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The Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe 2000s or What I Call the "Ho Chic" EraThinking about how to describe culture then, "ho chic" came to mind for me. The pic is of me in the 2000s. I was definitely NOT ho chic but also wasn't a prude since I continue to rebel heavily from that.2025-05-0618 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerYour Authentic Self or a Viable Career Path--Must You Be Forced To Choose?In the age of authenticity, why am I still being told to be ashamed of who I am and beg for the approval of others like a dog? I feel like this has been my penultimate limiting belief that's affected my money flow.The pic is of a waterfall in a park I passed by in downtown Oklahoma City when I went to a business convention last year that isn't directly related to what I actually do. The trip itself was memorable but a long haul. 2025-04-2916 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerOfficially Unemployed -- Maybe That's a Good ThingIt's official; I'm unemployed. Now comes the hunt for doing what I want to do on a permanent basis where I can pay bills and not feel disrespected, underutilized or unappreciated.This pic is from a trip to the Museum of American Finance back when you could visit in person. I just learned it's all virtual now.2025-04-2218 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerSmart Kids Should Never Be Denied an EducationSome words on the student loan debate and why you don't leave smart kids out in the cold.This is a pic from the top of the bell tower at my college, where I got to hit the bell to commemorate 20 years since I graduated from there.2025-03-3119 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerWant People to Do Something? Stop Creating Obstacles & Making it DifficultA gripe I've had forever that just popped up. Basically, learn some Psych 101 if you want to get people to do the "right" thing when it's not fun or something people want to do.This pic is a prime example of what happens when you make things inconvenient like not having enough cart return spots or not keeping them clear of shopping carts.2025-03-1018 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerWhen is it Time to Let Go?After illness, I'm back and reflecting hard on this one since I have clothing and a professional career I'm looking at where changes should be made.This is the first evening dress I got and I wore it to my sorority chapter's Installation banquet. Debating on whether to keep that or not.2025-02-1819 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerFake GenerosityWho hates when someone offers you something, you take it and then your acceptance is thrown back in your face? Is it a difference between dog people and cat people? Random Gideon Bible here since God sides with me on this topic.2025-01-1315 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerIs Bureaucracy Inevitable?I've pondered this for years and still don't have an answer. Also, life updates. For those unfamiliar, this is the old 5 Pointz in Queens. It was destroyed by bureaucracy and the problem I'm mentioning here. 2025-01-0618 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerMurdering CEOs and Cockroach TypesMusings about the recent CEO shooting in NYC and the sudden concern of Jordan Neely's family in light of the Daniel Penny trial. I saw this at a weekend flea market and it sums up the sentiment around the recent CEO shooting even though that guy killed him vs. just kicking his butt.2024-12-0919 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerDeathIn light of recent death affecting me and having dealt with it a lot before, I figured now was the time to do that episode. This is Grim from "The Grim Adventures of Billy and Mandy," a great show you should see if you can. Grim has a Jamaican accent and, of course, he's the Grim Reaper so only fitting that he be the pic here.2024-11-1820 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerDon't Get Sexually Involved with Siblings or FriendsUnless you like creating drama or have a death wish, you don't do this. I have a sister and if you dated her, I'm not dating you. No exceptions. Random Subway artwork that sums it up nicely.2024-11-1120 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerNew Mic & Trying a Video FormatI got a new mic so trying out a video format with some musings. Next week, I'll be having a guest and hopefully you won't be seeing my cat's butt on camera.2024-11-0420 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Hidden Lawyer Life and Returning HomeThis realization was shocking to me. I was also testing out my wireless mic and the cat jumped on me so pardon any audio messiness. Pic is from the Judge Jerry set. I still maintain he'd have been a great president but more on that in a future episode.2024-10-2219 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerUnintended Consequences and Things Looking UpThe age old issue of long lines at the ladies room died with the transgender people (particularly women) getting to use the ladies rooms. What's good for the goose and all that. Saw this street artwork at random one day. Anyone got a comment or ideas on that one? 2024-10-0716 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerWhat is Drama, Exactly?The term "drama" is very subjective when it comes to relationships but I finally figured out what that means for me. Pic is a Bob Ross Pop doll. His passing involves a LOT of drama; check out the Netflix documentary on that one. 2024-10-0119 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerTrampolines and Rage Rooms Will Solve Our ProblemsThey will. I just learned about the concept of rage rooms this week. The pic is what the inside of the trampoline park I went to looked like (but not the same place I went--I found this image at random).2024-09-2419 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerShould Men Pay for Dates? Heck, Yeah!! Ask Me Why.It's an age old topic but I bring a nuanced take and a recent event (recorded Sunday so "last night" refers to Saturday night). These are unstuffed peppers I made for me at home. This is the type of cooking skill I have that makes me a rarity in NYC.2024-09-1720 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerVideo Podcast Interview with Author Ray JohnsonInterview with Ray Johnson, author of the new book "Conspiracy Ignited" which you can learn more about here: https://raymondpauljohnson.com/conspiracy-ignited/2024-06-2429 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerI'm Not a Musical Theater PersonI recently participated in a karaoke contest and found myself in a fundamental disagreement over how one should approach singing for an audience. The next episode will likely be another interview so check it out once that's done. Got this pic on a Yelp Elite outing to Blue Lounge. I believe it was in February 2020, the last event I went to before NYC officially went to Pandemic Hell.2024-06-1020 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerGod's Timing and Wolf WhistlesI got a new job in the nick of time and comment on how to effectively approach women. Took this pic in the subway ages ago and holding firm to this is how I've managed to make it in life.2024-05-1420 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerRoad TripsMy experience with road tripping and how to do it right. This is a pic I took of the Arkansas border, as that is part of the road trip I took with my friend to CA. I was in a better position to get those pics in that one.2024-04-3021 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerMust You Be a Kid Touching Creep to Be an Entertainment Mogul?With all the recent documentaries, I'm seriously left with that question and feel it's a strong argument for the presence of general/in-house counsel in entertainment companies. This pic is of a street in LA I traveled on while on a road trip with a friend of mine in 2019.2024-04-0820 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerChurch EtiquetteRecorded this on Easter so I figured it was a good time to speak on an article I read about whether it's okay to drink coffee in church or not. Pic is of an actual church with pews and the books visitors can use to participate in services2024-04-0220 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerOutsourcing Online Dating & My Job HuntJust read a story about people outsourcing their online dating, which I find unethical and more job woes I hope a reverse recruiter will solve. Pic is a random sign I saw in NYC that also is accurate2024-03-2520 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerSearching for Your TribeA very busy week and finding yet another rejection in the law firm world has led to a major epiphany: get away from the law firm set and the 80% of jerks within it. Took this pic one day at the courthouse and it sums up what many people, including some lawyers, think of the legal industry itself (including the experience of going to court).2024-03-1920 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerCollarless Cats & ChallengesLots of life updates and unexpected events. I took this pic at a casino in Atlantic City when I was on a top deck. It feels like my life is the ocean and I'm looking at it from this vantage.2024-03-1120 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerChanging the FocusI've been super busy lately and definitely trying to focus on gratitude, what I do have and so forth. This is a pic of one side of my vision board. By the way, they DO work.2024-02-1320 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerMixed Signals and ClinginessGetting flowers from an undesirable source, celebrating your friend's birthday and why you don't give mixed signals to people. These are the flowers I mention. Also, the bell ringing is my cat's collar.2024-01-3020 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerPublic Assistance is a Cry for HelpThe changing perceptions of being on public assistance & some of what that experience is like. This pic is of a damaged car I saw in the neighborhood I lived in when I was married. It feels like a fitting metaphor for this episode.2024-01-1721 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerHow 2023 Made Me StrongerI saw this question in a group I'm part of and had to really think of an answer but I figured it out. This is a random stock pic but it feels accurate to my state and what the future holds.2024-01-0120 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerDivorceRecent events prompted me to go into some detail about what divorce is like if you haven't lived it and what a really bad one (like the one I had) was like. I took this pic when I burned my insurance cards after no longer needing them (like many, I had coverage through my spouse). Also, I have a few pyro tendencies though I've known some who were next level with it.2023-12-1221 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerWhat If You Don't Care About the People in a Room?I've been asking that question lately since I can't care about a group or source that's causing or not doing anything to change issues I'm dealing with or have in the past. This is a pic I took of a definition of lawyer that came up in this networking group I’m on the list for (I already used my initial pic before). The fact that I don’t fit it perfectly sums up my “wrong room” issues.2023-12-0420 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerFinances are Relative & a TikTok Dating PollContinuing life stuff and the confusing results of a TikTok dating poll I heard about This is one of the flyers I mentioned seeing in NYC. What a place, eh?2023-11-1420 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerGoing to a CLE at ComicConGoing to ComicCon 10 years later overcoming fear of seeing my ex or his ilk. I also note some lack of inclusion in the geek space that seems to be changing these days. This is Rocko and Spunky from "Rocko's Modern Life" & since Rocko works at a comic book store, he's kind of fitting for a pic here.2023-10-1820 minThe Movie PopeThe Movie PopeEntertainment Law with Monica Trombley Today we talk to Monica Trombley, an entertainment lawyer in New York, as she walks us through the legal minefield behind filmmaking, what the steps are, how to do it properly, why you need a lawyer on side, and what advice she gives to those starting out in the industry. She then dives into her creative side and her plans for future endeavors in the creative arts. And be sure to check out her the Gorgeous Ginger Lawyer! 2023-10-0942 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerYou Can't Break the Law Because You're "Offended"Remember the dancer/choreographer in Brooklyn who got stabbed for voguing? I do...let me refresh your memory. This image is from uberhumor.com & says it all2023-10-0420 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Apt Timing of Anonymous Sexual Assault AllegationsNoticing a trend in sexual assault allegations by anonymous people decades later the second someone goes against leftist narratives? Listen for the truth bombs. The pic is of a large pothole on my mom's road that seems a fitting analogy for this phenomena.2023-09-2521 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerIf You're First Generation, You're On Your OwnThe Financial Crisis, another way "Family Matters" jumped the shark and what they don't want you to know about the legal industry.2023-09-1820 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerHealthy Food, Junk Food & Maintaining Some SanityMy take on the idea of doctors prescribing healthy food to people with some words on my stint working at Godiva, what no one should have to put up with at work and lovely kitty cats. This pic is some roasted cauliflower I made. It's pretty good and I really need to find some more so I can have this in my current home.2023-06-2320 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerRoss Geller is a ToolOn rewatching "Friends," some of the episodes for the first time since I saw them on NBC I came to that conclusion. I also get the criticisms and go into at least one I've not heard. Seeing this pic, you can also see why Rachel also wasn't as sympathetic since Ross was right about that.2023-06-1318 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerReflections and ObservationsReflecting on my current life situation, my recent trip to a lawyers meditation retreat, my gratitude at no longer living with animal abusers & having to mourn a mistreated cat and more musings. This pic is from the movie "She-Devil" which I discuss along with "Troop Beverly Hills" with Shelley Long. Both are deeper than they appear at first glance and the pic is a good illustration of my discussion about those films. Want to be a guest on the podcast? E-mail "thegorgeousgingerlawyer@gmail.com" & check out last week's episode...2023-05-3020 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerVideo Podcast Interview with Author Vic FerrariMy first stint at a video podcast featuring Vic Ferrari, the author of various humorous books based on his life (including 20 years with the NYPD). See this link for details: https://www.amazon.com/s?k=vic+ferrari&i=stripbooks&crid=3DNGEWBTJEN2N&sprefix=vic+ferrari%2Cstripbooks%2C156&ref=nb_sb_noss_1 If you want to be a guest, feel free to reach out at thegorgeousgingerlawyer@gmail.com2023-05-1519 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerWhy Even I Think Getting Rid of All the People Won't WorkStay tuned next week for my first guest and video episode ever. Today, I discuss the Jordan Neely matter and why even I (a person who's had her share of problems with people) think getting rid of all the people isn't practical or something anyone in their right mind would want. This pic was taken at Coney Island when I went in September 2020 and almost no one was there. It was unseasonably warm and I think a Saturday afternoon.2023-05-0820 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerAtlanta, 20 Years LaterI went to Atlanta for the first time in 20 years this past weekend for my university's Alumni Weekend. Now I can say with pride that I went to Oglethorpe University and that quite a few people in my graduating class stepped up and made change happen from where things were when we graduated. Those changes for the better have actually happened and the good stuff I saw in those days (like teaching critical thinking skills) still seems to be there. This is a new building that wasn't there when I was a student. We...2023-04-2620 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Cooling Crisis and the Effects of InsincerityAfter some unseasonably hot days in NYC, the cooling crisis I knew was inevitable has now begun and it's time to resolve it. I'd also been meaning to note how insincerity affects human interaction. That's how you'll see me on those sweaty summer days in the subway, complete with "don't F with me" expression. People always compliment me for being super stylish when I do that hair when it's actually just a matter of survival since I'm not the short hair sister & short hair isn't my jam.2023-04-1720 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerCommands Don't Work on AdultsDecided to do this while transferring a large file to a new external hard drive. I touch on the Nashville trans shooter, parents trying to use money to control their kids and how you're not getting adults to do anything genuine by making commands, threats, pulling a gun on them or otherwise being a bully. Getting an adult to respond positively to commands works as well as trying to get a cat to do something; it's not going to happen. This is a pic of my old cat Stormy, who I talk about near the end. I...2023-04-0320 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Hypocrisy of Anti-Discrimination CheerleadersThere are groups that nobody cares about calling out discrimination against & whose discrimination is still getting a pass in society. I specifically address discrimination against people who can't lift heavy objects and natural redheads since both are told to "suck it up" and that they have no right to call out harms and policies that screw them over. I'd like to know why in the wave of eliminating words and phrases, nobody has said a word about "redheaded stepchild" or thinks it's okay to tell me "it's only hair" when science says otherwise about the existence of natural redheads...2023-03-2120 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerLife Updating and An Inventive (Though Likely Illegal) Way to Solve the NYC Housing CrisisI'm starting on some self-improvement but couldn't help but reflect on the housing situation I had to deal with before I got my very nice apartment.  One evening, at the peak of my frustration, I thought of a clever way to resolve this nonsense I'm sure anyone who's lived it + is law abiding would be on board with. This pic is a random comment I saw on a subway closure sign.  I like taking pics of random art I see in the subway but this just sums up the people who created the legal framework resulting in to...2023-03-1520 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerGoing to a Gala and An Example of the Lack of Inclusivity in Professional SpacesRecently, I go to go to a charity gala for the first time in my life.  This reminded me of another way in which many professions (but I'm speaking of legal since that's my field) are not being inclusive: having annual formal parties for the organizations where ticket prices are obscene and unaffordable.  I first encountered this in law school and it definitely gave me a very negative impression of what the legal field and my own law school thought of me or my relationship with my eventual husband (NOT a lawyer and definitely never made close to large la...2023-02-2720 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThere's a Limit to RoommatesThis is the combination of 2 different ideas I had on the topic (my experiences trying to find a roommate when looking for a new place a while back & explaining the difference between a good roommate vs. a bad roommate).  I also think one eventually ages out of being able to have roommates, say if you've been married or you're past a certain age since frankly nobody needs to be policing your sex life when you're into your adult years or are going through a divorce.  Some of the requirements I've seen for roommates in NYC would make you think we...2023-02-1321 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Greatness of Office SpaceReflecting on what my life was like last year, my regret in not sending the link below to the boss of that firm and an endorsement for a little movie that's still relevant today, "Office Space."  This pic has some of the people from the movie in it and if you've seen it, you'll know which main characters are seen in it. Here's a link to the song I mention (if you hate rap music and you're my age or younger, don't talk to me): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=axJVs-OseS82023-01-2420 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Quest to Volunteer in NYC and a Fact About BoardsThey say volunteering is a good thing and something you should do in life.  I've been trying to find my project and jam since I've lived a lot and have tons of life to share with people but have only discovered that no one REALLY respects or values my personal skill set and that all the people who've asked me about joining a board over the years aren't aware of something I recently learned.  Drumroll please.... Board membership in NYC is nothing but a big fat money racket with no concern for someone's character, life experiences, personability, go...2023-01-1615 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerNSFW - Natural Redheads & the Hair "Down There"If you're a natural redhead sick of the 10 year old girl standards for "down there," you'll appreciate this one.  If you are just sick of those standards generally and have sensitive skin problems or a man who refuses to deal with his own "down there," then you'll probably also appreciate this.  It's not an episode for you Puritans or your little children but it is something that needs to be said. I saw this on the Thinx website and the first statement they make on the topic is "what you do down there is up to you."  Let...2023-01-0916 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerWhy Creative Jobs Aren't Taken SeriouslyBetween Hulu documentaries and a creative contact posing the question, I've got the answer to this as well as what needs to happen if you ever hope to change it.  Why are we continuing this pretense of talent, training and affability if it all comes down to who will screw the CEO's/head producer's brains out in bed? This piece I saw at the Bowery Art Gallery kind of says it all, don't you think?2023-01-0920 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerChristmas When You're OlderDiscussion on Christmas coming up, how things are going and where I'm at vs. where I've been.  This pic is one I saw of Pop figurines of Cousin Eddie and Clark Griswold from National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation.  I plan to watch that with the cats before I go out of town since it's a classic worth seeing & so the one kitten will see why you don't chew on electrical cords.  Hopefully these kittens will listen to me on this point.2022-12-1220 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerCharging Adult Kids RentI hadn't considered this topic in years and read about it more recently.  It seems more people are on board with it now but I say it depends on your family dynamics and situation.  I'm against it if your family refuses to see you as an adult, your family is dysfunctional (so not fiscally responsible or rich enough to save a dime for your future nest egg) or you could do better getting a roommate and paying a real landlord. This is a Pop Funko of Josh Baskin (Tom Hanks's character in the movie "Big").  Josh jus...2022-11-2120 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerCreating a Shooter Without MedsIt's long been a theory of mine but recent events have made this topic even more real to me.  Yes, you absolutely will create violence in people and I tell you exactly how that happens without medication and what you can do if you actually want to change that vs. engaging in theater where you pretend to care about reducing random shootings. Saw this on a trip to I believe a weekend flea market in NYC; ignore Warhol's face since he's irrelevant to this topic.2022-11-1319 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerFinding PeaceA LOT has been going on, hence the delay in episodes.  However, things are slowly calming down.  This is an update on my life generally and why you don't tell someone to "get over" a trauma when they are STILL having to deal with the ramifications of it (such as living in a homeless shelter after being driven out of their home or still having nothing of their own after their ex took everything). I took a pic of this artwork at the Musee de Orsay when I was in Paris last July.  The symbolism is probably rather obvious and def...2022-10-0320 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerTime to Do Some HousecleaningA lot has been happening since the last season, including the implosion of my housing situation (though something really needed to give).  Total strangers and people who barely know me have been more supportive and kind than alleged friends and an ex who claimed to want to be my friend.  When that happens, it's time to do some housecleaning.  As I use some choice words, I figure I should label this one "explicit." This is a pic I took of a building that burned down a while back in my neighborhood and was subsequently demolished.  Yes, this is s...2022-09-0820 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerFarewell to the Betty White of CatsIt seems the gray kitty was older than we thought he was.  He definitely didn't act it and was purring when I petted him even up to the end, hence him being the Betty White of cats.  This pic is from when I first met him in 2020 when I came back to NYC to assess if there was anything left to bother staying for or if it was too much of a hellscape to bother.  Those were happier times for him. I also discuss "The Wonder Years," melting cynicism and how the Lord Almighty works (at least if...2022-05-2920 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Abortion DebateThis isn't even my full soapbox on it since I forgot to mention the lack of accessibility to voluntary sterilization but figured it was appropriate to do this episode in light of the recent Supreme Court leak (which is also a separate topic I have views on). The pic depicts how abortions happened when they weren't legal.  The coat hanger has become symbolic with unsafe abortions.2022-05-0820 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerFinally, FinalityJust as it says: I can finally speak freely about some things with the Energizer Bunny deciding he'd rather block me than actually accept some relevant facts of life (such as any friendships you have with an ex post-breakup are totally at the leisure, time table and control of the dumpee, not the dumper), engage in any meaningful self-reflection or recognize that he may not be operating with all the relevant facts (such as why I asked what I asked recently).  I definitely saw some psychological projection in there. In short, men are stupid and I finally h...2022-05-0122 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerWhy Are We Enabling Abusers?I'm sure everyone is familiar with that quote "Everyone is fighting a battle you know nothing about."  It's been applied in everything from discussing addicts to sex abusers; I'd like to know why children living in those situations are supposed to "be kind" and enable the ADULTS who failed them.  For context, I grew up with an alcoholic father and while I was a very smart child, I wasn't exactly capable of getting a job and my own place to live at 7 years old (when I told my mom she should get a divorce after we had to flee ou...2022-04-1719 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerIf You Want Empathy, Don't Be the Same Kind of AssholeThe title says it all: don't minimize or lecture someone else about their lived experiences if you want anybody to not do the same thing to you or believe that you are worthy of human consideration.  Trying to change this basic reality just furthers the same things you hate. The pic is of a guy I saw protesting outside the Westchester Supreme Court (which also houses the Westchester Family Court) back when I was doing court appearance work; I think I had morning and afternoon cases that day.  He clearly had a grievance but I have no id...2022-03-2020 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerCould You Get Another Cosby Today?I recently watched the documentary "We Need To Talk About Cosby" as well as a video response to it.  This episode isn't about assessing Bill Cosby's guilt or innocence; I just wonder whether someone could replicate Cosby's position in his time, his impact on the cultural landscape and operate as he did with nobody taking any steps to punish him for his crimes until many years later.   This leads to a few more related musings like what would happen right now if you went to the police and said a public figure raped you last night/2 days ag...2022-03-0820 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerStepping Out of Your Comfort ZoneThis is a guy I noticed everyday when I started my job on Wall Street.  I feel he epitomized the image I have of Wall Street so I dubbed him "Mr. Wall Street."  Not my romantic type at all but me approaching this guy one day was a huge emotional leap for me and something I'm still proud of myself for having done even though he didn't become some new friend & it wasn't a particularly positive interaction. Recorded this episode much earlier so the timeline isn't quite accurate on events but the point remains the same & the go...2022-02-2720 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Valentine's ShowI have a rather complicated history with this holiday and realized I hadn't done an episode about it.  Fortunately, this one was good but still sad because the Energizer Bunny wouldn't have ditched me or ignored it like other guys in the romantic orbit did.  At least I have guy friends who acknowledged it and made me feel loved. These are some chocolate covered strawberries I ordered for myself (10 in total).  Not cheap but if nobody's getting you any, you might as well get some for yourself.  These were but 1 part of my single person's ritual.2022-02-1520 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerGuns & Self-DefenseMy actual experience going to a gun range to take a course on pistols, learning about gun safety, doing shooting, etc.  This also leads me to my stance on the 2nd Amendment as it relates to self-defense, particularly if you are in a "vulnerable" group prone to being victimized & in the context of the "defund the police" cheerleaders. This pic is of a random decal I saw one day making fun of the stick figure family decals you see on cars.  Dudes like that are WHY we have a right to protect ourselves.  If one of those adu...2022-02-0820 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerSometimes You Just Have to Walk AwaySome words about "Office Space," walking away from abusive work environments and suggestions for reforming the legal industry that nobody seems to have bothered with.2022-01-3021 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerAll Families Aren't the CleaversThis was inspired from reading a recent "Dear Prudence" letter where some Pollyana wife was buddying up to her husband's estranged mother and apparently not respecting his lived experience (which she claimed not to be aware of) that led to the estrangement. Yes, that's a pic of Faye Dunaway playing Joan Crawford from "Mommie Dearest" cutting her daughter's hair against the daughter's will.  Someone's childhood indeed may have been THAT traumatic. I found this when trying to find a different image from that movie since I had that in an old LiveJournal icon.2022-01-1720 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerDo We Really Need LinkedIn?This is a topic I've been wanting to cover for ages but I also discuss illegal job ads I've seen in entertainment, the idiots who defend them and exactly what the role of an attorney is (along with what it isn't).2022-01-1119 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerNew Year, New You (Or is it New Me?)The big New Year's resolution is getting over the Energizer Bunny though it's not really the plan to cut him off as a person.  Go see the TV show "Soap" if you can since I mention one of the storylines, which feels very apt to how this breakup was going.  This is probably my most interesting New Year's ever since this marks the first time I've ever had a New Year's Day date but I'm still not really ready for prime time, if you know what I mean... Random "New Year, New You" pic I found online.2022-01-0220 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerPerception is RelativeKnow that saying "one man's trash is another man's treasure"?  That's what this episode is about and how social conventions or your definition of conduct in a relationship isn't objective fact or even pure gospel. This pic is an example of this concept: liking high pulp orange juice would actually be a selling point to me (especially if you like the one from Trader Joe's though that means I might yell at you if you drink it all and don't replace it).  Daniel, on the other hand, disagrees.   I think Daniel is devoid of taste or...2021-12-1919 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerSad Breakup vs. Angry Breakup: Which One is Worse?Well, which is?  Except for this most recent one, which has been killing me in a lot of respects, every single other breakup I've had was based on anger and followed an easy enough formula.  This breakup was right out of that Bonnie Raitt song "I Can't Make You Love Me" but now feels more like a script from a Woody Allen movie. This pic is the Energizer Bunny, the nickname I came up with for my most recent ex.  Who knew when I took that pic I'd one day meet a guy who'd get that nickname?  I th...2021-12-1221 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Perils of Super SkinnyYou think only large women have problems clothes shopping??  Think again!!  Making the standard sizes larger does nothing for the naturally skinny among us.  Going back to pre-pandemic weight has meant more alterations, bottoms I had before fitting again and seeing dresses like this at the store that are all too big for me.  That pic is of a Calvin Klein dress I saw at Macy's that reminded me of something the lead in a rom com would wear while working in her great career.  I don't have anything like that.  However, even a modern day 0 is too bi...2021-11-2819 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerVaccine MandatesYeah, it's going to be controversial and thought provoking.  Some of you will like this.   For those who don't, show me the exact long term side effect data in plain English on every single population you insist the vaccine is "safe" for.  Also, if you're a US citizen espousing such ideas, tell me when you're renouncing your US citizenship and moving to China, Cuba or another communist enclave where constitutional rights and medical freedom do not exist. The pic is random NYC subway decor that leftist morons love to destroy real fast.  Too bad they don...2021-11-2120 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerIs There an Expiration Date on Feeling Love?If you're dating someone, is there?  Where would you put it at and at what point would you say it's time to bail? The pic is of the "Protect Yo Heart" art I'm referring to.  I even got to meet the creator of the image once and told him the story you'll hear in this podcast.  He appreciated it.  Here's their website: https://protectyoheart.life/2021-11-1421 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerSo What Makes You a "Lady"?A native US Southerner's take on the topic.  This Niagara piece (which I actually got to keep in the divorce & currently have on the wall) sums things up so nicely. I still want the "Shut Up or I'll Kill You" piece & I might just see about getting it, especially if I get an office sometime.2021-10-1122 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerI'm Back; Since It's 9/11, Here's My StoryMy 9/11 story isn't particularly sad or tragic since I was a college student in Atlanta at the time, didn't have any relatives living in NYC and had no friends in NYC at the time.  However, I definitely remember where I was and what I was doing that day since time was endless, things were surreal and 4 Day Guy came into the picture.  If you're looking for humor, you'll probably find it. This pic is a random piece of clip art I found online and really feel people should actually embody vs. merely paying lip service to.2021-09-1219 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerDon't Mess with a Natural RedheadIf you'd lump natural redheads in with "white women", you're so off the mark on that one it's hilarious since we don't take crap off anyone.  Just ask a real redhead who grew up with redhaired relatives. Though Lucille Bluth wasn't a redhead, if your Gangee is a natural redhead she might just do that sometime.  This is a LiveJournal icon (if you're old enough, you'll remember LiveJournal).  I've not used it in forever and just saw this about it: https://thehistoryoftheweb.com/postscript/whatever-happened-livejournal/2021-05-1522 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerIf You Don't Respect Yourself, Who Will?You can't let other people dictate your self-esteem or your self-worth.  Some days you're going to be the only fan you have so get used to it, kids.  This is how the adult world works. This pic is of an awesome mural I saw on a store shutter in my neighborhood.  The eagle seems fitting here.2021-05-0822 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerStop Worshiping Criminals & Enabling Your Fucked Up RelativesFor some reason, the media keeps trying to generate outrage for fleeing felons, violent criminals and people trying to murder others at the scene.  These people aren't Tony Soprano or Walter White.  They're not Tupac either.   I took this pic at the Blue Lounge in Manhattan at a Yelp Elite event that happened one month before all hell broke loose in Manhattan.2021-05-0124 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerLet's cancel the "Woke" Law Schools and the Ivies!!It seems law schools are no longer educating anyone on how to be an attorney.  Why are they still here when many would tell you there are too many law schools and too many lawyers? Why are the Ivy League schools still around when they are simply high priced diploma mills where aptitude means nothing but net worth means everything? Pic found in an internet search attached to a story on cancelling LSAT scores.2021-04-1324 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerDating in the Pandemic, 1 Year LaterDating in NYC hasn't changed much, even in the midst of a global pandemic.  Mask fatigue?  Had enough of lockdowns?  Who knows why guys are STILL all about the hookups vs. exclusivity in these times. Yes, I went back to the notorious Bumble in my "hopping right back onto the horse."  This was taken at a pop-up event Bumble had in NYC many years before the pandemic when I last attempted to do any dating.2021-03-3122 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerWhy Animals Rule and Humans DroolAlmost everybody cares more about harm to animals (especially cute animals) than they do to people.  Mess with a dog or cat and you'll be hated for life. This is Gray (full name Gray Cloud) who I mention in this episode.2021-03-2311 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerWhy are Classism and Elitism STILL in play if we're all about "Diversity"?This episode explores this question by me telling you about my journey as the first person in my immediate family to go to college AND the first person in my entire family (including former in-laws) to attend ANY law school.  My story might explain just WHY there's a lack of "diversity" and what ought to be done to fix it.  I talk about the legal field since that's the area I know most about & went to school for. This pic represents the ingenuity/creativity you'll need to get ahead if you're not from a professional dynasty or ha...2021-03-0720 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerLooking Back on The Time Before NYC Went to HellLiterally what the title says: today is a year to the day when I saw Mr. Big Stuff after he’d spent 2020 in China and warned me of what was to come.2021-02-2819 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger Lawyer#MeToo: Is it a Beneficial Movement or a Complete Farce???My take on #metoo, Twitter reveals of criminal activity and the Marilyn Manson/Evan Rachel Wood accusations Michelle Clair (the credited artist of the piece you see in the episode art) sort of summed up the dynamics here, didn't she?2021-02-1519 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerPolitics & Business Do NOT MixMy response to a business trying to inject politics into the proceedings and why doing that is a horrible idea2021-02-0719 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe $320 Lesson - When Mr. Big Stuff Lives Up to That Moniker for the Wrong ReasonsThis is about the deception that ensues when you don't tell someone from Day 1 where you stand in the polygamy vs. monogamy conflict.  Bait and switch is so unbecoming.  The cover pic is a scrapbook about my relationships with exes that I created and still have.  If I'd not actually finished that volume, this guy would be getting at least a couple pages in it.2020-12-1521 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerCat Antics & Why Mama's Boys are No GosSome discussion of cat antics and a rant inspired by TLC's "I Love a Mama's Boy" (it's far more true to life than you think it is).   The episode art does say "Find Yourself"; I saw that at random in NYC before the pandemic times.2020-12-0622 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThanksgiving Today & in the PastMy Thanksgiving experience and other memorable Thanksgivings I've lived.2020-11-2914 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerEnough With the Politics!!A rant on entitlement and the endless political ads2020-11-0421 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerPandemic NYCI came back to NYC and have been in the process of assessing for myself if I still have a future here.  It's not quite as scary as you've heard it is.2020-10-1228 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerYou Are NOT the PoliceRant about people trying to control other people's diets and dating choices (I made the food pictured here)2020-08-2407 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerDating During the Pandemic....Really???Since I recorded this, North Carolina has entered Phase 2.2020-05-2613 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerRegression -- Staying With Family in NCWhen you have to leave your adult home and go back to your childhood home (the image is of me in 1st grade)2020-05-0536 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Craziness of CoronavirusSome information on the times we're facing now: where I'm at, how I got here and what we ought to be doing right now in these unusual circumstances2020-04-1212 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerSurviving NYCThe debut podcast of Monica, also known as "The Angry Redheaded Lawyer" She's a creative who just happens to be a lawyer and can't relate to the PC nonsense or "wokeness".  A mix of NYC attitude and Southern charm with a dash of redhead spunk.2020-03-3004 minThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerThe Gorgeous Ginger LawyerTrailerIt's the show trailer!!2020-03-2900 min