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Mending FencesThe Evolution of a Parenting Plan, Part 1Divorce transforms relationships, requiring former spouses to reinvent themselves as effective co-parents. In this thoughtful exploration of post-divorce parenting, Patrice Brymner and Jen Hawthorne Kelsey unpack the critical elements of creating sustainable parenting arrangements that truly serve the changing needs of children and parents.What makes a "good enough" parenting plan? Rather than rigid schedules or perfect-on-paper arrangements, successful co-parenting requires adaptability, patience, and honest communication. Drawing from years of professional experience, Patrice and Jen outline four essential mindsets for navigating this challenging transition: maintaining an open mind to try different approaches, exercising patience throughout the process...2025-04-0724 min

Mending FencesEmbracing Change: Conflict as TransformationConflict is more than just a hurdle—it's an opportunity for transformation. Patrice and Jen explore how to harness the inherent the chaos of change toward personal and relational growth. Discover the power of reframing your focus and understanding what truly makes you feel secure amid instability. From discussing the emotional rollercoaster of conflict to offering strategies for open communication and self-care, Jen and Patrice highlight the value of personal growth and self-discovery. Avoid the pitfalls of seeking validation from those who've wronged you—find peace within yourself and regain your power. By trusting in a process and taking respo...2025-01-1722 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Attorney William Hickey on Divorce Mediation v. Litigation MythsJoin us on Mending Fences as we talk to Attorney William Hickey, a seasoned family law litigator from Massachusetts. Together, we untangle the often-confusing world of divorce, focusing on the distinctions between mediation and litigation. Bill shares his expert insights on how he evaluates the suitability of mediation for his clients, highlighting crucial factors like the intricacy of the issues and the couple's communication dynamics. We also delve into the significance of fairness and client value when recommending dispute resolution methods.We break down the essential steps for choosing a qualified mediator, ensuring you’re equipped with th...2024-06-2136 min

Mending FencesDe-escalation: A First Step to ResolutionWhat happens when a conflict becomes bigger than any of the involved interests? Jen Hawthorne Kelsey and Patrice Brymner guide you through the maze of contentious standoffs to the calmer side, where interest-based dialogue fosters understanding and peace. As they reflect on the art of conflict de-escalation on Mending Fences, listeners learn effective communication strategies that are more necessary now than ever. Whether it's the bubbling tensions in the classroom or the more prominent scale of global disagreements, self-inquiry strategies can shed light on personal disputes and their striking similarities to international relations.2024-05-2321 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Dr. Susan Boardman on Strengthening Relationships with Couples MediationIn this episode, Jen and Patrice explore couples' mediation with Dr. Susan Boardman. Unlike divorce mediation, couples' mediation is intended to strengthen relationship dynamics for couples who wish to remain married. Susan's wisdom, drawn from years of experience, highlights mediation as an invaluable tool as a proactive strategy for enhancing dialogue and understanding between partners. The talk delves into the psychology behind written agreements and how they lay the groundwork for positive behavioral shifts. If you're interested in the subtleties of how mediation can fortify a bond, you won't want to miss these insights.Learn more at: h...2024-05-1315 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Karen Van Kooy on the Language of More Peaceful Dispute ResolutionDiscover the transformative power of words with our guest Karen Van Kooy in an episode that may reshape your approach to conflict resolution and legal negotiations. We engage in a dynamic dialogue, breaking down how subtle shifts in terminology can steer conversations from deadlock to collaboration. As we dissect the impact of word choice, from "proposal" to "settlement scenarios," you'll gain invaluable insights into fostering dialogue that digs into the heart of parties' needs and interests. It's a deep dive into the strategic use of language that can open up a world of creative resolutions.Karen brings...2024-03-0620 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Daniele Ozeri on Family MediationDivorce and Family Mediator Daniele Ozeri joins Jen and Patrice to discuss strategies for mending the complex dynamics within families—be it the bond between parents and children or among adult siblings. Daniele explains the subtle nuances that differentiate family mediations from divorce mediations, emphasizing the importance of cultivating understanding and empathy. Her approach, centered around personalized mini-agreements and consistent check-ins, not only addresses immediate disputes but also fortifies relationships for the long haul.Exploring the ecosystem of support for families in conflict, we examine the overlapping roles of mediators and other professionals such as therapists and at...2024-02-0121 min

Mending FencesBuyer Beware: Unraveling the Complexity of Friendly Divorce MediationSo you thought mediation would be easy. Well, even amicable divorces can be stressful and participants may feel at times like they are lost in uncharted territory. That's exactly what Jen Hawthorne Kelsey and Patrice Brymner delve into in this episode of Mending Fences. As seasoned guides, family law mediators, and collaborative law attorneys, Jen and Patrice illuminate the complexities that even the most cooperative separations can conceal. As always, your hosts' goal is helping people become better informed masters of their own decision-making .It's a candid conversation that strips away the myths about what 'should' happen...2024-01-1709 min

Mending FencesIs There a Difference Between Review Counsel and Settlement Counsel?Join us as we unpack the essential roles, differences, and overlapping concepts of these legal representatives and how, with their assistance, successful conflict resolution is achievable. We explain how attorneys in the "Settlement Counsel" role can work directly on their client's behalf to achieve an out-of court resolution, and how attorneys in "review Counsel" role can support clients engaged mediation. Attorneys can be invaluable guides in while navigating the complex terms of divorce agreements in either role. We underscore the importance of finding a lawyer who not only respects the client's wish for a peaceful resolution but is also we...2023-12-1315 min

Mending FencesAmicable Does Not Mean EasyEven in an otherwise amicable process, some conversations are very difficult. Patrice and Jen explore the challenge of reaching agreements in an environment where there's no 'supposed-to-happen.' As seasoned mediators and collaborative divorce attorneys, Patrice and Jen aim to demystify the process and unravel complexities that often can leave divorcing spouses feeling lost or frustrated.Divorce resolution can feel like a maze, filled with unexpected twists and turns. Patrice and Jen tackle unexpected issues and debunk misconceptions that can lead to misunderstandings or unmet expectations. Jen and Patrice shed light on the role of neutral mediators an...2023-12-1309 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Maria Natapov on the Dynamics of Step-ParentingJoin us as we journey through the delicate web of step-parenting with our guest, step-parenting coach Maria Natapov. What does it truly mean to be a step-parent and how can you navigate this dynamic, emotion-filled terrain? Maria sheds light on these questions and provides pragmatic guidance to help you transform family uncertainty into harmonious co-parenting. We'll unpack the layers of challenges from financial to emotional, and discuss how Maria’s expert advice can help ease your transition into this new family dynamic.Maria delves into the intricacies of becoming a step-parent, emphasizing the significance of good communication and...2023-10-0331 min

Mending FencesTaking Charge of Tough Talks: Tools for SuccessAre you shying away from initiating those tough conversations? This episode is filled with practical wisdom and guidance that will empower you to start tough conversations with anyone. Hosts Patrice Brymner and Jen Hawthorne dive into the nuances of understanding your own motives and goals, identifying the right people to participate in the conversation, and whether you might want to consider professional assistance . Sometimes, it's not just about finding a resolution, but creating a healthier environment for future communication.Jen and Patrice also delve into the art of effective problem-solving conversations, emphasizing the power of using "I" s...2023-09-1215 min

Mending FencesFinding Your Way (again): Strategies for Preserving Progress When You Change CourseIs your dispute resolution stuck? Is your divorce mediation stalled? Your collaborative divorce just not moving? As your hosts for this episode of Mending Fences, Patrice Brymner and Jen Hawthorne, we’ll guide you on how to breathe new life into stalled conflict resolution processes. We’ll share practical advice, from introducing a lawyer to mediation to using a mediator as a shuttle between parties, so you're not doomed to starting over from scratch. Amidst conflict, it's easy to be overwhelmed by a multitude of dispute resolution options. We'll help you navigate through these options - mediation, collaboration, lawyer-to-lawyer negoti...2023-09-0520 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Karen Van Kooy on Navigating Coercion and Empowerment in Collaborative Divorce and MediationCan collaborative divorce or divorce mediation address pressure, coercion, and power imbalances more effectively than litigation? Join us for a deep dive into these questions with collaborative divorce attorney and mediator, Karen Van Kooy. We share our experiences and insights, contrasting the stark differences in handling a court-based divorce versus a collaborative law or mediated approach.In this lively discussion, we unravel the complexities of coercion and imbalance that can surface in divorces. Karen shares her insights and strategies and explores the need for setting boundaries in the tricky terrain of power dynamics that can sometimes lead to...2023-07-2145 min

Mending FencesDon't Make Things Worse! What to Avoid in Difficult ConversationsJen and Patrice each share three things to avoid in any difficult conversation. At Mending Fences, we always encourage people to keep talking, but when should you stop talking? Of course it makes sense to avoid blaming and defending, but how do you do it? Patrice and Jen talk through practical tips for productive communication in difficult situations. 2023-07-1417 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Allyson Clemmons, LICSW, on Discernment CounselingShould I Stay or Should I Go? Allyson Clemmons joins Jen and Patrice to discuss discernment counselling, a way for couples considering divorce to gain clarity about the direction of their marriage. In this approach, couples engage in a limited number of individual sessions to gain a deeper understanding of what has happened in the relationship, as well as each spouse's contribution to that. Couples can decide to maintain the relationship as it has been; they may re-commit to the marriage and begin work in couples therapy, or they may decide to initiate a divorce process. Learn more about disc...2023-06-1533 min

Mending FencesConflict Resolution Skills in the IRLJen and Patrice talk about how conflict resolution skills can improve communication in daily life. 2023-06-0214 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Dr. Gina Arons on the Role of the Collaborative CoachDr. Gina Arons joins Patrice and Jen to talk about the vital role of the Collaborative Coach in the Collaborative Divorce process. 2023-05-1939 min

Mending FencesIs Mediation a Good Fit for You? Five Things to ConsiderJen and Patrice highlight five factors that may impact whether mediation is a good fit for participants. 2023-04-1117 min

Mending FencesThree (or more) Tips for Better CommunicationJen and Patrice each share their top three tips for better communication. Highlighting several effective approaches for any difficult conversation, Jen and Patrice talk through what works and why.2023-03-2411 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Beth Aarons on Collaborative Law Training and the Mental Shift Away from Adversarial ProcessJen and Patrice talk with their colleague, Beth Aarons, about her work as a trainer and adjunct law professor teaching Collaborative Law. Seasoned professionals, as well law students, undergo a profound shift in mindset in order to effectively participate as members of a Collaborative Law professional team. Collaborative Law professionals provide holistic, non-adversarial, interest-based dispute resolution approaches. 2023-03-0635 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Barbara Nason on Why to Keep Divorces Out of CourtJen and Patrice talk with Attorney/Mediator Barbara Nason about a range of out of court divorce options, including mediation, attorney-assisted negotiation, and conciliation. This conversation covers the benefits of dispute resolution and some of the pitfalls of litigation, including the time, money, and opportunities wasted when attorneys engage in fighting rather than problem solving. After litigating for 20 years, Barbara has spent the last 10 years offering only out of court options, first in her own firm, and now within a larger family law firm. 2023-02-1641 min

Mending FencesMediation: What to Know Before You Get StartedFIRST IN A SERIES Jen and Patrice share the advice they give people who are considering mediation for a divorce process: what to look for, what to avoid, how to approach the early stages of a choosing a divorce process. 2023-01-2711 min

Mending FencesRebalancing Parental RolesJen and Patrice talk about shifting parental duties post-divorce. What happens when both parents become the "default" or "primary" parent? Co-parents can't plan for every parenting contingency, but good communication channels can make a huge difference in how the unexpected (and the expected) play out. Mediation and collaborative process provide effective means for parents who are shifting into co-parenting roles. Parents can explore options in communication and duty sharing before committing to something that might not be livable. 2023-01-2314 min

Mending FencesHOLIDAY SPECIAL: Navigating the Season as Co-parentsThe busy holiday season, schedule changes, illness or any unexpected event can create real strain for co-parents. Jen and Patrice discuss the importance of solid communication, patience, and flexibility when facing any co-parenting challenge. This episode highlights 1) how building a foundation in mediation or collaborative process can really pay off when things don't go as planned, and 2) the benefit of of mediation and collaborative process for blended families after divorce. 2022-12-0517 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Susan DeMatteo on the Benefits of Dispute ResolutionSusan DeMatteo shares her journey from family law trial attorney to collaborative lawyer and mediator. Susan was trained in Collaborative Law early in the movement, and she brings a great depth of experience to this discussion of process choice, creative problem solving, and improved outcomes. Susan, Jen, and Patrice reflect on the benefits of dispute resolution for their clients and their own job satisfaction. 2022-11-1627 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Dana Caspersen on Choreography and ConflictHow do you experience conflict in your body? What role does physical proximity play in dispute resolution? Jen and Patrice talk with choreographer and conflict specialist Dana Caspersen about physical dynamics and engaging with conflict. Dana is the author of Changing the Conversation: The 17 Principles of Conflict Resolution. Dana works with individuals and groups to help build robust skills and a flexible mindset in conflict through coaching, mediation, facilitations, talks, workshops and public dialogue. Learn more about Dana at https://danacaspersen.com 2022-10-2832 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Lisa Wood on Community Mediation and Conflict Resolution WeekIt's that time of year in New England! No, not apple picking. It's Conflict Resolution Week! To celebrate, Jen and Patrice sat down with Lisa Wood of Mediation Services of North Central Massachusetts to talk about community mediation, training kids as peer mediators, and using mediation for a variety of disputes and difficult conversations. Mediation is NOT just for divorce. This community mediation center offers services relating to neighbor disputes, business disputes, and other issues. Learn more about Conflict Resolution Week in North Central MA:https://mediationncm.org/blog/f/conflict-resolution-week-events-1 Learn more about Medi...2022-10-1329 min

Mending FencesGUEST: David Hoffman on Virtual Practice and Internal Family Systems.Should a mediator or lawyer meet clients at least once in person before continuing by video conference? And what’s an "internal mediator?" Do you have one? David Hoffman joins Jen and Patrice for a lively, wide-ranging conversation, contemplating these and other questions. David identifies three powerful and continuing benefits virtual dispute resolution practice, and Jen and Patrice share their experiences. David then turns the talk to Internal Family Systems. Hint: it’s not really about families. David Hoffman is an attorney, mediator and arbitrator with the Boston Law Collaborative and a professor at Harvard Law School. Learn mor...2022-09-2141 min

Mending FencesGUEST: Sheila Kelly on Dignity, Kids, and ConflictSheila Kelly, LMC, joins Jen and Patrice for a powerful and free flowing conversation about dignity, kids, identity, compassion, and communication. Jen and Patrice hope this is one of several talks focused on dignity and the first of several talks with Sheila. 2022-09-1543 min

Mending FencesThis Will Cost How Much?Money can be hard to talk about. Accurately predicting the cost of a dispute resolution process might be impossible. So, how can you and your attorney or mediator have useful talks about what a given process might cost? Jen and Patrice walk through the factors that make cost estimates so difficult. They also talk about a variety of billing practices and the importance or keeping communication about money open. 2022-08-0924 min