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Finding FiftyEpisode FiftyCandice and Mette talk about what the podcast has meant to them.2023-09-2825 minFinding FiftySafetyWe talk about what makes us feel safe and what doesn't.2023-09-2125 minFinding FiftyPerfectionismTwo recovering perfectionists talk about the contining temptation.2023-09-1423 minFinding FiftyBeing FunCan you become more fun and if so, how?2023-09-0727 minFinding FiftyWhy Do I Keep Doing Too Much?When you know you shouldn't do too much, why do you keep doing it anyway? What are you winning? What are you avoiding?2023-08-3128 minFinding FiftyWhat Do I Keep?What do you keep, literally and metaphorically, after a major life change?2023-07-2027 minFinding FiftyAdviceDo you give advice? Why or why not?2023-07-0627 minFinding FiftyMy Body Is Falling ApartIf no one has ever told you before, it sucks getting old.2023-06-1528 minFinding FiftyWe Can Do It!All the things we've learned to do since our divorces.2023-05-1326 minFinding FiftyRegretWhat do you regret? How do you let go of regret? What regret is it useful to hold onto, if any?2023-05-0430 minFinding FiftySelf-SabotageTaking a good hard look at how we self-sabotage2023-04-2027 minFinding FiftyTaking FeedbackHow good are you at taking feedback? Should you always?2023-04-1327 minFinding FiftyStrength vs. FexibilityYes, we're talking literally and metaphorically here2023-03-3025 minFinding FiftyDreams2023-03-0927 minFinding FiftyThe Value of SubtractionWhat can I take out of my life that will add to my life?2023-03-0225 minFinding FiftyGetting What You WantAre you allowed to get what you want? That's the first step in getting it. Other thoughts on the same.2023-02-2323 minFinding FiftyIndependence and Asking for HelpHow do you learn to ask for help and not give up your sense of independence?2023-02-1633 minFinding FiftyHitting the WallWhen you have nothing left, you hit the wall. Sometimes that can be a very good thing.2023-02-0930 minFinding FiftyAll or NothingWe talk about avoiding the binary of this type of thinking.2023-02-0231 minFinding FiftyThere's Plenty of TimeSometimes you worry if there will be enough time, but there is.2023-01-1922 minFinding FiftySelf-CareIs self-care bath bombs and chocolate or is it more than that?2023-01-1220 minFinding FiftyMoneyWhat is money for? How do you use money properly? How do you feel less guilty about money? How do you use money for happiness?2023-01-0528 minFinding FiftyAnnniversariesWhat do you do when anniversaries about things you're still processing come up?2022-12-3026 minFinding Fifty27. Because I Want ToWhat if "because I want to?" is not a selfish thing to say, but actually the only reason any of us do anything?2022-12-2126 minFinding Fifty25. Stop Feeling Bad About Your DivorceWhy divorce isn't the worst thing in the world. If you're up for that discussion.2022-12-1528 minFinding Fifty24. AngerIt's time for us to own our anger.2022-12-0116 minFinding Fifty24. Solving All the ProblemsDo you think we can solve all the problems? Because we definitely do.2022-11-2424 minFinding Fifty23. Pain vs. SufferingCan you experience pain without suffering. Your two hosts argue charmingly about this.2022-11-1732 minFinding Fifty20. Being InvisibleWomen and mothers are often invisible. We would like to stop being invisible, please.2022-11-1024 minFinding Fifty22. Do People Change?People might change, but it doesn't seem to happen very often, or at least not on a character level.2022-11-1029 minFinding Fifty21. Love LanguagesDo you hate the love language paradigm? Is it useful at all?2022-10-2026 min
Finding Fifty20 Being InvisibleWomen and mothers are often invisible and we would like to stop being invisible now please.2022-10-1324 minFinding Fifty19. Their Opinion is None of My BusinessEveryone says this, but how can you really learn how to not care about their business and believe it's really what you think about yourself that matters?2022-09-2830 minFinding Fifty18. If It's Going to Get Done . . .If it's going to get done, it has to be by me. Ever feel like this? We do.2022-09-1519 minFinding Fifty17. OptimismWe take a little quiz to see how optimistic we are. We are both surprised (though you may not be).2022-09-0828 minFinding Fifty16. ForgivenessWhat is forgiveness? Is it letting things go or is it something more?2022-08-2524 minFinding Fifty15. Religion After 50We have both been through changes in our religious beliefs, but have also ended in very different places. 2022-08-1829 minFinding Fifty14. BirthdaysSome people hate birthdays. Some people love birthdays. Guess which of us is which?2022-08-1122 minFinding Fifty13: Physical AppearanceHow do you feel about your changing physical appearance after age 50? Wrinkles, gray hair, sagging--um, other parts. We chat frankly about these issues.2022-08-0430 minFinding Fifty12: Being HappyWhat is happy? How is happy? Is happy?2022-07-2131 minFinding Fifty11: Trusting YourselfHow do yout rust yourself when you are the one who has always minimized and betrayed you?2022-07-1537 minFinding Fifty10: Past, Present, Future SelvesTrying to figure out how to reconcile the different versions of ourselves, offering them all grace.2022-07-0724 minFinding Fifty9: Putting Yourself On HoldWomen tend to put their own needs on hold. We talk about how to not do that anymore.2022-07-0130 minFinding Fifty8: Losing PeopleMette and Candice talk about the pain of losing people as your life changes, and the choice to lose people, as well.2022-06-2330 minFinding Fifty7: DepressionDepression is scary and lonely. It isn’t something I would wish on my worst enemy. But it is something that I’ve ended up helping dearest friends through. Sometimes I’m even grateful for my depression because it has allowed me to understand something I never understood before and to help articulate the thoughts that depression whispers to you.2022-06-1629 minFinding Fifty6: MetticeIn high school, one teacher who only ever saw us when we were together called us "Mettice," Candice and Mette. Here is our origin story, even though it took us a decade to remember the first time we truly met.2022-03-2334 minFinding Fifty5: Brooms of JoyDo you think brooms are not things of joy? Well, listen to us discuss why they can be.2022-03-1531 minFinding Fifty4: Being AloneThere are wonderful things about being alone. Here are some of them.2022-03-0237 min
Finding Fifty3: Loving YourselfHow do you love yourself? What if you hate yourself? Why does it matter? 2022-02-2333 minFinding Fifty2: The RulesWe all seem to enter into relationships with the idea that there are certain rules, but when other people don't follow the same rules, we're angry. And discover that they never had the same rules in the first place. How could they not?2022-02-1430 minFinding Fifty1: Owning Your Choices2022-01-3037 min