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Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast89. Relapse, Repair, and Growth with Chandler Rogers (part 1)In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie sits down with Chandler Rogers, a recovering porn addict and the founder of Relay, a group-based recovery app designed to support those on their healing journey. Chandler shares his personal story of seeking help for his addiction long before it was discovered—a rare and powerful experience that sheds light on the strength it takes to face the truth head-on.He opens up about the vulnerability it required to be honest with his now-wife early in their relationship, the ups and downs of recovery, and the reality th...2025-07-3034 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast88. Sober Doesn't Mean SafeIn this episode, Marnie unpacks a critical truth in the betrayal recovery process: sexual sobriety is not the same as relational healing. In other words, just because the acting out has stopped doesn’t mean the relationship is safe or healing. In fact, ongoing emotional / integrity abuse can re-traumatize a betrayed partner. Marnie explores why emotional sobriety is just as essential as sexual sobriety, and what it really takes to rebuild trust and connection after betrayal. A betrayed partner needs emotional safety, not just behavioral changes. Trust isn’t rebuilt by abstinence — it’s rebuilt b...2025-07-0314 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast87. Growing Yourself Back Up: Understanding Emotional Regression with author John LeeIn this powerful and eye-opening conversation, Marnie sits down with renowned author and therapist John Lee, whose classic book Growing Yourself Back Up has helped thousands understand the profound impact of emotional regression on adult relationships. Together, we explore what emotional regression is and how it silently shapes our reactions, the difference between responding as an empowered adult vs. a wounded child, and how identifying your own triggers and patterns of regression can create healthier relationships.We introduce practical tools for recognizing when you’ve been “emotionally hijacked” and how to avoid relational ruptures in those m...2025-06-1050 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast86. Empowered at Sea with Marnie and MaddieIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with betrayal trauma coach and actress Maddie Corman to explore the profound power of community in the healing journey. Maddie opens up about the importance of not going through pain alone, and how finding connection with others can be a lifeline during life’s most difficult moments. We also discuss the Empowered at Sea retreat, a transformative experience designed to support, uplift, empower, and inspire. Join us for a heartfelt conversation about resilience, support, and the courage to heal together.Learn more about Empowered...2025-05-2244 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast85. Betrayed: Who Helps Him Heal?In this deeply honest and compassionate episode, Betrayal Trauma Coach, Therapist, and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) Adam Nisenson shares his personal journey through the heartbreak of being betrayed by his now ex-wife—and how that experience transformed both his life and his work. Now the founder of betrayalshrink.com, Adam offers vital support and resources for men navigating the aftermath of infidelity. We explore the raw realities of male betrayal trauma, the often-overlooked emotional toll it takes, and how men can begin to reclaim their sense of self and safety. Adam also discusses his powerful book, A Man’s Gu...2025-05-1342 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast84. Bridge to Connection: A Pathway to Healing and Relational GrowthIn this episode, Marnie, Ilyse, and Luke sit down to share an inside look at Bridge to Connection—Helping Couples Heal’s 5-week online group coaching program designed specifically for couples navigating the painful aftermath of betrayal. Together, they explore how couples can benefit from ongoing structure, a slower pace than a workshop, and the opportunity to process what they’re learning between sessions. They also emphasize how community is key; being with other couples who truly get it—is not only comforting, but vital to the healing process.2025-05-0731 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast84. Bridge to Connection: A Pathway to Healing and Relational GrowthIn this episode, Marnie, Ilyse, and Luke sit down to share an inside look at Bridge to Connection—Helping Couples Heal’s 5-week online group coaching program designed specifically for couples navigating the painful aftermath of betrayal. Together, they explore how couples can benefit from ongoing structure, a slower pace than a workshop, and the opportunity to process what they’re learning between sessions. They also emphasize how community is key; being with other couples who truly get it—is not only comforting, but vital to the healing process.2025-05-0631 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast83. Porn, Masculinity, and Meaning: A conversation with Josh RadnorIn this honest and deeply personal conversation, actor, writer, director, songwriter, and musician Josh Radnor opens up about his journey away from pornography and alcohol, and the deeper realizations that led him there. Together, we explore the often-overlooked harms of porn — how it distorts intimacy, disconnects men from their emotional selves, and shapes the way boys grow into men. Josh reflects on the cultural messages that normalize these habits, the pain they often mask, and the liberation he found in stepping away. This episode is a call to curiosity, compassion, and courageous self-inquiry — for anyone questioning what true connection real...2025-04-221h 23Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast82. Meet the Raabsmiths: Love, RebuiltIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks to Joanna (marriage and family therapist) and Matthew (relationship coach) Raabsmith about their story of betrayal and recovery. Joanna and Matthew share how hard work, fierce commitment and the principles outlined in their book “The Intimacy Pyramid” created the foundation necessary for healing their marriage and relational transformation.Buy their book here: https://www.amazon.com/Building-True-Intimacy-Creating-connection/dp/B0C2RX95WNTogether, they lead their private practice, The Raabsmith Team.2025-04-0751 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast81. Empower Her (re-release)We’re re-releasing a very meaningful podcast episodes for all the women who missed it the first time—or haven’t yet heard about the EmpowerHer Program. The transformations we’re witnessing inside this group coaching program are breathtaking. It’s the kind of healing and reclamation we wish for every woman—but especially for those who’ve walked the painful, disorienting road of betrayal.In this episode, Marnie and Ilyse share the story behind the creation of EmpowerHer—a program born from the need to support...2025-03-2724 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast80. Money and Betrayal with Deb KaplanIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, Marnie talks with Deb Kaplan, licensed therapist, CSAT and former Wall Street career woman, about money - a topic often dismissed or neglected entirely when helping couples heal from the traumatic impact of betrayal. In this rich (no pun intended) conversation, Marnie and Deb explore the financial impacts of betrayal and discuss the process of building trust around money and creating emotional and financial intimacy.Debra Kaplan Books on Money:https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18892949-for-love-and-money-exploring-sexual-financial-betrayal-in-relationshiphttps://www.goodreads.com...2025-03-1145 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast79. "Ghosts in the Bedroom” with Gary KatzIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Gary Katz, LCSW and CSAT about the complex dynamics surrounding infidelity, pornography and betrayal that impact sexuality and intimacy. If you are struggling with sexual and intimacy-related issues after betrayal, including desire, safety, rejection and arousal, this episode will offer clarity and compassion and and opportunity to begin to explore the complexity of sexual and relational healing.2025-02-2240 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast78. Accidentally Brave Part 2 with Maddie Corman PodcastIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal, Marnie talks to Maddie Corman again about her journey through a public discovery, grief and betrayal trauma and her powerful film (just released on HBO), Accidentally Brave. In this conversation, Maddie shares more about life, healing and recovery where the film left off including the gifts and lessons she learned along the way. With honesty and humor, Maddie brings us with her as she continues to bring hope to those still in the depths of despair. Marnie and Maddie also announce their first professional collaboration, a women's empowe...2025-02-1050 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast77. Life After Discovery - A Son’s Journey Through Betrayal and HealingIn this intimate and powerful episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Brett Rankin, son of HCH Betrayal Trauma Coaches Susan and Scott Rankin, who vulnerably and courageously shared their story of relational betrayal on the podcast in August of 2024. In this candid conversation, Brett reflects for the first time publicly on his experience navigating life after the discovery of his father’s addiction when he was 18 years old. He opens up about the emotional impacts of betrayal on himself, his role in supporting his younger sister and and his relationship with both of his parents th...2025-02-0434 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal PodcastGaslighting with Dr. Kevin SkinnerIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Dr. Kevin Skinner about gaslighting and abuse in the context of betrayal trauma. Together, they explore how psychological abuse and gaslighting impacts betrayed partners and creates a significant barrier to relational healing and emotional intimacy. While an incredibly painful topic that can also trigger immense shame and a host of other difficult emotions, turning towards the reality of abuse is the only way to heal.2025-01-2839 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast75. How Workshops WorkIn this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie Breecker speaks with Jaclyn Schwartz, licensed therapist and betrayal trauma expert , to discuss the transformative impact of workshops for couples navigating betrayal. They explore the importance of hearing the same expert education and guidance together, the power of connecting with other couples facing similar challenges, and why early intervention is crucial to prevent further trauma caused by well-meaning but ill-informed professionals.Marnie and Jaclyn are hosting the next Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop on January 30-31, 2025, where couples will gain a shared understanding of betrayal’s impact an...2025-01-1331 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast74. Empower HerIn this episode, Mamie and Ilyse share the story behind the creation of the EmpowerHer course and the need for this for women staying in the relationship, leaving the relationship or are unsure and haven't made that decision yet. They discuss how the aftermath of betrayal throws women into a whirlwind of unfamiliar world of addiction, Infidelity, and recovery. This often leaves them feeling shattered, lost, and spending years of their lives navigating a world they never asked to be in.The EmpowerHer program shifts the focus Inward, creating a new conversation; one that prioritizes self-reconnection. It's...2024-12-1924 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast73. Interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla (re-release)This week I decided to re-release an old podcast episode from 2019 when me and Duane first interviewed Dr. Omar Minwalla. Since the time of this interview, Dr. Minwalla has expanded his model to include terms such as compulsive entitled sexuality and integrity abuse and I decided to re-introduce this initial interview to provide some context and understanding of where we are now and how we got here. The model referred to in this episode is an integral part of the Helping Couples Heal poly-theoretical approach to treating betrayal trauma.2024-12-1044 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast72. Rebuilding Self-Trust After BetrayalIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Ilyse dive into the profound impact betrayal has on self-trust, exploring how infidelity and sex addiction can leave betrayed partners questioning their intuition, worth, and decision-making abilities. Together, they unpack the ways betrayal damages one’s ability to trust oneself and share actionable steps towards empowerment and self-trust. With empathy and expertise, they offer a compassionate guide to help listeners reconnect with their inner strength, rebuild confidence, and find their way back to themselves. Whether you’re navigating betrayal personally or supporting someone who is, this episode provides inva...2024-11-2033 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast71. A Call to Men with Ted Bunch [re-release]This week I decided to re-release an episode from April 2023 when Duane and I interviewed Ted Bunch, the COO and co-Founder of A Call to Men.Recently Helping Couples Heal has been focusing a great deal of attention on the topic of male socialization and male sexual entitlement. This interview with Ted provides an opportunity to further the conversation and facilitate a deep dive into the unhealthy psychology that fuels sex addiction and betrayal.2024-11-0152 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast70. Consistently be ConsistentIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks about the importance of consistency in healing from betrayal. Marnie candidly and directly guides both betrayed partners and betrayers to develop an understanding of what consistently means in the context of betrayal and how the role consistently plays in helping couples heal.  2024-10-1117 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast69. After Betrayal: Moral and Ethical Decisions Beyond the Lies and DeceptionIn our last episode, Marnie talked about how to move forward after betrayal with a partner who refuses to provide safety, reassurance, consistency and active participation in the healing process. In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Ilyse continue the conversation, this time turning the focus to the betraying partner. Just as the betrayed partner has important life altering decisions to make, so does the person who caused the relational destruction. These decisions must be navigated in the spirit of a fierce commitment to truth and reality, both elements which were non-existent for the betrayed partne...2024-09-1924 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast68. The Unchangeable Truth: We Can't Change OthersThe Unchangeable Truth: We Can't Change OthersIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks about the pain and confusion that arises for couples when one partner is not doing the work to heal. She gently and compassionately addresses the hard truth that nobody can force another person to do recovery work, demonstrate empathy, tell the truth, change and/or heal. Using the metaphor of a bridge, we will explore the frustration and grief that accompanies the healing process, specifically when one partner isn't willing or able to cross the bridge together.  2024-09-0214 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast67. Healing After Betrayal: One Couple's StoryIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks to HCH coaches Susan and Scott Rankin, a husband and wife with their own story of relational betrayal and healing. Susan and Scott vulnerably share their journey of healing and rebuilding their relationship and open up about the painful impact the addiction had on their lives and their relationship and the path that led them back to themselves and each other. Listeners will hear about the pivotal moments in their recovery journey, including the decision to seek therapy, the role of honesty and vulnerability, and the...2024-08-221h 06Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast66. Breaking the Silence: A Woman's Journey Through Pornography AddictionIn this deeply personal and eye-opening episode, Marnie sits down with "Jess", who bravely shares her experience with pornography addiction. Jess discusses the roots of her addiction, the emotional and psychological impact it had on her life, and the challenges she faced in seeking help.She opens up about the stigma surrounding female pornography addiction and the misconceptions that often prevent women from seeking the support they need.Through her story, Jess sheds light on the recovery process, the strategies that helped her heal from pornography and sex addiction and the importance of self-compassion and...2024-08-0640 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast65. Betrayal Violence with Hope RayIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with her friend, colleague and author of the Complex Partner Trauma magazine, Hope Ray, about integrity abuse and betrayal violence. With compassion, Marnie and Hope have a brutally honest conversation about the power and control dynamics present in relationships where betrayal has occurred.  Recognizing and acknowledging abusive behaviors, especially those tied to deceptive sexuality, is a challenging but crucial step toward healing. It requires a deep level of self-awareness and honesty, as well as a willingness to confront difficult truths about one's actions an...2024-07-2446 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast64. Financial Shame and Anxiety: Transforming fear to empowerment after betrayalIn this episode of the helping couples heal podcast, Marnie speaks with Ilyse craft, Joni ogle and Stephanie roman about the complexity of finances and more specifically, in the aftermath of betrayal.Navigating financial fears can be daunting, especially after betrayal. It's common to feel avoidant, but it's crucial to face these issues head-on to make informed decisions and move forward. There are options and plenty of support available to help you through this.Our own issues and fears about money can often be what keep us feeling stuck.Developing financial confidence is...2024-07-1843 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast63. Should I stay, or should I go? with Ilyse CraftIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with HCH President and betrayal trauma coach Ilyse Craft about the complexities partners face after experiencing betrayal, specifically the decision of whether to stay or leave their relationship.Finding clarity about the future of a relationship traumatized by betrayal involves navigating a spectrum of emotions, from hurt and anger to confusion and doubt. Factors such as the history of the relationship, finances, the extent of the betrayal and the presence of children further complicate this decision-making process. Each i...2024-07-0829 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast62: Men and ShameIn their final podcast episode together, Marnie and Duane talk about men and shame in the context of healing relationships after betrayal.2024-06-1440 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast61: The Loss of Memories with Jake PorterIn this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast we are sharing Marnie's segment with Dr. Jake Porter at the Choose Connection Summit, discussing the loss of memories resulting from betrayal and integrity abuse. If you're facing the trauma and impact of betrayal, you will likely relate to what you'll hear. Take a listen to how the grief and loss is described by both the betrayed and the betrayer and the difference between their experience.2024-05-2051 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast60: Integrity Abuse: The Elephant in the RoomIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Ilyse Craft, Certified Transformational Coach, about the "A" word that many betrayers seek to avoid.Marnie and Ilyse dive deep into integrity abuse through the lens of deceptive and compartmentalized sexuality. Using the metaphor of the "secret sexual basement", they turn the spotlight on the word that nobody wants to say (or hear) because developing a language based in truth and creating a shared narrative is necessary for couples to heal. Accepting and naming the integrity abuse inherent in sexual betrayal is profoundly helpful for bot...2024-05-0219 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast59: Looking Back with Stan TatkinIn this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie talks with Stan about the original episode they recorded back in 2021 and explore why that episode was so popular with our listeners. Their conversation is followed by the re-release of the original episode.2024-04-171h 20Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast58: One Woman's Story of HopeIn this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie talks with award-winning actress Maddie Corman about her journey of healing from betrayal trauma in the aftermath of discovering her husband's secret life. In 2015, life as Maddie knew it came to a screeching halt when the police came to her home to arrest her husband. In an instant everything changed and her life as she knew shattered in a very public and shocking way.With raw vulnerability, Maddie shares with us how the biggest trauma of her life led to transformation, hope and healing. 2024-04-021h 00Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast57: One man's story of hopeIn this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie interviews Chris Jones, a coach and therapist who shares his own story of healing from problematic sexual behavior. Chris opens up about his own process, what he has learned and what was the prominent factor that caused his wife to never doubt his commitment to recovery.  2024-03-1227 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast56: Grief & Loss after BetrayalIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk about the losses that result from betrayal and the grieving process couples must walk through together as an important part of relational healing. When couples are able to do the hard work of grieving together, they create the shared narrative necessary to envision a future for their relationship. 2024-02-2835 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast55: Looking Ahead After Betrayal At The Start Of A New YearIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss setting goals and intentions for the new year and the difficulty that might arise in the process when thinking about and planning for the future for couples trying to heal their relationship after betrayal.Our intention for all of our listeners as you begin the new year is healing and peace. 2024-01-1731 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast54 How to Reconstruct a Relationship with Jake PorterIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Jake Porter of Daring Ventures about trauma, addiction, secure attachment, grief and loss, and how to reconstruct a relationship that has been traumatized by betrayal. We discuss how couples can create new meaning in their relationships after betrayal and the importance of working together to develop a shared collaborative narrative of their history.  We also explore the steps and tools necessary to help couples heal and explain why it is so important for the person who has committed the betrayal to become a part of...2023-10-2150 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast53: Shattering the Stigma: Providing Hope for Men Impacted by Betrayal TraumaIn the face of betrayal, healing may seem like an impossible task for male partners. Male betrayed partners are often overlooked in the treatment of betrayal trauma. In this episode, Marnie and Duane address the challenges that male betrayed partners face in the aftermath of betrayal and emphasize the need for support in their healing process. Men are often taught to be strong and emotionally stoic, making it difficult to seek help when they experience betrayal. The void of resources specifically for men reinforces this. You're not alone in your pain. We see you...2023-09-1415 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast52: Embracing a Restorative Justice Model After BetrayalIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, hosts Marnie Breecker and Duane Osterlind emphasize the importance of adopting a restorative justice model when healing a relationship after betrayal. They advocate for moving away from a punitive mindset and instead focusing on healing, repairing the harm caused, and fostering understanding. The hosts address common misconceptions, such as the idea that showing compassion to the betraying partner neglects or disrespects the betrayed partner. They stress that the restorative approach respects the humanity of everyone involved and allows for accountability and meaningful repair. By...2023-08-0726 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast51: In Each Other's Care with Stan TatkinIn this episode, Marnie and Duane welcome Stan Tatkin back to the Helping Couples Heal podcast to continue their discussion about healing relationships after betrayal and to talk about his new book In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand how to create relationships based on fairness, justice, and mutual sensitivity and how to make them thrive long-term.Check out our free webinar on healing your relationship after betrayal trauma.https://workshop.helpingcouplesheal.c...2023-06-3055 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast50: The Power of Personal Advocacy and Collaboration in Betrayal Trauma TreatmentIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk about being responsible for your healing and what that means. While building a treatment team is critical for successful recovery and healing, advocating for yourself is equally important. Therapy/therapeutic coaching is a collaboration and partnership between the treating professional and the client/clients. Learning to advocate for yourself and be a collaborative partner in this process is crucial to staying on a path that's right for you/your relationship as you heal from the trauma of betrayal. Lea...2023-05-2230 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast49: A Call to Men with Ted BunchIn this episode of The Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk to Ted Bunch, author, educator, activist, lecturer, and Chief Development Officer at A Call to Men, about the collective socialization of Men, the "Man Box" and how these social constructs directly impact our lives and relationships and, specifically, infidelity, betrayal, and sex and pornography addiction.  Since A Call To Men was founded in 2002, they have trained more than a million people and worked with organizations around the world, including the National Football League, National Basketball Association, National Hockey League, Major League Baseball, Major League Socc...2023-04-1752 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast48: Ambiguous Grief with Stephanie SarazinIn this episode of the Helping Couple Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with author Stephanie Sarazin about her book "Soulbroken: A Guidebook For Your Journey Through Ambiguous Grief," written in the aftermath of her own experience of intimate betrayal. Frequently, betrayed partners report intense feelings of grief as a result of the discovery of betrayal. Grief is a word we are all familiar with, but grieving someone who is still alive is altogether less familiar and certainly less understood.  In our interview with Stephanie, we dive deep into understanding the emotional pain of a changed or lost relationship with s...2023-03-291h 00Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast47: Help Them Heal with Carol the CoachIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Carol Juergensen Sheets (AKA Carol the Coach) about Help. Them. Heal., her newest book about helping couples heal their relationship after sexual betrayal. She also shares about the Early Recovery Couples Empathy Model (ERCEM) and how she trains professionals in this model to help them in their work with clients in moving towards relational healing and post-traumatic growth.  Learn more about our Helping Couples Heal workshop at https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/2023-02-2344 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast46: You Can't Think Your Way Out of TraumaIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Gemini Adams, Trauma Recovery Specialist, Educator, Author, and HCH Coach, about the importance of including somatic practices in the treatment of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD). Talk therapy and coaching have tremendous value and are often much-needed resources for individuals suffering from mental health issues, life stressors, grief, and relationship problems. Talking also has some limitations when it comes to healing complex trauma and calming a dysregulated nervous system. After the discovery of betrayal, both partners often experience acute and chronic stress, emo...2023-01-2456 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast45: Imago Dialogue/Safe Conversations with Harville & Helen - Part 2In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane bring you part 2 of their conversation with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.Harville and Helen talk about the history of IMAGO dialogue (now called Safe Conversations) and share their social vision of moving from an individualistic civilization to a relational civilization as the next stage of human social evolution. They explain how they have devoted themselves to taking a therapeutic intervention (IMAGO dialogue) that was historically taught only in a therapeutic setting and bringing it into the culture to teach all human beings how to tal...2022-12-1451 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast44: Imago Dialogue/Safe Conversations with Harville & Helen - Part 1In part one of this special episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with relationship experts Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt about their relationship history, the struggles that almost led to divorce, and how these experiences gave birth to the co-creation of Imago Relationship Therapy and more specifically the Imago Dialogue that they now refer to as Safe Conversations. Driven by a fierce commitment to promoting the transformation of couples, Harville and Helen created a safe and structured way to help couples overcome challenges and learn to communicate and, ultimately, heal. 2022-11-0939 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast43: Living in LimboIn this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane answer a listener's question about how to live in limbo, without safety, after choosing to stay in a relationship after betrayal.  https://helpingcouplesheal.com/https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/2022-10-2123 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast42: Wholly Healthy Sex After BetrayalIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Zoe Kors, certified Sexolgosit and HCH's resident Sex and Intimacy Coach, about healthy sexuality and sexual integration in the context of healing from betrayal and relational trauma.  Here is the link to the Sexual Reintegration Online Self-Guided Course.https://helpingcouplesheal.com/reintegration-course/2022-10-0447 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast41: Betrayed Partner Trauma ResponsesIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the biology of partner trauma responses through the lens of attachment theory and safety. Conceptualizing partner trauma from this lens allows those who have betrayed to learn the necessary relational skills to help heal. In this short but informative episode, Marnie and Duane address the complexities of healing from betrayal trauma and the mistakes made by those who were betrayed when trying to help their partner recover from triggers and trauma responses.  2022-09-0919 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast40: CommunityIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with a couple about how the HCH couples community has profoundly changed and transformed their relationship. As Corrie and Pat reflect on their experience, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of community and connection in healing from betrayal trauma.2022-08-0644 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal PodcastSpecial Episode - Carol The Coach interviews Marnie about the HCH Couples CommunityWe hope you enjoy this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal Podcast. This is a repost of an interview on Sex Help with Carol the Coach where Carol interviewed Marnie about the Helping Couples Heal Online Couples Community and why community is so important for couples recovering from betrayal trauma.To learn more about the community, click the link below.https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community/2022-07-2141 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast39: Life After RecoveryIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie answer a listener's question about what to expect further along the recovery road for a couple recovering from betrayal trauma. What does moving forward look like after early tasks such as disclosure have been achieved? What's on the other side? Should there be more to compensate for years of acting out and integrity abuse? Marnie and Duane answer some of these questions and explore what life can look like beyond recovery when both partners are very much invested in healing the relationship2022-07-0622 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast38: Transparency After BetrayalIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of full transparency in a relationship traumatized by betrayal. Often we hear from hopeless partners who are in so much pain because after the discovery of betrayal, there remains a lack of integrity, specifically when it comes to full transparency.  Full transparency allows a partner to move from a place of trauma and despair to a place of security, trust, and healing. To those who have betrayed their partner, helping your partner and your relationship heal from betrayal trauma requires full transparency and the will...2022-06-2023 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast37: Time and ExpectationsIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the importance of managing expectations around the time it takes to heal relationships after the discovery of betrayal. Learn more about our workshop:https://helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/Learn more about our online couples community:https://helpingcouplesheal.com/helping-couples-heal-online-couples-community/2022-05-1826 minSex With EmilySex With EmilyThe Truth about Sex Addiction w/ Marnie BreeckerSo listen: is sex addiction real? We’ve all heard stories of infidelity followed by explanations of sex addiction as the reason for the behavior. But the truth is, just because someone cheats doesn’t mean they’re a sex addict. According to therapist Marnie Breecker from the Center for Relational Healing, sex addiction is indeed real: it’s an intimacy disorder with both emotional and physiological symptoms. On this best of show, Marnie and I talk about the common and compulsive behaviors of sex addiction, the deep human need for love and connection, affordable treatment options...2022-05-1338 minSex with EmilySex with EmilyThe Truth about Sex Addiction w/ Marnie BreeckerSo listen: is sex addiction real? We've all heard stories of infidelity followed by explanations of sex addiction as the reason for the behavior. But the truth is, just because someone cheats doesn't mean they're a sex addict. According to therapist Marnie Breecker from the Center for Relational Healing, sex addiction is indeed real: it's an intimacy disorder with both emotional and physiological symptoms. On this best of show, Marnie and I talk about the common and compulsive behaviors of sex addiction, the deep human need for love and connection, affordable treatment options, love addiction, a how-to on IMAGO therapy (a...2022-05-1334 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast36: ShameIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of shame, the greatest obstacle/barrier to healing relationships after betrayal. It is crucial that a betraying partner be accountable for their betrayal; shame doesn’t accomplish that. Shame makes healing much harder, perhaps impossible. What accompanies shame most often is the feeling of hopelessness because it tells you that this (what you have done) is who you have always been and always will be. Rather than conceptualizing your betrayal as behavior that caused trauma to your intimate partner (and perh...2022-04-2629 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast35: Sexual Health with Dr. Emily MorsePLEASE READ BEFORE LISTENING:Please be advised that we will be talking about sexuality in this episode and, at times, will be using graphic language that may be triggering or bring up uncomfortable emotions for some. The content of this episode will not be appropriate for those of you who have recently had discovery, are in acute trauma or crisis, and/or have not yet (or have just started) to work on relational healing. This episode is for our listeners who are at a place in their healing and couples recovery where they want to begin to ex...2022-03-2348 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast34: Betrayed By PornIn this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the topic of pornography, specifically in the context of betrayal. This episode isn't a moral debate about pornography. Instead, it is a candid discussion about the traumatic impact of discovering a secret sexual life on an unknowing partner."It's just porn" is often used as a way to minimize the damage or pain experienced by the partner who was left in the dark for years. However, by definition, betrayal in itself (regardless of the nature of the sexual behavior) causes complex trauma to those who had no idea about their...2022-03-0215 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast33: The Complexity of TrustIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Duane and Marnie discuss how the compartmentalization of trust can hinder relational healing and further traumatize a betrayed partner.  While many betrayers are able to understand why their partner can no longer trust them when it comes to sexual and relational fidelity, many do not understand why their partner is no longer able to trust them in other areas "separate from the betrayal." Marnie and Duane explain why nothing remains "separate" after betrayal and how understanding the danger of distorted thinking in recovery can help prevent further trauma.  2022-02-1425 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast32: Therapeutic SeparationIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane address therapeutic separation in the context of betrayal and relational trauma, a topic often talked about but not often understood. They discuss everything from what it is and what it is not to why a therapeutic separation can feel threatening or scary and why (if used correctly and with professional support and guidance) it can be a practical intervention for couples trying to heal their relationships after betrayal.  2021-12-1431 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast31: Feeling StuckA note to our listeners:We want you to know how sorry we are that it's been so long since we released a podcast episode. Please know that you've been on our minds and in our hearts; it's just been a particularly crazy busy time for us and we're doing our very best to meet the needs of all of our clients, staff, and listeners. Sadly, there just isn't enough time in the day. Please bear with us, we're here for you!  Feeling stuck can mean a lot of things. In this episod...2021-11-0924 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast30: The Truth: A Conversation with Neil Strauss Part 2In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, author and transformational journalist Neil Strauss joins Marnie and Duane once again to continue their conversation about his personal journey of betrayal and healing and the transformative work that changed his life. Part 1 https://helpingcouplesheal.com/the-truth-a-conversation-with-neil-strauss/2021-06-2254 minThe Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult ChairThe Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult ChairHealing from Betrayal Trauma with Duane Osterlind & Marnie BreeckerWhen we form intimate partnerships in life, it goes far beyond love. The relationship becomes our home, our social circle, our sense of safety, and our way of living.   That’s why betrayal in intimate relationships, whether infidelity or lying, is so hurtful. It doesn’t just cause emotional pain, but it also shakes our entire sense of safety and reality. It’s a true multi-layered trauma that is not nearly as simple as breaking up and moving on or deciding to forgive and stay together.   The betrayed partner often faces feelings...2021-06-1755 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast29: When Feeling of Safety Don't Align: Sexual Recovery is Not EnoughIn this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane, explore why betrayed partners often still don't feel safe even after sexual recovery has been achieved. 2021-06-0727 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast28: Couples Therapy: Too Soon or Not Soon Enough?In this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane respond to a listener's request for guidance about couple therapy, including when it is and isn't clinically recommended and the indicators that it is too soon or not soon enough. Betrayed partners commonly report that they have been pushed to do therapy as a couple early on in the process before they are ready and while they still feel unsafe. Join Marnie and Duane for this important conversation as they discern early couples work focused on crisis management and safety building from later couple therapy where bonding, co...2021-04-1425 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast27: PACT Therapy, Attachment and Betrayal Trauma with Stan TatkinIn this episode of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane talk with Stan Tatkin - clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT) neuroscience and the role of attachment theory in healing betrayal and relational trauma.  Please listen carefully to every word of this interview if you are someone who has betrayed your partner and can't understand why she is as traumatized as she is by your betrayal.  2021-03-051h 03Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast26 Finding Professional SupportIn this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss the unique and often challenging process of finding the "right" help in the aftermath of betrayal. They stress the importance of a collaborative and systems-focused approach to relational helping and address the potential pitfalls of using a non-relational model, including further trauma.2021-02-0225 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast25: Grief & Loss During the HolidaysIn this episode, Marnie and Duane address the topic of grieving during the holidays, when loss and grief are often felt more acutely. The holiday season, which extends from Thanksgiving to the beginning of the new year, is a very long stretch of time when there is an expectation of celebration and joy. This can feel very incongruent for those in recovery from betrayal and relational trauma because the mood of someone who is grieving is very contrary to most others' mood during these festive times. Marnie and Duane offer some practical suggestions for surv...2020-12-1420 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast24: Betrayal Trauma & The PolygraphIn this episode, Marnie talks to Ryan Angulo, a Los Angeles based Polygrapher who she has been working with since 2008. With differing opinions amongst treatment professionals and clients alike about the efficacy of polygraphs in the context of sex addiction and betrayal trauma recovery, traumatized couples are often left confused, frustrated, and uncertain about whether or not to include the polygraph as a part of their disclosure and healing process. Marnie and Ryan answer the most commonly asked questions and explore the benefits and risks of using the polygraph as a tool to promote relational healing and rebuild trust...2020-11-021h 07Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast23: The Shame of StayingThis episode of the HCH podcast focuses on the shame many betrayed partners' experiences related to their decision to stay in the relationship with the person who betrayed them. In this conversation, Marnie and Duane conceptualize the shame of staying as another burden partners must bear in the aftermath of the discovery of betrayal.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at helpingcouplesheal.com/aboutLearn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop2020-10-1623 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast22: The Truth: A Conversation with Neil StraussIn this episode, Marnie has an uncensored and candid discussion with New York Times bestselling writer and transformational journalist Neil Strauss. Neil talks openly about his sex addiction recovery journey as chronicled in his book "The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships" With humor, humility, and honesty, He shares many of the lessons he learned in treatment, including the moments in therapy that changed his life, healed his relationship, and, most important, brought him home to himself. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our H...2020-09-0755 minSex With EmilySex With EmilyPorn vs RealityToday I bring you a special combination of guests, to give you a unique perspective on the porn industry. I talk to legendary porn star and sex educator Nina Hartley, sex addiction specialist Dr. Marnie Breecker and ethical porn director Erika Lust.Nina Hartley shares her insights on her decades long experience in the porn industry, her personal relationships and advice on figuring out what kind of relationships work for you. Then, Dr. Breecker and I take a deep dive into the complexities of sex addiction. Dr. Breecker is a therapist who specializes in sex addiction and...2020-08-2857 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast21: A Conversation With Dr. Rob WeissIn this episode of Helping Couples Heal, Marnie and Duane talk with Dr. Rob Weiss, a clinical sexologist and the Chief Clinical Officer at Seeking Integrity in Los Angeles. In his book "Out of the Doghouse; a Step by Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating," Rob offers concrete steps men can take to rebuild trust, restore intimacy, and heal relationships traumatized by betrayal. Sex addicts are intimacy-challenged and empathy-challenged. As such, they lack the skills needed to overcome the damage caused by their infidelity and associated patterns of manipulation, deceit, and emotional and psychological abuse. In this episode...2020-08-1751 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast20: Emotional Attunement & ShameIn this episode, Marnie and Duane share and address a listener's question about the role of empathy and emotional attunement in healing relationships traumatized by betrayal.  More specifically, they conceptualize shame as a barrier to relational healing and explore the importance of shame reduction in treatment.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2020-07-0620 minHypnotize MeHypnotize MeHM168 Affair Recovery and Helping CouplesDo you suspect your partner of cheating or have you ever been cheated on? If so, join Dr. Liz, Duane Osterlind, and Marnie Breecker for a discussion about how to recovery from affairs (and a little about sex addiction). We talk about:              Why affairs traumatize a partner. How the cheated on partner is traumatized. The impact of betrayal on the brain. How to start recovering from the affair. Why individual therapy is so important after a discovery. Should you track a partner who has cheated? Should your partner open their phone if they haven’t cheated? See more abou...2020-06-1239 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast19: Emotional Attunement & EmpathyIn this episode, Marnie and Duane discuss why emotional attunement is a necessary component for relational healing and why the" right words" without a felt sense of compassion for what your partner is experiencing and feeling just isn't enough.  They also explore the role of empathy in emotional attunement and why compassionate empathy is crucial to healing partner and relational trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2020-05-2530 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast18: Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part ThreeIn the final episode of a 3-part interview with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane continue the conversation about integrity abuse disorders and gender pathology in the context of betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Online Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2020-04-281h 08Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast17: Coping With The PandemicIn this special edition of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak to those impacted by betrayal about the added stress and trauma caused by the current global crisis and the importance of social connection during a time of physical distancing and isolation. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2020-03-3018 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast16: Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part Two In the second of a series of three interviews, Marnie and Duane continue their conversation with Dr. Minwalla about integrity abuse disorders; the clinically significant deficits in integrity and patterns of psychological, emotional and relational abuse which cause complex trauma symptoms in betrayed partners.    2020-03-2341 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast15: Understanding Betrayal with Dr. Omar Minwalla Part OneIn the first of a series of three interviews with Dr. Omar Minwalla, Marnie and Duane explore the impact of emotional and psychological abuse in the context of betrayal trauma and explain how this kind of abuse is part of a larger problem that Dr. Minwalla calls an integrity abuse disorder. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2020-02-1037 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast14: Marsha & Michael's Recovery StoryIn this episode, Marnie and Duane interview "Marsha and Michael" about their relational recovery journey in the aftermath of sex addiction and betrayal. With incredible vulnerability, they share with us how they survived and healed from relational and betrayal trauma  To protect their anonymity, we have changed their names and used software to disguise their voices.    You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2020-01-081h 07Helping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast13: Trust After BetrayalMarnie & Duane discuss why it is so difficult to rebuild trust after betrayal. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2019-12-2023 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast12: Understanding Disclosure with Dan DrakeIn this interview of the Helping Couples Heal podcast, Marnie and Duane speak with our colleague Dan Drake, LMFT, CSAT-S about the process of the formal therapeutic disclosure. We discuss and explore the value of disclosure and its impacts on recovery from betrayal and relational trauma. We address some of the most common questions and discuss the importance of safety and therapeutic support in the disclosure process. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/w...2019-11-2048 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast11: Evolution of Partner Trauma Treatment with Stefanie CarnesIn this episode, Marnie and Duane speak with Stefanie Carnes about the evolution of the partner trauma model and the necessary shift from the codependency model in treating betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2019-10-2245 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast10: A Partner Sensitive Recovery PlanIn this episode, Duane and Marnie will introduce and explain the fourth (other) circle and explore how it changes the treatment for both partners and promotes relational healing for couples impacted by betrayal trauma. The Three Circle Plan originated from Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) and has been effective for years in helping sex addicts achieve and maintain sobriety. However, in a field that continues to evolve and move from a traditional addiction/codependent model to a partner trauma model, the absence of a fourth circle fails to acknowledge the others impacted by the addict's recovery plan. 2019-10-0818 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast09: Discovery: Managing the CrisisIn this episode, we discuss universal partner trauma responses and explore how the discovery of betrayal creates a crisis for the entire family system.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2019-09-1735 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast08: John & Jane's Recovery StoryIn this episode, we talk with John & Jane (not their real names) about their recovery journey through betrayal and relational healing and how the trauma model changed the trajectory of their healing.  This episode is filled with hope for those who are still suffering.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2019-08-1251 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast07: Interview with Dr. Omar MinwallaIn this episode, we interview Dr. Omar Minwalla, Clinical Sexologist, licensed psychologist and founder of The Institute for Sexual Health about his compulsive-abusive-sexual relational disorder model.  Dr. Minwalla explains how his model significantly changes the treatment of betrayal and relational trauma.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/  2019-08-0544 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast06: The Sex Addict: Integrating the Partner Trauma Model Part 2In this episode, we continue to discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict/offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship.  You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ Learn More About Our Helping Couples Heal 2-Day Workshop at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/workshop/2019-07-1925 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast05: The Sex Addict: Integrating the Partner Trauma Model Part 1In this episode, we discuss why it’s so crucial to integrate the partner trauma model into the addict or the offending partner's treatment right from the start; abstinence alone is not enough to heal a relationship. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/  2019-07-0136 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast04: Survival ResponsesIn this episode, we discuss the two causes of trauma in a betrayed partner's experience; the initial trauma or "discovery" and trauma-induced survival responses and how these responses can cause further trauma to a betrayed partner.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/ 2019-06-0421 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast03: Pathologizing the Partner vs. Partner Trauma ModelIn this episode, we discuss the two approaches to the treatment of betrayal trauma; the traditional codependency/co-sex addiction model and the partner trauma model.  We explain why the traditional approach lacks the necessary relational component and why we use this approach to treat partner and betrayal trauma. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/  2019-05-2323 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast02: Betrayal Trauma & Relational HealingIn this episode, we define betrayal and relational trauma, why it is so important to talk about this topic and discuss why it is so difficult to heal.  We also explain why understanding betrayal trauma is crucial to relational healing.   You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/  2019-05-1027 minHelping Couples Heal PodcastHelping Couples Heal Podcast01: Introduction & HopeIn this episode, Marnie and Duane introduce themselves, share their professional experience and explain why they created the Helping Couples Heal Podcast.   They also share powerful quotes from addicts and partners about how they healed from the trauma of betrayal. If you have been traumatized by betrayal, listen to this episode for hope and inspiration. You can find out more about Duane and Marnie at: http://www.helpingcouplesheal.com/2019-05-0822 minThe BIRTHFIT PodcastThe BIRTHFIT Podcast135: Marnie BreeckerMarnie is a licenced marriage and family therapist and specializes in sex addiction who owns her own practice in LA. Marnie shares her unbelievable story of how she became a mother. Join Marnie on her journery of devastating lows and the ultimate highs. Marnie's story is a true test of strength and love.2019-01-0851 minSex, Love, and AddictionSex, Love, and AddictionFocusing on the Partner with Marnie BreeckerFinding out your partner is a sex addict and that everything you have believed to be previously true is a lie can be devastating, traumatic and isolating to say the least. Often times most partners are embarrassed and shameful, thinking they did something to cause the addict’s bad behavior. Today our special guest, Marnie Breecker, explains more on the partner’s point of view. Marnie is a Psychotherapist, Marriage and Family Counselor, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, Certified Clinical Partners Specialist, and Founder and Clinical Director for the Center of Relational Healing. She talks with Rob about the typical emot...2018-05-1037 minThe Addicted Mind PodcastThe Addicted Mind Podcast22: Relational and Betrayal Trauma with Marnie Breecker - Part TwoMarnie Breecker from the Center for Relational Healing in Los Angeles joined me for the second part of our discussion on relational and betrayal trauma. She walked us through the Six Dimensions of Relational and Betrayal Trauma as well as the steps in the process of partner healing.The Six Dimensions are:Shattered Inner World – In this initial dimension, the four core beliefs (the world is benign and a source of pleasure; the world is meaningful, controllable, and just; people are trustworthy and worth relating to; and the self is worthy, lovable, good, and competent) are...2018-01-0443 minThe Addicted Mind PodcastThe Addicted Mind Podcast21: Relational and Betrayal Trauma with Marnie Breecker - Part OneOur guest today is Marnie Breecker from the Center for Relational Healing in Los Angeles. In this first episode of a two-part series on the topic of relational and betrayal trauma, we will be defining what this type of trauma looks like and its impacts on both partners in the relationship.As a sex addiction therapist and a marriage and family therapist, Marnie is an expert identifying and assessing the traumatic impact of the discovery of infidelity or betrayal on relationships as a whole and on the individuals involved. She shares with us that there are two ty...2017-12-2125 min