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Diary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 21. Three things I know for sure.After 21 days of daily conversation on the topic of race, Kianga and Rachel share the three truths that have emerged for each of them as a result. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-3043 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 20. The truth you may not want to hear.As the 21 days of conversations come towards the end, Rachel and Kianga begin to draw some conclusions about what their experiment has shown them. Today is about the difficult truths.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2937 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 19. The Cost of Inclusivity, Part 2Finishing up yesterday's conversation about the cost of inclusivity, what emerges is the sense that systemic change and individuals (cells, as in the parts of the system) must change in tandem with each other. One or the other won't work; it must be both.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2935 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 18. The Cost of InclusivityRachel and Kianga answer a reader question today about how best to move forward with inclusivity, and what are the negative consequences to be on the lookout for.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2821 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 17. What's on the other side of all of this?Going deep into the muck and minutiae isn't the point of all this...so where do we really want to go? What's available to us when we're willing to get down and dirty with the tiny pieces to create something new? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2731 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 16. Handling the force of angerToday we look at being in conversations where anger is present and how to identify your location so you can respond accordingly. Allies and PoCs have different roles here, and they require a lens of awareness around the trigger, and whether it is a past or present trigger. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2635 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 15. Answering your questionsToday Kianga and Rachel take on reader questions.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2538 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 14. The cost of sitting and listening.Have White people fully taken on their part of the responsibility of creating racial equity, or are they just sitting back and listening? Rachel and Kianga dive into what they are seeing and feeling, and why the lack of urgency is significant.  You can find more information about the Intimate Allies course here: www.becomingfreeehumans.com/intimateallies --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2339 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 13. A look into the future.Kianga shares about a thing she's seeing bubble to the surface rather quietly, but that when it actually does surface, feels like there will be significant impact.  You can find more information about the Intimate Allies course here: www.becomingfreeehumans.com/intimateallies --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2327 minNourishing Creativity with Chef Carla Contreras (formerly Show Up Fully)Nourishing Creativity with Chef Carla Contreras (formerly Show Up Fully)Episode 5: Intimate Allies: Doing Your Work with Kianga Ford + Rachel Paz of Becoming Free HumansRachel and Kianga are fellow podcasters + coaches. “We are transformational coaches dedicated to giving people the tools they need to connect with themselves and one another. Right now, we are creating space to do that around the topic of race—because the world needs these tools today. ”Our conversation is about how Rachel (White American) and Kianga (Black American) could have had a very strained time in their relationship these past few months. But it hasn’t been.They both have a commitment to expressing their deepest truths to each other, doing their own inner work to...2020-07-2231 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days of Race: Day 12. Slowing downDeepening intimacy around race requires going slow. Today Kianga and Rachel revisit a part of a conversation they had yesterday where there was potential for their connection to contract. And what was learned as they slowed down was really an important moment for both of them.  You can find more information about the Intimate Allies course here: www.becomingfreeehumans.com/intimateallies --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2228 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days of Race: Day 11. Spiritual leaders and race.There's a way that many spiritual leaders are ignoring or "bypassing" the conversation of race right now. Kianga and Rachel revisit an experience they had together about 5 weeks ago in a spiritual community - to discuss how the personal blind spots of some are both harmful and impact the bottom line of their businesses.  You can find more information about the Intimate Allies course here: www.becomingfreeehumans.com/intimateallies --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-2039 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days of Race: Day 10. Being willing to move from where you are.Kianga and Rachel explore what it's like to be unattached enough to your story to be willing to see it a different way. And that it doesn't necessarily make the different way true - but it does take you off the spot of your habits long enough to see something different.  You can find more information about the Intimate Allies course here: www.becomingfreeehumans.com/intimateallies --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1917 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 9. Performative InnocenceRachel experiences an important revelation in the way that she comes to the conversation, and what the consequences of doing that are. Kianga and Rachel also share about how the container of the conversation is what paves the way for what's possible. You can find more information about the Intimate Allies course here: www.becomingfreeehumans.com/intimateallies --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1829 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 8. OUR work to do.Kianga and Rachel have mentioned before how there is no right way to be in this moment, as each of us has our own personal work to do, rather than a prescribed set of actions to take. In this conversation, we out ourselves with what we see as our own personal work and why that is so.  You can find more information about the Intimate Allies course here: www.becomingfreeehumans.com/intimateallies --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1721 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 7. Race in the media...coming from 2 different perspectivesWe're not gonna lie...things are getting a little uncomfortable up in here. Today Rachel reveals how she is starting to question what the media taught and showed her about PoC when she was growing up, and that she wants to go back and see what got internalized. And Kianga shares that her awareness of racial representation in the media is what helped her to avoid becoming a stereotype.  You can learn more about the course, Intimate Allies, here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1625 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 6. Race and desire.Today Kianga and Rachel talk about learned attraction and preferences as it pertains to intimate relationships, and each do some sharing about their experiences with interracial relationships. You can learn more about the course here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1548 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 5. When racial diversity isn't a part of your everyday life.Rachel shares about a realization she had about furthering the conversation on race, when her lived racial experience isn't always particularly diverse.  You can learn more about the course here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1429 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 4. A framework for a way forward between the oppressor and the oppressed.Kianga shares a structure of how to find the way forward between the oppressor and the oppressed. They try it on a bit, and practice with real-life interactions Rachel and Kianga have had.  You can learn more about the course here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1321 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 3. Who gets to be the face of the conversation on race?If shifting the reality of race in America requires all parties to be invested, what is lost when we don't allow ALL people to contribute to the conversation. And what dynamic is really created when we look at white people ceding positions of power to PoC.  You can learn more about the course here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1228 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 2. Breaking Out of the Orthodoxy of The Racial Justice ModelKianga and Rachel recount bits of a conversation with a social justice advocate regarding her concerns about what we're up to...and why they come from an outdated way of thinking. You can learn more about the course here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1126 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a Pandemic21 Days on Race: Day 1. Race and Personal ChoiceHow does race make white people act against their own interests? Rachel shares about her own experiences of needing a safety net and the perceptions that kept her from accessing it.  You can learn more about the course here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-1027 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 11So much going on in the world! This week's hotlist touches on nervous systems, the illusion of "the times changing" in the race conversation, and Kanye is apparently running for President. We literally can't make this stuff up, but we do give it to you exactly as we see it.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-0832 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicTaking the Elevator to the BottomIn this week's deep dive, Kianga and Rachel talk about what it means to take the elevator to the bottom - both as an individual and collectively - as well as why you'd want to do it, and practical tools to supporting yourself and others on this ride to the underground. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-0333 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 10Mask-shaming, BLM is not an all-encompassing movement, and racist white people congratulating themselves on not being racist. This and so much more as Rachel and Kianga break down the weekly hotlist. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-07-0136 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 9The weekly re-hash of all things pandemic, racism in America, and who knows what else is coming...  This week, Kianga and Rachel discuss pain portals, loneliness, how trying to win the argument is definitely not the way, and so much more. Our upcoming online course on having intimate conversations about race is here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-06-2449 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicRace + EntrenchmentIn their deep dive today, Kianga and Rachel explore the potential re-entrenchment happening around race. We've collectively come out of the closet about feelings on race, and as this has happened, some have experienced feeling misunderstood, others have been attacked, others have decided it's not safe to have these conversations in public because they will be shamed for being where they are in their journey around race in America. Rachel and Kianga discuss the very real danger (and missed opportunity) of digging in our heels with our current beliefs and retreating - largely because we haven't figure out how...2020-06-2253 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 8We're not going back to normal, folks seem to have forgotten about coronavirus, and white people are starting to say the words "white people." Tune in for what stood out to Kianga and Rachel this week.  Also, we mention our new course, Intimate Allies in this episode. You can find it here: www.becomingfreehumans.com/intimateallies. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-06-1741 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 7It's been a week that has felt like it's lasted years! In the context of the unfolding events around racial equity, we talk leadership, shame, defensiveness, overcompensation and boundaries. No one is doing any of this perfectly, and we have to learn to have compassion with each other so we can all move in the same direction.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-06-1051 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDr. Hazel-Grace Yates: Consent from SelfDreaming of a world free from sexual trauma, Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates joins us to share about what this moment in history is calling for from her, both as someone who's income stream practically vanished overnight when Coronavirus hit and someone who is committed to participating  and leading in the unfolding of human consciousness. Also, in the wake of George Floyd's murder and the ensuing protests, we talk about what it means to create an inclusive and safe community, and how that's different than just saying all are welcome.  You can find Dr. Hazel-Grace here: www...2020-06-0646 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicContext Matters"It is neither policy nor protest." President Barack Obama said these words in his address to the nation yesterday. Yes, policy matters and is what makes possible the impact of improving circumstances, but it is protest that often ignites the fire to create policy change. Both are significant.  Today we examine the intersections of spirituality/awakening consciousness communities and the context of one's lived experience. And we've chosen to wander in this question distinctly because we have long understood that you can't have a purely spiritual experience in a human body, while leaving your actual physical...2020-06-0549 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 6Really, everything that happened this week could have been a hotlist in and of itself. Alas, we do our best to hone in on the things that really mattered amidst the murder of George Floyd, the incident with Amy Cooper, protests around the country, and oh, right, COVID19 is still a thing, too.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-06-0435 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicThe Psychology of Our Changing Pandemic BehaviorWe don't actually know anything about psychology, but we're taking the time today to wander into the arena of what it is that is causing people around the nation to change their behavior so drastically, seemingly overnight. Do they believe something is different, or is a weighing of risk against their deepest needs (or something else we haven't thought of)? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-05-2933 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 5Change is inevitable, the strength of the emotional/physical connection, high unemployment rates, and our collective uncertainty. Join Rachel and Kianga to chat about the hot spots of the week, both personally and collectively.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-05-2735 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 4Connection, martyrdom, and the inconsistencies (and justifications) in our behavior. Join Rachel and Kianga to re-cap the last week to see what's emerging now.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-05-2039 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicThe New Paradigm is Right In Front of Your NoseWhen we look at the new paradigms we would like to emerge from this period, many of us think lofty and far outside of ourselves, but literally the clues lie in what is occurring right in front of our faces. The things that are truly in our faces right now are available for us to see them differently. Join us as we wander through thoughts about this, and how to apply it individually and collectively.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-05-1637 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 3Ahmaud Arbery, race in America, and one key thing that gets overlooked that could shift the race relations dynamic. Join us for that, and the rest of the download on the past week.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-05-121h 05Diary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicSacred Commerce with Asha RamakrishnaToday Rachel and Kianga welcome their first guest, Asha Ramakrishna, to discuss sacred commerce. Asha shares about this emerging framework as a path to sustainability in our businesses and lives. Plus, we talk dragons, Bali, science, and the patriarchy.  To take the quiz on your dharma type, go here: http://ashaisnow.com/dharma To join her Facebook Group on ceremony, go here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/209588000141934/?ref=share -- Asha D Ramakrishna  is a  #1 Best Selling Author of  the book "The Priestess Code: Awakening the Modern...2020-05-091h 11Diary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicThe Changing Face of ConnectionAs Nationwide Insurance Co. moves to close some of their major offices, and women report bearing more of the load for homeschooling than their male counterparts, Rachel and Kianga look at the impact on connection. How is connection changing as things start to look different, and what structures are ripe for creation as many of those that we've relied on for physical proximity may begin to fade away?  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-05-0731 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWeekly Hotlist 2As Kianga and Rachel re-hash the highlights of the week, find out how connection, personal freedom and people learning to stop pretending that we don't need each other all showed up this week.   --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-05-0644 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicBoundaries in the time of CoronaAs more and more days go by with many of us spending more time than usual in the same places, with the same humans, frustrations are starting to rise. When circumstances become tighter, or compressed, and we can no longer eject ourselves that easily from a situation, our frustration is often calling for better boundaries. In this episode, Rachel and Kianga give an overview of what boundaries are, what makes them enforceable, and how to hold them. They also each share about a current personal experience - Rachel in regards to homeschooling and working simultaneously, and Kianga around the...2020-05-0244 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicSurprise: we shifted! Weekly Digest 1Welcome to Season 2, or as we might describe it, when format 2.0 revealed itself to us! Here's the first of a weekly digest, where we each answer six questions about the themes and experiences of the week. Kianga and Rachel dive more deeply into what they are seeing and experiencing over time, as well as start to consider the questions that feel important as we move into creating new paradigms.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-2950 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 15The ladies go rogue today and ask each other questions that aren't a part of the daily reflection questions. And wouldn't you know, the moment they go off-the-cuff, things start to get a little shadowy. This is where the good stuff is.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-2335 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 14Well, they’re coming out of the closet! Kianga and Rachel share about their spiritual paths as part of the impetus for this project. And they draw the link between that and the everyday application of being with reality, exactly as it is. Also, what exactly is Georgia doing? Neither one of them really want to find out. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-2225 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 13Kianga and Rachel discuss apparent left-field detours as the unsuspecting solutions to the problems we most want to solve, and following the "Yes, and..." Plus, a little more context about how each of these fit with our approach to life during a pandemic. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-2027 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 12Today, Kianga and Rachel talk systems: the reshaping of them, and each of their senses that it's time to step into them with what they can see on more of a macro level. They look at what is coming up for each of them as they gear up to do this. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-1927 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 11Kianga and Rachel discuss the wide range of experiences in the collective right now, and the difference between genuinely feeling great and “toxic positivity.” And, amidst noticing the growing discomfort amongst those close to them, they also share about the value they’ve each gotten from really sitting in the depths of discomfort to isolate the true issues. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-1932 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 10Today's episode dives into the new reality that young people are experiencing, as things like prom and graduation are cancelled, and one high schooler's request for a commencement address by Barack Obama. Speaking of Obama, Rachel and Kianga also touch on what it means to move through the fire of alchemy while holding on to hope.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-1717 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 9For a bit of novelty, Rachel and Kianga answer the six questions live today! Rachel talks following the path of pleasure, while Kianga reflects on a news story that highlights the social issues around homelessness, race, law enforcement, and mental health. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-1618 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 8What is required to cross the threshold into a new way of thinking? How dos what you believe you're committed to translate into action? Rachel and Kianga reflect on an issue with a client that brought each of them to contemplate separate questions for themselves.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-1518 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 7Rachel & Kianga chat about participation and impact on the micro and macro levels of the pandemic. They talk vaccine mandates and herd immunity, and how they fit into a conversation about being a sovereign being as part of a larger community. Also, Kianga is feeling the isolation compression and is ready to do something differently.  Want to join us by answering the six daily questions, or a set of questions of your own? Here's the link to the Facebook group where we come together to do just that.  --- Send in a voice...2020-04-1520 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 6Kianga dishes about social distancing at Easter dinner, the Tiger King, and Rachel talks about not feeling guilty for addressing our smaller needs and desires...even though we're in a pandemic.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-1415 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 5It's Easter, and Kianga shares what she sees as the larger paradigm shifts coming through, while juxtaposed with the micro-experience of workign with the internal self that Rachel is experiencing.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-1320 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 4Today, Rachel and Kianga talk about what they're seeing in the outside world, and where it hits close to home...and where it oddly doesn't. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-1223 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 3Kianga shares about her really rich dream life as of late, and her plans for Easter dinner...all pointing to deep desires to refresh and rejuvenate. Rachel spends some time at the beach to reset her nervous system; she also contemplates her internal guidance system and how it integrates with external expectations as she prepares for a weekend away.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-1120 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 2A priest in robes paces in his driveway, a shopping plaza stands empty, Kianga's not sleeping, and Rachel wants to hit the ejection button from other people's personal growth moments.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-0922 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicDay 1Kianga and Rachel catch you up to speed on what was going on in their lives before The 'Rona hit, and what the impact has been since they've landed in lockdown. With highlights from the first 24 hours of this project, we can already see it's going to be an interesting ride. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/diaryofapandemic/message2020-04-0822 minDiary of a PandemicDiary of a PandemicWhat is this thing?As Kianga and Rachel embark on this pandemic experiment, you'll come to understand what the experiment is, why they're doing it, and the foundation upon which it was built. This one's a little dense, so there are some notes below:  Diary of a Pandemic was built on three suppositions. The first is that there’s a global pandemic happening as we speak that is reorganizing a lot about what we expect from the world. The second is that unconditional freedom is freedom in all conditions. The third is that the play between the first two is bo...2020-04-0728 min