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Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaSexual Healing AffirmationsIn this episode, Molly shares a meditation originally released on the podcast “Meditations,” by her friend Gregory T. Obert in May of 2019. We are happy to share this recording here, where you’ll hear a set of sexual healing affirmations, ready by Molly and repeated several times in a loop. You may prefer to listen to this meditation in a quiet and private space to take them in. If you’d like to hear these same affirmations read by Gregory, you can find his podcast and look for the episode released on May 26, 2019 on the “Meditations” podcast by Gregory T. Obert.2022-06-2128 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaAmy Dawn on Navigating the Criminal Justice SystemIn this episode, Molly interviews Amy Dawn about how she navigated the criminal justice system after deciding to press charges against the man who raped her. Some key highlights include: How Amy found herself in a role reversal from criminal justice student to someone navigating the system, and the challenge she experienced coming to terms with being a rape survivor. Her decision to report and then to pursue legal action. Disclosure and allowing other people’s reactions to impact how we feel about ourselves and what happened to us. Victim blaming, objectification, and dehumanization throughout the legal process. Th...2022-06-071h 01
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaAmy Collins--A Survivor of Things Meant to Break Her SpiritIn this episode Molly interviews Amy Collins, a survivor of things that were meant to break her spirit. Being honest with her past has helped her heal in so many beautiful ways. She believes in staying true to who she is and doing what’s best for her healing. In this interview, she shares her recent experience being in recovery from addiction, an eating disorder, and PTSD and the power of groups, among other things, in her relatively recently begun healing journey. -------------------------------------------- SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear abo...2022-05-2443 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaThe Role of Touch in Healing from Sexual Trauma“Many sexual trauma survivors went into a freeze state.. And so there’s this sense of ‘My body betrayed me, and I don’t want to be in this body, but I’m stuck here, so I’m going to do the best job I can to not be here.’ And that is the ultimate disconnection. So what we’re going for is to start to reconnect that, just a little bit at a time, maybe at first just with questions and guidance, and little by little, help you start to recognize that your body is an ally in this process of...2022-05-1035 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaAnne Jensen on religious & sexual abuse, disclosure, and healing intimacy“I’m still struggling with ‘my body is my own’... It really does make me angry because it feels like I’m missing out on this wonderful thing that you experience with a partner.” In this episode, Molly interviews Anne Jensen, a survivor of childhood sexual abuse within a religious cult, shares her journey over the past several years after disclosing the abuse to her family. She discusses how the process of disclosing was retraumatizing for her, how she started doing the true work of healing when she was truly ready, the role of religion & purity cultur...2022-04-261h 03
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaSarah and Molly on What Consent Really MeansIn this conversation, Molly and regular special guest Sarah Brennan discuss consent in and out of the bedroom, fear of rejection (being rejected and/or rejecting someone else), and how communicating clear boundaries begets trust. -------------------------------------------- SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes! Contact Sarah: www.theembodyconnection.com // sarah@theembodyconnection.com Contact Molly: www.theembodyconnection.com // molly@theembodyconnection.com Washington Post Article: Consent is not enough. We need a new sexual ethic. By Christine Emba: https...2022-04-1236 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaPhil Goldstein shares his perspective and poetry“I like to think that I grew up in a relatively progressive area of the country… but I definitely, by osmosis, absorbed the cultural expectations and ideas of what a man is and should be, and it was definitely not somebody who’d been sexually abused or taken advantage of. And I think that was another factor inhibiting me from talking about it - just not wanting to deal with the consequent shame and humiliation that I’m sure would have come.” Phil is a poet, journalist, and content marketer whose debut poetry collection, How to Bury a B...2022-03-291h 19
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaLauren Dollie Duke on Her Memoir Sh!thouse, a memoir of a brutal girlhood“A lot of the work that I’m doing now is because of what happened in the backseat of that car... I would be lying if I said that that is resolved... I am recognizing that I still have a freeze response… It’s taken me nine years of resisting that there was still work to be done from that - because I didn’t want to investigate it… I lived with a very, very deep sense of shame until the last few years… The event plus the shame created this shut-down - a lack of circulation, a lack of life, a lac...2022-03-151h 01
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaSarah and Molly on why (y)our emotions are okayIn this conversation, Molly and regular special guest Sarah Brennan share their thoughts and experiences with big emotions, including “overreacting,” acting out/bad behavior, being labeled as “too emotional” or “too sensitive,” self-shaming, shutting down – and ultimately building the capacity to tolerate those big scary emotions with compassion for yourself and others. They also discuss triggers and how they manage them, the question of how to communicate about big feelings, how (and whether) to explain the experience of physical violation, and ultimately, what it means to face your emotions head on rather than allowing them to come out sideways. 2022-03-0135 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaDr. Rhonda Sherrod on Surviving, Healing, and Evolving in response to early childhood sexual abuseIn this episode, Dr. Rhonda Sherrod shares insights from her own healing journey from early childhood sexual abuse, which she also shares in her recently published book, “SHE - Surviving Healing & Evolving: Essays of Love, Compassion, Healing, and Affirmation for Black People.” A passionate educator and sought after public speaker, Dr. Sherrod previously taught undergraduate and graduate psychology at two HBCUs. She is now the president of The Need To Know Group where she conducts professional development trainings for educators, devises communication strategies for entrepreneurs, and creates, and delivers enlightening classes on the history of Blacks all over the worl...2022-02-151h 03
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaSarah and Molly on sex trafficking **GRAPHIC CONTENT WARNING** please listen with care In this conversation, Molly and regular special guest Sarah Brennan reflect on how close to home the issue of sex trafficking is, including Sarah’s own story of being groomed and, ultimately, trafficked. Indeed, the Department of Homeland Security’s relatively new definition of sex trafficking acknowledges domestic sex trafficking, as well as international. And as we head into Super Bowl weekend in a couple weeks, we can anticipate that 10,000 girls & women will be trafficked in some way at that event alone. -------------------------------------------- SUBS...2022-02-0134 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaKristen Wray - Volunteer Medical Advocate for SurvivorsSince 2018, Kristen has been a a certified rape crisis counselor in the state of Illinois and a volunteer medical advocate for Resilience (formerly Rape Victims Advocates). In her role as a medical advocate, Kristen provides individual level support and advocacy for survivors throughout their process at the hospital. She does this by answering pages to the hospitals that Resilience has contracts with and sitting with survivors of sexual assault in the emergency room as they receive medical care and have evidence collected. Some of Kristen’s other interests include being a master level Reiki practitioner, as well as a Fib...2022-01-1847 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaShare Your Story with Us in the New Year!In this mini-episode, Molly invites you to reach out if you or someone you know may be interested in being interviewed on the show. Listen to hear some ideas of who we’re looking for, and reach out to Molly at molly@theembodyconnection.com if you are interested. Also - What’s your word or phrase for 2022? Molly reflects on this concept, as well as her phrase for 2022, in this episode and also wrote this blog post: https://theembodyconnection.com/the-power-behind-a-word/ SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes! 2022-01-0411 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaJeri Frederickson - The Creative Healing Process“And so while it is my job to support artists in the work they’re doing, I often see my own survival in the work that they’re sharing, and for me that just deepens the sense of not being alone. And every time, I think “Oh, right -- that’s the basic tenet of a healing community -- remembering ‘I’m not alone.’”… And for me it is the thing I need to continually remember and come back to: “I’m not alone, I’m not alone” -- I think forever it will be helpful to hear and to see that.” Molly s...2021-12-2159 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaSarah and Molly on what we’re missing when we talk to young people about protecting themselvesIn this conversation, Molly and regular special guest Sarah Brennan share their thoughts on a key part of the conversation that we should be having with our young people when we talk to them about sexual assault and how we may be inadvertently blaming and shaming them into silence. -------------------------------------------- SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes! Contact Sarah: [theembodyconnection.com // sarah@theembodyconnection.com Contact Molly: theembodyconnection.com // molly@theembodyconnection.com -------------------------------------------- Special thank...2021-12-0730 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaAmanda Mitchell--Moving Toward Connection“You’re experiencing your everyday life in your body already. Sexual trauma is a trauma to the body already. So it’s with you. Learning how to connect to your body and understand it and feel connected to it as a supportive part of yourself can be a really important part of the journey. With some of my clients, we don’t move; we just connect to the body as a resource in other ways.” Amanda Mitchell is the Founder and CEO of InTouch & Motion, a creative arts therapies and psychotherapy practice in Chicago that supports un...2021-11-2357 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaLaura Davis - Beyond ‘The Courage to Heal’“When I wrote The Courage to Heal, if you had asked me who I was at that point in my life, I would’ve said ‘I’m an incest survivor,’ and that would have been it. I didn’t have any other identity. I was consumed by it, and it felt like my life had been destroyed by it and that I would never recover. So many decades later, I’m in such a different place that if you asked me, ‘Who are you?’, I would say ‘I’m a teacher, I’m an author, I’m a mother, I’m a grandmother, I’m a sw...2021-11-091h 04
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaSarah and Molly on Saying "Me Too"Molly and special guest Sarah Brennan share their own experiences of the first time they shared aloud their sexual trauma, as well as what came next. SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes! Contact Sarah: sarah@theembodyconnection.com Contact Molly: molly@theembodyconnection.com Special thanks to: Jenn Baykan, virtual assistant for creatives: https://www.jbaykan.com/ Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/ Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: htt...2021-11-0234 min
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaCOVID-19: Strength and Vulnerability“There is, in this, an opportunity to truly listen to what we’re being called to move through and move toward…. I’m being asked and called to surrender much more than I have in the past, to move further into a space of faith. I have a foundation, but I’m needing to build a house on top of that foundation.” In this special episode (after a year long hiatus!), Molly is interviewed by Sarah Brennan, a former guest on the podcast who will soon be co-hosting the show with Molly. Join Sarah as she prompts Molly to exp...2020-04-0158 min
Sex Birth Trauma with Kimberly Ann Johnson64 *Forging A Feminine Path Roundtable- Women Speak!Five women share their stories about what changed for them after taking the Forging a Feminine Path course. All of the women mention that understanding women's arousal was groundbreaking for them. Molly Coeling (pronounced Cooling) was able to claim her sexuality for herself, and claim the essence of who she is, through the course. She also found that the course helped her with communication all over the board -- with her mother, with people across party lines. Amy Daniels talks about how the course helped her land back in her body, and helped her work through shame instead of repressing it...2019-03-301h 15
Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaMy wrist is angry, and so am IIn this episode Molly shares some reflections on her healing journey in real time. "I'm angry that I have to do this work. And I'm angry that I've had to do all of the work I've done. I'm angry that I do most of it alone. I'm angry that I have to pay for it financially, with my time, with my energy. I'm angry that I've had pain in my body as a reaction to the trauma that I've held and harbored for years. I'm angry about it. It's bull shit. It's taken too much of my...2019-03-0619 minBeyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaKate Powers - Boundaries and Baby Steps"If we're not honoring boundaries with each other on a smaller scale, in a smaller context..., it's no surprise to me that we have this whole culture that is having a lot of trouble with boundaries and standing up for ourselves and saying 'no.' ... We don't wanna say 'no' to people, we don't wanna let them down, we don't wanna hurt their feelings. It's very difficult for all of us, men and women, to practice 'yes' and 'no.'" Kate is a trauma-informed bodyworker, coach, and social change and transformation educator. In this episode, she shares...2019-01-1446 minBeyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaDonna Jenson - From Incest to Joy"Every small and large step I've taken to speak, in whatever form - whether it's my voice, my play, my readings - every time I do any of that, I heal a little bit more because it's contradicting all that has made me believe I shouldn't be telling... It's always healing, every bit of it." Donna has a lot to offer with nearly four decades working through her own healing process. She is an activist, playwright, actor and author who is committed to sharing her story of healing from incest as a part of her own healing a...2019-01-011h 00Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaReiki and My Decision to Heal after 20 Years of SilenceIn this mini episode, I share my own story of how I decided to heal and how Reiki gave me the support I needed to do so. --------------------------------------------------- SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes! Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // molly.coeling@gmail.com --------------------------------------------------- A special thanks to: Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/ 2018-12-1921 min
The CHAARG Podcast#46] Molly Coeling: Healing Trauma Through ReikiMolly Coeling, a massage therapist + Reiki Master, talks to Elisabeth about all things Reiki: what it is, benefits, how to look for a practicer, the different trainings, stories + more... woo woo + scientific! : ) Molly openly shares her story on how she was able to heal her sexual trauma through reiki [*please note: this episode contains sensitive information + may be triggering]. If you're in Chicago, you should definitely schedule a massage//Reiki session with Molly! Notes:-- https://www.mollycoeling.com-- Book Rec: The Body Remembers -- Podcast Rec: Reiki Radio Podcast + Rob Bell ...2018-12-111h 20Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaTazima Davis - Sexual Agency as a Revolutionary Act"When you have sexual agency as a woman, there’s less of you being on the defensive as the victim. When we own our bodies, and we own not only our sexual power but also when we own our sexual pleasure, then we can say ‘Ya know, this doesn’t feel good. I don’t like this.’” Tazima - a sex & intimacy coach - talks about bringing trauma into our relationships and into the bedroom AND what we can do about it, including moving toward pleasure and away from shame & avoidance. --------------------------------------------------- SUBSCRIBE to the show...2018-12-0655 minBeyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaSarah Brennan - Looking Back to Move Forward“Once you start examining it, then it’s yours. Then you own it. These are MY memories. I’m not reacting out of something that happened to me; I’m reacting out of something that I own. It’s a small little adjustment in your brain, and it’s everything.” Sarah Brennan is a wife, mother of two beautiful boys and a Reiki practitioner living in Chicago. After leaving a career in the restaurant industry to raise her children, she focused on her own healing from decades old sexual trauma - through talk therapy, meditation, and Reiki. Her path has le...2018-11-201h 14Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaSarah Buino - Authentic Sexuality"If I'm willing to take a new definition of vulnerability and recognize it as 'This is part of the human condition; everyone is vulnerable to something, and no one leaves this world unscathed in some way.' If I'm willing to look at it that way, I have more of a chance to empower myself and to help myself, rather than to just stay stuck." Sarah Buino is a Chicago based therapist and founder and president of Head/Heart Therapy, a group practice that specializes in addiction, shame and complementary healing modalities. In this interview we discuss t...2018-11-061h 04Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaMolly Boeder Harris - Embodied Justice"If we're asking what's next, my 'what's next' has a lot to do with making space for people's healing, which doesn't just mean feeling good and getting bodywork and going to yoga. It could mean getting really angry and getting really sad and finding places and practitioners who can hold space for all of that healing to unfold, so that we can move into whatever is our own 'what's next.'" As a survivor, practitioner, advocate and so much more, Molly lives and breathes the anti sexual violence movement. In this interview, she discusses The Breathe Network...2018-10-231h 14Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaLiz Alexander - She Dreams of Freedom“For young women and girls, overwhelmingly, the silence results in funneling them further into a system of violence. So they go from personal and interpersonal violence to structural and systemic violence, ultimately leading them to incarceration.” In this interview, Liz shares her thoughts on sexual violence both from the perspective of her professional work advocating for at-risk girls, as well from a more personal lens, as the daughter of an incest survivor. The mission of her consulting group, She Dreams of Freedom, is to improve the outcomes of young women and girls in the criminal and juvenile just...2018-10-0953 minBeyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaBeyond Ford versus Kavanaugh, Beyond Taking SidesIn this mini episode, I reflect on an alternative to the "he said, she said" rhetoric that is dominating the national conversation (yet again). "Even if he knows somewhere inside himself that he did this, is there any space in our current conversation for him to admit what he did, to apologize and to potentially arrive at redemption? Redemption as a human being who is worthy of love, who is worthy of respect, who is not to be shamed and cast aside and isolated." ------------------------------------------------- The Dave Chapelle Netflix special I refer to...2018-10-0419 min
Conversations With a Wounded HealerMolly Coeling - Beyond MeTooMolly Coeling is a massage therapist and Reiki Master Teacher in the Lincoln Square neighborhood of Chicago. She is excited to be launching "Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Trauma," a podcast that explores both individual and collective healing from sexual trauma. Molly and Sarah discuss utilizing Reiki and massage as the gateway to healing, the fire that’s been lit under women as a result of the #metoo movement, and the importance of healing our individual trauma to contribute to healing the collective. Let’s be friends! You can find me, Sarah...2018-09-2642 minBeyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaCarly Evans - Astrology as Therapist“Scorpio is the underworld, the skeletons in our closet... And here comes this bright, shiny light [Jupiter] being like ‘Hey, let’s look at that,’ and pretty much in tandem with Jupiter’s onset to Scorpio, the MeToo movement popped up.” In this interview Carly explains how we can look to astrology to better understand the energy that was the impetus for the MeToo movement - and where we are headed, if we do The Work. We also touch on the basics of astrology, how it can be used as a therapeutic modality and get into a few examples...2018-09-2547 minBeyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaHillary Catrow - Trauma Informed Acupuncture“I think with the right support system and enough time, people can really understand their strengths in survival and then use those strengths and create a more thriving life.” Hillary Catrow, acupuncturist, is the owner of Quil Studio in Chicago's Edgewater neighborhood. In this interview she discusses her experience working with survivors of torture, the ways that trauma can present in the body and how she uses acupuncture and additional training to help her patients work through their trauma. Aside from the hopeful quote above, one of my favorite things Hillary shared in this interview was...2018-09-1152 minBeyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaAnna Schabold - Reclaiming the self through yoga“When we do this for ourselves, we’re doing it for the healing of the whole world.” Anna is dedicated to the healing arts, and I have had the honor of knowing her and learning from her for several years. In this interview, she discusses the powerful practice of Forrest Yoga and how it can be used as a tool to reclaim our bodies, process emotions, rewire our brains and, ultimately, reclaim our spirits. --------------------------------------------------- SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes! Contact Anna: www.boldlygo...2018-08-171h 06Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaMelanie Jansen - Life is better on the other side“The story you tell yourself is terribly, terribly important. But when it comes to healing the body.. the question is ‘Can I transform that?’” I met Melanie in 2012 and have walked through much of my healing process with her by my side. In this episode, Melanie’s sense of humor and vitality shine through, even as she discusses her own ongoing work toward healing from childhood sexual abuse. She also shares about the work she does to facilitate healing for her clients, using massage and craniosacral therapy, among other physical and energetic techniques. --------------------------------------------------- SUBSCRIB...2018-08-171h 01Beyond MeToo: Healing the Wounds of Sexual TraumaIntroduction - What is the Beyond MeToo podcast about?Molly explains why she's launching this podcast and what listeners can expect. -------------------------------------------------- SUBSCRIBE to the show to be the first to hear about new episodes! Contact Molly: www.mollycoeling.com // molly.coeling@gmail.com --------------------------------------------------- A special thanks to: Gina McLaughlin Photography for photo and graphic design: https://www.facebook.com/ginamclaughlinphotography/?fref=tag Dave Hiltebrand for intro and outro music original composition: https://www.davehiltebrand.com/ Gregory T. Obert for podcast consulting services: https://gregorytobert.com/ 2018-08-1711 min