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The UnMothered PodcastMost Downloaded Episodes | How To Handle Your Toxic Mom & Her Relationship As A Grandmother | Episode 77We are taking July off to enjoy a much-needed summer vacation! We hope you take some time to relax this summer as well, and we will chat with you back in August. In the meantime, enjoy some of the most downloaded episodes! This week's episode came as an anonymous request through my weekly newsletter, Tuesday Talks With Phylis (link in bio to sign up or head to my website!).Let’s talk about the do’s and don’ts of letting our children be a part of our mothers’ lives and what do you do whe...2025-07-1431 min

The UnMothered PodcastUnMothered Sons: The Hidden Wound Men Carry | Episode 105In this powerful and emotional episode, we explore a topic that's often overlooked in conversations around childhood trauma — what happens when men are the ones who were never mothered? What does it look like when a boy grows into a man still carrying the ache of a mother’s absence, and how does that wound ripple through his career, his relationships, and his future family?Inspired by the shocking real-life story told in the documentary Con Mom, host Phylis dives into the haunting truth about what happens when a man is so desperate for a mother’s love t...2025-05-0521 min

The UnMothered PodcastAre You Emily Lorelai or Rory; Gilmore That Is | Episode 89Are you team Lorelai team Emily or maybe even Rory? If you are familiar with the show “Gilmore Girls” you know these characters well. The mother/daughter/granddaughter dynamic had me glued to the show. Whenever there is a mother/daughter storyline, I’m ready to watch and observe. So my question is “which mom is right?” You will have to listen to this episode to find out, but one thing is for sure…there is more than one side to the story.Looking to connect with ot...2025-01-1330 min

The UnMothered PodcastA Big THANK YOU PEEPS For Your Support As We Head Into 2025 | Episode 88What do your dreams look like and are you ready to make them happen in 2025? Do you know how much you have helped my dreams come true by supporting this podcast? Grateful is an understatement, but today I want to help you fulfill something in your heart that you have been wanting to do. It’s coming up on a new year and you don’t want to waste it by just dreaming about someday…make it happen! Never forget the people who will support and help you also. The...2025-01-0625 min

The UnMothered PodcastStay Tuned For Next Week With All New Episodes!I will chat with you all next week in the new year, 2025, so exciting! We are having some fun things coming next year, like our 100th episode and so much more. Talk soon peeps!Looking to connect with other UnMothered’s? Join the PRIVATE Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityThis podcast is on YouTube now! Go watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcastsPurchase a signed copy of my book: https://www.phylismantelli.com/sh...2024-12-3001 min

The UnMothered PodcastWe Are Taking December Off-See You In 2025!Hi peeps! We are taking December off, but we will talk to you all soon in 2025! In the meantime, follow us on Instagram and let us know what topics you want to discuss in the new year. Hope you all have a great holiday season! Looking to connect with other UnMothered’s? Join the PRIVATE Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityThis podcast is on YouTube now! Go watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcastsPurchase a signed co...2024-12-0201 min

The UnMothered PodcastThe Key To Setting Up A Successful & Healthy Holiday Season | Episode 87Holidays are naturally stressful for most of us, but add in a narcissistic mom and it becomes a whole other stressor. Part of our generational dysfunction is putting up with stressful situations with our moms year after year with holiday get-togethers. This year it can be different if you decide to stop the old habits. It’s not easy, and I have done it so I know what I speak of. In the long run, it is so worth it. The holidays I share today with my own adult children and grandchildren are...2024-11-2528 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Discuss Purity With Your Child When Your Mother Never Taught You | Episode 86How many moms raised their kids in the 90’s purity culture? I sure did, and while I did it with good intentions if I could go back in time, I would have done some things differently. One thing I did do was keep the lines of communication open with my daughters so they knew they could always come and talk to me about anything.Listen in as I discuss this meaty topic that may be an unpopular opinion with some, but may help others with a great way to talk to your kids about life iss...2024-11-1829 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhen You Can’t Trust Your Mother with Family Information | Episode 85What do you do when your mother bad-mouths your in-laws and you tell your husband and now she is angry with you? Well, let's track the reason why she felt the need to talk about them in a cruel manner in the first place. Sometimes we can trust our moms with private information, and sometimes we absolutely can not! In this episode, we will explore this topic from a mom who is dysfunctional and does not have your best interest at heart. This week's episode came from a listener! I love hearing ab...2024-11-1123 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow We Can Use The 'Winter Arc' To Finish The Year Strong | Episode 84Today, we are discussing the “winter arc,” or the last three months of the year, and how we can reset anything that hasn’t worked so far.Just as the leaves change color and fall away, it is also a time for fresh growth. We can do the same with this year's old habits. We can restart and move away from the things that need new growth. This is the thing with the beginning of a new year. We get to dig in and lay low but also regroup and rethink about what's...2024-11-0423 min

The UnMothered PodcastParenting, Patterns, and Forgiveness A Conversation with Michelle S. Lazurek | Episode 83Michelle S. Lazurek is a multi-genre award-winning author, speaker, pastor's wife, and mother. She is a regular contributor for ibelieve.com, and crosswalk.com and has written for Focus on the Family, Campus Crusade for Christ, and Christianity Today. She also is a literary agent for Wordwise Media Services. When not working, she enjoys sipping a Starbucks latte, collecting 80s memorabilia, and spending time with her family and her crazy dog. For more info, please visit her website www.michellelazurek.com.Her new book Hall of Faith is available October 29th! https://a.co/d/2...2024-10-2841 min

The UnMothered PodcastBreaking Free From Generational Marriage Roles | Episode 82Do you do things in your marriage because it’s what you saw growing up or are you doing things differently because of seeing it go wrong for your parents? So many times we inadvertently do the traditional roles like our parents did. Even if those things are unhealthy, how do we know how to do it differently? Will it blow up in our faces if we ask for what we want in this relationship? These are things we should be talking about before we walk down the aisle, but if we have...2024-10-2121 min

The UnMothered PodcastIt Is Okay To Be Sad But Why Do People Keep Rushing Us To Be Happy? | Episode 81Something that’s weighed heavy on my mind lately, is the subject of grief or sadness and how most people are so uncomfortable sitting with themselves and others through it. How do we get to where we are not rushed through this journey? We will all experience loss, sadness, and grief in our lifetime. Let’s get better at understanding it and helping others to feel loved and heard when it happens.Looking to connect with other UnMothered’s? Join the PRIVATE Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityThis podcast is on...2024-10-1428 min

The UnMothered PodcastBreaking Free From The Lies Of Rejection with Jessica Van Roekel | Episode 80In this episode, we chatted with Jessica Van Roekel about rejection and how it seeps into our childhoods and adult lives. What happens when you start believing the lies that rejection can bring? And what does God want you to feel about rejection? Listen in as we discuss how it can affect friendships, careers, and the lens of how we see others. Jessica Van Roekel loves the upside-down life of following Jesus as she journeys to wholeness through brokenness. As an author, speaker, and worship pastor, she uses her gifts and experiences to share God’s transformative pow...2024-10-0731 min

The UnMothered PodcastRecognizing You’re Not Alone With A Dysfunctional Mom A Conversation with Kristi Lowe | Episode 79This episode is so special to me because Kristi Lowe is on the podcast. She shares her unmothered story with others to help share that you are not alone in your mommy issues. Kristi is a Christian author and speaker and hosts the Even If Podcast. She knows life rarely goes according to plan, family dynamics are complicated, and mental health is no joke. She lives in Lubbock, Texas with her family and rescue dogs. I’m so excited to have another woman sharing her unmothered story with us!Follow her on Fac...2024-09-3038 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Acknowledge Your Mental Health Battles with Kim Hardy | Episode 78I was so excited to talk with my new friend Kim Hardy today. This episode dives deep into mental health and how to recognize the incorrect narratives we have for ourselves. She is an author and speaker passionate about giving women hope through Biblical truth. She seeks to inspire, renew, and restore hurting women so they can thrive and live joy-filled lives. Kim loves to read, write, and spend time outdoors. She is married to her knight in shining armor who keeps her laughing.I hope you enjoyed this episode peeps, and if you want to connect...2024-09-2337 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Handle Your Toxic Mom & Her Relationship As A Grandmother | Episode 77This week's episode came as an anonymous request through my weekly newsletter, Tuesday Talks With Phylis (link in bio to sign up or head to my website!).Let’s talk about the do’s and don’ts of letting our children be a part of our mothers’ lives and what do you do when your toxic mom wants to be a part of your children’s lives?Can we let them have a relationship with their grandchildren even though we have a dysfunctional one? If there is a special relationship that your mom has wi...2024-09-1631 min

The UnMothered PodcastPastor’s Wife, People-Pleasing, and Mother Issues with Cheryl Lutz | Episode 76We talked with Cheryl Lutz today about being a pastor’s wife, being a recovering people pleaser, and some of her own mother's issues. Cheryl Lutz is an inspirational speaker, certified biblical counselor, Bible teacher, and podcast host. She is likewise the author of Securely Held: Finding Significance and Security in the Shelter of God’s Embrace, the 2024 1st place Selah award winner in the Christian Life category.Her mission is to assist Christian women in breaking the power of others; opinions and find their significance and security in God. Cheryl and her h...2024-09-0934 min

The UnMothered PodcastBut It’s Your Family: When Should You Stop That Excuse? | Episode 75Part of breaking generational dysfunction is to stop allowing the excuse of, “But it’s your family.” When do we stick by family because it’s family, and when do we have to decide on something better? Over the years I’ve come to a realization that loving families show up and it’s a safe place, not a place that makes you more miserable when you are around them.Knowing that unless THEY (your mom or family member) want to repent and change AND show that difference over time, you are not required to “hang in there”...2024-09-0223 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow Your Past Can Affect Your Emotional Eating With Christine Trimpe | Episode 74I had the pleasure to interview my good friend Christine Trimpe on the podcast today! She told her origin story of how this journey of being an author, speaker, and coach began.Her story starts with a mountain she wanted to climb but couldn’t because of her weight. From struggling with debilitating sleep patterns to a multitude of health issues, she knew something needed to change. When she started diving into her faith more not only did her weight improve but her emotional health did as well.Christine wants to help yo...2024-08-2630 min

The UnMothered PodcastOvercoming Toxic Childhood Narratives That Shape Us | Episode 73Can the things that were said to you as a child create a negative narrative as you become an adult? When I was watching the show Bridgerton on Netflix, the plot of the series stood out to me. The son had always held a narrative over his head because of actions or words that were said to him when he was younger. There is no need to have held a spot in your body and mind that has made you make decisions that could negatively impact your life. We need to be ab...2024-08-1920 min

The UnMothered PodcastAn Emotionally Immature Mom vs. A Narcissistic Mom; What Is The Difference? | Episode 72Over the past few years, I’ve been studying the different types of toxic moms. Imagine my surprise when I started studying about toxic parenting and realized my mom was emotionally immature AND narcissistic! I never knew what to expect from my mom from one day to the next. It was exhausting trying to figure it all out. It made so much sense, but also it hurt to see that her characteristics were so manipulative. As I look through each of these problems, I have a story to match each of them. I bet you do t...2024-08-1228 min

The UnMothered PodcastDo Past Triggers Keep You Stuck From Moving Forward? | Episode 71One thing I’ve learned over the years is that you can self-sabotage by letting your triggers control you.Let’s talk about the everyday life habits that may keep you stuck negatively. Are you allowing your scared feelings to control you and prevent you from becoming the confident, strong woman you are meant to be? How can we find some ways to slowly change our thinking patterns so we can start living life in a positive view?I’m all for recognizing when something feels “off”, but I’m also aware of people I...2024-08-0526 min

The UnMothered PodcastMost Downloaded Episode Series | Should You Heal The Toxic Relationship With Your Mom And/Or Siblings? | Episode 16How do we find the heart to heal those who have hurt us? We will explore what it means to forgive people who hurt you deeply. Do you need to forgive them? Should you? What does that look like? Let’s talk about this.I was asked in my private Facebook group of my Unmothered women, what to do when they are having a hard time wanting to heal a relationship with their mom and sometimes with their siblings. This can be a tricky, touchy subject. I want to be sure we are always doing something that wi...2024-07-2924 min

The UnMothered PodcastMost Downloaded Episode Series | Your Mother's Issues Are Your Mother's Issues | Episode 1As I was channel surfing I stopped on The Bachelorette. I never watch this show anymore, but of course, I was curious! I swear God wanted me to hear this, Gabby Windey was on a date and they were talking about family.His parents had been married forever and loved each other fiercely. She started telling him about her fractured relationship with her mom! How when she graduated her mother wrote her off …she started to cry..it broke my heart. She excused herself and was crying to the producers. They asked her what “triggered” the reaction.I...2024-07-2221 min

The UnMothered PodcastMost Downloaded Episodes | How Can You Identify And Tolerate Having A Narcissistic Mom? | Episode 35Most women don’t even acknowledge that their mom is a narcissist or may be toxic. In order to start your healing journey, you have to NAME the pain that has been done to you in your childhood. And I want to note, I’m not giving out professional advice! Apart from being a certified coach, I am not a doctor or therapist, so please take this as my personal opinion and as my own personal experience in this matter.However, I have studied ways to recognize if your mom may be a narcis...2024-07-1527 min

The UnMothered PodcastMost Downloaded Episodes | What Are Some Signs And Qualities Of A Narcissistic Mother Part 2Let’s dig into a deeper conversation about some signs and qualities that I’ve started to notice about people with narcissistic tendencies. A big question we must ask is, where it comes from (possibly) and what are some signs of things you yourself may be suffering from being around or living with a person who is narcissistic.Upon my reading and studying, I’ve come across a few signs that show your mother might be narcissistic. Explosive or extreme angerCompulsive or inhibited sexualityExtreme shame, guilt, or self-blame (which is a tactic to make you feel sorry f...2024-07-0838 min

The UnMothered PodcastMost Downloaded Episodes | The Truth About Growing Up With Emotionally Immature Parents | Episode 31Hi peeps! We are taking July off and decided to re-publish our most downloaded episodes for you to listen to! We will be back in August with new episodes and don't forget to follow me over on Instagram to keep up.What was it like growing up in your home? In my home, I felt like I was constantly dealing with a teenager or even a child. While at the time I just thought this was ‘normal’ I later understood that it wasn’t. When you grow up with a parent who is emotionally immature and can...2024-07-0119 min

The UnMothered PodcastSharing About The Marks That Made Her : A Conversation with Dr. Michelle Bengtson | Episode 70Dr. Michelle Bengtson is an international speaker, a national and international media resource on mental health, and the bestselling, award-winning author of Hope Prevails, the Hope Prevails Bible Study, Today Is Going to Be a Good Day, Breaking Anxiety's Grip, and The Hem of His Garment. She is also the host of the award-winning podcast Your Hope-Filled Perspective. A board-certified clinical neuropsychologist in private practice for more than twenty years, Dr. Bengtson blogs regularly and offers a wide variety of resources on her website, DrMichelleB.com. https://www.facebook.com/DrMichelleBengtson/https://www.i...2024-06-2427 min

The UnMothered PodcastDoes Having A Diploma Make You Smarter Than An Uneducated Person? | Episode 69As we watch young adults graduate from high school and college, the question comes up again; does having a diploma make you smarter and more successful? Can you maneuver through the world without schooling? And can different types of education or life skills can help you thrive?I always have mixed feelings at this time of year. So many emotions have played into my skilled learning and how the education I have currently taken has made such a difference in my life. That, however, has not always been the case. Growing up w...2024-06-1721 min

The UnMothered PodcastStay At Home Moms vs. The Working Moms | Episode 68Given the passionate social media opinions about the Harrison Butker speech, I thought this would be a great conversation to have with you all, being that it is about motherhood. It’s the age-old debate: are we more fulfilled being a mother, or are our careers more important than staying at home? Let’s talk about the stay at home mom being the most rewarding job on earth (or so he said).Every woman has worth. Can we please stop saying one thing is more glorious than the ot...2024-06-1020 min

The UnMothered PodcastBeing Strong Does Not Mean You Are Emotionally Healed | Episode 67Just because we are strong doesn’t mean we are healed. Do people think you have it all together because they perceive you as strong? How many times have people told you how strong you are or how normal you seem after they know about your hard childhood? We aren’t as strong as you think. We have had to be strong to survive. There is a difference.When hard things happened to me over the years, I kept going. I survived. And in...2024-06-0321 min

The UnMothered PodcastDo Your Past Traumas Affect Your Kids Growing Up? | Episode 66Even in the best of families, we have a tendency to put our opinions or traumas onto our children. We have patterns of behavior that can be instilled in them and when they grow up, they might recognize it’s not healthy, or they might end up with the same traumas themselves. How do we break this pattern off? I realized that I had unconsciously done something wrong as I watched my daughter experience some unknown fear with great exaggeration and I immediately realized she had learned that awful behavior from me! ...2024-05-2722 min

The UnMothered PodcastFeelings About Motherhood From A Mom Of 30+ Years | Episode 65Mothering is one of the most important and confusing jobs you will ever have!I have been watching a few women on Instagram who are either new mothers or pregnant with their first child. Having raised my girls, I feel for these women, and at the same time I just want to hug them and let them know “there is no perfect way” and “you will make mistakes!” and it will all be okay. There are so many emotions that motherhood brings. Some days...2024-05-2023 min

The UnMothered PodcastFaith, Safety, And True Crime: A Conversation With Lori Morrison | Episode 64Lori Morrison is a committed advocate for strengthening physical, emotional, and spiritual safety in our churches. She's a former church staffer, and retired private investigator, as well as an author, podcaster, and speaker. She shares real stories at the intersection of faith and true crime to highlight actionable steps any of us can take in our faith communities. She hosts the popular podcast The Unlovely Truth, follow her along by clicking the links below: https://www.facebook.com/theUnlovelyTruthhttps://www.instagram.com/theunlovelytruthpodcast/https://www.linkedin.com/in...2024-05-1333 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Recognize Red Flags When You’ve Grown Up In Trauma | Episode 63When you’ve grown up in trauma and have normalized some behaviors, you miss what is known as “red flag” in others.I’m giving full credit of this episode to Nate Postlethwait. because he talked about this on one of his posts and it got me thinking. One of the things we as women tend to do when we have grown up in trauma, is we think we know people (or should I say men) and we get into relationships that the average person would see as “red flags” but we have learned to normalize this behavior. 2024-05-0629 min

The UnMothered PodcastAre You The ‘Black Sheep’ Of The Family Or The Truth-Teller? | Episode 62How do you define the black sheep in the family? Has this label been placed on you because you don’t abide by the dysfunction in your family? There is a difference between being the troublemaker or the truth-teller. If you are just trying to survive in a highly abusive family situation, you learn to fight and stand on your own. Do you always make the right decisions? Not always, but who does when they are young? When I think about how we get labeled as troubled or a h...2024-04-2918 min

The UnMothered PodcastDiving Into The LINKED® Personality System With Linda Goldfarb | Episode 61I'm so excited to chat with Linda Goldfarb today on all things LINKED® Personality System! I became a LINKED® Personality Coach a couple of years ago, and I love this program.Whether sipping frothed coffee with friends, hiking with her hubby Sam, engaging in deep conversation with her children and grandchildren, or speaking truth with gentle boldness, Linda Goldfarb strives to be transparent and authentic.Linda is a multi-book, award-winning author, award-winning podcaster, international speaker, conference speaker, professional emcee, board-certified advanced Christian life coach, and co-founder of the LINKED® Personality System.Linda grew up...2024-04-2234 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow to Find Strength While Navigating Impossible Circumstances | Episode 60How can you keep your faith through impossible circumstances?I recently watched an award-winning movie and it got me thinking about how long I could keep my faith alive and trust that God could perform a miracle. I think of our circumstances in our time. We feel completely smothered in our pain or situation. Not being able to breathe or have hope. I coach some people who feel that way. We never know what our threshold is until we are in it. As I have walked through immense grief these last few mo...2024-04-1520 min

The UnMothered PodcastNever Be Ashamed of Your Hard Story | Episode 59Looking back through the chapters of my first book, 'Unmothered,' it surprised me how honest I was in writing it!I poured my heart into it so others could see the truth of my challenging story, and I prayed it would inspire them to be honest about their own experiences.I've come to realize that the purpose of this book is to permit others to never be ashamed of their difficult stories and to have faith that God will use it all for good. We are survivors with a purpose.Later this...2024-04-0822 min

The UnMothered PodcastGrace In The Hard Story: A Conversation with Sara Cormany | Episode 58Sara Cormany is a wife, mom, and follower of Jesus. A former speech educator and a storyteller at heart, Sara has long had a passion for helping others tell their stories---be it as a teacher, an editor, a writing coach, or a project manager in the publishing industry. She is an award-winning author and speaker whose days are traced by the grace of a good God. Although chronic illness has been part of her life for over twenty years, Sara’s journey is proof that a hard story can still be a good story. Sara, her...2024-04-0133 min

The UnMothered PodcastIs Love Blind: Debunking The Myth of Blind Love | Episode 57If you’ve never watched the popular Netflix show Love Is Blind then you won’t understand this episode as much, but bear with me. I will be deep-diving into a few people from this show and even if you’ve never seen it, you might get what I’m talking about. The premise of the show is can you go into a relationship blind, never seeing what the physical side of a person looks like, or can you just love their insides alone?My short answer is, I don’t think so. Love is...2024-03-2526 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhat Do You Want Your Legacy To Be? | Episode 56Do you ever think about what kind of impact you leave on people?Let's discuss how important your legacy is to people you come in contact with, relative or not. I have given so much thought to this as I have tried to manage the uncomfortable feelings of my brother’s suicide. The legacy he has left on his family, me, my children, his children and grandchildren. They have this tainted version of how he struggled in life and death. The good things he was are overridden by his last days. 2024-03-1821 min

The UnMothered PodcastThe Emotional Side Of ‘Dieting’ with Rachael Morris | Episode 55We know about our physical health, but how about the emotional side of our physical health? On today’s episode, I’m interviewing Rachael Morris. She is a certified holistic health coach as well as a certified nutrition and macro coach. She’s been health coaching clients for 10 years and has helped hundreds of women develop plans to help their chronic health issues and break past barriers that keep them stuck in their health and weight. She’s a mom of two amazing kids and 2 dogs as well as a wife to her husband Justin of 12 years and currently lives in...2024-03-1129 min

The UnMothered PodcastA Journey of Redemption and Belonging with Cherie Denna | Episode 54Cherie Denna’s mission is to empower individuals to find a deep sense of belonging and belovedness in Jesus Christ in their everyday lives. She draws from her extensive experience in women's ministry, relapse prevention, prayer counseling, and recovery to inspire audiences to remove imposters from their lives. Her newly released debut book, Beloved Outcast: The Quest for True Belonging, is a must-read for those trapped in seemingly inescapable circumstances who desire a victorious life of freedom. Cherie’s platform reveals the realities of living on the fringes of society, enmeshed in organized crime and the outlaw biker...2024-03-0431 min

The UnMothered PodcastIs Your Discipline Style Different Than Your Mom's? | Episode 53What kind of communicator are you with your kids? Are you a screamer or ignoring Mom? How you grew up can determine certain traits that may need to be broken within yourself, only if you recognize them.I was having a conversation a few days ago with another mom, and it occurred to me that when it comes to us moms and how we have been raised, one of the dysfunctions that can carry down through the generations is discipline. Give yourself grace. Rules change as your ki...2024-02-2624 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Trust Your Adult Children’s Judgement Instead Of Correcting | Episode 52Do you trust the judgment of your children as adults? When we as moms can’t get out of our way to allow our adult children to live their own lives how can that impact our relationship with them? So many times I have sat in places at parties, family gatherings, and such where I overhear or have conversations with well-meaning mothers about their adult children. And too many times I hear them make excuses for why their opinion is right over their adult child’s. Even when their children are parents themselves, these moms can’t help th...2024-02-1917 min

The UnMothered PodcastLearning How To Heal From Covert Narcissism with Jacqueline Julia | Episode 51Jacqueline Julia is a single mom of 2 young boys. Her first marriage ended in divorce and in a second marriage, she began to see signs of narcissistic abuse. She is currently separated and working through the healing process. This has led her to a new passion for helping to heal other women through their own struggles of trauma. She is receiving her education as a mental health coach. Follow and contact Jacqueline over on Instagram @jacquelinejulia https://www.instagram.com/ms.jacquelinejuliaThe books mentioned in the podcast, these links are affiliate...2024-02-1230 min

The UnMothered PodcastTrust & Money: When You’ve Grown Up With A Scarcity Mindset | Episode 50If you grew up with a scarcity mentality, can you have a healthy relationship when money comes in? At the beginning of January, I did a fast with my church. I decided to take 3 weeks off from watching TV. When I came back to it, my daughter and I watched the new Netflix game show “The Trust”. I began to realize that most people who aren’t ready for big windfalls of money end up back in the same place of striving when they don’t know how to handle it. The girl in the...2024-02-0527 min

The UnMothered PodcastDoes Time Genuinely Heal All Wounds? | Episode 49Does grief get easier throughout the years? Short answer: that grief will always stay with you, it will just look different as time moves on.40 years ago, I lost my first son Linton. There is no timeline for grief for sure. I cry just as much today as I did 40 years ago. The crazy thing was about 25 years ago, there was a time each year when I would get depressed and didn’t know why. I always forgot his birthday, until it was right there! The day of o...2024-01-2917 min

The UnMothered PodcastA Check In After The Holidays + Setting New Intentions & Boundaries For 2024 | Episode 48What are you doing differently this year to find that balance of boundaries and peace with the difficult relationship with your mom?I will ask some questions today to see if this is the year you will start taking care of your mental health and find a place to balance out the struggle of loving and setting hard boundaries in your relationships. This year you need to take a hard look at what is working for you in all relationships so you can start being honest with yourself to enter into the y...2024-01-2225 min

The UnMothered PodcastUsing The Linked® Personality Coaching What Kind Of Mom Do You Think You Are Or Had Growing Up? |Episode 47When I’m mentoring a woman, I hear this statement a lot “My Mother just doesn’t understand or get me. . .” and today, I am hoping to use this Linked® Personality Guide to fill this gap. A couple of years ago, I became certified as a Linked® Personality coach using the book LINKED® Quick Guide to Personalities by Linda Gilden and Linda Goldfarb. To become certified I had to present my learnings on how they would relate to my area of coaching. I decided to do the presentation on mothers and daughters and it ended up being a great conv...2024-01-1525 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow Can We Really Handle Grief And How Much Can We Handle? | Episode 46Trigger warning: This week’s episode contains talk about suicide. If you feel the need to skip the episode, feel free to do so. Let’s be honest, grief is a ‘B’. In November/December I had to walk through the many emotions of unexpected tragedy and loss. I was never expecting to do an episode like this when I started my podcast a year ago, but here we are. I know God makes a way for the unthinkable and believe me when I say the unthinkable has happene...2024-01-0828 min

The UnMothered PodcastI’m Now A Certified Freedom Movement Coach + What Is A Trauma Coach? | Episode 45What does it take to be a trauma coach and what is a trauma coach? Why would you need one and how do you find one?In this episode, we are going to dive into what drew me to learn more about what trauma coaching was, how I didn’t know what I didn’t know about my traumas and triggers, and how I found Karrie Scott Garcia to teach me all the things I needed to get truthful about my journey. This past November, I became a certified Freedom Coach in Bibli...2024-01-0126 min

The UnMothered PodcastWe Are Taking December Off-See You In 2024!We will still be active on social media if you want to connect with me over there. As always we appreciate your love and support so much and would love it if you take the time to leave us a review! Happy Holidays Peeps, see you in the New Year!Looking to connect with other UnMothered’s? Join the PRIVATE Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheUnmotheredCommunityThis podcast is on YouTube now! Go watch this episode: https://www.youtube.com/@phylismantelli/podcastsPurchase a signed copy of...2023-12-0400 min

The UnMothered PodcastDoes Birth Order Matter With Your Siblings? | Episode 44Growing up in a dysfunctional family, did you ever think about birth order when growing up? If you are the oldest, what responsibilities did you feel were put on you? The same goes if you are the middle child or a younger one.It’s also a great time to take a few personality tests, just to understand a little bit more. Not to be used as an excuse for your behaviors, but to learn and grow. You should always be open to learning more and taking a different approach when needed, and 100% rely on the direction Go...2023-11-2721 min

The UnMothered PodcastLearning About Our Praying Personalities With Janet McHenry | Episode 43Today we are talking with Janet McHenry. She is a national speaker and author of 27 books, including the bestselling PrayerWalk, The Complete Guide to the Prayers of Jesus, and her new release, Praying Personalities. She directs the prayer ministries at The Bridge Church in Reno and serves on the California leadership team for the National Day of Prayer. The leader of the hundreds-strong Bible Girls and a prayer walker, Janet has helped others foster a hope-filled, purposeful lifestyle built on prayer and God's Word for more than two decades.Connect with Janet: www.janetmchenry.com 2023-11-2022 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Raise A Family That Works Together, There Is No “I” In Family | Episode 42One of the biggest fears I had when starting a family was, how can I create a healthy family when I hadn’t been brought up in one. If you have not dealt with the issues you have grown up around there can be residual anger that you let out on your child. Or you can end up overcompensating for the things you have lost in your childhood and smother your child. I am so grateful to God for allowing me to work through my issues and be able to pivot when need...2023-11-1323 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Maneuver the Holidays When You Grow Up With A Dysfunctional Family | Episode 41How do we NOT get swept into all the dysfunction and drama from our family? Do we just “peace out” with toxic family members during this time? What if your family is just difficult at best, but not toxic? Ugh, just thinking about the holidays of my childhood makes me want to sweat right now. I recently watched The Bear Season 2 Episode 6: Fishes. And let me tell you, in this particular episode, their mom (played by Jamie Lee Curtis, who I think deserves an Oscar, Emmy, or something for her part.) SHE. NAILED...2023-11-0625 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhat To Do When You Realize Your Mommy Issues After Becoming A Mom Yourself? | Episode 40When I became a mother, my heart exploded with love and I was so confused as to how my mother could be so cold to us kids.When you become a mom, it becomes so much more noticeable how much you were Unmothered! How do we learn to do the things of which we were not taught? I couldn’t imagine not pouring out my very best to this beautiful baby. Now that being said, did that baby sometimes drive me crazy with her incessant crying and no-sleep days? Of course.But my lov...2023-10-2318 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow Grief Hits When You Lose An Unloving Family Member | Episode 39When you lose a family member most people think you are supposed to be sad, but what happens when that person was hard to love? How can you maneuver through that grief and what kind of feelings do arise? When I was scrolling through Instagram, one of my favorite trauma recovery coaches Nate Postlewait ( https://www.instagram.com/nate_postlethwait ) was talking about this subject. It struck me so hard, that all of our journeys are so complex.One of the things that really stuck out to me that Nate posted was, “Peop...2023-10-1623 min

The UnMothered PodcastThe Truth Of Being A Caregiver To Someone With Dementia | Episode 38Being a caregiver can be an amazing thing, but don’t forget to take care of yourself. I recently watched a short segment on how Bruce Willis’s wife, Emma was taking a break from being a caregiver. As she held back tears, she explained, (although she shouldn’t have to) that even though she is out and about with a smile on her face and it seems she is having fun, she is tired and highly stressed and takes these breaks for her own mental wellbeing. It reminded me of when I was ju...2023-09-1820 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhat Are Some Signs And Qualities Of A Narcissistic Mother Part 2 | Episode 37Let’s dig into a deeper conversation about some signs and qualities that I’ve started to notice about people with narcissistic tendencies. A big question we must ask is, where it comes from (possibly) and what are some signs of things you yourself may be suffering from being around or living with a person who is narcissistic.Upon my reading and studying, I’ve come across a few signs that show your mother might be narcissistic. Explosive or extreme angerCompulsive or inhibited sexualityExtreme shame, guilt, or self-blame (which is a tactic to make you feel sorry f...2023-09-1137 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhen The Root of the Problem Still Remains, How Can You Do The Deep Work? | Episode 36Can you help someone out of their past, if the root of the problem still remains? I was listening to the news recently and heard the story about Michael Oher and his fight with the Tuohy family. It reminded me of how bringing someone into a healthy family can be an amazing thing, but if they don’t do the deep work, the problems will still remain. As a disclaimer, this is only my opinion, and I will be talking in generalizations, not specifically on this case, as I don’t have any inside info. Can yo...2023-08-2821 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow Can You Identify And Tolerate Having A Narcissistic Mom? | Episode 35Most women don’t even acknowledge that their mom is a narcissist or may be toxic. In order to start your healing journey, you have to NAME the pain that has been done to you in your childhood. And I want to note, I’m not giving out professional advice! Apart from being a certified coach, I am not a doctor or therapist, so please take this as my personal opinion and as my own personal experience in this matter.However, I have studied ways to recognize if your mom may be...2023-08-2126 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhen Does Helping Become Enabling & How Many Times Do You Save Your Mom? | Episode 34There is a difference between helping with love, versus being the person who is allowing the continuation of dysfunction to happen by enabling. I recently watched a movie called ‘To Leslie’ that was an unexpected success in my book, Andrea Riseborough played Leslie and knocked it out of the park as an alcoholic mom. The reason I say this is because as an adult child of an alcoholic, I could relate! This story hit so close to home and was an accurate depiction of how many times I would try to help my mom but it became enabl...2023-08-1423 min

The UnMothered PodcastNever Have Shame In Naming The Harm That Was Done To You | Episode 33When is it okay to talk about the hard things in your story? Do you feel as if you are allowed? To be able to name the things of harm in your story is not only important, it’s necessary for your healing. For far too long the generations of the past have demanded that we “shut up and move on” or tell us “it wasn’t that bad”. We are told we are being babies and complaining about things we shouldn’t talk about. This is the very reason why most Christians canno...2023-08-0725 min

The UnMothered PodcastHaving Confidence In Trusting Your God-Given Instinct with Stacy Leicht | Episode 32Stacy Leicht is an author, speaker, and veteran teacher. Stacy currently works at UNC-Greensboro in the Education Department where she trains future teachers. Stacy believes there's a story in every seat, and God uniquely made each person with a purpose. She has dealt with physical trauma, being violated by someone she trusted, and the anxiety and fear of having a stalker. Yet, God has replaced those feelings with trust, faithfulness, and abundant love. Stacy's mission is to unveil God's love for each listener, leading them to unplug and reset their lives.She...2023-06-1933 min

The UnMothered PodcastThe Truth About Growing Up With Emotionally Immature Parents | Episode 31What was it like growing up in your home? In my home, I felt like I was constantly dealing with a teenager or even a child. While at the time I just thought this was ‘normal’ I later understood that it wasn’t. When you grow up with a parent who is emotionally immature and can’t be the adult in the family relationship it can feel like their needs are paramount to yours. They are physically there, but not mentally. There was no room for me to feel anything, and that is why I am so passionat...2023-06-1218 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhat Mental Health And Walking Through The Grief With God Looks Like With Andrea M. Nyberg | Episode 30Andrea M. Nyberg is an author, speaker, and photographer passionate about (re)framing the collision of faith and mental health and its impact on our identity, emotions, and relationships. Her debut book, I’m Such A Messterpiece, invites others who are facing a crisis of faith and identity to consider that pain and hope can hold hands and a mess can still be a masterpiece. Andrea holds a master of arts in educational leadership from Gateway Seminary and serves in various leadership roles in her church and community. Check out Andrea M. Nyberg:Buy her boo...2023-06-0533 min

The UnMothered PodcastLoving Your Mom Through Anger, Can You Accomplish It? | Episode 29Let’s be honest. . . You can still love your mom from afar, but what are these feelings of love and hate for our moms? Can we just “get over” it? Let's discuss the good, bad, and ugly of having a difficult, abusive mom. And by abusive, it can be emotionally abusive which is sometimes more hurtful than physical because the scars are on the inside. I sat with so many women who have stories of getting angry with their moms and I see others on social media who have excuses for their feelings. Some...2023-05-2920 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhat Does It Look Like To Be The Best Partner In A Marriage? | Episode 28Ariel joined us on the podcast again this week to talk more about being a working mom and how she picked her partner for the support he provides for her emotionally. She has learned that for her, working fulfills her, and gives her purpose, she likes contributing outside of the home and her husband supports her on that 100%. They can communicate with one another the feeling of having a long day at work vs a long day with the kids. They have found a sense of balance that compliments each other within their marriage and parenthood. For t...2023-05-2223 min

The UnMothered PodcastCan You Embrace It All Being A Working Mom? | Episode 27We are talking with my oldest daughter Ariel who is a wife, mom of 2 (almost three), and a working mom. We chat about the balance and the imbalance of being a working mom. With her current season, she is learning to surrender her own expectations with the constant changes that come with day-to-day life. Plans change, especially with younger children. The biggest lesson she has learned through her pregnancies is to be vocal about her body and mind.Some of the main questions that we covered are: Is there mommy guilt to be...2023-05-1525 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhat Do You Do When It’s Time To Take Care Of Your Mom? | Episode 26When I got the phone call that my mom had broken her hip, believe me, I wanted to hang up and pretend I never heard it. My relationship with my mom was not the typical kind and taking care of her (again) was the last thing I wanted to do. When your toxic parent ages and you have to care for them what are you going to do?When is it a good time to mend the relationship with your mom? When she is ill? I made a decision that I...2023-05-0820 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhat Does Preventative Mental Health For Our Children Look Like | Episode 25How do we teach our children how to handle their feelings?In this episode, I want to chat about our children and how to hone their own feelings when stress or anxiety sets in for them.The questions I want you to walk away with today are:When is a good time to discuss feelings with your kids? What is age appropriate in talking about hard things?What kind of things can we do to help them through these things?I recently came across the documentary “American Tragedy” which was about the Colu...2023-05-0126 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow Do You Tell Your Story To Your Significant Other’s Parents? | Episode 24When you first get introduced to your boyfriend or girlfriend’s family, when is it a good time to talk about your hard past? If you have experienced a different upbringing than the family of your significant other, it can be hard to explain your past. The biggest question is can they embrace you into the family when you have come from a completely different background?There are some questions to think about after listening to this episode: When is it a good time to bring up specifics about your family?What happens if...2023-04-2424 min

The UnMothered PodcastFamily Secrets And Why They Are Bad For Everyone | Episode 23When a family keeps secrets thinking the truth will never come out, they are sadly mistaken. Secrets can create collateral damage by not only ruining relationships but causing shame in your generations. Are you willing to learn how to have truthful but sometimes tough conversations that will always lead to beautiful relationships? I recently had breakfast with a friend where we were sharing some tough things and we got on the subject of how our family’s generation always kept secrets. Things looked great on the outside, but inside the home was so filled with deception and lie...2023-04-1713 min

The UnMothered PodcastThe Secret To A Happy Marriage And How To Create A Strong Foundation | Episode 22How do you create the marriage you have always dreamed of? What is the secret to a happy marriage? In my opinion, it is staying the course! We will dive into the good, bad, and ugly of what marriage really is and why it’s not for the faint of heart.There is an innocence of what we think marriage is when we are young and as you get older, life can take over. When we say those vows, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, you have to understand that th...2023-04-1033 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow I Hold Pride In Being A Highly Sensitive Person | Episode 21Do not let anyone undermine what makes you feel safe and comfortable. You have “bucked up” long enough. Making time for friends that understand and energize you instead of connections that deplete us is fine.Want to stop apologizing for feeling different from your friends or most of the world? Do you get anxious and excited to be invited to social events? Is your comfort zone your home? Do you prefer to be alone rather than with a bunch of friends? Do loud noisy restaurants, or outsi...2023-04-0318 min

The UnMothered PodcastAccept & Heal There’s No Need To Be Ashamed Of Where You Came From! | Episode 20When you have grown up with a different childhood, you might have a hard time accepting the past. In this episode, we are going to talk about the shame that comes from having that hard story. Do you often have a hard time speaking about your childhood because it doesn’t sound like everyone else? Are you afraid you will scare people away with your “movie of the week” life? I hear ya, and let's break this down so it doesn’t become a hindrance for you.So I guess the question becomes also; are you havi...2023-03-2718 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhen Is Going No Contact With Your Mom A Good Idea? | Episode 19When you feel like being around your mom is no longer an option. What do you do? There is no need for guilt if there is danger around you concerning your mother. You can still love your mother if she is not in your life.I had a member in my Facebook group ask this question a while back, and it bears talking about it. For as much as we would love to wrap a nice little bow around healing and forgiveness when it comes to our mothers, I don't believe it is healthy or possible sometimes...2023-03-2018 min

The UnMothered PodcastDon’t Hold Shame When Your Siblings Question Why You Have Outgrown Your Past | Episode 18Have you ever had a sibling or close relative get jealous because you suddenly have a life change for the better? It’s almost inevitable that when you finally break free from your past “scarcity” mindset, you will get pushback from those who have remained the same. Remember who you are and where God has placed you. You are not tied to every person in your family forever and ever. Amen. You are meant for more. So are they. If they are willing to step out of the comfortable/everyday things they have settled into they can begin t...2023-03-1320 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow Do You Know If Your Mother/Daughter Relationship Is Healthy with Tina YeagerToday we are chatting with Tina Yeager. She is an award-winning author, speaker, and life coach, Tina Yeager hosts the Flourish-Meant podcast and Flourish Today on Christian Mix 106 and publishes Inkspirations Online, a weekly writers’ devotional. She has been licensed as a counselor since 2005, which came in handy when we started talking about the healthy boundaries between mothers and daughters. Yeager serves as director of traditional groups with Word Weavers International and as an active member of the Christian Women in Media Association. For life coaching tips or to book her as an ev...2023-03-0621 min

The UnMothered PodcastShould You Heal The Toxic Relationship With Your Mom And/Or Siblings? | Episode 16How do we find the heart to heal those who have hurt us? We will explore what it means to forgive people who hurt you deeply. Do you need to forgive them? Should you? What does that look like? Let’s talk about this.I was asked in my private Facebook group of my Unmothered women, what to do when they are having a hard time wanting to heal a relationship with their mom and sometimes with their siblings. This can be a tricky, touchy subject. I want to be sure we are always doing something that wi...2023-02-2718 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhen Is It A Good Time To Share Your Broken Mother Story? | Episode 15Is there ever a good time to share your mommy issues story? In this episode, we are going to go over eliminating the shame of growing up in a toxic relationship with your mother and sharing it with others.When do you tell someone new about your past? Should you?When is it time to just not say anything?Can you feel safe and protected when sharing about your messed up mom?For so many years I would rather chew on wood (not really) than explain my childhood with my mom TO ANYONE! Now that I...2023-02-2024 min

The UnMothered PodcastThe Fearless Mujer Podcast: Growing up "Unmothered" and overcoming generational dysfunctionListen in on this amazing podcast episode I recorded with The Fearless Mujer Podcast. We chatted about generational dysfunction that I've grown up in and more about my story that share in my book Unmothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn't Love Me. If you enjoy this episode share it with friends and don't forget to leave a review to help spread this message with other women who may need to hear it. Also checkout the Fearless Mujer over on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefearlessmujerpodcast/Looking to...2023-02-1338 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhat It Feels Like Sharing Your Hard Story | Episode 13I just came back from a trauma class in Chicago. There we had to start digging into parts of our story that have been buried to survive. We spend half our lives just surviving the trauma that has been done to us. This class left me stunned with the realization that I had never dug into my story of being taken from the only home I had known in my eight years of life. What do we do to keep going through the traumas of our life? Today we will find out why it is important to...2023-02-0619 min

The UnMothered Podcast“Unmothered: Overcoming the Wound of Abandonment”: A Conversation On the Arise Esther PodcastI was honored to be a guest on the Arise Esther Podcast by Dawn Scott Damon. We had such a great conversation! Here is a little bit about Dawn: Dawn Scott Damon is known as the BraveHearted Mentor; Coaching for women over 40. She is a speaker, podcast host, mentor, and award-winning author.Dawn is a favorite keynote conference speaker and an engaging communicator who inspires her audience to maximize their God-given purpose and potential in Christ. Dreams are ignited as Dawn uses sound biblical teaching, personal stories...2023-01-3029 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Know If You Need A Mama Mentor | Episode 11How do we know if we need a mentor and how we can find one that we trust? This is a tricky proposition and one you can’t take lightly. It must be thought out and seek someone you can trust with your heart. Let’s walk through the ways you can find the right woman to help you with issues we should be able to go to our moms with, but someone that can step in and fill those shoes for a bit. How many times have you wished you could pick up the phone and call...2023-01-2321 min

The UnMothered PodcastAre You Afraid Of Success? How To Start Living The Life That You Dream And Desire | Episode 10With the New Year before us and everyone talking about goals, intentions, and dreams, do you wonder if there is anything good this year for you? Are you allowed to dream big? Is it wrong to think about being better than where you have come from? In this episode let me break it down for you to realize why we(as UnMothereds) are afraid of success, why we sabotage ourselves out of it, and what we can do to start living the life we dream and desire! Because after all, life can be good.I have three...2023-01-1627 min

The UnMothered PodcastWhere Are My Baby Boomers At? | Episode 9Yes, I am a baby boomer. I’m a 65-year-old woman and proud of it! My question for all the women out there today is why do we stop dreaming of things we really want to accomplish and how we can get back on track?Today I want to dive into the false narrative that once we reach a certain age, we are not relevant anymore. No one ever shares with us that our second chapter is just beginning! Our freedom from children and housework and the mundane is over. We are coming out of our cocoons to...2023-01-0922 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Handle Holiday Chaos | Episode 8When the holidays are filled with family gatherings and such, these times can be extremely chaotic, especially for mothers or wives. For some reason, the responsibility has fallen on us over the years and I wanted to talk to you all today to remind you that, that doesn't need to be the case. Here are some things to keep in mind this Christmas season: There is no rule saying you have to do it allDon't forget to ask for help!Take the time to breathe, meditate, and remember that this season is to celebrate the birth...2022-12-2608 min

The UnMothered PodcastHow To Set Healthy Boundaries | Episode 7Today we are talking about how we can set healthy boundaries without guilt from outside perspectives. A lot of people don’t understand that when you have to consistently ‘mother your mother’ you need to set those healthy boundaries. I want to discuss what this looks like and why it’s necessary to keep good protections around you. Lately so much has been said about “boundaries”. I see it all over social media, the famous Christian author Lysa TerKeurst has written a book about it and I hear celebrities throwing the word around in places like reality tv shows. Th...2022-12-1219 min

The UnMothered Podcast5 Tips On How To Handle The Holidays So You Don't Stress | Episode 6If I’m being honest, the holidays are not my favorite time of year. I only had memories of my parents physically and verbally fighting when I was little. Then my mom continued to do harm to anyone she was with, and would turn her wrath on us kids.It took many years and some really great kids of mine to help me relax and enjoy the beauty of the holidays. I still have some hard spots in it, but now with grandkids, I feel reborn to enjoy and see the togetherness for what it is...gratefulness fo...2022-11-2813 min

The UnMothered PodcastBreaking Down Generational Dysfunction | Episode 5In this episode, I wanted us to start understanding what breaking generational dysfunction looks like and what it doesn’t. (Hint: it’s not a curse or a sin!). I’m here today to give you some examples of where it started and how we can be the “chain breakers” to end the toxic examples of our parental past. I mentioned that I pulled our posing question from Sharon Peykar on Instagram. I highly recommend going and following her over at @sitwithsharon or https://www.instagram.com/sitwithsharon/. She is not only a relationship coach, but she is also a...2022-11-1425 min

The UnMothered Podcast6 Ways To Calm Yourself When Triggers Arise | Episode 4In last week's episode, we talked about the different traumas and triggers you may face when dealing with a toxic past. I want to give you 6 of my favorite tips on how to calm your body when stressed or when something starts to trigger you. I always say that your body holds onto your trauma, so you need to care for it when it starts to feel distressed!BreatheTake a Walk or ExerciseSet The Mood That Calms YouFeel Your FeetBubble BathJournal and Prayer...2022-10-3133 min

The UnMothered PodcastMy Journey Through Pregnancy & Infant Loss | Episode 3In today’s episode, we are going deep and hitting on a sensitive topic. This episode is in honor of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness month.If you had told me that at 26 years old, I would have to go through one of the hardest things in my life, I never would have believed you. The loss of a baby is the most grief I have ever experienced to this day, but something I never have talked about is a miscarriage I suffered as a teen. Today we are ripping off the bandaid to these things that most wo...2022-10-1726 min

The UnMothered PodcastYour Mother's Issues Are Your Mother's Issues | Episode 1As I was channel surfing I stopped on The Bachelorette. I never watch this show anymore, but of course, I was curious! I swear God wanted me to hear this, Gabby Windey was on a date and they were talking about family.His parents had been married forever and loved each other fiercely. She started telling him about her fractured relationship with her mom! How when she graduated her mother wrote her off …she started to cry..it broke my heart. She excused herself and was crying to the producers. They asked her what “triggered” the reaction.I...2022-10-0320 min

The UnMothered PodcastTrials, Triggers, and Traumas, Oh My! | Episode 2In this episode, I want to provide you with tips on how to identify your traumas and triggers in your day-to-day life. I will share some personal examples of what triggers and traumas look like in my life and some ways I cope with them.Last week we talked about Gabby Windey from The Bachelorette and how she was ‘triggered’. Not everyone understands these different triggers and understand that are associated with the trauma you have witnessed or been through. It took me a long time to realize what my mind and body were doing and why I wo...2022-10-0318 min

The UnMothered PodcastWelcome to The UnMothered Podcast with Phylis MantelliWhen life gives you a toxic mother, what do you do? You listen, learn, and change your direction! I’m Phylis Mantelli, author of the book “UnMothered: Life With A Mom Who Couldn’t Love Me”. I want to give you mentoring and encouragement you may have never had. Let’s create some new thoughts and patterns with things I’ve worked through and with some amazing God-filled experts. Women who have walked through the same road can give us wisdom. I will support you on this journey and bring some good advice and lots of love as we find our way...2022-09-0901 min