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Pirate Monk Podcast476 | Friendship for Survival | Mark Greene
On this episode: Aaron wears two pairs of pants and is rude to magicians. Nate rustles up someone. This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Mark Greene. Mark is a Texas native living in Manhattan, NY, who has learned to make friends and is guiding us. He imparts some startling statistics that may motivate you to make friends. Mark shares how he meets guys in the park, modeled after another group he saw. Guys pair up and walk and talk! He lets us know that understanding ourselves happens in relationship, and that there is strength in numbers. And the big...
2025-08-2155 minPirate Monk Podcast475 | Taming the Molecule of More | Michael Long
On this episode: Nate shares an article about how smart phones keep us addicted to novelty, validation, and stimulation. This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Michael Long. Michael is an author, lecturer, physicist, play/screen/speech writer, and former comedian. He discusses the meaning of and the good and bad of dopamine. He shares how porn, serial dating, and the over usage of technology are all dopamine grabs. Comparing dopamine to gasoline, both can be good and bad. Michael shares that there is hope and that living beyond one’s self is key. He shares several exercises to help us...
2025-08-1451 minPirate Monk Podcast474 | Real Hope, Not Snake Oil Crap | Steve Shields
On this episode: Nate is still in his car. Aaron sleeps in a Prius and shares that weird is not an emotion.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Steve Shields . Steve is a hope dealer who also is a counselor, speaker, recovery coach, founder, board member, probably some more cool stuff too. Steve thinks, as a counselor, most of therapy is a waste of time. He shares his story of being “thanked for not having problems” growing up, and his intro to porn. Sharing how when performance doesn’t work how important it is to double down and perform harder...
2025-08-0652 minPirate Monk Podcast473 | A Monk and Marine Gives Financial Advice | Doug LynamKevin Addams 6:30 AM
On this episode: Nate sits in a car and attempts to get in touch with his grief. Aaron is home and asks Nate questions.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Doug Lynam. Doug is a former Marine and Monk, an Enneagram expert, speaker, and coach. Doug shares his story of rebellion that led to becoming a marine for approval from his dad. Then a monk to piss his dad off. And how all this lead to Doug becoming an expert in finances and the Enneagram. Doug has made the Enneagram easier to understand, practical, an...
2025-08-0153 minPirate Monk Podcast472 | Robert Wolgemuth |Finishing Strong with Robert Wolgemuth
On this episode: Nate flies solo while Aaron finishes his epic road trip. Nate performs a wedding and shares his wife, Ali’s health update. This week, Nate and Robert Wolgemuth talk about the end. Robert has written a lot of books, he is also a publisher and business man. He shares that we need to have four pallbearers planned, perhaps not who you think. Robert guides us through things to consider in loving consideration of those we care about in our lives.Book:
The Finish Line: Dispelling Fear, Finding Peace, and Preparing for the End of Your Life, by...
2025-07-2333 minPirate Monk Podcast471 | Jason Mellard | SSAquiz.com
On this episode: Aaron learns where to stick the dynamite on his Prius road trip. Nate takes off the facade.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to our guest, Jason Mellard. Jason is a Texas transplant via South Carolina and Japan. He talks about growing up with sexual and physical abuse from a pastor father. Jason talks about how his father delivered a message that let him know he was not important. He shares his thoughts and understanding of USSA and defines what it means to him. Jason talks about his own struggles with shame, confusion, how he felt his...
2025-07-1749 minPirate Monk Podcast470 | 21 Guys Meet in Canada and Talk Around a FireOn this episode: Aaron talks about the “sugar cup”. Nate knows a Florida hockey team. This week, our 19 guests are the Canadian Samson Summit attendees, live on the podcast. The importance of “i, me, and my” statements. Questions about supporting women’s addiction, because it’s not just a male problem. Discussing hockey talk, soccer, er, um, football. Supporting individuals “doing it all right” even when marriages fail. How the failed products of purity culture can support healthy talk in younger generations. Gods limitless power to redeem anything. Dave’s back, asking about Silas safety. The importance of turning cameras on in online...
2025-07-1044 minPirate Monk Podcast469 | Troy Haas | Onsite recovery program from sex, drugs, and rock and roll.
On this episode: Nate flies solo and goes to conferences. Aaron visits guys.This week, Nate interviews Troy Haas. Troy is CEO of a less expensive and longer term onsite recovery program from sex, drugs, and rock and roll. Troy talks about hiding his sexual acting out for seven years while on the mission field in Africa. He shares how he was removed from the mission field and sent for recovery and healing in California, where he learned grace and love. He and others started a residential treatment center in Woodstock, GA called Hope Quest.Links:
Hope QuestSept. 12-14, 2025...
2025-07-0354 minPirate Monk Podcast468 | Connecting to People in Pain with Chris Chandler
On this episode: Nate talks about things he sees. Aaron pops over to the waterpark.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Chris Chandler. Chris is a Christian therapist in San Diego who brings surfer Jesus to his clients. He shares his story of getting expelled from school, DUI’s, and one-night-stands that led to his deconstruction of faith and eventual healing. Chris hosts male and female therapy groups online and is licensed in 22 states. Chris uses an approach of behavioral and emotional work to help his clients grow and overcome. He talks about how trauma is like the growth rings on...
2025-06-2548 minPirate Monk Podcast467 | Gail Stucker | Overcoming Purity Culture Shame
On this episode: Nate Luau’s at Presbyterian Church. Aaron withholds his “arr,” he wants it so bean something. This week, Nate and Aaron interview Gail Stucker. Gail is an Allender Center trained story work coach working with individuals, couples, and groups. She shares her story of finding Jesus in para-church ministries. Gail shares her experiences of “purity culture” not being fireworks, relationship bliss, and all the promises from Ephesians. Discussing that if men don’t feel desired, they would rather be mowing the lawn. Gail talks about how her heart changed towards herself and others after seeing others and being seen i...
2025-06-1953 minPirate Monk Podcast466 | Molly LaCroix | I.F.S. Internal Family Systems
On this episode: A new Samson website updates and an opportunity for IT volunteers. Nate takes his ear muffs off. Aaron shares what makes Jesus like you more. This week, Nate and Aaron interview Molly LaCroix. Molly is a therapist and author from Bend, Oregon. She helps Nate, and Aaron apply the principles of I.F.S (internal family systems) to the lives of Samson and David (from the Bible). Discussion includes the potential that both Samson and David were sex addicts with details that aren’t frequently considered. Molly explores that emotions are as physically rooted as a broken le...
2025-06-1257 minPirate Monk Podcast465 | Ian Cron | Light Hearted Approach to Recovery
On this episode: Nate gets cheap airline tickets. Aaron navigates and revisits what it’s like to be under pressure. This week, Nate and Aaron interview Ian Cron. Ian has a new book out called: The Fix, looking at the light hearted transformation that the 12-steps have. Ian shares how he unconsciously audited the 12-steps in 1987. He shares how his spiritual misadventures were an invitation from God for deeper intimacy. The suggestion that a setback is a better name than relapse. Ian also shares his thoughts on why the church is not like the rooms of recovery. If that’s not...
2025-06-0548 minPirate Monk Podcast464 | Dr. Eddie Capparucci | Help for the Betrayed
On this episode: Nate reads and Aaron asks questions. This week, Nate and Aaron interview returning guest Dr Eddie Capparucci. Eddie has authored a new book to help betrayed partners who feel stuck and like they aren’t finding freedom. He reminds us that we can’t go deep without help from others. Eddie gives hope that we don’t have to have future relationships that are repeats from our past wounded relationships. He shares ten roles of inner children and how addressing them heals past wounds. He also discusses that trauma didn’t start at betrayal, and how we may be s...
2025-05-2947 minPirate Monk Podcast463 | Alec Gibson | Ongoing recovery
Title: Ongoing Recovery w/ Alec Gibson On this episode: Aaron is thinking and collects quote books. Nate discusses the roles of dads and friends.This week, Nate and Aaron interview fellow Pirate Monk, Alec Gibson. Alec shares his story of how he was cured in 4-6 months, just like everyone else. He talks about the importance of ongoing recovery, continuing to attend summits and intensives multiple times. Also, how healing happens when giving back to others in service. Alec shares his story of abandonment, caring for a special needs sibling, guilt, shame, sexting, affairs, lying, drinking, attempted suicide, and being...
2025-05-2246 minPirate Monk Podcast462 | Michael John Cusick | A new book, Sacred Attachment.
On this episode: Nate met God in bigger, better, closer ways in 12-step. Aaron chose the correct 1 of 33,000 options.This week, Nate and Aaron interview returning guest Michael John Cusick. Michael is back with a new book, Sacred Attachment. In his new book he discusses attachment styles, spiritual exhaustion, and how to understand and continue on the journey of transforming, growth, and changing. He also talks through the role of care givers when we were growing up, and how they help us develop the 4s’s. John even helps us understand why people without traumatic childhoods end up in addiction an...
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The Covenant Eyes Podcast🔥 From Shame to Freedom: Nate Larkin’s Journey Out of S*x AddictionIn this powerful episode of the Covenant Eyes Podcast, hosts Karen Potter and Sam Black sit down with Nate Larkin—founder of the Samson Society and author of Samson and the Pirate Monks. Nate shares his raw, redemptive journey from secret struggles with porn and sex addiction to freedom, healing, and authentic brotherhood.Discover how early exposure, emotional pain, and ministry stress fueled Nate’s addiction, and how community, honesty, and spiritual growth led him to lasting transformation. Learn how the Samson Society creates spaces for real connection and why it’s never too late to see...
2025-05-1441 minPirate Monk Podcast461 | Lorne Williams | Friday Morning Studs
On this episode: Aaron moves to the dam lake. Nate recommends bbq. Also this week, Nate and Aaron talk to Lorne Williams. Lorne is a middle child who lives in the bigger city of Appleton, WS. He hosts the Friday Morning Studs Samson Society meeting. He shares how his epileptic mom died when he was a kid, his dad was an alcoholic, and his sibling who had developmental disabilities, led to where he is today. His escape to comic books were a gateway to when he found his dad’s soft-core porn stash which later led to deeper acting out. Lo...
2025-05-0841 minPirate Monk Podcast460 | Meredith Phipps | Healing Trauma with Yoga
On this episode: Aaron talks about his socks. Erin explains that rubber wears. Nate hasn’t returned from the bathroom.This week, Nate, Aaron, and Erin talk to Meredith Phipps. Meredith is a trauma informed certified yoga instructor. She shares her journey of how she numbed the pain with infidelity as she discovered self-care and healing in exercise and yoga. Investigating that the pose you don’t want to do, maybe the pose you need to do. Similarly, the anger, pain, fear you want to avoid, is likely the place you need to go for healing. Discussing how experiencing God is s...
2025-04-301h 00Pirate Monk Podcast459 | Storm Myer | "Looking for Comfort in What You Know”
On this episode: Aaron and Nate return from Florida separately. Aaron asks if girls or guys are better.Also, Updates on the walking retreat for 2025 as well as many other retreats. Sign-up now!This week, Nate and Aaron have a discussion with our very own pirate monk: Storm Myers. Storm isn’t an author or pedaling his wares. He’s a guy with a story inviting others to join with him to share their stories too. Storm discusses his journey of affairs, drugs, over working, seeking relationships to avoid his feelings, and many other topics. Listen along!May 4-7, 2025 Sarah Soci...
2025-04-241h 07Pirate Monk Podcast458 | Mike Novotny | Confess First, for Safety
On this episode: Aaron is in Texas or Mississippi, maybe, networking. Nate is solo and talks about “the great unplugging”. This week, Nate interviews Mike Novotny. Mike is an author, pastor, husband, and father. Mike serves from Appleton, WI, one of the top ten drunkest towns in the United States, where he is known for having sermon series’s that discuss the difficult things. Topics include, but are not limited to porn and its damages, transgender, confession, and masturbation. Mike talks about how Prodigals and Pharisees see the 10 commands differently. He also shares that the best way to move honesty from t...
2025-04-1751 minPirate Monk Podcast457 | Ryan George | Healing From Abuse
On this episode: Nate provides tough support to extended family. Aaron asks how Jesus would show up. They also discuss an adventure Samson weekend and want your feedback.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to adrenaline junkie Ryan George. Ryan is the oldest of six siblings, a preacher's kid, a home school kid, traveler, wing walker, author, speaker, husband, and father, and is experienced in "cloisteration". He shares how his search for Jesus has taken him to over 30 countries. The guys discuss Ryan’s experiences of emotional, physical, sexual and spiritual abuse in the church, and how it lead him on...
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Who Gave Jeff Allen A Podcast?From Shame to Freedom: Nate Larkin’s Redemption StorySend us a textWhat happens when a preacher’s kid with a secret becomes a voice for thousands of men seeking freedom from addiction and shame?In this episode of Who Gave Jeff Allen a Podcast?, Jeff and Carollynn sit down with Nate Larkin — speaker, author, and founder of the Samson Society. Nate shares the raw, redemptive, and even humorous story of how his double life as a pastor and sex addict came crashing down… and how that wreckage became the foundation of a worldwide brotherhood.You’ll hear about:✅The turnin...
2025-04-071h 14Pirate Monk Podcast456 | Charlie Peacock | There is No Such Thing as a Solo Artist
On this episode: Aaron sees two sets of footprints in the sand and has weird thoughts about transitions. Nate thinks about going back in time.This week, Nate and Aaron talk to Charlie Peacock. Charlie was married at eighteen, has been a performing musician since 14, is an author, song writer, producer, and has played most types of music. Charlie talks about his northern California music influences that led him from blues, raw country, funk, soul, rhythm and blues, and many other genres. He shares his story of generational trauma filled with anger. He also shares how he has wrestled with...
2025-04-031h 03Pirate Monk Podcast455 | Joel Burns | Question Everything with Joel Burns
On this episode: Aaron is missing someone to feed him grapes. Nate is home in Mount pleasant.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Joel Burns. Joel is a blogger and musician who is not a minister or college educated. He writes about and questions the journey of Christian manhood. Joel is a self professed skeptic and critic who helps ask why and leads others to question “church culture” and compare it to what the Bible actually says. Joel talks about lots of “myths” in the church that are dispensed as biblical or from God and are simply best wishes or preferen...
2025-03-2044 minPirate Monk Podcast454 | Carl Lehenbauer | The Song of Songs with Carl LehenbauerOn this episode: Aaron is late and compromised, and Nate forgot. They discuss crisis management and cold fish.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Carl Lehenbauer. Carl is an author and pastor in Wisconsin. He shares that churches are often prudish and avoid the book of the Song of Songs, so he studied and wrote about it. Carl guides us on the model we should use in pursuing one another in a relationship. The book teaches that we should eat, drink, and be drunk with the wife of your youth. He talks about having sex with God in the...
2025-03-1053 minPirate Monk Podcast453 | David Kerwin | Addiction Fueled by Underlying Trauma w/David Kerwin
On this episode: Nate is disjointed for southern migration. Aaron loves appetizers and dips. Both discuss limiting outrage porn and news.
This week, Nate and Aaron interview David Kerwin. David is a registered nurse who became a certified health addiction counselor and uses internal family systems in his practice. He shares his background of multigenerational addiction, depression, and suicidality. His personal experiences include alcoholism from childhood and being caretaker for his dad, and father to his little brother. He shares a phenomena of being sober from alcohol for 10 years before remembering sexual abuse. David defines and helps understand...
2025-02-2759 minPirate Monk Podcast452 | Ron Williams & Rob Schettler | Iron Sharpening Iron
Nate enjoys a closed road. Aaron likes snow days and rocks his underwear. This week, Nate and Aaron interview returning guest Ron Williams and first timer Rob Schettler. Ron refreshes us on his story of over 20 years as a minister, prison time, and becoming an addiction recovery coach. He shared in more detail on episode 372. Rob shares about his journey as a Chaplain in pastoral care. They discuss how they assist others in healing from early childhood abuse through shepherding and story work. Ron reveals the science behind increased addiction and higher divorce rates for those who have experienced abuse...
2025-02-2047 minPirate Monk Podcast451 | Dr Jim Wilder | Neuro-Theology
On this fresh and Crunchy episode, Aaron likes soggy cereal. Nate gives instruction on the right way to approach cereal.This week, Nate and Aaron interview Dr Jim Wilder. Dr Wilder prefers to be called Jim. Jim is a neuro-theologian. Jim has studied the science of character change and given us the findings in his book, Renovated. He helps understand why thinking differently won’t change us, but connection will. Some of the other topics include: sugar is a distraction from the relational circuit, malfunction may be modern language for sin, joy is relational, and teens showing Alzheimer like symptoms fro...
2025-02-0659 minPirate Monk Podcast450 | Art Blanchford | Transformation
Title: Transformation w/ Art Blanchford
Aaron talks about the awkwardness of candy crushing your penis. Nate is Live. The guys discuss goals, resolutions, perfectionism, gamifying recovery, and increased success with community, support and feedback.This week, Nate interviews Art Blanchford. Art is a recovering workaholic, Tennessee local, and host of the Life in Transition Podcast. He is also a business consultant, coach, and leads midlife transformational retreats. They discuss the depth, growth, and development of Christian relationship in recovery. Also talking about the topic that service or ministry doesn’t have to be free, and the value of an investment. Art...
2025-01-3056 minPirate Monk Podcast449 | Juliane Taylor Shore | The Brain Wears History Colored Glasses The Brain Wears History Colored Glasses w/ Juliane Taylor Shore
Aaron recaps the 2024 Samson Summit. He shares his takeaways on vulnerability, storytelling and five senses activities. Then he has bad internet. Nate discusses the first ever Canadian retreat June 6-8, eh.
This week, Nate interviews Juliane Taylor Shore. Juliane is an author, speaker, teacher, therapist, and leads online and in-person intensives and workshops. She nerds out (in a good way) on neuroscience as she shares ways with us on understanding and creating new internal practices for health and safety. Juliane shares a quote that the “bra...
2025-01-2447 minPirate Monk Podcast447 | Alexandra Repke | Father Forgive Them…On this episode: Nate and Aaron are live and in color. Aaron says interesting things and swallows spit. Nate escapes the bitter cold of Tennessee, because he is old.
Exciting News: Pure Desire, 7-Pillars is moving from Portland to the Nashville area, and there will be an Austria Samson retreat in 2025!
Our Guest: Dr. Alexandra Repke has a background in criminology, correction, forensics, and personality disorders as they relate to addiction and recovery. She discusses her understanding of why psychology has yet to catch up with biblical truths. Alexandra also shares the four deep keys...
2025-01-0955 minPirate Monk Podcast445 | Tom Bellamy | LimerenceOn this episode: Nate and Aaron end 2024 with hope. Aaron feels it in his chest. Nate revisits old recovery. Nate predicts the best national retreat ever, and Aaron may hula.
Our Guest: Dr. Tom Bellamy is from the UK and an expert on the topic of limerence. He explains that limerence has properties similar to drugs and expires fairly quickly. He discusses the history and how to recognize the limerence type of love. Dr. Tom also gives help on how to end it, and even how to prevent it in the future.
Links:
Book: Smi...
2024-12-2655 minPirate Monk Podcast441 | Shane Ramer | Sober RecreationOn this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about healthy play. Nate shares what it's like to attend 3 intensives in 2 months. He shares the joy and relief in attending intensives instead of leading them.
Our Guest: Shane Ramer is an old school skater, recovery coach, and podcaster. They discuss recreation and fun in sobriety and fighting the boredom. Shane shares why community is important, even when we may have found it in the wrong places at times. How giving back and volunteering helps to heal and grow along the healing path. Also, when to surrender and ask for...
2024-11-2856 minPirate Monk Podcast439 | Vicky Easa | Time-Outs and ConnectionOn this episode: Nate and Aaron bring the podcast back. Aaron wears pants and a hat on Thursday. Nate is still swimming and reads Lonely All the Time. And Aaron goes to jail.
Our Guest: Vickey Easa is a therapist and podcaster in Boston Mass via SoCal. She discusses the cultural challenges of how sarcasm is avoiding vulnerability and also blocks intimacy. Understanding how males use insults to show love, especially in the show Friends. Vickey helps couples work through why we keep reacting and not connecting. Seeing each other’s pasts and stories, and how it ha...
2024-11-1458 minPirate Monk Podcast427 | Five Guys Talk about Andrew BaumanOn this episode: Nate and Aaron made it back from England. Aaron gets up at 2am.
Our Guest: Aaron and Nate have a discussion with Justin, Jason, and Mark. Nate is anxious about going to a group intensive lead by Andrew Bauman and wants the guys to give him the lowdown. Justin, Jason, and Mark share what they experienced as they recently went through the retreat together. They share how recovery is more than an intellectual fix or sobriety. The group discusses why it's important to have multiple avenues in the process of recovery. How recovery is...
2024-08-2258 minPirate Monk Podcast400 | Andrew Bauman | Deep Work with Nate and AaronOn this episode: Aaron and Nate each allow Dr. Andrew J. Bauman to lead them in some therapy work. This episode is subdivided into two parts: first with Aaron and then with Nate, where Dr. Bauman walks them through exercises to connect their mind, feelings, body, and spirit for healing. Andrew will be the lead speaker at the 2024 Samson Summit, sharing how we can be closer to God through engaging our secrets and shame.
Links:
Andrew J. Bauman
Events:
2024 Samson Summit
Sponsor:
Life Works Counseling
If you have thou...
2024-05-021h 05Pirate Monk Podcast416 | Layton and Chelsea Boeve | Couples on a Journey, Healing TogetherOn this episode: Nate and Aaron debate one day for p@rn. Nate updates us on his speaking engagements.
Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guests, Chelsea and Layton Boeve. Chelsea and Layton host the Liberator podcast. The Michiganders share their journey that brought them to their passion for strong and healthy relationships. Layton grew up without TV and became a voracious reader which started his journey into fantasy and later porn. Chelsea brings us to an understanding of how trust is broken with image consumption. The couple shares how healing in a relationship happens as...
2024-04-1854 minPirate Monk Podcast415 | Joshua and Charlene Lewis | Support in RecoveryOn this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss 13 foot, 5 inch Oscar. Nate builds a screened-in treehouse.
Our Guest: Natives of Miami, Josh and Charlene share their real-life experiences with alcoholism and substance abuse. Josh also talks about sex and work addiction and trading one addiction for another as part of his recovery in 12-step. Charlene’s journey in recovery includes becoming a certified addiction professional and an IITAP certified sex addiction therapist (CSAT). Josh’s journey includes becoming a sponsor and recovery coach. Together they have created an online intensive program for outpatient recovery trea...
2024-04-111h 06Pirate Monk Podcast412 | Roy Smith | The Human ConditionOn this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss how macho and competitive Valentines Day can be.
Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, Dr. Roy Smith. Roy is a speaker, psychologist and author. He discusses his books, Inside Fatherhood for men, and The Campfire Gang Series for youth. Roy shares how his difficult and traumatic growing up years shaped his path to becoming a psychologist. A discussion around thanking your abuser. The balance of work and family. And a shift from saving others to serving other.
Links:
Live Up Resources
Servant Oasis
Event...
2024-03-2156 minPirate Monk Podcast411 | Tullian Tchividjian | Success is More Toxic than FailureOn this episode: Nate is rucking things up. Aaron doesn’t understand why the rucking ruckers would ruck their @sses off.
Our Guest: Nate and Aaron welcome back Tullian Tchividjian to the podcast for the third time. Tullian shares the value of crashing and burning in his just released book: Carnage and Grace. Topics include giving ourselves grace for not knowing what we don’t know and the human propensity to fück things up. The guys also discuss earning your Pharisee certificate. The importance of sitting with others in their pain and asking before giving advice rathe...
2024-03-141h 03Pirate Monk Podcast410 | David Murrow | Submission is ManlyOn this episode: We catch up on sports ball roulette with Nate and Aaron. Aaron reveals that he looks sh!t in spandex. Also, updates on the Harbor House are sailing in.
Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, David Murrow. David is a preacher, coach, speaker and author. On this episode, we discuss David’s book: Why Men Hate Going to Church and how to overcome this challenge. David guides us down a path of healing and growth using another book, The Map: The Way of All Great Men. Understanding that the journey of submission, stre...
2024-03-0753 minPirate Monk Podcast407 | Greg Oliver | Sober Is More Than BehaviorOn this episode: Nate and Aaron are back. Aaron drives 75 hours and has technology challenges. Nate and Aaron discuss anxiety and panic attacks.
Our Guest: Aaron interviews Greg Oliver after a 9-year break. Greg is executive director at Awaken, a 12-step recovery group in Birmingham Alabama. He shares his background and story of what brought him into his personal recovery and the need for recovery groups in his area. Greg and Aaron discuss disappointment in someone and disappointment for someone. We are encouraged to look into “what we really want” when we are seeking to escape, and will...
2024-02-151h 12Pirate Monk Podcast405 | Chuck Degroat | Understanding NarcissismOn this episode: Pablito and Rob bumper. Nate and Aaron may be striking or joining SAG. Pablito considers mug shots.
Our Guest: Nate and Aaron interview our guest, Chuck Degroat. His experience includes: Professor of pastoral care and Christian Spirituality and Executive Director of the Clinical Mental Health Counseling Program at Western Theological Seminary in Holland Michigan, author, pastor, therapist, spiritual director, husband, and father. Narcissism expert Chuck teaches us about the differences between narcissist behavior and narcissistic personality disorder. He explains the nine faces of narcissism. Understanding how narcissism can be a way of coping with...
2024-02-0159 minPirate Monk Podcast403 | Roy Wooten | Honesty, Healing, and Community in the PresentOn this episode: Nate goes to a s#xy place. Nate and Aaron talk about the purity culture, damaged goods and integrity in the journey.
Our Guest: Roy Wooten is the executive director of The Crucible Project, pastor, minister, coach, and counselor. He shares how his adolescence and family mental health challenges have shaped his desire to help others in his career and ministry. Roy discusses athletics and his connection to the movie “Friday Night Lights.” His journey of wholeness and healing with the Crucible Project Christians retreat and how he leads and serves other men on thei...
2024-01-1851 minPirate Monk Podcast380 | Nate Geyer | When Being a Good Boy Doesn’t WorkOn this episode: Aaron and guest-host/guest Nate Geyer discuss everything from Birkenstocks to stocks.
Our Guest: Nate Geyer works for Begin Again Institute as an LPC and CSATC. He comes from a background of education as well as lots of personal experience. Nate shares his journey of therapy and story work to find healing and recovery. He discusses how he started at four years old and felt like just scenery in his own house. Sharing feelings of guilt while having done nothing wrong. Also sharing his successes as he finds healing in connection and intimacy.
2023-08-171h 06Pirate Monk Podcast359 | Brody Holloway | Shared Experiences Strengthen RelationshipsOn this episode: Aaron is getting his home repaired.
Nate holds Aaron accountable for going to England on The Path Retreat.
Nate invites you to go on the Path Retreat too (deadline for signup Mar 31, 2023).
Our Guest: Brody Holloway, co-founder and lead pastor of Snowbird Wilderness Outfitters in Andrews, NC. Adrenaline and fear break down walls. Shared experiences are critical for leading and investing in others. Sin management versus holiness. To live in Jesus is to live in the purity effect.
Links: Snowbird Outfitters
Book: Life Together by: Dietrich Bonhoeffer...
2023-03-2358 minPirate Monk Podcast354 | Jean Masukevich | Guided MeditationOn this episode:
Our THREE hosts: Erin, Nate, and Aaron.
Erin takes a break from a road trip.
Nate has a prophecy.
Aaron gets butt dials.
Our guest: Jean Masukevich, mom, yogi, spiritual director, trauma informed.
Topics: Enjoy a guided relaxation exercise and meditation. Learning to connect the body to the mind. Listening to your body and responding with love.
“What are you running from, and what are you running toward?”
Links:
Sow That, email
If you have though...
2023-02-161h 06Pirate Monk Podcast346 | Andrew Bauman | Becoming a Kung-Fu MasterOn this episode:
Aaron interrogates Nate.
Nate sings a very heartfelt song.
The guys talk to guest Andrew Bauman, speaker, therapist, writer, and author.
“The owning of your *ssholeness doesn’t lead to toxic shame. It leads to humility not humiliation.”
How to define narcissism. Addressing couples work AFTER a lengthy period of sobriety.
Andrew J. Bauman
Book: How Not to Be an *ss: Essays on Becoming a Good & Safe Man
Film: A Brave Lament
Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma
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2022-12-1752 minPirate Monk Podcast344 | Chris Bruno | Becoming the SageOn this episode:
Aaron caps that.
Nate shops Amazon.
The guys interview Chris Bruno, counselor and author of Sage: A Man's Guide into His Second Passage and Man Maker Project: Boys are Born. Men are Made. Nate shares his experiences from the Italian Samson retreat.
“The task of the second passage, is to find the boy within the man, and bring him home.”
“When we are hijacked in this phallic state, we are not looking for sex, we are looking for connection.”
“The more we dissociate, the more it’s a f...
2022-11-271h 09Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 332 * The Prisonhouse of Shame w/ Scotty Smith"I don't know of a more discombobulating, imprisoning power on the earth than shame. To me, shame is personalized demonization."
"Here's the good news: When you really get the proper diagnosis, Grace becomes all the sweeter. You're never going to shock the Father. You may know 4% of your sin - He's taken on the other 96% as well."
We've got another Pirate Monk roundtable with Nate, Chris, Rob and Justin on the topic of emotional triggers, followed by an interview with a man who played a key role in the founding of the Samson Society...
2022-07-1852 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 331 * Healing Our Language w/ Jason GrayWe start the episode with a Pirate Monk roundtable with Nate, Chris, Rob and Justin going deep quickly using a couple of probing questions.
Then Nate interviews singer/songwriter Jason Gray about his story of vulnerability through his speech handicap, divorce, and the importance of our language. Stay tuned at the end as Jason shares a couple of challenging songs with us. Jason joined us in person at the Annual Retreat in Eva TN in November 2022. You can share in that experience by attending the Virtual Samson Retreat.
To sign up for the Virtual Samson Ret...
2022-07-081h 11Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 321 * Encountering the Person of God w/ Dudley Hall"I love you right where you are...and I don't expect anything. I love you, and I won't quit."
"You'll know you've heard the Gospel if one of your first responses is: 'That's too good to be true and I can't believe it yet.'" - Dudley Hall
"It was easier for me to believe it for my son than to believe it for myself." - Nate Larkin
"If...I open the Bible and find condemnation, then I'm still filtering Scripture through the branches of the bush I'm hiding behind in Eden, avoiding...
2022-03-1153 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 320 * Living a Confessional Life w/ Timo Strawbridge"My story isn't my story without the brokenness of who I am."
"It is only in their knowledge of the depth of my need of Jesus that gives them the confidence that I could be a help to them in describing a Jesus that could save them." - Timo Strawbridge
In Episode 315, Nate spoke about a man that he had yet to meet - Timo Strawbridge. If you haven't listened to that episode yet, you might want to give it a listen first. In this episode, Nate and Aaron finally get to connect with Timo an...
2022-03-0150 minPirate Monk PodcastEvent Announcement - Sat Feb 26 - Augusta GANate will be speaking at First Presbyterian in Augusta GA this Saturday. You can hear Nate and enjoy a Wild Game Dinner for the low, low price of $7.50. Register at the following link.
Register Here
2022-02-2301 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 315 * Don‘t Decide to Become a Better Person w/ Nate LarkinToday, we share Nate's closing chapel message from the 2021 National Samson Retreat. This is a challenging must-hear for everyone in recovery.
If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.
2021-12-0447 min
Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 308 * Support for Spouses w/ Lyschel Burket and the Sarah Society"He was never put on this earth to heal me -- the only one who was put on this earth to heal me is Jesus."
Nate speaks with Lyschel Burket of hoperedefined.org., a ministry supporting women impacted by sexual betrayal through coaching, groups, intensive retreats and safe online community. Her contact email is support@hoperedefined.org.
Then, a group of ladies from the Sarah Society join Nate to discuss what they gleaned from the interview. We hear from Erin, Heather, Brandy, Linda and Julie. For more information about the Sarah Society, please visit sarahsociety.com...
2021-08-111h 15Pirate Monk PodcastEPISODE 300 CELEBRATION!!! Listener Questions for Nate & Aaron w/Tom Ryan
To celebrate 300 episodes, we get to know Nate and Aaron a little bit better. The host for this special episode is our good friend, Tom Ryan (known to some of you as T. C. Ryan) author of Ashamed No More: A Pastor's Journey Through Sex Addiction.
Tom has just released two free recovery resource packages on his website: livingintegrated.org. Both packages have pdf content and homework with a companion video.
The first package, "Four Tasks for Getting Your Life Back", is for folks who are beginning to realize they may have a problem with sex or porn and don't know w...
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Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 298 * Loving Someone with Mental Health Issues w/ Steve ZehrNate gives Aaron a PSA about severe weather before they are joined by Nate's long-time friend, Steve Zehr, who shares how he was shaped by his 35-year marriage to Susan, who struggled with mental illness. Steve's book is titled In Sickness and in Health and he can be reached at sd.zehr@gmail.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
2021-04-0257 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 297 * Rewiring the Brain w/ Dan LarkinNate has an inspiring conversation with his brother, Dan. After a series of strokes, Dan was left unable to speak and was told by doctors that he would never speak again. But Dan didn't accept that prognosis. Through hard work and sheer determination, he discovered his own path for healing, proving the incredible resilience of the human brain. The parallels with the recovery journey are evident.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
2021-03-261h 02Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 292 * The Brain Science of Self-Discipline w/ Drew DyckHave you ever made a promise to yourself to create a new habit but gave it up after only a few weeks? How are those new year's resolutions holding up after a month? Drew Dyck noticed this pattern in his own life and decided to do some study into both the scientific and biblical principles related to self-control. Nate and Aaron have a great discussion with Drew about partnering with God and your community even in the small areas of our life. You can find even more details in his book, Your Future Self Will Thank You. (drewdyck.com)
2021-02-0147 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 288 * A Pastor Talking Openly About Porn w/ Noah FilipiakNate interviews Noah Filipiak, author of Beyond the Battle. Noah is a pastor who talks openly about his struggle with porn, the journey from entitlement to contentment through recognizing the true needs beneath the behavior, and the real definition of love. Noah also facilitates Beyond the Battle online 7-week zoom groups which focus on your identity in Christ in an oversexualized world. For more information, visit beyondthebattle.net or noahfilipiak.com.
Nate and Aaron also discuss the importance of Gratitude for our overall physical and mental health.
The music on this podca...
2020-12-151h 01Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 287 * From Manipulation to Connection to Resurrection w/ Clinton and Charity MunozClinton and Charity Munoz of the Restored 2 More podcast share their winding path of addiction, discovery, missteps in finding help, and finally to the true redemptive help that they needed. They are now helping couples move from infidelity to intimacy. Learn more at restored2more.com.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society and also features the new song When You're Lying by Kristin Larkin. You can find her music at kristinlarkin.bandcamp.com.
For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.
2020-12-081h 04Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 286 * Addictions, Convictions, and Curiosity w/ Brian TholstrupIn this follow-up to episode 280, Nate and Aaron talk with Brian Tholstrup, a fellow pirate monk whose primary drug of choice was alcohol. The guys discuss how recovery is not "one-size-fits-all" and how each of us has to assess what is helpful in our own journey while avoiding the lure of the "easier, softer way".
Nate and Aaron also discuss how easy it is to get distracted by seemingly harmless pursuits, such as gaming.
The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.
For more inf...
2020-12-0149 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 280 * Brainwashing, the Good Kind (maybe)Nate and Aaron sit down to chat about a book that sent Nate on some interesting journeys and ongoing self-discovery, Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Drinking Alcohol. You might not get any answers, but we sure hope today's episode raises a couple of questions.
2020-09-2159 min
Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 276 * Michele and Tom WeaverNate and Aaron enjoy a great conversation with Michele and Tom Weaver as they explore their experience with "friends" who weren't helpful, betrayal, and hope. Don't miss this inspiring journey of hope and healing and coming to the table.
2020-08-0359 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 275 * Ray CannataEver wondered what creole cooking, Presbyterians, and Elvis have in common? Find out today as Nate and Aaron chat with Pastor Ray Cannata of Redeemer Presbyterian Church in New Orleans.
2020-07-211h 05Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 274 * Curt ThompsonToday Nate sits down with Dr. Curt Thompson, author of books such as The Anatomy of the Soul, and The Soul of Shame, and talks about the profound connection between our spiritual formation and amazing neurological creation. It's all tied together and the answer to every question you've ever had, including this week's winning lottery numbers, will be revealed on today's episode of, the Pirate Monk Podcast.
To check out what Curt is up to or to learn more about his practice, head on over to...
https://curtthompsonmd.com/
2020-05-211h 03Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 273 * Michael CardToday Nate and Aaron sit down and chat with author, musician, theologian, Michael Card as he discusses his new book, Inexpressible: Hesed and the Mystery of God's Lovingkindness. Nate and Aaron also discuss how you can serve other men as a temporary Silas as they plug into the online Samson community. To get more information on that process, head over to...
https://samsonsociety.com/what-is-a-silas/
and click "Register as an available temporary Silas."
2020-04-301h 05Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 270 * Christine DenteFeeling fear during this strange time? Checking the news for reassurance and only experiencing further fear? Today Nate and Arron sit down with Christine Dente to try to unpack some solutions to engage information with better choices and more wisdom. Check out Christine's website Finding Life in the Bigger Story at https://christinedenteoutofthegrey.com
Some of the proposed ideas to consider were:
1. Consider the message: does the headline incite fear? Does the information smell like clickbait?
2. Consider the purpose: Is it grim entertainment? Grisly voyeurism? Why is it written and why do you want to read it?
3. Con...
2020-04-011h 02Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 267 * Steve Taylor & Scott DenteOn today's episode of the Pirate Monk Podcast, Nate and Aaron recruit OG Pirate Scott Dente to have a scintillating conversation with Christian Music Pioneer, Steve Taylor. This one will make you think. We'd love to hear your feedback on the episode, as well as your vote on the dance-off question found at the end of the show. Write to us at, piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com
Here too are the lyrics that were discussed on the show from Steve's song, I Want to be a Clone.
I'd gone through so much other stuff
that walking down the...
2020-03-051h 01Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 266 * Mo LeverettToday Nate and Aaron get to have a chat with long-time buddy Mo Leverett as he talks about life post-Hurricane Katrina, his passion for a fine cigar, and his upcoming album Autumn Years. Plus...just for you the faithful listeners, you'll get a sneak peek at two songs that will be on his new project. It's all here, it's all now, only on the Pirate Monk Podcast.
2020-02-251h 04Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 265 * Eddie CapparucciOn this episode, Nate and Aaron chat with Eddie Capparucci about how our past experiences shape our coping mechanisms and how to find hope and freedom through asking the "why" instead of just the "what." All that and more, today on the Pirate Monk Podcast.
To check out what Eddie and his wife are up to, head on over to...
https://abundantlifecounselingga.com/
2020-02-181h 05Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 264 * Vern TompkeToday Nate has a chat with Pastor Vern Tompke about the dangers of isolation in the ministry and how true vulnerable community can serve both the pastors and the congregation. Everyone is included in this conversation on the Pirate Monk Podcast. If you want to check out Vern's podcast, Pastors on Porn, head on over to:
https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/pastors-on-porn-vern-tompke-AuMWGqJ_x1I/
2020-02-171h 10Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 263 * Jason MartinkusEmpathy. Who gives a crap... Today Nate has a conversation with Jason Martinkus about why we should, and how we can up our empathy IQs in our marriage. Jason is also teaching an online master class if you want to jump in the deep end of this topic and learn some vital skills. If you want to check it out take a mouse journey and click on -
www.redemptiveliving.com/empathy
2020-01-071h 00Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 262 * Christmas ConversationToday Nate and Aaron prepare for the holidays, talk about exponential relational growth when trust is demanded, and explore the idea of expectations.
2020-01-0241 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 261 * Jeff and Beth McCordToday Nate talks about what being present means and Aaron sits down to have a chat with Jeff and Beth McCord, authors of Becoming Us. Ever thought your spouse made no sense at all? There's probably a reason, and Jeff and Beth are going to give you some options today. To check out more of their ministry and resources, head on over to:
https://www.yourenneagramcoach.com/
2019-12-251h 08Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 260 * Samuel Maurice PorterToday, Nate and Aaron hang out, answer a listener question with the help of Christine Leahy, and then chat with Aaron's son Samuel about what it was like to be on the kid side of the equation, growing up and navigating a world saturated with sex.
To check out the Braveful Summit Christine was talking about, head over to:
https://www.bravefulsummit.com/?ac=jl68jqHR
2019-12-0857 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 259 * Barbara Steffens, PhDEver heard of codependency? Today Dr. Barbara Stephes shed some new light on the subject as she explores the topic with Nate and Aaron. Also, Aaron apologizes to the city of Tustin. As a more specific aspect of his apology, here are some words from a fellow Pirate Monk on the Subject. And thanks to Josh Manifold for picking some of the tunes the today's broadcast.
"On the Nov 8 edition of the PM podcast, you made some pretty strong statements about the beautiful town of Tustin, CA (as it relates to the planned SoCal Winter 2020 mini-retreat).
I quote you...
2019-11-271h 03Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 258 * Ben SweeneyToday Nate and Aaron get Mondo back in the room, have a mini-meeting, and talk to Mondo's friend Ben about his journey into addiction and the path he found back to freedom.
2019-11-181h 01Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 257 * Integrating the GospelToday Nate and Aaron are taking a slice of the weekend from Eva Tennessee to explore how we can integrate the Gospel into our lives and recovery, specifically and powerfully. Nate opens up a vulnerable door so that the men can journey with him towards the love of his Abba. All that is happening today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast.
2019-11-0855 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 256 * Nick StumboToday Nate & Aaron chat with Nick Stumbo of Pure Desire ministries about Nick's story and how to understand the difference between arrival mentality and journey mentality in recovery, as we search for deeper maturity and more honest...honesty.
Check out the happenings at Pure Desire Ministries by clicking:
https://puredesire.org/
2019-10-2956 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 255 * Matt DobschuetzPull up a chair, start up your lawnmower, or rev up your engine and take a ride with Nate and Aaron as they have a chat with Matt Dobber Dobschuetz, host of Porn Free Radio, on this episode of the Pirate Monk Podcast.
Check out more of what Matt is up to by clicking on:
https://recoveredman.com/
Music on Today's Podcast: Randy Dandy-O; Radio Nowhere (Bruce Springsteen); White City (Pogues); When I'm Gone (Anna Kendrick)
2019-10-231h 07Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 254 * The Spectrum of TraumaToday Nate and Aaron talk virtual meetings and follow up on some listener responses to last week's episode. You get that and a MINI MEETING, and it all happens today, on the Pirate Monk Podcast.
Today's Music:
Dive - Steven Curtis Chapman; Another Day - Steven Delopoulos; Said the Son to the Shine - Earth Suit; Blue Train - John Coltrane
2019-10-1556 minPirate Monk PodcastEpisode 253 * Kaka RayToday, Nate and Aaron sit down with trauma specialist Kaka Ray to learn about how trauma affects addiction and what we can do about it. Kaka will be a workshop teacher at the upcoming retreat. To learn more about what she's up to, check out,
http://www.kakaray.com/
2019-10-071h 00Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 249 * Pure Hope and Noel Bouche (with an accent over the "e")This week Nate and Aaron discuss a blog about Game of Thrones, and read a question from a listener that needs your input. After that, Nate chats with Noel Bouche of Pure Hope. To find out more about Pure Hope or to check out Noel's podcast, head on over to:
https://purehope.net/
2019-07-291h 11Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 235 * ReconnectingAaron and Nate reconnect after Aaron's big move across the country to Nate's neck of the woods, and Nate leads a mini-meeting with Pirates around the world.
2019-02-111h 03Pirate Monk PodcastEpisode 232 * Russ TaffToday Nate & Aaron answer some mail and then run a conversation Nate and David Hampton had with CCM artist Russ Taff on his journey out of addiction and into forgiveness and healing.
2018-10-261h 44
Walking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 1 • Let’s Go for a WalkIn this opening episode, Nate reveals the metaphor the Bible uses more than any other to describe the spiritual life -- walking -- and explores its implications for the Christian addict in recovery.
2017-11-0800 minWalking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 2 • The River of DenialIn this session, Nate talks about our natural tendency to ignore unpleasant realities that threaten our self-esteem or sense of security.
2017-11-0800 minWalking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 3 • The Beauty of PowerlessnessIn this lesson, Nate talks about the state we all share and most of us try to deny — powerlessness.
2017-11-0800 minWalking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 4 • A Power Greater Than OurselvesNate talks about the first of the "God steps" in 12-step recovery: Step Two.
2017-11-0800 minWalking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 5 • Progress, Not PerfectionNate discusses the nuts and bolts of self-care during early recovery.
2017-11-0800 minWalking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 6 • Sweet SurrenderNate talks about Step Three -- turning our will and our life over to the care of God as we understand Him.
2017-11-0700 minWalking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 7 • The Resentment TrapNate begins our exploration of Step Four by discussing the Number One Offender among addicts -- resentment.
2017-11-0700 minWalking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 8 • A Hundred Forms of FearContinuing our exploration of Step Four, Nate discusses the emotion that often drives our self-destructive behavior -- Fear.
2017-11-0700 minWalking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 10 • The Problem of LustWhat is the root of lust? Is it a sexual thing, or something else? In this episode, Nate delves into the deeper workings of this hard-to-talk-about topic.
2017-11-0700 minWalking Lessons for Christians Who Sometimes Fall DownEpisode 12 • Codependency Part Two — RoleplayingIn this episode, Nate talks about the roles that addicts and those who love them sometimes fall into.
2017-11-0700 min