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The Process of BecomingThe Gift of Men: What Healing Taught Me About Receiving HelpIn this heartfelt episode, I share a raw and personal story about how a simple prayer of gratitude for “the gift of men” turned prophetic — just before a day of physical pain, mental exhaustion, and unexpected help. From a neighbour’s quiet kindness to the support of my church family, this episode explores how God sends people as vessels of His love — and how healing helps us recognise and receive them.If you've ever struggled with overthinking, isolation, or pushing away the help you secretly need… this episode is for you.For all...
2025-08-0310 minAfroBase // episodesAfroBase // 11 Apr 2025We start the show with a hommage to Amadou Bagayoko from the blind Malian duo Amadou & Mariam who sadly died last week following an illness. More Malian music from Rokia Kone, and from Nigeria Fatai Rolling Dollar, Azuka Moweta and his Anioma Brothers, and Prince Eji Oyewole. From Ghana comes Osei Banahene taken form the new release Borga Revolution! Volume 3 Ghanaian Dance Music In The Digital Age, 1984-1999. Music from the Spirit of teh Congo with Queen Lilas. Music from Colombias's Pacific Coast - Marimba meets Afrobeat. From Sao Paulo comes Uli Costa e Sand�lia de Prata and remember Ma...
2025-04-0900 minThe Process of BecomingDefine What Success Means To You.Mariam speaks about age shaming and its impact on our mental well-being.
The importance of defining what success means to you and how going at your pace or a pace that brings you peace yet ensures your growth is paramount to your well-being.
Mariam also mentions how people are passersby who are not experiencing what it means to live because they have been existing and living on other people's terms.
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2024-05-0816 minThe Process of BecomingSimple And Practical Ways I Regulate my EmotionsIn this episode, Mariam delves into the simple and effective strategies she employs to manage her emotions when she feels overwhelmed.
These approaches are easily implementable and adaptable to any moment throughout the day. Mariam discusses the benefits of bubble therapy and the importance of carving out quiet morning moments to nurture her well-being.
This might not be relatable to you, the aim is to find something that helps you feel much better physically and mentally.
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2024-03-0700 minThe Process of BecomingPractical Strategies To Overcoming Procrastination With Coach CandelaIn this episode, Mariam and Candela talk about the influence of our environment on procrastination and productivity.
Exploring how subtle changes in our surroundings can make a monumental difference, they share simple yet effective steps to transform your space into a productivity haven.
From changing our words to more subtle words rather than feeling pressured.
Uncover practical strategies to cultivate an environment that fosters focus and motivation.
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2024-02-1625 minThe Process of BecomingThe Untold Stories Of Starting Over with Relationship And Divorce Coach, Award Winning NurseIn this episode, Mariam and Ibironke thoroughly explore the challenges of embarking on a fresh start in relationships and careers.
They discuss the profound impact of a change in location on her life and that of her children. Ibironke also delves into the opportunities available to women facing domestic abuse situations, shedding light on the resources designed to support them.
As a woman of colour, Ibironke is deeply committed to aiding women within her community, recognizing the stigma and prejudice they often face. The primary goal of this episode is to provide a glimpse into untold stories that seldom make...
2024-02-0900 minThe Process of BecomingUntold Stories Of Starting Over With Award Winning Social Advocate and Author, Latifat OlagokeIn this series of the UNTOLD STORIES OF STARTING OVER , Mariam enjoy red talking with the acclaimed social advocate and author, Latifat Olagoke. They delve into the unspoken narratives of single parenting, personal reconstruction, and instances of child to parent abuse within the colored community, shedding light on the profound effects on both parents and children. Sign up here- https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSek5PuvE1fcomkHHcw-wvSNcL7yOULtZUdVmlLS1iLpfUdx8Q/viewform. Find me on Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/mariam_ofatai?igsh=Zno2YnJncHl2Z3g0&utm_source=qr
2024-01-2840 minThe Process of BecomingThe Untold Stories Of Starting Over With Scherise Saskia Mindset Coach And MentorWelcome to another episode of "The Untold Stories of Starting Over"! I'm thrilled to welcome Scherise Saskia, a mindset coach and mentor, as our special guest. Today, we'll explore Scherise's journey, delving into her unique experience as a new parent.
Balancing the demands of motherhood alongside managing her coaching business, she encountered challenges and changes that reshaped her perspective.
Join us as we gain insights into understanding and navigating the transformative journey of embracing new roles and adapting to life's transitions.
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2024-01-1200 minThe Process of BecomingHow To Use Journals To Improve Your Well-beingIn this episode, Mariam explores the benefits of journaling, discussing its positive impact on mental health, self-reflection, and personal growth. She shares practical tips on starting and maintaining a journaling habit, emphasising its benefits and value in navigating life's challenges.
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2024-01-0120 minThe Process of BecomingWhat Season Am I In?In this episode, Mariam delves into the season of life, offering insights into our perceptions, particularly as we approach the dawn of a new year. She places significant emphasis on recognizing the seasons of life and provides guidance on identifying when a shift in season is imminent. Mariam also shares valuable advice on preparing for the onset of a new phase in our lives.
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2023-12-0620 minThe Process of BecomingLetting Go Two Minutes AffirmationAs mentioned in episode 28, this is a two-minute guide to letting go. Practice and create something that suits your present situation.
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2023-11-2203 minThe Process of BecomingLetting Go As The Year Comes To An EndWhat will you be letting go as the year comes to an end? in this episode, Mariam talks about the importance of letting go of things that don't serve us and looking at things from a different perspective.
Anger, resentment, bitterness, unhealthy habits, waiting for things to happen and defining what success is for you so you can head into the last quarter of the year prepared for the great things coming your way.
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2023-11-2220 minThe Process of BecomingIn This Last Quarter, Don't Worship Your Worries Or Challenges, Do More Of Self reflection.In this episode, Mariam delves into the transformative power of self-reflection, sharing her personal journey of self-discovery. She discusses how this practice has not only allowed her to gain a deeper understanding of herself but has also clarified her core values and positively impacted her relationships with herself and those in her life.
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2023-10-0622 minThe Process of BecomingDear Strong Woman,This is For You.In this episode, Mariam gently reminds the empowered woman that she transcends society's narrow definition of strength. The episode addresses the common misconceptions regarding the expected behaviors of strong women.
2023-09-2210 minThe Process of BecomingDealing With The Battles Of Our Mind.As someone who has experienced or struggled with depression and anxiety, I know firsthand how challenging it can be to defeat negative thoughts and emotions. The battle that goes on in our mind is an ongoing one, there is no point in perfection when it comes to the mind, We have to keep working on our self-awareness in others to overcome this mental battle.
We must first recognize and acknowledge our negative thought patterns to win the battle of the mind. Be open to seeking support when you need it. This can involve seeking support from a...
2023-08-2500 minThe Process of BecomingStrategies That Can Help With OversharingWhile there are certainly benefits to sharing our experiences with others, oversharing can also have negative consequences. Aside from making others feel uncomfortable, who are you sharing with? What's your motive? do they have the emotional maturity to process what you are sharing?
So, how can we avoid oversharing? One strategy is to pause and think before we share. Ask yourself: is this something I would feel comfortable sharing with this person? how does sharing help me? Is it relevant to the conversation or context? Will it make someone else uncomfortable or put them in an awkward...
2023-07-0516 minThe Process of BecomingFear Is a Luring Spirit,It Is Only There To Torment You.How do you deal with fear? I have noticed that it’s a luring spirit to be precise. What do we do when we feel lured into something that doesn’t suit the purpose of God in our life? I’d love to hear from you.
2023-06-2712 minThe Process of BecomingAre You Dealing With Generational Patterns?I'd Like to Hear Your View on This.It's important to note patterns in our lives. Not all patterns are negative or toxic, some are positive and can be improved upon. But the real question is how do we deal with awful and draining patterns in our lives?
Generation patterns can shape our behaviour, attitude towards life, religious beliefs and so on. These are a few of what I have implemented in my personal live.
Awareness-Be intentional about what you've noticed, write it down if you can. Be conscious of what's happening, when and how it happens.
Pray- Now you know...
2023-06-1915 minThe Process of BecomingOpen yourself up to receiving help.In this episode, Mariam discusses the importance of opening up to help. Many of us have been taught to be self-sufficient and independent, it is how the society sees you as a strong woman. This can make it difficult to ask for help when we need it. However, opening up to help can be a powerful tool for personal growth, and mental wellness.
One of the first steps in opening up to help is recognizing that we don't have to do everything on our own. No one is an expert in everything, and there will be times when we need...
2023-06-1422 minThe Process of BecomingBreaking Limits With Austistic Coach,Christian Armstrong.As the awareness around autism continues to grow, we are joined by Christian Armstrong, he shares some of his challenges as a non verbal child who now coaches other kids.
2023-06-0837 minThe Process of BecomingYou Didnt Come This Far To Give Up.In this episode, Mariam talks about daily life challenges, feeling unfulfilled and the trials amidst of trials, please hang in there. You haven't come this far to give up now.
2023-05-3007 minThe Process of BecomingEmotional Eating From Breastfeeding Perspectives With Danielly Rocha-Lanter.In this episode, we are joined by award-winning fitness coach, Danielly Roch-Lantern, a passionate fitness coach and mum who has experienced stress-related weight gain.
Danielly explains in detail how breastfeeding and emotional eating are intertwined, use of breathing exercises to help ease stress or emotional eating patterns. If you have been struggling with your weight management goals due to stress or emotional eating, this could be a step towards the result you have been trying to achieve.
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2023-05-2738 minThe Process of BecomingFrom Anxiety To Being Okay With Mark Howard.In this episode, Mariam and Mark Howard who is the author of Freedom, Peace and a Good Night Sleep talk about the tips he used during his healing process, how he overcame negative thinking, suicidal thoughts, the shame and guilt of certain life decisions he made out of stress and wanting to provide for his family.
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Mark Howard is not a mental health practitioner or a therapist, this conversation is not to encourage you to stop your medication, please. Its to remind you that whatever you are going through, there is life on the other side of your dark...
2023-05-2236 minThe Process of BecomingHealing Challenges After An Abuse With Michelle Brewer.On this episode, I am joined by Michelle Brewer, an author, a successful business owner, a mum, victim of child molestation, abuse and trauma. Michelle shares with us some of her experiences as a victim and a conqueror, and the challenges she experienced while healing.
As an author, Michelle poured her heart into her first book which you can find on Amazon using the link below:
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2023-05-1145 minThe Process of BecomingOvercoming Obstacles Using Four Pillars of Success by David price.obstacles are part of our growth, success and everyday life. In this episode, David and Mariam talk about ways to deal with life's obstacles, take full responsibility for our actions, and manage our thought processes.
David shared the four steps he teaches his clients who are taking control of their lives and becoming a better version of themselves.
1. Taking responsibility for your action
2. Improving your thought process.
3. Designing our life using affirmation
4. Setting goals and the use of vision that aligns with your value.
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2023-04-2630 minThe Process of BecomingOvercoming Obstacles In Life With David Priceobstacles are part of our growth, success and everyday life. In this episode, David and Mariam talk about ways to deal with life's obstacles, take full responsibility for our actions, and manage our thought processes.
David shared the four steps he teaches his clients who are taking control of their lives and becoming a better version of themselves.
1. Taking responsibility for your action
2. Improving your thought process.
3. Designing our life using affirmation
4. Setting goals and the use of vision that aligns with your value.
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2023-04-1834 minThe Process of BecomingMental health with TuoyoIn this episode, Mariam and Tuoyo talk about mental health and mental ill health amongst black women. Why the stigma? Why do we shy away from seeking help or talking about it? How does our mental health affect our parental role, self-love, self-care routines and more? There are places you get help if you feel you do need help, and discreet services available to you via the NHS for those in the UK.
2023-04-1334 minThe Process of BecomingGive Yourself Permission To Feel.As a black woman, have seen and heard a lot about how keeping it all in makes you strong. But with mental health challenges on the rise, it makes one wonder what exactly is going on.
There is so much strong an individual can be or pretend to be before the mask falls off, the body starts to fight back due to years of stress, feelings you've bottled down in the name of staying strong.
In this episode, Mariam encourages black women to speak out, seek the help they need, and give themselves permission to...
2023-03-3117 min
The Process of BecomingIt's Time To Take a Chance on Yourself.What do you do when God places an idea on your mind during a tough time of your life? when your mess becomes a message for someone walking through their own fire or wilderness.
This episode is to encourage you to pay attention during tough times, you cannot give up nor allow your past to hold you back from becoming a better version of yourself.
Take a chance on yourself, be open to forming new meaningful relationships, and be open to those ideas that keep reoccurring in your mind. This is a time for compassion...
2023-03-2010 minThe Process of BecomingWho Is In Your Circle Of Friends?Who is in your circle of friends? have you analyzed your circle?do you have a defined relationship with the people in your life?
Our circle of friends is meant to be a safe space, you can be vulnerable without being judged, and corrected with love, it is our support system, not a demoralisation system.
In this episode, we look at the purpose of your inner and outer circles, understanding your needs and those in your circle of friends, few things you should consider before placing anyone in your inner circle.
2023-03-1515 minThe Process of BecomingAffirmationWriting down your own affirmations can be a helpful part of your healing Journey.
2023-03-0804 minThe Process of BecomingYour Words Are Powerful.Happy International Women’s Day. Just a reminder that our words are powerful.
Choose your words judiciously.
2023-03-0807 minThe Process of BecomingThe Spirit of Limitation.The spirit of limitation is to be restrained, stagnant, and to lack purpose. It can be situational, fear, self-doubts, and words that have been spoken about us by people in our lives. You are capable of doing amazing things.
2023-03-0309 minThe Process of BecomingYes to Boundary.Here are a few tips I learned during my boundary work. You need to understand your needs before putting boundaries in place . Setting boundaries is a continuous process that you will at some point keep working on and improving on.
2023-02-2215 minThe Process of BecomingBoundaries simply mean Putting Yourself First.Boundaries simply mean am putting myself first. But why do we struggle to put up boundaries? Where is the guilt, shame, or fear coming from? How do you put up boundaries?
For someone who has never considered the importance of boundaries, what should you be doing to ensure you set a healthy boundary?
Boundaries simply mean Putting Yourself First.
2023-02-1714 minThe Process of BecomingHow Do You Identify?How do the people around you identify you? Do you portray a watered-down version of yourself or you’ve been able to stay authentic despite the trials and challenges you encounter on a daily basis?
2023-02-0614 minThe Process of BecomingI Will Not Be Shut DownAt times, we find ourselves in dark places or situations where we feel like our voice has been completely shut down and we’re struggling to find ourselves.
You are not defined by your past.
2023-01-1810 minThe Process of BecomingPlease Let Them Go.Sometimes we experience a massive shift in our relationships or circle of friends. It can be very hurtful, heartbreaking, or confusing because you’re used to what’s familiar. I have learned that some relationships need to end or take a really long break because your next seasons require more than what you think that relationship could be.
2023-01-1205 minThe Process of BecomingComing out Healed,Stronger and HappierIn the process of becoming the woman God wants you to be, the woman you envision yourself to be, trials and tribulations will definitely be a part of your growth process. But remember you’re coming out healed, stronger, healthier, happier, filled with purpose and manifesting.
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