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The Fire You Carry253: Ignoring the Mundane at Our Own PerilIn this solo episode, Nole dives deep into the tension between the cultural push for men to be extraordinary and the profound value of simply embracing the ordinary—or the mundane—in daily life.Inspired by a simple observation about a frantic lemur at an animal park ("He leads a simple life"), Nole explores the idea that while high-achieving goals (like a podcast, an adventure race, or a career milestone) are important, they occupy only a tiny fraction of our time. The bulk of our lives is spent on the ordinary, often overlooked task...
2025-12-1530 minThe Fire You Carry252: You Are Groaning, and You Should Stop.In this episode, Nole and Kevin tackle a seemingly small but significant habit: subconscious groaning and complaining. Inspired by a clip from Jocko Willink's camp, the hosts realize that those small sounds—like groaning when you stand up or sighing when the tones drop—are forms of negative self-talk and a passive concession to "letting the old man in."The conversation digs into how this mindset affects your performance as a first responder and your daily life, the stoic philosophy of Sisu, and the eternal balance between adapting to age and outr...
2025-12-0841 minThe Fire You Carry251: Kevin & the 4x4x48In this intensely personal and inspiring episode, Kevin dives deep into his recent experience completing David Goggins' legendary 4x4x48 challenge—running 4 miles every 4 hours for 48 hours. What started as a daunting personal pursuit, fueled by years of hesitation, transformed into a profound spiritual and mental breakthrough on the historic Naval Base Coronado in San Diego.Joined by his "savage" crew, Kevin pushed past his physical limits (running 10 miles farther than he ever had before!) and battled severe sleep deprivation and digestive issues.Hear Kevin's raw, honest moment of nearly qu...
2025-12-0158 minThe Fire You Carry250: Pen to PaperThe Analog Advantage: Why We Should All Carry a NotebookNole flies solo this week to discuss a personal habit he started for simplicity that turned out to have powerful scientific backing: carrying a paper notebook and pen. Frustrated with missed notifications and the constant need to pull out his phone for reminders, Nole made the switch to analog note-taking for daily tasks.This episode dives deep into the science that proves this "old-fashioned" way is actually superior for learning, memory, and cognitive health....
2025-11-2428 minThe Fire You Carry249: It's Not for Those Who Need It, It's for Those Who Want ItNole is missing in action (at the firehouse!), so Kevin steps up to the mic for a powerful solo episode. Fresh off the high of the Fire Up Program's Class 14, Kevin shares an immediate and personal debrief of the weekend.He discusses why it's so difficult—and so necessary—for first responders to take a "tactical pause" away from both work and family to reset and build resilience. This episode is a raw look at the power of brotherhood, the importance of servant leadership, and how to take the lessons from the mountain and apply them directly to y...
2025-11-1722 minThe Fire You Carry248: Silence is Painful.We live in a world of constant consumption, where every spare second is filled with music, podcasts, social media, or videos. In this solo episode, Nole explores the vital and uncomfortable practice of being alone with our thoughts. He shares insights from a Harvard professor's video on the power of "boredom" to unlock creativity, introspection, and our ability to wrestle with life's big questions. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsS...
2025-11-1017 minThe Fire You Carry247: Perception, Integrity, & Hiding the Mop.What's your motivation? In the firehouse, there are a million "unwritten rules." From leaving "veto in the toilet" to making sure there's "water on the ground" after washing the rig, many tasks are done simply to prove they were done. In this episode, Nole and Kevin dive deep into this unique aspect of firehouse culture, exploring the line between maintaining perception and acting with true integrity. They discuss whether our actions are driven by a need for recognition or by a commitment to doing the right thing, even when no one is watching. It's a fun, insightful look at...
2025-11-031h 00The Fire You Carry245: Safety Second with Jim StitzingerIn this thought-provoking episode, Nole and Kevin welcome their good friend, Pastor Jim Stitzinger, back to the show. They dive deep into a powerful concept from an article Jim wrote: Safety Second. This idea presents a revolutionary paradigm shift, challenging the common prayer to "keep us safe." Jim argues that when we make personal safety our ultimate priority, it can lead down a path of compromise and fear. Instead, the scriptures call us to pray for things like boldness, holiness, courage, and discernment.The conversation explores how this mindset applies directly to the...
2025-10-201h 10The Fire You Carry244: The 4 Phases of FatherhoodIn this solo episode, Kevin takes the helm while Nole is away and dives deep into a powerful framework for fatherhood from Jim Ramos of Men in the Arena. Whether you're a new dad or a seasoned grandfather, this episode provides a gut-check on where you are and where you're headed. Kevin breaks down the four distinct phases—Father Fidelis, Father Figure, Father Friend, and Father Forever—and connects them to the unique challenges faced by first responders. This is a must-listen for any man looking to be more intentional in his role as a father and build a last...
2025-10-1314 minThe Fire You Carry242: The Five-Year Interview with KevinAfter a three-week hiatus, Kevin is back in the co-host chair! In honor of his return and the podcast's five-year anniversary, Nole turns the tables and interviews Kevin as if he were a guest on the show.The guys kick things off with personal updates, including Nole's restorative trip to Hume Lake and his journey of finding a new church for his family after being challenged by the podcast community. From there, they dive into a deep discussion about the last five years of "The Fire You Carry," their vision for its future, and their dream guests.
2025-09-2952 minThe Fire You Carry241: Why Did It Hurt So Much? Reaction to the Charlie Kirk Assassination, Featuring Jeff Lilley.In this powerful and reflective episode, Nole sits down with his father, Jeff Lilley, to process their deep, visceral reactions to the assassination of Charlie Kirk. They explore why this event stirred up such strong emotions for so many. The conversation delves into the complex emotions of anger, grief, and the desire for justice, while also examining the political polarization that has led to a moment where tragedy is celebrated by some and mourned by others. Ultimately, they ask the crucial question: How does an event like this become a catalyst for change, and what do we do now?
2025-09-221h 17The Fire You Carry240: Distracted in AlaskaIn this short solo episode, Nole shares a powerful reflection from a recent, life-changing trip to Alaska with his wife. Hosted by Samaritan's Purse and Firefighters for Christ, the retreat was meant to honor families impacted by major fires. But amidst the stunning landscapes of Mystic Lake Lodge, Nole found himself overwhelmed by a profound sense of distraction—not the negative, anxiety-inducing kind from our phones and screens, but a beautiful, soul-filling distraction by the sheer immensity of God's creation.He explores the difference between man-made distractions that pull us away from what matters and the "good" di...
2025-09-1515 minThe Fire You Carry239: The Day I Couldn't Be ThereIn this deeply personal solo episode, Nole shares the recent, difficult experience of saying goodbye to his beloved family cat, Finn. An unexpected work call-up prevents Nole from being there, forcing him to rely on his wife, Heather, and his son, North, to handle the heart-wrenching task. This event becomes a powerful catalyst for reflection on a father's desire to shield his family from pain, the profound growth that happens when we let our loved ones carry heavy responsibilities, and the importance of choosing to show up for life's hardest moments.Join Nole as he explores the...
2025-09-0820 minThe Fire You Carry238: Let Them Carry the Fries.In this lighthearted and wide-ranging episode, Kevin and Nole share lessons from fatherhood, fitness, and finance. The guys reflect on the fast-approaching reality of retirement and the importance of taking small, consistent actions to prepare for the future. They discuss the parental tightrope walk of balancing saving money with making memories, and the daily challenge of trusting your kids with more responsibility (even if it means risking a tray of fries). Nole shares a humbling story about becoming "the old guy" at the station doing a workout, and the crucial mindset shift required to keep showing up. The conversation...
2025-09-0157 minThe Fire You Carry237: It's Not Enough, It Never Was."It's Not Enough" - Dustin Kensrue (In the episode, Nole mistakenly stated that this song was performed by The Modern Post)https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SeRSlQlPkpo&ab_channel=DustinKensrueVEVOIn this solo episode, Nole gets vulnerable about the universal, timeless struggle for meaning and satisfaction. Drawing inspiration from the ancient wisdom of Ecclesiastes and the powerful song "It's Not Enough" by Dustin Kensrue, he explores why our pursuits of worldly comfort, pleasure, and success always leave us feeling empty.Reflecting on his recent experience at a Fire Up program, Nole shares...
2025-08-2526 minThe Fire You Carry236: When the Lifesaver Needs Saving, with Jason Sautel.In this deeply moving episode, Nole and Kevin sit down with Jason Sautel, a retired Oakland firefighter and the author of the powerful memoir, "The Rescuer." Jason shares his harrowing journey from a traumatic childhood to the front lines of one of America's busiest fire departments.Jason pulls back the curtain on the "stone-cold lifesaver" persona, revealing the internal darkness and despair that hid behind his acclaimed career. He recounts the moment he hit rock bottom, planning to take his own life, and the painful experience of being turned away by a church in his darkest hour...
2025-08-181h 34The Fire You Carry234: Mouth Taping, Traumatic Calls, and Feeding the Good DogIn this episode, Nole and Kevin jump straight in with an urgent call to action for everyone to sign up for the 9/11 Memorial Stair Climb. The guys then dive into a compelling discussion about the book "The Rescuer" by Jason Sautel, exploring the idea that first responders leave a piece of themselves on every call. This leads to a broader conversation about professionalism, personal accountability, and the internal battle between doing what you know is right versus taking the easy way out, whether that's cleaning the station bathrooms or avoiding the endless dopamine chase of "...
2025-08-0450 minThe Fire You Carry233: A Life Changing Question, for David Hartmann the Answer is Lightning McQueenWhat can a talking race car teach us about our own lives? In this episode, Nole and David Hartman dive deep into the unexpected and profound life lessons from the Cars trilogy, using Lightning McQueen's journey as a powerful metaphor for our own.The conversation explores how we find pieces of ourselves in the characters we love and how their stories can guide our personal growth. From the intense pressure of competition to the humbling journey of self-discovery, this episode touches on the core struggles we all face. Nole and David discuss the weight of financial stress...
2025-07-282h 15The Fire You Carry229: Kevin Defeats a Woman on the Stairmaster & God Tells Nole to Man Up.In this episode of the Fire You Carry podcast, hosts Nole and Kevin explore a variety of topics ranging from the impact of marketing on consumer behavior to personal fitness challenges and the importance of community. They share personal anecdotes about their fitness journeys, discuss the emotional and mental challenges associated with nicotine withdrawal, and reflect on the significance of having deep conversations with God. The episode also highlights the importance of pushing personal boundaries, embracing emotions, and the joy of shared experiences, particularly in fitness and community events.Big thank you to My...
2025-06-3050 minThe Fire You Carry227: When Strength FailsIn this heartfelt episode, Nole shares his personal struggles with mental health, vulnerability, and the journey of healing. He discusses the challenges of quitting nicotine, the impact of past traumas, and the importance of faith and community support in overcoming difficulties. Nole emphasizes the need for honesty and vulnerability in sharing experiences, encouraging listeners to seek help and lean on their faith during tough times.Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel...
2025-06-1716 minThe Fire You Carry225: Addiction, What Nole is Quitting & Why. (No, it's not Caffeine)In this conversation, Kevin and Nole delve into their personal struggles with caffeine and nicotine addiction, exploring the impact of these substances on their lives and relationships. They discuss the challenges of self-control, the importance of honesty in marriage, and the complexities of negotiating addiction with loved ones. The dialogue emphasizes the need for self-awareness and the journey towards quitting addictive substances, highlighting the balance between moderation and abstinence. In this episode, Nole and Kevin also discuss personal challenges related to nicotine addiction and fitness, share financial lessons learned from past hardships, and emphasize the importance of setting financial...
2025-05-2653 minThe Fire You Carry223: Chasing Equilibrium: An Ongoing Search for BalanceIn this conversation, Kevin and Nole discuss their recent experiences during spring break, focusing on family adventures, culinary delights, and the emotional connections they feel in their faith journeys. They explore the importance of community, the balance between routine and spirituality, and the need for mindfulness in their daily lives. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of being present and the challenges of tracking progress in personal growth. In this conversation, Nole and Kevin explore various themes related to fitness, motivation, personal struggles, and spirituality. They discuss the importance of building muscle for longevity, the balance between fitness goals and...
2025-05-051h 00The Fire You Carry222: It's Difficult to Do, So I Don't Do It.In this episode of the Fire You Carry podcast, Nole reflects on the challenges of addressing personal struggles and the importance of sharing burdens within a community. He emphasizes the need for vulnerability and support, particularly among men, and discusses biblical teachings encouraging open communication about struggles. Nole also highlights the transformative experiences offered through the Fire Up program, which aims to create a space for men to share their challenges and grow together. He concludes with encouragement for those in training, reminding them that difficult times are temporary and achievable goals are within reach.Big thank...
2025-04-2823 minThe Fire You Carry218: Nole's Answer to Question #4 is Going to be Controversial.In this episode, Kevin and Nole work through the second half of the list of questions they started in episode 217. Through answering these, they explore various themes related to the fire service, including the importance of mentorship, adaptability in challenging situations, and the unique culture within firefighting. They share personal anecdotes about their experiences and delve into controversial opinions regarding firefighting practices. The conversation emphasizes the significance of camaraderie, learning from mentors, and the ability to pivot in both professional and personal life. Beware the minced garlic and watch out for Nole's answer to question #4, you'll hate it.
2025-03-241h 00The Fire You Carry216: Burpees for Lent?In this conversation, Nole and Kevin discuss the significance of Lent, the importance of spiritual disciplines, and how to navigate the busyness of life while maintaining focus on personal growth. They share their commitments for the 40-day period leading up to Easter, including fitness challenges, fasting, and prayer practices. The discussion emphasizes the value of structure, discipline, and giving back during this reflective season. In this conversation, Nole and Kevin explore the themes of sacrifice, discipline, and the importance of flexibility in personal commitments, especially in the context of family and spirituality. They encourage listeners to embrace discomfort as...
2025-03-1053 minThe Fire You Carry211: The Mental & Emotional Effects of the Eaton Fire.In this episode, Nole goes solo to talk about some of the mental and emotional effects of fighting the Eaton Fire. Podcast email: thefireyoucarry@gmail.comNole's email: nolerltw@gmail.comhttps://youtu.be/FXz0ZTwl_iI?si=y332JFE3q9ShiHIpThe video is referenced in the episode.Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsSign up for a class at T...
2025-02-0330 minThe Fire You Carry210: Eaton Fire, First On Scene.We are back! In this episode, Kevin and Nole talk about the Eaton Fire. The Eaton Fire started in station 66's area, where Nole is currently stationed, and yes, Nole was on duty the day it started. We are barely able to scratch the surface of everything that went on during the course of this fire, but for those of you who have been wondering what we've been up to, it's time to find out. Podcast email: thefireyoucarry@gmail.comNole's email: nolerltw@gmail.comhttps://youtu.be/FXz0ZTwl_iI?si=y332JFE3q...
2025-01-271h 10The Fire You Carry209: New Year, New Challenges & Nole gets and Interview.In this conversation, Nole and Kevin discuss Nole's journey toward the Captain's Academy, exploring the challenges and personal growth that come with it. The discussion shifts to the importance of family time and intentional planning for adventures, as well as the physical challenges they are considering for the year. They reflect on the value of embracing failure and resilience in their pursuits, emphasizing the need for continuous improvement and dedication to their goals.Nole's email: nolerltw@gmail.comhttps://youtu.be/FXz0ZTwl_iI?si=y332JFE3q9ShiHIpThe video is referenced in...
2025-01-0653 minThe Fire You Carry186: Some Life Lessons Gleaned From Loosing Children, Or, Life Lessons Learned The Hard Way.In this episode, Nole goes solo to talk through some of the lessons he has picked up along the way after the deaths of two of his and his wife's sons. This episode was recorded close to the 19-year anniversary of the loss of their first son and is something that Nole has felt called to record for years, only recently finding the courage and motivation to do so. While the lessons here stem from a particular type of loss, Nole does his best to connect those lessons to other life experiences that you have likely walked through or...
2024-07-2937 minThe Fire You Carry180: On Post Traumatic Stress & How Nole Has Been Failing To Deal With It ProperlyIn this week's episode, Nole shares his recent struggles with Post Traumatic Stress and his failure to deal with it in the ways he knows work. Kevin also shares his perspective on dealing with similar struggles, and we delve into what we know works when dealing with difficult times in our lives. Often, there is a separation between what we know we should do and what we actually do. Nole has been in that place of late, but it's time to go into the storm and start doing the hard things because we know there is only one way...
2024-06-1055 minThe Fire You Carry179: The Ranger CreedIn this week's episode, Nole talks through the Ranger Creed, why it exists and what it means in his life now, so many years removed from his time in the 75th Ranger Regiment. Nole's time in Ranger Battlaion shaped a lot of who he is as a man today and the Ranger Creed was a part of that. Through this episode Nole explains how he has continued to carry this creed in his life through changing his perspective on it so that it applies to his life now, as a civilian. Big thank you to My Epic a...
2024-06-0329 minThe Fire You Carry164: The Division Inspection, Why It's Good, Why Nole Hates It & Why You Should Do It In Your Personal LifeIn this week's episode, Kevin and Nole explore the ins and outs of the dreaded division inspection. We talk about why it's a tradition in the fire service, why it's good and bad, and why we think it's something we should implement in our personal lives as well. Thank you for listening! Don't forget to follow the links in the show notes and join us in Discord to continue the conversation. MyZone facility code for The Fire You Carry: CALIFUS001Get $60 off a MZ-Switch Heart Rate Monitor!https://buy.myzone.org/?lang=enUS&voucher=C...
2024-02-0541 minThe Fire You Carry162: Two Opportunities To Join Us In Person That Are Coming Up Soon! Plus, Nole Enters The New Year Unmotivated & Kevin Offers Some Great Insight.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole announce an exciting partnership with Hold The Line. The Fire Up Program and Hold The Line will be doing a shared fundraising event on March 3rd, it will be out in Redlands at Escape Brewery. It will be a raffle event with lots of great prizes and a wonderful opportunity to hang out and support not one, but two great nonprofits. We also talk about a one-day fitness, cold exposure, breathing, and mindset event that Nole will be spearheading in February. It will be up in the mountains and for more details...
2024-01-0845 minThe Fire You Carry156: This Is Not A Time For Complacency, This Is A Time For Action.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are fired up and issuing a challenge to take the month of December as an opportunity to grow and gain momentum as we move into the next year. They've got a fitness challenge for you to participate in this month and a list of some of the top things to work on in your journey to becoming the man you want to be. It is imperative that you get into the Discord group and the MyZone group so that you can move through the Christmas season with Nole, Kevin, and the other...
2023-11-2700 minThe Fire You Carry154: Confronting Failure As Fathers & How We Can Do Better.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are talking about fatherhood. The conversation gets started as Nole relates a pretty tough moment he had with his youngest son and what he has since tried to do to correct the lack of balance that brought the whole incident about.Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsWolves At The Gate - "When I Was Older"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v...
2023-11-1354 minThe Fire You Carry152: Kevin Goes Fishing & Nole Changes His Mind On Carnivore.In this week's episode, we hear from Kevin and his experience as he took his wife out this last weekend, fly fishing with Jon and Emily Engle as part of their non-profit Hold The Line. We also delve into why Nole no longer feels the same way about the carnivore diet and what he's doing differently now. Additionally, we talked about our first couple of days with the 22 for 22 challenge raising money for Mighty Oaks. If you're not already in the challenge with us, it's not too late! Join us today. Chaplains Breakfast registration. https://www...
2023-10-231h 01The Fire You Carry150: Pronouns & Why Nole Doesn't Train Jiu Jitsu, But You Should.Kevin & Nole are back with their thoughts on how to teach their kids about topics they didn't deal with growing up, in this case, pronouns. They also get into why Nole doesn't train Jiu Jitsu but he thinks you should. Finally, they discuss how to deal with the things in life you will miss as part of the life of a first responder. Check out the links below! MyZone facility code for The Fire You Carry: CALIFUS001Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our...
2023-10-0946 minThe Fire You Carry149: Nole Tracks a BMX Track Ride with a Garmin & Kevin Searches for New Fitness Motivation.This episode contains a conversation between Nole and Kevin that ranges all over the place. From wearing a Garmin watch to riding on a BMX track to finding fitness motivation when you don't have "something on the calendar". MyZone facility code for The Fire You Carry: CALIFUS001Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsGet $60 off a MZ-Switch Heart Rate Monitor!https://buy.myzone.org/?lang=enUS&voucher=C...
2023-10-021h 05The Fire You Carry148: Resilience and Strength with Captain Evan HalquistCaptain Evan Halquist of L.A.Co.F.D. joins Nole and Kevin on this episode to talk about the upcoming Health Summit event that he has organized and will be speaking at, along with several other amazing guys. This event will be held at the Los Angeles County Fire Museum on October 28th, starting at 0900. It is a free event and is currently open to members of the Los Angeles County Fire Association. Both Nole and Kevin will be there and we would love to see you there too! So make sure you follow the links in the...
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A Warriors Perspective041: Nole & Andy Share Some Personal Stories & Dig Into 1 John Chapter 3In this week's episode, Andy and Nole are back in 1 John and talking about sin, righteousness, and what it looks like to practice both. There are some personal stories in this episode and those stories require us to put a bit of a disclaimer at the beginning of the show, but do not let that deter you from listening. I promise that you will get some great stuff out of this episode and the stories we share. Listen to this short episode for more information on the stair climb. https://open.spotify.com/episode/5zCdp73qO38...
2023-08-231h 17The Fire You Carry143: Resilience, Parenting, and Pursuing A Dream: With Josh Lailson.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are joined by Josh Lailson. Josh has an amazing story of overcoming obstacles and never allowing hardship to hold him back. Through Josh and his story, we get some wonderful parenting insights and encouragement that we can all apply to our own lives. This episode will leave you smiling and with some tips on positive changes you can start making in your own life today. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch...
2023-08-211h 13A Warriors Perspective040: Andrew & His Wife Get Baptized! Then, 1 John Part 2 With Josh & Nole.In this week's episode Andrew, Josh, and Nole continue in the book of 1 John. Andrew also shares how he and his wife were recently baptized and some other awesome ways God is working in his life.
2023-08-161h 00A Warriors Perspective039: 1 John Part One With Andrew & Nole.In this week's episode, Andrew and Nole read through 1 John chapter 1 and part of chapter 2. There is so much great content in this book and we would love to hear your thoughts on this section of scripture! If you would like to reach out to us the best place to do that is through our Instagram, the link for that is below. A Warriors Perspective Instagram.https://www.instagram.com/awarriorsperspective/
2023-08-0959 minA Warriors Perspective038: Hebrews 11 With Andrew & NoleIn this episode, Andrew and Nole get into Hebrews 11 and have a great talk on faith. They also recap the department day of prayer and plans for the future with other events like this. A Warriors Perspective Instagram.https://www.instagram.com/awarriorsperspective/"Lower Still" - My Epic.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XCnlpZfVD4cThe Screwtape Letters.https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Screwtape-Letters-Audiobook/B002V8DJ16?qid=1690918651&sr=1-1&ref=a_search_c3_lProduct_1_1&pf_rd_p=83218cca-c308-412f-bfcf-90198b687a2f&pf_rd_r=R72VD7...
2023-08-011h 05The Fire You Carry139: The Past Doesn't Exist, The Future Is Fear, With Max Kayes.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are back with an in-person interview with Max Kayes. Max is a licensed marriage and family therapist and life and business coach that both Nole and Kevin have spoken to a lot over the years in their personal lives. We last had Max on two years ago and his episode is in our top ten most popular. His return to the podcast today does not disappoint. We cover so many topics involving mental health, keeping your marriage strong, and balancing your work and life at home. Max even turns the tables on...
2023-07-241h 54The Fire You Carry127: Nole Gets Some Incredibly Good NewsIn this week's episode, Nole and Kevin talk about the great news Nole just received after a long fight. They also talk about dealing with friends and family who don't see some life decisions through the same lens you do and how to handle that. Don't miss this one! Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsThe Fire Up Progam video.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec...
2023-04-2450 minThe Fire You Carry126: Finding Motivation, Nole Can't Jump In The Deep End Of The Pool & Being Surrounded By SavagesNole and Kevin are back recording together again this week! What will they talk about? Well, listen and find out! Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsThe Fire Up Progam video.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I__ErPW46Ec&t=12s&ab_channel=FireUpProgramThe Fire You Carry Instagram.https://www.instagram.com/thefireyoucarry/Sign up for a class at The Fire Up P...
2023-04-1055 minThe Fire You Carry124: Working To ExhaustionIn this week's episode, Nole is back with another lesson learned during the record-breaking snowfall at his house. During the storm, Nole pushed himself past the point of exhaustion and paid the price for it. In this short episode, he shares a few of the things he did wrong and talks about how he plans on approaching these kinds of challenges in the future. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecords...
2023-03-2717 minThe Fire You Carry122: Andrew Lawrence Of A Warriors Perspective PodcastIn this week's episode, Nole is joined by Andrew Lawrence of A Warriors Perspective Podcast. Andrew came up to the mountain to bring supplies and help dig out some of Nole's neighbors and once all that was done, record an episode. Andrew tells the story of his buddies falling through a roof on a structure fire and how that experience led him into dealing with his post-traumatic stress. Whether or not you think PTS is an issue in your life the lessons here will be good for you to learn. Thank you for listening! Big thank you...
2023-03-131h 13The Fire You Carry121: Nole Gives An Update On The Massive Snow Storm That Hit The San Bernardino MountainsIn this special bonus episode, Nole talks through his family's experience during the #snowmageddon2023 that hit the San Bernardino Mountains in late February 2023. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsNole Needs Help - A Warriors Perspective Podcast.https://open.spotify.com/episode/3twgzoiMYKsbrLrQq20Kti?si=5feec74aab554318Sign up for a class at The Fire Up Program!https://fireupprogram.com/programs/Donate to The F...
2023-03-0940 minThe Fire You Carry120: David Liapis On Suffering Well & Space ForceIn this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are joined by David Liapis for a conversation that you should not miss. David's family has walked through suffering for a long time and David's thoughts on this journey are honest and insightful. He also takes us a little bit behind the scenes on the launch of Space Force which is fascinating and clearly distracting to both Kevin and Nole as they attempt to derail the entire episode to satisfy their curiosity. Make sure you follow the links in the show notes to David's blog and books! Big thank you t...
2023-03-061h 12A Warriors Perspective032: Nole Asks For Help & Gives An Update On His SituationIn this week's episode, Nole goes solo to explain where he is at with his fight against the mandate and talks about how it has been affecting him and his family. He also talks about his need for help. See the link below if you want to support Nole and his family. Thank you. Support the Lilley family. https://www.givesendgo.com/TheLilleys
2023-02-2316 minThe Fire You Carry116: Justin Kalnas & The Importance Of Who You Surround Yourself With.In this episode, Kevin and Nole are joined by Justin Kalnas. Justin is an all-around good dude and a known savage. Together we talk through his time as a fire explorer for multiple departments, to his time as a Sheriff's Deputy, and into his career now with L.A. County Fire. This episode is replete with great life lessons that you do not want to miss. And as an added bonus, Nole announces the hero workout we will be doing for the month of February. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the u...
2023-02-061h 12The Fire You Carry112: Tyler Napier, Adopting Three Boys, Being On The School Board & Dealing With The Satanic TempleIn this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are joined by Tyler Napier. Tyler and Nole have been friends since they worked together at Hume when they were both teenagers. Tyler and his wife Michelle have 3 daughters of their own plus 3 adopted boys, the story of the process that led to that adoption is both heartwarming and heart-wrenching. Tyler doesn't sugarcoat it and shares honestly about his thoughts and experiences both good and bad. And in addition to that you get to hear about his experience dealing with the satanic temple as a member of his local school board. Don't...
2023-01-091h 17The Fire You Carry107: Joel Weldon, The Power Of Your Voice.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are joined by Joel Weldon. Joel currently works as a voice actor for companies like Ford and Carls Junior. He also teaches others to learn how to use their voice to its full potential and become better communicators. In the past, he spent 8 summers at Hume Lake Christian Camps doing music, along with traveling the country playing music, putting our records, and writing songs for himself and others. We had a lot of fun on this recording and learned a lot along the way, enjoy!Big thank you to My...
2022-12-051h 15The Fire You Carry106: Dustin Schlegel, Selling Everything To Move His Family Across The Country & Starting His Own BusinessIn this week's episode, Nole and Kevin are joined by Dustin Schlegel. Dustin is Nole's brother-in-law and someone that Nole respects and admires greatly. Dustin shares his story of choosing to move his family across the country from Colorado to Tennessee without a job or a place to live. He also shares some outstanding life lessons through his story of leaving his current job to launch his own business. Don't miss this one! Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com...
2022-11-2154 minThe Fire You Carry105: Rich Zuniga On Why He Left "Talking Out Of My Stash" Behind & What He Is Doing NowIn this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are joined once again by our good friend Rich Zuniga. Rich is here to talk about why he left behind the world of YouTube and Podcasting and to share what he is working on now. This is a fun episode with lots of laughter so don't miss it. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsDonate to The Fire Up Program.https://fireupprogram.c...
2022-11-141h 04The Fire You Carry103: How To Deal With ConflictIn this week's episode, Kevin and Nole talk about conflict. This topic arose from a situation Nole recently dealt with and spurred a conversation that you will find beneficial. This is likely a topic you've never really thought about too much but as you'll see there's a lot to break down here. Enjoy. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsDonate to The Fire Up Program.https://fireupprogram.com/donate/
2022-10-3134 minThe Fire You Carry102: What Is Motivating Us & Is It Good?In this week's episode, Nole and Kevin talk about why the motivations behind your actions matter, even if what you are doing is a "good" thing. We also recap Class 3 of The Fire Up Program, and we're asking for your help so make sure you listen to the end of the episode to find out how you can partner with us. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsDonate to The F...
2022-10-2439 minA Warriors Perspective020: October Update With Josh, Andy & NoleIn this episode, Josh, Andy, and Nole talk about what the realities of leaving the union will look like, the corruption on the Board of Supervisors, and the current state of morale in the department. Nole also gives a brief update on his fight with the county regarding Fulgent registration. The views and opinions expressed on this podcast are strictly those of the hosts, they do not reflect the views or opinions of any organization that we may work for or be members of.
2022-10-2149 minThe Fire You Carry100: Dr. Sam Ho On His Families Escape From Communism, Growing Up In America & Joining The ArmyIn this week's episode, Nole and Kevin are joined by Dr. Sam Ho. Kevin has been a patient of Dr. Ho for the last couple of years and was impressed by his story, commitment to his family, and drive. Dr. Ho's story is a fantastic example of a family's tenacity and bravery to escape communism and pursue a better life in the United States. We actually ran out of time to talk to the Doctor about everything we wanted to so this one is going to end up being part one of a series. Thank you for listening!
2022-10-101h 07The Fire You Carry099: Jeremy Stalnecker On Resiliency, Courage & Finding Balance.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are joined once again by Jeremy Stalnecker. Jeremy is the CEO of Mighty Oaks, hosts several of his own podcast, and has written multiple books. Every time we talk to Jeremy we come away having learned something and motivated to be better in our own lives, this conversation is no different. Make sure you follow the links in the show notes to subscribe to Jeremy's podcasts, read his blog, and while you're at it go buy one of his books. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for t...
2022-10-031h 12A Warriors Perspective019: Nole Receives Another Notice Of Intent To Discharge.In this episode, Nole goes over the latest and potentially last disciplinary letter from the County of Los Angeles Fire Department. Discharge from County service is on the horizon and Nole's integrity is called into question.
2022-09-2219 minThe Fire You Carry098: 9/11 Memorial Stair Climb Recap, A Fitness Challenge & An Invite To Our First Ever A.M.A.In this week's episode, Kevin & Nole give a recap of last week's Memorial Stair Climb event with our sponsor Core Health and Fitness. We throw down the gauntlet for the first time in far too long with a fitness challenge that you may recognize. And, we invite you to join us for our first ever A.M.A. style discussion over in our Discord group. Don't miss this one, we've got multiple calls to action in here and we need your support! Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "H...
2022-09-1933 minThe Fire You Carry096: Master Chief David Dearie On LeadershipIn this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are joined by former Master Chief in the Navy, David Dearie. David spent a career in the Navy and now has his own podcast where he talks about leadership with other members of the military. Additionally, he also founded a non-profit that teaches leadership courses to enlisted members of the military. Follow the links below and subscribe to David's podcast to hear more. Register for the memorial stair climb event on 9/11!https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfdflYSZEq7_msTzev6qOLK4xfZWN88GXx8nuzDh662Fh-Mpw/viewformDavid's...
2022-09-051h 00The Fire You Carry095: Pastor Jim Stitzinger On Being A Reference Point, Raising Daughters & Challenging Yourself While Leading Your FamilyIn this week's episode, Nole and Kevin are joined by Jim Stitzinger. Jim is a Pastor at Crossroads Community Church in Valencia CA, he serves as a Chaplain with the Los Angeles County Sheriffs Department and he is a husband and father. Jim has some great stories and perspectives in this interview, both Nole and Kevin were taking notes during the episode of all the takeaways they want to apply to their own lives. We know you'll get some good stuff out of this episode, make sure you listen all the way through this one.....Big thank...
2022-08-221h 03The Fire You Carry094: Selfishness, Why It's Bad & What To Do About It.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole discuss the topic of selfishness. With stories of some of the areas of life, we struggle with selfishness and why we think it's an important thing to be aware of and fight. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsJason Teter's Instagram. Go tell him to launch his podcast, Triumph!https://www.instagram.com/teter_n/Travis Knabe's Instagram. Go tell h...
2022-08-1551 minThe Fire You Carry093: Tattoos, Kevin Stares At The Sun & Nole Doesn't Listen To Podcasts.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole talk tattoos, Nole's complete lack of podcast listening, and why looking at the sun is critical. Enjoy!Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsKevin's Instagram.https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=enGet on the waiting list for the Fire Up Program!https://fireupprogram.com/Nole's Instagram.https://www.instagram.com/nolelilley/?hl=en...
2022-08-0844 minThe Fire You Carry092: Danny Coon Of Bullet Proof First Responder, On Courage.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are joined by Danny Coon. Danny is currently retired after a long and impactful career in law enforcement. He worked as a Military Police Officer in the United States Army and spent the rest of his time working for Los Angeles County Sheriff's Department where he retired at the rank of sergeant. Danny is passionate about issues confronting the first responder communities, especially regarding faith and post-traumatic stress injury. Danny writes articles for his website, Bullet Proof First Responder (link below) in order to provide awareness and tools for the first responder...
2022-08-011h 13The Fire You Carry091: Nole Gets Suspended Without Pay, Kevin Updates On His Recovery From Neck Surgery & Nole Gets Defeated In A Workout.In this week's episode, Kevin gives us an update on his continuing recovery from neck surgery and some lessons being learned through it. Nole talks about getting defeated in a workout and how that experience highlighted some weaknesses and failures. Nole also gives an update on the continuing disciplinary process he is going through with Los Angeles County Fire. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsKevin's Instagram.https://www.i...
2022-07-2550 minA Warriors Perspective014: Nole Gets Suspended Without Pay From Los Angeles County Fire Department.In this episode, Nole gives a quick update on getting suspended without pay from Los Angeles County Fire Department for his continued refusal to comply with the Covid-19 mandate.
2022-07-2515 minThe Fire You Carry090: A Harmless Man Is Not A Good Man, With Dave TeboIn this week's episode, Kevin and Nole are joined again by Dave Tebo. Dave is one of our fellow cadre members at The Fire Up Program, a great husband, father, leader, and a well-known savage in many realms of life. We recorded this episode based on a conversation we had after our recent podcast discussing quotes from Jordan Petersen. Dave shared with us a quote we missed and we worked on tying it back to some Biblical truths. This is a great conversation, but, make sure you listen to the end to hear how Dave recently had an experience...
2022-07-1857 minThe Fire You Carry089: A Discussion On Jordan Peterson QuotesIn this week's episode, Kevin and Nole talk about some of Nole's favorite Jordan Peterson quotes. As with everything related to Jordan Peterson there is a lot to unpack here. Enjoy the conversation and we'd love to hear your take on these or your own favorite quotes from JP or anyone else. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsKevin's Instagram.https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=enG...
2022-07-0453 minThe Fire You Carry088: Kevin Gets Injured Again & We Talk Through Conquering The False Summits Of LifeIn this week's episode, Kevin and Nole talk through the reality of dealing with "false summits" in life. A false summit is when we have a plan or a goal and we feel we are about to achieve it, but life steps in and we realize we're not going to accomplish what we thought we were going to, at least not in the time frame we originally thought. How do we deal with that?Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube...
2022-06-2754 minThe Fire You Carry087: Uncle Rico, Getting Stuck In The Past & Being Reliant On Old Glory.In this week's episode, Kevin and Nole delve into the tendency many of us have to get stuck reliving the glory days when we accomplished something we perceived as good, or special. The temptation to allow this to become an excuse to not work as hard as we should is real and something that we have both struggled with. We talk about this through the lens of Uncle Rico, and if you have ever watched Napoleon Dynamite, you instantly will understand the connection. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use...
2022-06-2051 minThe Fire You Carry086: When Your Brain Tells You To Cheat, Tell Your Brain To Pound Sand.In this week's episode, Nole goes solo to talk about his ongoing battle with the temptation to cheat during his solo workouts. The desire to cheat in the small areas in life will bleed over into other areas and life and grow, so it needs to be fought and conquered at the lowest level in your life possible, for me, that's my workouts. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsKevin's I...
2022-06-1323 minThe Fire You Carry083: Kevin & Nole Talk Fire Up Class 2, Fitness & Things We're Working On In Life.Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsNole's Instagram.https://www.instagram.com/nolelilley/?hl=enKevin's Instagram.https://www.instagram.com/kevinpwelsh/?hl=enGet on the waiting list for the Fire Up Program!https://fireupprogram.com/Fire Up Program Instagram Account.https://www.instagram.com/fireup_program/Join us on Discord.https://discord.gg/rkDa9Ae27q
2022-05-2346 minThe Fire You Carry082: The Dangers Of Idolizing Comfort & EntertainmentIn this week's episode Kevin challenges Nole with a great topic; are we making idols out of comfort and entertainment? There are so many areas of our lives that we intentionally put ourselves into uncomfortable situations because we know the outcomes will be beneficial. Are we doing that same thing in our lives at home as husbands and fathers? This is a fun episode with some great stories, don't miss it!Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v...
2022-05-0952 minThe Fire You Carry081: Matt Belcastro, Chief Warrant Officer II, Leadership Of Marines, Family & Fitness.In this episode, Kevin and Nole are joined by Matt Belcastro. Matt is an active duty Marine, currently at the rank of Chief Warrant Officer 2. He is a husband and father, devoted to his faith, his family, and his fitness. This episode has a lot of great knowledge about leadership, both in the workplace and at home. We also talk about Mighty Oaks where Matt and Kevin met recently and of course, we talk fitness. Enjoy. Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!h...
2022-04-251h 20The Fire You Carry079: Kevin Goes To Mighty Oaks & An Update On His Recovery From His Broken Collar Bone.In this episode, Kevin and Nole talk about Kevin's recent trip to one of Mighty Oaks Legacy Programs. Mighty Oaks is a non-profit ministry that helps veterans and first responders deal with post-traumatic stress and build resiliency to deal with the traumatic parts of life and the job. We also get an update on Kevin's injury and find out when he'll be able to return to work. Branden Kunath Episode.https://www.buzzsprout.com/1325479/6597604Jeremy Stalnecker Episode.https://www.buzzsprout.com/1325479/8447336 Mighty Oaks Website.https://www.mightyoaksprograms.org/J...
2022-04-1145 minThe Fire You Carry078: Retired Fire Captain Kevin Tobia, Leading Firemen & Leading Your Family, Surviving Retirement & The Fire Up Program.In this episode, Kevin and I are very excited to have Captain Kevin Tobia join us. KT is widely respected here at Los Angeles County Fire and had a great career here that spanned 34 years. His leadership of the men he worked with was top-notch and was personally witnessed and experienced by both Kevin and Nole. On top of that KT is a great husband, father, and friend. This episode is filled with some of the wisdom the KT has gained from those years of experience and we know you will get something out of this one regardless of...
2022-04-041h 22A Warriors Perspective010: Big Win! Nole & Andy Receive Another Letter From The County, This Time It's Good News.In this episode, Andy, Josh, and Nole talk about the letters of rescission of all discipline that have gone out to those who have still remained unregistered with Fulgent. There is more to the story than just this but it's a big win and definitely something we are very happy about. We also give an update on other mandate issues and some of the other things going on within the department. Don't miss this one!
2022-04-031h 02A Warriors Perspective008: Nole Receives His Intent To Terminate LetterIn this brief episode, Nole talks through receiving his "Intent to Terminate" letter from the County of Los Angeles Fire Department.
2022-03-0622 minThe Fire You Carry072: Nole Get's Called Out & The Fire Up Program Class One Was Amazing, Brutal & LifechangingIn this episode, Kevin and Nole break down more of what The Fire Up Program is, why it has been amazing so far and how they intend to make it even better in the future with the rest of the cadre, Chris, Dave, and Jason. Nole also shares a story that involves him getting called out by a friend, getting "stabbed in the front". Big thank you to My Epic and Facedown Records for the use of their song "Hail" in our podcast!https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz2RZThURTU&ab_channel=FacedownRecordsGe...
2022-02-2141 minA Warriors Perspective005: U.S. Navy Chief, Fighting the Vax Mandate.In this episode, Josh and Nole are joined by Nole's brother-in-law Nathan. Nathan has been serving for the past 17 years in the Navy and he is currently deep in the fight against the vaccine mandate. Nathan has done a lot of research on these topics and is a wealth of knowledge. A lot of the information in this episode will surprise you, don't miss it.
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