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The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 21 My wake-up call at 5 AMSometimes we are given an opportunity to learn. In the moment, we can't always see the real value of the lesson. It could have been very different. It was remarkable how clear my mind went at 5 AM, split seconds to decide what to do and how to stay safe. In the end, what really makes the difference is a broader perspective: who else can we help, and do we see who needs help too? What we take for granted isn't to be taken for granted....... Lesson taken, thank you!We are all responsible for how we...2025-07-2708 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 20 The colour of beauty, with Michael Drummond DavidsonRecently, Nienke attended a workshop with HeArtist Hannie Wiering in Belgium, titled "Painting Straight from the Heart." She shared this with her HeartAmbassador Heartbuddy, Michael Drummond Davidson, who also loves creating art. In their share, Michael suggested creating a Phoenix Frequencies podcast episode from it. What is art, what is beauty, what does beauty do for the world? All deep questions to investigate, like all HeArtists can relate to, and be judgment-free, calming our inner critic.Michael shared his story and what drives him in this episode last year. We are all responsible for h...2025-07-2117 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 19 My mother's ring unchainedUnchain my heart, let me be. Unchain my heart, set me free.... Joe Cocker.In this episode, Nienke sheds light on what we want to emulate from our parents and what we can leave behind. On their 61st wedding anniversary, her mother gave her husband back her wedding ring, deliberately. Because she wanted him to receive from a warm hand, not a cold, dead one. Six days later, she passed away. Nienke's father chose to take off his ring too, after she died and asked a goldsmith to create something new from both rings. That sa...2025-07-1210 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 18 Who is speaking?It's happening more and more in the keynote and TEDx speaking world: the use of AI, such as ChatGPT, to create talks and keynotes. Many people think it sounds more professional, slick, smooth or attractive. In the E.A.S.E. Method, Nienke and her team use for coaching speakers globally, the words you use create only 10% of the impact you want to gain. The rest relies on how you use your voice and your body language. If you only focus on the 10% ánd give it fully in the hands of AI, you won't get where you want to be. Because: who is delive...2025-06-3007 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 17 The Power of Post Traumatic GrowthIf trauma is the result of your capacity to handle life events, we can all see traumatic scars within ourselves. The triggers, the behaviours to feel and stay safe. Working hard to cover up the painful results. That's not wrong, that's trying to handle storms, big ánd small, in our lives. Trauma can be piled up and stored in a box in the fridge (or even deep freezer) until we are ready to be with it'... But our bodies respond. It can lead to dis-ease, illnesses, and mental and emotional disruption with long-lasting impact. We can get tra...2025-06-2309 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 16 Part 2 How would communicate without technology?In this episode, Nienke shares part two of her interview with Guru Lama, who has possessed an extraordinary ability to heal and uplift those around him since childhood. It took nearly a decade for him to find his right teacher, or guru. Not all are a right fit, many people see themselves as a guru, but from a high spiritual ego. Guru Lama also shares how to prepare ourselves to be without the internet. To trust, we can communicate with our ancient proven style: our inner Bluetooth, or antennas. How would you live without the internet? Do you still h...2025-06-1611 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 15 From Ghosting to hostingFrom Ghosting to Hosting, a powerful conversation is just a change of one letter. Ghosting is used as a skill to control a situation through social (non)interaction, aiming to dominate or overpower it. However, people who think they need ghosting as a solution simply haven't yet discovered the social and emotional intelligence toolbox. Ghosting is in the same field as naming, framing, blaming or shaming: creating social pain to feel like a winner. What do you do when the heat is on in a business relationship or even a friendship? Ghosting or hos...2025-06-1008 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 14 Part 1 When East meets West from the HeartNienke and Guru Lama met each other through the TEDx Fiesole event and instantly noticed that they both serve through frequencies. From that moment, they stayed in touch. Nienke and the Monk had a long conversation that Nienke made into several episodes op the Phoenix Frequencies Podcasts. Guru Lama often gets the question 'What religion are you from? He answers with a smile: Our religion is compassion.He followed his soul's mission, his Karma, as he left his successful professional life to embark on a path of healing and spirituality. Since childhood, he possessed an extraordinary ability to...2025-05-2910 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 13 People pleasing as Self-protectionWhat if we can see people pleasing as a smart protection mechanism rather than a weak character? With the sugarcoated behaviour, it's a way to feel and stay emotionally safe. Often learned by painful life experiences. It looks good, it feels better than reality. Like a painkiller. But what are you suppressing and at what cost? Health, relationships and feeling drained......Nienke grew up in a people-pleasing environment and found her way out: cold turkey. She found out that what she wanted and searched for wasn't what she needed. People pleasing isn't an identity; it's a survival mode...2025-05-2309 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 12 Hi, here is a message from pain.Experiencing pain is always a message. Often, we don't like the way pain communicates. We are conditioned to get 'rid ' of pain, soothe pain, or kill pain with painkillers. Or we over-identify with pain, like with tiredness or diseases. I am tired, I am ill. No, you're not. You feel tired, you feel dis-eased. What if pain is not an enemy but an ally? In this podcast, Nienke shares the different options for trying. To be at ease with dis-ease. To be partnering up with pain to get free from the fighting mode. Th...2025-05-1610 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 11 Are you connecting the dots?Over the last few months, Nienke has worked with 20 people to prepare for their TEDx Talk. To be Heard to be Heart at the same time. BE ready. Staying with your true message and true to your authentic self wasn't easy for all. Going into their topic, their story as a deep dive was an unexpected gift for many of the speakers to rise above the past. But life had a personal gift for Nienke as well, she shares in this podcast. We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to o...2025-05-1011 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 10 When losing a friend becomes an assetThis week, Nienke tunes into the sudden death of her energy work role model and old friend. At first, there was a massive magnitude of shock, grief and pain. Why her, not me? That question isn't to be answered nor relevant. It just is. Grief.Soon, that shifted: D showed she wasn't 'gone', and the connection didn't change. The overwhelm shited into gratitude. Grief and gratitude are on the same page; they are bridged by Love only. Unconditionally.Sometimes, the loss of a friend, while still alive, can be more painful because that's a deliberate choice. D...2025-04-0407 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 9 Getting your real voice out into the worldToday, exactly five years ago, in the first week of the total COVID Lockdown, Nienke started her 25 sessions of radiation therapy—a team collaboration to freeze the brain tumour growth. Everything has changed since. But this year, a friend reminded her of this five-year win. This year, it wasn't part of her life anymore, and thát was worth an even bigger celebration. Nienke imprinted herself for years, TEDx coaching wasn't her strength anymore, despite the hundreds she supported to the red dot. But when she was asked to support a large TEDx event in Italy in May...2025-03-2408 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 8 Are you a mental hoarder?If you are travelling, do you carry your whole closet with you? Summer and winter clothing, sportswear ánd bathing suits? Or do you choose what is appropriate for your journey? In her coaching, Nienke sees many mental hoarders. Clinging on to what they don't need to take with them all the time. You can tickbox your travel list and choose what you need and want to take with you. Leave behind what doesn't serve you any longer. We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoen...2025-03-1008 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 7 What story do you tell yourself?It's two months since her mom's passing, and Nienke and her father spoke a lot at that time. Creating space to bring back memories. When memories are shared over and over, they turn into stories. The story about the memory... Those stories can be helpful or block you. They always have deeper roots in what you liked or disliked when the memory was created. From there, you can choose to live that story and let that story run your life. Nowadays, world leaders live a story and create a world around them. It is up to u...2025-02-2407 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 6 Cut your Crap!Cut the Crap is, in English, a direct way of telling someone to stop saying things that are not true or not important: 'Just cut the crap and tell me what is really going on'. Playing around with words, Crabs belong to the subphylum Crustacean, the largest group of marine arthropods; most crabs move sideways, walking on four pairs of legs and holding their two legs with claws away from their body. They shed their hard shell, which would otherwise prevent growth. When the safe shell becomes too tight, it is time to create something aligned with their g...2025-02-0907 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 5 Feeling lost or in flowWhen life seems to hit us 'again' with setbacks, pain, grief, hurt, feeling misunderstood, and alienation, we can confuse resilience, which involves powerful bouncing back, with taking response-ability. We can take a look at our patterns. What might have helped us in the past is no guarantee that the present or future will be the solution to get out of your setback. In this podcast, Nienke shares the difference between bouncing back, repeating yourself, and the other choice you have. She shares her real-life examples of how she phoenixes. No matter how hard life seems to hit us...2025-02-0208 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 4 Goalsetting 2025 through a different lens2025 started already with many dynamics, such as wildfires, ceasefires, impeachment, and inauguration in polarization. In non-violent communication techniques, we can see that we act and react based on deep needs. Fight, Flight Freeze or Please modes have their roots in deeper needs. Sometimes, a third-party or helicopter view technique can help us see what is really going on. However, Heart-based meditation can also show us the way. The fact stays: we have a choice in responding to circumstances and life events around us and in us through the inward or outward path: meditation or mediation. T...2025-01-1908 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 3 Love without an agendaIt has been weeks without time and space since December 17th 2024, for Nienke. Once again, she stepped into the transition doula frequencies. December 23rd, in the morning, her mom left her physical body. Very gentle and peaceful, she blew out her candle of life. In the days before, Nienke saw first-hand the power of unconditional love between her parents, even in the transitional moments. How her mother surrendered and relaxed in the presence of her husband. Although her relationship with her mother wasn't a paved path, stepping into unconditional love facilitated its healing. R.I.P...2025-01-0208 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 2 My Dutch DNA?What are the characteristics of your country of origin, in Nienke's case, the Dutch DNA? Well-known for concurring the water, creating land from sea and rivers by building barriers like 'dijken', dyks... Or, during the Hanza's time, the trade line from Belgium to the Baltic states.... Trading the feminine way, exchange, non-violent. We had that culture until the first Brexit, when trading became a trick for expansion and slavery. The wealth at all costs, no matter the dehumidification of whole populations. Excuses are so hard to express; humbleness is a failure, it seems, in the Dutch DNA. No...2024-12-0207 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesSeason 3 nr 1 My Lessons from KoreaTo celebrate her re-birthday, Nienke went to South Korea. On a two-week, intense trip, she met real Koreans. She saw the contradiction within the country and the people. The DNA of harmony, respect, exchange, and growth is overgrown by the most toxic feeling we can have: shame. The devastating effects of trying to outsmart everybody to avoid shame are the lowest birth rate in the world and the high suicide rate among elderly people. But there is hope. In this first episode of season 3 of the Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke shares her perception of where she saw the...2024-11-1111 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 41 Create beyond the impossibleStart by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. Francis of Assisi. Over the last year, Nienke recorded a podcast every week and is closing this year's cycle in South Korea. She followed her heart's intuition and reconnected with her mission to bring ease, listening, and connection based on the Phoenix Frequencies. In this podcast, her gift to you all is a heart meditation. Click the link to join her on the Global Coherence Initiative app for her private event on October 12th. We are al...2024-10-0709 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 40 The point of no returnWhen history seems to repeat itself. When you see yourself hitting the same wall, reacting as always: defensive, creating your own truths, searching outside yourself to let others make you feel better, avoiding the point of no return? Nienke can see life looks like a history repetition, but after her point of no return three years ago, she stopped the attitude that seemed resilient but, in reality, was bouncing back. The point of no return gave her a portal to Phoenix. While phoenixed, there is no return possible. It takes courage to transform the reactor in you in...2024-09-3008 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 39 Let's make Peace a VerbNienke is counting down the days until her trip to South Korea. Part of her trip will involve visiting the demilitarisation zone (DMZ) between North and South Korea. Peace is not the absence of war but an attitude toward peace. Peace seemed hijacked by happiness in the last century, but we need to elevate our Peace attitude further than that. In Self-leadership, the practice of pause and feeling is a skill to develop. To develop the courage to pause before responding. So we can respond with response-ability. Peace isn't just the SDG 16 of the UN. (Goal 16...2024-09-2108 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 38 The purpose of a stormStorms are not there to blow you over; they are there to clear your path.Even if you try hard to find the eye of the storm, the storm still exists. If you try to BE the eye of the storm, the storm still exists. IYou have a choice to control the storm and exhaust yourself or to prepare yourself for what comes. In the calm after the storm, you can overlook what seemed chaotic but is clearing your future and revealing your hidden gems. The countdown had begun: 3 more weeks to go to co...2024-09-1606 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 37 The courage to write a new life's chapterWhat would you do if you could take all the gems of your life so far, learn from them and implement them in a new life chapter you are creating? Starting from scratch? What are you waiting for? The perfect timing? That doesn't exist.... What perfect circumstances do you want to create? They are never ready.....Nienke's grandmother Emma started her new life at the age of 90 because the new was calling her, and she loved it even more than the old.You can be the reader of your life's book others wrote for you or...2024-09-0908 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 36 Disappointment managementFeeling disappointed and acting based on that is a human thing. We can only be disappointed if we expect something upfront. Rarely do we speak about our expectations. We only act on them. In this episode, Nienke speaks about the opportunity she got to build another relationship with feelings of disappointment. It is sobering to learn from nature. Nienke shares what the Valley of the Fallen Heroes taught her. There is a new creation, no disappointment.How do you react when you feel disappointed? We are all responsible for how we show u...2024-09-0211 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 35 Triggers, glimmers and shiny objectsIf a trigger is a mental, emotional or physical response about an event that happened in your life in the past, a shiny object can become an addiction. The drive to fill the uncomfortable feeling that was created in your past. But a glimmer, that unexpected spake of beauty, joy, hope, ease, and peace, can become your self-supportive nutrition to counterbalance an overdrive of stress-related triggers. Do you dare to transform into a mature response to what you think you need? Then, it's time to be conscious of the abundance of glimmers around you that can nour...2024-08-2608 min