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The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast312. Understanding Why Sexual Intimacy To Your Wife Is Not A "Need" ... And For Many Wives, Not Even A "Want" In Your MarriageSexual intimacy for most women is not a need but a want, and let's be honest, for many women, it's not even a want. Their bodies are typically wired completely differently than a man's body. They react to sexual intimacy completely differently than most men do. For most women, they are only going to want sex or be willing to have sex if their emotional needs are being met and when they feel trust and respect in the marriage.Join us for this great episode where Nick and Amy (mostly Amy) will share valuable insight as to...2024-11-0836 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast307. Really Fun Ways To Initiate Sexual Intimacy With Your Spouse According To Nick... What Does Amy Think?In this episode, we dive into playful and creative ways to initiate sexual intimacy with your spouse! Whether you're looking for fun ways to break the routine, build anticipation, or make the moment fun or special, we've got you covered. From lighthearted flirting to exciting surprises, we share practical ideas that will help you reconnect emotionally and sexually.Join us in this episode as Nick shares the fun things he has done (or attempted to do) as well as other ideas and gets Amy's reaction to them :) These fun ways to initiate are for both spouses to...2024-10-2246 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast294. Can Treating Sex Like A Hobby Vastly Improve Your Sex Life? Nick Thinks So.. But Does Amy?You hear us talk about sex ALL the time on the podcast and the things couples can do to have an amazing sex life. So many couples look at sex completely differently and have a hard time understanding the things they can do to have a better sex life.Nick recently heard a lady give a 6-minute talk on YouTube about how treating sex like a hobby can completely change your sex life with your spouse. So naturally, he sent it to Amy to get her thoughts, and her reaction wasn't what he expected... So we decided...2024-09-0643 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast276. Every High Libido Husband Needs To Know These Things About His Low Libido WifeThis is an episode that both the high desire and low desire spouse (every couple) is going to want to listen to. As many of you know, Nick is a high desire spouse, and Amy is a low desire spouse, yet they have a great sex life. In this episode Nick puts Amy on the spot and she answers all the important questions about how she (as a lower desire spouse) makes sexual intimacy a priority, and she also shares the things high desire husbands need to know about their low desire wife.If you...2024-07-0529 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast161. 10 Ways To Make Your Wife Feel Loved And SpecialHusbands, do you want to know the 10 ways to make your wife feel loved and appreciated? In this funny and light hearted episode Nick and Amy discuss the 10 ways to make your wife feel loved and Amy lets Nick know if he is even close or we have to re do this episode and list 10 other things.Find out what Amy thinks and if these 10 things can help make your wife feel loved and special.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to...2023-05-3026 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast152. Why It's So Important For The Lower Desire Spouse To Initiate Sex (Once In A While)... And 12 Fun Ways To Do So!So often in marriage it is the higher desire spouse that is ALWAYS initiating sex with the lower desire spouse. However, it is so important for the lower desire spouse to also initiate sex in the marriage to show their spouse how much they love and care about them.In this episode, Amy (and Nick) share 12 fun ways the lower desire spouse can initiate sex with the higher desires spouse. Nick shares the reasons sexual intimacy (and the lower desires spouse initiating) is so important. Nick and Amy also share the "connection challenge" instant download...2023-04-2831 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast150. Are Men And Women Really That Different When It Comes To Emotional And Sexual Intimacy?In this episode, Nick and Amy talk about the typical stereotypes of men and women when it comes to sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy differences. We know that not all couples fall into the typical stereotypes, but we feel that yes, we are created completely different, but at the same time we are so much more alike than we sometimes think we are.Both husbands and wives want to feel emotionally connected, spiritually connected, and sexually connected to each other, we are just different in the ways we feel and show that desire. Filling that ga...2023-04-2131 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast148. Does Respect Have To Be Earned In A Marriage? The Ways To Loose It And Gain ItThere have been many polls done on this subject and it is interesting that for most men, they value being respected more than they value being loved. This shows how important respect is in marriage and that marriages can't survive (or flourish) without it. However, there are often times in marriage where the respect fluctuates and can be lost, based upon certain things that happen. In this podcast episode, we discuss how important respect is in marriage (for both spouses), and the ways, and things couples do to loose respect. We also discuss t...2023-04-1432 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast140. The Way You Speak To Your Spouse (And Yourself) Can Have Severe ConsequencesIn a previous episode with Alex Boye, he talked about the power of our words and the impact it can have on not only to ourselves, but to our spouse (and others). There are villages in Africa that take this so seriously, they will kick you out of the village if you are too negative as they believe the words can poison the whole village. In this episode Nick and Amy tackle the hard topic of verbal abuse. When most people hear the word "abuse" they think of horrible things being said. But let's be honest, anything...2023-03-1739 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast139. Is Your Relationship Strong, Healthy And Stable? Here Are The SignsWe as couples are always comparing ourselves to other relationships, and it is normal to wonder where our relationship may stand in comparison to others. What things are we doing or what could we be doing to have a better marriage?There are several things that couples in stable and healthy relationships always do. In this episode Nick and Amy talk about the things couples that have stable and healthy relationships ALWAYS do. These 12 things when implemented will take your marriage to another level.This episode will help you know what things you might be...2023-03-1431 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast138. Sexpectations In Marriage.. And Why You Need To Talk About Them Together!Sexpectations are the expectations you both have about sex in your marriage. This includes frequency of sexual intimacy, who initiates, foreplay, toys, what is ok and not ok, scheduled or spontaneous.. you get the point.Discussing sexpectations together in your marriage is vital! How can you have better sexual intimacy (or anything else) if you don't talk about it? Sex plays such an important role in marriage and you both need to be on the same page when it comes to sex. The more you discuss and talk about things in the bedroom, the more comfortable you...2023-03-1048 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast137. The Best Sex Techniques To Increase HER Pleasure With Health And Sex Expert Cindy ScharkeyIn this episode, Nick and Amy talk with health and sex expert Cindy Scharkey about the best techniques and positions to increase her pleasure! Most women cannot have an orgasm from intercourse alone, but how many of us know that or even talk about that?No wonder it is so difficult for many women to have an orgasm, or to enjoy sexual intimacy. After listening to the episode, you will better understand how to increase her please and take your sexual intimacy to a new level. Also check out podcast episode 30 "It's All About The...2023-03-0723 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast136. Talking MENOPAUSE And Low Libido With Health And Sex Expert Cindy ScharkeyYou've spoken and we've listened. So many husbands and wives have expressed need during this stage of life... menopause. How it affects libido, and what you can do about it! In this episode Nick and Amy talk all about menopause with health care expert Cindy Scharkey. Cindy has over 35 years experience in the industry and answers many of the common questions.What is menopause? How does it impact sexual intimacy and libido? How long can menopause last?What can a husband do to support his spouse during this time?How do you keep sexu...2023-03-0342 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast135. What To Do When Your Love Languages Are Different.. And Knowing Each Others Love Language Isn't Working?We have talked about the love languages before, but it is such a big issue for couples that we felt like we needed to do another episode diving into the topic at a much deeper level, and providing step by step things that you can do. Many couples tell us that although they know each others love languages, there are still issues in their marriage over different love languages in the relationship. It is not enough to know each others love languages, but there are other things you need to do to and implement to fulfill each others needs...2023-02-2849 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast134. They Are Trying To Destroy Your Marriage... Don't Fall For The LiesWe live in a world where good is now considered evil and anyone with sanity is now considered crazy. The traditional values, responsibilities and roles of men and women that have been around for thousands of years are suddenly now being treated as abnormal, offensive and even appalling and people are being destroyed for talking about it, or standing up for it.Men are being degraded and portrayed as stupid, weak and useless in the movies, tv shows and social media. Men are the center of jokes about how they are just another child that their wife...2023-02-2423 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast133. All About Foreplay... Why It's So Important And The Best Tips To ImplementSociety is convincing women that if they are "not in the mood" for sex, and if they don't feel like making love that night, then they shouldn't have to even think about it! Both people should be in the mood in order to consider making love right? WRONG! What happened to foreplay? Society is convincing men that sex is now completely "off limits" unless his wife is already "in the mood" which seldom happens. Many husbands have expressed to us how fearful they are of even trying to initiate sex anymore, as they "only are aft...2023-02-2144 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast132. Our Key Takeaways And Thoughts From Episode 131 With Alex BoyeThere are few podcasts or movie episodes that the more you listen to, the better they get. However, that was the case for us with the Alex Boye podcast. We have both listened to it several times since it recorded and aired, and each time we do we gain more knowledge and wisdom of the things he shared in the podcast. These are valuable tools and lessons that he shared that can easily be implemented in your life and marriage and make you so much happier.In this episode Nick and Amy share what they learned from...2023-02-1735 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast131. Alex Boye (World Renowned Singer) Shares His Amazing Experience And How This One Thing Can Change Your LifeIn this episode, Nick and Amy talk with Alex Boye who is a world renowned singer and song writer. Alex shares so many amazing things in this podcast from his incredible experiences in life and humble beginnings, battling depression, overcoming adversities, and his secrets to finding happiness in life! You can hear the passion and the happiness he has through every minute of this podcast. Alex turned to music as a teenager because some of the life experiences he was going through and depression he was experiencing. He talks about how the words we use and the to...2023-02-1438 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast130. Husbands.. Are There Times When You Feel Like You Are Only Wanted For A Paycheck?We get so many messages from husbands that make comments like:"I feel like my wife just want's me for the paycheck"There are husbands that feel like their only purpose is to provide financial support.As we have talked many times before, a husband feels loved, needed and appreciated through physical affection and intimacy from his wife. Many husbands feel like they are in relationships where all their spouse wants is to be taken care of financially. They express that they feel lonely and unappreciated. **This goes...2023-02-1034 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast129. Pet Peeves To Positivity: Why Are Pet Peeves So Triggering And How To NOT Let Them Ruin Your Marriage!A pet peeve is a relatively minor annoyance that provokes a strong negative reaction in your spouse (or other person). We all have little things that we do that drive our spouses insane (and vice versa). Many of these things are so small and non existent to even the people around us, but to us, they drive us or our spouse crazy!Pet peeves are things like:A spouse checking their phone while you are trying to talk to themLeaving lights on around the houseChewing loudlyClothes on the floorAnd...the list goes o...2023-02-0750 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast128. What Do You Do When Your Spouse Won't Talk About Sex...Or Other Tough Topics?You hear us constantly talk about how almost everything can be resolved with communication, which is absolutely true. But what happens when you have a spouse that doesn’t want to communicate (or won't communicate) because they are afraid it will turn into a fight, or they don’t want to talk because it is uncomfortable?We hear from MANY couples that they try to communicate with their spouse, but their spouse doesn’t want to. They tell us that “my spouse just won’t listen to me" or my spouse says they don't want to talk about...2023-02-0321 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast127. Are Expectations In Marriage Good Or Bad? And Our Valentines Poll AnswersWe all go into marriage with expectations of what we think it should be like, and are often disappointed when things don't go as we expect. So, are expectations in marriage good or bad? Is it healthy to have expectations? In this episode Nick and Amy talk about expectations in marriage and share experiences in their relationship.Communication is key when it comes to holidays. Having some expectations can be healthy but it is important to always talk and express them to your spouse! We give some tips for communicating and working with expectations in marriage!2023-01-3133 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast126. Do You Feel Like Your Relationship Is Slipping Away? Here are 11 Things You Can Do To Get It BackMarriage is meant to be full of passion, excitement, connection and intimacy! But it is really quite scary how easy it is for relationships to slowly slip away if we are not doing everything we can to work on our relationships on a daily basis. Many couples find themselves growing apart and don't realize what is causing the disconnect, and end up just being two people living together.Marriage doesn't need to be this way, and it shouldn't! In this episode Nick and Amy share some of their experiences and the things they did to help their...2023-01-2730 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast125. Is This Silent Relationship Killer Hurting Your Marriage?Is pride hurting your marriage? Chances are, it is at some level. It has been said that pride is the silent killer of relationships!Pride is something we all deal with at some level and it can fluctuate in our lives depending on where we are at and what we are going through. There may be some times in our live when our pride is high, and other times when we are humble. However... when left unchecked pride can destroy good relationships.In this episode Nick and Amy identify how to know if pride is...2023-01-2445 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast124. Is There Such A Thing As Too Much Sexual Intimacy?We always talk about how important it is to have frequent sexual intimacy in marriage, and let's face it, most couples are probably not having as much sexual intimacy as they should. But have you ever thought about if there is such a thing as too much sex? As you know, every year or so we do a 7 day sex challenge where we challenge couples to have sexual intimacy for 7 days in a row, and then share their experiences. We call it a "challenge" because it is a challenge to have sexual intimacy for 7 days even when...2023-01-2038 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast123. For The Wives Who Just Aren't Interested In Sexual IntimacyOf course there are many good reasons why a wife may not enjoy or want to have sexual intimacy. Some of the reasons could include past trauma, relationship issues, conflict, depression or stress, or various other reasons. We understand these are real and need to be addressed.However, in this episode, we are talking about the wives who have good marriages... but just aren't interested in sex. We have heard many women make the statement that they would be totally fine with never having sex again! Or that they only do it for their husband...2023-01-1740 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast122. Common Relationship Issues In Marriage And How To Address ThemThere are so many things that can cause issues in a relationship and if not addressed, or handled properly, they can have devastating consequences on the relationship. In this episode Nick and Amy discuss the common relationship issues that couples deal with and how to address them before they become a huge issue in the relationship.Check out the Adventure and Intimacy Retreat April 14-16th in St George Utah! Learn how to communicate better, and have better sexual intimacy in your relationship HEREIf you haven't already, go check out...2023-01-1336 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast121. For The Women Who Have A Hard Time Having An Orgasm.. Try These 6 ThingsAbout 10% of all women have never had an orgasm. And more than 80% of women cannot have an orgasm from intercourse alone. Bottom line, it is hard for many women to orgasm.For women who have never experienced an orgasm, or have a hard time having one, sex can feel like a chore. It can be un-enjoyable and even something they distance themselves from. They may feel guilt, shame or as if something is wrong or broken with them which in turn makes things even more difficult and just creates more pressure and anxiety, and less interest in...2023-01-1039 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast120. Is Sex A Thermometer That Can Gauge The Temperature Of Your Marriage?Is sex really a good indicator of how good (or bad) your marriage is? In this episode Nick and Amy talk about this and also share the poll answers we received from our audience to find out how others view this as well. We believe sexual intimacy and overall satisfaction in marriage do go hand in hand. Couples that have good sexual intimacy where both spouses are satisfied, usually have good marriages. Couples that have infrequent sexual intimacy are much more likely to feel disconnected, and possibly end up in divorce.There is a reason...2023-01-0628 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast114. The Best Advice For Married Couples.. From Various Marriage ExpertsNick and Amy do alot of research and studying for their blog posts, podcasts and information for the app and come across a lot of very good information. They have put together some great marriage advice from various marriage therapists and experts on their top advice they have for married couples. In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss the top things that marriage experts have shared for couples to help their marriages, and share experiences they have had in their marriage as well. These things have helped them and they know they can help your marriage as...2022-12-1640 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast113. Our Raw Conversation On Why We Think This Stage Of Life And Marriage Is The HardestThe other night we were having a deep conversation that was sooo good. We were assessing our marriage and talking about how this time period in life can get boring and stagnate and feel like we do the same thing every day over and over again (like Groundhog Day). We were also discussing why we think this time frame in life is the hardest on marriages. After discussing these things, we wanted to see if our assessment was right and so we looked at stats on the internet and did a social media poll and realized our...2022-12-1331 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast111. The Podcast Episode That Will Transform Your Marriage!This has to be one of the best podcast episodes we have done, with information applicable to every relationship. In this episode Nick and Amy interview Tamara Fackrell (she is a divorce attorney, author and has a PHD in marriage and family relationships). Yes, you heard that correctly, a divorce attorney that is fighting to help couples not only survive, but thrive in marriage! In this episode Tamara shares 10 things that can help with conflict resolution. The steps she provides are so simple and easy to understand, and are things that couples can do to transform their...2022-12-0640 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast109. What Are The Differences Between Rules And Boundaries... And Why You Should Consider Boundaries To Protect Your MarriageThroughout our lives, we have many boundaries. These boundaries are in place to establish what is acceptable and not acceptable. In our jobs we have boundaries. We establish boundaries with our kids, our inlaws and other family members. We know what we can and can't do. And there are consequences for crossing those boundaries. The boundaries are there to protect everyone.So why would we not have boundaries in place in our marriage? Our marriages are the most important thing (or they should be) to protect at all costs.We posted a couple videos on...2022-11-2236 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast105. Dealing With Different Sex Drives And Why You Need To Find A Balance In Your MarriageJust about every relationship and marriage has a high drive spouse and a low drive spouse. If you are one of those couples you are completely normal, and neither spouse is right or wrong, it is just different. As sexual intimacy is such an important aspect of marriage and long term happiness, it is important for both couples to communicate with each other and find a balance that works for both of them. If couples don't find a balance, it can lead to a lot of problems in the relationship. In this episode Nick and Amy interview Tammy Hill, w...2022-11-0830 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast102. Ways To Handle The Stressful Holidays Around Extended Family Part 1If you are like most people, the holidays are a time that causes a lot of stress and division in their marriage. Even those couples that don't drink wish they could so they could get through the craziness. You have the financial stress of presents, your time, and of course being around the extended family which is probably the most feared or problematic for most couples! There is a reason that National Lampoons Christmas Vacation is so funny... because most people can relate to it. Crazy uncle Eddy (have one), the in-laws together, the chaos and contention...2022-10-2548 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast101. 5 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Raising An Issue With Your SpouseIt is so easy to react swiftly to conflict and we often say things in the heat of the moment we regret or wish we could take back after. Often this quick reaction can magnify the situation even more. How many arguments have you had that have blown up to where you haven't spoken to each other in days... and you can't even remember what the argument was about?Sometimes it is just best to take a pause and think before engaging with your spouse.In this episode Nick and Amy talk with Nadine and...2022-10-2140 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast100. If You Want To Make Love To Me In The Bedroom, You Have To First Make Love To Me In The KitchenOur 100th episode! It has been an amazing ride and we are so excited to share this episode with you. We recently listened to a comedian talking about sex and titled this episode after his comedy routine as it rang so true "If you want to make love to me in the bedroom, you have to first make love to me in the kitchen". What does that mean to men and women? For men, they would love to make love in the kitchen. For women, making love starts much earlier than getting to the bedroom (or making...2022-10-1836 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast99. Are The Roles In Your Marriage Causing Conflict? Traditional vs Modern Roles In Marriages TodayIt is common to think there are certain roles in marriage for males and females. For many years, traditional roles were common where the woman was responsible for raising the kids and keeping the house in order. The men would typically provide financially for the family. While this may still be the case for a lot of families, roles have shifted into modern marriage roles and couples are often both working now and providing income, taking care of the chores more equally, and raising kids together. Which roles do you have in your marriage? Was the w...2022-10-1429 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast98. How Envy And Jealousy Can Negatively Impact You And Your MarriageWe are bombarded from every conceivable angle portraying that if we don't have a certain lifestyle, car, money, marriage, house, or body, then we cannot be happy. The constant lies can build a lot of envy and jealousy if we allow it to do so. We see on social media that our friends are going on vacation, or they just bought a new house or car. Maybe their husband got promoted to a great job. Whatever is presented to us, we can begin to think "why don't I have that house, or why don't we travel to th...2022-10-1136 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast97. What Are Your Communication Styles?.. And How Knowing Your Style Can Change Your MarriageWe talk often about how communication is probably the most important aspect in marriage and how couples can resolve almost any issue with open and honest communication. But so many couples have a hard time communicating. Not necessarily because they don't want to communicate, but because each spouse might have a different "communication style" which is "how" they communicate (or don't communicate). It is vital to know each others communication style so you can better learn how to effectively communicate with each other. In this episode Nick and Amy interview Denise and Oliver Marcelle...2022-10-0741 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast96. How To Divorce Proof Your Marriage And Thrive In Your RelationshipMarriages are being attacked from every angle in this day and age and people give up so easily when things aren't going right. We see this with the divorce rate around 50%, which tells us statistically only about half of all marriages will make it. This is very sad! But there is some good news... the divorce rate among couples who were recently polled in a Gallup poll THAT DID THIS ONE THING TOGETHER EVERY DAY had a divorce rate of 1%. That means a 99% success rate! What is this one thing couples do to divorce proof...2022-10-0444 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast95. Why Many Christians Struggle With Sex And Embracing Their Sexuality.. And What To Do About ItAs a culture, many Christians are often very uncomfortable talking about sex in their marriages (and families). In many households, sex is not talked about, and if it is, it is often in a negative light. For many Christians, this causes problems when they grow up and get married. Spouses might feel shame, fear or other negative feelings about sexual intimacy, or don't communicate about sex together because of their upbringing. For many couples, they are taught sex is bad, and to refrain from it. Then the moment they get married, it is now ok. This is hard...2022-09-3035 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast94. 8 Ways To Make Your Marriage More FUN... And Why It Is So ImportantWe often think that to transform our marriage into something great requires a lot of effort, or big changes to be implemented, but the truth is, it is the small and simple things that have such a great impact and make a difference in marriages. In this episode, Nick and Amy have O.L. and Sway Buckley with Marriedpreneurlife.com on the podcast to discuss they ways you can find more fun in your marriage. Finding the "fun" again in your marriage is a key to a long and happy relationship... and more fun in your marriage equals more...2022-09-2744 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast93. Getting The Toxic People Out Of Your Life... And Why You Need To Do ItMost of us probably have people in our lives that are toxic to us and bring us down. Not only do they have a negative impact on us individually, but often that travels home with us and can impact our marriage in a bad way. Toxic people could be in-laws, brothers, sisters, relatives, friends, co workers and other people we associate with. In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss how to identify someone who is toxic, the difference between a healthy person and a toxic person, and why it is some important to recognize how the toxic behavior is...2022-09-2341 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast91. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT EPISODES YOU NEED TO LISTEN TO: Is Your Screen Addiction Costing You Your Freedom... And Your Relationship?We have discussed in previous episodes the impact social media and our addictions to our screens is having on our marriages and relationships. In this episode, Nick and Amy interview Nate Klemp who is in the process of writing a new book titled "OPEN: Finding Freedom in a Screen Addicted and Divided World" which is scheduled to be released in January 2024. We discuss many of the damaging effects our screens are causing to our marriages and to society. Some of the things we discuss:What was the most shocking statistic he came across while r...2022-09-1645 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast88. Financial Infidelity: Our (Nick and Amy) Personal And Painful Experience That Almost Ended Our Marriage.What is financial infidelity? Financial infidelity is engaging in financial decisions such as spending, saving or acquiring debt and doing it without your spouses knowledge. Just like infidelity, it can destroy your marriage and the trust in your relationship. In this episode, Nick and Amy open up and get real about their experience with financial infidelity, and the things Nick did that almost destroyed their marriage. If you and your spouse have experienced some form or level of financial mistrust or infidelity in your marriage, this is an episode that is a MUST to listen to.If...2022-09-0637 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast87. The Sexual Intimacy Marriage Course That Is A Must Have For Couples That Are Wanting Better Sexual intimacy In Their RelationshipIn this episode Nick and Amy announce their new Sexual Intimacy Marriage Course (that will change your life). This course focuses specifically on sexual intimacy and covers so many aspects and topics about sex. The course was put together with the help of marriage experts, and also from our own personal experiences in each of these areas. So many couples have such a hard time talking about sexual intimacy in their relationship, and it is a topic that MUST be discussed in marriage. Let's get real, sex is often the leading cause of divorce and problems can most often...2022-09-0227 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast86. Are You Falling Out Of Love? It's Not Too Late To Get The Passion And Intimacy BackResearch shows around 50% of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce. That is a staggering statistic! Why is this happening and what is causing this trend? While there are probably many answers to this question, but couples are obviously falling out of love.When couples are first dating, they do the things in the relationship that builds love and that continues to grow. They get married and think their whole life will be like it was when they were dating and the feelings will just grow, only to find out as time goes by, t...2022-08-3039 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast85. What Key Element(s) Are You Missing In Your Relationship?Many of us often wonder "what are the key things couples that have good marriages do differently?" In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss the key elements of a healthy marriage. If you have these things in your marriage, you most likely have a wonderful marriage.In this podcast will will learn what these key elements are and how to implement them into your marriage to help you find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your relationship.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "...2022-08-2643 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast84. The Biggest Parenting Mistake You Can Make That Could Negatively Impact Your MarriageEvery parent want's their children to be happy in life, to do well and be successful. So what parent wouldn't do everything they can to make their kid's life better and easier? The problem is many parents take this to another level to the point they do everything for their child and destroy their marriage at the same time. This behavior is often referred to as "smothering parenting" (or helicopter parenting). Not only can this behavior cause significant issues for your kids longterm, but can also be detrimental your marriage at the same time. Sometimes good intentions can cause...2022-08-231h 01The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast82. How Your Husband Really Feels When You Reject Him SexuallyAccording to MANY Divorce Attorneys, lack of intimacy is rated the #2 reason for divorce. #1 is most often infidelity.. which can often be the result of #2 (lack of intimacy). Bottom line, lack of intimacy/sex is one of THE main causes of divorce. There are so many couples that have deep love for each other and get along great, have fun times together and have everything a good and healthy relationship has…but because of the lack of sex (or importance of sex) in their marriage, it eventually ends in divorce. This may sound harsh or even...2022-08-1637 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast80. Turn Your Spouse On! Our Bedroom Tips To Help Get Your Spouse In The MoodWant to know how to turn your spouse on (for both husband and wife) and drive them crazy in the bedroom? Nick and Amy share tips for how a husband can drive his wife crazy, and how a wife can drive her husband crazy in the bedroom. They share the things that have transformed their marriage and sexual intimacy. After 20 years of marriage, their sexual intimacy is better than it has ever been and their goal is to help couples find "Ultimate Intimacy" in their relationships. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App...2022-08-0939 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast78. Things You Should NEVER Say To Your Spouse When You Are FightingWe constantly talk about things couples can do to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in their relationship. However, we understand that things are not always perfect in a relationship and fighting is something that is normal and healthy to do, but it is important to fight "the right way" so that your arguments and disagreements move your relationship forward and don't cause any harm or damage long term. In this episode Nick and Amy discuss "The Things You Should NEVER Say To Your Spouse When You Are Fighting". Just like a social media post or something you say on the internet...2022-08-0229 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast77. 7 Myths That Keep Couples From Having More Frequent And Fulfilling Sexual IntimacyMany couples wonder why their sex life isn't like what they see on tv, or in the movies and compare their marriage to things that are not realistic. Couples have myths about sex that keep them from having the "Ultimate Intimacy" in their marriage that they deserve to have. Nick and Amy discuss some of these myths and offer solutions to help you find more sexual enjoyment (and frequency) in your marriage. - Do you have to be turned on (in the mood) to have sex?- Does sex have to be amazing and mind blowing...2022-07-2929 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast76. The Hidden Intimacy Killers In Your Marriage That You May Not Even Be Aware OfIn many of their previous podcasts, Nick and Amy have discussed things you can do in your marriage to create more emotional and physical intimacy, and also the things that can hurt intimacy in your marriage. Most of them are pretty common things that many couples deal with and recognize they impact their marriages...but there are also several hidden things that can "kill" the intimacy in your marriage and could be happening without you even knowing it. We took a poll and asked couples what kills intimacy in their marriages and very few people listed the things we...2022-07-2735 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast74. 8 Bedtime Routines To Help Couples Connect Before Going To BedIt's amazing all the distractions or little things that can get in the way, and keep a couple from connecting, which of course will negatively impact their marriage. So many of these distractions take place at the most critical time of the day (and place) where couples should be connecting the most... in the bedroom. Most couples dont realize the impact and consequences this has on their marriage, but with a few simple routines, the marriage can be transformed. In this episode Nick and Amy discuss 8 bedtime routines couples can do to help them connect before going to bed...2022-07-1323 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast70. The 6 Things Your Husband Needs From YouIn this episode, Nick and Amy interview Chris and Jamie Bailey with Expedition Marriage about an article they wrote on their blog about what husbands need to hear from their wive's. If you are a wife, these simple things can transform your marriage and are very easy to do. Your husband needs:To hear that you believe in him and support himSexual intimacy and to connect with youTo know you love, appreciate and respect himTo know you dont hold the past against himand others topics.Ladies, if you implement these things in y...2022-06-1433 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast68. The Modern Day Libido Killer That Is Getting In The Way Of Sexual IntimacyThe majority of people now days have an addiction to technology which has a significant impact on their sex life and relationship. The stats are incredible. In this episode Nick and Amy discuss an article from Emily Jamea called "The Modern Day Libido Killer" found HERE, and also share insights from an article from The 80/80 marriage, about how technology is killing our sex lives and relationships. If you and your spouse are not having sexual intimacy on a regular basis, technology is most likely one of the major reasons for this. In this day and age our...2022-05-3134 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast67. Marriage 911- A Lifeline For Your MarriageNick and Amy interview Dr. Kim Kimberling with Awesome Marriage about his online course "Marriage 911" to help couples re connect and find "Ultimate Intimacy" in their marriages. Some of the topics they discuss in the podcast are: What is the wrong and right way to fight?What is healthy communication?Expectations in marriageBoundaries in and out of the marriageTurning to GodDealing with distractionsSex issuesFinances and how they impact marriageForgivenessHaving Fun!Check out the Marriage 911 Course HEREIf you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ul...2022-05-2443 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast66. Choose Her Everyday with Bryan ReevesNick and Amy interview Bryan Reeves who is the author of a new book called "Choose Her Everyday (or leave her)" about the importance of choosing your spouse everyday in your relationship. Bryan compares a relationship to a precious fragrant flower that is brought into the home, but then fails to be watered. Relationships start out beautiful and amazing but if we dont continue to nourish and feed those relationships, they will eventually die. We also discuss why you need to choose her (your wife) everyday, the 3 stages of love and the one you need, why great s...2022-05-1749 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast64. How To Have A Strong Marriage After The Kids Move OutSince 1990 the divorce rate among couples between the ages of 55-64 has more than doubled! Why is this happening? Aren't the years after the kids move out, and couples head into retirement suppose to be the best?Many couples focus so much time and energy on raising their kids, they often neglect their own relationship only to find out that it is VERY difficult to reconnect once they have grown apart. Also spouses may react differently in regards to becoming "empty nesters" while one spouse may experience sadness and grief while the other is excited about future...2022-05-0347 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast63. The 10 differences between happy and unhappy couples that you can implement in your marriageWe have all seen couples that look like they have an amazing relationship and have everything together and we wonder what their secrets are and yearn for that kind of relationship. On the flip side, we have all seen the couples that we have no idea how they are staying together as it looks like they are so unhappy together. So what is the difference and what are the secrets of happy couples? While every couple deals with different trials, struggles and life experiences, there are absolute things that happy couples do that unhappy couples do not do and w...2022-04-2651 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast61. Why It Is Vital For Couples To Be On The Same Page With Raising KidsIn marriage, more often than not couples come from different backgrounds and have different experiences growing up which shapes "their" parenting styles and beliefs. For example, one might have had very strict parents with many rules and structure while the other spouse may have had very lenient parents with little structure. While neither one is right or wrong, our reality of how we were raised can shape our perception on how we should parent our kids. It is vital for couples to talk about "how" they are going to parent their kids and make sure they are on the...2022-04-1959 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast60. How Women Can Build Sexual Confidence"Your level of sexual confidence determines your capacity to experience intimacy both in and out of the bedroom. Sexual confidence is actually crucial to a woman's well-being both in and out of the bedroom." Ketsia Gustave.In this episode, Nick and Amy have the pleasure of having Ketsia Gustave from evolvingwife.com on the podcast to discuss an article she wrote on how women can build sexual confidence. There are many reasons why some women have low sexual confidence. These include:Growing up being taught sex is badNot knowing or understanding how their body worksBelieving that t...2022-04-1241 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast59. Understanding The Sex Languages For Better Sexual Intimacy!In this episode, Nick and Amy have the pleasure of having Dr. Emily Jamea on the podcast. Emily is a certified sex therapist and LMFT with Revive Therapy and discusses the concept of the different Sex Languages with us. Most couples have heard of the 5 Love Languages and understand how important they are to a relationship, but have you heard of the Sex Languages? We hadn't either! Here are a few of the things we discuss in this awesome episode:What are the sex languages?What is the language of the body?What is the...2022-04-0533 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast58. 10 Mistakes Women Make In Marriage That Impact IntimacyLast week we tackled the 10 mistakes men make in marriage, now it's time for the women! A ton of research and preparation was put in for this episode (just like all other podcasts we do) and almost all other articles had these 10 mistakes women make in marriage, so this is not according to Nick and Amy, but what most relationship experts agree across the board. Most marriages want to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in their relationships and this episode will help you achieve that! Some of the mistakes women make are:- Putting the kids first...2022-03-2931 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast57. 10 Mistakes Men Make In Marriage That Impact IntimacyLet's be real, sometimes we as guys say dumb things or make stupid mistakes in our marriage. We often don't do things intentionally, but sometimes the things we do or say can cause issues with our spouse. In this episode, Nick and Amy share a fantastic article by Knot Easily Broken and discuss the 10 mistakes men make in marriage. Some of these include:- Only thinking about yourself in the bedroom- Reckless spending- Dont confide in your wifeListen to the episode to hear all the mistakes we as men often...2022-03-2232 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast56. Is It Healthy For Couples To Have Arguements?Many married couples think if they are fighting or arguing, then they have an unhealthy marriage, but this is not the case. In this episode Nick and Amy discuss 12 reasons why it is actually healthy to argue in marriage, AND why it is not healthy to hold things in or sweep things "under the rug". Some of the benefits from arguing include:- Arguing shows you really care about your spouse- Helps you become a better listener- Helps you to communicate better- Helps you see other perspectives and solutions to issues2022-03-1731 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast55. 10 Steps To Rekindle Sexual Chemistry And Bring Back The Excitement, Passion And ConnectionDo you feel like your sexual chemistry between you and your spouse has dwindled or is no longer existent? In this episode Nick and Amy discuss and share 10 tips to help couples rekindle their sexual chemistry so they can find the excitement, passion and connection in their relationship just like when they were first married.If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun!Follow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp for a...2022-03-1433 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast54. Want A Better Marriage? Your Kids Can't Come FirstIn this episode Nick and Amy discuss a great article by focusonthefamily.com about why your marriage and relationship with your spouse has to be priority above the kids! "When a parental team breaks down, children become the biggest losers." Research shows that marriage takes a hit when you have kids. According to an analysis involving 31,000 married people, the drop in marital satisfaction after the first baby is born is a staggering 42% larger among the current generation of parents than their predecessors.Many couples just think "after the kids are gone, we"ll g...2022-02-2327 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast53. Why Comparing Your Marriage And Life To Others Can Destroy Yours!Do you find yourself comparing your marriage and life to others? Do you envy other marriages, families, vacations, and lifestyle and wonder why yours isn't like everyone else's?Well your not alone... We took a poll and the results found many other people and couples feel this same way.The problem is what we see is a mirage, and we only see the what others WANT us to see, or what the companies want us to see to convince ourselves we need something to be happy. It's "our" perceptions but often times our perceptions isn't real. We...2022-02-1635 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast52. The DNA differences between a man and woman... and why it works!As men and women, we are biologically different...and that is how God made us and wants it to be. The world wants us to think we have to be the same and there is no difference between a man and woman biologically. This is not how God made us and it is good that we are wired differently and have different strengths, weaknesses and emotional and physical desires as men and women. When we understand how we are biologically different and how men and women function, it is easier to create "Ultimate Intimacy" in the relationship. In...2022-02-0958 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast51. Men's Survey Answers About Sexual Intimacy...In this weeks episode, Nick and Amy discuss the poll answers from social media. "Husbands answers to their Sexual Intimacy wants and needs."The questions husbands answered were:Do you have a hard time talking about sex with your wife? Why or why not? Can you tell your wife what you want sexually? How do you bring up the conversation?Who wants to make love more often, you or your wife? How do you find balance in your desire differences? Do you en...2022-02-0233 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast50. Our Women's Survey About Sexual Intimacy...The Answers Might Surprise YouWe did a survey and asked questions to women about sexual intimacy and got over 600 responses. Here are the questions we asked:Do you have a hard time talking about sex with your husband?Do you understand your body and what feels good sexually?Do you communicate to your husband what you want to need sexually?Do you feel resentment from not having an orgasm when being intimate?There are many women that have a hard time talking to their husband about sex and communicating what they need sexually. There are also a lot of women that...2022-01-2634 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast49. How Outside Influences Can Negatively Impact Your Marriage, And What To Do About ItIn this episode, Nick and Amy talk about a fantastic article written by 80/80 Marriage called "These Outsiders Can Make Marriage Impossible". In marriage, its you and your spouse, the two of you. Then there are your "Thirds".... The "Thirds" are any out side force that influences your marriage. It could be a friend, co-worker, business partner, family member, or even a project or business that takes a lot of your time or has an influence on your marriage.Most couples probably have a "third" impacting their marriage in some way... or have at least have experienced it in...2022-01-1918 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast48. How To Get On The Same Page FinanciallyNick and Amy interview Amy Scott whom is a Certified Financial Coach who teaches couples how to get on the same page financially. We discuss:- Why finances are such a huge cause of stress in a marriage- Why it is so important to talk about finances as a couple- What are things couples can do to get on the same page financially.If couples get on the same page financially, all aspects of their marriage both emotionally and physically will improve. Amy gives simple steps to get the tough conversations started...2022-01-1235 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast47. Understanding Differences In Sexual WiringIn this episode, Nick and Amy discuss an amazing article by Laura Brotherson (Certified Sex Therapist) about understanding differences in sexual wiring between men and women. Men and Women are so different when it comes to sexual desires and how we are wired, but this podcast will help couples better understand each other. We discuss 18 sexual differences between men and women. We hope this episode and article can help you connect better physically and emotionally. "Sex is not just for men, or not just for women, but for both to enjoy equally for mutual oneness and pleasure." - Laura Br...2022-01-0534 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast46. 6 Simple New Years Resolutions To Strengthen Your Sexual And Emotional IntimacyIn this episode Nick and Amy share 6 simple, yet super important New Years Resolutions to make your marriage the best it's ever been in 2022! Most people set multiple goals for the New Year and after several weeks most people usually give up... we have been there and done that so we wanted to come up with some amazing goals you can actually keep and will bring passion into your marriage.We give you 6 goals and things you can do that can help your marriage, and you can pick one to focus including: more touch, spending more time in...2021-12-2931 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast45. I Want This To Work With Elizabeth Earnshaw And The Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face In The Modern AgeNick and Amy interview Elizabeth Earnshaw who is the author of a fantastic new book called "I Want This To Work", navigating the most difficult relationship issues we face in the modern age. So many books cover a lot of great topics and help you understand and identify things going on in your marriage, but they often neglect to cover the ways and the "how" to fix things. This book is a great read that helps you know what to do and how to address things to help your relationship. Join us for this great podcast episode where we d...2021-12-2135 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast44. Our Favorite Marriage Quotes of 2021 To Help Your MarriageNick and Amy talk with Akida and Tisha from Couples Connect who have some amazing quotes that can help your marriage. Why is it important to invest in your marriage just like you do financial investments? Can surrounding yourself with couples who have great marriages help yours? Do you look at your spouse and focus on their qualities or their flaws?So much of marriage is perception and how you view and see things through your own eyes. This is a great podcast with simple sayings and reminders as to what you can do to make your...2021-12-1434 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast43. ALL ABOUT SEX: Sexpectations, What Is Healthy Sex In Marriage, Rejection, And The Importance Of SexLets talk about sex... Nick and Amy discuss Sexpectations in marriage, what healthy sex in marriage looks like, how to address sexual rejection, and the importance of sex in marriage.Almost all couples deal with some sort of sexual imbalance in their marriage as men and women were created with physiological differences... and this is completely normal! So how to do couples get on the same page (or close to) when it comes to sex? Are you afraid to talk to your spouse about your sexual needs? Are you comparing your sex life to...2021-12-0736 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast41. How To Bring Back The Honeymoon Stage (sex and intimacy) In Your MarriageFor most couples, when they first get married there are no kids, fewer responsibilities, and a lot less stresses in life. You spend tons of time together and focus all on each other. But that all changes when the kids start coming, careers start getting established and life gets busy. In this episode, Nick and Amy talk with Randall and Serena Johnson (The Union Johnsons) about the 7 things couples can do to bring back the passion, excitement, emotional and sexual intimacy in their marriage just like the honeymoon stage... and yes, it is possible!If y...2021-11-2339 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast39. Porn = Poison In Your Marriage That Will Destroy All Areas Of IntimacyNick and Amy interview Tammy Hill who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. We discuss how pornography damages and impacts marriages and the effects it has on both the viewer and the spouse. Tammy states that porn is usually a scapegoat for what is really damaging the relationship and it is an equal opportunity toxic poison. Porn is something that can impact all relationships and needs to be constantly fought against. Some of the key points in this podcast are tips on how to avoid allowing porn into a marriage, how to set boundaries, how porn impacts BOTH s...2021-11-1033 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast38. How To Stay Present During SexDo you ever feel like it is hard to focus during sex? Are you often thinking about other thing, making sex much less enjoyable? Why is it so important not to be distracted during sex and what issues can this cause in your relationship? In episode 38, Nick and Amy have the pleasure of interviewing Dr Kristie Overstreet who is a clinical sexologist, sex therapist, and psychotherapist and podcaster with the "Fix Yourself First" podcast. There are so many things that keep us distracted, and it is often hard to stay present during sex, making it les...2021-11-0333 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast37. Understanding Your Desire Styles... For More Frequent And Better Sex!In this episode Nick and Amy talk about an article written by Cindy Scharkey titled "Understanding your desire style for better sex.” One of the most common arguments in marriage is over how often a couple is having sex. It comes down to one spouse wanting it more than the other which can lead to trouble in the bedroom... and overall relationship issues. It is so important to understand each others "desire styles" and just because couples have mis-matched desire styles doesn't mean something is wrong with you or your spouse, it just means you have a dif...2021-10-2731 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast35. How Your Words Can Build or Destroy IntimacyWe often don't consider how what we say to our spouse can impact our emotional and physical intimacy as a couple, but what we say, and how we say it can have lasting effects for the positive or the negative. Are we expressing gratitude for the things our spouses do and the what we have, or are we looking at the negative things and allowing those to bring us down? Do we look at the glass as "half full" or "half empty" and how are we looking at our relationship with our spouse? Do we show respect by what...2021-10-1321 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast33. Overcoming Loneliness In Marriage and finding Ultimate Intimacy againNick and Amy discuss what loneliness in marriage is, and how to overcome it and bring back the intimacy. Loneliness can be caused from a spouse that works out of town, a new born child or kids taking priority, lack of communication, mental illness or many other reasons. In our online poll, 94% responded that they have felt loneliness in their marriage and shared the reasons why they got to that point, and how they resolved it in their own marriages. Also, don't forget to download the Ultimate Intimacy App for free in the app stores, or at...2021-09-2930 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast32. How Debt and Finances Impact Physical and Emotional IntimacyNick and Amy interview Andy Hill from the Marriage, Kids and Money Podcast and discuss how debt, financial issues, decisions and perception of money can impact your emotional and physical intimacy in your marriage. Even people that are very successful financially experience "financial issues" in their marriages. There are many things that could cause financial issues in a marriage. It could be debt, it could happen because one spouse is a spender and the other a saver, or one spouse like to have things paid off and the other like to finance things, or maybe you have different short a...2021-09-2233 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast31. From a "Roommate" Marriage to a "Romance" MarriageDo you ever feel like you and your spouse are just roommates living together? Are you wondering where the romance and excitement went like you had in the newlywed stage? How to do you get back the passion, romance and excitement in your marriage? In this episode Nick and Amy discuss these things and offer advice on how to re-connect and share the stats from our instagram poll.Also, don't forget to download the Ultimate Intimacy App for free in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage.Check...2021-09-1536 minThe Ultimate Intimacy Podcast30. It's All About The Clitoris! The Key To Unlocking Female Pleasure with Cindy ScharkeyNick and Amy interview Cindy Scharkey with the "Permission For Pleasure" Podcast. Cindy is passionate about opening the doors for women to have conversations about expressing, experiencing and enjoying their sexuality. In this episode, they talk about how the clitoris is literally the "key" to unlocking female pleasure. For women who would like to find intimacy more enjoyable and better understand their bodies, and husbands who want to better understand where and how to please your wife, this episode is for you!You can find Cindy's great podcast HEREAlso, don't...2021-09-0838 minThe Ultimate Intimacy PodcastBonus Q&A Plus Our New Products and UpdateNick and Amy have been receiving a bunch of questions from people on instragram and using the Ultimate Intimacy App. Nick and Amy answer many of the questions and also announce some exciting new things for the Ultimate Intimacy App and brand.Also, don't forget to download the Ultimate Intimacy App for free in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage.Follow us on Instagram @ultimateintimacyapp.If you have any feedback, comments or topics you would like to hear on future episodes, reach out to us...2021-09-0227 min