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Between Hope and HeartbreakEp 30 How to Handle Estrangement During the Holidays (A Faith-Based Perspective)In this episode, Nicole begins with a personal anecdote about an introverted mishap at the Boise Co-op. Nicole then transitions to a heartfelt discussion on preparing for the emotional challenges of the holiday season, particularly for those experiencing estrangement. Nicole emphasizes the importance of allowing oneself to grieve unmet expectations while still practicing gratitude. She also provides practical advice on handling sensitive family interactions and encourages listeners to lean on their faith, praying for peace and discernment. The episode concludes with a hopeful message about trusting in God's miraculous capability to bring reconciliation and peace.00:00 Introduction and...
2025-11-2119 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 29 When Tension Comes Out in Your WordsIn this episode, Nicole Coates talks about passive-aggressive comments with compassion and honesty—reminding listeners that we all fall into these patterns sometimes. Instead of shame, Nicole focuses on why these moments happen and how they can become opportunities for healing, clarity, and healthier communication.She shares how passive-aggressive reactions often come from unspoken hurt or fear, especially in strained or estranged relationships, and offers simple, faith-filled guidance for moving toward peace and connection.Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode:“Why Everyone’s Cutting Everyone Off” b...
2025-11-1813 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 27 From Messy Middle to New BeginningsIn this first solo episode of 'Between Hope and Heartbreak,' I discuss the evolution of the podcast from 'Motherhood in the Messy Middle', highlight the decision to focus solely on estrangement, and share my personal experiences. Discover past episodes that delve deep into my story, and learn about the community built around this theme. I invite listeners to share ideas and engage in meaningful conversations. This episode also emphasizes the importance of faith and finding hope through Jesus while navigating the difficult journey of estrangement.00:00 Welcome and Introduction00:03 Recap of Previous Episode00:19...
2025-11-1106 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 28 The Invisible Rules of EstrangementIn this episode, we explore the emotional complexities faced by parents dealing with estrangement from their children. We discuss the invisible rules and shifting standards parents feel they must navigate, the importance of making personal changes, and the frustration of not being able to demonstrate that progress. The conversation touches on the necessity of letting go of impossible standards and the role of faith and self-healing in this journey. The episode encourages respectful dialogue and offers resources for those seeking community while navigating similar experiences.00:00 Introduction: The Struggle for Perfection00:18 Invisible Rules of Estrangement
2025-11-1110 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 26 Robin’s Farewell and the Future of Motherhood and the Messy MiddleRobin announces her departure from the show to focus on her holistic wellness practice, while Nicole prepares to continue the podcast, focusing on supporting mothers dealing with estrangement. They reflect on their deep virtual friendship, the challenges of midlife motherhood, and their continued mission to normalize 'the messy middle.' The episode is filled with emotions, gratitude, and plans for future meditations and practical support for women in various stages of motherhood.00:00 Welcome to Season Two: Embracing the Messy Middle01:02 Halloween Vibes and Emotional Announcements02:01 Robin's Farewell: Answering the Call07:48 Navigating...
2025-10-2838 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 25 Halloween EpisodeThis week, they discuss their approaches to Halloween traditions, from costume planning to navigating trick-or-treating with neurodivergent children. Learn about the unique ways they create a fun, inclusive, and stress-free Halloween experience for their families. Whether you're dealing with young kids, teens, or navigating midlife changes, this episode offers heartfelt advice, plenty of laughs, and fresh perspectives on managing the seasonal chaos. Don't forget to check out the Vault for additional resources and tools!00:00 Welcome to Motherhood and the Messy Middle01:02 Cozy Conversations and Heated Blankets04:26 Halloween Traditions and Neurodivergence09:33 Trick-or-Treating...
2025-10-2134 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 24 Learning to Live with Estrangement: Finding Peace and PurposeThis episode focuses on navigating estrangement, managing difficult emotions, and seeking personal growth, all while maintaining honesty and hope. They share practical tips on grounding yourself in the present moment, the power of prayer, and the importance of honoring one's current state. Join the conversation as they tackle the messy middle of motherhood and midlife with humor, realness, and a touch of spirituality. Don't miss out on the heartfelt insights and practical advice!00:00 Welcome to the Messy Middle01:02 Building Virtual Friendships01:29 Self-Expression and Communication02:42 Self-Awareness and Validation03:42 Navigating Emotional...
2025-10-1437 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 23 Estrangement, Grief & CommunityIn this heartfelt episode of 'Motherhood and the Messy Middle,' hosts Robin and Nicole delve into the complex topic of grief, especially in relation to estrangement. They share personal experiences and insights, emphasizing the multi-layered nature of grief, whether through the loss of a loved one or a significant life change. Throughout the discussion, they explore the importance of connection, community, and finding ways to lighten the emotional load through spiritual practices and rituals. This episode aims to provide hope, support, and actionable steps for those navigating these challenging emotions.00:00 Welcome to Motherhood and the Messy...
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Everything Is ContentEmma Watson, The End Of Skinny & Nicole KidmanHello Content Pups, strap in, seatbelts ON, we're going on a content road trip. This week on the podcast we’re talking about Emma Watson’s Jay Shetty interview (and the subsequent fall out), the way that GLP-1S, have democratised thinness - and what that means for body trends, and perhaps the biggest divorce in recent pop culture history It's been a hefty week for celeb and pop culture stories, so yes you’re exactly right, we’re bringing back the EIC headlines; from Nicole Kidman's divorce, to Lola Young's statement and Super Bowl Sunday....
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Smoke 'Em If You Got 'Em Podcast226. Ezra and Ta-Nehisi and a Cold Civil WarThis is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit smokeempodcast.substack.comNancy and Sarah talk about a lightning-rod conversation between NYT podcaster Ezra Klein and award-winning writer Ta-Nehisi Coates. The two men spar on the political project of Charlie Kirk and the problem with / way forward for Democrats, and pretty much every side of the audience gets ticked off.Nancy was underwhelmed with the conversation; Sarah was reminded of private arguments she’s had and sees more common ground between Coates and Kirk than either might like to believe....
2025-10-0213 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 22 Estrangement, Grief, and the Power of CommunityIn this episode of 'Motherhood and the Messy Middle,' hosts Robin and Nicole dive into the complexities of estrangement and grief, especially as they pertain to motherhood and midlife. Robin and Nicole discuss their personal experiences with estrangement, the challenges it brings, and the importance of creating supportive, judgment-free spaces. They introduce the concept of a virtual village to help women feel seen and connected. The episode also highlights Nicole's community app for moms navigating estrangement, offering a faith-based approach to healing and support. The hosts emphasize the importance of leaning into difficult conversations to diminish s...
2025-09-3026 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 21 Fresh Starts & Full Hearts: Launching Season TwoJoin Robin and Nicole in the second season of 'Motherhood and the Messy Middle.' This episode sets the stage for a season filled with themed miniseries on challenging topics such as estrangement, difficult conversations, holidays, and personal growth. Robin and Nicole provide life updates, reflecting on the transitions they've navigated, from new jobs to supporting their families. With honest, real conversations and a touch of humor, this episode invites you to be part of their virtual village, offering support and resources for moms navigating the messy middle of life.00:00 Welcome to Season Two: Embracing the Messy...
2025-09-2336 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 20 Holy Interruptions: Finding Growth in Life’s DetoursIn this episode of Motherhood and the Messy Middle, hosts Robin and Nicole discuss the unexpected detours life can take, such as job loss and general uncertainty. They dive into the concept of 'holy interruptions' and how these moments, although disruptive, can lead to spiritual and emotional growth. Nicole shares her recent experience of both she and her husband being laid off on the same day and how her village of friends and faith provided crucial support. Robin reflects on her past experiences with job loss and how building a strong foundation of faith has been instrumental in navigating...
2025-09-1624 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 19 Reflecting on 9/11: Memories, Motherhood, and Healing ConnectionsIn this episode of 'Motherhood and the Messy Middle,' hosts Robin and Nicole delve into their personal memories of September 11, 2001, discussing how the traumatic event has shaped their lives and worldviews. As they share their distinct experiences of that day—one from a homeschooler's perspective and the other from a sophomore in college—they explore the broader implications of national grief, retaliation, and the need for compassionate understanding. Through open dialogue, they tackle the complexities of discussing sensitive topics like politics and grief within personal relationships and communities. This episode emphasizes the importance of creating safe spaces for vuln...
2025-09-0930 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 18 Hormonal Balance, Wellness Tips, and the Balance Your Body MethodIn this episode of Motherhood in the Messy Middle, hosts Robin and Nicole explore the real challenges women face in midlife—hormonal imbalances, weight changes, and the pursuit of overall wellness. Through personal stories and practical advice, Robin introduces her Balance Your Body Method, a holistic approach combining meditation, mindset, movement, and mindful nourishment.They break down the role of blood sugar management, the power of community support, and share tangible steps you can start today to feel more balanced and energized.Ready to take the next st...
2025-09-0233 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 17 The Mental Load of Travel: Why Family Trips Feel Like Full-Time JobsIn this episode of Motherhood and the Messy Middle, Robin and Nicole dive into the complexities of planning family travel. They discuss how managing trips can feel as challenging as running a small business, from logistics and schedules to managing meltdowns and emotions. The hosts share personal stories and practical tips on how to prepare mentally and emotionally for travel, delegate responsibilities, and maintain sanity amidst the chaos. They also touch on the challenges of traveling with different age groups and emphasize the importance of setting expectations. This episode offers a mix of humor, relatable experiences, and valuable insights...
2025-08-2627 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 16 Navigating the Emotional Weight of Back to SchoolIn this episode of 'Motherhood and The Messy Middle,' Robin and Nicole explore the emotional complexities of the back-to-school season. They discuss the mix of excitement and anxiety that accompanies sending children back to school, varying parenting styles, and the logistical challenges involved. They delve into the different ways families handle school preparation, the impact of structure on mental health, and the inherent need for balance. With personal anecdotes, the hosts share their experiences with educational systems, testing, and the emotional journey of watching children grow and transition. Offering a blend of humor and heartfelt discussion, this episode...
2025-08-1927 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 15 Surviving the Summer Sizzle: Strategies for MomsIn this episode of Motherhood and the Messy Middle, hosts Robin and Nicole discuss the challenges moms face during summer when routines collapse, and the home is always bustling with kids. Sharing personal anecdotes, they explore strategies for managing sensory overload, creating small structured routines, and setting realistic expectations to maintain mental health. They emphasize the importance of acknowledging and addressing personal thresholds for better self-care. Listeners are invited to find support in a new resource vault created by the hosts and are encouraged to rate and review the podcast to reach more moms navigating similar struggles.00:00...
2025-08-1227 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 14 Navigating Estrangement: A Journey of Heartbreak and Hope - Part 2In this episode of Motherhood and the Messy Middle, Robin and Nicole continue their deep dive into the complexities of estrangement. They discuss the emotional layers, offer compassionate support, and share small steps forward for those experiencing distance or silence with their children.Nicole opens up about her personal journey, emphasizing the importance of community and the strength found in vulnerability. The episode highlights the launch of Nicole's new online space, Between Hope and Heartbreak—a private, faith-based community for mothers navigating estrangement.👉 Learn more and request to join at betweenhopeandheartbreakM...
2025-08-0727 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 13 Navigating Estrangement: A Journey of Heartbreak and Hope - Part 1In this vulnerable conversation, Nicole opens up about her personal journey of navigating the heartbreaking estrangement from her oldest daughter.Together, they explore what estrangement really means, the emotional toll it takes—not just on moms, but on the entire family and the spiritual lessons God continues to teach in the midst of deep grief.Robin and Nicole emphasize the importance of holding space for hard emotions while still making room for hope. They also highlight the power of faith, prayer, and community as lifelines in seasons that feel unbearably lonely.If this ep...
2025-08-0528 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 12 Why Do Family Gatherings Feel So Complicated?⚠️ Trigger Warning:This episode includes discussion of domestic violence and the loss of a parent. Please take care while listening. If these topics are sensitive or activating for you, feel free to skip this one or listen when you feel emotionally safe.In this episode of 'Motherhood and the Messy Middle', Robin and Nicole explore the complex emotions and dynamics that surface during family gatherings. From joy and nostalgia to tension and drama, family events can stir a mix of feelings. Robin shares a personal story about a recent family function, reflecting on her...
2025-07-3133 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 11 Ever feel like you’re meant for something bigger?Embracing More: Navigating Gratitude and Desire in Motherhood and MidlifeIn this heartfelt episode of 'Motherhood and the Messy Middle,' Robin and Nicole tackle the complex interplay between gratitude and the desire for more in the journey of motherhood and midlife. They explore the societal pressures on women to remain content and avoid 'taking up too much space,' while encouraging listeners to embrace their desires for more purpose, passion, and fulfillment. Robin shares personal challenges, including her journey through addiction and recovery, highlighting the importance of community, vulnerability, and starting small in pursuing one's calling...
2025-07-2923 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 10 My Pants Don’t Fit and I Might Cry — Navigating the Body Shifts No One Warned Us AboutPerimenopause, mood swings, weight gain, and unexpected chin hairs—welcome to the midlife plot twist no one warned us about. In this honest and hilarious convo, Nicole and Robin unpack the physical and emotional shifts of perimenopause and menopause, from body image to hormone havoc. You’re not alone—and you’re not losing your mind. Probably. 😉💛 Grab Robin’s free midlife guide: robinswellnest.myflodesk.com/start-here — simple shifts for your hormones, energy, and sanity.Connect with me on Instagram: @heygirl.itsnicole And explore more resources for estranged moms at nicolecoates.com. If...
2025-07-2424 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 9 Holding Space – What It Really Means and Why It’s So Hard to DoYou’ve heard the phrase “holding space”… but what does it actually look like in the chaos of motherhood, midlife, and messy emotions?In this episode, we’re diving deep into the powerful, misunderstood, and often uncomfortable practice of holding space—for our kids, our friends, and ourselves. Holding space means showing up with presence, not pressure. It’s sitting in the discomfort without trying to fix it. But in a culture that pushes us to hurry up, hold it together, and move on... it’s no wonder we struggle.Together, we unpack what it means to hold sp...
2025-07-2224 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 8 Why Is Friendship So Hard in Midlife?Friendship wasn’t supposed to be this complicated.But somewhere between school drop-offs, emotional overload, and trying to keep up with everyone's needs… it’s easy for friendships to fall to the bottom of your never-ending to-do list.In this heart-opening episode of Motherhood and the Messy Middle, we dive into the real talk about why making—and keeping—friendships as moms in midlife can feel so hard.Nicole and Robin open up about their own friendship journeys-what’s worked, what’s hurt, and why they believe we still need each other, even when life gets...
2025-07-1731 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 7 Grieving the Past While Embracing the PresentDo you miss a season that’s already slipped away-when your kids were smaller, life was slower, or you felt more like you? In this tender episode, we talk about the bittersweet ache of motherhood transitions and how to hold space for both grief and gratitude.Nicole shares what it’s like to parent four kids across four life stages, and Robin reflects on her most sacred season of motherhood. Together, we explore what it means to honor the past while still embracing the beauty (and mess) of now.You’re allowed to miss what was an...
2025-07-1525 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 6 Reclaiming Your Spirit in the Chaos of MotherhoodMotherhood has a way of pulling us in every direction-except inward. In this episode, we’re talking about what it looks like to reclaim your spirit when life feels messy, loud, and exhausting. Because what sustains us in the thick of midlife and motherhood isn’t just strategy, structure, or even sleep-it’s soul.Robin and Nicole unpack the power of prayer, the practice of meditation, and the beauty of meeting God right where you are-without guilt, perfection, or pressure. Whether your spiritual walk feels strong, shaky, or somewhere in between, this conversation is your reminder that you do...
2025-07-1024 minBetween Hope and HeartbreakEp 5 Mental Health in Motherhood—When It’s You, When It’s Your ChildWhat do you do when your mental health is struggling—and so is your child’s?In this vulnerable and powerful episode of Motherhood and the Messy Middle, we’re talking about what it means to parent through anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, and recovery—while navigating your own emotional challenges at the same time.We explore: 💛 Mothering through anxiety, PTSD, perimenopause, and grief 💛 How mental health struggles can show up in children—even the very young 💛 What it looks like to hold space without trying to fix 💛 Breaking generational patt...
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