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Clarity on FireWe’re going on hiatus again (& other big changes)!Yep, you read that subject line right — starting today, we’re taking another hiatus from the podcast. 😲 We’ve been podcasting for 5 years now, with only one significant break (late last year) during that entire run! Honestly, we’re impressed with our stamina. There’s a lot that went into our decision to take another hiatus — it’s about soooo much more than just podcasting. So, listen in as we get into: A magical series of events that led Rachel down a new and interesting path Our v...2023-06-1638 minClarity on FireFrom totally shut down to feeling your feelings again with Amanda JohnsonFor most of her life, Amanda Johnson excelled at being “the good girl.” She was a stellar student who knew how to play by the rules, whether that was in school, at church, or with friends or family. She implicitly understood what was acceptable, and what wasn’t, so she followed the prescription for a successful life: Go to college, major in something respectable and useful, get a good job, get married, have 2 children, get an MBA, move up the career ladder. Until one day, almost like coming out...2023-06-091h 30Clarity on FireMessage from the Universe: Success is yours if you follow the signsNeed a little clarity, guidance, or just a fun pick-me-up? Then today’s your day, because we’re back with another Message from the Universe episode! ✨👀🔮 We pulled a few cards from The Enchanted Map deck by Colette Baron-Reid (plus some bonus cards from our new Tosha Silver deck!). One or all has a message for you — come find out what it is! We started this episode with a little ~dream interpretation.~ Back in January we asked you to share your dreams, and you stepped up! Not only does Rachel i...2023-03-2448 minClarity on FireAdulting with ADHD with Kristen CarderDid you know that the median age of a woman being diagnosed with ADHD is 38 years old? Wild, right?! Not only are so many girls with ADHD overlooked as kids and teenagers, but the boys who get a diagnosis at a young age are expected to “grow out of it” once they become adults. There are countless misinterpretations about this disorder. So it’s no wonder that most adults with ADHD feel confused, overwhelmed, and worst of all, ashamed that doing this whole “adulting” thing is so much harder for them than other peo...2023-02-2457 minClarity on FireDear Krachel: When is it worth starting over?Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. This month we answered questions from: Coach Curious, who’s attracted to the possibility of becoming a coach (like some of you might be, if you’ve been following us for a while!), and wants to know what makes for a good coach? What kind of training is best? What are the pros and cons? Sarah, a...2022-09-021h 04Clarity on FireSide Chat: Permission to do something crazyA couple months ago, we told you the best way to successfully make it out of your comfort zone is with a slow-and-steady approach. Annnd because we love to contradict ourselves (but not really, because didn’t someone say once that the best way to understand life is through paradox? 🙃), now we’re going to tell you the exact opposite … and somehow, both are still true! In this month’s Side Chat, we’re making a case for why sometimes the best way to get unstuck is by giving yourself permission to do something...2022-08-1947 minClarity on FireRenovating every area of your life in a year with RachelA year ago, on my birthday, I did something I’m prouder of than almost anything I’ve ever done: I published my own solo podcast! Forever Alone: One introverted millennial’s half-agonizing, half-hopeful journey through singledom. It’s like a memoir, in audio form. But people tell me it feels less like non-fiction and more like listening to a novel. Whether you’re single or not, it’ll resonate with you if you’re someone who’s been hoping for something for a long time that you haven’t gotten (and if your heart an...2022-08-121h 10Clarity on FireSpecial Episode: The inside scoop on Kristen’s full-time jobIf you haven’t been in the Clarity-verse (it’s a thing, I’ve decided) for a while, you might have missed the fact that one year ago Kristen got a full-time job. Not because she desperately needed one. Or because Krachel was on the verge of a breakup (going strong, thanks!). It was because she wasn’t walking her talk. Ironically, one of the people who created the Passion Profile Quiz was struggling because, go figure, she wasn’t working like a Thriver. They say you teach what you...2022-07-081h 01Clarity on FireAchieving a lifelong dream with Terece HahnFull disclosure: Ever since my client Terece first told me she was planning to write a book (a lifelong dream of hers), I knew I’d eventually want to bring her back on the podcast to talk about it. I’ve had the joy of seeing Terece’s massive transformation over the last few years from a self-doubting people-pleaser (see my original interview with her on ditching perfectionism) to someone who’s confident in who she is and is committed to expressing herself authentically. Because of that, I knew her book-writing journey woul...2022-04-081h 16Clarity on FireSide Chat: Two big questions to help you process your year (& the year ahead)First things first – Happy birthday to Kristen!! We know how I feel about birthdays, but Kristen is the Tiny Tim to my Ebenezer Scrooge, so feel free to celebrate her and congratulate her on getting older as much as you want today! And if you want a deal that even Scrooge couldn’t find fault with, then by all means, scroll down. Now, allow us to move on to the last podcast episode of this year! And what a year it’s been, hmm? How ever will we process it? Or prepare...2021-12-1749 minClarity on FireSide Chat: Passion Profiles & The scale of ambitionAt the very end of Chapter 7 of Forever Alone (tiny spoiler alert, I guess!), I said: We don’t all have the same amount of ambition in every area of life, and that’s OK. Some of us are perfectly content with a small, modest townhouse: Comfortable, safe, not flashy, but warm and homey. Honestly, my career ambitions are probably somewhere in that realm—it matters to me, but it’s not where my big, big dreams have ever lived. But man, I’ve got skyscraper ambitions when it comes to love. And I’m not talking s...2021-10-1539 minClarity on FireSide Chat: What we *actually* do for our mental health every dayI’ve gotta admit, there’s something fun about those “what do you eat in a day?” or “what’s in your bag?” videos that you’ll often find celebrities doing on YouTube. Of course, I highly doubt what’s being curated for YouTube is real — their bags are probably a whole lot more embarrassing, and their food choices more realistic, than what you see online. Kristen and I are about as far from celebrities as you can get, but there can still be a bit of a ~mystique~ around people you don’t really know, IRL. In the past...2021-09-1744 minClarity on FireLearning to let go of control with Diana La FeminaI once told Kristen, and I quote, “I’d rather my life be harder and more complicated than necessary, but still happen on my terms, rather than it be easier but not go the way I’ve envisioned.” Charming, I know! What can I say? I’m a Hermione-Granger type know-it-all with a penchant to grab onto something and insist that I know when, how, and why it’s supposed to happen … and then get indignant when it doesn’t go my, naturally. Wouldn’t it be easier to, I dunno, release control over...2021-09-101h 11Clarity on FireHuman Design 101 with Sara BaconIf you’re anything like us, we’re pretty sure you loooove a good personality assessment. There’s nothing quite like getting your geek on with something that cracks a new code on the human experience. We’ve been hearing a lot about Human Design for the past couple years—from clients, friends, and fellow coaches—but we hadn’t done any deeper digging yet. So instead of try to read about it online (and end up overwhelmed and confused … which we quickly did) we invited an expert to teach us what we need to know! 2021-08-2759 minClarity on FireSide Chat: Why you don’t need motivationA couple weeks ago one of my client’s asked, “Why is it so hard to get myself to do things that I KNOW are good for me? I really do want to eat healthy, exercise, not sit on the couch binging Netflix for hours after work … but finding the motivation is so hard. How do I get motivated??” To which I replied, “How about we start by NOT trying to find motivation?” In this month’s brand-new Side Chat, Kristen and I are diving into the perils of relying on motivation to ge...2021-08-2037 minClarity on FireForever Alone Chapter 1: Lonely & LongingIt’s Rachel’s birthday! And if you’ve been following along, you know that also means that today she’s giving herself, and you, a big gift … the first chapter of Forever Alone: One introverted millennial’s half-agonizing, half-hopeful journey through singledom. I’ve watched her pour a ton of time and energy into this—it’s been a true labor of love! I’m just as excited as you to listen in (because she hasn’t let me yet, haha). Even though I haven’t heard it yet, I know for sure it’s going to...2021-08-1836 minClarity on FireEgregiously single & forever alone with Rachel (new podcast coming!)So … I did a thing. A BIG thing. And since it’s my (well, our) podcast, I’m allowed to make Kristen interview me about the big thing I’ve done. ;) Back in January, when Kristen and I were trying out (and massively resisting) The Artist’s Way, an idea fell nearly fully formed, into my lap: I want to create my own podcast about my ridiculously long, weird, confusing, painstaking journey through singledom. I knew immediately how I wanted it to sound, what stories I wanted to tell, what the art could lo...2021-08-1351 minClarity on FireSpecial Episode! Why Kristen just got a JOBYep, you read that subject line right! I (Kristen) got a job. I know some of you are like, “Umm … excuse me, what??” First of all, rest assured this does NOT mean I’m stepping away from Clarity on Fire or anything of the sort. On the contrary, getting a job will (counterintuitively) free up my best mental and emotional energy to pour back into my client work. The thing is, when you’re a coach who spends all your time helping people find alignment in their life and career...2021-07-091h 01Clarity on FireEnding up back where you started with Kristen KalpImagine making the momentous decision to pack up your entire life and move cross-country from Pennsylvania all the way to Portland, Oregon. You decide to start your move on January 1, 2020, because it feels clean and fresh with possibilities, and you embark on your journey with enthusiasm and optimism. And then everything, and we do mean everything, promptly falls apart. You get COVID, but you don’t know it’s COVID yet because no one knows what it is, and almost die. Your partner loses their job because of the p...2021-06-251h 09Clarity on FireThe feminine energy experiment with Carolyn CanonicaI don’t know about you, but I (hi, Kristen here!) have been feeling extra overwhelmed lately. There’s just always so much to do! And yes, most of it is all stuff I want to put my time and energy into, but it still feels like a lot of doing. I’ve been feeling a strong urge to sloooow down the pace of life lately and stop trying to make everything happen all at once. The beautiful part about being is coach is that, sometimes as you’re helping a client find...2021-05-141h 05Clarity on FireThree pieces of BIG news!First and foremost–May the Fourth be with you. Secondly–WHEW, do we have a litany of important news to share! Listen in today as we break down some major events happening in the Clarity on Fire world. The teasers include… Why we’re significantly changing how we do 1:1 coaching for the first time since we started 9 years ago … and what that means if you’re interested in working with us this time around. A book announcement many of you have been waiting years for. A major life change for Rache...2021-05-0430 minClarity on FireSide Chat: Your needs & your wants are VERY differentSo … I was in a therapy session and my therapist said something that filled me with, as I told Kristen during this episode, “The wrath of hell.” Why? Because she, unintentionally, broke one of the cardinal rules of anyone who’s in a therapy/coaching/healing profession: Make the person in front of you feel seen and heard. I brought her my very raw, tender emotions about something that was deeply troubling me, and in her attempt to help, she used an analogy that made me feel very unseen and unheard–and worse than that, almost mad...2021-04-1658 minClarity on FireSide Chat: How to spot a red, green, or yellow flagA few weeks ago one of Rachel’s clients shared a very interesting conundrum: She’s wading through the world of dating apps, which is a masterclass in practicing discernment and listening to your intuition, as many of you know! She said, “I’ve gotten pretty good at identifying red flags right off the bat. And I’m also seeing some green flags—signs someone is respectful and shares the same values as me. But I’m struggling at identifying yellow flags. What do I do when I run into something that, in the moment, doesn’t feel l...2021-02-1932 minClarity on FireThe shadow side of trust & timing with Catie Beth BishopNo matter how short the delayed gratification, there’s always going to be time between realizing you want something and the moment you actually get it. Sometimes, it’s easy and nearly instantaneous. You realize you’re hungry, and two minutes later you have a snack in hand. Other times, you realize you want a specific career or a certain kind of relationship, and 2, 5, 8 years later … you’re still waiting to get it. We talk a lot about the nature of trust and timing and letting go of control around here. Usually in a way that...2021-02-121h 07Clarity on FireSide Chat: End-of-2020 ConfessionsIf you’re reading this, congratulations. You made it to the last days of 2020—maybe exhausted, burnt out, lost, confused, and a little worse for wear—but nevertheless, you did it. And if ever a year needed processing, it’s this one. So, in our final episode of the year we’re sitting down to work through some feeling and make some confessions. We got into… How the “no expectations for the rest of 2020” challenge went—in an interesting plot twist, Kristen is feeling saltier than Rachel for potentially the first time ever. Two confessions from R...2020-12-1842 minClarity on FireMaking space in your life (when you don’t believe it’s possible) with Anna GoreYou’ve probably all dreamed at some point of being Duchess Catherine (British royalty) or Beyoncé (American royalty)—if only because of how nice it must be to have the resources to outsource the mundane crap that eats up all your time! If they don’t want to cook, clean, do laundry, file their taxes, or go to the grocery store every again, they don’t have to. The dream! Like Kate and Bey, Anna is also a busy working mom of three young kids. But unlike the mega-rich and famous, she doesn’t have a full-time staff to ta...2020-12-111h 00Clarity on FireSide Chat: Is it not working? Or is it not working YET?Lately, one of my (Rachel’s!) clients came back a couple weeks into a homework assignment and proclaimed: “I’m really frustrated and disappointed. It’s not WORKING!!” When you’ve spent a couple weeks on something and you’re seeing no results, of course it’s frustrating. Especially when every day that passes by gives your inner critic more and more fodder for beating you up—“If you were good at this, it would work.” “See, I told you that you’re a failure. Why even try?” But I wasn’t “in it” like she was, so I could see the realit...2020-11-2034 minClarity on FireHow to trust that you'll be OK with Bekah TriceBekah Trice is a self-described wellness junkie. There are a LOT of healing modalities out there — therapy, coaching, massage, acupuncture, human design, tapping, and energy healing, to name a few — and she’s tried them all. I like to think of her as a wellness concierge; she’s dabbled in everything, so she’s naturally great at helping people figure out what might work for them. Of course, the very act of seeking out various healing practices means you sense there’s something within you that needs healing. Whether you struggle with imposter syndrome, people pleasing, lo...2020-11-131h 04Clarity on FireBonus Side Chat: All the (embarrassing) things we’ve quitToday’s episode was going to be a new normal person interview, but our normal person wasn’t feeling well at the last minute (no expectations, right?), so we’re pushing that episode back until later this month and giving you a bonus side chat today, instead! Since we were planning on talking to our normal person about something big she abruptly quit, we thought it would be fun to continue with that theme and share all the things that we have abruptly quit over the years. We’re getting the time that… Rachel left the p...2020-10-0938 minClarity on FireClear Eyes, Full Hearts, Can’t LoseI may have grown up watching my brother play football and seeing college and NFL games on TV every weekend for months on end, but 95% of it didn’t sink in. I’d always rather be reading a book. Sorry, family! But you know what I do love? Friday Night Lights. You don’t have to love football to be heart-eyes for Matt Saracen and Tim Riggins, and to want to model your entire romantic relationship off of Coach and Tami Taylor (are Kristen and I the platonic Coach and Tami?? Discuss). It’s a near-perfect show that pul...2020-10-0628 minClarity on FireStop regretting & start creating with Todd SearleIf you’re someone who’s been wanting to flex your creativity muscle, but keeps feeling stuck — by lack of inspiration, or a fear of not being good enough, or the struggle to find time for creativity — this episode is for you. Todd Searle is a creator by nature, and yet he kept finding himself in jobs where his creativity felt stifled. He’s had dozens of ideas for businesses and creative projects over the years, but none of them seemed to work out the way he’d hoped. So he realized that if he was ever going to ach...2020-09-111h 00Clarity on FireSide Chat: The anger infomercialIf you’d told me (Kristen) ten years ago that I’d be doing in infomercial FOR anger — as in, fully in support of and happily endorsing the expression of anger — I would’ve said you clearly have the wrong person. You see, as a lifelong people pleaser with a huge aversion to conflict of all kind, I prided myself on rarely (if ever) getting angry. I’m embarrassed to admit I even got on my high horse about it, and I’d judge people who would (gasp) express their anger outwardly. Clearly they were just less evolved than m...2020-08-2141 minClarity on FireMagic 8 Ball: Ditching your perfectionism with Terece HahnTerece Hahn had it all — the job she’d always dreamed of, a 6-figure income, a loving husband, the ability to travel and buy a home and do all the things she loved. And yet, she was miserable. Her job was making her burnt out, anxious, depressed, and totally unsure of herself. Her confidence took a nosedive, and she started questioning everything in her life. So what do you do when your dream job turns into a nightmare? Terece used that experience as a catalyst to go on a deep inner jour...2020-08-111h 07Clarity on FireMagic 8-Ball: Overcoming impostor syndromeDo you remember that scene in E.T. when he (E.T., that is) shuffles out of a closet wearing a dress, high heels, a blonde wig, and a little bowler hat? Yeah, I didn’t really remember it either, until Rachel brought it up. She was using that very vivid mental picture (you should really Google “E.T. in a wig” if you want a good laugh) to describe how she’s always felt about dating—she’s E.T. in a wig, and everyone else is a tan, gleaming contestant on the Bachelor. Obviou...2020-07-2843 minClarity on FireMagic 8-Ball: Ghosting your job with Lana JacksonEver felt like you’re a ghost wandering the halls of your workplace? Sure, you’re physically there, but the REAL YOU is nowhere to be found. You’re mentally checked out, emotionally drained, and showing up as a watered-down, hollow version of yourself. In this Magic 8-Ball episode, we’re bringing back someone who was all too familiar with that feeling: Lana Jackson, who was Kristen’s first-ever interview with a normal person back in May 2018. After years of feeling like a ghost of her real self, trapped by a boring, soul-sucking job, she decided it...2020-06-161h 09Clarity on FireDear Krachel: Why won’t anyone hire me?!Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. The theme this month ended up being “salty and cynical” (Rachel loved it). On this episode, we’re answering questions from: Another Rachel, who hijacks Rachel Rants for a bit to say that everyone who hasn’t hired her yet is a rude doofus, even though she’s got a TON of experience and deserves to be given a chance. Why do potenti...2020-06-0543 minClarity on FireMagic 8-Ball: A mind-blowing, time-bending analogyIt’s time for another “Magic 8-Ball” episode! AKA, where we shake up the nearly 200 episodes we’ve released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Have you ever heard something that felt so true that it resonated in your very bones? Even if you couldn’t explain why you knew it was true? You just knew. That’s how I felt when I read this passage from the end of Elizabeth Gilbert’s mega-bestselling book Eat, Pray, Love: “The Zen Bud...2020-05-2637 minClarity on FireMagic 8-Ball: Signs you're a highly sensitive personIt’s time for another “Magic 8-Ball” episode! AKA, where we shake up the nearly 200 episodes we’ve released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Today’s episode is one of the first side chats we ever did on the podcast way back in April 2018, and it’s all about how to tell if you’re a highly sensitive person. It’s one of my (Kristen’s) top-3 favorite episodes we’ve ever done, and it’s one that I keep referring my cli...2020-05-1249 minClarity on FireHow to adapt & keep the faith during uncertainty with R.A.WilliamsWe’ve all been living in this strange new world for a few months now, complete with stay-at-home orders, face masks, and social distancing. And many of us are settling into whatever version of normal we can find. And yet, there’s this lingering uncertainty that we’re all facing, both personally and globally. When will this pandemic end? Will I be able to keep my job? Will anyone I love get sick? What about my plans for later in the year? How long until I can travel to see my friends and family again? Will life ever g...2020-05-081h 08Clarity on FireMagic 8-Ball: The grief of transitionsIt’s time for another “Magic 8-Ball” episode! AKA, where we shake up the nearly-200 episodes we’ve released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Today’s episode is a side chat from September 2018 about the grief of transitions. It’s one of my (Rachel’s) favorite episodes we’ve ever done, and very relevant to what we’re all experiencing right now. Here’s what I said when we first published this one: Hello from the other side … of 30. It’s bee...2020-04-2846 minClarity on FireSide Chat: Copping out vs. letting yourself off the hookLife is hard. We know this now, maybe more than ever. And we all know that getting what you want isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes you’ve got to do crap you don’t want to do because it’s good for you, and it helps you get to the good stuff in life. So, if we’re struggling to commit to something difficult, does that mean we’re copping out? Shouldn’t we just suck it up and get on with it, because yeah, life is hard but we’re resilient and capable of doing...2020-04-1743 minClarity on FireMagic 8-Ball: 7 questions to ask yourself before saying yes to anythingIn case you hadn’t heard, every-other-Tuesday we’re publishing “Magic 8-Ball” episodes! AKA, we shake up the nearly-200 episodes we’ve released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Today’s episode is a blog from March 2018 that’s especially for all of you to default to saying “yes” to everything, and then feel overwhelmed, resentful, and burnt out… As an introvert who’s also a recovering people pleaser, it still gives me a small thrill of rebelliousness to say no to things. That...2020-04-1418 minClarity on FireRefuse to choose with Rachel LoweThis one goes out to all of you who feel like making a choice, any choice, is hard. Who are these mysterious people who just … decide things? Without any angst, or second-guessing, or spinning out, or FOMO, or shiny object syndrome?? Rachel Lowe can’t relate! Which is why she’s this month’s brand-new interview with a normal person. On this episode, Rachel E. And Rachel L. are getting into what it’s like to be someone who’s tried VERY hard to be decisive, but who just can’t be tamed. We talked abou...2020-04-101h 03Clarity on FireMagic 8-Ball: Honing your intuition (& knowing when it’s really fear)In case you hadn’t heard, every-other-Tuesday we’re publishing “Magic 8-Ball” episodes! AKA, we shake up the nearly-200 episodes we’ve released in the past two years, and the one that rises to the surface has a message that you needed to hear today. Today’s episode is a Side Chat from last summer about how to hone your intuition (and tell the difference between that, and fear). Pretty relevant right now, don’t you think? So, imagine a dude pumping iron, except he only ever works out one arm. He’s basically a circus attractio...2020-03-171h 04Clarity on FireRecovering from addiction & self-hate with Adam MillerWe all have our laundry lists of insecurities, self-doubts, and things we don’t particularly like about ourselves. But when those self-judgments turn into full-on self-hate, that can open the floodgates for all kinds of numbing, self-sabotaging behaviors. For Adam Miller, that manifested as drug addiction. Throughout his process of recovery, he learned that the best cure for self-sabotaging, addictive behaviors is learning how to like — and eventually love — himself again. Adam will be the first to tell you that cultivating self-love takes time, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to healing from years (or a lifeti...2020-03-131h 13Clarity on FireMaking friends in adulthood with Shannon Egan & Inés BattistiniA few weeks ago, we hosted a live online workshop about getting what you want in 2020. In typical fashion, the two of us were bouncing ideas and insights and jokes back and forth, and had a great time (and hopefully enlightened a couple people, too). But something that one of our attendees commented on stayed with us long after the hour was over. She said: “I have never had a female interaction like you two have. It’s wonderful to see, totally alien to me! :( That bond is so powerful and affirming. Thank you for being who you...2020-02-281h 04Clarity on FireSide Chat: Enneagram Soul Child TheoryWe’ve been obsessed with the Enneagram ever since we discovered it last year, and we’re pretty sure we passed that obsession on to many of you! One of Rachel’s clients recently said that discovering her Enneagram type felt like “a punch to the soul.” And damn, that’s exactly how it feels when you pinpoint your type—like you’ve been truly seen, but in the most vulnerable, cold-sweat inducing way! And for those of you who haven’t taken the Enneagram yet, and are wondering why in the world you’d ever inflict a “cold...2020-02-2143 minClarity on FireRachel Rants: You can’t make the wrong decision!There’s a time and place for more grounded, astute, in-depth reflections about life and what to do about your problems (that’s what blogs and, you know, every other episode of this podcast are for). But sometimes you just need a good, righteous rant. It’s cathartic! So, every once in a while, instead of writing a new blog or republishing an old one, I’m going to spend a few minutes getting fired up about something, in the hopes that I’ll get you fired up, too, and maybe even snap you out of whatever daze you’v...2020-01-1415 minClarity on FireWhen life screws up your plans with MaryBeth Bailar-HeathA few months ago, my client MaryBeth started our session with, “You’re never going to believe what I just did.” She began the call feeling utterly embarrassed, but by the end of the conversation was starting to see how the “embarrassing” thing she’d done might actually be exactly the right next step. When you’re so committed to your plan — for your career, your relationship, or your life in general — like MaryBeth was in that moment, it can blind you to other, potentially even better paths. In this month’s interview with a normal person...2020-01-1046 minClarity on FireQuitting your job, moving to another country, & starting a business with Deirdre AndrewsTo close out this month, year, and decade on a high note, Rachel thought it would be a nice, full-circle moment to sit down with Deirdre, one of her first clients ever and someone she’s known for nearly ten years! Deirdre has had her share of ups and downs in the last ten years, like most of us. And how this decade looks at the end—living in Scotland, running her own business—is very different than how it looked at the beginning. So, how did she end up quitting her job, moving to anothe...2019-12-201h 06Clarity on FireDecade in Review: How to find the light at the end of the tunnelFirst thing’s first—Happy birthday to Kristen! Given that it’s already a special day, and given that we’re less than two weeks away from 2020, we decided to do a special “decade in review” episode to really cap off the day/month/year/decade in epic fashion. We’re going back and mining 10 years’ worth of highs, lows, and wisdom, in the hope that you can take some of what we’ve learned and save yourself a couple years’ worth of angst, confusion, and misdirection in the 2020s! We got into… Who both of us wer...2019-12-1749 minClarity on FireLetting go of your inner control freak with Caela GrayLet’s be honest: All of us have an inner control freak that likes to surface from time to time (or maybe has fully taken over and is running our lives!). And it makes sense — we’re wired, by nature, to hate uncertainty and want clarity, answers, and a solid plan, preferably before taking any action. Our inner control freak is trying to quell our anxiety about what’s on the horizon, but the need to control everything (and maybe everyone) in our lives ends up creating even more anxiety, because nothing ever goes according to plan...2019-11-081h 06Clarity on FireRachel Rants: Life is hard, and you don’t have a lady’s maidThere’s a time and place for more grounded, astute, in-depth reflections about life and what to do about your problems (that’s what blogs and, you know, every other episode of this podcast are for). But sometimes you just need a good, righteous rant. It’s cathartic! So, every once in a while, instead of writing a new blog or republishing an old one, I’m going to spend a few minutes getting fired up about something, in the hopes that I’ll get you fired up, too, and maybe even snap you out of whatever daze you’v...2019-10-2911 minClarity on FireExpecting the perfect job to be your savior with Sarah KnightAs a grown, independent person living in the almost-2020s, it would be highly embarrassing to admit that you secretly hope for a knight in shining armor to sweep you off your feet like a damsel in distress. You can pay your own bills and don’t need rescuing, thank-you-very-much. BUT … while most of us have gotten over the desire for a savior when it comes to romance, a LOT of us are still very much hung up on the idea of a job that might save us. And frankly, it’s just as codependent and problematic as hop...2019-10-111h 10Clarity on FireRachel Rants: Being smart is NOT that importantOne of my favorite movies of all time is Moonstruck, starring Cher and Nicolas Cage. Even if you haven’t seen it, you’d probably recognize the scene where Nic Cage’s character sighs, in his dopey way, that he’s in love with Cher’s character. And then Cher rears back, slaps him in the face twice, for good measure, and says, “Snap out of it!” Well this new podcast segment is me, stepping into my inner Cher and doing what I love—snapping people out of it. There’s a time and place for more...2019-09-2420 minClarity on FireTaking a year-long sabbatical from work with Francine MendsFrancine Mends’ life is unrecognizable from four years ago when she was feeling trapped and miserable in her highly specialized field of neuroradiology, with no escape in sight. After a series of personal tragedies that emotionally shook her to her core, she decided to finally make some serious (and scary) changes in her life, including doing something she never imagined she could do: take a year-long sabbatical from work. Since then, she’s quit her job, lived internationally, worked as a digital nomad, and started her own business. Listen in to this week’s inte...2019-09-1357 minClarity on FireDear Krachel: Am I doomed to grow bored with all my partners?You’re in for a special “Krachel-Squared” episode of Dear Krachel (our advice segment where we answer audience questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself) this month! After reading one of our listener’s conundrums, we immediately realized we weren’t the best, most experienced people to address her issue! So, we asked our friend and former client, Rachel Lowe, to add her take. Two Rachels for the price of one! ;) On this episode, we’re answering questions from: Melissa, who’s having a har...2019-09-0644 minClarity on FireA best friend’s roundtable on people pleasing with Stacy Campesi & Joanna PlattYou’re in for a real treat this month—We’ve got not one, not two, but three normal people coming at you! In honor of our upcoming course, Getting Over People Pleasing, we sat down with two of our very best friends (Stacy Campesi and Joanna Platt, who you may remember from their past expert appearances on the podcast) to talk about all the ways that people-pleasing has affected them, and Kristen (as the sole non-people-pleaser in the room, Rachel had fun playing moderator!). All four of us are trained coaches, but that doesn’t mean t...2019-08-0959 minClarity on FireBlog: Why it's totally OK when you don't like someoneSeveral months ago, I was helping facilitate a multi-day business training. I didn’t know any of the other instructors, so when I showed up on the first day, I introduced myself to the training team. I instantly got a weird vibe from the head trainer. She ignored my introduction entirely and started spouting off everything that still needed to be done before we could get started. Her frantic energy was palpable, and I could sense it was putting the rest of us on edge. “She’s probably just nervous about pulling off a great event,”...2019-07-3018 minClarity on FireWhen you get your dream job ... and hate it with normal person EllaAfter years of job hopping (including starting her own side gig), hoping to find the right fit, Ella recently landed a job that by all counts should have been her “dream job.” And yet, she felt strangely conflicted about it right from the initial interview. On her very first day of the new job, she knew this was utterly wrong for her. So what happens when you get your dream job … and you hate it from Day 1? Cue panic, confusion, and plenty of existential questioning. Now, Ella will tell you that gettin...2019-07-121h 05Clarity on FireBlog: Are you blurring the line between real life and online life?Back in college I did a case study about something I thought was wild at the time … It was called Second Life. Maybe you’ve heard of it? It was a virtual-reality online game that connected hundreds of thousands of users around the world. You built an entire life — complete with houses, jobs, pets, and spouses — inside this game. I was fascinated by the intersection between real-life and virtual reality. I read stories about people on Second Life who played 8 or 9 hours a day — to the point that their “second life” felt more like real life than thei...2019-07-0215 minClarity on FireRejection therapy with Alex GrodnikA few weeks ago Kristen and I were out to lunch and we couldn’t help but overhear the conversation happening between the people at the next table.
The man said to the woman, “If millennials had helicopter parents, then Gen Z has snowplow parents—They’re constantly clearing any obstacles or difficulties in their kids’ path.”
We were intrigued and, quite honestly, it’s hard to deny the truth of that. We can all think of plenty of examples that prove that point.
What baffled our unwitting lunch companions, and us too, is how short sighted “snow...2019-06-2850 minClarity on FireBlog: Why highly sensitive people struggle with perfectionismIf I want to test the unconditional love of any friend, family member, or future spouse, I have one epic assignment for them—Go on vacation with me, and if we both make it back alive and still sort-of liking each other, then we’re made to last. Last summer Kristen and I flew to Europe for my 30th birthday. We spent half the time in Austria, with my brother and his wife, and the other half in Scotland with my mom. My brother and his wife only have one spare room, so Kristen and I had to s...2019-06-1821 minClarity on FireSorting Harry Potter characters by Passion ProfileAs the Harry Potter super fans (and Ravenclaw nerds) that we are, it’s truly amazing that this idea hadn’t occurred to us before … but better late than never! Instead of a blog this week, we sat down for a quick, fun round of sorting our favorite HP characters by their Passion Profile. Can you guess whether Harry, Ron, Hermione, Dumbledore, Luna, Neville, Ginny, and even He Who Must Not Be Named is a Firestarter, Tribe Member, Thriver, or Side Hustler?? After you’ve listened, leave a comment to let us know your own...2019-05-2130 minClarity on FireLosing 100 pounds in 9 months with Tony WeaverAfter 40 years of obesity, Tony Weaver decided it was time to make a drastic life change. Despite having many previous failed attempts at living a healthier life, he committed to losing 100 pounds in a year. Not only did he achieve his goal (and then some! He lost 131 pounds in total), he also went on to run two half-marathons, start a blog, and write a book. Maybe most importantly, he found his voice, gained a new sense of confidence and purpose in the world, and learned to genuinely like himself, just as he is. ...2019-05-101h 03Clarity on FireBlog: What to do when no one supports your dreamsYesterday I was listening to Oprah’s new Super Soul Conversations podcast (it’s basically just edited, audio-only versions of Super Soul Sunday TV episodes), where she was interviewing Paulo Coelho. If you haven’t heard of him, Paulo Coelho is the author of the mega-bestselling allegorical novel The Alchemist, which was published 29 years ago and still hits the New York Times bestseller list regularly. (If you haven’t read it, you really should. It’s one of those rare books that contain within it almost everything you’ll ever need to know about life. Kristen and I did a book...2019-04-2314 minClarity on FireKrachel plays 36 questions to fall in love with anyoneWell, this was supposed to be a normal person interview, but Kristen got sick and then our normal person got sick, so apparently the Universe wanted us to do something else this month! So, have you heard about the 36 questions that lead to love? They’re based on a psychological study that explored whether or not intimacy could be accelerated by having strangers ask a set of personal, sometimes probing questions. (Spoiler alert: One professor married the guy she tried this with!). Obviously we’ve known each other for a decade, and we’re not trying...2019-04-1249 minClarity on FireBlog: Why you don’t need to feel guilty about quitting your jobKristen and I are pretty seasoned in the ways of job-quitting. In my first three years of working post-college, I had three jobs and quit them all. And Kristen quit her very first job after 5 weeks (though they deserved it for having a series of meetings about whether or not to start a LinkedIn page for the company. I mean, come on now). Maybe it’s our mutual rebellious attitudes, but we’ve both been pretty YOLO about quitting (which has likely done nothing to help correct the notion that Millennials are entitled and disloyal, but that’s a ma...2019-04-0918 minClarity on FireSide Chat: “I’m not enough” vs. “I’m too much”We doubt there’s a person on earth (well, maybe excluding the sociopaths who walk among us) that doesn’t feel that they’re either “too much” or “not enough.” You know what we’re talking about: “You’re too quiet. You’re not interesting enough. You’re too weird. You’re too intense. You’re not attractive enough.” We’ve all got a silent-but-insistent inner monologue that’s terrified we aren’t EXACTLY who we need to be in order to be liked, loved, and respected. In this month’s Side Chat, we’re coming at this from o...2019-02-1550 minClarity on FireMoving past the worst years of your life with Lauren MowbrayA little over 10 years ago, Lauren’s life was thrown into total chaos. Her relationship ended in a shocking, dramatic, and heartbreaking way, and she found herself a single mom to four kids, barely getting by while trying to navigate an intense emotional rollercoaster. In the years since then, she’s gone through multiple stages of redefining herself, first through external factors (her struggle, her titles, and her accomplishments), and later by going inward to figure out who she is at her core, when all the external stuff is stripped away. Lauren will be the firs...2019-02-081h 04Clarity on FireConscious breakups & brave conversations with normal person MarinaThe last few months of 2018 were pretty monumental for Marina. The turning point was in October when she met to a retreat with 300 other women hosted by powerhouse inspirational couple Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach. She returned from the retreat having witnessed real-deal true love, which solidified the realization that her partnership wasn’t that, and that it was time to end things. But how do you break up in a more evolved, conscious way? Is it even possible? Rachel and Marina talked about… How she knew it was time to end her romantic rela...2019-01-111h 18Clarity on FireTherapy vs. Coaching with Sarah Rossmiller, LPCHave I ever told you guys about the time I fired my therapist? Well, to cut to the chase—she was god-awful. I left every session with her feeling worse about myself than when I’d walked in. Personal development is hard work, but it probably shouldn’t make you cry for hours after the session is over. Honestly, that experience was part of what cemented my desire to become a coach. I knew I wanted to help people move forward with their lives, rather than continually delve into the past (which is what I perceived therapists as doi...2018-11-301h 00Clarity on FireSide Chat: Help! I’ve fallen down a rabbit hole & can’t get outI’m unafraid to admit that I am a full-blown escapist. I can’t help it. I was born this way. The places I’ve been in my imagination feel just as real to me as places I’ve actually been—I defy you to tell me that I haven’t ever sat in front of the fire in the Gryffindor common room doing homework with my quill and parchment! The truth is, the world in my head is often way more interesting than what’s going on in the real world. And more often than not, I’d...2018-11-1646 minClarity on FireDear Krachel: Should I trust my boyfriend’s words, or his actions?Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer audience questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. On this episode, we’re answering questions from: Catherine, who’s having some difficulty with a “jackhammer”-type boss. How do you work with someone who inadvertently makes you feel judged or less-than? Isabelle, who doesn’t want a spouse, kids, or a corporate career … which everyone insists she’ll regret not having. Are they right? Is there something she just isn’t seeing...2018-11-0239 minClarity on FireBlog: Something new you HAVE to try: No expectations dayI think it’s safe to say that I don’t know a single person who hasn’t been through a period of burnout. Some temporary burnout is normal, especially after you’ve expended a big surge of energy. I remember feeling exhausted and lethargic for a couple of days after finals in college or after completing a big project at work. Temporary burnout is bound to happen from time to time, and as long as you give yourself some recovery time after a particularly busy or stressful period, you’ll recalibrate pretty quickly. Long-ter...2018-10-3016 minClarity on FireGetting over your ‘all or nothing’ obsession with Amy EverhartRaise your hand if you’ve ever been a couch potato who decided the best way to motivate yourself was to go all out: signing up for a marathon, weightlifting every day, or going to yoga 6 times a week. Or maybe you decided it was time to clean up your diet, so you cut all sugar AND dairy AND wheat AND meat. Or perhaps you wanted to get clear on your career direction, so you bought ten self-help books and signed up for four courses in the space of a month. The obsession wi...2018-10-2658 minClarity on FireBlog: Don’t take credit for everything that sucksOne of my clients has a passion and expertise for parrots (yet another reason I love coaching—you meet people with incredibly diverse interests). The other day we were talking about her desire to educate people with pet parrots about how to properly care for them, when she started dropping some facts that made me go, “Wait, hold up. Say that again.” Here’s what she told me: “Parrots are highly sociable animals programmed to live in a group. They’re also meant to fly dozens of miles a day (some species, like Macaws, fly...2018-10-2313 minClarity on FireSide Chat: A mind-blowing, time-bending analogyHave you ever heard something that felt so true that it resonated in your very bones? Even if you couldn’t explain why you knew it was true? You just knew. That’s how I felt when I read this passage from the end of Elizabeth Gilbert’s mega-bestselling book Eat, Pray, Love: “The Zen Buddhists say that an oak tree is brought into creation by two forces at the same time. Obviously, there is the acorn from which it all begins, the seed which holds all the promise and potential, which grows into the tree. Ev...2018-10-1931 minClarity on FireDitching your perfectionism with Terece HahnTerece Hahn had it all — the job she’d always dreamed of, a 6-figure income, a loving husband, the ability to travel and buy a home and do all the things she loved. And yet, she was miserable. Her job was making her burnt out, anxious, depressed, and totally unsure of herself. Her confidence took a nosedive, and she started questioning everything in her life. So what do you do when your dream job turns into a nightmare? Terece used that experience as a catalyst to go on a deep inner jour...2018-10-121h 04Clarity on FireBlog: A story about when I was publicly insultedThere was a time when Kristen and I thought we wanted to be corporate coaches.
In a way, this made perfect sense. Both of us had intimate experience with the mind-numbing bureaucracy of corporate America. We knew what the cube-people were secretly feeling — trapped, suffocated, bored, purposeless — because we had so recently been cube-people.
We had a vision of being “corporate ninjas” … we’d go in to stuffy offices and quietly, stealthily, and methodically shift entire cultures. We’d inspire people; we’d make it so that work was actually invigorating, purposeful, and fun. Leadership would be left a bit dazed and bli...2018-10-0913 minClarity on FireDear Krachel: All my friends are married. Why not me?Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, a monthly advice segment where we answer audience questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself. On this episode, we’re answering questions from: Cath, who wants some advice about how to let things unfold naturally when dating someone new, instead of forcing and pushing. How do you not give in to the need for instant answers? Jess, a Side Hustler in her twenties who lives with her parents and works as a freelancer. Should she get a...2018-10-0543 minClarity on FireBlog: The Quagmire of SuckageI recently passed an anniversary of sorts. It’s been six years since I quit my first job (not to be confused with the second or third jobs I also quit, which happened shortly thereafter). It’s also been six years since Kristen and I decided to start a business and six years since I enrolled in a certified coach training program. I know anniversaries are supposed to be celebrated, or at least fondly acknowledged, but all I’m thinking about right now is the two weeks I spent in between quitting my first job and st...2018-09-2517 minClarity on FireSide Chat: How to get through life’s big transitionsHello from the other side … of 30. It’s been a month since I left my 20s, and I’m (Rachel) honestly still processing this milestone. I didn’t expect it to bring up so much grief – anger, frustration, sadness, and waves of anxiety and depression. And while I’ve been riding those waves, it’s become obvious that a lot of people around me are also battling that same current, just for different reasons. So, this mutual experience got me thinking about big life transitions. What do they have in common? How do we ride them o...2018-09-2144 minClarity on FireBlog: When is it worth getting out of your comfort zone?My client Dawn was in a major internal tug-of-war. Her boss had just announced he was leaving, which meant his job was opening up. As soon as the job was posted, several of Dawn’s coworkers forwarded her the job listing with notes like, “You would be perfect for this,” and “This has your name all over it.” Dawn was flattered, but torn. She’d never considered applying for her boss’ job, and she wasn’t totally sure she wanted it. It would mean a lot more responsibility, as well as becoming a manager, all of which made he...2018-09-1813 minClarity on FireBlog: Why I quit drinking alcohol 3 years agoWe recently got a question that was intended for our monthly Dear Krachel segment, but it’s a subject that I’ve been considering writing about for a long time, so I decided to tackle it at length in a blog, instead! Here’s what Mary wrote: “Hi Rachel!
You had mentioned on a recent podcast that you haven’t had an alcoholic beverage in 3 years. I was wondering if you wanted to share what brought you to this life change. My husband has been sober for over a year and a half and I we...2018-09-1117 minClarity on FireSide Chat: A tough love smackdownA while back, I happened upon a quote as I was scrolling through Instagram that felt like a benevolent smack in the face (if there is such a thing): “The true joy of life is being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.” –George Bernard Shaw I mean, DAMN. That’s some dee...2018-08-1738 minClarity on FireBring your own butterbeer (Kristen interviews Rachel on her 30th birthday!)So, I (Rachel) am turning 30 in just a few days. And in true nerd fashion, I wanted to celebrate by having a deep conversation. It’s a party in Ravenclaw tower, ya’ll. BYOB. Bring your own butterbeer. ;) I insisted on being the “normal person” for this month’s interview, because I’m always the expert (well, at least when you hear me on the podcast ... not so sure about the rest of the time!). Kristen came up with a bunch of questions that I didn’t get to prepare for, so enjoy my spur-of-the-moment musings about...2018-08-101h 04Clarity on FireSide Chat: Overcoming impostor syndromeDo you remember that scene in E.T. when he (E.T., that is) shuffles out of a closet wearing a dress, high heels, a blonde wig, and a little bowler hat? Do you remember that scene in E.T. when he (E.T., that is) shuffles out of a closet wearing a dress, high heels, a blonde wig, and a little bowler hat? Yeah, I didn’t really remember it either, until Rachel brought it up on this week’s podcast. She was using that very vivid mental picture (you should really Google “E.T. in a w...2018-07-2037 minClarity on FireGetting un-stuck from a beige existence with Nate OttoIf you’ve been feeling trapped, stuck, and directionless in your life and career, it can feel like you’re living life in beige, when all you really want is to be living in vibrant color. Nate Otto has been fighting the beige for years. In this month’s interview with a normal person, Kristen chats with Nate about how he finally broke through a colorless existence and started to find his place in the world. Nate is a brilliant, creative, innovative thinker who suppressed his inner inquisitive nature and vibrant spirit for much of his li...2018-07-131h 05Clarity on FireBlog: How to break up with toxic people (with as little guilt as possible)Something’s been coming up lately that’s clearly resonating with a LOT of people. It boiled over during a workshop Kristen and I were doing a while back. During a Q&A someone asked a question that, all of a sudden, prompted other people to chime in with variations of, “OMG, it’s not just me?!” The issue? It went something like, “How do you ‘break up’ with toxic people?” The person who shared her story said that she’d been trying to distance herself from a group of friends that were always making her fe...2018-07-0317 minClarity on FireBlog: The difference between real fear and lazy fearMost kids view themselves as invincible. It’s why they climb trees that are a bit too tall, or ride bikes way too fast, or otherwise put themselves in overly risky situations. Not me. I was an extremely cautious child. I much preferred the safety of my own imagination over the wild, unpredictable real world. I would cringe when the neighborhood skateboarder tried tricks on his new ramp, or when my friends would suggest a horror movie at a sleepover. Blame it on my sensitivity, or my old soul, or being an only child (until I...2018-06-1216 minClarity on FireBlog: Why you should get down with informational interviewsAs far as career coaches go, I’m pretty unconventional. As in, I don’t care much about the things that “career experts” usually tend to obsess about. I’m not interested in helping you write the perfect résumé or the most professional-sounding cover letter. (I’d much prefer that you reveal your humanity and personality throughout all phases of the application process, rather than sound like a highly skilled robot.) I don’t believe in “best practices” when it comes to job searching. (I don’t care what worked for someone else. I care what’s going to w...2018-05-2916 minClarity on FireBreaking your phone addiction with Kristen KalpThe first step of recovery is admitting you have a problem. And to be frank – We’ve got a problem. And we’re pretty sure you do, too. Did you know that one of the metrics that measures phone addiction is if you can go 5 or more hours without touching it? Can you even REMEMBER the last time you did that!? ‘Cuz we can’t. GULP. Did you know that the average person thinks they’re LESS addicted than everyone around them, even though the average person is actually touching their phone over 2,000 times a day? Yes, yo...2018-05-2559 minClarity on FireBlog: The giving-burnout-resentment cycle in relationshipsIf there’s one line I’ve heard from just about every client I’ve coached over the years, it’s this: “I really just want to help people.” Look, I get it. It’s human nature (well, the good side of human nature, at least!) to want to help and support and lift up other people. Life would be pretty unfulfilling if you never felt like you were making a positive difference for other people. Plus, it just feels good to help others. Who doesn’t enjoy the warm, satisfied feeling they get after doing something...2018-05-1512 minClarity on FireGhosting your job with Lana JacksonEver felt like you’re a ghost wandering the halls of your workplace? Sure, you’re physically there, but the REAL YOU is nowhere to be found. You’re mentally checked out, emotionally drained, and showing up as a watered-down, hollow version of yourself. In this month’s interview with a normal person, Kristen is chatting with Lana Jackson, who was all too familiar with that feeling. After years of feeling like a ghost of her real self, trapped by a boring, soul-sucking job, she decided it was time to get clear on what she *really* wanted out of h...2018-05-111h 02Clarity on FireBlog: How much joy are you letting go to waste?I was taking a walk the other day, mentally replaying a couple of coaching calls I’d had that morning and thinking through everything I had to do the rest of the day. I turned the corner, and suddenly right in front of me was the most beautiful cherry blossom tree in perfect bloom. It was stunning. I reflexively stopped to admire it, and my mind went completely blank for a moment. It was just me and the tree and nothing else. I felt warm, content, and totally at peace. After a few moments, I snapped out of...2018-05-0112 minClarity on FireEmotional constipation with Joanna PlattPeople, let’s get real. We are BACKED UP, emotionally speaking. We live in a culture that, by and large, is not super comfortable with feelings and self-expression. A lot of us have gotten REALLY good at numbing out, suppressing, and generally doing whatever we can to avoid having to feel anything difficult or uncomfortable. Except you can’t bottle it up forever. Eventually, something’s gotta give. And whether or not we realize it, a lot of us are paying a high price for all that suppressed emotion. To help us literally start flowing again, we brough...2018-04-271h 01Clarity on FireBlog: Why I love jealousy (and you should, too) You know how it goes … you see someone’s incredible vacation photos on social media, while you watch the rain pour down outside your tiny office window (or, worse, as you stare at the windowless grey walls of your cube). Or you hear about an old friend who just got an amazing promotion at a company you’d kill to work at. Or your coworker gushes about how sweet her husband was for surprising her with concert tickets for their one-year anniversary, while you haven’t even been on a date in months. The envy starts to creep in...2018-04-1717 min
Clarity on FireYou can't cure the human experience with Kyle RamsvigWhen Kyle Ramsvig was a teenager she found out that nearly all of the girls in the senior class of her small, private high school were either in therapy or on anti-depressants—all of them had thought they were broken, but none of them were talking about it with each other because they were ashamed. In this inaugural interview with a “normal person,” Rachel talks to Kyle (one of her clients) about why we’re so afraid of our feelings and how to live a happy, fulfilled life in a world that often makes us feel wrong for bein...2018-04-1058 min
Clarity on FireWizardry and sarcasm (Introducing Clarity on Fire)Welcome to Clarity on Fire, a podcast for people who know what they DON’T want out of their life and career, but aren’t sure what they’d RATHER be doing. In this inaugural episode you’ll meet us, Kristen and Rachel (two best friends from college and certified life coaches), and get a taste of what we’re here to do. Namely, help you cut through the information overload, get unstuck, and focus not JUST on how you can have a career you’re passionate about, but how to create a whole LIFE that feels fulfilling. ...2018-04-0516 min