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The Mark Groves Podcast#404: How Losing a Parent Teaches Us About Love and Life with Rainier WyldeWriter Rainier Wylde shares how his father's death triggered a profound internal shift, moving him from a life of safety to one of bold exploration. We dive into the transformative power of grief, the courage required to live authentically, and the creative alchemy that turns personal suffering into artistic expression. Rainier’s journey from "settler" to "pioneer" reveals the importance of embracing vulnerability, rewriting cultural narratives, and finding meaning in both love and loss. This conversation offers an invitation to us all to engage more deeply with our own stories and live in alignment with our truest self.
Rainier Wylde is...2024-09-021h 07
Altared PodcastBeing with Life, Loss, and Eachother with Rainier WyldeRainier Wylde had me in tears within the first 4 minutes of this episode. His ability to teach and story tell is astounding so please be ready to be moved. We discuss the power of being with. With each other with ourselves through the myriad of sensations that life presents us. He breaks down what we really need, as opposed to what we think we want, and how to tell the difference. He guides us through processing anger and other "unsavory" sensations. He gives us so much in this episode, that I think it's time for me to stop blabbing...2023-09-2054 min
The Catherine Plano PodcastEP 348: The Power of Epoché with Rainier WyldeReady for an enchanting journey into the depths of love and profound presence?
In this captivating podcast interview, join Rainier Wylde, the mesmerising love philosopher and writer, as he unravels the mysteries of love and its profound connection to being fully present in the moment. With eloquence and wisdom, Rainier shares powerful insights and heart-warming experiences that will leave you pondering the essence of existence.
Imagine suspending your thoughts and emotions, peering at reality without judgment or attachment. Rainier opens the conversation with the thought-provoking concept of epoché, an ancient Greek practice that becomes the g...2023-08-0953 min
The Long Distance Love Bombs Podcast188: Rainier Wylde - How do we best navigate the various seasons of love?Rainier Wylde is a writer, teacher & coach who has inspired, directed, and taught others for the past 20 years about transforming their lives. He brings together an East meets West approach to being fully and deeply alive. He has studied spirituality with Zen masters and Sufi mystics. He has sat under the feet of Jungian depth psychologists and brilliant existential philosophers. His insatiable curiosity and hunger for wisdom have taken him around the globe learning from anyone who could shine a light on deeper transformation. Rainier holds a Master's Degree in Psychology and certifications in Cognitive Behavioral Coaching and Dialectical B...2023-04-011h 23
Love Like Hell1. Cultivating Friendship Within RomanceWe can often get so wrapped up in maintaining the longevity of a romantic relationship that we become rigid and fixed in our viewpoints. We create rules and boundaries that get in the way of growth and expansion. When the relationship can truly be based in friendship, there is so much more room for new opportunities and new experiences. Today Kristi and Rainer talk about how important it is to keep that friendship alive for a relationship that’s on fire.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Celebrating our partner’s opportunities in l...2022-11-0758 min
The Mark Groves Podcast#239: Healing Through Infidelity with Rainier Wylde & Kristi BornThemes: Relationships, Transformation, Acceptance, Infidelity, Authenticity, Codependency
Summary:
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with power couple Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born as they share the intimate details of how their relationship has evolved through infidelity. We discuss relational pain as a potent catalyst for transformation, the beauty in being honest with ourselves and our partner, and viewing ruptures as an invitation to truth.
About Rainier & Kristi:
Rainier Wylde is an author, teacher, and speaker. He has embraced life for all it is, celebrating its highs and learning from its lows. Rainier has managed a Fortune 500 company and built...2022-10-171h 05
Cheaper Than Therapy with Vanessa and DenéEp 111 The Gifts of Illusions with Rainier Wylde and Kristi BornThis week we’re welcoming Kristi Born and Rainier Wylde who are partners in both life and in podcasts as cohosts of the Love Like Hell podcast. Kristi is a Marriage and Family Therapist who has worked extensively with families, couples, and adolescents in a variety of contexts to bring peace of mind and decrease suffering. Rainier is a teacher, guide, and writer who works with men and women around the world to discover their unacknowledged shadow and forge an intimate union with their masculine and feminine. We talk about their relationship, the immense amount of work inv...2022-06-291h 09Love Like Hell16. It Was Good Until it Wasn’t: Remembering RightlyEverything in life has an ending. When major parts of our lives end or change, it’s easy to look back and only remember the good or only remember the bad. Remembering rightly takes a conscious effort of looking at multiple points of data and recognizing the perspective and feelings of everyone involved. From that place of remembering rightly, we can move forward in truth. This episode takes a look into the steps to do that.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Why we only remember the bad times Not trusting the pas...2022-06-2052 minLove Like Hell15. Let’s Talk About SexSex is the originating source of life. It is such a potency and such a power….and so many of us are so afraid to talk about it. Why is that? This episode dives into the topic of sex. Where did we learn about it, what shapes our perception of it, and why is it such a heavy topic of conversations? Everything gets laid out here.In this episode of Love Like Hell:The first time we talk about sex in relationshipsWhere and how we learn about sex How culture shifts our perception of...2022-06-1349 minLove Like Hell14. What is Marriage? Pt 2Love is expansive and cannot be placed in a box. Marriage is more nuanced than a simple piece of paper or agreement. There’s depth in the journey and how do we navigate that journey, how do we move forward together. What is the real meaning of marriage? What is the real meaning of love? In this episode, Kristi and Rainier open up about their experiences and everything they learned in this journey.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Uncovering where our beliefs about marriage beganThe societal construct we put around marriage Mar...2022-06-0651 minLove Like Hell13. What is Marriage? Pt 1Love is expansive and cannot be placed in a box. Marriage is more nuanced than a simple piece of paper or agreement. There’s depth in the journey and how do we navigate that journey, how do we move forward together. What is the real meaning of marriage? What is the real meaning of love? In this two part episode, Kristi and Rainier open up about their experiences and everything they learned in this journey.In this episode of Love Like Hell:We’re married, now what? The history of marriage: Where did it st...2022-05-3156 minLove Like Hell12. Self-BetrayalHow often do we find ourselves losing “our self” in relationships? We have a tendency to self sacrifice and betray our own wants and desires for the perceived needs of another. That tendency is a road to self betrayal. It is profoundly important to both mutually and independently trust ourselves and create an atmosphere where our partner can trust themself. Then we can both accept the whole of ourselves and the self in the other. This episode dives into the personal experiences of this type of self betrayal in Kristi and Rainier’s own relationship.In t...2022-05-1258 minLove Like Hell11. The Real Cost of ResentmentResentment can be like an infection. Once it starts, it can grow and worsen over time. The only way to heal it is to look at the issue, clean out the poison that’s crept in, and then start the process of healing. Without looking at our resentment in a relationship, there is no way to begin to even think about forgiveness. So how do we do it? How do we look our partner in the eyes and say “I resent you for this…..you hurt my feelings in this way?” Learn more in today’s episode....2022-05-0349 minLove Like Hell10. When to ForgiveForgiveness is a multifaceted process. Anything can be forgivable and there can also be times when forgiveness is not an option, at least in the moment. True forgiveness requires responsibility taking and reverence. Forgiveness is a freedom for all parties involved. This episode dives into the nuances of what it means to forgive and be forgiven.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Redefining the unforgivable sin Redemptive vs. punitive justice The forgiveness process & when is the right time to forgive?True forgiveness requires responsibility takingWhen forgiveness is not the right choice2022-04-2559 minLove Like Hell9. Vulnerability Factors: Context MattersMany times, the most challenging thing is to be vulnerable, even with our most intimate relationships. Expressing vulnerability means that the thing we’re expressing may be true of us and the emotions we are trying to avoid can come out, so it’s easier to ignore. That ignoring can eventually lead to crisis in relationship. This episode explains what vulnerability factors are, how to identify them, and work through them.In this episode of Love Like Hell:How emotions change with situational contextHandling actions and emotions during states of overwhelmWhat are vulnerability fact...2022-04-1137 minLove Like Hell8. Playing a part: The mystery of lovingLove is a mystery, but it’s a mystery that’s solvable. So much of how we show up in love, the roles we play, the character we become, comes from our learned experiences as a child. We adapt certain parts in order to fit in and belong. It’s not necessarily a “good” thing or a “bad” thing but understanding the origins of behavior can give us the freedom to make the choice to change the script.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Changing the lens of how we view love The characters...2022-04-0452 minLove Like Hell7. Erotic RecoveryWhen there is a breach of trust, large, small, implicit, or explicit, the thrill of a relationship goes away. The connection is strained and intimacy can be the furthest thing from our minds. Building back that connection through means of erotic recovery is a tool the come back to one another. This episode goes into what erotic recovery means and how to use it.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Bringing safety back to intimacy A breach of trust comes in many formsConnection returns through walking one foot at a time in w...2022-03-2954 minLove Like Hell6. The Usual SuspectsWhen relationships don’t work, it’s rarely because of whatever is going on in the present moment. There is a history at play. When that history isn’t brought to the surface, evaluated, accepted, and processed, then patterns continue to play out. This episode takes a look at how where we’ve been can tell us where we’re going next.In this episode of Love Like Hell:Avoidance and pursuit: Uncovering patterns in relating Rewriting our unconscious contractsWhat is shadow workDeciphering defense mechanismsHow history reveals the here and nowFollow...2022-03-2247 minLove Like Hell5. Hope Begins With Being SeenSo many of us are afraid to be seen for who we really are. Sometimes we don’t even want to truly see ourselves. The more we reinforce that pattern of unintentional deception, the harder it is to be honest when we need help to change. It takes courage to change and it takes courage to change. In this episode, Kristi and Rainier discuss what it was like to finally accept where they were and reach out for help. In this episode of Love Like HellReal life crisis and being afraid of bei...2022-03-1456 minLove Like Hell4. Hiding in Plain SightWe all have a tendency to showcase our greatest traits in the beginning of a relationship. We don’t want to go into the shadow side, the mistakes, the challenging questions. We don’t want the other person to run, we want to belong. Eventually we can’t hide anymore and shadows come to light. In this episode, Kristi and Rainier talk about the beginning stages of their relationship and how that shaped their relationship now.In this episode of Love Like HellProjecting our own stories onto others Remembering the roots of relatio...2022-03-0750 minLove Like Hell3. Calling for Backup in CrisisIn the aftermath of an affair, there’s a desperate search. It’s a search for some kind of anchor in a whirling storm that has no end in sight. Shame, guilt, anger, it’s challenging enough to navigate one’s own emotions, let alone another’s. Who can you trust, who can you rely on to be a support, to feel seen, to be heard, without preconceived stories getting in the way. We need backup.In this episode of Love Like HellLooking for help: Who can you rely onUnpacking the paralyzing story of s...2022-02-2838 minLove Like Hell2. ForeshadowingRelationship dynamics, personal roles, how we deal with conflict, these patterns can be passed down for years and years, generation after generation, until someone takes a look at its origin. If we don’t get curious about how our past can affect our future, we can get stuck in the grooves of time. The clues that foreshadow our path are there, are we brave enough to look?In this episode of Love Like HellUncovered family truths Identifying intergenerational patterns and tools for working through them Finding hope when there is seemingly only fear...2022-02-2153 minLove Like Hell1. The Scene of the CrimeWhat happens when the one who brings you the most comfort is the one that hurts you? How many questions come up when you become a stranger to yourself and everything you know about the life you have comes crumbling down in a single moment? To solve a mystery, start at the scene of the crime.In this episode of Love Like HellDiscovering the double life: When your husband becomes a strangerMaking sense of infidelityManaging crises in relationship The rule book for when the one you love is the one who hurt y...2022-02-1445 minLove Like HellLove Like Hell - The TrailerA couple investigates the landscape of modern relationships, exploring their own issues as they reveal how connections are often born, solidify, and at times unravel. Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born (both highly trained as clinical psychotherapists) take an intimate and probing look at the mysteries of committed connections, monogamy, infidelity, marriage, eroticism, forgivingness, attachment and trust. Their story offers a vision of real people taking extraordinary risks, caring courageously and loving like hell.2022-02-0703 min
Reimagining LoveLove Stories: Recovering from Infidelity with Kristi Born & Rainier WyldeOn this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together.2022-01-251h 36
Starve the Ego Feed the SoulRebuilding After Breakdown - Kristi Born, MFTTo support the show go here https://donorbox.org/nico-barrazaAs promised during Rainier Wylde's episode this Monday, his wife Kristi Born is our special guest this Friday sharing her side and outlook on the experience Rainier spoke about this Monday.Kristi is a Marriage and Family Therapist based in Portland, Oregon and focuses on couples counseling, family counseling, and individual counseling. We talk about betrayal, deciphering what part of home we find in a partner (Family of Origin), rebuilding trust after betrayal, trusting your intuition, and redefining forgiveness. These two ep...2021-09-241h 29Starve the Ego Feed the SoulOwning What's Ours - Rainier WyldeTo support the show go here to donate https://donorbox.org/nico-barrazaTo buy Rainier's new book go here https://us.amazon.com/As-You-Are-Meditations-Other/dp/B09BGF93RWIt was such a pleasure to have Mr. Rainier Wylde back on for his second Starve the Ego Feed the Soul appearance. Last Episode Rainier spoke about his infidelity in his marriage and I received many DMs asking me if I could have Rainier back on and perhaps go into how he and his partner Kristi made it through the other end, stronger and more c...2021-09-201h 01