachyon Producer: Oleksandr Hedz CONNECT: Website: The Query Podc...2017-12-2700 min
The QueryGrieving: The Way Through to Feel Something ElseMore than any other time in the year, the holiday season forces us to reckon with what’s missing in our lives and to face what we may have managed to avoid: grief. The experiences of losing loved ones, relationships, jobs, finances, security, our sense of self, and physical or mental capabilities, can swallow us whole, leaving us raw and vulnerable to feelings and emotions of devastation and profound sadness. So, how do we take care of ourselves and others as we grieve? And where do we begin? REFERENCES / CREDITS: Music: Burning by Tri...2017-12-1200 min
The QueryHome for the Holidays: Recognizing and Working Through Family TriggersFamily relationships are full of complexities and unique dynamics. Combining elements of stress, anxiety, toxic emotions, unresolved trauma, addiction, and grief to holiday gatherings, often exacerbate and deepen existing complexities and trigger emotional wounds. We discuss supportive steps to manage and move through trigger-filled holidays in ways we can feel safe and whole in the presence of loved ones–and more importantly, long after we bid farewell. REFERENCES / CREDITS: Feelings Chart. Baton Rouge Counseling The Language of Letting Go: Hazelden Meditation Series. Melody Beattie Dysfunctional Family Bingo. Best...2017-12-0500 min
The QueryShame Resilience: A Strategy of Disempowerment and Vitality“Either you understand how shame operates in your life, or it operates your life.” - Brene Brown Is the experience of shame a choice? Can shame be disempowered when we choose not to be trapped, powerless and isolated? In a continuation of our last episode where we outlined shame, we introduce Shame Resilience: a practice with tools to engage feelings of empathy, connection, power, and freedom. We also discuss the gender divide in how shame and resilience is explored differently between men and women. IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL FIND MORE ABOUT: 2017-11-2800 min
The QueryShame: About The Emotion That Steals Our VitalityWhen you think of shame and guilt, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Are they attached to a story? Has the story been holding you hostage; zapping your life of vitality creativity, and joy? As shame cannot live amongst words, today we expose shame through unpacking and examining the baggage of hurt, anger, loneliness, regret, disappointment, humiliation, embarrassment, fear and unforgiveness, that we attach to our identities. We discuss how this emotion can be transformed by reexamining our thinking, and owning our power to reframe and recreate our stories. ...2017-11-2100 min
The QueryThe Illusion Of Social EqualityIs social equality an achievable or desirable goal? Statistics in 2016 showed that 4 out of 10 African-Americans said they doubt the nation will ever achieve racial equality but as many white Americans believed it has been achieved. In this episode, we ask ourselves is this too much to think about or is it worth fighting for? IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL FIND MORE ABOUT What is social equality? The different ways in which people of color self-identify. The unpopular message of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. before his execution. 2017-11-0600 min
The QueryThe Construct Of RaceWith this being our first episode, we, Manaz and Melinda, introduce ourselves, how we met, and why we began this podcast. Deeper in, we discuss race in construct, intention and deception. We strongly believe separation is an illusion we keep returning to and we’re willing to talk about it. IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL FIND MORE ABOUT Our working definitions of ‘white and race'. How race identification was constructed. Why white people in largely segregated communities don't tap into the pool of rage and hurt. What r...2017-11-0300 min