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Town Center ChurchJohn 11:45-57 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Israel's Most WantedDig deeper into the plot to kill Jesus as God's plan for our redemption continues to unfold.2025-07-2140 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 11:28-44 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Like It Never HappenedWhen Jesus shows up, everything changes! Grief turns to joy and mourning into dancing. Pastor Jerry walks through this passage about Lazarus's resurrection, and reminds us that Jesus is our hope - the resurrection and the life!2025-07-1342 min
Town Center ChurchProverbs 30:11-14 | Pastor Jerry Sander | An Appeal To HeavenWe often sing and say "God bless America." But can He? Will He? Pastor Jerry reminds the church that although God has blessed us as a nation over the last 249 years, we must return to the Lord, repent and seek Him together as His people, the Church.2025-07-0721 min
Town Center ChurchActs 2 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Pentecost SundayToday we stop to celebrate and remember the birth of the church!2025-06-0832 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 11:17-27 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Resurrection and the Life.Jesus reveals the most public of the 7 signs in John by raising Lazarus from the dead in front of the village of Bethany. Then he declares another of the 7 "I am" statements - I am the Resurrection and the Life. 2025-06-0139 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 11:1-16 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Death of a FriendJesus not only moves among the suffering and grief we experience, but also experienced pain and loss Himself. This teaching explores the way Jesus sees and loves Mary, Martha and Lazarus. But more importantly, how Jesus waits and asks us to trust His timing for the miracle.2025-05-2536 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 10:22-42 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Moment of TruthJesus continues with his dialogue with the religious leaders, but the tension increases and so does the hatred they have for Him. He proclaims truth, but this creates conflict and problems with those in power.2025-05-1844 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 10:1-21 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Truth ShepherdJesus uses the illustration of a shepherd and sheep, a door to a sheep pen to point to who He is and why He came. Pastor Jerry expounds on these thoughts and reminds us that these 2 "I Am" statements paint a greater picture of Christ's servant leadership, and how Satan's style is completely opposite - the enemy steals, kills and destroys, but Jesus came so we might have abundant life!2025-05-1137 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 9:35-41 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Twice Blind, Twice HealedThe blind that was healed received his sight, but was cast out of the temple. Jesus sought him out and had an important conversation with him about His identity as the Son of Man and why He had come.2025-05-0437 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 9:13-34 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Rules for Thee But Not for MeWhen a blind man gets healed, he runs into the temple and finds out the leaders are angry. Not only do they want to argue and press him, they end up kicking him out of the temple!Pastor Jerry unpacks this part of John 9, and rebukes the religious leaders for their legalism and rules that they placed on others, but don't want to follow themselves.2025-04-2741 min
Town Center ChurchResurrection Sunday: Rejoice! | Pastor Jerry Sander | Famous First WordsWhen Jesus rose from the grave, everything changed! And Mary was the first to speak to the resurrected Savior. Pastor Jerry walks through John 20 and points out the deep symbolism of the angels, the mercy seat, the fulfillment of Christ as the perfect Gardener, and His offer of free salvation.2025-04-2027 min
Town Center ChurchGood Friday | Pastor Jerry Sander | Famous Last WordsJesus, the One who was fully God and fully man, declared 7 phrases from the cross on Good Friday. Each statement was important - Pastor Jerry unpacks each one, what Jesus was saying and the hope that it gives us in the finished work of the cross.2025-04-1940 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 9:1-12 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Here's Mud In Your EyeAs Jesus reveals His miraculous power to restore a man's physical eye sight, the act also reveals the spiritual blindness of many who are witnessing this miracle. Pastor Jerry unpacks the mission of Jesus from Isaiah's prophecy in Luke 4, while reminding us that Jesus' greater calling is healing the spiritual sight that we all have lost through sin.John 9, Acts 9, 2 Corinthians 12Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida. Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org (http://www.tcchurch.org) or following us...2025-04-0743 min
Town Center ChurchJoshua 4 | Pastor Jerry Sander | From Whence We've ComeWhat does it mean to stop and remember the faithfulness of God? Or to tell your testimony of how His love has transformed your life?Today Pastor Jerry spends the sermon looking back on what God has begun, and the pastoral team shares stories and updates on where Town Center Church is headed in this next season.Join us as we stop and give thanks to the Lord!Joshua 4, Jeremiah 42, 1 Corinthians 11Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida. Find out more about...2025-03-301h 03
Town Center ChurchJohn 8:37-59 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Like father, Like sons; Like Father, Like SonAs Jesus continues to proclaim truth to the crowds in Jerusalem, a strong argument breaks out,. In this passage we don't see Jesus backing down, but instead He steps up to point out, call out, and push back against the works and words of the real enemy Satan.Jesus also bluntly calls some in the crowd aligned with Satan, by suggesting they're imitating their real father, who is not God the Father.How can we imitate Christ in strong conversations and challenging arguments? Pastor Jerry walks through five different ways Satan attacks and manipulates thoughts...2025-03-1743 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 8:12-35 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Let Freedom ReignFreedom? Freedom from what? All of us are stuck in something, whether is sin, a struggle or a stronghold. Jesus boldly preaches in the temple, reminding all those gathered that He is God, and He is the light that brings people from darkness into freedom.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida. Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media. instagram.com/tcboca facebook.com/tcboca2025-03-0943 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 8:1-12 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Caught in the MiddleIn the midst of a sinful situation, one person caught in adultery found grace. The man? No where to be found, but the woman was caught and brought to Jesus, There she found both the grace and forgiveness she needed, but also the call to holiness and to walk a different way after this encounter.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcboca...2025-02-2337 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 7:37-39 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Who's Thirsty?In this short section, Jesus reminds those gathered of the promise of the Spirit. Pastor Jerry reminds us that as believers, we need more of the Spirit's filling in our lives every day. It's not a what, it's a who - He's the third person of the Trinitarian God!Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2025-01-2647 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 7:10-24 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Original Undercover BossWhile the disciples go to celebrate the feast in Jerusalem, Jesus stays behind and follows later. While in the temple, he's not recognized until he begins proclaiming the words of the Father. The religious leaders aren't happy, and Jesus calls out their hypocrisy.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2025-01-1242 min
Town Center ChurchMatthew 2:1-12 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Perfect GiftGold, Frankincense and Myrrh - the Magi brought gifts to worship and honor the newborn King. But what gift could you bring for Someone who has everything?Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-12-2540 min
Town Center ChurchMatthew 2 | Pastor Jerry Sander | In Search of a SaviorThe Magi came to Herod looking for the promised King, asking "Where is He?" They discovered Jesus, the Christ they had traveled so long to find, and rejoiced with exceeding great joy!Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-12-1545 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 7:1-9 | Pastor Jerry Sander | It's TimeAs Jesus draws closer to Jerusalem and his crucifixion, others are pressuring and trying to convince Him, but He knew the time wasn't yet fulfilled. As the Feast of Tabernacles begins to take place, Pastor Jerry unpacks the history of the Biblical Holidays, the need for believers to understand the times, and how we can be courageous in our witness.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media....2024-12-0945 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 6:22-40 | Pastor Jerry Sander | It's ShowtimeAs we continue through John 6, Jesus is revealing Himself as the Bread from Heaven. He declares the first of 7 "I Am" statements in this section, I AM the bread of life.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-11-1738 min
Town Center ChurchLuke 17:11-19 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Give ThanksAs we finished up our 40 days of prayer for our nation, we saw the Lord answer our petitions. After seeing abortion and drug legalization blocked in Florida, and several other prayers answered, we want to pause and give thanks to God for all He continues to do.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-11-1033 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 6:15-21 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Smooth Sailing?Boats, ghosts and storms, O my! Jesus' miraculous powers continue to be on display in the Gospel of John. Pastor Jerry reminds us that Jesus doesn't always calm the storm, but will always lead us through them.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-11-0337 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 6:1-13 | Pastor Jerry Sander | A Miracle of MultiplyingWhen faced with a multitude of needy people, the disciples turned to their own solutions. But Jesus had a solution that no one thought of - He took a boy's little and made it a lot, so much so that there was an abundance left over! Join Pastor Jerry as he walks through bread, leaven, Passover, and other layers to this miracle recorded in all four Gospels.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or...2024-10-2740 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 5:30-47 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Order in the Court!Belief, evidence, testimony, witnesses, accusers...Jesus uses legal language in this teaching to convey a timeless truth. He is who He claims to be, John the Baptist and God the Father testify, and His works and miracles are the evidence.But in His great grace, Jesus doesn't accuse us of our shortcomings and sin, but instead gives us His innocence through mercy and forgiveness. What an incredible reminder of God's love for us!Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church...2024-10-2039 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 5:24-30 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Final HourLife comes from the Father and through the Son to us! And the blessed hope that we have is not just life now, but eternal life - new heavens, new earth, and new bodies all in the resurrection. Jesus teaches on the final judgement and the resurrection of the dead from Revelation 20, so Pastor Jerry takes time to dig deeper into eschatology (study of the end times).Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or...2024-10-1351 min
LoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeWhen the Adaptive Child Insists on PrevailingSend us a textIn this conversation, Kristy and Jerry explore the concept of the 'adaptive child'—the immature part of ourselves that can dominate our reactions during conflicts. They discuss how to navigate situations when one partner is stuck in this state for an extended period, emphasizing the importance of self-care, compassion, and understanding. The dialogue highlights the significance of timing, safety, and the role of personal energy in communication. They also address the anxiety that can arise in relationships and the necessity of being able to choose to stay in a relationship without desperation. Ultimately, th...2024-10-1146 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 5:16-23 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Persecution is Part of the ProcessAfter healing the man at the pool of Bethesda, many of the religious leaders were angry at Jesus for healing on the Sabbath and making Himself equal with God. This passage begins the long journey of persecution that Jesus went through leading up to the His trial and execution. Pastor Jerry digs into the authority of the Son, and the divinity of Jesus through His response to the angry Pharisees.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www...2024-10-0746 min
Town Center ChurchIf My People | Pastor Jerry Sander | 2 Chronicles 7:14Nations were created by God for His good purposes, and God also designed governments for a purpose. But what's our role as believers, as citizens of a heavenly kingdom? Pastor Jerry calls the church to repent, pray and return to the Lord, and exhorts us as American citizens to use our right to vote in a way that elects politicians and judges who will uphold God's values of life, freedom and righteousness.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us...2024-09-3049 min
Showing UpForgiveness, RevisitedIn this episode, Jerry revisits and reflects on the concept of forgiveness, exploring its complexities and the importance of personal growth. He discusses the limitations of unilateral forgiveness and emphasizes that true forgiveness is a process that requires understanding and personal investment. Jerry also highlights the significance of letting go of past hurts and the need for meaningful change in relationships.2024-09-2320 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 4:46-54 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Foundation of FaithWhat do you do when trials or challenges happen? When sickness and suffering rear their ugly heads, do you turn to fear or do you choose to BELIEVE Jesus at His word? Explore the faith of the Nobleman and discover the 2nd sign (miracle) of Jesus' deity in the Gospel of John as Pastor Jerry unpacks this incredible moment in the ministry and life of Christ.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following...2024-09-1530 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 4:39-45 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Savior of the WorldJesus's proclamation that He was the Messiah led to the Samaritan woman testifying to her entire village. His words led to a revival, and many confessed Him as the Savior of the World! But His journey to Galilee continued on, and there was much ministry for him there.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-09-0842 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 4:27-38 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Will of the Woman at the WellGod doesn't require you to have all the answers or master every theological detail—just as the Samaritan woman, who had only just met Jesus, shared her experience with her village and many came to believe!. People are hungry for truth and to understand that Jesus is the Messiah who loves them. Our job is to tell them by sharing our testimony of how we encountered Him and how He's transforming our lives.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us...2024-09-0145 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 4:1-26 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Bad SamaritanAn important appointment makes Jesus take a less-traveled route through Samaria, where He first reveals Himself as Messiah to a woman who's had some challenges in her life and relationships. Jesus sees those who feel alone and rejected, and purposes to go to them so they can know His love and grace.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-08-1847 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 3:22-36 | Pastor Jerry Sander | He is Greater Than ISomeone who follows Jesus can often have a life verse - one phrase or passage that defines and refines them throughout their life. John the Baptist's purpose is one that we can all emulate - to point people to Jesus and trust Him, even in our sufferings.John 3, Matthew 14, Matthew 11Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-08-1139 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 3:16 & Romans 5 | Pastor Jerry Sander | God's Perfect PlanIn the midst of a nighttime conversation with Nicodemus is the most well known verse in the New Testament, painting a picture of God's plan of salvation a few years before the cross. Pastor Jerry connects passages from Psalms, Ezekiel and Romans back to John 3:16 to remind us of the unconditional and costly love of God.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcboca2024-08-0540 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 3:10-21 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Loving Remedy to the Lethal Malady (Part 2)Jesus speaks to the Teacher of Israel and uses a reference from the Book of Numbers to show the way to be born again is through believing in the Son. Pastor Jerry teaches us the love of God and reminds us that there isn't any condemnation for those who are in Christ.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-07-2143 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 3:1-9 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Powerful Remedy to the Fatal Malady (Part 1)A religious leader comes to Jesus for a private conversation under the cover of night and discovers? Well, what their conversation reveals is a need for a new birth, not of water, but of the Holy Spirit. This is part one of a two part teaching on Nicodemus and Jesus' discussion.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-07-1441 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 2:13-25 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The Three TemplesHave you ever been duped or taken advantage of? In this passage, Jews had been manipulated by a system that took financial advantage of their pure intent to worship God. They were forced into exchanging money and buying temple animals, but God didn't require any of that. Jesus displays righteous anger and justice as he flips the tables over and rebukes the religious who had manipulated people for their own gain. Pastor Jerry unpacks all this and more throughout this study.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida....2024-07-0848 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 2:1-12 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Here Comes the BrideWeddings and wine - Pastor Jerry expounds on the first sign, or public miracle, in the Gospel of John, and how it points forward to the wedding feast of the Lamb and the hope we have in Jesus.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-06-2348 min
Town Center ChurchActs 16:25-34 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Honor Your FatherThis Father's Day, Pastor Jerry exhorts and challenges the men to follow Christ and to live for Him by leading our spouses, families and others in the way of Jesus.Acts 16, 1 Corinthians 11, Luke 10Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-06-1737 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 1:43-51 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Inflation ProofUnlike other rabbis and students, Jesus went and found his disciples and invited them to follow Him. The same invitation is offered to us, but are we loving Him first? Are we rejecting anything in our lives that wants to take priority over Jesus? Are we looking back, or are we slow to obey Him? Pastor Jerry challenges us today to consider our faith and how we're following.John 1, Luke 14, Isaiah 9, Luke 9, Genesis 28Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church...2024-06-1144 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 1:35-42 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Whose Disciple Are You?Jesus often taught by asking questions of those who wanted to follow him. Today Pastor Jerry explores this first interaction between Jesus and the disciples of John the Baptist who want to begin following Jesus instead.2024-06-0243 minShowing UpTribalismJerry explores the impact of our familiar and cultural tribes on our ability to connect with others. What this all means for the crazy-time that a national election brings for the next 5-7 months is profound, as people face the choice of either hating people we see as essentially different from us or reaching for connections and enjoying the good things that follow. (What are your thoughts? You can communicate directly with Jerry here: https://www.podpage.com/showing-up/contact/)2024-05-2722 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 1:29-34 | Pastor Jerry Sander | BeholdThere's a moment where we all experience awe. When something incredible happens and our future is forever changed. John the Baptist experiences a moment like this, acknowledging Jesus as the Lamb, and prophesies Him as the one who will baptize in the Spirit.2024-05-2640 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 1:19-28 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The VoiceJohn the Baptist was prophesied to be the voice to prepare the way for the Messiah. Join Pastor Jerry as he explores the Old Testament scriptures in Deuteronomy, Isaiah and Malachi as well as other passages in the New Testament (Matthew 3) to unpack the ministry of John the Baptist and his role in calling Israel to repentance.2024-05-1944 min
Town Center ChurchLuke 1:26-38 | Pastor Jerry Sander | Happy M...others Day!We dive into some incredible examples of mom's in scripture - Mary, Elizabeth and Hannah, and discover how their faith in God defined their character and purpose.References: Luke 1, 1 Samuel 1Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-05-1239 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 1:14-18 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The truth about the TruthHOAs, the smell of hockey equipment and protesting middle schoolers? There's been a long battle over truth in our world - not just what is truth, but WHO is truth. Who gets to define it and what does that reveal about us? Dig deeper into the scriptures with Pastor Jerry and grow with us in the truth.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcboca2024-05-0548 min
Town Center ChurchJohn 1:1-5 | Pastor Jerry Sander | The WordPastor Jerry Sander takes us through the first five verses of the gospel of John as the author establishes the deity of Jesus, the intimacy of the Godhead, the darkness of the world and the Light of Jesus in us.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-04-2148 min
Town Center ChurchThe Gospel of John - Overview | Pastor Jerry SanderPastor Jerry Sander introduces the book of John by taking a high-level view of the themes, patterns and perspective of the author and his intentions in writing this eye-witness account.Town Center Church is an evangelical Christian church in Boca Raton, Florida.Find out more about our church by visiting us at www.tcchurch.org or following us on social media.instagram.com/tcbocafacebook.com/tcboca2024-04-1633 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeEgoSend us a textWhat role does our ego play in helping, or hindering, connection with our partner? Kristy & Jerry unpack some of this together. Jerry reports some about his travel to Southern India and how long it took him to finally unpack after returning. 2024-03-1446 minShowing UpAs The Year EndsAfter a long hiatus, Jerry Sander returns to the show, with reflections about 2023, where he's been and some hopeful energies for 2024. 2023-12-2941 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeThe Fine Line Between Letting Things Go & EnablingSend us a textKristy and Jerry untangle the thorny areas in which personal boundaries seem to be challenged by our partner's desire to control us, when -- in fact -- it is often about emotional needs we can all relate to it. The seed for solutions lay in a relational approach, neither in confrontation nor denial.2023-08-0752 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeHaving a BabySend us a textAdding an additional person to your household offers unique challenges and rewards for a couple, but undeniably is one of the most profound relationship shifts you'll undergo in your lives together. Kristy and Jerry ponder some of these effects and speak out loud about things that too often not spoken about because....well, because it's not so easy.2023-07-2549 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeJust How Much Intimacy Do I Really Want?Send us a textJerry and Kristy wrestle with the reality that every couple has different levels of desire when it comes to ongoing closeness and intimacy. Like so many other markers of social and emotional health, intimacy might be best viewed on a continuum.2023-07-1045 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeBlinded By My HurtSend us a textWe all know THOSE kind of arguments; when one of us just will not give in, because giving in means giving up and conceding defeat in what feels like a life-and-death battle. But when we consider it at a safe distance, well...what is really going on? And how could these things be handled better? Jerry and Kristy consider this, give some advice, and show what it looks like/sounds like in a real-time argument (done poorly then more compassionately). 2023-06-2644 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeBeing Happy When Your Partner Isn'tSend us a textKristy and Jerry consider the awkward dynamics that can ensue when partners aren't aligned in their levels of happiness or sadness on any given day, week or month. What, exactly, is your level of "responsibility" and what isn't? How can this be approached with kindness and sensitivity?2023-06-1142 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeGetting Your Self-Esteem From Social MediaSend us a textJerry & Kristy consider what happens when the primary source of our self-esteem comes from our social media applications. What are the implications for our relationships?2023-05-2943 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeCancelling Toxic Relationships (And Aren't We All A Little Toxic?)Send us a textKristy and Jerry consider the phenomena of "cancellation" as a reactive move; when is it exactly the right thing, and when is it exactly the wrong thing? How does fast-easy cancellation, "ghosting," etc. work against our developing abilities to be relational?2023-05-1644 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeDoes Your Attachment Style Sabotage You?Send us a textKristy and Jerry discuss lasting styles of attachment and the difficulties these can pose for our partners. (And ourselves!) And...it somehow all makes sense. Can this be worked on with health in a relationship and result in improvements? Absolutely, yes. Can you change your partner's fundamental attachment style??? Well, now....time for some humility.2023-04-1738 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeHome Is Where We Fall ApartSend us a textThe intimate connections offered by our home life can go either way: towards snippy, isolated/isolating, defensive interactions or towards ever-greater connectedness and satisfactions. Jerry and Kristy consider this, in action, and conclude with a fight (done both from a less-mature point of view AND a wise-adult stance). 2023-04-0136 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeDo Words Even Matter?Send us a textJerry & Kristy consider the dual nature of words, as they are used in relationships. On the one hand they matter very much -- as they can be source of great pain or comfort. On the other hand some of the most profound moments of your relationship have very little with words. As with most tools humans use to connect or disconnect with each other, it is worth consideration. We culminate in a fight, showing both the damaging nature of words and their potential to initiate repair. 2023-03-1947 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeCatastrophizingSend us a textThe fine (self-defeating) art of making small disappointments, disagreements and conflicts into major demonstrations of disastrous proportions is discussed by Kristy and Jerry. Alternatives are considered. We also -- finally -- resume our end-of-podcast fights, illustrating better ways of handling disappointments than couples often reach for.This marks our first VIDEO-also podcast; we're setting up our You Tube channel as we speak, so you'll soon be able to see this one, and future ones, in all the video glory. Faces to match the voices. Who would've thought such a thing would...2023-03-0644 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeBody Image & Your RelationshipSend us a textJerry and Kristy explore the shaping of our self-esteem -- and the impact on later relationships -- that occurs related to our own body image issues. The impact of early family influences, societal messaging, the internet and advertising on internalized shame and doubt is profound, and shapes what we bring into our relationship with a similarly insecure human being. 2023-02-1938 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeRelationship ReckoningSend us a textHow can you go about figuring if a relationship is really over? Whether you'd be happier without it? Kristy and Jerry discuss the intricacies of deciding when separating and ending a relationship is the right thing to do. Alternately: how can you come to peace with things that annoy you in your partner that just never seem to change?2023-02-0648 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeWhen Your Partner LeavesSend us a textJerry and Kristy consider all the variations in "leaving" and the repercussions for the relationship. Healthy alternatives for taking space are considered. As usual, we have a fight at the end and show a better way of doing that. 2023-01-2146 minShowing UpWhen Your Partner LeavesJerry & Kristy consider the different ways we leave each other and the variety of responses it evokes. Healthy alternatives are considered. 2023-01-2046 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeFaith TransitionsSend us a textKristy and Jerry discuss the challenges and opportunities that exist when one member of a couple goes through changes about their religious beliefs (and practices). Does it always have to be a deal-breaker of epic proportions for the couple? And...what about any children who may be watching?2023-01-0940 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeSelf Esteem: A Deep DiveSend us a textKristy and Jerry take a deeper look at how self-esteem (yours!) remains at the core of a relationship's chances for success. The futility of trying to change your partner while not feeling good enough about yourself (or even knowing your own needs) is discussed, with special attention paid to each of the four quadrants conceptualized by Terry Real (and Pia Mellody) in Relational Life Therapy. 2022-12-1948 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeIs Your Partner a Narcissist?Send us a textIs your partner a narcissist? And what are the implications if the answer is "Yes"? Is this term over-used, or under-recognized? What possibilities realistically exist for someone who is in a relationship with a narcissist?Jerry and Kristy wrestle with this in today's episode. 2022-12-0343 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeBiting The BulletSend us a textYou know the feeling; that moment when your spouse asks you to do something that you absolutely, honestly DON'T want to do. But they enjoy it. What do you do? Radical honesty in the direction of "taking care of myself"? Or....aren't there just times where you have to "bite the bullet" and "take one for the team"? And how is this different from co-dependency, or becoming a doormat? Jerry & Kristy consider this. 2022-11-2040 minLoveWork: Skills for a Relational LifeAfter The AffairSend us a textWhat happens, for a couple, after one partner has had an affair and it is now out in the open? What are the best things you can do (and the worst ones)? How long is the healing process? Is it really true that going through this together can lead to a closer relationship that existed previously? Jerry and Kristy consider it. 2022-11-0749 min