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How Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Why Are Today's Kids So Stressed?: Interview with Dr. JJ KellyDr. JJ Kelly is a clinical psychologist, best selling author, emotional intelligence skills training expert, CEO & founder of UnthoroDocs. On this episode, we interview Dr. Kelly about the top reasons why today's kids are so stressed, what schools and parents could do to decrease stress, and how to incorporate effective coping skills. We also discuss why today's current mental healthcare and school systems are ineffective to treat today's youth. Lizz and Mariah share how they use identifying and aligning values to increase and decrease specific behaviors. Connect with Us:Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcastEmail: howcometheydidnt@g...2022-03-1139 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 37: How Schools Can Effectively Connect with Students of Separated Parents: Interview with The Split SocietyData shows that about 50% of marriages end in divorce. This means that 50% of our student population is experiencing, have, or will experience a significant shift in their family dynamics. On this episode, we talk to Tracy Callahan best-selling author, founder of the Split Society, and certified Divorce Coach on how schools can effectively connect and communicate with students of separated parents. Tracy drives home the point that "children experience divorce in the eyes of their parents" and that while conflict is inevitable it is also an opportunity. Tracy provides practical ways how schools can best support students and parents...2022-02-0444 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 36: Thinking Outside the Box in Mental Health in Schools: Interview with Christi VenableOn this episode, we interview Christi Venable, NCC, LPC. Christi is a Licensed Professional Counselor and founder of Smile Therapy Services, LLC. Smile provides mental health services for the community and schools. Christi shares both the pros and cons of being a mental healthcare provider as an outside contractor and how Smile is working to fill the gap that schools desperately need. Christi speaks candidly about how schools can financially compensate contracted mental health services, strategies to promote school staff wellness, and trends she and her staff have noticed since returning from the pandemic. Connect with us:2022-01-0737 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 35: What Every Student Should Learn: Interview with Veteran Teacher Aimee BuckleyOn this episode, we interview Aimee Buckley who is the founder of Study Help and veteran public school teacher. Study Help is an online platform that connects top quality teachers with students who are looking for a better understanding of their academic skills. We discuss how teachers can build motivation with their students, how school counselors can support teachers in the classroom, and what she skill every student should know before graduating. Aimee also shares how as a special education student what strategies she uses for students who have emotional difficulties.Connect with UsInstagram: @h...2021-12-1734 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 34: The Disintegrating Student: Interview with Dr. Jeannine JannotOn this episode, we interview Dr. Jeannine Jannot child and developmental psychologist, college professor, mother of three, and author of The Disintegrating Student: Struggling but Smart and Falling Apart: And How to Turn it Around. She speaks candidly about how we can build motivation within our students and children and move away from the fixed mindset. Dr. Jannot discusses how to remedy the tension between pushing for academic achievement by giving our children a sense of control and allowing them to make mistakes without immediately intervening. This show is also packed with tangible ways on how to build a...2021-11-2644 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 33: Self-Care in Schools: Taking Care of Adults Who Take Care of KidsAs schools have reopened, activities have restarted, and the holidays are almost upon us some of us are realizing that overarching feeling of burnout might also be back. On this episode, we talk about the importance of self-care, how school staff can incorporate it into their day, and actionable steps schools can do to decrease staff burnout. We always hear "catch burn out before it is too late" but what do we do when we are already there? This episode is great for all of our staff, parents, and students who are counting down the days, hours, minutes, and...2021-11-1223 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?The Replay: IEP's Erasing the StigmaIn the United States, more than 7.8 million students qualify for Special Education services (ages 3- 21) during the 2018 to 2019 school year. This number is around 14% of all public school students. However, depending on your population, location, or school setting this number can climb much higher or decrease. In addition, with early detection, special education services have increased tremendously in the school setting since the 1970's.On this episode Lizz and Mariah discuss IEP's (Individual Education Plan) in schools. We outline what parents need to know if their child is found eligible for an IEP, how schools can use...2021-11-0533 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 32: Effective Self DisclosureOn this episode, Dr. Lizz Dexter-Mazza and Mariah Covington speak about how to effectively self disclose to our students, children, and colleagues. We share tips on how to model self-disclosure without oversharing or inadvertently invalidating the person's experience. Conversely, we provide examples on how to decrease some children and adolescents tendency to overshare. Connect with usInstagram: @howcometheydidntpodcastFacebook: howcometheydidntpodcastEmail: howcometheydidntpodcast@gmail.comMore on DBT in Schools:Instagram: @dbtinschoolsWebsite: dbtinschools.comEmail: lizz@dbtinschools.com2021-10-1526 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 31: What does a Speech & Language Pathologist Do?: Interview with Dr. Carlene ReidOn this episode, we interview Dr. Carlene Reid. Dr. Reid is a Speech & Language Pathologist, representative for the State Board of Education (Washington DC, Ward 8), and full-time federal employee. Dr. Reid has evaluated over 300 students to determine the need for special education services. We interview Dr. Reid regarding the signs to look for if a referral to a speech & language services are needed, how the field has changed due to the pandemic, and how SLP's function in schools. Dr. Reid also speaks passionately about the requirements of the school when parents or staff make speech referrals and how parents...2021-09-2447 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 30: The Balancing Act: Are Today's Families & Youth Too Busy?As we progress through the school year, practices, activities, sports, games, etc. have made a return. During the pandemic, our everyday lives came to an abrupt halt and forced us ALL to realize just how busy we were. Now that activities are seemingly resuming in most states, how do we find the balance between engaging in enough activities and intentional "downtime"? On today's show we discuss activities families and schools can do to assess their schedules and specific activities and skills schools and counselors can reinforce to most effectively support their students. We talk through how to encourage a...2021-09-1033 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 29: Building the Case for SEL: Swimming UpstreamThe National Association of School Psychologist (NASP) recently released an article entitled "School Reentry Considerations: Supporting Student Social and Emotional Learning and Mental and Behavior Health Amidst Covid-19." Lizz & Mariah do a deep dive into the article and the importance of making SEL a top priority and part of the school day for ALL staff. We provide recommendations on how schools can incorporate a multi-disciplinary approach when it comes to providing mental health services and move upstream where schools aren't waiting for a student to fail to a where point they must seek outside treatment. We know that providing me...2021-09-0332 min
How Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 28: Oh no, we are going back already?!? Part IIWe are back!!! As schools return for the 2021-2022 school year, there is a spectrum of emotions we all may be experiencing; ranging from anxiety to excitement to fear and sometimes all of them at once. Dr. Lizz Dexter-Mazza and Mariah Covington discuss how to emotionally prepare your students and staff for this upcoming school year (whatever that will look like). Lizz and Mariah also review what it means to be non-judgmental, why it is important to teach it to our children and staff, and offer a step by step exercise on how to teach taking a non-judgmental stance...2021-08-2029 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 27: What is Code Switching & Why We Need to Teach it to Our ChildrenCode switching has become a word popularized in the decade. Originally, code switching was defined by the ability to switch back and forth between two different languages. Presently, code switching has transformed into using specific wording, vernacular, or phrases depending on context or environment. On today's episode, we discuss why it is important to teach code switching to our children. We consider about how to generalize the skill of using code switching, how to integrate code switching into your SEL program, and provide specific examples to use in your lesson plan. We also examine the cultural context of code...2021-06-0834 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 26: Transitions, Transitions, Transitions!!!On this episode, we discuss transitioning from virtual to hybrid or in person as schools and families. We talk about some of the trends we seen in the behaviors of our students and children now that most have returned back to in person learning. We also discuss specific skills that teach our students (and adults) how to effectively cope with our changing environment.Follow Us:Instagram: @howcometheydidntpodcastEmail: howcometheydidntpodcast@gmail.comWebsite: https://www.dbtinschools.com/--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. ht...2021-05-1134 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?The Replay: What is SEL?Our children and students have experienced a global pandemic, quarantine, distance learning, grief, and loss at an unprecedented level. Given this year's circumstances, incorporating SEL during your school day is no longer optional. As schools are completing their schedule for next year the conversation of SEL (social emotional learning) is most likely emerging or reemerging. Schools are now forced to reimagine their role on educating the whole child, which includes emotional well-being. On this episode, we interview Dr. Jim Mazza and he discusses the benefits of SEL, different SEL programs available, and how to incorporate the skills throughout the...2021-03-3035 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 25: Suicidal Statements: How to Start the Conversation at Home & SchoolDeath by suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in America. For those between ages 10 to 34 it is the second leading cause of death. In 2019, there were over 1 million attempts at suicide. Suicide is considered a public health issue. Due to the pandemic, we expect these numbers to increase. In this episode, we discuss concrete steps and questions to ask when someone reveals to you that they are thinking about suicide. We also talk about how you can take steps at home to start the conversation.Statistics:https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics...2021-03-1631 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 24: Mompreneur: Strength, Resilience & Vulnerability Interview with Kendra BarnesOn this episode, we interview Kendra Barnes. Kendra Barnes is a full-time Real Estate Investor and founder of The Key Resource. Her real estate investments afforded her the ability to retire from the 9-5 life at the age of 32. She created The Key Resource to inspire, empower and educate people about the power of home ownership and Real Estate investment. Kendra speaks candidly about the skills she has learned over the years, the sacrifices she made, her mistakes, and how she recently had to show vulnerability in her personal life for more support. Kendra, Lizz & Mariah all d...2021-03-0933 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 23: Art Therapy: It's about the Process Not the ProductOn this episode, we interview Matthew Brooks, Registered Art Therapist. He helps us understand the effectiveness of art therapy and how he uses it with people who have experienced trauma and in a private practice. Matthew also answers the questions many parents and teachers have what do I do when my child creates a disturbing image? Lastly, Matthew explains the specific training and education art therapist have. Listen in for this informative episode.Connect with Matthew Brooks:Instagram: @matthew.brooks.atrEmail: matthew@artalexandriaarthterapy.comWebsite: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us...2021-03-0242 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 22: What does a School Psychologist Do?There are many different terms for mental health staff, especially in schools. Sometimes we get bombarded by commas after names, titles, positions leaving us even more confused on how these roles are designed to help our students and children. On today's episode, we interview Dr. Jim Mazza Licensed Psychologist and Professor at the University of Washington. He provides a detailed definition of a School Psychologist, their educational training, and what their role is as school staff. We also discuss the differences between an MA, EdS, PhD, and PsyD. In addition, we answer the question of what is th...2021-02-2333 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 21: Where's the Line: Typical Adolescent Behavior or Cause for Concern?We understand that times have changed and behaviors students/adolescence are engaging in are very different than what we experienced at their age. Sometimes these generational differences make it difficult to to distinguish between if the behavior is typical for their age group or cause for concern. On this episode, Lizz & Mariah cover commonly asked subject matters. We provide targeted questions to ask in regards to your student or adolescent to determine if further action is necessary or if the behaviors are typical for their age group and location. We cover the topics of technology use, sleep, substance use...2021-02-1637 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 20: Culturally Relevant Modification of Your SEL ProgramNow more than ever, schools are understanding the importance of teaching well-being and providing emotional support to their students. However, implementing an SEL (Social Emotion Learning) program can prove to be difficult, especially in the midst of a pandemic. Schools with a diverse population sometimes experience difficulty when implementing a generalized SEL program to one that their students can identify with. On this episode, Mariah discusses how she has adapted and modified her school's SEL program (DBT STEPS-A) to fit the needs of an African American, majority male population. Mariah also gives concrete examples of how she has personally w...2021-02-0935 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 19: The Replay: Implicit Bias In Schools IIResearch shows that students of color are given more disciplinary action and harsher punishment than their White counterparts. As our nation has come to a reckoning, we as parents, students, educators, and administrators are examining how biases show up in our classrooms. Even certain names of schools are in the process of being changed to reflect this shift. While these biases are nothing new, moving towards acknowledgement and change are. On this show, Lizz and Mariah discuss tangible ways to decrease implicit bias in your classroom and schools. We recommend that you listen to the episode in its entirety...2021-01-2531 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 18: IEP's Erasing the StigmaIn the United States, more than 7.8 million students qualify for Special Education services (ages 3- 21) during the 2018 to 2019 school year. This number is around 14% of all public school students. However, depending on your population, location, or school setting this number can climb much higher or decrease. In addition, with early detection, special education services have increased tremendously in the school setting since the 1970's. On this episode Lizz and Mariah discuss IEP's (Individual Education Plan) in schools. We outline what parents need to know if their child is found eligible for an IEP, how schools can use t...2021-01-1533 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Episode 17: January 6th: How to talk to your child or students about civil unrestThe events that took place on January 6th is a day that will live in infamy for our country. Our children and students watched, read, and viewed from their social media accounts the events that took place. Now more than ever, children have access to information (or misinformation) of what is occurring in the world. On today's episode, we discuss how to talk with your children or students about the events on January 6th. We give concise tips on how as parents, teachers, and administrators we can show emotion and remain regulated. We encourage all schools to have this...2021-01-0834 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Teaching your child or student how to fail: Cultivating a Growth MindsetAs we approach 2021, many of us have goals, objectives, and targets for the year. If 2020 has taught us anything, it is that things can happen that are out of our control that change the complete trajectory of our plans. However, the one thing that we will always have is our mindset. On this episode, Lizz and Mariah discuss growth mindset versus fixed mindset. Growth mindset is the belief that one can get better at something with time, effort, and energy. Fixed mindset is the belief that people are born with innate talents, intelligence and abilities and that cannot change...2021-01-0130 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Mind full or Mindful: How to Teach Mindfulness to YouthThese days it feels like we constantly hear the terms "be mindful of _____." At this point, mindfulness has become a verb, noun, preposition (and everything in between) making it difficult to understand it's true meaning. On this episode, Lizz provides a clear definition of what mindfulness is, dispels common myths about mindfulness, and the benefits of living mindfully. Mariah gives tips on how to get your students motivated to practice mindfulness and make it meaningful and relevant to their daily lives. Apps for mindfulness: My life, Calm, InsightKobe Bryant & MindfulnessKo...2020-12-1836 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?How to Create a Gratitude Practice with our Children & StudentsDuring the holiday season, many people try to figure out thoughtful ways they can express gratitude. On this episode, we discuss how to build gratitude in our children and students. We talk about how we personally have created effective every day gratitude practices that take just a few minutes to complete. We understand with the current pandemic 2020, has been a challenging year for many people around the world. However, we like to say "what has the pandemic done for us" rather than "What has the pandemic done to us." Lastly, we both reveal what is the gift we like t...2020-12-1131 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Food Culture & Nutrition for Today's Youth & FamiliesOn this episode, we interview Rachel Englehart. Rachel is a Registered Dietician (RD) and Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC). Rachel works with adults, families, youth, and schools on nutrition. Establishing a healthy relationship with food and body image are a part of her mission as a part of her nutrition counseling. Rachel provides education on intuitive eating and how we can model what a healthy relationship with food looks like as adults. The pandemic has shed light on our already complicated relationship with food and in some cases have exacerbated body image issues and increased eating disorders. Lastly, Rachel shares re...2020-12-0448 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?The Holidays: Teaching Youth How to Cope with the New NormalMost of our country is experiencing an uptick in Covid-19 cases. If 2020 taught us anything, reality is, we will have anything but a normal holiday season. On this episode we address a few topics regarding the holidays and coping with Covid-19. How are we as adults coping with the ever changing landscape? Subsequently, how are we teaching our children and students to accept this reality? Lizz and Mariah both share personal stories of what they are grateful for. Radical acceptance is accepting things as they are and not as they should be. The more that we...2020-11-2030 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Election Results: Can you see the other side?On this special episode, Lizz & Mariah discuss the 2020 presidential election results. We talk about how parents, teachers, and counselors can effectively speak to youth about the election, news cycle, and social media. This episode also talks about the value in honoring the other side of your personal political beliefs, even when you don't agree. We understand that many people do not hold the same beliefs as we do. We encourage and challenge you to listen to this episode and push yourself towards understanding. Like, comment, share and follow us on Instagram @howcometheydidntpodcast.comSend us an...2020-11-0939 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?SafeSpaceNova: A Model for LGBTQ+ YouthThis episode features special guest Jordan Costen-Sumpter. Jordan is the Founder and Chairman of SafeSpaceNova an organization which is dedicated to providing youth ages 14 to 18 that identify as LGBTQ+ a safe, supportive, and accepting environment. In this interview, Jordan speaks candidly about his experiences with bullying in school because of his sexuality and how he became resilient after attempting suicide at the age of 14. Jordan speaks about how parents, teachers, and schools can create supportive environments for the LGBTQ+ community. SafeSpaceNova can be found at https://safespacenova.org/ and @SafeSpaceNova on InstagramPlease follow us on...2020-11-0636 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Implicit Bias in Schools: Part IIOn this episode Mariah & Lizz continue their conversation about implicit bias in schools. This episode is packed with tangible ways that as a teacher, administrator, or a school we can work to effectively decrease bias. We also share personal stories of how we have experienced implicit bias. We understand that this is a journey and will continue this conversation. Let us know how you are working to decrease bias in your school by emailing us at howcometheydidntpodcast@gmail.com or sending us a message on IG @howcometheydidntpodcast. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to ma...2020-10-2332 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Interview with Dr. Lizz Dexter-MazzaDr. Lizz Dexer-Mazza is not only co-host of our podcast she is an accomplished author, psychologist, business owner, mother, and wife. Currently, DBT STEPS-A has been implemented in hundreds of schools around the world, reaching thousands of children. On this episode, Mariah interviews Lizz about why she was attracted to psychology, how she started her practice, mistakes she made along her journey, and her overall mission as a psychologist. Lizz also talks about how she wrote the book and barriers she overcame to have DBT STEPS-A implemented in hundreds of schools. She discusses the skills she uses to balance a...2020-10-1641 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Hello burnout is that you?On this episode we talk about the topic we learned about in school and barely touch on as professionals: burnout. We share the signs to notice burnout before it becomes unmanageable. We also discuss limit setting and other ways to decrease burnout. In addition we share recommendations on how organizations can become a place that decreases burnout (not add to it) Listen to this informative episode to hear some tips and tangible ways to decrease the likelihood of burnout.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-therapy/200811/therapist-burnoutPlease share how you decrease burnout within your...2020-10-0928 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Implicit Bias in SchoolsOn this episode, we discuss implicit bias in the school system. We interview special guest, Sigourney Edwards, mother and DC resident, who revealed her journey to find a school for her son that encompassed high educational standards, emotional well-being, and employed role models that looked like him. Sigourney speaks candidly about her and her son's experience as a black child in a predominately white environment. We examine the resource gap between schools and how that disproportionately affects students of color. We explain ways to decrease implicit bias in school by raising self-awareness, acknowledgement, and addressing bias explicitly. In addition, w...2020-10-0242 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Why positive reinforcement works.On this show we discuss positive reinforcement and why it works. This episode breaks down step by step how teachers & parents can implement positive reinforcement in their classrooms and at home. Lizz defines reinforcement, punishment and what increases the likelihood of the behavior occurring. Mariah shares a personal story on how she transformed her SEL from chaos to a cohesive enjoyable class for her and her students. If you feel yourself being the "stop" police at home, at your job, or you are trying decrease a certain behavior this episode is especially for you. Check out the show "100 Humans"...2020-09-2429 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Covid-19 & CancellationsAll around the country, everything from weddings, funerals, vacations, activities, etc. have been postponed or cancelled. The thought of the school and work environment as we once knew has changed. On this episode, we break down step by step how to effectively speak with your students or children about their feelings regarding the cancellations. We also provide tips on how to implement creative, safe alternatives to these activities, when possible. We also discuss the meaning and depth of radical acceptance and how that can help shift our minds to accepting change. Send us your questions and follow u...2020-09-1833 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?What is SEL?Today's show is about the buzzword SEL (socio emotional learning). This episode will feature special guest Dr. Jim Mazza who will explain SEL and how it is used across grade levels, and why this curriculum is absolutely necessary in schools. Mariah will discuss she is applying DBT STEPS A in her current role and how she has used creativity to overcome barriers and increase staff buy in. Lizz will discuss how she has effectively implemented DBT STEPS A in hundreds of schools around the country.Send us your questions and follow us on Instagram and Facebook @howcometheydidntpodcast.2020-09-1135 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Oh no, we are going back already?!?On this show Lizz & Mariah discuss what the school plans are for returning back to school. What is the biggest worry/concern for the fall and returning to school? How to engage students you have never physically met and what does a hybrid schedule mean for therapy. We also discuss strategies on how to get comfortable with Covid-19 and best practices for teletherapy. We also discuss how to buid a genuine connection while using teletherapy.Send us your questions and follow us on Instagram @howcometheydidntpodcast.You can also send us questions to howcometheydidntpodcast@gmail.com.2020-09-0431 minHow Come They Didn't Teach Me That In School?Why are we called "how come they didn't teach me that in school"Today you will learn about the host Lizz & Mariah and what "how come they didn't teach me this in school?" podcast is all about.Send us your questions and follow us on Instagram @howcometheydidntpodcast.You can also send us questions to howcometheydidntpodcast@gmail.com. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app2020-09-0214 min