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Divorced Christian WomanTax Tips and Tricks After DivorceIn this episode of The Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, I’m joined by Diana Swillinger and accredited financial counselor and tax genius Dee Carter. Whether you’re DIY-ing your taxes or outsourcing to someone, this one’s for you.Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question hereRelated Resources:Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This FREE 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.F...
2026-02-2047 min
Divorced Christian WomanInvesting Basics After Divorce"I'm not selling my house right now, so it doesn't matter what it's worth today."That one sentence changed everything about how I look at my INVESTMENT accounts. And if watching your investments go up and down makes you want to hide under the covers, you need to hear this analogy.Today we’re talking about investing after divorce by breaking down the three buckets every divorced woman needs to understand, what to do with settlement money sitting in your bank account, and when you actually need a financial advisor versus when you ca...
2026-02-131h 04
Flying FreeStop Calling Him a “Narcissist” (Use This Word Instead) - The Narcissism Trap Series Part One [366]In this kickoff to a powerful new series, The Narcissism Trap, Natalie Hoffman challenges a popular narrative in abuse recovery: labeling an emotionally abusive partner as a “narcissist.” While that term may feel validating at first, Natalie explains how it can actually work against your healing by keeping you locked in the wrong story. If you've been Googling “narcissist” at 2 a.m. to make sense of your painful marriage, this episode is for you.🎯 Key Takeaways:Stop giving the abuse a medical label. Narcissism is a clinical diagnosis that can distract f...
2026-02-1018 minFlying FreeStop Calling Him a “Narcissist” (Use This Word Instead) - The Narcissism Trap Series Part One [366]In this kickoff to a powerful new series, The Narcissism Trap, Natalie Hoffman challenges a popular narrative in abuse recovery: labeling an emotionally abusive partner as a “narcissist.” While that term may feel validating at first, Natalie explains how it can actually work against your healing by keeping you locked in the wrong story. If you've been Googling “narcissist” at 2 a.m. to make sense of your painful marriage, this episode is for you.🎯 Key Takeaways:Stop giving the abuse a medical label. Narcissism is a clinical diagnosis that can distract f...
2026-02-1018 min
Divorced Christian WomanMoney Mindset: How Our Beliefs About Money Impact Our LivesWelcome to Season 3 of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! This season we’re getting all up in your business (literally): the money business. And we’re kicking things off by asking: What’s your money mindset looking like after divorce? Is it cool, calm, and collected, or hiding in a closet stress-eating Oreos and ignoring the bill collectors?I invited my friend and fellow coach Diana Swillinger to help us unpack the tangled web of beliefs we’ve inherited about money, and how to burn those unhelpful scripts to the ground so we can build a mindset...
2026-02-0653 min
Divorced Christian WomanSeason Three Trailer - MoneySeason Three is coming February 7, 2026, and the topic is MONEY. We'll be discussing money mindset, taxes, investing, estate planning, buying, renting, and selling homes, as well as budgeting, building your financial future, and much more! Subscribe to get new episodes on your podcast app as they are released.
2026-02-0401 min
Flying FreeThe Christian Abuser's Favorite Emotional Abuse Weapon (And How to Neutralize It!) - Emotional Abuse 101 | Part 6 [361]What is the weapon Christian abusers most commonly use?In this sixth installment of the Emotional Abuse 101 series, Natalie Hoffman talks about a subtle weapon many Christian men wield in emotionally abusive relationships: criticism. But not the obvious, name-calling type. This is the more insidious, underhanded kind that’s drenched in misogyny and spiritual distortion.If you've ever wondered why your husband criticizes you, even while appearing like a “good Christian man,” this episode will show you the truth behind the curtain. And it will help you take your power back.🔑 Ke...
2026-01-0625 minFlying FreeThe Christian Abuser's Favorite Emotional Abuse Weapon (And How to Neutralize It!) - Emotional Abuse 101 | Part 6 [361]What is the weapon Christian abusers most commonly use?In this sixth installment of the Emotional Abuse 101 series, Natalie Hoffman talks about a subtle weapon many Christian men wield in emotionally abusive relationships: criticism. But not the obvious, name-calling type. This is the more insidious, underhanded kind that’s drenched in misogyny and spiritual distortion.If you've ever wondered why your husband criticizes you, even while appearing like a “good Christian man,” this episode will show you the truth behind the curtain. And it will help you take your power back.🔑 Ke...
2026-01-0625 min
Flying FreeHow Emotional Abuse in Your Christian Marriage Impacts Your Spiritual Health - Emotional Abuse 101 | Part 5 [360]Emotional abuse in a Christian marriage doesn't just damage your mental health. It corrodes your spiritual foundation until you can't tell the difference between God's voice and your abuser's voice anymore.🔑 Key Takeaways:Emotional abuse doesn’t just affect your mind and body. It wounds your soul.Natalie draws a powerful connection between emotional abuse and spiritual damage, especially for Christian women who’ve been taught not to trust themselves.When you’re conditioned to distrust your own inner knowing, spiritual confusion sets in. This leads to internal conflict, spiritual isolation, and the inabi...
2025-12-3035 minFlying FreeHow Emotional Abuse in Your Christian Marriage Impacts Your Spiritual Health - Emotional Abuse 101 | Part 5 [360]Emotional abuse in a Christian marriage doesn't just damage your mental health. It corrodes your spiritual foundation until you can't tell the difference between God's voice and your abuser's voice anymore.🔑 Key Takeaways:Emotional abuse doesn’t just affect your mind and body. It wounds your soul.Natalie draws a powerful connection between emotional abuse and spiritual damage, especially for Christian women who’ve been taught not to trust themselves.When you’re conditioned to distrust your own inner knowing, spiritual confusion sets in. This leads to internal conflict, spiritual isolation, and the inabi...
2025-12-3035 min
Divorced Christian WomanCreating New Friendships as a Divorced Christian WomanSo, you got divorced and your social life went up in flames. Welcome to the club, friend. Pull up a chair.In this season finale, I sit down with my friend Diana Swillinger (host of The Renew Your Mind Podcast) to talk about something every divorced woman eventually faces: the weird, wonderful, terrifying world of making new friends when you're a whole new person.We talk about the great scattering (as Mel Robbins calls it), how to let go of draining friendships without guilt, and why being rejected might not actually kill you. If you're...
2025-12-1959 min
Divorced Christian WomanYour Relationship with Yourself: Learning to Like (and Love) Who You Are AgainWhat if the most important relationship you’ll ever have isn't the one with your ex, your pastor, or even your cat, but the one with yourself? (I know, scandalous.) In this episode, I’m joined by three divorced Christian women, Barb, Diana, and Lisa, to unpack what it really looks like to reconnect with yourself after decades of religious programming and marital trauma.We Talk About:Rebuilding your identity after your inner toddler’s been gagged and duct-taped by shame for too longWhy self-love isn't selfish How IFS (Internal Family Systems) can help you...
2025-12-1259 min
Divorced Christian WomanBuilding Healthier Relationships with Adult Children Post-DivorceYou've survived the marriage from Hades, signed the divorce papers, and maybe even had your ceremonial "burn the wedding dress" moment. Your kids are grown, they have opinions (lots of them), and some of those opinions are... not in your favor. If you're wondering how to rebuild, repair, or even just exist in relationship with your adult children post-divorce without losing your mind (or your will to live), this episode is your safe space.I sit down with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, for a conversation about the complex and often heart-wrenching work o...
2025-12-0556 min
Divorced Christian WomanRaising Resilient Kids: Building Connections that MatterWhy do your kids act like little angels at their dad’s house and then transform into rabid raccoons the moment they step foot into your kitchen? No, it’s not because you’re failing as a mom (although that voice in your head might say otherwise). It’s because YOU are the safe one. In this episode, we unpack all of it: the chaos, the trauma, the meltdowns, and the sacred role you play in raising kids who actually make it out of this mess OK.I sat down with Diana, Loretta, a...
2025-11-2855 min
Divorced Christian WomanChurch Relationships After Divorce: Reclaiming Your Spiritual CommunityEver wondered what happens to your church relationships when your marriage falls apart and you do the unthinkable (aka, choose not to be miserable for the rest of your life)? In this episode, I sat down with Diana, Stacey, and Marie, to talk about the real fallout that happens not just in marriage, but in the holy halls of church after divorce.What We Talked About:How divorce changes everything about how you experience churchWhat happens when you realize your church was more in love with patriarchy than JesusSpiritual deconstruction (a.k.a. following Jesus out...
2025-11-2155 min
Divorced Christian WomanNeighbors, Acquaintances, and Small Town Gossip: Living Free in a FishbowlSo you got divorced, and now you’re the scandal of the century in your tiny town (or tight church circle). You’re dodging judgmental glances in the grocery store and wondering if your prayer request just got broadcasted as Christian-sanctified gossip. Sound familiar? In this episode, I team up with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, to talk about how to take your power back when your life becomes the talk of the neighborhood.If you're tired of feeling like your healing is public property and you’re ready to walk tall again, even wh...
2025-11-1446 min
Divorced Christian WomanProfessional Relationships After Divorce: Boundaries and Respect in the WorkplaceHave you ever been talked over in a meeting, assigned work with no warning, or gotten that oh-so-lovely “Can you just help with this one little thing?” at 4:59 p.m.? In this episode, I’m joined by Stacey, Diana, Marie, and Grace, all divorced Christian women who are navigating life post-divorce in the workplace. We’re diving deep into how to show up for yourself professionally without selling your soul or compromising your values.What We Talked About:How divorce made us braver and more assertive at work Real-life stories of standing up to toxi...
2025-11-071h 02
Divorced Christian WomanFamily of Origin Wounds: How They Shape Divorce and HealingWhat if your deepest shame wasn’t actually yours to carry?If you’ve ever felt the cold shoulder from your Christian family after your divorce, or you’re still untangling the sticky spiderwebs of shame and silence from your upbringing, pull up a chair. This episode is for you.I sat down with friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger, and together we unpacked how family of origin dynamics continue to haunt, shape, and sometimes straight-up sabotage your healing after divorce.Here’s what we discuss:What if the heavy load you...
2025-10-311h 02
Divorced Christian WomanRebuilding Your Relationship with God After DivorceWhat if everything you believed about God was actually holding you hostage?In this episode, I sat down with my friends and fellow coaches Diana Swillinger, Stacey Wynn, and Marie Griffith to get real about what it looks like to rebuild your relationship with God after the spiritual ground beneath your feet crumbles.We’re talking about spiritual deconstruction, not as a slippery slope into heresy ( it’s actually a slip ‘n slide into FREEDOM), but as a necessary and sacred process of untangling truth from toxic theology. We share our personal stories of exc...
2025-10-2450 min
Divorced Christian WomanYour Ex, His Family, His Girlfriend, Heck, His Entire OrbitIs being "nice" to your ex keeping you stuck in his orbit? In this episode, my friend and fellow coach Diana Swillinger and I peel back the layers on everything related to your ex.We tackle the sticky, icky, post-divorce drama: how to set boundaries, why you don't owe him or his people anything, and how to stay in your lane.If you've ever wondered:Am I being mean for not giving a crap about his new wife?Is it bad to limit contact with his family?Should I let my kids...
2025-10-1755 minDivorced Christian WomanChristian Women Dating After DivorceLet’s be honest. If you've escaped from a destructive marriage, the idea of dating again might feel less like butterflies and more like plunging into shark-infested waters wearing a meat dress. But what if dating didn’t have to feel like impending doom? What if you could approach it with courage, confidence, and an actual strategy?In this episode, I invited three of my friends and fellow coaches, Stacey Wynn, Diana Swillinger, and Marie Griffith to join me for a frank discussion about dating after divorce as a Christian woman.Some Key T...
2025-10-101h 01
Divorced Christian WomanOur Relationships with Mentors, Coaches, and TherapistsWhat if the person you're turning to for healing is actually keeping you stuck? (Cue dramatic music and flashbacks to church lady "counseling" that made you question your entire existence.)Welcome to Season 2 of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! I’m kicking things off with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger. We’re diving headfirst into the sometimes-healing, sometimes-horrifying world of mentors, coaches, and therapists.Not all helpers are created equal, my friend. And no, your cousin’s youth group leader who “feels called” to counsel probably isn’t qualified to help you unravel...
2025-10-0357 minDivorced Christian WomanSeason Two Trailer - RelationshipsWelcome to Season Two of the Christian Divorced Woman Podcast! This season, we'll be focusing on RELATIONSHIPS. Relationships with your kids, your ex, your friends, your family of origin, your colleagues, God, and even yourself. Join us as we dive deep into something that has a profound impact on our entire lives. Season two starts October 3, 2025. Subscribe to get notified when each new episode drops.
2025-10-0203 min
Divorced Christian WomanYour New Life Starts NowWelcome to the final episode of Season One of The Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! If you’ve made it through the first 365 days post-divorce without stabbing anyone (including yourself), congratulations. You’re our people. In our finale I gather a roundtable of warrior women (Diana, Loretta, Lisa, and Marie) to talk about what comes after the ashes. (And it's NOT all sobbing into Häagen-Dazs while reading Leviticus. Haha)What we talk about: Finding yourself again (and realizing she’s kind of amazing)The joy of owning a dog (and...
2025-08-2252 min
Divorced Christian WomanGrief, Rage, and the Uninvited Guests of HealingWhat if the emotions you're trying to keep at arm’s length (like grief and rage) are actually the very things that will set you free?In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger. Today we’re talking about the emotional whirlwind that follows a divorce, especially for Christian women who were taught to be nice, stay quiet, and for the love of God, never get angry.Well. We got angry. (And we’re still alive!)If you’ve ever wondered:“Am I losing it, or is th...
2025-08-151h 09
Divorced Christian WomanSex, Dating, and Jesus: What Now?This isn’t your grandma’s church talk on “biblical womanhood.” In this episode, I sit down with four divorced Christian women—Diana, Loretta, Lisa, and Marie—to unpack the sticky, often squirmy conversation around sex, dating, purity culture, and what it all means now that we’ve ditched the toxic marriage and are figuring out what we actually want.Heads up: this is not a how-to guide for your post-divorce sex life. We’re not handing out purity rings or condoms. This is an open, judgment-free, thoughtful conversation about the messy intersection of desire, faith, and freedom....
2025-08-081h 00
Divorced Christian WomanFaith in Freefall: When You Don’t Know What You Believe AnymoreHave you ever felt like your faith packed a suitcase, jumped off a cliff, and left you blinking in the rubble of what used to be your spiritual life? In this episode, I’m joined by my good friend and fellow coach Diana Swillinger to talk about what it’s like when everything you thought you believed about God, church, and even yourself suddenly stops making sense.We’re not sugarcoating it, friend. We're talking spiritual betrayal, religious trauma, excommunication (oh yes, I went there), and what happens when your church treats your divorce like an unpardonable sin.
2025-08-0153 min
Divorced Christian WomanHandling Holidays, Birthdays, and Other Emotional LandminesIn this episode, I sit down with Diana, Marie, Michele, Grace, and Rochelle—five divorced Christian women—to dish on how the first 365 days post-divorce can feel like navigating an emotional minefield with a blindfold on and flip-flops. We're talking the first holidays that smacked us sideways, the unexpected emotional triggers, practical, real-life survival tips to make it through without self-combusting, and why “just be grateful” is not the ministry you need right now.Key Takeaways:Grief is sneaky—you might be totally fine… until you’re not.Freedom is real—and sometimes it shows up in a firework...
2025-07-2550 min
Divorced Christian WomanReclaiming Your Body, Time, and VoiceThis episode is the pep talk every divorced Christian woman didn’t know she needed. I sat down with five divorced Christian women—Diana, Marie, Michele, Grace, and Rochelle—to talk about what it really looks like to take your life back after divorce.We’re talking loud smoothies, solo vacations, buying swimsuits without crying, and daring to want things. I know. Scandalous.Key Takeaways:Taking up space is sacred. Whether it’s dancing, resting, or saying “no,” your presence matters.Your voice is yours. Use it. Even if it shakes. Even if it’s only to a...
2025-07-1855 min
Divorced Christian WomanThe Kids Aren’t Okay (But They Will Be)Welcome back, my fellow escape artists of dysfunction! In this episode, I sat back down with a power panel of divorced Christian moms—Diana, Loretta, Wendy, Jillian, and Lisa—to get real about what parenting looks like after you walk away from Crazytown, USA.Spoiler: The kids do survive. Many even thrive. But getting there is a wild ride filled with therapy bills, awkward holidays, and the occasional trip to "Maury Povich Show" levels of drama.Top Takeaways: You’re Not Ruining Your Kids: Not the way staying in a toxic marriage would've. Divorce doesn’t...
2025-07-1149 min
Divorced Christian WomanFriendships After DivorceFriend, in this episode, I sat down with five fantastic divorced Christian women—Diana, Loretta, Wendy, Jillian, and Lisa—to talk about one of the most tender and tricky parts of post-divorce life: friendships.If you've ever wondered, Who do I tell? How much should I say? Why did some friends disappear while others showed up unexpectedly? you are not alone. We talk through all of that.Each of these women brings her own beautiful perspective and personal experiences, from crafting “scripts” to explain their divorce with dignity and clarity, to grieving the loss of church c...
2025-07-041h 00
Divorced Christian WomanMoney, Bills, and the Panic ButtonLet’s talk about the thing nobody wants to talk about—but literally everyone has to deal with: money. In this episode, I invited three powerhouse women—Grace (our spreadsheet whisperer), Wendy (the multi-hustle artist), and Maile (budgeting through the fire)—to talk about what it’s really like to face finances after divorce.We got honest about what it feels like to hit the panic button when bills roll in, how to build a budget from scratch (or not), and what it means to pay your way into peace. (Hey, freedom is expensive, but worth it.) Whether yo...
2025-06-2753 min
Divorced Christian WomanWho Am I Without Him?Ever looked around your post-divorce life and thought, “Who even am I without that man-child?” Same. In this episode, Diana and I peel back the layers of Christian programming, people-pleasing trauma responses, and overfunctioning-for-Jesus syndrome to tackle the real question: Who am I when I’m not trying to fix someone else’s broken masculinity?Diana and I discuss identity loss in marriage, the process of deprogramming, and how to reclaim your God-given essence one small boundary and one journal prompt at a time. With warmth and truth bombs, this conversation is basically free therapy.Ke...
2025-06-2059 min
Divorced Christian WomanLearning To Live Alone (And Not Feel Like You’re Dying)Welcome to Episode 2 of The Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, where we believe that living alone doesn’t mean you’re dying. It just means you finally have control of the thermostat.In this episode, I sat down with Grace, Wendy, and Maile to talk about the surprisingly surreal and also beautiful journey of learning to live solo after divorce. From blackout curtains and bougie hotel sheets to full-on nervous system rewiring, we covered it all. If you've ever cried into a bowl of cereal on a Friday night and called it dinner, congratulations - you’re not broken...
2025-06-1343 min
Divorced Christian WomanLife After Divorce for Christian Women: The First Year of Healing and Reclaiming YourselfIn this hope-filled inaugural episode of the Christian Divorced Woman Podcast, Diana and I discuss the vulnerable topic of waking up to life post-divorce. Together, we unpack the emotional rollercoaster of the first year from the quiet loneliness of taking the trash out alone to the massive internal shifts that come with reclaiming identity and power as a divorced Christian woman.We explore the grief, grit, and growth that come in the wake of separation, and how honesty, community, and inner truth become lifelines. Whether you're two weeks out or ten years removed, this episode reminds you...
2025-06-0653 min
Intuitive Self: IFS + Intuition + Spirituality with Natalie DeeringFlying Free from Spiritual and Emotional Abuse: A Conversation with Natalie HoffmanIn this powerful and enlightening episode, I sit down with Natalie Hoffman, author of All the Scary Little Gods, to discuss her journey of deconstructing from emotional and spiritual abuse, and helping others do the same.
We explore the deep work of deprogramming from rigid belief systems and aligning your faith with your core values. Natalie Hoffman shares insights on alleviating shame tied to mental health and faith, and how writing from and for your parts can facilitate profound healing.
Together, we dive into the impacts of spiritual abuse, the challenge of being excommunicated by...
2025-01-131h 04Intuitive Self: IFS + Intuition + Spirituality with Natalie DeeringFlying Free from Spiritual and Emotional Abuse: A Conversation with Natalie HoffmanIn this powerful and enlightening episode, I sit down with Natalie Hoffman, author of All the Scary Little Gods, to discuss her journey of deconstructing from emotional and spiritual abuse, and helping others do the same.
We explore the deep work of deprogramming from rigid belief systems and aligning your faith with your core values. Natalie Hoffman shares insights on alleviating shame tied to mental health and faith, and how writing from and for your parts can facilitate profound healing.
Together, we dive into the impacts of spiritual abuse, the challenge of being excommunicated by...
2025-01-131h 04
Flying FreeBefriending Our Anxiety [303]In today’s episode, I interview Natalie Deering, an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist and host of That Wellness Podcast. Together, we explore practical and spiritual approaches to anxiety, offering tools to transform anxiety from an adversary into an ally. We discuss personal experiences, explain key IFS concepts like "trailheads," and share exercises to regulate the nervous system and foster self-compassion.Key Topics Discussed:Understanding anxiety as a trailhead (find out what a trailhead is in IFS too!)Practical self-regulation tools.The role of fear in anxiety.Spiritual integration.Everyday self-embodiment practices (SEEs).Read th...
2024-11-2649 minFlying FreeBefriending Our Anxiety [303]In today’s episode, I interview Natalie Deering, an Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist and host of That Wellness Podcast. Together, we explore practical and spiritual approaches to anxiety, offering tools to transform anxiety from an adversary into an ally. We discuss personal experiences, explain key IFS concepts like "trailheads," and share exercises to regulate the nervous system and foster self-compassion.Key Topics Discussed:Understanding anxiety as a trailhead (find out what a trailhead is in IFS too!)Practical self-regulation tools.The role of fear in anxiety.Spiritual integration.Everyday self-embodiment practices (SEEs).Read th...
2024-11-2649 min
Flying FreeAn AI Tool for Abuse Survivors [302]The link to register for this week’s FREE Q&A with the founder of Aimee Says, Anne Wintemute, is HERE! This Q&A will take place on Saturday, November 23 at 11:00 am Central Time. Again, you can register for this event on Zoom HERE.In this compelling episode, Natalie Hoffman talks with Anne Wintemute, founder of Aimee Says, an innovative AI tool designed to support abuse survivors. Natalie and Anne explore how Aimee Says provides both immediate, compassionate assistance and long-term documentation capabilities for those navigating abusive situations. Anne shares the tool’s features, including its free...
2024-11-1949 minFlying FreeAn AI Tool for Abuse Survivors [302]The link to register for this week’s FREE Q&A with the founder of Aimee Says, Anne Wintemute, is HERE! This Q&A will take place on Saturday, November 23 at 11:00 am Central Time. Again, you can register for this event on Zoom HERE.In this compelling episode, Natalie Hoffman talks with Anne Wintemute, founder of Aimee Says, an innovative AI tool designed to support abuse survivors. Natalie and Anne explore how Aimee Says provides both immediate, compassionate assistance and long-term documentation capabilities for those navigating abusive situations. Anne shares the tool’s features, including its free...
2024-11-1949 min
Flying FreeWhy Does My Husband Act Like a Child? [296]Understanding and Overcoming Emotional Abuse: A Journey to Personal FreedomIn this episode of the Flying Free Podcast, Natalie reflects on the power of transformation and shares profound insights from both the Flying Free Kaleidoscope community and the personal stories of women who are seeking freedom from abusive relationships. With heartfelt testimonials and a listener’s deeply personal question about navigating a difficult separation, this episode delves into the complexities of emotional abuse and the path to self-discovery.The Power of Transformation: Real-Life Experiences from the Flying Free KaleidoscopeNa...
2024-10-0822 minFlying FreeWhy Does My Husband Act Like a Child? [296]Understanding and Overcoming Emotional Abuse: A Journey to Personal FreedomIn this episode of the Flying Free Podcast, Natalie reflects on the power of transformation and shares profound insights from both the Flying Free Kaleidoscope community and the personal stories of women who are seeking freedom from abusive relationships. With heartfelt testimonials and a listener’s deeply personal question about navigating a difficult separation, this episode delves into the complexities of emotional abuse and the path to self-discovery.The Power of Transformation: Real-Life Experiences from the Flying Free KaleidoscopeNa...
2024-10-0822 min
Flying FreeBONUS EPISODE: New Beliefs for Christian Women in Emotionally and Spiritually Abusive MarriagesOn January 1st I asked the Christian women in my private forum to tell me what truth they learned in 2023 that had rocked their world and changed their life forever.Then I read their answers, and they took my breath away.When I started breathing again, I knew I had to share them with you, so I created this bonus Flying Free podcast episode AND a PDF download for you HERE.These are all written by ordinary Christian women in extraordinarily challenging and painful marriages.I hope these thoughts will give...
2024-01-0524 minFlying FreeBONUS EPISODE: New Beliefs for Christian Women in Emotionally and Spiritually Abusive MarriagesOn January 1st I asked the Christian women in my private forum to tell me what truth they learned in 2023 that had rocked their world and changed their life forever.Then I read their answers, and they took my breath away.When I started breathing again, I knew I had to share them with you, so I created this bonus Flying Free podcast episode AND a PDF download for you HERE.These are all written by ordinary Christian women in extraordinarily challenging and painful marriages.I hope these thoughts will give...
2024-01-0524 min
Flying FreeWon't Abusers Get Away With Everything if We Believe God's Love is Unconditional? [213]Are we unconditionally loved by God or not? How you answer that question will play a role in how you live your life. Key Points From This Episode:Why Natalie relates to our listener’s anxiety over this topic.Why Natalie thought her own mother’s treatment of her was how God must treat her, too. Spoiler alert: This was not a fair comparison.How spiritualizing everything can be detrimental to your emotional and mental well-being.Why believing that everyone else who is in “authority” over you is speaking the words of God can lead...
2023-03-0742 minFlying FreeWon't Abusers Get Away With Everything if We Believe God's Love is Unconditional? [213]Are we unconditionally loved by God or not? How you answer that question will play a role in how you live your life. Key Points From This Episode:Why Natalie relates to our listener’s anxiety over this topic.Why Natalie thought her own mother’s treatment of her was how God must treat her, too. Spoiler alert: This was not a fair comparison.How spiritualizing everything can be detrimental to your emotional and mental well-being.Why believing that everyone else who is in “authority” over you is speaking the words of God can lead...
2023-03-0742 min
Flying FreeInterview with My Second Husband: How We Met and Married [207]You do NOT want to miss this episode with the guest I’ve been trying to get on the podcast for YEARS - my very own husband, Tom Hoffman. Listen to us riff about how we reconnected decades after we had first met (he was one of my grade-school bullies!), what it was like trying to date while getting a divorce at the same time, what our wedding was like (it includes pie, fries, and kids running around everywhere), what life has been like since then, and our long-awaited honeymoon run down.
2023-01-2447 minFlying FreeInterview with My Second Husband: How We Met and Married [207]You do NOT want to miss this episode with the guest I’ve been trying to get on the podcast for YEARS - my very own husband, Tom Hoffman. Listen to us riff about how we reconnected decades after we had first met (he was one of my grade-school bullies!), what it was like trying to date while getting a divorce at the same time, what our wedding was like (it includes pie, fries, and kids running around everywhere), what life has been like since then, and our long-awaited honeymoon run down.
2023-01-2447 min
Flying FreeWhy Do I Feel Like I'm Going Crazy in My Marriage? [89]How do you respond when your partner sends you two totally different messages? One message says he loves you and will do anything to make things right. The other message says you're making a big deal out of nothing, and you're actually the problem. Which message is true? In this episode, Daphne, Natalie, and Rachel talk about:What your partner is really communicating and how you can know for sure. How religious teachings like "your heart is desperately wicked, and who can know it?" and "assume the best" perpetuate domestic abuse.Where conviction really comes from.A simple wa...
2020-10-2136 minFlying FreeWhy Do I Feel Like I'm Going Crazy in My Marriage? [89]How do you respond when your partner sends you two totally different messages? One message says he loves you and will do anything to make things right. The other message says you're making a big deal out of nothing, and you're actually the problem. Which message is true? In this episode, Daphne, Natalie, and Rachel talk about:What your partner is really communicating and how you can know for sure. How religious teachings like "your heart is desperately wicked, and who can know it?" and "assume the best" perpetuate domestic abuse.Where conviction really comes from.A simple wa...
2020-10-2136 min
Flying FreeAm I the Problem in My Marriage? [85]You're the problem. An angry woman, a discontent wife, a troublemaker, the ungodly one. You've heard this over and over, in your mind, at church, and from your husband. Why can't you get it together? Where do all the rage, frustration, and ugliness come from? What if the question is the answer? Abusers don't ask if they are abusive. Natalie, Daphne, and Rachel discuss the common reactions women have in destructive marriages that bring shame and confusion along with: The need to see that our abusers try to force a reaction by exploiting their intimate knowledge of us.How/why...
2020-09-2345 minFlying FreeAm I the Problem in My Marriage? [85]You're the problem. An angry woman, a discontent wife, a troublemaker, the ungodly one. You've heard this over and over, in your mind, at church, and from your husband. Why can't you get it together? Where do all the rage, frustration, and ugliness come from? What if the question is the answer? Abusers don't ask if they are abusive. Natalie, Daphne, and Rachel discuss the common reactions women have in destructive marriages that bring shame and confusion along with: The need to see that our abusers try to force a reaction by exploiting their intimate knowledge of us.How/why...
2020-09-2345 min
Flying FreeWhen God and the Bible are Weaponized Against Christian Women [80]Natalie interviews Anne Resler about the connection between spiritual and emotional abuse and how they work together to control and neutralize the voices of Christian women. Anne's work as an author and counselor illuminates the brainwashing of many Christian women as well as how God and the Bible have been weaponized against them. Her conversations with survivors allow her to identify behavior patterns that enable abuse to continue as well as effective tools for healing and freedom.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources:Find...
2020-08-1941 minFlying FreeWhen God and the Bible are Weaponized Against Christian Women [80]Natalie interviews Anne Resler about the connection between spiritual and emotional abuse and how they work together to control and neutralize the voices of Christian women. Anne's work as an author and counselor illuminates the brainwashing of many Christian women as well as how God and the Bible have been weaponized against them. Her conversations with survivors allow her to identify behavior patterns that enable abuse to continue as well as effective tools for healing and freedom.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources:Find...
2020-08-1941 min
Flying FreeCan Emotional Abuse Survivors Ever Learn to Completely Trust Again? [73]Rachel, Becky, and Natalie answer two listener questions: 1. “After successfully escaping abuse, how do you determine that the respect or positive treatment that you receive from any new relationships are not just another wave of wolves in sheep’s clothing, waiting for their opportunity to show their teeth? It doesn’t feel fair or trusting to look at every person that comes through your new life now that you are healing as just another predator waiting to jump on you. Do you ever learn to completely trust again? When someone offers to help you with a task, is it...
2020-07-0133 minFlying FreeCan Emotional Abuse Survivors Ever Learn to Completely Trust Again? [73]Rachel, Becky, and Natalie answer two listener questions: 1. “After successfully escaping abuse, how do you determine that the respect or positive treatment that you receive from any new relationships are not just another wave of wolves in sheep’s clothing, waiting for their opportunity to show their teeth? It doesn’t feel fair or trusting to look at every person that comes through your new life now that you are healing as just another predator waiting to jump on you. Do you ever learn to completely trust again? When someone offers to help you with a task, is it...
2020-07-0133 min
Flying FreeSetting Boundaries with a Husband Who Blames You for Everything [69]In today's episode, Natalie, Rachel, and Becky tackle a common issue many survivors have when they begin to set boundaries. You'll also learn why taking all the responsibility in a relationship is never a win-win for anyone and what you can do instead!Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making...
2020-06-0333 min
Flying FreeCan Christians be Narcissists? [67]Natalie interviews Pastor Dave Orrison, author of Narcissism in the Church, about how legalism breeds narcissism and vice versa. If you've been part of a religious organization that powers over and lays heavy burdens on its constituents, then you've experienced this pathological combination and the spiritual and emotional trauma it causes.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Check out Dave's books: Practical Grace, Milestones of Grace, Narcissism in the Church, and Walk with MeIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be i...
2020-05-2040 min
Flying FreeCan a Christian Get a Divorce? [63]Natalie interviews Gretchen Baskerville, author of the newly released book, The Life Saving Divorce, on the issues Christian women face when contemplating a divorce. Find out why most divorces are actually life-saving.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Connect with Gretchen on her website, Life-Saving Divorce. Check out Gretchen's book, The Life Saving Divorce.If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my bo...
2020-04-2244 min
Flying FreeAre We "Tearing Down Our House" When We Set Healthy Boundaries? [60]This week Natalie, Becky, and Rachel answer two listener questions.I’m thinking about separating from my husband. How do I explain what’s going on to those on the outside? I’m afraid of their reactions.I was told I am “tearing down my house” when I stand up against my abusive husband and set boundaries. Is this true?Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com...
2020-03-2734 min
Flying FreeExchanging an Abusive Faith for a True and Simple Faith [58]Healing your faith after abuse is a long and painful process, but it's vital for true healing. Join Natalie for a lesson walking through steps that help you heal your relationship with God. Uncover the two errors that survivors often make during healing, and discover the prize for wrestling the truth from the lies you once believed.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.com...
2020-03-1823 min
Flying FreeQuestions Christians Have About Rebuilding Life After Divorce [56]Learn how to talk to your children about divorce, and discover the four steps to rebuilding your life after leaving an abusive marriage. Discover one factor that is vital for healing after experiencing trauma. In this episode, Natalie interviews "Life Saving Divorce" author Gretchen Baskerville about how to cope and find healing after a life saving divorce.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Connect with Gretchen on her website, Life-Saving Divorce. Check out Gretchen's book, The Life Saving Divorce.If you are a...
2020-03-0436 min
Flying FreeRebuilding Your Self-Esteem After Divorce [54]Jesus wants you to reclaim your SELF. And do you know how He helps you do that? By helping you understand the skills you already have within yourself - that HE PUT THERE - to rescue yourself. He didn’t create you to be a helpless princess in need of rescue. He created you to be Captain Marvel. In this podcast episode, Natalie will tell you about a tool with the potential to change the course of your life.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If...
2020-02-1927 min
Flying FreeThe Beliefs That Keep Christian Women Stuck in Abusive Marriages [53]In today’s podcast episode, Natalie shares own story of how she got into an abusive marriage, why she stayed, and how she got out.Natalie kept journals throughout the course of her marriage, and in this episode she shares an inside look into her heart and belief system while she navigated the relentlessly painful circumstances of her emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, le...
2020-02-1244 minFlying FreeThe Beliefs That Keep Christian Women Stuck in Abusive Marriages [53]In today’s podcast episode, Natalie shares own story of how she got into an abusive marriage, why she stayed, and how she got out.Natalie kept journals throughout the course of her marriage, and in this episode she shares an inside look into her heart and belief system while she navigated the relentlessly painful circumstances of her emotionally and spiritually abusive marriage.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, le...
2020-02-1244 min
Flying FreeWhen Your Pastor Says You're Not Being Abused if You Don't Have Bruises [52]Join Natalie and Becky as they answer questions from followers of the Flying Free Facebook page, including:QUESTION ONE: Since a lot of abuse involves financial abuse, lots of us are short of cash. What are some good low-cost ways a survivor can move forward in the healing process? For example, they don’t have money for counselors, therapists, or even the Flying Free group.QUESTION TWO: When I went to my church for help in my emotionally abusive abandoned marriage, my pastor said that there are always two sides to every story, that he couldn’t ch...
2020-02-0535 min
Flying FreeCan My Alcoholic Husband Change? [51]Join Natalie and Rachel as they answer two listener questions:Question One: My husband is an alcoholic and has a lot of anger toward the church and my religious beliefs. There’s also a lot of emotional abuse in our home. We have three toddlers, and I have been a stay-at-home mom. I find it hard in our marriage to raise three kids in a Christian way when my husband has a lot of anger towards my beliefs as well as the alcoholism and the emotional abuse. I guess my question is how long do I keep ho...
2020-01-2933 min
Flying FreeWhen Abuse and Our Faith are Tangled Up Together [50]When our faith is enmeshed with abuse, it's confusing to tell the two apart. That damages our connection with God. How can we untangle the lies of abuse from the truth of God?We have to do spiritual surgery on ourselves in order to remove the shrapnel of abuse from our hearts of faith--to separate the two so our hearts can beat again in a healthy, strong way in harmony with our Savior.Join Natalie for a lesson that will help untangle you from lies and renew your trust in Jesus, a God who doesn't...
2020-01-2239 min
Flying FreeI Feel Guilty Because Even Though He's Changing, I Still Want to Leave [48]Join Natalie, Rachel, Becky, and Kim as they answer two listener questions. One - what if I don't want to stay even if my husband seems to be changing a little? Two - how can I continue to homeschool if I end up separated or divorced?Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is...
2020-01-0837 min
Flying FreeReclaim Your Life After Abuse - Bonus Episode TwoBob and Polly Hamp join Natalie Hoffman in talking about the upcoming ReClaim conference in January, 2020.
2019-12-1800 min
Flying FreeReclaim Your Life After Abuse - Bonus Episode TwoBob and Polly Hamp join Natalie Hoffman in talking about the upcoming ReClaim conference in January, 2020.
2019-12-1849 min
Flying FreeHow Our Female Bodies Reflect God's Glory [45]Natalie interviews Christy Bauman, licensed mental health counselor and author of new release, Theology of the Womb. Christy talks about the female body and how the way it works tells a story about God and His love for us. "There’s something in all women that we want to create. We want to create businesses. We want to create beings. We want to create relationship. We love life. At our core, we love creating life. We love creating love. It just bubbles out of us. But there is a cost, and the blood reminds us of the...
2019-12-1043 min
Flying FreeHow Do I Find a Good Man and a Good Church? [42]Six Christian abuse advocates including Julie Anne (Spiritual Sounding Board), Sarah McDugal (Women in Leadership Development) and Natalie Hoffman (Flying Free) gather together to answer two listener questions. One question about finding a good man post-divorce, and another question about how to find a good church after being hurt by a bad one. Lots of great discussion in this episode!Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow...
2019-11-1246 minFlying FreeHow Do I Find a Good Man and a Good Church? [42]Six Christian abuse advocates including Julie Anne (Spiritual Sounding Board), Sarah McDugal (Women in Leadership Development) and Natalie Hoffman (Flying Free) gather together to answer two listener questions. One question about finding a good man post-divorce, and another question about how to find a good church after being hurt by a bad one. Lots of great discussion in this episode!Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow...
2019-11-1246 min
Flying FreeThe Intersection Between Abuse and Pornography [41]Natalie interviews author, counselor, and speaker Andrew Bauman on the intersection of pornography and abuse.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Follow Andrew's work on his website and his Facebook page. If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is ab...
2019-10-2944 min
Flying FreeCalling the Church to Compassion [40]Natalie interviews the founder of Give Her Wings, Megan Owen, about how the church can help victims instead of re-victimizing them.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive or not. All y...
2019-10-2440 min
Flying FreeI Can't Stop Hoping He Will Change His Abusive Behavior [39]Rachel and Natalie answer a listener's question about trauma bonding - or why you may feel an addictive bond to your abusive partner in spite of his abuse. We talk about intermittent reinforcement and how that plays a role in abuse.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of...
2019-10-1632 min
Flying FreeHelp! I'm Starved for Affection! [37]We were created for love and connection, but abuse cuts off our supply to these necessary components to a healthy life. Natalie interviews ARMS executive director, Stacey Womack, about what we can do when we are starved for affection.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources:ARMS programs, including the “Her Journey” program mentioned in this episode.You can follow Stacey and the ARMS ministry on Facebook and Instagram.If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, lear...
2019-09-2539 min
Flying FreeWhy is My Husband So Mean to Me? [36]Conflict is part of every relationship. So how do you know the conflict you're experiencing is destructive? Rachel and Natalie talk about identifying abuse in the back and forth drama of being treated "nice" one day and poorly the next.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your...
2019-09-1834 min
Flying FreePractical Tips For Christian Single Women After Divorce [33]Natalie interviews Gretchen Baskerville, author of the upcoming book, Life Saving Divorce. Following her divorce at age 35, Gretchen was single for 20 years before getting remarried, and she has some great insights into how to make those years the best EVER!Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Connect with Gretchen on her website, Life-Saving Divorce. Check out Gretchen's book, The Life Saving Divorce.Sign up for her Life-Saving Divorce email list HERE and get a free handout: “3 Studies That Say Kids will be Fine After Divo...
2019-08-2836 min
Flying FreeNarcissistic Abuse in Your Family of Origin [32]Natalie interviews Cherilyn Christen Clough, founder of Little Red Survivor and author of the brand new book, Chasing Eden. She discusses the complexities of dealing with narcissistic abuse in your family of origin.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Cherilyn's book: Chasing EdenCherilyn's website: Little Red SurvivorThe best of Cherilyn's blog: “Three Ways to Disable Flying Monkeys"If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first cha...
2019-08-2143 min
Flying FreeWhat if I'm a Narcissist and Not a Victim? [31]Natalie and Rachel answer two listener questions. 1. My husband says I'm the narcissist. What if he's right? 2. I'm divorced and don't want to be single forever. Help!Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your...
2019-08-1437 min
Flying FreeTaking Back Your Life After Emotional Abuse [30]A fascinating interview with UK Gender Justice Specialist, Natalie Collins around her new book, Out of Control. We discuss the process of taking back your life from the grip of abuse as well as the patriarchal teachings that keep us stuck there.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Follow Natalie on Twitter.Buy her incredibly well-written and helpful book, Out of Control: Couples, Conflict, and the Capacity for Change.If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive m...
2019-08-071h 00Flying FreeTaking Back Your Life After Emotional Abuse [30]A fascinating interview with UK Gender Justice Specialist, Natalie Collins around her new book, Out of Control. We discuss the process of taking back your life from the grip of abuse as well as the patriarchal teachings that keep us stuck there.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Follow Natalie on Twitter.Buy her incredibly well-written and helpful book, Out of Control: Couples, Conflict, and the Capacity for Change.If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive m...
2019-08-071h 00
Flying FreeSometimes Divorce is a Gift of Mercy [28]You may have heard horror stories about Christians who get divorced. But Natalie and Jeni, both abuse survivors and divorcees, discuss the benefits of a merciful divorce from an abuser.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure...
2019-07-1757 min
Flying FreeIf I Leave My Abusive Marriage Am I Giving Up On the Power of God to Change My Husband? [27]Natalie and Rachel answer three questions about staying or leaving. What if he is starting to show some change? If I leave, am I giving up on the power of God to help? Is five years too early to leave an abusive marriage?Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making...
2019-07-1057 min
Flying FreeBut Maybe God Will Do a Miracle and Change My Husband! [22]In episode 22 Natalie and Rachel answer four questions from listeners:1. Why do I still keep hoping my abusive spouse will change? 2. Are there book suggestions for abusive men? 3. Should I "take up my cross" and suffer - or get out of abuse? 4. Help me deal with all the sad feelings I have living with abuse!Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow...
2019-06-0640 min
Flying FreeThe Difference Between a Normal Marriage and an Emotionally Abusive Marriage [20]In this episode, Rachel and Natalie compare and contrast their former marriages to emotionally abusive partners and their current relationships with emotionally healthy men.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment to help you figure out if your relationship is abusive...
2019-05-2336 min
Flying FreeIs Self-Care Selfish, or is it a Sacred Duty? [19]What exactly is self-care, and why is it important? Is self-care selfish, as so many Christians seem to think? In this episode, Natalie talks with Sarah McDugal about why self-care is actually a sacred duty.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Find Sarah on her website, WildernessToWild.com, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube.Grab Sarah's book, ONE FACE: Shed the Mask, Own Your Values, and Lead Wisely.If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more a...
2019-05-1733 min
Flying FreeWhen Your Older Kids Side with Their Abusive Father [18]In today's episode, Rachel and Natalie answer three questions from listeners. How do I forgive my abuser? How do I deal with the emotional pain of losing my marriage? Why do my older kids side with their abusive father?Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing...
2019-05-1047 min
Flying FreeIs it Your Christian Duty to Surrender to Emotional Abuse in Your Marriage? [17]Can a Christian woman in an abusive relationship take action against the abuse? Or is it her duty before God to surrender to it? These are the questions Rachel and Natalie discuss in today's episode.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an...
2019-05-0334 min
Flying FreeI Can't Be Perfect Enough for My Husband [16]Have you felt weighed down by impossible, always-changing standards of perfection, depending on who you're dealing with? Rachel and Natalie discuss the insanity of this common tactic of the enemy to steal your joy and neutralize your power.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage...
2019-04-2334 min
Flying FreeHow to Set Healthy Boundaries to Keep Yourself Safe [12]Rachel and Natalie talk about what boundaries are, where we allow others to cross our boundaries, where we cross the boundaries of others, and how to set healthy boundaries in order to have nurturing relationships with ourselves and others.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing...
2019-03-2629 min
Flying FreeHow Do I Know If I'm Doing the Right Thing by Leaving My Emotionally Abusive Husband? [11]Natalie answers some of the most common questions women of faith in destructive relationships ask. Questions like "how can I be sure I'm doing the right thing by leaving my abuser? What if he can change?" "How can I protect my children?" And more!Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me...
2019-03-1929 min
Flying FreeWaking Up to Emotional Abuse so You Can Focus on Healing [8]In episode eight, Rachel and Natalie discuss unhealthy ways of coping with emotional abuse as well as better ways of coping that will enable you to detach and refocus your mind and energy on healthier things that will build you up and help you heal.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It...
2019-02-1338 min
Flying FreeWhat Do You Do If You're Married to a Fool? [6]What is a fool? How does the Bible define a fool? And what is a woman of faith to do when she realizes she is married to one? Join Rachel and Natalie as they talk about how to deal with the fools in your life.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It...
2019-01-2951 min
Flying FreeHow Do I Know if My Church is Spiritually Abusive? [5]Emotional abuse survivors often face spiritual abuse in their churches when they go forward to get help. Why is this? And what can women who have suffered this secondary abuse do to recover and heal? Natalie interviews pastor Jimmy Hinton for some insight into this tragic problem.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here Related Resources: Check out Jimmy's websiteWatch Jimmy's Champions of Illusion VideosIf you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send y...
2019-01-2157 min
Flying FreeIs Suffering Really One of God's Purposes in Marriage?n [4]Is marriage designed by God to be a crucible of suffering for the Christian wife? Or is there a higher purpose for marriage? Rachel and Natalie discuss the devastating consequences of believing the wrong things about Christian marriage.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage...
2019-01-0841 min
Flying FreeHow Can You Still Honor Yourself in an Abusive Marriage? [2]Women who have lived in destructive relationships give away their voices and their honor in order to placate their abusive partner. In this episode, Natalie and Rachel discuss what it means to honor yourself.Access the transcript, read the show notes, and/or ask Natalie a question here If you are a Christian woman who thinks you may be in an emotionally destructive marriage, learn more at https://flyingfreenow.comI'll send you (free!) the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, which has an assessment...
2018-12-2337 min