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Humans:Connecting30. What we've uncovered about human connection in Season 3: with Jeff BartlettIt’s been an epic season of the HUMANS:CONNECTING podcast. We’ve talked about - Social prescribing- Nature based therapies- The importance of owning your loneliness- Creating authentically connected men- The power of investing in yourself in midlife- Overcoming the loneliness of leadership- Becoming who you are in midlife- The persistence required in creating a human connection movement- How policy makers and scientists can (and must) work together to come up with responses that work for us. 2025-04-161h 13Humans:Connecting29. Lonely-EU is here to connect Europe (and the world): with Judith Merkies and Dr Hans Rocha IJzermanThe LONELY-EU project is fighting social isolation and loneliness across Europe. What it does there can help the rest of the world do the same. Judith Merkies – former Member of the European Parliament – and Dr. Hans Rocha IJzerman – Director of Annecy Behavioral Science Lab – are building a network connecting policymakers, scientists, healthcare workers, community leaders, people with lived experience, and global organizations. They’re bringing together the voices and ideas of everyone who cares about the issue of loneliness and social isolation. What they’re starting in Europe can support how governments and communiti...2025-04-131h 32Humans:Connecting28. Creating a human connection movement: with Pete BombaciAn issue the size and scale of loneliness and social disconnection requires a variety of solutions, from offering individual support to developing national policies. It’s too big for one person to solve alone, so a more effective approach is creating a movement that fosters countless connections as well as advocating for government and private sector action on the issue. Let’s explore the power of such a human connection movement, and it can all start when you say ‘hi’ to a stranger. Joining us for this episode is...2025-03-301h 22Humans:Connecting27. Step outside your cage - harness the power of living authentically in midlife: with Katia VlachosIt’s time to step out of the cage that you feel you’re in in midlife – where you need to perform certain roles to fulfil certain obligations that you may or may not have wanted in the past. Midlife is a funny time. We think we’ve got a handle on things—relationships, family, career, and more—then, bam! Midlife hits. It's not just the physical aches, but the existential questions: Is this all there is? I’ve done everything right, so why am I not happy? These questions...2025-03-231h 38Humans:Connecting26. Connected leaders create thriving teams - overcome the loneliness of leadership: with Rachael CookEvery leader knows that there’s a loneliness in leadership. We all want to be great leaders where those in our teams thrive. But we can inadvertently become workaholics, micromanagers, indecisive leaders, or bullies. What if we told you that the quality of your connections with yourself, those most important to you, and your communityinfluences how you lead at work? Listen up, because if you’re a current or aspiring leader, we’ve got the perfect guest joining us for this episode. It’s time to become a co...2025-03-161h 43Humans:Connecting25. Investing in yourself in midlife pays the dividends you need: with Jonathon LawlessWhile Jonathon Lawless’ story of loneliness and finding himself in midlife is uniquely his, it’s much the same as yours. As an investment banker living in Hong Kong, Jonathon found that his expat life and career did not, no matter the outward success, provide what he needed. He spent his life trying to fit in; trying to prove that he was worthy enough for the education, the job, the income, the life. As Jonathon entered midlife, he was lonely, lost, and stuck. Confront...2025-03-091h 43Humans:Connecting24. Creating connected men: with Mike CampbellFar too many men are broken. From rates of suicide, violence, incarceration and educational outcomes, it’s clear that men are struggling. This is not an episode about masculinity – toxic or otherwise – but an episode for you if you are a man who’s feeling lost and adrift. This is an episode for you if there is a man in your life who you love who’s struggling. It’s an episode to help men to rediscover themselves and to then come back to who they are...2025-03-021h 35
Men’s Therapy PodcastThe EXPERT Guide to Overcoming Male Loneliness w/ Phil McAuliffeLoneliness is more than just feeling alone—it’s a growing public health crisis that affects men of all ages. In today's episode of the Men’s Therapy Podcast, host Marc Azoulay sits down with Phil McAuliffe. He is the founder of Humans Connecting. He discusses how the loneliness epidemic is impacting men and what can be done about it.
Phil, a former Australian diplomat, shares his struggle with loneliness abroad. He has a successful career and a family. But, he feels an overwhelming sense of disconnection. “I realized that beyond all the meetings, the job title, and the...2025-02-241h 04Humans:Connecting23. Coming out as lonely - your portal to authentic connection: with Ari LowinskyWe all reach a point where, before we can learn about the connection we need, we must first acknowledge and admit ourloneliness. At this fork in the road, we face the choice: confront our loneliness, despite the fear and stigma, or rely on oldmethods to numb the discomfort. This is like the anguish of coming out, as we believe that admitting loneliness risks judgement, shame and exclusion andwe’re not sure we’re ready – or strong enough – for that. This episode is for you if you’ve realised that...2025-02-231h 34Humans:Connecting22. Nature can hold the key to your healing and connection: with Dr Nerkez OpacinWhat if spending quality time in your garden, at a local park, in a national park – or even with a single potted plant – could help you heal and improve the quality of the connection you feel, would you do it? While it sounds too good to be true, there’s a bucket-load of science to back up the claim that spending time in nature restores us, heals us and helps us feel more connected. Dr Nerkez Opacin from Melbourne’s RMIT University and the EU-funded RECETAS Project joins us for this episode an...2025-02-161h 41Humans:Connecting21. How social prescribing can help create connected humans: with Jenny KirschnerWouldn’t it be nice to leave an appointment or interactionwith a caring professional and feel seen as the awesome humans that we are, rather than as a symptom or a problem to be solved? In this first episode of Season 3, Jenny Kirschner – founderof Pharmacy Addressing Loneliness and Social Isolation – talk about social prescribing and how it links the care we get from our medical professionals with those providing social care. In this episode, you’ll:- see how social prescribing puts the focus of medical practitioners back on us as humans as we naviga...2025-02-091h 38Humans:ConnectingSpecial episode - Sticking your Connection ResolutionsCongratulations! You’ve resolved improve the quality of the connection you feel. You’ve decided that it’s time to focus on your social health and wellbeing and you want to thrive through loneliness whenever you experience it. You’re awesome. But what do you do next??This special episode of the HUMANS:Connecting podcast is all about what your first steps are after you’ve made that decision to improve the connection you experience. This is an episode to watch/listen whenever you are taking those initial steps towards connection: at every N...2024-12-271h 14Humans:Connecting20. Creating your connected workplace: with Dr Hans Rocha IJzermanIt’s the final episode of Season 2 and it’s tackling an important issue confronting all workplaces, including yours. We know that loneliness and social disconnection is prevalent in our communities and workplaces, but it’s hard to know what we can do about it. The answer is to create a workplace in which the humans within it feel connected. We thrive when we humans feel connected and our workplaces flourish when we feel connected. But how can you and your organisation best create a connected workplace? Do you do...2024-09-151h 59Humans:Connecting19. Escaping your golden handcuffs: with Christine YeungIt’s natural to want to make some changes when we get to midlife. It’s natural to evaluate where we are in life and reflect on whether we’re living in alignment with our values. Sometimes, we know that things need to change so we can live the next stage in life with ease and alignment. Too often, our jobs – and the financial security they give us – stop us from making changes in our lives. We realise that we’re wearing golden handcuffs and we can’t remove them without risking a whole lot of pain and dis...2024-09-091h 22Humans:Connecting18. How mindfulness helped turn Chai's loneliness into your connection: with Chai BadeHustle culture feeds loneliness. Chai Bade - our guest on this episode – found himself feeling lonely when he realised that his long workdays meant that he did little else but work and sleep. He spoke his loneliness to his sister and she gave him outstanding advice: be more mindful. Employing this advice changed Chai’s world. It led him to create The Bunch Up, a service that helps you get the connection you need. In this episode, you’ll: be supported through hearing Chai’s story of loneliness and how he’s be...2024-09-011h 23Humans:Connecting17. The life-changing benefits of social rehab: with Jacob DarkinDespite our best efforts, we rarely get to control what happens in life. We do, however, get to control how we respond.Jacob Darkin – our guest on this episode – injured his spinal cord and spent over nine months in the Spinal Unit of Sydney’s Royal North Shore Hospital. He went through physical rehab to understand his new physical reality and understood that he needed to also work on his social health to understand how he could connect with others.What he did was genius...2024-08-251h 28Humans:Connecting16. Let's talk about workplace lonelinessWorkplace loneliness is the emerging frontier in the global discussion to reduce human loneliness. We know that humans who feel lonely at work report higher levels of absenteeism. They are less productive, less efficient, and are more likely to leave. They're also likely to stay and be less productive and less efficient.Workplaces around the world are beginning to grasp the importance of addressing workplace loneliness. This episode introduces the concept of workplace loneliness to the podcast and how the answer to workplace loneliness is already with us. ...2024-08-1945 minHumans:ConnectingUnleash your inner Care Bear to fight workplace lonelinessWorkplace loneliness is an issue that affects all workplaces globally.
We know that humans who feel lonely at work report higher levels of absenteeism. They are less productive, less efficient, and are more likely to leave.
They're also likely to stay and be less productive and less efficient.
Workplaces around the world are beginning to grasp the importance of addressing workplace loneliness. This episode introduces the concept of workplace loneliness to the podcast.
A great place to start addressing workplace loneliness is to accep...2024-08-1851 minHumans:Connecting15. 10 seconds of courage can change your life: with Jack HedgesDoing connection puts you at the very edge of – or well beyond – your comfort zone. It can be easy to imagine that it’s all too hard, so we don’t do anything. We can stay in our loneliness, even though we don’t want to. But as HUMANS:Connecting’s sales manager Jack Hedges says, 10 seconds of courage can change your life. In this episode, you’ll join Phil and Jack for a beautiful discussion on: How 10 seconds of courage can change...2024-08-111h 29Humans:Connecting14. The #1 connection killer (and how you can avoid it)There are many reasons why we humans experience loneliness, but there is one reason that we consistently notice as the most common reason we hear that feeds your loneliness. Busyness. In this episode, we’ll talk about how important it is for you to stop hustling and being proud of your full schedule. You’ll hear the price you’re paying for your busyness; appreciate that connection can only ever happen in the present moment and your busyness means you’re living in the future; and want to know how to flip th...2024-08-0454 minHumans:Connecting13. Friends for Good wants you to be free from loneliness: with Eleisha CasañasAt HUMANS:CONNECTING, we’re all about helping you get the connection you need whenever you experience loneliness. This includes sharing the great work of other individuals and organisations who are also helping us humans feel connected. One of those organisations is the Australian not-for-profit, Friends For Good. Its mission is to free us from loneliness and they’re doing some great work that you need to know about. In this episode, you’ll meet Eleisha Casañas – Friends For Good’s National Research and Communi...2024-07-281h 01Humans:Connecting12. 3 tips to make and maintain friendships - with Dr Miriam KirmayerStrong friendships are vital to your wellbeing. But why is italways so weird and awkward to make new friends? Why does it seem like there’s never enough time to maintain friendships? We’re honoured to have renowned friendship expert Dr Miriam Kirmayer joining Phil for this episode to help make it less weird and awkward for you. In this episode, you’ll: hear why friendships are so important for you; get 3 tips to help you make and maintain friendships; and hear Dr Miriam’s suggestion to support you when you nextexpe...2024-07-211h 49Humans:Connecting11. So, you're lonely. This is your next moveWe’re back for Season 2 and we’re starting off by talking about the great work is happening around the world that’s raising awareness of loneliness, its prevalence and how it affects you physically, mentally, emotionally AND socially. We at HUMANS:CONNECTING love being part of this global effort. But what are you meant to do once you’re aware of loneliness and your loneliness? We at HUMANS:CONNECTING are here for that, too. This episode helps you work out what you need to do next. 2024-07-1454 minHumans:Connecting10. What we've uncovered about our need for human connection - a review of Season 1: with Jeff Bartlett and Pete NewsomeThis first season of the HUMANS:CONNECTING podcast has been epic. We’ve uncovered so much wisdom over this season to help you become a human who feels awesomely connected to your self, to those most important to you and to your communities. Joining Phil to unpack the wisdom throughout the season are Jeff Bartlett (the team’s Design Lead) and Pete Newsome (our Marketing Manager), who share what’s supported them to become more connected humans. In this episode, you’ll: hear our highlig...2024-05-021h 53Humans:Connecting9. Let's get real about wellbeing at work: with Joel AndersonIt’s time to get real about workplace wellbeing. After all,work is a place you go and a thing you do that consumes your mind and body for about 1/3 of your adult life. Work can be the place where you find connection and purpose. It can also be a place of stress and disconnection. Despite work’s importance to our wellbeing, why canworkplace mental health support services be so inadequate? Joining Phil on this episode is Joel Anderson. Joel’s theFounder and CEO of Foremind. He’s using his skills...2024-04-241h 29Humans:Connecting8. Let's talk about Bruno, 'Encanto' and belonging: with Peg Fong and Guillermo SerranoCultivating the feeling of belonging is important if we’re to feel connected and move through loneliness. The movie ‘Encanto’ offers many examples of how we humans can struggle to feel that we belong within ourselves, with those most important to us and our communities. Joining Phil on this episode are Peg Fong and Guillermo Serrano – hosts of the ‘Alone Together: a curious exploration of loneliness’ and it’s Spanish-language equivalent ‘Juntos en Soledad’. Both Peg and Guillermo talked about Bruno on their podcasts and bring some wonderful insights to help you cultivate your s...2024-04-181h 38Humans:Connecting7. Listening to our whispering hearts: with Dr Jeremy Goldberg‘Fear shouts and the heart whispers’: powerful words shared by our guest, Dr Jeremy Goldberg. We know exactly just how much our fear screams at us when we go to do connection when in the middle of a loneliness experience. It’s hard to silence the fear, isn’t it? But you must listen to your heart, because your heart knows how worthy you are of love and belonging. This episode is all about how you can begin to listen to your heart, even when your mind – and the fear within it – is screa...2024-04-111h 30Humans:Connecting6. Facing a common connection fear: school reunionsWhat if high school wasn’t a great time for you and you wereinvited to a class reunion? Would you go? Phil McAuliffe, HUMANS:Connecting’s founder, doesn’t have fond memories of high school and 2024 will be his 30-year high school reunion. He initially wasn’t going to go, but with some kindness from friends and his partner, he realised that he must face his fear of being seen and judged. He must go if he’s to put the stories that fed his loneliness to rest. ...2024-04-031h 00Humans:Connecting1. Unlocking Human Connection: with Phil McAuliffeIt’s time to unlock human connection so you can become a connected human. We flipped the script for this episode. We decided that the host would be the first guest. Join Pete Newsome (H:C's marketing manager) for his conversation with HUMANS:Connecting’s founder, Phil McAuliffe. In this conversation, you’ll get:- Insights into Phil’s loneliness;- How he came to create HUMANS:Connecting;- How HUMANS:Connecting imagines a world where you get the connection you need as soon as you realise you need it; and - One simp...2024-02-291h 31
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 70 - Coming out as lonelyIf it’s not already clear: I’m Phil. I’m gay and I get lonely. I come out as gay all the time.
I also come out as lonely all the time. Coming out as lonely is tough. It’s often far easier for me to come out as gay than it is to come out as lonely.
Let’s talk about coming out as lonely as the only way to break loneliness’ hold on your thoughts and behaviours.
Website: https://www.thelonelydiplomat.com
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Buy me a coffee to say thank...2023-09-0118 min
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 72 - Being gay in East Africa - a coffee with Paul Canary KanyamuLike you, I’ve been watching in horror at the brutality of the laws that have been introduced in Uganda in recent months and seeing how these laws have affected the lives of our global LGBTIQA+ family in East Africa.
I want to give a voice to those whose lives have been turned upside down by these laws and whose very lives are threatened by living outside of the closet.
Come and join me and the amazing Paul Canary Kanyamu on this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy, and let’s listen to how life is for our...2023-08-251h 20
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 70 - Loneliness, connection & polyamory - a coffee with Kevin MartinOne of the great things about being gay and queer is that we can question and challenge the norms of the heterosexual society. This includes how we choose to define our relationships.
This is true of exploring open relationships and polamory. Non-standard relationships can be a source of connection and loneliness.
While exciting, it can feel like we’re not sure how to navigate relationships that serve us and help us feel connected.
Come and join me and Kevin Martin on this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy, and let’s get you some tools to navigate disc...2023-08-111h 21
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 68 - Loneliness & taking unsafe risks - a coffee with Dr Shayna Skakoon-SparlingLoneliness drives your behaviours.
We can want sexual connection so much that loneliness can make you and I take potentially unsafe risks in the hope to feel any kind of connection.
You and I – indeed, the community – need to have a conversation about this so we live our lives as gay and queer men without putting ourselves at risk of HIV and STIs.
I’ve found the perfect guest to join us for this episode. Dr Shayna Skakoon-Sparling works within our community to help you make better decisions for your sexual health and wellbeing.
Come and join me and Dr Shayna...2023-07-281h 21
The Empowered Expat WomanHow To Cope With Loneliness Abroad - with Phil McAuliffeLiving abroad exposes us to unique challenges, including loneliness. My guest Phil McAuliffe, a.k.a. The Lonely Diplomat, shares his personal journey of experiencing and admitting loneliness, seeking help, and creating safe spaces for open discussions. In this episode, we explore the normalcy of loneliness, why it's so common among expats, as well as the most proven coping strategies. Phil's mission is to empower individuals to embrace loneliness, listen to its cues, and find the connections they need. You don't want to miss this episode! PS: The Empowered Expat Woman is going on a little summer hiatus - see...2023-07-2753 min
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 66 - What is loneliness? - a coffee with Dr Sara QuinnYou already know that the thoughts and feelings of loneliness can make you feel awful. But have you ever stopped to wonder why you and all other humans feel lonely from time-to-time?
Come and join me and my friend Dr Sara Quinn – a Canberra-based clinical psychologist and beautiful human – in this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy and learn how you can make your loneliness stop and turn it into your connection superpower.
Oh, and don’t miss our big announcement towards the end of the episode.
Grab a coffee – or a tea as we did – and join us no...2023-07-141h 25
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 64 - Connecting with our bodies - a coffee with AndreasOne of the most common things that you and other gay men in this community tell me is that you have a difficult relationship with your body. This poor relationship can get in the way of you really connecting with your self: an important component of you feeling connected and less lonely.
It's time to change that.
Come and join me and Andreas from Andreas Embodiment on this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy, and let’s talk about your relationship with your body and some tips to help you begin the process of feeling connected to yo...2023-06-301h 30
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 62 - Healing church shame - a coffee with Eric FeltesIt’s very common for gay men to carry around shame for being gay. This internalised homophobia can come from many sources, but a common source is the beliefs installed from religious dogma.
This episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy is for you if you’re one of those who’s carrying around shame about your sexuality from your religious beliefs or the religious beliefs held by others being put on to you.
Come and join me and Eric Feltes for a coffee and a chat about how you can begin healing that shame.
About Eric:
Eric is a L...2023-06-161h 07
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 60 - Loneliness after coming out - a coffee with Shaun WilliamsLoneliness can feel like a constant companion when we’re in the closet. But what about the loneliness we experience – and perhaps aren’t prepared for – AFTER we come out? What did you do to feel accepted and belonging in the community?
Let’s explore the loneliness we can feel after we come out in this conversation with my friend, Shaun Williams of Bent Couch Counselling.
Grab a coffee and join me and Shaun and listen to his beautiful story.
About Shaun:
Born in country Victoria and father to four kids, Shaun finally admitted to himself and his family that he was gay...2023-06-021h 09
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 58 - Living authentically - a coffee with Drummond FulcherAuthenticity and being authentic are words and concepts that get thrown around very casually.
We connect with authenticity, but hate being dismissed as ‘inauthentic’.
Authentic connection is the antidote to your loneliness. But what does that even mean?
Come and join me and Drummond Fulcher from @drummondculture for a coffee and a chat about living authentically.
About Drummond:
Drummond’s an LGBTQIA+ Self-Empowerment Coach who’s dedicated his life to developing people within his community into powerful leaders who can go out into the world to create a better future for all.
In 2020, he launched his own podcast series called Positive...2023-05-191h 28
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 59 - Getting to know us - with Jeff BartlettCome and join me and my beautiful partner Jeff for a chat about him, me and us.
Jeff and I recorded some magic in this episode. The conversation went in a direction that I hadn’t really intended it.
But as is so often the case when conversations are real, open and honest, it went where it needed to go: we spoke on how loneliness has shown up in our lives and how it’s fuelled connection for each of us, how we came to live together, and how each of us approaches life individually and as part of this team...2023-05-051h 29
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 56 - Getting to know us - a coffee with Jeff BartlettCome and join me and my beautiful partner Jeff for a chat about him, me and us.
Jeff and I recorded some magic in this episode. The conversation went in a direction that I hadn’t really intended it.
But as is so often the case when conversations are real, open and honest, it went where it needed to go: we spoke on how loneliness has shown up in our lives and how it’s fuelled connection for each of us, how we came to live together, and how each of us approaches life individually and as part of this team...2023-05-051h 29
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 55 - My loneliest timesTimes of change have been identified as some of the times humans report feeling loneliest.
I’ve been reflecting about when I’ve felt the loneliest throughout my life so far. I’ve noticed that loneliness in times of change applies to me, too.
Let’s explore some of the times in my life that I felt the loneliest in this episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy.
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Read ‘My loneliest times’: http...2023-04-0749 min
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEp. 54 - Being Christian and gay - a coffee with Craig Watson and Eric FeltesI really struggle to think of a bigger source of loneliness-inducing trauma in our community than religious trauma.
Spend some time now and join Craig Watson, Eric Feltes and me in this inspiring and beautiful episode of Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness Guy for a chat about Craig’s experience.
Links:
Have Phil’s guidance through your loneliness: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/myservices
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Join the mailing list: https://www.thelonelinessguy.com/subscribe
Register for Connection Session (Sunday 26 March 2023): https://bit.ly/3SH7VlV
Read ‘Being Christian and gay – by Craig Watson: https://www.thelonelonelinessguy.com/blog...2023-03-101h 34
Connection over Coffee with The Loneliness GuyEspresso 11 - Coming out gay, coming out lonelyCOMING OUT AS GAY, COMING OUT AS LONELY
If it’s not already clear: I’m Phil. I’m gay and I get lonely. Like many of you, I come out as gay all the time. I also come out as lonely all the time. It’s far easier for me to come out as gay than it is to come out as lonely. Let’s have a quick chat about that.
Join me now for Connection Espresso 11 and let’s start you on the way to feeling connected.
Come and get that quick shot of connection goodness.
Website: www.thelonelines...2022-09-1606 min
GayborhoodPhil McAuliffe - Lonliness, Shame and being a real-life daddy!Phil's a gay dad, an ex-husband (to a wife) with teenage twins and is now a happy partner to a loving man. Learn how our harshest experiences in life become our super power, especially in being a great dad to your children. Go from porn-shame to porn as a celebration, deal with "daddy" when you already are one, hear hw Catholic education in Australia wasn't all bad. Phil says community is everywhere, and what you make it. He describes shame as a being you can name, tame and befriend to your great benefit. He knows what it...2022-08-281h 30
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 49 - A call to the diplomatic disruptersThere’s something calming about observing protocols and heeding diplomatic traditions in times of great disruption, uncertainty and stress.
But sometimes, things need to be shaken up and modernised so they meet today’s needs.
When it comes to serving, supporting, challenging and inspiring diplomats and those who live the diplomatic life, the usual support services and structures may not be fit for their original purpose.
This is a call to those who, like me, are all about supporting, serving, challenging and inspiring those around them as we live our diplomatic lives. I want to talk to you and amplify your...2022-02-0415 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 48 - My resilience resetLet’s have a chat about real resilience and courage in this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast.
A whole lot of life has happened for us in 2020 and 2021. We need to process it in our way. Even when it's hard and we're busy. No, ESPECIALLY when it’s hard and we’re busy.
We need a resilience reset. You need a resilience reset. Let me tell you about mine, as unwelcome and inconvenient as it was.
Want to talk with me directly? Get me in your corner through my mentoring services as you live your diplomatic life. See link below...2022-01-2129 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 47 - The courage to changeHappy New Year! It’s 2022 and our thoughts may be turning to the New Year and New Year’s resolutions.
What’s it going to be for you? Quit smoking? Get a better work/life balance? Enforce boundaries?
You know that I have content all designed to help you and others who live the diplomatic life as you live your diplomatic life.
But change when living the diplomatic life can be so hard and the changes we want to make never really stick, do they? Let’s have a chat about that in this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast.
Want to...2021-12-3126 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 46 - Reflecting on 2021Ah, it’s getting towards the pointy end of the festive season and you might get some days off to rest and recharge shortly.
Not before time, right?!
Let’s reflect on 2021. What happened? What did we learn? Did 2021 happen to you, or did you happen to it?
Let’s have a chat about that in this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast.
Want to talk with me directly? Get me in your corner through my mentoring services as you live your diplomatic life. See link below.
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Send me your question: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog: www.th...2021-12-1720 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 45 - The power of belongingDo you still feel like you must prove that you’re worthy of having your job wherever you are in the world?
Do you still feel like you must prove that you being where you are and doing what you’re doing is not some horrible mistake?
Do you still feel that you must constantly hustle to prove that you’re worthy of your job and your life?
Trust me: You’re not alone. You belong right now.
Let me share some of my story with you.
Let’s have a chat about that in this episode of The Lonely Diplomat p...2021-12-0339 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 44 - 'I can't relax'One of you in my awesome global audience shared with me that you simply can’t turn off: you can’t relax.
You’re always checking email. You’re always refreshing news feeds. You’re always watching the news.
Always seeing what’s coming up next and how you can respond? I’m not surprised.
What does it take for you to really relax?
Let’s have a chat about that in this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast.
Want to talk with me directly? Get me in your corner through my mentoring services as you live your diplomatic life. See link below...2021-11-1930 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 43 - 'But I'm a diplomat!' - Privilege, entitlement and diplomacyWhile it sometimes may not feel like it, by any measure, diplomats and those who live the diplomatic life are privileged.
Sometimes, we’re even a bit entitled. Sometimes, we’re really entitled. Sometimes, we even act like spoiled children when we don’t get our way.
We need to check our privilege.
What if we used our privilege and listened to the needs of the communities in which we live? What if we used the latent power of the global diplomatic community to contribute in its way to those communities? The collective skills, interests and experience of extremely talented and cl...2021-11-0521 min
Men Rising From Divorce - A Rising Phoenix PodcastEpisode 46 - The Loneliness GuySend us a textIn this Episode I interview Phil McAuliffe, aka, The Loneliness guy. Phil and I discuss his journey, his divorce, and how he has felt and dealt with loneliness.https://linktr.ee/thelonelinessguyhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.comSupport the showhttps://www.risingphoenixpodcast.com2021-10-201h 21
Sara Gonzales UnfilteredEp 873 | Private Companies Starting to FIRE Employees Who Refuse the Vax | Guest: Phil LabontePrivate companies are officially starting the process of firing employees who refuse to get vaccinated. DHS Secretary Alejandro Mayorkas says 1 in 5 migrants have an "illness." Whatever could that "illness" be? And lastly, the Democrat running for governor in Virginia, Terry McAuliffe, says parents should not be telling schools what to teach. Because it takes a village, right?Today's Sponsors:There is only one Christian conservative carrier in the country with dependable coverage, which sends a portion of every dollar you spend to support the First and Second Amendments, veterans, and the sanctity of life, plus...2021-09-3045 min
Second ServingStorytelling with Phil Crosby of Richmond Triangle PlayersToday we welcome one of our community partners of several years now, Phillip Crosby, Executive Director of the Richmond Triangle Players. Philip is in his second decade leading Richmond Triangle Players. He has over thirty-five years of experience leading nonprofit arts and cultural organizations, including as a professional marketer, publicist, fundraiser and strategist for Cleveland’s Great Lakes Theater Festival, Boston Shakespeare Festival, TheatreVirginia, and Richmond Ballet. During his career, he has had the great good fortune to work with some of the most celebrated names in theatre, film and dance, including Tom Hanks, Hal Holbrook, Alfred Drake, Geo...2021-07-2932 min
Gay Men Going DeeperLoneliness & BelongingAbout Today’s Show
Going through life as a gay man can be alienating. In fact, some say that loneliness is the new gay epidemic. Despite widespread progress in legal and social acceptance of homosexuality, studies show that gay men are disproportionately affected by loneliness.
In today’s episode, Michael and special guest Phil McAuliffe a.k.a. “The Loneliness Guy” have a candid discussion about normalizing loneliness and how we can seek a greater sense of belonging.
Connect with Phil
Watch this ep on YouTube
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Everyday Legends031 - The cure for loneliness with Phil McAuliffeThere are many things men are often terrified of being and/or terrified of being seen as. Being or being seen as - sometimes the reality doesn’t seem as daunting as other people thinking the reality is true. Being wrong, incapable, weak are a few of the big ones that I’ve mentioned on this podcast before. And then there is another, one that carries with it so much social stigma it really only gets put in the darkest of corners for the saddest of people. What is it that we fear bein...2021-07-051h 18
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 38 - 'I need a life'In this final episode of the current series, we’ll chat about how diplomacy often requires us to be ready to work at all hours.
We’ll talk about work/life balance and how our work/life balance isn’t given to us: We must get our life for ourselves.
But how? Let’s have a chat about that.
I’ll be back with a new series and new topics to discuss in a few months. In the meantime, get me in your corner through my mentoring services. See link below.
Links:
Send me your question: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com
Website: www.thelon...2021-02-0521 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 37 - 'I'm struggling to cope'In this second last episode in this series, we’re going to discuss what can happen when we valiantly try to cope with ceaseless demands on our time and attention at work and in life.
For all our skills, talents and ability to serve our governments and our fellow citizens, diplomats and those who live the diplomatic life are still human. We all have our limits.
Let’s have a chat about how we can engage on our mental health during these difficult times.
Get me in your corner through my mentoring services. See link below.
Links:
Send me your ques...2021-01-2930 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 36 - 'My husband cheated'We’re going to have a kind and honest conversation on a subject that we too often only speak about in hushed tones: relationship infidelity and the challenges that this diplomatic life puts on our relationships.
Please join me if you’re ready to sit with some discomfort and to start a kind and honest conversation.
Get me in your corner through my mentoring services. See link below.
Mentioned in this episode:
Esther Perel: IG @estherperelofficial
Mark Groves: IG @createthelove
Links:
Send me your question: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog
Want my mentoring serv...2021-01-2242 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 35 - 'I didn't want to be a burden'One of you – my awesome global audience – shared with me that you’d been enduring constant bullying, harassment and intimidation in your workplace. You shared that this appalling behaviour had left you feeling stressed, isolated and alone.
During our chat, I asked: ‘Why didn’t you reach out to someone for support?’
You answered: ‘I didn’t want to be a burden’.
Let’s talk about that.
Get me in your corner through my mentoring services. See link below.
Links:
Send me your question: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog
Want my mentoring services? Become a ‘Minister’...2021-01-1530 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 34 - 'Should we do another posting?'Let’s jump straight into 2021 and let’s have a chat about an issue that many diplomats who belong in a family or community all struggle with at some point:
Should we do another posting?
It’s a question that often brings our familial responsibilities and our work responsibilities into conflict.
Remember to like, comment, share and/or follow!
Get me in your corner through my mentoring services. See link below.
Links:
Send me your question: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog
Want my mentoring services? Become a ‘Minister’ or ‘Ambassador’ member today at www.thelonelyd...2021-01-0824 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 33 - 'Christmas is hard'I’m all about helping you reconnect with yourself and the world around you as you lead your diplomatic life.
What are your plans for Christmas this year? What were you hoping to do?
Christmas – and any other event that brings friends and families together – can be hard when we’re so far away from home.
Ironically, even when we are at home we can still feel like we’re not home.
Then, throw 2020 into the mix and, well…
Thank you for being here and letting me support you as you lead your diplomatic life in 2020. Stay safe, stay kind and stay awe...2020-12-1815 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 32 - 'I feel like a fraud'I’m all about helping you reconnect with yourself and the world around you as you lead your diplomatic life.
When one of you asked me for help with their feelings of being a fraud at work, I knew that my response would be helpful to many. After all, feeling like a fraud or an impostor is common among high achievers.
What do you do when you feel like you’re a fraud or an impostor? Do you ‘fake it ‘till you make it’ and power through?
How sustainable is that approach? Is it really working for you?
Remember to like, comm...2020-12-1126 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 31 - 'HELP!! I get too many emails'I’m all about helping you reconnect with yourself and the world around you as you lead your diplomatic life.
When one of you asked me for help and said that one of their biggest challenges was getting too many emails and worrying about missing something important, I provided this advice to them. I now provide it for you, too.
Hint: It’s all about the emails and not at all about the emails.
Remember to like, comment and share!
Links:
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog
Want my mentoring services? Become a ‘Minister’ or ‘Ambassador’ member today at www...2020-12-0420 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 30 - Lessons from my 2020In a stunning example of gross diplomatic understatement, 2020 has been quite a year, hasn’t it?
There have been life lessons aplenty. And for a blogger/podcaster on this diplomatic life, there’s always a rich vein of content from our collective experiences.
We’ve all been tested in our own ways. That we’re still here with food in our bellies and roofs over our heads is in itself a worthy achievement.
Let’s review 2020 and see what we can learn from it. I’ll go first.
Remember to like, comment and share!
Links:
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog: www.thelonel...2020-11-2747 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 29 - On my purposeIt’s great to be back!
Let’s have a chat about my purpose: why I do what I do for you and other diplomats and those who live the diplomatic life.
Remember to like, comment and share!
Links:
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog
Want my mentoring services? Become a ‘Minister’ or ‘Ambassador’ member today at www.thelonelydiplomat.com/membership-information
Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/_AG9SafgaME2020-11-2035 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 28 - On our soulgasmsAfter reflecting on our soulaches for the past few weeks, let’s have a chat about what gives us soulgasms and brings us joy as we live our diplomatic lives in this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast.
Are you numbing, ignoring and denying your soulache as you live your diplomatic life and focusing only on that which brings you joy? Do you allow yourself to feel your soulgasms?
Big question time. But let’s get you finding the joy in the everyday as you live your diplomatic life.
Once you’ve listened to this episode, share your daily diplomatic soulga...2020-08-2831 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 27 - On our soulachesThere are fewer worse feelings than our own soulache. We can feel empty and at odds within our selves.
A soulache develops when what we do is not aligned with who we are.
This begs the question: Who are you?
Let’s have a chat about your answer to this question.
A soulache while living the diplomatic life can lead for some uncomfortable reckonings within us about what we do. I invite you to go somewhere quiet to listen to this episode so you can reflect on your own soulache.
Links:
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog post: ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on o...2020-08-0727 min
Proud to be OutE5: How to overcome loneliness and become a happy (single) gay manIn todays episode, Alexander's guest is Phil McAuliffe, also known as The Loneliness Guy from Wellington, New Zealand. As a former diplomat for the Australian government, Phil worked and lived in several countries around the world where he experienced being lonely, although he was together with his former wife and sons. Working with a coach, who got to the core of Phil's desires and identity, Phil started to realize that loneliness is a big issue among gay man, as he is proudly today. What is loneliness, why is connection and authenticity so important to overcome loneliness? And why it...2020-08-0559 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 26 - Who gets lonelier: diplomat or spouse?Who gets lonelier: the posted diplomat or the accompanying significant other?
I’m asked this question more than any other when people learn that I’ve twice been the posted diplomat and twice been the accompanying significant other during my 20-year diplomatic life.
Let’s answer the question and investigate what it really means.
Links
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog post: ‘The Lonely Diplomat: who gets lonelier: diplomat or spouse?’ at https://bit.ly/2DwtrqX
My book: https://amzn.to/3brZTXr
Seminars, mentoring and other services: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/services
Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
Subscribe: www.thelonelyd...2020-07-1730 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 25 - Lessons from my social media detoxYou know that I often recommend that we who live the diplomatic lives need to use social media for good. But was I using it for good? This question prompted my month-long detox from my personal social media accounts.
I had two major insights during the detox. First, social media can be a powerful tool of connection when we use it mindfully. It’s an avenue for mindless consumption of ideas, thoughts and stuff when we don’t. Secondly, you and I get to decide who we let into our online lives, just like we do in our ‘real’ lives.
Can you...2020-06-2627 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 24 - On making changes in our livesChange is inevitable. Seasons change. Children grow up. People come into – and then leave – our lives. Why is it that I resist the changes I know that I must make in my own life, even when I know that I must change if I’m to evolve and grow?
Why is it that we all do this? Change does not happen – within our selves or in society – from simply reading, listening and watching. Change comes from doing.
Let’s do change together.
Links
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog post: ‘The Lonely Diplomat: a letter to myself about change’ at https://bit.ly/2XM7vhQ
M...2020-06-0533 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp 23 - On diplomatic breakups with Katia VlachosDiplomacy and the diplomatic life can place enormous stress on our relationships, and yet we don’t tend to talk about what can happen when those relationships end. Why is that?
My friend Katia Vlachos and I discuss breakups, separations and divorce in this episode. Katia has written some outstanding articles on the topic within the global expatriate community and shares some amazing insights with us here.
About Katia
Katia’s professional background is in policy analysis. She holds an MA from the Kennedy School of Government at Harvard and a PhD from the RAND Corporation. Katia is a seasoned expa...2020-05-151h 06
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 22 - On bullying, harassment and discrimination in diplomacyWhat can happen when relentless competition, isolation, power, ambition and expectations of constant high-performance mix? Abuse of power. Bullying. Harassment. Discrimination.
It’s clear that some of you are going through – or have been through – hell as you live your diplomatic life. Let’s start some courageous conversations and expose the dark corners of our diplomatic workplaces where this appalling behaviour thrives.
Links:
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog post: ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on bullying, harassment and discrimination in diplomacy’ https://bit.ly/3eAU4ZG
My book: https://amzn.to/3brZTXr
NZ Government workplace bullying site: https://bit.ly/2Kl8oYF
Seminars and...2020-04-2447 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 21 - On supporting you through COVID-19Social media is awash with tips and advice on how to survive and thrive through COVID-19 induced lockdowns and isolation. This episode focuses on serving and supporting you in a very practical way as you live your diplomatic life wherever you are in the world.
These are extraordinary times and I know that those who live the diplomatic life are coping as best they can with what they have wherever they are in the world. Adapting and getting on with it is what we do. It’s an honour to serve you through these times.
Links
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Bl...2020-04-0339 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 20 - On minimalism and decluttering our livesCouldn’t you do with some more simplicity, calmness and rejuvenation in your diplomatic life?
In ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on minimalism’, I wrote that my journey into minimalism started when I wanted to have less stuff to pack before a posting.
Let’s have a chat about how we can make that you’re surrounded by people and things that restore, uplift and calm you in this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast.
Links
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog post: ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on minimalism’ https://bit.ly/2TVyiql
Coaching, seminars and other services: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/services
Please, support my work: www.t...2020-03-1325 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 19 - On the power of mindfulness with Jase Te PatuJoin me for a cup of tea with my friend Jase Te Patu as we talk about the superpower that is the practice of mindfulness.
Following the blog post ‘Mindfulness and you’ - written by Jase (link below) - I’m eager to give you, my awesome audience of diplomats around the world, further support as you work to optimise your mental health and well-being as you live your diplomatic lives.
About Jase
Iwi - Ngāti Ruanui, Ngāti Apa and Ngāti Tūwharetoa
Jase is an award-winning facilitator with over 25 years’ experience in the health and wellness sector. He i...2020-02-211h 03
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 18 - On mental health and diplomacyFollowing the beautiful and insightful blog post ‘On anxiety and being a diplomat’ - written by one of my awesome audience - I’m keen to start a real, authentic, kind and honest conversation about mental illness and mental health and well-being in diplomacy.
SPOILER: We must get real about our mental health and well-being and this must start with you.
Links
Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
Blog post: ‘On anxiety and being a diplomat’: https://bit.ly/2NVt37y
Coaching, seminars and other services: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/services
Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
Stay connected with me and my wor...2020-01-3136 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 17 - On portable businesses with Amel DerraguiThis episode features my interview with Amel Derragui from Tandem Nomads.
Simply, this conversation was so much fun. Amel and I chatted about how she came to start Tandem Nomads and how – with support – we can turn the challenges of our diplomatic lives into opportunities, just like Amel has.
The episode was a direct response to the many comments I receive from you, my wonderful audience, about how the life of being a diplomatic spouse means leaving behind your career to accompany your diplomatic significant other. It doesn’t have to be this way if you want to maintain – or start –...2020-01-171h 18
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 16 - On language and the words we useLet’s become linguistic ninjas.
As diplomats, we know how important language is to our work. We put in a great deal of effort to phrase our communiqués, speeches, letters and other communications just so.
Indeed, diplomacy is ruled by protocols and using the right words at the right time in the right way avoids misunderstandings. Our words and thoughts at work can be dominated by keeping all possibilities open, lest we miss an opportunity to advance our country’s interests.
But what happens when we adopt the same communication style within ourselves and with those around us? Let’s explo...2019-12-1339 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 15 - On being a gay diplomatic spouse with Kevin HunttingLet’s explore what it’s like to be LGBTQ and in a same-sex relationship while living a diplomatic life.
In this episode, I have a fantastic and far-ranging chat with my friend, Kevin Huntting. Kevin wrote ‘On being gay and living a diplomatic life’ which was published on my blog in November 2019. The post has been widely read around the globe and has received some great feedback. We explore the issues raised in his blog about coming out and being vulnerable, how he’s experienced loneliness and lack of a career and how LGBTQ diplomats and their families can be support...2019-11-2259 min
The Time Is NowTurning loneliness into an opportunity to make an impact – With Phil McAuliffeIt is very rare that expat couples manage to alternate who gets to take a position for an assignment abroad, Phil McAuliffe shares how he and his wife managed to do so.
Also, you will get to hear his inspiring story of how he used his time “off” to invest in himself, start his business and turn the loneliness he experienced as a diplomat into an opportunity to make an impact.
“The problem was not to put myself out there, the problem was to put my authentic-self out there.”
Phil McAuliffe comes from Australia and is currently on his four...2019-11-1239 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 14 - Thoughts on lonelinessIt’s time to have a kind and honest conversation in this episode of #thelonelydiplomatpodcast about a topic that makes many of you – my lovely audience – feel uncomfortable: loneliness.
Let’s have this conversation together. Let’s talk about how we can say that we don’t feel lonely, but recognise how we need for more real, authentic connection in our lives. Can it really work this way? Is it that we just want the fix but not admit we have the condition? This is a real opportunity lost.
I talk about the common responses I receive to when I admit that I...2019-11-0838 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 13 - On mid-life crises with Dougal SutherlandThe very words ‘mid-life crisis’ can induce feelings of angst, unease and a desperation to recapture what we feel that we’ve lost. We desperately do not want to be the stereotype, but sometimes a red sports car or the affair is too tempting.
But Dr Dougal Sutherland and I explore how we can face the thoughts and feelings that herald a mid-life crisis and use them to our advantage and conduct a useful evaluation of our life.
I also share how I desperately did not want to have a mid-life crisis, but it turns out that the chance to re-eva...2019-10-1859 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 12 - On being a male diplomatic spouse with SimonBeing a male diplomatic spouse sounds like the ticket to the sweet life, doesn’t it? There’s the chance to explore the city, learn new hobbies, play sports, meet others just like you.
Well, appearances can be deceiving. The lived reality can be very different. There’s social isolation that comes from having very few peers and living with being different to society’s expectations of a man’s role to contend with.
There is a way through, and to thrive, when being a male diplomatic spouse. It involves answering the question: from where do you derive your sense of self...2019-09-2029 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 11 - On leaving diplomacy with Angela PickettLeaving a career to start afresh is scary. We leave behind a world we know for something that we don't. We must decide if the price of staying where we are is higher than the price of moving on. We must decide if the life we’ve built around our current job is worth risking for another.
And so it is with diplomacy. It can be a lot to give up, but sooner or later, we all reach a crossroads where the thoughts of staying or leaving occupy our minds.
What to do? Where to go? There’s so much to c...2019-08-231h 05
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 10 - On the price of diplomacyThe life and career opportunities afforded by diplomacy are amazing and life-defining. Many of us keep looking for opportunities to work and live overseas to further our country’s interests and to satisfy our innate curiosity for how the world works. It's addictive.
But there is a cost to living this life, and sooner or later, we all must pay. And no, I don’t mean the financial cost. I mean the physical, mental and emotional cost that this diplomatic life demands of us all.
This episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast explores the price that we all pay for livi...2019-07-2634 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 9 - On social media and connectionWithout doubt, social media has made our world smaller. We are more connected than ever. Our social media accounts have hundreds, even thousands, of our friends and other people we collect through life.
For those of us living the diplomatic life, social media is a real link to those friends and family members spread all over the world.
Why then do so many us feel so alone? Why are we in the grip of a ‘loneliness epidemic’?
This episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast investigates how we diplomats and those living the diplomatic life can use social media in a way...2019-07-1223 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 8 - On competitive storiesSomething wonderful happens when diplomats and those living the diplomatic life get together. We are with people who understand; we are with people who get what this life is like. Without too much effort, stories of successes, near misses and disasters are shared.
This episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast looks at these stories and how they’re a valuable source of connection but can also evolve into competitive stories where we ‘one-up’ each other with our tales.
What happens when someone says something that could indicate that they’re not OK? What if their courage and bravery in admitting that the...2019-06-2817 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 7 - On growing up diplomatically with Jaqueline BenndorfIf you’re a parent who’s also a diplomat or you’re the child of a diplomat, you need to hear this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast.
In my chat with Jaqueline Benndorf – herself the daughter of a diplomat and accomplished psychotherapist – we explore what her childhood and adolescence in a diplomatic family has meant for her throughout her life.
As parents, we all are doing the best we can for our children. Jaqueline and I provide some advice for those who are parenting as well as leading a diplomatic life and some advice for the children living a diplomat...2019-06-1452 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 6 - On self-deprecation and my friend JoeIn this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast, I talk about self-deprecation and my relationship with my friend Joe.
I wrote on this topic in ‘Are you the self-deprecating diplomat?’ (go to https://bit.ly/2JmB3Lx to read) and I wanted to talk more about self-deprecation and how it affects me.
Self-deprecation is nasty and insidious. It masquerades as good-humoured humility but hides our belief that we are not enough.
I explore the feeling that many of us have that we are frauds or imposters and that we will be found out at any moment and how some of us c...2019-05-3127 min
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 5 - On The Stories We Tell Ourselves with Mike CampbellOn this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast, I speak with Mike Campbell on the power of the stories we tell ourselves.
I wrote on this topic in ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on the stories we tell ourselves’ (go to www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog to read) and wanted to discuss the power of these stories with Mike.
Each of us have stories that our minds scrap together to make sense of ourselves and the those around us. They are incredibly powerful, and we can build them into truths about ourselves and others. We rarely challenge them, even when they’re wrong.
Be sur...2019-05-171h 06
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 4 - On Stress And Resilience with Alison EarlIn this episode, we explore the concepts of stress and resilience. The interview follows my blog post ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on resilience – part 2’ (go to www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog to read). Alison and I have an enlightening discussion about her work as a Positive Psychology Practitioner and her work helping people to thrive under stress in a range of industries.
If you’ve ever been stressed, are stressed, or feel that you could be stressed soon, this episode is compulsory listening.
Alison has worked as a researcher strategist and positive psychology practitioner around the globe. She’s a Behavioural Strategist with Burns...2019-05-031h 18
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 3 - On Home with Katia VlachosIn this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast, we'll explore the concept of 'home' and what it means to diplomats. This is a topic I explored in my blog post 'The Lonely Diplomat: on home', published on 17 March 2019 (go to www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog to read).
In this episode, you’ll hear a great conversation between me and Katia Vlachos, author of the fantastic book: ‘A Great Move: Surviving and Thriving In Your Expat Assignment’.
Katia and I chat about the topic of home and moving internationally. Specifically, we talk about why it’s important to be brave and to speak up...2019-04-191h 03
CPA Review & MoreInterview with Justin McAuliffe of CPA Enterprises, PC - Episode 011In this episode, Phil talks to Justin McAuliffe of McAuliffe CPA Enterprises, P.C. Justin talks about his background of being a CPA and his journey on how he came to the decision of opening his own CPA practice. Connect with Kari: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jmaccpa/McAuliffe CPA Enterprises Website http://cpa.enterprises/Have a question for Phil? Call (301) 874-4900 Ext. 5Yaeger CPA Review http://yaegercpareview.comContact us podcast@yaegercpareview.comNeed help with your writing? https://grammarly.go2cloud.org/SH1YlMusic provided by: https://www...2019-04-091h 15
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 2 - Diplomatic Spouses Of The World, Unite! with Georgie RyanAn open, honest and fun interview with Georgie Ryan, author of the 'Diplomatic spouses of the world, unite!' blog post on www.thelonelydiplomat.com. Georgie shares her thoughts and experiences from her 22 years of accompanying her spouse on diplomatic postings in Hong Kong, Canada, Turkey and South Africa.
A must-listen episode for diplomatic spouses and those that love them.
Stay connected with me and my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/subscribe2019-04-051h 03
The Lonely DiplomatEp. 1 - IntroductionsIt's time for some introductions: to me; my work and why I want to help mid-career diplomats reconnect with themselves and the world around them.
Go to www.thelonelydiplomat.com to learn more.
Stay connected with me and my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/subscribe2019-03-2230 min
Flick Picks with Phil and TomEp. 96: Zendaya is MeecheeOn this week’s episode: Phil and Tom discuss the first trailers for Will Ferrell and John C. Reilly’s comedic take on the famous detectives, Holmes & Watson. And Adam McKay’s Dick Cheney biopic, Vice, starring Christian Bale as the VP, Sam Rockwell as George W. and a slew of other amazing actors. Phil and Tom discover the elusive Bigfoot in the star-studded animated musical Smallfoot, with Channing Tatum, Lebron James, Danny Devito, Common, and Zendaya is Mechee. With the help of Anna Kendrick, Tom goes on the search for a missing Blake Lively in Paul Feig’s A Simple...2018-10-0500 min
TrentonMakesMusic#21 - Rare CutsSam The Band, Wind, Frank Pinto, The Next, Gloop Nox & The Stik People
- Mannequin's Life - Sam The Band (live at The Chatterbox, Seaside Heights NJ, I think Bob Cash helped write this one)
- City Life - Wind (Wind reunites in the studio for Sam Masiello's take on the Ernie White classic)
- This Dying Land - Frank Pinto (from his Songs From The Janitor demo)
- White Line Jam - Wind (live at the Aquarius, Bordentown NJ, I think Phil McAuliffe wrote this one)
- California Man - The Next (Richie Sambora taking the lead vocals...2007-05-1029 min