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Equal-ishWelcome to fatherhood. Spectacularly de-skilled, unsupported and ill-equipped.Women are socialised throughout their lives to be a mother. Meanwhile most dads won’t hold a baby until it’s their own. 90% of dads want to be more involved in their children's lives but we’re still prioritising a mother’s relationship with their children over a dad’s. Insufficient paternity leave is having serious consequences for families, men’s mental health and our ability to feel like equal partnerships. In today’s conversation, Rachel and Kate speak with George Gabriel, CEO and co-founder of The Dadshift, about the importance of paternity leave and the changing landscape of fat...
2025-11-1252 minEqual-ishThe Sarah Schoppe-Sullivan coaching edit: open the gate!Kate & Rachel wallow in all the nuances around gate keeping… including personal reflection that we do it too! Many women have been socialized to believe that to be valuable, they must maintain power and knowledge of the home. But this isn’t a great receipt for equal-ish households. Instead, Kate & Rachel suggest…. There’s no pretty way to say this: gatekeepers need to do some self-reflection. Look at your family’s roots. Where did you learn your patterns? Do you need a reboot? We need to regularly and intentionally interrupt social patterns. Decide together what...
2025-11-0525 minEqual-ishThe dangerous trap of maternal gate-keeping… and how to open the gate for good.If the outcome you are seeking is equal partnership, why do mothers subconsciously put barriers up to it? Today Kate and Rachel talk “all things maternal gatekeeping” with Dr. Sarah Schoppe-Sullivan, who is a Professor of Psychology at The Ohio State University in Columbus, Ohio. She is a nationally and internationally recognized expert on coparenting, father-child relationships, and the transition to parenthood. Interested in learning more about Dr. Schoppe-Sullivan’s work? Find out more here. Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview. And for o...
2025-10-2941 min
Be a Happier ParentEp 22: What we ALL want for Christmas with Rachel Childs and Kate ManginoDon't worry it's not all about Christmas! Christmas is a great framework to discuss some really important issues.
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Keywords
gender roles, fatherhood, emotional labor, parenting, equality, family dynamics, holiday traditions, shame, guilt, identity
Summary
This conversation delves into the evolving roles of parents, particularly focusing...
2025-10-2455 minEqual-ishThe Dr Allison Daminger coaching edit: There’s no short-cut! Building confidence in co-parenting requires practice and patience.Kate and Rachel dive into the Dr Allison Daminger interview to discuss how you can really share the cognitive labor. Listen now to hear our tips on how toDefine balance for yourselfWhy parental leave and new norms matterHow to change your family scriptConnect on the thinking and doing tasksChallenge the barriers we all faceWant more language on the difference between cognitive labor, emotional labor, and the mental load? Check out this article by Kate.Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching...
2025-10-2234 minEqual-ishThe feelings behind household cognitive laborThe household divide is greater than we think it is. It’s so much more than the physical tasks - it’s all the thinking and feeling work that goes along with the physical work. And that is why we feel it so deeply; we have an emotional reaction to household labor because household tasks are far more than cooking and cleaning.Kate and Rachel are joined this week by Dr. Allison Daminger, an assistant professor of sociology at UW-Madison and the author of the new book What's on Her Mind: The Mental Workload of Family Life. Her...
2025-10-1552 minEqual-ishThe Marvyn Harrison coaching edit. It starts with you, and then you can find your community.In this coaching edit, Kate and Rachel break down key themes from their interview with Marvyn. Marvyn Harrison is the founder of Dope Black Dads, a globally recognised platform exploring fatherhood, masculinity and mental health and is shaping conversation around Black fatherhood and redefining modern masculinity. The work starts with you… and continues with others We need to acknowledge that society makes parenting hard for menFocus on who you are NOW - not the PAST YouWhat are the economics of Equal PartnershipIs it boundaries or ba...
2025-10-0829 minEqual-ishFatherhood isn’t easy, either.Rachel and Kate are joined by Marvyn Harrison. Marvyn is the founder of Dope Black Dads, a globally recognised platform exploring fatherhood, masculinity and mental health and is shaping conversation around Black fatherhood and redefining modern masculinity. In today’s interview, Marvyn helps us all see the way that society closes gates for fathers… and what we can all do to change that. Discover Marvyn's community: https://dopeblack.org/Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be the first to hear the coaching edit from our interview, launching next week. Find out mo...
2025-10-0154 minEqual-ishThe Zach Watson coaching edit: Admin talk is super boring, and it is critically important.Last week, we interviewed Zach Watson. Zach is an invisible labour coach who helps men understand and share the mental load of domestic responsibilities with their partners. And his interview gave us great fodder for this week’s coaching edit. Give yourself permission to fail. What words would you actually use with your spouse / partner? What to include in the weekly check-in. Why are men motivated to be equal-ish at home?How to find your people, and find support. Subscribe to Equal-ish on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to be th...
2025-09-2427 minEqual-ishHow Zach Watson got equal-ish with his wife.Are men choosing to ignore the mental load because they subconsciously still believe it is women’s work? Rachel and Kate try to answer that question with this week’s guest, Zach Watson. Zach is a former middle school math teacher turned viral content creator and invisible labor coach for modern dads. Zach’s marriage nearly ended in 2018 because he was in default mode and letting his wife do it all. Now he talks very openly about how that happened, what he is doing to make changes, and why other men might be motivated to take household equalit...
2025-09-2444 minEqual-ishThe coaching edit. Reflections on Molly MillwoodIn this first Equal-ish coaching edit, we unpack our interview with Molly Millwood. We reflect on why today’s parents, especially mothers, are more stretched than ever, with full-time working mums spending more hours parenting now than stay-at-home mothers did in the 1970s. We explore how social norms around “good mothers” and “good fathers” create impossible standards, and why reframing the question “what does it mean to be a good parent?” can transform household dynamics.We dive head first into one of the biggest relationship challenges Molly sees in her work: emotional disconnect. Why do men report feeling emotionally affirmed twice...
2025-09-1730 minEqual-ishChildren change everything! Learning pains and getting to somewhere better with Molly MillwoodIn this conversation with psychologist and author of To Have and To Hold, Molly Millwood, we explore how reciprocity in relationships can feel so hard to achieve. We unpack with Molly the subtle ways women are socialized to give away power, why women’s “free time” so often includes caregiving, and how unequal dynamics impact both mothers and fathers. Together we reflect the hidden costs for men who disconnect from early fatherhood, and the damage relationships can suffer if these imbalances go unaddressed. Meet Kate & Rachel here: https://linktr.ee/equalish Buy Molly’s book, To Have and...
2025-09-1749 minEqual-ishEqual-ish. A new approach to your parenting balanceIn the inaugural episode of the Equalish podcast, meet hosts Kate Mangino and Rachel Childs as we introduce our mission to help couples achieve a balanced household while navigating parenting and work. In this episode, we exploreThe imbalance in household responsibilities between parents.How mothers are pushed into full-time work and household management roles.Why dads often feel isolated and are pushed away from caregiving roles.Equity at home is essential for achieving workplace equity for women.The journey to equality in parenting is challenging but possible.Meet Kate & Rachel here...
2025-09-1615 min