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The Timms Take98: How We PlayMatt and Rachel discuss play, what it looks like and whether they're good at it. Together they start working towards a grand theory of play. Plus some mail from the deep end!How do you play? Let us know by emailing us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Rachel's bubbly music: "Feels So Right" and "Everything's Right" by Matt Wertz2024-02-0425 minThe Timms Take97: Let's Not Forget ThisRachel and Matt talk about the things they don't want to forget about this season, both things that Oliver and Julian are doing and things that they are feeling and experiencing themselves.We're always looking for more mail! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Rich Roll Podcast with Jessica Lahey: Innoculating Kids Against Addiction2024-01-1322 minThe Timms Take96: Second Kid TransformationsMatt and Rachel discuss the ways that having a second child has changed them from resignation to patience to introversion and all kinds of things in between. Plus, some things that haven't seemed to change at all! Have you noticed any changes through the podcast? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!2023-12-2421 minThe Timms Take95: Mundane SubscriptionsRachel and Matt do a snake draft of the services they subscribe to after some brief marital therapy induced by some recent sleepless nights. Do you have a favorite thing you're subscribed to? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Chris Trager, the fine-tuned machineGetting Things Done by David AllenOur subscriptions:Todoist1PasswordSpotifyYNAB; referral linkLeague Pass (Team Pass) Amazon PrimeRefitMicrosoft 365Google OneProsePinboardCleanMyMac X2023-12-0223 minThe Timms Take94: MomstinctsMatt interviews Rachel about her experience of instinctive decision making as a mom. Where do they come from? How does she discern when to pay attention and when to trust conventional wisdom despite them? And stay to the end to hear about Oliver's own parenting techniques!Have instincts of your own? A story where they worked out perfectly (or not so perfectly)? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com and we'll likely include your note in a future episode!2023-11-1127 minThe Timms Take93: Parenting in PublicMatt and Rachel talk about the positive and negative pressures that get applied when they have to parent in public and the way so much of this reflects our own stuff far more than the parenting our kids need! Plus, Oliver on red dye.As always, we welcome your own takes! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Sesame Street's "Good Night, World!"Beth Moore's memoir: All My Knotted-Up Life2023-10-2823 minThe Timms Take92: Becoming a Student of Each Other's LovesRachel and Matt talk about the value of studying the loves and passions of others in the family and some examples of ways they have done that for each other and with Oliver. Plus some brief weather talk and the challenge of working out what's going on with a five month old.Have your own example? Or another family/friend philosophy? Email us and let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Some Favorite Dude Perfect Videos: Ping Pong Trick Shots, Ultimate Mini Games Battle2023-10-1422 minThe Timms Take91: Rules, Boundaries & Hard LinesMatt and Rachel discuss the surprising lack of rules in their family, how that might be a healthy thing and how children (toddlers especially!) help relativize the importance of ironclad boundaries.Have a favorite family rule? Or a personal hard line you will not cross? Email us and let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Raising Boys & Girls PodcastThe Worry-Free Parent Miniseries (from the Raising Boys & Girls Podcast)Dude Perfect YouTube ChannelBlues Clues & You: Storytime with Josh & Blue (Podcast) 2023-09-2924 minThe Timms Take90: Two BookwormsRachel and Matt hit a couple of quick highlights from recent days, and then dive deep on their love of reading, where it came from, how they've cultivated it and some favorites of this year!Have a book recommendation? Or another favorite hobby you're dying to share with us? Email us and let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Wayside School Series by Louis SacharA Series of Unfortunate EventsHardy Boys mysteriesTed DekkerGoodreadsRobin Sloan on the Libby widgetThe Thursday Murder Club Series by Richard OsmanChildren of Dune by Frank...2023-09-1524 minThe Timms Take89: Replaying Earlier Episodes...But For Real LifeMatt and Rachel lament their current four month regression with Julian and reflect on what it's like going back through this all a second time.Whose analogy did you like better? It might be the only thing worth commenting on in this episode. Email us and let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Previous sleep regression episodes: Episode 20 ("I declared the regression was over..."); Episode 21 ("I was wrong...")"Look for the Light"Bell Sound Effect from Pixabay2023-08-2521 minThe Timms Take88: The Guilt We CarryRachel and Matt talk about the guilt around certain areas that they carry with them about their parenting, how they process that individually and together.How do you grapple with guilt, whether parenting-related or in another part of your life? We'd love to hear about it. Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Instagram Reel about "Soaking It All In"The Bear on Hulu2023-08-1123 minThe Timms Take87: What We Each Bring to Our FamilyMatt and Rachel explore the question "what compelling or interesting things do you bring in your role in our family?" It leads to an interesting and encouraging conversation as they explore their dynamic and how that interacts with early expectations in marriage.Have you had a conversation like this with someone? Inspired by this episode? We'd love to hear about it. Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:NYT Opinion on athletic groups replacing religion: "The Church of Group Fitness"2023-07-2823 minThe Timms Take86: If You Just Had a Month-ish: TV EditionRachel and Matt offer a whole episode of TV recommendations. Now that they can't just use Matt's parents' Netflix, they are watching shows one streaming platform at a time. So, if you only subscribed for a month, what do they think you should watch? Listen to find out. We'd love to hear your recommendations. What are your favorite shows? What should we check out? Why should we subscribe to Paramount+? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Amazon Prime: Primo and Jury DutyMax (HBO): Newsroom and The West W...2023-07-1425 minThe Timms Take85: An Update + The Last Two MonthsWe're back! Matt and Rachel talk about the future of the podcast and share a few of the things that have happened recently including Julian's birth, Oliver's third birthday and how they feel about it all. As we broaden the topics of the podcast, we're game for anything - send us a note about something you'd be curious to hear our "take" on! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Zingo, the game Matt and Oliver were playing.2023-06-3024 minThe Timms Take84: One Month Until Two KidsOne month out from baby #2 and how are we feeling? Rachel and Matt reflect on what they are anticipating, how they've been preparing (and not preparing), and what this might mean for their relationship.Plus an announcement of our upcoming plans (or lack thereof).We welcome mail responses to episodes old and new! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Kate Bowler, "A Blessing for the Life You Have"In a fitting Easter story, the Chick-fil-A Side salad died, and then rose again. 2023-04-1423 minThe Timms Take82: The SummitIn this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about their recent summit conversation and the way it created a significant "before and after" moment for Matt.How do you practice contentment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:"From the Summit" by Hannah (aka "Blog Crush Lady")Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver BurkemanSurvivor is back!The Ember mug2023-03-1019 minThe Timms Take81: Screen TimeIn this episode, Rachel and Matt discuss screen time, how much Oliver gets it, and why it might be helpful for us to just relax a little (or more than a little).Plus a mention of Oliver's first dentist experience.Do you have thoughts on screen time? We know you do! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Emily Oster's Cribsheet"From the Summit" by Hannah (aka "Blog Crush Lady")Station Eleven by Emily St John Mandel2023-02-2419 minThe Timms Take80: Ranking Oliver's (Stuffed) AnimalsIn this episode, Matt and Rachel rank Oliver's 22 stuffed animals, discussing their rankings in light of affection and emotional reactions, longevity, our personal connections to his animals, places they've been, and their heritage.Disagree with these authoritative rankings? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Photos of Oliver's animals: Almost the Whole Gang; Some of the Top 10A poor substitute for Yaya that we hope we never have to buy.Bluey: Unicorse2023-02-1022 minThe Timms Take79: Parenting JoysIn this episode, Rachel and Matt share many of the joys they experience as parents of Oliver including the magic of a toddler's head on your shoulder, seeing your child's sense of humor come alive, the funny things they say and much more.We always love mail! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:BlueyEzra Klein Show: "This Is Your Brain on Deep Reading. It's Pretty Magnificent"Drew Holcomb & the Neighbors: "Family" aka "The Shoulder Song"The Mirror Visitor Quartet by Christelle Dabos2023-01-2718 minThe Timms Take78: New Year's HopesIn this episode, Matt and Rachel explore some hopes for the new year (beyond getting potty training settled). They talk about enjoying this stage in Oliver's development, hopes for outside fun and Matt continues to revisit his unhealthy obsession with productivity.What are your hopes for the New Year? We'd love to hear them! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.2023-01-1319 minThe Timms Take77: Christmas ChaosIn this episode, Rachel and Matt debrief/vent about a tough week and Matt grapples with the difference between parenting in concept and parenting in reality. Want to send some encouragement, any encouragement? We'd welcome it! Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Jon McLaughlin: Red & Green2022-12-3012 minThe Timms Take76: Negotiations - What Works (and What Doesn't!)In this episode, Matt and Rachel go back and forth talking about what works and doesn't work for convincing Oliver to do what he's asked from preparing him for what's to come to offering a rational explanation to playing games along the way.Have your own negotiating tactic? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Episode 59 on Gentle ParentingHow to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber & Julie KingBig Little FeelingsDune the book (by Frank Herbert); Dune the Movie2022-12-1619 minThe Timms Take75: A Philosophy of ToysIn this episode, Rachel and Matt talk about their (ahem, Rachel's) toy philosophy and some toys laying around their house that fit into different categories like "best unexpected toy", "most regretted purchase" and more. Plus, stay to the end for a big announcement.Have advice in light of that announcement? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Little Tikes Basketball HoopOliver's Plastic GuitarMelissa & Doug Cleaning SetTrip a Little Light Fantastic (from Mary Poppins Returns)Andor on Disney+Descript - Matt's podcast editing software (it's magical)2022-12-0219 minThe Timms Take74: The Mental Toll of ToddlersIn this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about the mental toll of parenting including challenges at bed time, interrupted dinners, repeated songs, impossible-to-decode instructions and much more. Much, much more. Got ways to help our mental fortitude? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Episode 67: The Physical Toll of ToddlersNowhere To Go But Up & Can You Imagine That (from Mary Poppins Returns)DreamListThe 1904 Olympic Marathon: The Memory Palace Episode, Wikipedia ArticleA Guide to Christmas Feasting by Matt Timms and Sam Gutierrez2022-11-1819 minThe Timms Take73: The "Default Parent"In this episode, Rachel and Matt discuss the concept of the "default parent", where they've seen it in their own parenting, whether the term is helpful at all, and how they have (mostly) avoided this type of resentment. Plus, some Other Stuff that includes a cry for help from Rachel about lunch.Seriously, what do you eat for lunch?! Email Rachel at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Chromecast with Google TV2022-11-0419 minThe Timms Take72: Worsts & Worsts - SicknessIn this episode, Rachel and Matt talk about the struggles of short-term family sickness including bad nights of sleep, the "quick kid recovery", germ overload and much more.Have a story? Want to share a comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Photo of Oliver as Miguel from CocoABLE Clothing (and their 360 Club)2022-10-2119 minThe Timms Take71: Time Away from Kid(s)In this episode, Rachel and Matt talk about what it's like to have time away from Oliver, how normal that feels, and the swirl of feelings and cultural expectations that around that. They also explore the positive side of "time away" that opens up a part of them that isn't just a parent. Oh, and they bring up some Other Stuff, of course.Want to join the conversation? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Matt references a podcast where three Dads are talking about wanting time with their k...2022-10-0719 minThe Timms Take70: Two Perspectives on Joy and FearIn this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss this quote: "Was this parenthood? That every second of joy would be atomically split with fear?" They talk about their own different experiences of wrestling with fear, anxiety and mortality in the context of parenthood and marvel at just how different two people can be.We would love your feedback. Let us know your experience of joy and fear by emailing us at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Ashley Gadd's newsletterSinéad Gleeson's memoir ConstellationsThe Daily (by the New York Times), particularly a r...2022-09-2319 minThe Timms Take69: The Preferred ParentIn this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss the experience of Oliver preferring a particular parent, their feelings about this (and the relief of not always being the "chosen one"), how age plays a role and whether this is something to indulge or not.We loved hearing from Marco on parental pride. If you want to chime into the conversation, reach out at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:From the New York Times: "Why Does My Kid Prefer My Partner?" by Jessica GroseFrom Big Little Feelings: "Managing Parent Preference"Lucy Huber's...2022-09-0919 minThe Timms Take68: Parental PrideIn this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss the fascinating phenomenon of parental pride - where does it come from, what about it is natural, and when does it become unhealthy? They also discuss some postures that can offer a different way of appreciating kids.You might not miss us, but we miss you. If you want to chime into the conversation, reach out at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver BurkemanTimeless on Hulu"Does My Son Know You?" by Jonathan Tjarks2022-08-2619 minThe Timms Take67: The Physical Toll of ToddlersIn this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss the physical toll of toddlers on their parents, both the obvious ("collateral damage of play") and the more subtle. Plus some fun other stuff. Have other physical tolls we didn't mention? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:A study on parental sleep (or lack thereof): "Long-term effects of pregnancy and childbirth on sleep satisfaction and duration of first-time and experienced mothers and fathers" by David Richter, Michael D Krämer, Nicole K Y Tang, Hawley E Montgomery-Downs, and Sakari Lemola Th...2022-08-1219 minThe Timms Take66: Bests & Worsts - VacationsIn this episode, Matt and Rachel come fresh off an argument to talk about the bests and worsts of vacations with a toddler including the extra travel time, afternoon siestas, and just how close Matt's vacation rhythm is to that of a toddler. What are your bests and worsts of vacations? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:"Seventeen Hip Pack" aka Rachel's Re-Branded Fanny Pack2022-07-2919 minThe Timms Take65: Parenting Expectations and Doing What You Don't Want to DoIn this episode, Matt and Rachel share about a recent pool incident where neither of them wanted to be there and how we might think about doing things we don't want to for/with our kids. It quickly shifts and expands to a conversation about our expectations.And as always, we welcome your feedback and thoughts - just drop a note to timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:Bluey: Helicopter The Ezra Klein Show: "Relationships Are Hard. This Unusual Parenting Theory Can Help."Dadville with Andrew PetersonMama Bear Video 2022-07-1518 minThe Timms Take64: Who is Oliver at 2?In this episode, Matt and Rachel give an update on the state of the pod and take turns sharing defining characteristics of Oliver at the burgeoning age of 2. Enjoy! And as always, we welcome your feedback and thoughts - just drop a note to timmstake@gmail.com.Mentioned in this episode:The Karissa-recommended book: How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber & Julie King"The Pool Song" aka "The World es mi Familia"Oliver performing with backup dancer Balou 2022-07-0119 minThe Timms Take"Another in-between episode..."Matt and Rachel are on vacation this week but for a few brief minutes they're joined by the one who makes the podcast possible - Oliver! And then he leaves.Anyway, we'll be back in a week with a normal episode, a recap of some travel, and some reflections on being a parent of a 2-year-old. Plus, we'll talk about the state of the podcast.Want to weigh in about whether we should continue? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!2022-06-2002 minThe Timms Take63: "Does parenting make you happy?..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss what it means to be happy as a parent (and whether it's possible!). Prompted by recent ups and downs (including an Oliver/Matt meltdown), it's we enjoyed the conversation! Plus, we end the episode with some favorite books in the segment "Quiet Play Companions."Mentioned in this episode:Paul Bloom, "What Becoming a Parent Really Does to Your Happiness" The New One by Mike Birbiglia The Maid by Nita Prose City of Brass by S. A. Chakraborty 2022-06-0719 minThe Timms Take62: "They're just like totally outfoxing you..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel share a host of parenting peeves. They've refrained from unburdening themselves to date but it comes tumbling out now! Here them go on (and on) about sippy cups, eating out with toddlers, and more. Plus, I'm Not Just a Parent.Mentioned in this episode:The Popcast with Knox and Jamie: The More You Know - Fixing Zac Efron and Parenting Snake DraftNotion (Rachel's note-taking app)2022-05-2319 minThe Timms Take61: "A lot of growth for Matt..."You can give to the Timms Take GreenHouse Fundraiser here. In this episode, Matt and Rachel share a couple of wonderful letters, explore the topics of hidden and competing goals in parenting and then give an update on Oliver's language in a segment called "Key Plays." It's a packed episode!Mentioned in this episode:Donate to the GreenHouse any time of year hereHow to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen by Joanna Faber & Julie King: 3 Powerful Types Of Parenting Goals That Will Change Your Life 2022 by Pamela Li2022-05-0319 minThe Timms Take60: "Ultimately it really does come back to relationships..." (with Rena Crocker)You can give to the Timms Take GreenHouse Fundraiser here. In this special episode, Matt and Rachel talk with Rena Crocker, the Executive Director of the GreenHouse about parenting, introducing and practicing faith with your kids and the wonderful work being done at the GreenHouse. Plus, an invitation to "pay it forward" with a Timms Take fundraiser (see link above).Mentioned in this episode:Donate to the GreenHouse any time of year hereA simple introduction to the Church CalendarHomegoing by Yaa GyasiTranscendent Kingdom by Yaa Gyasi2022-04-1929 minThe Timms Take59: "You're such a warrior against the outdoors..."In this episode Matt and Rachel discuss Matt's war against pollen and heat, the tenets of gentle parenting and what it means to have firm boundaries with a budding toddler! Plus a new segment: Quiet Play Companions.Mentioned in this episode:“The Harsh Realm of 'Gentle Parenting'” by Jessica WinterThe Ezra Klein Show: "Relationships Are Hard. This Unusual Parenting Theory Can Help."Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver BurkemanBeach Read by Emily HenryThe People We Meet on Vacation by Emily HenryBook Lovers by Emily HenryUs by David Nichols2022-04-0519 minThe Timms Take58: "How have you changed?..."In this episode Matt and Rachel discuss how they've changed in light of becoming parents, plus Rachel brings a groundbreaking entry in the "Field Guide for Parents."Mentioned in this episode:"If You Literally Feel Like a New Person After Having Your Baby, Here's Why" by Ambrosia BradyNo Cure for Being Human by Kate BowlerCoffee & Crumbs Podcast: GamechangersThe Lazy Genius: "The 7 Date Night Mistakes You Didn't Know You Were Making" 2022-03-2119 minThe Timms Take57: "Even something as seemingly simple as preschool..."Matt and Rachel talk about a recent study on preschool education and spin off into a conversation about the deep tensions between wanting what's best for your child and wanting to contribute to a more equitable and just world. Plus, the return of Smooch, Marry, Kill.Mentioned in this episode:William Martin's "Do Not Ask Your Children to Strive" "A Top Researcher Says It's Time To Rethink Preschool" by Anya KamenetzHarry Potter: Hogwarts Battle Allbirds Wool Pipers 2022-03-0719 minThe Timms Take56: "It's tempting to then view it as a formula..."Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver as the quintessential toddler and what it looks like to not determine parenting based on future outcomes. Plus a new segment, "What's On After 7?"Mentioned in this episode:Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver BurkemanFormula One: Drive to SurviveS3E9: "Man on Fire"The Rescue2022-02-2119 minThe Timms Take55: "Getting to help form our children and to be formed is a beautiful thing..."Matt and Rachel talk about narrating the hard things of life as they discuss an essay by Abby Perry (see link below). Plus a mailbag from listener of the show, Andrei. Mentioned in this episode:"Parenting as Narrating" by Abby Perry"When I'm Older" featuring an overly optimistic Olaf2022-02-0819 minThe Timms Take54: "Most of my life is a kind of grasping..."Matt and Rachel talk about uncertainty, the significance of modeling and things in their life they would like to "Smooch, Marry, and Kill."Mentioned in this episode:Bluey: CopycatSmooch, Marry, Kill segment comes with a big tip of the hat to the Popcast with Knox and Jamie2022-01-2418 minThe Timms Take53: "I need a minute in the garage by myself..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel give a series of updates: about the podcast, about Matt's retreat, and about Oliver's recent sleep adventures.As we embark on a new season of the podcast, we're looking for new segment ideas. Send some over to us at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:The Abbey of Our Lady of New Clairvaux (where Matt went for retreat)Instagram: @takingcarababies2022-01-1018 minThe Timms Take52: "Merry Christmas..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel confess that in the Christmas merriment (and chaos) they forgot to podcast. And so here they are saying hi, sorry, and we'll see you in the new year!Want to convince Rachel to keep podcasting? Reach out to timmstake@gmail.com!2021-12-2805 minThe Timms Take51: "It's more of a full 'before, during and after' experience..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel share the results of Timms Take Trivia, discuss the merits of Disney as a vacation destination and recap their recent trip. Plus, stay till the end for a little tension on the podcast about the different ways Matt and Rachel approach post-vacation life.Have your own opinions about Disneyland or DisneyWorld? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:Confessions of a Midlife Travel Blogger: Why I’m Never Taking My Kids to DisneyMamison dishwashing glovesBookshop.orgThe Bentgo Box we used for Oliver's snacks.Matt re...2021-12-1324 minThe Timms Take50: "The listeners want something exciting..."We made it! 50 episodes! To celebrate, Matt reflect on 50 episodes of podcasting, have a very special guest on and preview a listener quiz.That's right, here it is - for you oh dear listener, CLICK HERE FOR TIMMS TAKE TRIVIA.You can take this at any time, but if you want to be eligible for the Timms Take Prize Pack, be sure to complete it by Friday, December 10.As always, thanks for listening and we love to hear from you. Shoot us a note at any time at timmstake@gmail.com!2021-11-2926 minThe Timms Take49: "I feel excited, festive even..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel revisit their conversation about traditions, Matt issues a public statement and they share some "Key Plays" in Oliver's recent development. We want to hear about your traditions! What has sizzled? What has fizzled? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:The Bible Ride (tragically out of print, but available on Ebay!)Shauna Niequist on Coffee & Crumbs2021-11-1525 minThe Timms Take48: "This woman or man with wings comes into your room..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel discuss a packed work week for Rachel, how they think about Santa and the Tooth Fairy and offer some of their favorite things in "I'm Not Just a Parent!"Tooth Fairy: Creepy or magical? You decide. Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:"The Tooth Fairy, Santa, Parents, and God" by Lydia MusherThe West Wing WeeklyOnly Murders in the BuildingA very cute picture of Oliver dressed up as Daniel Tiger.Inspector Gamache Series 2021-11-0123 minThe Timms Take47: "You just forget to wonder at how amazing all that is..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel make a promise to revisit traditions soon, discuss how to cultivate space for wondering about the world together and hear about Rachel's go-to places for Oliver's clothing. There's a lot packed in there!Let us know how you maintain wonder in the midst of a full life by sending us a note at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:Coffee & Crumbs "Stay Baffled" by Courtney Martin Target Baby ClothesH&M Baby ClothesPrimary Baby Clothes See Kai Run Shoes: The link is to the Knit Walker which is wha...2021-10-1825 minThe Timms Take46: "Good enough parents..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk a little about birthdays, traveling with toddlers and expectations before diving into a larger discussion about "good enough parenting." Stick around for a Field Guide for Parents and a bonus poem read by Rachel.Let us know your thoughts how to let go of perfectionism and let your child be their own person at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:Austin Kleon's website"The Good Enough Parent is the Best Parent" by Dr. Peter Gray Brave New Mama by Vicki Rivard2021-10-0527 minThe Timms Take45: "My eye's twitching now..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel revisit Rachel's travel preparations and their effectiveness (or not) and Matt brings an unexpectedly spicy take about holiday traditions. Yes, they will be working through what comes up in this episode for sometime.Let us know your thoughts on family or individual traditions at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:The "Haters Gonna Hate" gif from Luke's email (thanks for the letter Luke!).Creating Your Own Traditions (Not Somebody Else's) by Traci SmithGoodreads Pinterest2021-09-2028 minThe Timms Take44: "If any of this goes well, I will take all the credit..."In this special pre-vacation edition, Matt and Rachel preview their upcoming trip and the steps they [editor's note: Read, Rachel] have taken to ready Oliver (and themselves) for traveling to the Midwest. They also wrestle with the risk this entails in a pandemic and how to be hospitable to others as they travel.Think Rachel's plans were successful (or not). Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com! We'll follow up next episode. :)Mentioned in this episode:The Jet Lag App. This has been rebranded since Rachel used it for Australia, but it's the same...2021-09-0616 minThe Timms Take43: "We are always making imperfect decisions..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel respond to some mail, discuss sleep training (and reflecting back on decisions you already made) and they premier a new segment: Instagram Unposted.Have opinions about sleep training and the article we discussed? Read it (see link below) and reach out to us at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:Emily Oster, "Sleep Training: Is It Bad?"ParentData (Emily Oster's newsletter)You can find links to Emily's books at emilyoster.netPrecious Little Sleep by Alexis DubiefThe Modern Family episode featuring Cry It Out: "Up All Night" Rachel me...2021-08-2326 minThe Timms Take42: "Don't stand on the sidelines because of a little mess..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel recap their recent Yosemite modeling experience (and first night away from Oliver!), talk about hills they will and won't die on, and Rachel shares a favorite product in a new segment.Have opinions about the blog post we discussed? Read it (see link below) and reach out to us at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:Odessa James Photo (our friend Shelby's insta - because that's what the cool kids would call it and we're cool models now). A few pictures of yours truly in Yosemite. Featured in...2021-08-0932 minThe Timms Take41: "Pegleg pirate mode..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel reach into the mailbag, offer their takes and experiences with intensive parenting, expectations for a parent-child relationship in adulthood and share a significant Oliver milestone!Have opinions about the article we discussed? Read it at the link below and reach out to us at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:"Parents Are Sacrificing Their Social Lives on the Altar of Intensive Parenting" by Joshua Coleman2021-07-2624 minThe Timms Take40: "Roasting the host..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel give an update on the state of the podcast, respond to some mail, and talk about toxic positivity in our parenting language. Also, some field guide tips on managing toys! Have opinions about narrating children's emotions or anything else we talked about? Let us know at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:Instagram Account: @biglittlefeelingsHere are the particular posts we looked at for this conversation: "Your toddler is scared of the slide, or school drop off, or a purple crayon.""Has your toddler ever melted down over so...2021-07-1229 minThe Timms Take39: "Happy birthday Oliver!"In this episode, Matt and Rachel look back at the past year through the lens of wins, losses and draws. Want a full recap of Oliver's first year? Well, go back and listen to the archive. But want a glimpse into a few things that stand out? This is your episode!As always, we'd love to hear from you, particularly if you know the latest about wipe technology. Reach out at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:The Popcast's Bachelor recaps is available at their Patreon. Precious Little Sleep by Alexis DubiefThis is th...2021-06-2830 minThe Timms Take38: "Then you threw out the 'I' word..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver's reaction to Matt's haircut, his general "sour patch" tendencies and what Rachel thinks of people who call each other "Mom" and "Dad". ;) Plus, we talk about some non-parenting related things in our segment "I'm Not Just a Parent."As always, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:Broadway’s Back with Lin-Manuel Miranda and Jimmy Fallon“What’s Missing in a Pandemic Marriage? Other People” by Abigail Rasminsky 2021-06-1428 minThe Timms Take37: “Looking for sponsors of the podcast that sell these grippy bathtub mats…”In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about their recent vacation, the challenge of loving Oliver well in hard seasons and some recent bathtub slips.As always, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at timmstake@gmail.com!Mentioned in this episode:Here's what Matt and Rachel were trying to describe when talking about the ring stacking thingy. More info about TSA Precheck 2021-06-0323 minThe Timms Take36: "Baptism. Date Night. Grandparents..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel revisit some highlights from a packed couple of weeks including a date night at Golden One Center, a visit from the grandparents and Oliver's baptism.Want to get on the ground floor of Rachel's Sellable Forms? We're accepting business inquiries at timmstake@gmail.com. And by business inquiries, we just mean regular mail/interaction. :)Mentioned in this episode:Jenny & Tyler's "In Everything You Do"Want to revisit the early days right around that first grandparent visit. Check out our second episode: "It's Been A Week Folks..."2021-05-1725 minThe Timms Take35: "He's going to experience things without me..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel reveal the winner of the guessing competition in our last episode, talk about Oliver's first visit to the church nursery (well, really Rachel's feelings around that), Oliver's squirming ways, the joys and challenges of mealtime and oh so much more.Want to take a shot at that prize with an unprecedentedly good piece of mail? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com. Of course, we welcome all other quality of mail as well. :)Mentioned in this episode:West Wing ThemeEmily Oster talks with Virginia Sole-Smith about weight, kids, and...2021-05-0326 minThe Timms Take34: "What am I going to do with you now?…"In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver's recent 9-month appointment, unstructured play time, family pace and rest, and a couple of new hobbies for us! There's a lot in here. :)Plus, can you guess what Matt was struggling with throughout the episode? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com to win a prize (I don't know what it is, but I'm sure it will be good).Mentioned in this episode:Half Baked Harvest2021-04-1924 minThe Timms Take33: "Baby outfits are very tempting..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver's cannibalistic tendencies (mostly joking!), nap transitions, his Spring collection and the impact of a baby on the practicalities of our faith - what in the world does church look like without an open nursery and a 9 month old?We had questions for you too - what have you done about traditions for your young kids? Do you have any good sustainable children's clothing tips? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com and be featured in a future mailbag segment. :)2021-04-0524 minThe Timms Take32: "The importance of naming losses..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel take a larger look back at the past year and some of the particular losses in light of the many complexities that came with it. But the episode ends on a lighter note with some mail!As always, we would love to hear from you! You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com and be featured in a future mailbag segment. :)Mentioned in this episode:The Bell Tower Podcast: Home, Grief, Practices2021-03-2225 minThe Timms Take31: "My heart grew two sizes..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about their big beach day, Oliver's noise at the dining table, and Rachel brings a spicy take about the recent toxic metals in baby food situation (okay, it wasn't that spicy).As always, want to write in? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. We'd love to hear from you!Mentioned in this episode:Our new Baby Beach Tent (Oliver nap approved)Rachel's trusted voices:Emily Oster (general newsletter link; particular piece on Toxic Baby Metals)Dr. Mona (Instagram: @pedsdoctalk)2021-03-0822 minThe Timms Take30: "I am the cliché now..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about Oliver's personality and newfound movement abilities, Matt affirms Rachel's grocery cart challenges from last time and they offer a couple of cleaning recommendations.As always, want to write in? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. We'd love to hear from you!Mentioned in this episode:Tody (Cleaning App)More info about Apple Family SharingMamison Quality Kitchen Rubber GlovesIf you try one of these things, let us know!2021-02-2224 minThe Timms Take29: "I will accept the Dad of the Year Award..."An apology: Phew boy, sorry for the audio here folks. Lots of heavy breathing and plosives hitting the mic. If you need to skip and move on, we understand. We'll have it fixed for next time, but there was too much good stuff here to just rerecord. So if you're willing to suffer through it, here's what you'll hear:In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about transitioning to their new home, Rachel's grocery cart challenges and Matt's incredible generosity in feeding his son (that's a joke).As always, want to write in? You can...2021-02-0826 minThe Timms Take28: "Life comes in seasons..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel talk about baby giggles, a soon-to-come transition for Oliver, current events and work life. It's a packed episode!As always, we'd love to hear from you! You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. 2021-01-2523 minThe Timms Take27: "Will tolerate sleeping in a bathroom..."In this episode, Matt and Rachel recap the last two weeks including shots, games with Oliver, and moving. They also offer two very different takes (it's worth listening to the end for Rachel's). As always, want to write in? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. We'd love to hear from you!Mentioned in this episode:Jenny & Tyler, "In Everything You Do"2021-01-1119 minThe Timms Take26: "The Ollie Awards..."This week Matt and Rachel look back at the first six months of parenting and grant awards, from the Best 2-Way Player to the "When Doctors Don't Cut It" Award. We also talk about some small changes to the podcast going forward.As always, want to write in? You can reach out to timmstake@gmail.com. We'd love to hear from you!Mentioned in this episode:Our glider/chair/non-snuggle spot.Nurse Instagram Accounts for New Parents: @mommy.labornurse, @babytalk.birthnurse, @karrie_locherSome top comedies of the last six months: Brooklyn Nine-Nine (stream on H...2020-12-2822 minThe Timms Take25: "I'm a lazy wrapper..."Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-fifth week of parenting, from a sweet greeting to a less-festive-than-expected curbside pickup.Have a question or comment or feedback for the future of the podcast? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Mentioned in this episode:"Bear cub climbs mountain to reunite with mama bear" (we found it with a single Google search)2020-12-2124 minThe Timms Take24: "I don't know how to have it all..."Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-fourth week of parenting and they get really, well, real, as they reflect on Matt's struggles and how their different personalities impacts their marriage and parenting.Have a question or comment? Have an easy solution to all Matt's struggles? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! 2020-12-1420 minThe Timms Take23: "Just have that question be a little closer..."Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-third week of parenting, from missed naps (for Matt!) to how we think more intentionally about this next season of life.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! 2020-12-0723 minThe Timms Take22: "I'm going to put it in a trash can and burn it..."Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-second week of parenting, from Oliver's first solid food to railing against the tyranny of too many clasps on baby clothes.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Mentioned in this episode:Magnolia Lounge WearMe Undies Men's Yoga Pants (apparently, to Rachel's point, actually called the Men's Lounge Pant)Travel Freely (remember, explore this responsibly, and definitely not if you have or are tempted to have credit card debt)2020-11-3022 minThe Timms Take21: "I was wrong..."Rachel and Matt talk about the twenty-first week of parenting, from that ongoing sleep regression (it was not over) to crib life to buying a house!Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Mentioned in this episode:IKEA's Sundvik CribSolly's Crib Sheets2020-11-2317 minThe Timms Take20: "I declared the regression was over..."Rachel and Matt talk about the twentieth week of parenting, from the joy Oliver brings to the dreaded four month sleep regression. Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Mentioned in this episode:Precious Little Sleep by Alexis DubiefKendra Adachi's The Lazy Genius Way2020-11-1621 minThe Timms Take19: "I used a swear word in church..."Rachel and Matt talk about the nineteenth week of parenting, from high chairs to a holy poop explosion. Plus, we hear from a couple of listeners - one affirming and one filing a complaint!Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Mentioned in this episode:Peds Doc Talk episode: "Let's Eat! Introduction of Solids"Our Cuisinart Electric Griddler. (As I type this, there's even a coupon for about 10% off!)Mcbroken.com. Gamechanger.2020-11-0929 minThe Timms Take18: "Babies don't have thoughts..."Rachel and Matt talk about the eighteenth week of parenting, from a four month appointment to the highs and lows of a stricter evening schedule.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Mentioned in this episode:Odessa James Photography (Rachel's good friend Shelby - check her out!)Baby Geniuses in case you're interested without a recommendation.Book darts!2020-11-0217 minThe Timms Take17: "It's not worth it all the time anymore..."Rachel and Matt talk about the seventeenth week of parenting, from losing keys to a really hard day. Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. Mentioned in this episode:Photo: Welcome to Chez Olivier, a pop-up bistro featuring the owner.The Art In Life (Blog): "My Baby is Inconvenient"2020-10-2623 minThe Timms Take16: "An endless array of wanting to switch places..."Rachel and Matt talk about the fifteenth week of parenting, from Oliver's first word (not really) to the joys and challenges of friendships in this season.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. Mentioned in this episode:Podcasts brought up (again): Dadville, Coffee & CrumbsLemon-lime squeezer2020-10-1920 minThe Timms TakeBONUS: "A little betrayal..."Can't get enough Timms Takes? How about three more? In this bonus episode, Rachel and Matt are joined by their siblings(-in-law), Caleb, Lauren, and Joel.Recorded two months ago, this episode gives both a fun glance back and a special look at the reflections of an uncle or aunt.Want to send something into the mailbag? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! 2020-10-1511 minThe Timms Take15: "I don't feel like I'm a psychopath..."Rachel and Matt talk about the fifteenth week of parenting, from Oliver's first word (not really) to the joys and challenges of friendships in this season.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. Mentioned (again) in this episode:Chocolate Peanut Butter Crunch Cake (just in case you missed it last week).2020-10-1222 minThe Timms Take14: "I'm riding this high of the chocolate pearls..."Rachel and Matt talk about the fourteenth week of parenting, from jury duty life hacks to parenting trackers.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. Our particular question for this week: How do you deal with transitions? Cold turkey? Or gradual change? Let us know!Things mentioned in this episode:Chocolate Peanut Butter Crunch Cake (the to-be-made recipe for Rachel's birthday)The Huckleberry AppThe Starfish Surprise Swaddle (note: not really like a surprised...2020-10-0526 minThe Timms Take13: "Happy three months kiddo..."Rachel and Matt talk about the thirteenth(!) week of parenting, from tummy time to Oliver's shifting relationship to car rides. Also, the return of mailbag (this time a physical edition).Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. Things mentioned in this episode:Dadville Podcast: Deep Lunges with Dave Barnes and Jon McLaughlin.Nespresso's information about sustainability and recycling.2020-09-2826 minThe Timms Take12: "This is a real confessions podcast..."Rachel and Matt talk about the twelfth week of parenting, from an almost-complete workout to the manipulative depths that short naps plunge Matt to. Plus, talk about dishwashers.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. 2020-09-2124 minThe Timms Take11: "Having to be on a timed schedule again..."Rachel and Matt talk about the eleventh week of parenting, from the end of Rachel's maternity leave to watching television and movies in chunks. Plus, there's a new segment in town: "I'm Not Just A Parent."Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. 2020-09-1422 minThe Timms Take10: "We even went hiking yesterday..."Rachel and Matt talk about the tenth week of parenting, from the challenges of being present to how much stuff a baby actually needs. Oh, and we even went on a hike. Kind of.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. 2020-09-0722 minThe Timms Take9: "Just that warm glow of being right..."Rachel and Matt talk about the ninth week of parenting, from post-vaccine wailing to world-stopping smiles.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. Things mentioned in this episode:Emily Oster's book CribsheetJoy Eggerich Reed's Instagram account (for an example of what Rachel was talking about, see the saved story "Rita's Back!")2020-08-3123 minThe Timms Take8: "It did not bring back good memories of morning sickness…"Rachel and Matt talk about the eighth week of parenting, from healthy bodies to laundry racks.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. Things mentioned in this episode:Episode 12: Motherhood and Body Image from Coffee and Crumbs (must be their Patreon supporter to access though)Matt's favorite drying rack (so good it's out of stock as of the publishing of this episode).2020-08-2420 minThe Timms Take7: "Enjoying the crisp indulgence of a Trader Joe's mini cone..."Rachel and Matt talk about the seventh week of parenting, from the mini cone incident to a visit with family. Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com! Or better yet, send us a voice memo and you might hear yourself in a future episode. Things mentioned in this episode:The Little Book of Support for New Moms by Beccy Hands and Alexis Stickland2020-08-1724 minThe Timms Take6: "I can't even say words right now..."Rachel and Matt talk about the sixth week of parenting, from a particular hard day to Matt's existential battle with productivity. Plus, we have a new mailbag leader!Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!Things mentioned in this episode:Baby Bjorn BouncerWonder Weeks App2020-08-1024 minThe Timms Take5: "Is it just a muscle reflex?..."Rachel and Matt talk about the fifth week of parenting, from bathing woes to almost smiles (or full smiles - it's the big question of the week). Plus, the mailbag opens up again!Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!2020-08-0325 minThe Timms Take4: "We have introduced the magical pacifier..."Rachel and Matt talk about the fourth week of parenting, from navigating a pandemic to getting some good sleep (thanks pacifier!). Plus, a mailbag segment. Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!2020-07-2723 minThe Timms Take3: "That story of the little Dutch boy..."Rachel and Matt talk about the third week of parenting, from caring for a new baby and making up stories to a rapidly deflating yoga ball. Plus, a mailbag segment!Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!2020-07-2023 minThe Timms Take2: "It's been a week, folks..."Rachel and Matt talk about the second week of parenting, from the highs and lows of breastfeeding to a baby who might be wound just a little tight.Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!2020-07-1320 minThe Timms Take1: "There are a lot of numbers..."Rachel and Matt talk about the first week of parenting, from basic math skills to nurses to the moment Matt thought "I'm a Dad."Have a question or comment? Email us at timmstake@gmail.com!2020-07-0618 minThe Timms TakeTrailer: Welcome to the Timms TakeIntroducing the Timms Take! Subscribe now to follow along as Rachel and Matt become parents for the first time. New episodes coming soon (well, as soon as this baby decides to make their debut).2020-06-2403 min