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Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayWhy Avoidance Doesn’t Work (And What Does)✨ Are you avoiding life just to avoid alcohol? In this episode, I share why that strategy will never work—and how to start optimizing the energy you’re already spending so your efforts don’t go to waste.We talk about how to:Stop avoiding people and places just because alcohol might be presentUse discernment to practice your sacred yes and noShift from controlling circumstances to mastering your mindsetBuild belief brick by brick until alcohol becomes irrelevant🔗 And if you’re ready to create predictable, sustainable results, click here to book a 1:1 consult with Mary to identify ex...
2025-06-1817 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayAlcohol Isn't The Cause Of Your Hangover & The Cure You Didn't Know You NeededHey beautiful listener 💋This week’s challenge? Throw a better party. Not for your friends—for your life. We’re not talking balloons and cake (unless you want that)—we’re talking energy. Mood. Vibe. Frequency.Whether you’re waking up hungover or just heavy with life, this episode is a big warm hug and a nudge to try one thingthat shifts you back into alignment with the woman you want to be.Take yourself on a coffee walk. Smile at strangers. Put on some music and dance in your kitchen. Seriously—sometimes it’s that simple...
2025-06-1115 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayNEW EPISODE! The Evolution Of Awakened EmpowermentAND WE ARE BACK!Welcome back, my beautiful listeners—it's Mary Wagstaff, and I am beyond thrilled to be here with you today. I can hardly contain my excitement as we relaunch Stop Drinking and Start Living - The Feminine Way. This is more than just a podcast; it’s a safe space for exploring sobriety, feminine empowerment, and reclaiming the authentic essence of being a woman. Together, we’re diving into a new version of the show, and I’m so honored you’re here for it.In this episode:Rediscover the femini...
2025-01-2226 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayUrge TrackingIn this episode of Stop Drinking and Start Living, I'm excited to share my 100-day urge tracking protocol to help you gain awareness and control over alcohol cravings. Through tracking circumstances, emotions, thoughts and sensations around urges, you can shift your perspective on alcohol and create more freedom and relaxation in their lives. Key takeaways include:cultivating embodied awareness of one's nervous system responsesmoving towards new experiences rather than away from drinkingpracticing techniques like meditation to balance the nervous system and break habitual coping mechanisms. I encourage listeners to join my challenge and download my...
2024-07-1022 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayPaths to Empowerment : Celebrating 4 Years Of The Podcast!Text Mary your question to get answered live on the show! Click Here.In honor of four years of the podcast, I unveil a new online sanctuary for women who are sober, sober-curious, or in the midst of awakening, you're warmly welcomed to join a community where growth transcends traditional recovery paths!This episode not only commemorates our devotional leadership movement for women in sobriety but also extends an invitation to explore my private coaching program designed for sustainable life changes. There is a necessary sacred pauses that is required for fulfillment in ou...
2024-03-0625 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way240. The expectation to drinkUnpacking the Weight of ExpectationsHave you ever felt the weight of expectations when it comes to drinking? I know I have, and it's a trigger that many of us face. Whether it's about conforming to societal norms or appeasing others, the feeling of being expected to drink can be a significant challenge.Breaking Down Expectations: A New PerspectiveExamine the idea of expectations. Often, they stem from what's considered "normal." We explore the thought process behind expectations and how they can impact our behavior, both personally and in...
2023-09-1417 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine Way239. One and DoneWhy one and done when it comes to drinking is the dream that leads to deprivation.Unpacking the Why Behind the DreamWhy do we yearn for that solitary drink? What is it about that one drink that holds such allure? These questions are where we start our journey. It's not about judging ourselves; it's about understanding our motivations and the stories we tell ourselves.Cue, Craving, Routine, Reward: The Cognitive ModelWe explore the cognitive model of cue, craving, routine, and reward. We uncover the intricate...
2023-09-0617 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayWho's problem is it?In this episode we explore the thought you are telling yourself on repeat in some form or another, alcohol is a problem, I've got a problem, there's a problem! This ONE thought is compounding your desire to drink. Today I pose the question, what if the only problem is you thinking there is one?Oftentimes, the bigger problem lies in our own perception rather than in the alcohol itself.Here are the key points discussed in the episode:Challenging the notion of alcohol as a problem.Polarized views and societal expectations: The episode hi...
2023-07-0531 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayYour Emotional CompassToday we dive deep into the world of emotions and their profound impact on our lives. Join me on this intimate journey of self-discovery as we explore the power of vulnerability, conscious relationships, and personal growth and how it relates to your experience with alcohol. Let's embrace our emotions, liberate ourselves from external validation, and empower ourselves to live authentically.In this episode, we'll cover:The transformative power of creating space for self-reflection and exploration.Understanding the importance of consciously identifying and communicating our needs and expectations in relationships.Liberating ourselves from seeking external v...
2023-06-2827 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayManifesting Alcohol Freedom : Creating Relief on DemandWe explore manifesting alcohol freedom and creating relief on demand. Discover the transformative power of intuitive drinking, energetic clearing, and reality revealing.Mary takes you on a journey to embrace your emotions and create space for emotional well-being. Gain clarity on the thoughts and emotions associated with drinking and uncover hidden truths about alcohol's impact on your life.Learn practical techniques for energetic realignment and letting go of limiting beliefs. Find joy in being present and manifesting the change you seek.Don't miss this empowering discussion that combines introspection, emotional processing, and practical...
2023-06-2128 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #217 Regret Free MorningsYou are sick of waking up with regret. You want to feel good about yourself. You want the day to feel like an adventure, not a dull half existence. There is a spiral of shame and judgment for not being able to quit drinking, for drinking , for not being able to control it. The list goes on. So you start NEW things, add new routines, more actions and information to your already stressful mind.How many unopened courses are in your inbox? (we've all...
2023-03-2926 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #216 End Alcohol WorryStop Worrying About Alcohol You are ready to end the tireless confusion. Welcome to shift # 2 in the 5 shifts process.We move from Conformity & Confusion to Curiosity. You are worried about every area of change from drinking to quitting to the vacation that hasn't happened and the best way to that is through the lens of curiosity rather than conformity.You haven't fully examined the narrative of alcohol. You have been taking alcohol is normal at face value.Conformity happens when your to join another group / have someother label but it has...
2023-03-2231 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #215 The First Step To Drink LessYou want to feel confident walking down the wine isle. You want alcohol to be unimportant. You don’t want to make it a big deal and have to explain it or talk about it. YOU can't make it unimportant in your life until you make it unimportant to yourself. So you’ve try avoiding it or accepting you fate. But it because the pink elephant and that's all you can think about. Start by learning to see your thou...
2023-03-1526 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #213 The Other Side Of AlcoholToday's show is an uncut, raw version of me sharing some intimate emotions of my personal life and the profound impact being a holistic alcohol coach has had on me and my clients. If you want a good cry, this is the place.I read a deeply heartfelt share of the impact alcohol had on my client Laura, and the impact coaching and mindfulness has had on her life. How she is the hero in her journey, and how she continues to keep showing up for the tough stuff, but with alcohol out of the w...
2023-03-0124 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #211 The Confidence TriggerIn today's podcast episode, #211, I discussed why confidence is a trigger for alcohol consumption and how it manifests in both short-term and long-term ways.For example, a few days after a nasty hangover, you start to feel AMAZING in comparison. Your body has started to come back into balance. But rather than recognize this is because I'm NOT drinking. Your body and mind has associated natural pleasure with alcohol for so long, it thinks, I FEEL good, so it MUST be time for a drink However, when we apply the 5 shifts process to th...
2023-02-1533 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #209 Client Spotlight : Maximum Potential with MonicaDid you know it's okay to laugh about your struggles and being drunk? Turns out it's a solution to your reaching your maximum potential.In today's light hearted, value packed, podcast episode #209, there is a lot of laughing, so don't miss it. I interview my amazing client, Monica to share her triumph to accessing maximum potential. Monica shares about how growing up in Spain and traveling the world as a dancer, alcohol was never even questioned as something you wouldn't do. It was everywhere, all the time. As she shifted carriers to land in...
2023-02-011h 08Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #208 The Craving TrailIn today's episode of the podcast, I will be discussing the concept of "awakening beyond alcohol" and how it's just the beginning of a journey towards self-discovery.I will delve into the process of uncovering one's true self through the use of "craving trail" questions, as a tool to understand and reflect on one's habits, patterns, and triggers.I will be sharing examples with the "craving trail" and 5 shifts process and how it helped me gain insight into my relationship with alcohol.I will be discussing how the "craving trail" questions can be used as a...
2023-01-2529 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #193 Focusing On FailureHow much time do you spend while you are trying to not drink focusing on failing?What if you had a bunch of wins, days that you didn't drink and you knew exactly WHY and you focused on what was working instead?How would that be a game changer? Find out on today's show!Don't forget to email me what you want to know more about for the next podcast! mary@marywagstaffcoach.comThank you for being an amazing part of my circle. I love you.DISCLAIMER: This podcast an...
2022-10-2118 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #187 Effort and SurrenderThere is a lot of talk about "work life balance". But what dose that really mean?What if we could life the effort and surrender in everything we do. Work wouldn't have to become a chore, and surrender could be available to us in every moment. Tune in to explore this concept. Ease and flow. Effort and surrender. Focus and soften. Inhale and exhale. If you haven't yet, please make sure to rate and review the show as well as share it with a friend. It means so much!Mary's Interview on 12oz Of...
2022-10-1517 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #171 Alcohol & Your Health : My take away from the Huberman Lab PodcastDr. Andrew Huberman, of The Huberman Lab Podcast, is creating a huge contribution to society through his passion for research and neuroscience. In his episode on Alcohol and Your Health, he goes through the current research on what alcohol is doing to your health, body and brain. The results are in, nothing good. Although the sciences over lap to help explain the entire human experience. What Huberman neglects, unintentionally, is the BIGGER impact of the behavioral and social science impact of alcohol, addiction and conditioning on the Human. Huberman's personal response alone, shows the listener h...
2022-09-2932 minStop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #167 Being in the room (with a bottle of tequila)Hear me when I tell you, emotional freedom from alcohol IS possible for you. Today I share how I started waking up to my potential, when I put myself in a new room. On my way to the Goddess Yoga Arts Retreat, with a bottle of tequila in my bag...Focusing on becoming the solution vs. fixing the problem is the real shift in perspective. It can only happen when you "put yourself in the room."When you show up to build evidence against the thought: that a...
2022-09-2407 min
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp, #157 Overcoming OverwhelmDid you know overwhelm isn't created by a set of circumstances?In a world vying for your attention at every turn, overload is inevitable, but YOU can nip it in the bud before overload turns into: "Nothings Working!"Today empower yourself to learn how to take control were you can: In your mind. If your overwhelm often leads to drinking, this episode is for you. GET YOUR COACHING QUESTIONS ANSWERED ON THE SHOW ON AUGUST 17TH!Send your question into: mary@marywagstaffcoach.com Subject: Coaching For The PodcastSchedule...
2022-08-0329 min
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #156 Name It To Tame ItAlcohol is a symptom of unprocessed / interrupted emotions. Always. Good, bad, happy, sad. We have to have a new conversation with the sensations created by energy flowing through our body, all day, everyday. Today I teach you a technique to use in conjunction with the 5 Shifts process to come into a closer relationship to your inner energy rather than moving away from it. How to be with your emotions, normalize them, and let go. I also read an excerpt from Michale Singers book, " The Untethered Soul", that teaches us why we close down a...
2022-07-2739 min
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #155 Lessons I Learned From The RoofWe are bothering ourselves with our own thinking.Mindfulness isn't a one and done situation. It is a muscle you build over time. Seeing your thoughts as suggests for interpretation. Which ones' are useful. Which one's you don't even believe that just bump up against some uncovered insecurities or scarcity mindset. In today's episode I share with you a personal story of what I learned during a roofing project my family and I participated in. How the impact of mindfulness and The 5 Shifts has shaped my life. How changing my relationship to alcohol has given...
2022-07-2035 min
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #154 Never Say Forever, Ever AgainOne of the most destructive thoughts keeping you stuck in the rut of alcohol is the dreaded FOREVER.Forever feels scary for most things, especially when you have felt so out of control. However, when you reduce your desire and attachment to alcohol, alcohol will ALWAYS be a choice, but you won't be making the daily decision to drink. The truth is, it's not a useful thought when you are trying to create lasting change.Making decisions around alcohol can be exhausting and it feels just as exhausting NOT drinking because you think you will still...
2022-07-1325 min
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #153 Triggers As Teachers: Alcohol and BeyondYou can't swing a dead cat without being triggered by something it seems these days.The good news is, your emotional reactions, including your desire to drink are 100% in your control.In a world where so much is out of our control, taking our emotional power back where we can, can lighted the blow, bring greater blacked, healing and more clarity to how to be of service in the world. It also gives us the confidence to override the constant invalidation of alcohol that says, YOU CAN'T. In today's episode:Learn what a tr...
2022-07-0637 min
Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #152 Finding Wholeness By Letting Go Of The Past w/ Career Coach Emily Smith"Do things you have never done before to have what you have never had." - Emily Smith.This and so much more wisdom is waiting for you inside today's epode. Join my guest, Emily Smith as she shares with us her journey to find wholeness on the other side of her past and conditioned beliefs, not only from alcohol but what it means to be happy in a career and beyond.In today's Epidoe we explore:How to find your next steps in life when you feel confused.What holds you back f...
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Stop Drinking and Start Living- The Feminine WayEp. #151 What makes alcohol fun?Have you ever asked yourself, what about alcohol is actually FUN?Why altering WHO we are and not being fully present is the version of the best time you have ever had?Why do we have inhibitions in the first place?What if we changed the belief that created the inhibitions vs. just trying to drink less, would you solve the problem?If fun is a choice based on your thinking, why are we so stuck on alcohol being the end all be all of fun. We think without alcohol the parties over, but what...
2022-06-2926 min