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The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 11 Are you connecting the dots?Over the last few months, Nienke has worked with 20 people to prepare for their TEDx Talk. To be Heard to be Heart at the same time. BE ready. Staying with your true message and true to your authentic self wasn't easy for all. Going into their topic, their story as a deep dive was an unexpected gift for many of the speakers to rise above the past. But life had a personal gift for Nienke as well, she shares in this podcast. We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to o...2025-05-1011 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 10 When losing a friend becomes an assetThis week, Nienke tunes into the sudden death of her energy work role model and old friend. At first, there was a massive magnitude of shock, grief and pain. Why her, not me? That question isn't to be answered nor relevant. It just is. Grief.Soon, that shifted: D showed she wasn't 'gone', and the connection didn't change. The overwhelm shited into gratitude. Grief and gratitude are on the same page; they are bridged by Love only. Unconditionally.Sometimes, the loss of a friend, while still alive, can be more painful because that's a deliberate choice. D...2025-04-0407 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 9 Getting your real voice out into the worldToday, exactly five years ago, in the first week of the total COVID Lockdown, Nienke started her 25 sessions of radiation therapy—a team collaboration to freeze the brain tumour growth. Everything has changed since. But this year, a friend reminded her of this five-year win. This year, it wasn't part of her life anymore, and thát was worth an even bigger celebration. Nienke imprinted herself for years, TEDx coaching wasn't her strength anymore, despite the hundreds she supported to the red dot. But when she was asked to support a large TEDx event in Italy in May...2025-03-2408 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 8 Are you a mental hoarder?If you are travelling, do you carry your whole closet with you? Summer and winter clothing, sportswear ánd bathing suits? Or do you choose what is appropriate for your journey? In her coaching, Nienke sees many mental hoarders. Clinging on to what they don't need to take with them all the time. You can tickbox your travel list and choose what you need and want to take with you. Leave behind what doesn't serve you any longer. We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoen...2025-03-1008 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 7 What story do you tell yourself?It's two months since her mom's passing, and Nienke and her father spoke a lot at that time. Creating space to bring back memories. When memories are shared over and over, they turn into stories. The story about the memory... Those stories can be helpful or block you. They always have deeper roots in what you liked or disliked when the memory was created. From there, you can choose to live that story and let that story run your life. Nowadays, world leaders live a story and create a world around them. It is up to u...2025-02-2407 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 6 Cut your Crap!Cut the Crap is, in English, a direct way of telling someone to stop saying things that are not true or not important: 'Just cut the crap and tell me what is really going on'. Playing around with words, Crabs belong to the subphylum Crustacean, the largest group of marine arthropods; most crabs move sideways, walking on four pairs of legs and holding their two legs with claws away from their body. They shed their hard shell, which would otherwise prevent growth. When the safe shell becomes too tight, it is time to create something aligned with their g...2025-02-0907 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 5 Feeling lost or in flowWhen life seems to hit us 'again' with setbacks, pain, grief, hurt, feeling misunderstood, and alienation, we can confuse resilience, which involves powerful bouncing back, with taking response-ability. We can take a look at our patterns. What might have helped us in the past is no guarantee that the present or future will be the solution to get out of your setback. In this podcast, Nienke shares the difference between bouncing back, repeating yourself, and the other choice you have. She shares her real-life examples of how she phoenixes. No matter how hard life seems to hit us...2025-02-0208 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 4 Goalsetting 2025 through a different lens2025 started already with many dynamics, such as wildfires, ceasefires, impeachment, and inauguration in polarization. In non-violent communication techniques, we can see that we act and react based on deep needs. Fight, Flight Freeze or Please modes have their roots in deeper needs. Sometimes, a third-party or helicopter view technique can help us see what is really going on. However, Heart-based meditation can also show us the way. The fact stays: we have a choice in responding to circumstances and life events around us and in us through the inward or outward path: meditation or mediation. T...2025-01-1908 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 3 Love without an agendaIt has been weeks without time and space since December 17th 2024, for Nienke. Once again, she stepped into the transition doula frequencies. December 23rd, in the morning, her mom left her physical body. Very gentle and peaceful, she blew out her candle of life. In the days before, Nienke saw first-hand the power of unconditional love between her parents, even in the transitional moments. How her mother surrendered and relaxed in the presence of her husband. Although her relationship with her mother wasn't a paved path, stepping into unconditional love facilitated its healing. R.I.P...2025-01-0208 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 2 My Dutch DNA?What are the characteristics of your country of origin, in Nienke's case, the Dutch DNA? Well-known for concurring the water, creating land from sea and rivers by building barriers like 'dijken', dyks... Or, during the Hanza's time, the trade line from Belgium to the Baltic states.... Trading the feminine way, exchange, non-violent. We had that culture until the first Brexit, when trading became a trick for expansion and slavery. The wealth at all costs, no matter the dehumidification of whole populations. Excuses are so hard to express; humbleness is a failure, it seems, in the Dutch DNA. No...2024-12-0207 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesSeason 3 nr 1 My Lessons from KoreaTo celebrate her re-birthday, Nienke went to South Korea. On a two-week, intense trip, she met real Koreans. She saw the contradiction within the country and the people. The DNA of harmony, respect, exchange, and growth is overgrown by the most toxic feeling we can have: shame. The devastating effects of trying to outsmart everybody to avoid shame are the lowest birth rate in the world and the high suicide rate among elderly people. But there is hope. In this first episode of season 3 of the Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke shares her perception of where she saw the...2024-11-1111 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 41 Create beyond the impossibleStart by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. Francis of Assisi. Over the last year, Nienke recorded a podcast every week and is closing this year's cycle in South Korea. She followed her heart's intuition and reconnected with her mission to bring ease, listening, and connection based on the Phoenix Frequencies. In this podcast, her gift to you all is a heart meditation. Click the link to join her on the Global Coherence Initiative app for her private event on October 12th. We are al...2024-10-0709 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 40 The point of no returnWhen history seems to repeat itself. When you see yourself hitting the same wall, reacting as always: defensive, creating your own truths, searching outside yourself to let others make you feel better, avoiding the point of no return? Nienke can see life looks like a history repetition, but after her point of no return three years ago, she stopped the attitude that seemed resilient but, in reality, was bouncing back. The point of no return gave her a portal to Phoenix. While phoenixed, there is no return possible. It takes courage to transform the reactor in you in...2024-09-3008 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 39 Let's make Peace a VerbNienke is counting down the days until her trip to South Korea. Part of her trip will involve visiting the demilitarisation zone (DMZ) between North and South Korea. Peace is not the absence of war but an attitude toward peace. Peace seemed hijacked by happiness in the last century, but we need to elevate our Peace attitude further than that. In Self-leadership, the practice of pause and feeling is a skill to develop. To develop the courage to pause before responding. So we can respond with response-ability. Peace isn't just the SDG 16 of the UN. (Goal 16...2024-09-2108 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 38 The purpose of a stormStorms are not there to blow you over; they are there to clear your path.Even if you try hard to find the eye of the storm, the storm still exists. If you try to BE the eye of the storm, the storm still exists. IYou have a choice to control the storm and exhaust yourself or to prepare yourself for what comes. In the calm after the storm, you can overlook what seemed chaotic but is clearing your future and revealing your hidden gems. The countdown had begun: 3 more weeks to go to co...2024-09-1606 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 37 The courage to write a new life's chapterWhat would you do if you could take all the gems of your life so far, learn from them and implement them in a new life chapter you are creating? Starting from scratch? What are you waiting for? The perfect timing? That doesn't exist.... What perfect circumstances do you want to create? They are never ready.....Nienke's grandmother Emma started her new life at the age of 90 because the new was calling her, and she loved it even more than the old.You can be the reader of your life's book others wrote for you or...2024-09-0908 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 36 Disappointment managementFeeling disappointed and acting based on that is a human thing. We can only be disappointed if we expect something upfront. Rarely do we speak about our expectations. We only act on them. In this episode, Nienke speaks about the opportunity she got to build another relationship with feelings of disappointment. It is sobering to learn from nature. Nienke shares what the Valley of the Fallen Heroes taught her. There is a new creation, no disappointment.How do you react when you feel disappointed? We are all responsible for how we show u...2024-09-0211 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 35 Triggers, glimmers and shiny objectsIf a trigger is a mental, emotional or physical response about an event that happened in your life in the past, a shiny object can become an addiction. The drive to fill the uncomfortable feeling that was created in your past. But a glimmer, that unexpected spake of beauty, joy, hope, ease, and peace, can become your self-supportive nutrition to counterbalance an overdrive of stress-related triggers. Do you dare to transform into a mature response to what you think you need? Then, it's time to be conscious of the abundance of glimmers around you that can nour...2024-08-2608 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 34 How transform your feelings of shameWhen we compare our successes or choices with our outside world and see a gap in feelings or failure, shame can sneak into us. Once shame gets hold of us, it starts to design our lives. We can drift off in directions that are not serving us at all. If we start to grow our shame under our invisible carpet, it can become a hurdle that is hard to resolve. Shame eats us, because it likes the secrets we tell ourselves as the truth... If you don't want shame to ruin your life any longer, there are...2024-08-1908 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 33 Your are not your results: identity confusionHow many certifications or diplomas degrees do you need to become who you are? How do you show up, and what do you think your identity is? Who are you? Who are you if life kicks in and all you thought you created as results don't count any longer? You are not your results of collected degrees but how you show up. Where are you compromising to make an ideal match for your family, parents, children, friends, colleagues, or boss? We have another choice. How? Nienks shares in this week's episode.We are all res...2024-08-1309 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 32 Dare to face the mirror of our pastDue to what comes our way in life, we create our perceived perception as 'the truth'. By creating our truth, we keep ourselves safe from feeling hurt, disappointed or insecure. It predicts how we listen; it shapes our actions. We create our self-protection limiting beliefs. But life will give us the same situations until we learn and transform because there is only the truth we created. Maybe you don't get what you want until you see you create what you need, in order to shift. By taking her armour down and looking under the soil to the...2024-08-0509 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 31 Transforming worrying and overcareWorrying and overcare can sneak into our lives like invited, unwanted guests. When they show up, we can give them the attention they ask for or send them away. Thank them for coming, and they are no longer needed. Nienke had the opportunity, based on possibly concerning yearly tumour check-up results, to choose between worrying and overcaring and starting a new collaboration based on what is serving her now. She chooses the new. Do you dare? We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ou...2024-07-2909 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 30 You better get dressed for todayWhen you got dressed today, did you dress for the weather of today? Or did you dress already for next week? Or for the weather of 3 months ago?If we adjust for outside circumstances why don't we do the same for for our inner circumstances? Why do respond to things as if it was years ago, or as protection what might happen in the future? How would it be if we ar prepared for all circumstances or at least tapp into the possibility to get ready for today based on today, not what was, or wha...2024-07-2207 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 29 The perfect pictureNienke inherited the photography 'eye' from her grandfather. Eyes for the unexpected angle, using a peripheral view within the bigger 'picture'. As an accountant, Nienke's grandfather used the same skill to see what needed to be seen as a thermometer within the numbers, reading the results in healthy or sick companies. Unfiltered.Real. Where do we put on filters in our lives to have a perfect picture, to look good for others? Do we dare to be real, with flaws, mistakes and unfiltered reality? Don't edit your life; enjoy reality, with or without a camera. ...2024-07-1507 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 28 Guest Dr Betty® Uribe When the ordinary becomes extraordinaryIn this episode, the special guest is Dr. Betty® Uribe. Born in Colombia, the doctors didn't have faith that she would survive. But her mother believed in her. Her life shifted over one flight from Colombia to the United States when she was 12. Important women in her life taught her lessons that made her the remarkable woman she is now. It's highly recommended that you follow her to see how she implements all that life has taught her in the past, to be present for what shows up, and to create miracles in the future by showing u...2024-07-0825 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 27 Emma's LegacyThis episode is a tribute to Nienke's grandmother, Emma Emily van Bezooijen-Spreksel, born in 1918 during WWI in Rotterdam, the Netherlands.Who grew up in poverty under mental and physical abuse. Who gave birth, just 20 years old, to a son three months before Rotterdam was bombed by the nazi-regime, starting WWII.Emma overcame her fears and anxiety when she could care for children. She started with her baby brother, who was 17 years younger than she was. Then, my father, my brother, and I, followed by my children. Emma died June 29th 2017, nearly 99 years old. She c...2024-06-2910 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 26 Maintain your dignityDignity is an inside job. Although impulses from the outside world are tempting, they are also considered dignity or self-sabotaging. Like oil and water, they don't blend well. Recognising your red flags of sabotaging your dignity is worth taking a closer look at. What if your behaviour is triggered when your dignity is under pressure? Are you giving up your dignity, or can you stand the heat? Being aware of the circumstances when you sacrifice your dignity is a start. When you recognise the red flags, you can shift. That's a Phoenix Frequency. More about H...2024-06-2407 min
The Phoenix FrequenciesEpisode 25 Can you listen outside of your box?Have you ever realised how our two human ears are put side by side and form the shape of a heart? What does it indicate? Two ears also form the core of the word "hEARt" indicates that it is important to listen to people from our neutral heart. The Albinger Institute published in 2007 The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving the Heart of Conflict. We listen from how we frame or box ourselves. That can lead to inner and outer conflict. Listening outside our self-developed box can broaden our perception from human to human rather than 'othering' or de-personalisation. Yo...2024-06-1710 min