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Single You "The Podcast"148. Why Can’t We Pull Our Men Up? (Guest J.Hall)Relationships, Statistics, and Self-Exploration: Unveiling Truths about Dating (each other) for Black Men and Women. An argument as to why we should give the bus driver a chance.
In this thought-provoking podcast episode hosted by Reka Robinson, she engages in a candid conversation with J. Hall about the complexities of relationships, the influence of statistics in dating, and the dynamics surrounding Black men and women. Together, they delve into the following thought-provoking questions:
Should we base our choices on relationship statistics or on the reality we experience? Reka and J. Hall ponder the im...2023-06-081h 24Single You "The Podcast"147. Nurturing a Healthy Marriage. Meg on: how she refuses to lose herself in her marriage. (Guest Meg Watt)"I am intentional about not losing myself in my marriage." - Meg
(host) Reka, sits down with the inspiring Meg Watt to explore the dynamics of her decade-long relationship with her husband, Darrel. Through their conversation, they uncover valuable insights on building a healthy marriage, the importance of proper planning and strategy, and the need to embrace personal growth.
Meg begins by acknowledging the widespread desire many people have for the kind of fulfilling relationship she shares with Darrel. However, she highlights the unfortunate reality that most individuals fail to listen to her advice, missing...2023-05-2555 minSingle You "The Podcast"145. Stop giving love with the intent to change. Plus what is the difference between falling in love and choosing love? (male perspective)(Guest Bryan Thomas)In this episode of the podcast hosted by (Me) Reka Robinson with guest (life coach) Bryan Thomas, Bryan talks about his divorce and the lessons he learned from it. He explains why he was with her for a few years but only married for months and that when love is given with the intent to change instead of cover, problems arise. We discuss the concept "Love is meant to cover and not change, according to God." (1 Peter 4:8)
We also discuss the concept of loving blindly and how it can lead to problems. Bryan stresses the importance of...2023-04-271h 18Single You "The Podcast"144. 'They' really think that a Black women's hyper-independence is self imposed and that narrative is so tired. Plus MAFS commentary. Let's talk (Guest Tiyahri)"Share what you want him to know and then allow him to ask the questions that go along with that." - Dr. Tiyahri Wilson. Find her here.
In this episode of the podcast hosted by (myself) Reka and mental health therapist Tiyahri, we dive deep into the societal pressure on women to measure their worth by marriage and kids (The Ashanti of it All). We discuss the harmful comments that are often directed towards unmarried women in their 40s and question why finding true love is not taught as an uncertain reality of life. We emphasize the...2023-04-131h 11
Single You "The Podcast"137. Hosted by Cameo; How we participate in our own suffering... when it comes to men, church and everyone else. (A conversation with Reka & Cameo from The Good Girl Podcast)You can find The Good Girl Podcast here. What other topics would you like me to cover? Plus I always love your feedback, please reach out if you feel led. I'm always here. :-) --- Now, suppose you are ready to invest in yourself, to learn how to do the work to be happy single, truly. You want tools to do better in this area, unlearn bad Christian dating theology, learn how to set and KEEP boundaries and you know you have nothing else to lose. In, that case, I invite you to apply and join the wait list t...2022-10-131h 04
Single You "The Podcast"131. The ugly truth about wanting to be picked by him so badly.New to me? My name is Reka and I work with Women of Faith: READY for guidance on KEEPING boundaries & getting over the shame of constantly being mishandled by men.
Listen to 59. I don't believe a lot of Women Of Faith know what love truly is.... here
Listen to episode 60. Lu'Cretia on: I thought that if I did girlfriend things then 'he' who I dated would eventually choose to be with me. Part 1 here and Part 2 here.
Also the episode with my former client Nikkita is titled; Having shame as a professional Black w...2022-06-3018 minSingle You "The Podcast"129. Jalencia on: how/why she kept getting the same dysfunctional results with men until she joined Single You Academy. Plus does this mean I can take credit for her boyfriend/healthy relationship?Intro to Jalencia
:50 Did anyone have a conversation with her about what makes a healthy relationship vs. unhealthy? No and how that affected her dating life.
2:20 I (Jalencia) was dating to just date and how that set her up for dysfunction.
5:08 How did Jalencia find me and why she decided to spend the money to join Single You Academy.
14:13 Why did SYA work for you and advice didn't? The homework and I was ready to face myself.
19:00 How Jalencia handled assignments inside of SYA and 2 jobs.
21:35 How the self love work is different inside of Single You Academy rega...2022-06-091h 07Single You "The Podcast"120. Lu'Cretia on: I thought that if I did girlfriend things then 'he' who I dated would eventually choose to be with me. (Part 1)More information on Single You Academy Here.
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57. From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships, to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference)
49. How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? (Kasia Interviews Reka)
50. If you were raised to be a daughter and not a woman, then re-parenting yourself is necessary for your healing.
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Can you relate to Lu'Cretia's truth (title of this ep...2022-04-2840 minSingle You "The Podcast"117. From back-to-back dysfunctional relationships, to my solo trip to Mexico... to finally becoming the woman I said I wanted to be! How'd I do it? (Conference)For those of you who are just finding me and you haven't been able to hear my full story yet. Well here it is, I did this speech in 2019 at a conference called; Inspired. It was a woman empowerment event and I asked the audience full of women, who's your mirror? Society? Men? Your kids? Your parents? I challenge you to make YOU your only mirror..
The Reka I was was in 2017 and before: my issue was thinking that how men saw me (mirror) was correct. You see I thought, I couldn’t see myself and only oth...2022-03-2425 minSingle You "The Podcast"109. {Bonus} My message to you (I need your help) and thank you for 4 million views on TikTokSeriously, I guess I 'made it' whatever that means but I have an imposter. Will the "real Reka please stand up" and that's ME! NOT @justmeRekaa (with the double aa) on instagram. please go REPORT that person. I don't do readings, nor do I say things like "grand rising" in real life!! :-)
Plus on this bonus episode...
Why you can say you want to stop being mishandled by men, know why you allow it (root cause) and yet you're still in that cycle.
Who I am as a coach, who I coach and a snapshot of...2022-02-1918 minSingle You "The Podcast"106. How can we be so confident in our professional life but not in the lane of relationship? (Kasia Interviews Reka)Single You the Pillow Collection; Shop Here.
In this episode the tables have been turned and I get interviewed. We tackle....
0:00 From her series titled; from timid to confidence. Kasia Brandford (find her here) has asked me to share my story and how/why I become the "single girls life coach".
6:45 How easy or difficult is it to know that you're in an emotionally abusive relationship when you're in a long-distance relationship?
If you already heard my story skip to....
9:45 Professional confidence. How can we be so confident in one area and not in oth...2022-02-0350 minSingle You "The Podcast"93. My Thoughts on Ciara's Prayer & Why did Keetra + Nikita join Single You Academy and what did they gain? (which you can too)Could your view of love/relationships be underdeveloped, over fantasized, over spiritualized and toxic??
God is not going to gift you, show you, provide you a man just cause you prayed for him. It's like the woman with the issue of blood. She wanted to be healed so she did the work of finding Jesus and knowing all she had to do was touch the hem of his garment and she would be healed. There is work you have to do amongst having faith. It's "both and".... have faith but faith without works is dead... so what...2021-11-1131 minSingle You "The Podcast"92. WHY therapy may not have worked for you... HOW coaching is different!I have a lot of clients who have a therapist while working with me and/or before they worked with me. I always ask why and here are a few of their answers. There is a difference, not better or worse and I define it on this episode.
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Let's talk...
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop...2021-11-0420 minSingle You "The Podcast"91. Will relationships with men ever get better for you? Here is how to make sure*When I asked this question on Facebook a woman left me a comment saying "well my motto is don't date and you'll never be hurt" ... I cringe at that motto. I also have empathy because I know it's coming from a place of pain.
For those that still desire a husband (my clients) - for me, it’s beyond the bitterness and the pain men left behind for me to crawl out of. Now, I’m looking more and more at my fruit and how my learnings are executing in my life. I moved past just being insp...2021-10-2834 minSingle You "The Podcast"90. How to stay firm in what you want so you can stop bending the rules to please him.TODAY WE will touch on;
Why My Clients Made the Investment and joined Single You Academy (I'll share testimonials).
How to get over him?
How do I know when to leave him?
What it's costing you to stay/be in dysfunctional relationships.
Let's talk...
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You Academy.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I empower the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of settling and SICK of giving 2nd chances, stop that cycle by helping you learn how to keep boundaries and feel confident about...2021-10-2130 minSingle You "The Podcast"89. If I were to ask you "do you know your worth" ...while you're allowing a man to treat you like trash... here is what I know you would say...If I were ta ask you "do you know you worth" while you're allowing a man to treat you like trash... you would say ...YES!
This episode is why you'd say yes. Here is why that doesn't make sense.
Think about it; in THAT situation-ship, marriage or some dude you're dealing with... you're so good at
Masking...
Sweeping things under the rug...
Believing that this is the 'hard' of relationships so it's 'normal'
This to shall pass...
Going to brunches with your girlfriends and performing happy...
Because no one wants to be the...2021-10-1933 minSingle You "The Podcast"88. Great you got out of that toxic relationship-- now you're trying to heal. Here are 4 things I learned on my journey that will help you.The cycle of dating I was in was; we meet, it's "wonderful" ...I pass up red flags and start day dreaming on how great we could be. Then 2 years later it ends in disaster because I passed up red flags... THAT IS OVER FOR ME!! That was hard. That’s what I describe as hard.
I’d much rather be doing what I’m doing now when it comes to ‘dating’... it's easy for me. This what I learned on my real true journey of self love... self actualization. My strategy moving forward is building on a solid found...2021-10-1427 minSingle You "The Podcast"87. So what about this 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 no one is talking about??Nah but the real flex is when you can walk away from a man who "looks good on paper" but your gut is telling you "he ain't for you sis."
You’re gonna have to start trusting yourself and believing that your gut feeling is future you, God, trying to stop you from some BS that you’ll regret 3 months from now.
If you need support on ☝🏽all of the above… then I know that I can help you!
So who am I?
Hi 🙋🏽♀️ I’m Reka the founder of Single You the Podcast and creator of Single You...2021-10-1411 minSingle You "The Podcast"86. Why praying hasn't gotten you a good man (yet). Bold statement I know. So let's talk...
Yes I believe that a lot of your praying over that man— is null and void sis.
God can become the center of your relationship but it does require that HE also wants that. Is God at the center of his character and identity? (Think of his behavior sis). If no-- then your prayers are putting the cart before the horse.
This message is for you if;
You’re so loyal to him….which leaves you frustrated.
You’re tired of giving 2nd chances.
You’re ready to be con...2021-10-1239 minSingle You "The Podcast"85. Does dating get harder or easier as you get older? I say easier*... here's why.I know most of you will say harder but what was the 'easier' about relationships when you were younger? The ignorance?
Plus what is a self love journey? What does it actually do/look like and what I've learned about dating from my self love journey!
questions for you; who do you think it is harder for you? Why do you think crying over a man is bad?
Let's talk...
Find me on IG here. Twitter here. Facebook here. Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
My DM is always open! XO Reka
2021-10-0829 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Fear Series; Day 5 ] I've had too many sexual partners... so I'm gonna just stick it out with himYou're a faith based woman and you're career is together. However you desire marriage and kids. You're dealing (or have dealt) with men longer than you should have.
Let me offer you a new perspective ... it's probably because you have a lot of shame around sex and you don't want another body, so here you are... settling.
Who gave you education on faith based relationship intelligence?
Let's talk...
Question; What do you think you put so much pressure on yourself to get married?
Find me on IG here. Twitter here...2021-10-0523 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Fear Series; Day 3 & 4 ] I don’t want to start all over (history) & I’m a failure if I break up with him... not a good mindset to be dating from.When I did this live on FB, I got the following message; It was a godsend that I happened upon this conversation!! Such the message I need.
I hope it does the same for you.
The problem is you don’t trust yourself because when you trust yourself you will take clear, definitive action the moment you feel an inkling or see a sign that something is off. - Iyanla Vanzant
Question; Why do you think a break up is a failure? Why do you feel like history means he’ll change for you?2021-10-0124 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Fear Series; Day 2 ] I will never find another man like him is problematic sisI won’t find another one like him (fears that are holding you back in getting the relationship you actually want).
The problem is you don’t know who you are.
You don’t understand how to have a relationship with yourself or relationships. Especially with men. Especially when it comes to getting the relationship you want…. So you settle sis. Cause God forbid you be single. Single feels like a stain to you.
Let's talk...
Question; Why do you think he’s it for you? Is he God's best for you?
...2021-09-2822 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Fear Series; Day 1 ] But I don't want to die alone... how that fear is holding you hostageWhat does that even mean? Doesn’t everyone die alone? Kids and/or a husband are not a guarantee you’ll be taken care of in your older years. So why are you only scared of ‘dying alone’ because you’re single?
You have all these feelings about being a failure and that’s the reason why you want a man? You have got to think differently about your singleness so you can move different.
I want a co-committed relationship. Not co-dependency based on trauma bonds.
I don’t want a relationship with someone who ch...2021-09-2721 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Series; Day 5 ] Treat others as you want to be treated and yet you still don't have a manThis episode explains why I think this saying is problematic.
Be a good person is for you and your character. Not to get people to be who you want them to be. Life is still a will of choice. We have free will! Men have free will and can choose to treat you any way they want. Where we mess up? By thinking we can change him.
Question for you > Why do you think that you bypass red flags? Why do you feel that you should bypass red flags?
Find me on...2021-09-2419 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Series; Day 4 } Thinking he’ll just know how to treat you sis, is problematic (also see; happy wife happy life).You want a man to treat you with respect, be loyal and show you love. You need to be seen/heard and valued. What you’ve tired to that is following advice that says; don’t tell him how to treat you. 'I don’t want to go through another stage in my life where I’m telling someone how they should treat me.’
How sway? That’s passive aggressive. Is that how we are with your family and friends? How well is that working out for you?
Cliché’s in dating that are holding us back (a serie...2021-09-2421 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Series; Day 3 ] Behind every good man is a good woman... what does that even mean?The mind of a woman who is asking this question is sitting somewhere thinking that she is bad (a failure) because she doesn’t have a man. You want to be called the good woman behind the man, no matter what.
You not having a man doesn’t mean you’re intrinsically bad or a failure. I wish you would stop seeing single as a punishment, or that it's a waiting period for something greater than the life you have now.
You just are. You’re just being and the sooner you see the...2021-09-2322 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Series; Day 2 ] Does love really conquer all? Here is why I think it doesn'tDoes love really conquer all? Here why I think it doesn't....
Is it true... that if he loves you, he'll change for you? Here is why thinking that keeps you in a relationship that's an emotional roller coaster...
Sometimes we’re too spiritual for our own good. Which causes us to take the responsibility out of dating.
Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM, don't hesitate.
IG here.
Facebook here.
Email = Reka@justmeReka.com2021-09-2225 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Series; Day 1 ] Just because he hasn't found you yet, doesn't mean you aren't a good woman (or a failure)Series; Cliché’s in dating that are holding us back. Day 1 of 5: Just because he hasn't found you, doesn't mean you aren't a good woman (or a failure)
Let me encourage you to be confident in your singleness;
Be comfortable in your decision making as a single woman.
Not swayed by social media (men) on what other people think relationships should be like..
Be able to set and keep boundaries instead of breaking them for him.
Did you take anything away from this episode? Do you want me to go deeper on something? Please send me a DM...2021-09-2128 minSingle You "The Podcast"30. Behind Every Good Man— there is a Good Woman.. What Does That Even Mean?𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗻𝘀𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻? ⬇️ 👉🏽 Reka, what do people mean when they say...
“𝘽𝙚𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 good 𝙢𝙖𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙞𝙨 𝙖 𝙜𝙤𝙤𝙙 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣?” Especially since you say ‘𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙗𝙚𝙡𝙞𝙚𝙫𝙚 𝙞𝙣 𝙥𝙤𝙩𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙞𝙖𝙡’. So I’m confused. My answer? In this episode.
So who am I? I’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the professional frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
Always feel open to send me a DM! Don’t hesitate.
XO Reka
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Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/singleyou/support2021-09-1608 minSingle You "The Podcast"24. Deseree Rose on: Why you'll never get what you deserve from him, no matter how much you love himSis yes, you're a good woman and you deserve a good man but today's discuss will tell you why you haven’t achieved that. You're good at taking care of yourself, especially when it comes to your career. You know you're a smart woman so you don't understand why you keep getting into those types of relationships.
You say: I’m a good woman so I deserve a good man.
I would say yes BUT how you're executing that now is; “because I’m a good woman, I feel like I can create a good man, he...2021-08-1951 minSingle You "The Podcast"23. How Social Media is Destroying Your Life (and making you feel bad about being single)How much do you scroll? Who are you following? Do you think about that? How is it affecting you because Regardless if you know it or not... you're being affected. It may be the reason why you hate being single, why you want the wedding and do not know how to be married. Without knowing, you need to work on yourself first. Social media may be the reason you believe a man completes you and not you. You and he should come to the relationship whole.
This is a speech I did at the "women in business" c...2021-08-1220 minSingle You "The Podcast"22. Cena on: How having the wrong man can limit your successWant to be successful? Then don't date or even marry the WRONG man.
Today's guest Cena Martin Chandler. Mom of 2 boys, Author, and Producer. Cena helps health coaches who scaled fast;. onboard, hire, and train their first community manager.
She writes...
Q: Do you wish someone had conversations with you about relationships?
Her: It would have saved me from going down a lot of dark roads on my own in the dating world. I was raised in a unique situation. My mom got involved with a cult and actually married one...2021-08-051h 05Single You "The Podcast"21. Zee on: graduate of Single You Academy speaks on how I helped Her!!I'm always asking YOU; how can I help you? You follow my socials for a reason and I'm always trying to reach out to see how I can serve you. So here I am again... this time with a graduate of Single You Academy!!!!!!!!
Typically I keep their testimonials private... I'll use their words but not post a picture or a video of them out of respect.
Which is why TODAY I'm 100000000% honored that one of my former clients wants to share her journey inside of Single You Academy with YOU.
So if y...2021-07-291h 05Single You "The Podcast"20. Are you dating him or just dealing with him? Will you get the love you actually want from him? (Bonus Wednesday)🚫Are you actually dating him or just dealing with him?
🚫Will you get the love you actually want or are you wasting your time?
Today. Those 👆🏽👆🏽are the questions I'll answer for you.
In this conversation we'll also go over:
💡My 3 Tips to Help You Spot a Liar.
💡3 Reasons why you fall for the lies/liar... and so much more.
If you can relate to the following then this episode is for you: 👇🏽👇🏽👇🏽
I am one of those who can easily get attached and with my current boyfriend, I feel like all...2021-07-281h 13Single You "The Podcast"19. Why women don't follow their gut when it comes to men and the trouble it gets us inMy Guest today is Coach Jos-Lyn, The Singles Coach
She writes:
My mantra is that singleness is not a death sentence but a life giving opportunity. I use my singleness to love on myself and grow into a woman that is pleasing to God, knowing what I want and how to get it, and growing in all of my relationships. I hurt myself in the past by ignoring red flags and not following my mind when I knew something wasn't right for the sake of being in a relationship. Being alone or single still means th...2021-07-221h 00Single You "The Podcast"18. Are you constantly walking on eggshells, navigating drama, his emotions and minimizing your self? Let's Talk...You're constantly walking on eggshells, navigation drama, his emotions and minimizing your self. Which means you're constantly doubting yourself and now when you say "I'm not dealing with him anymore" you don't even believe YOURSELF because you always take him back. Which is self betrayal...isn't it? Aren't you sick of that? I want to give you some tools on how to stop that cycle of dysfunction. Let's talk....
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So who am I? Hi. I’m Reka. I’m an NLP certified life coach. 𝙄’𝙢 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙁𝙤𝙪𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝘼𝙘𝙖𝙙𝙚𝙢𝙮 & 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙝𝙤𝙨𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙎𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙡𝙚 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩.
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗜 𝗱𝗼? I help the frustrated loyal woman who is TIRED of giving 2nd chances stop the cycle of trusting he will change by helping her learn how to set and KEEP boundaries with herself and men.
I have room for 5 new...2021-07-1532 minSingle You "The Podcast"17. Have YOU been gaslighting and manipulating yourself just to be with him? Let's talk. (Guest Coach Elulu)Today's guest is Coach Elulu. Coach Elulu is a certified life coach with a passion for helping singles and couples manifest, build and grow healthy and harmonious relationships that last! She has been successfully doing this work alongside her husband and fellow coach, R Anthony since 2016 through their platforms: Relationships & Chill, Wifed Up Academy and Date Like A Wife. She believes that relationships are our greatest teachers and that ANYONE can have the relationship they truly desire!
She writes....
I use to think that romantic relationships just sort of happen. I believed that all I needed to do...2021-07-081h 11Single You "The Podcast"16. You're a GOOD woman and you deserve a GOOD man but here's why you haven't achieved that.This episode is for the women who:
Feels like: I’m a good woman, why aren’t I married? What’s wrong with me? You feel like: I have my career life together but for some reason my love life is trash.
You're good at taking care of yourself, especially when it comes to your career. You know you're a smart woman so you don't understand why you keep getting into those types of relationships. Let's talk...
Did you listen? What were your takeaways?
Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka here.
Email...2021-06-2437 minSingle You "The Podcast"15. How Your Money is Keeping You in That Dysfunctional Relationship.Topic: How Your Money is Keeping You in That Dysfunctional Relationship.
This episode is for:
The woman who has her life together, career wise. Financially you’re doing alright. You even pay for a lot of things you two do. However you’re steady letting men walk all over you.
And you're left wondering why that is? How can I have my professional life together but not my love life?
On this episode myself and financial coach Jasmine Bundy will answer those questions for you!
Did you listen? What were...2021-06-1758 minSingle You "The Podcast"14. From Holes to Wholeness (Steps I took to overcoming my abusive relationship)A speech (my story) on overcoming and healing from a dysfunctional relationships. From the Whole Woman event at Corner Stone Church in Pasco, WA.
Let's talk....
What I do? I teach single professional women in their 30s or 40s a faith-based way to move on from their ex. How to stop the cycle of dysfunctional relationships and what they've never been taught from church/by their parents about a healthy relationship with themselves and with men.
Who are my clients? Women who have their life together, career wise. You're financially stable but you're c...2021-06-1047 minSingle You "The Podcast"13. But first lets talk about why you got into that relationship in the first place. Series #4My key strategies to dodging dysfunctional relationships, a masterclass series.
This episode is for the woman who has:
Your life together, career wise. Financially. But you’re steady letting this man/a man walk all over you.
You’re so busy trying to fix him up and be the ride or die chick.
Your end goal is to rise him up to be the man you want him to be because you see potential.
He is so disrespectful to you emotionally and he takes advantage of you.
You’re left feeling like: I’...2021-06-0344 minSingle You "The Podcast"12. What is it about YOU that keeps attracting dysfunctional relationships? Series #3Topic: What is it about YOU that keeps attracting dysfunctional relationships? Plus HOW to solve this problem. For the woman who is wondering what it is about myself that I keep attracting dysfunctional relationships and how do I solve this problem?
What I do? I help single professional women in their 30s or 40s stop the cycle of dysfunctional relationships with men (or heck, just that one guy ) without the overwhelm of feeling mean for saying no.
Who are my clients? Women who feel like they spend so much time, effort, and m...2021-05-2743 minSingle You "The Podcast"11. My Key Strategies to Dodging a Dysfunctional Relationship; Series #2WHY we stay in dysfunctional relationships but HOW to stop that cycle.
This topic is for the women who:
...has written off guys only to find yourself in the same type of dysfunctional relationship?
...feels like: I've been working on myself but it’s like I keep losing it. Old habits are hard to break for you and you’re wondering why.
...will know you don't like something, however you feel awkward about standing up for yourself with that man.
...has a hard time creating boundaries. It's like I get clueless or something.
Every year over...2021-05-201h 03Single You "The Podcast"10. My Key Strategies to Dodging a Dysfunctional Relationship; Series #1
WHY does a man not have to lie to YOU to be with YOU? Because if you like him enough, you'll lie to yourself and HOW to stop that cycle of dysfunction.
But the gag is: he is lying to you through his behavior. You just pass up the red flag because you like him.
So what am I saying? Men don't have to say:
Baby, I'll never lie to you, I'll never cheat on you, I'm not a manipulator or a narcissist. I'm just a good guy who loves...2021-05-1446 minSingle You "The Podcast"9. Deseree on: being bad at setting boundaries with men. Plus how to fix that.How good are you at setting boundaries with men?
Can you relate to the following statements....
I'll know I don't like something however I feel awkward about standing up.
I have a hard time creating boundaries. It's like I get clueless or something.
I definitely need help with boundaries. I love being a kind and caring person, but guys I’ve dated have taken too much advantage of my kindness. When I say NO to something sometimes they get mad.
Let's talk... listen as a fly on the wall, as my best friend Deseree and I...2021-05-131h 24Single You "The Podcast"8. Nicole on: Being an independent women who attracted needy guysShe writes....
I was a very independent women who attracted needy guys. In most of my relationships I was always the nurturing one making sure their needs were meet. My needs were rarely meet and I became frustrated and unhappy. So I'm the one who would end the relationship and move on. Then I got married, things were great at first until he decided to quit his job and sat around like I was going to take care of him. We got divorced and I'm now single, living my best life.
This is her story and her...2021-05-061h 27Single You "The Podcast"7. Brad on: not knowing his worth and being cheated on but has never cheated. Girl you can learn from him tooWhen I asked Brad: Was there a time you didn't know your worth? If Yes; how did you discover your worth?
He said: Yes, it's been an ongoing battle for me since about 6-7 years ago. After going through multiple relationships and being cheated on. Since I first recognized it, I've been mentally doing things to remind myself of how worthy I am in all phases of life.
Listen: the women doing the work need to find the men who are doing the work. Leave everyone else who continue to want dysfunction and drama alone...2021-04-291h 29Single You "The Podcast"6. How to get over him? Let's talk... I may have some answers for youAre you currently trying to get over a guy? I believe I know exactly where you are... let me guess you're overthinking what happened. Judging yourself for what you did for him even though you saw red flags. Wishing you would have done something different and you wish you never met him or left at the first red flag. Am I right?
I know you want to just totally forget what you went through, now I can't promise you I can make you forget him but I bet I can help you move on better than...2021-04-2234 minSingle You "The Podcast"5. Lanaya on: her happy marriage, waiting until 'he' becomes something and staying after he cheats.Is staying after he cheats more Christian-like? Is cheating part of marriage?
There are people out here throughly enjoying marriage, don't get it twisted. And Lanaya Ramsey is one of them.... married for 18+ years.
Mother of 3.
Teacher, mentor, minister and very very active in the Church.
Her journey with dating Jerry, to marriage to 18 years in.
What we discuss on this episode…
Her journey with dating Jerry, to marriage to 18 years in.
Sex. Waiting. The Who, what why and how.
Religion and Is staying after he cheats more Christian-like? Is cheating part of marriage?
...2021-04-151h 31Single You "The Podcast"4. You don't have to lie to a woman, if she likes you enough, she'll lie to herself to be with you. Let's talk...What do the affirmations on my pillow mean to the women on my panel? You? Why did I add a scripture on the back?
Cameo we'll discuss your comment; People think you can't have an unsuccessful single life, like you can have an unsuccessful marriage.
Carla we'll discuss your comment; single is so loud
Deseree we'll discuss your comment; imagine a world where women raise their standards, which in-turn will raise up a whole society.
Adreeahna we'll discuss your comment; Younger me learned about relationships, dating, marriage via watching family/friends, movies...2021-04-081h 22Single You "The Podcast"3 Can he cheat on you and still love you?This is a conversation I had with Anthony of Anthony does a podcast and my best friend Deseree (his girl).
I know this is a questions you have had so we discuss from the lens of 3 people who are doing great work within themselves. We also discuss the quote "I'd rather be alone than with people who make me feel alone."
The question I pose to you.... how miserable are you willing to be just to be in a relationship?
Plus at the end I address the topic... after he cheats do you h...2021-04-011h 14
Single You "The Podcast"2. I dated him and you probably did too. The narcissist edition (Guest; Nicole Morris, MSW)What exactly is Narcissism? What are the traits?
Well I remember a time that I got rid of a Michael Kors purse and some Jordans because the abusive ex wanted me to 'prove my love' for him. Narcissist? How he made me feel bad about having my parents and growing up in a two parent household. Narcissist? Let's talk.... with a therapist, Nicole Morris who has a Masters in Social work (MSW) and she's been in the field for 13 years. This is a conversation I had with her at the end of 2019. I was a baby-baby coach, I...2021-03-2540 minSingle You "The Podcast"1. Carla on: Leaving her boyfriend after 8 years + how she's living a successful single lifeCarla Thomas = Fly Girl. Writer. Stylist. TV Host. Carla is a multimedia creative. Hailing from Baltimore, cultivated at Howard University and now thriving in Brooklyn, Carla is an around the way girl who is quietly brilliant. She creates fun and cool relatable content. She’s always on a plane or in a showroom.
On this episode we discuss going to Howard University, why we chose HU and what it means to us today. Being Black in America via the Harry/Meghan Markle lens. Plus how she ended and why an 8 year relationship. Oh and she had a se...2021-03-181h 18Single You "The Podcast"[ New Trailer ] What is this Podcast? Singleness is not a Punishment. Period. Let's talk...You can buy Single You the Pillow Collection here.
Guest = Anthony from Anthony does a Podcast, and find him on IG here. As well as my best friend Deseree, find her on IG here.
Dropping every Thursday at 6a PST / 9a EST since August 27 of 2020.
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I intend to help you see that you have authority over your life. No one gives us a manual when we are born. No one gives us a book of instructions for our birthday. Which is weird because don't you have an instruction manual for you...2021-03-1708 minSingle You "The Podcast"26. Stacy on: what she lost in college because of 'him' and how she walked away with her lifeStacy Paetz… International Television & Podcast Host, Sideline Reporter, Author, Documentary Film Maker, Women's Sports Apparel Designer
She writes....
“Girl...I've had 3 serious relationships in my life and the last one ended in 2010. I thought he was the one and he left me and I still don't know why. I've been abstinent for over 6 years and before I'd met him in 2008, I had been abstinent for 12 years. I have little dating experience overall and I know what I want and deserve and won't settle.”
You can find Stacy on IG here and her website here.
...2021-03-111h 12Single You "The Podcast"[ TIP ] Harry is the husband Diana needed. No seriously what is love? Let's talk...What is love? Cause girl him saying ‘I love you’ doesn’t mean he actually does. While I do believe Harry and Meghan are a perfect example of being a team... ‘You two against the world — not against each other'... this episode is less about them and more about what the Bible/God defines as love.
'They' say relationships are hard... Yea this Meghan and Harry is an example of the hard. Not him disrespecting you over and over. Love does NOT = how much you can endure to keep a man in hopes he will change for you. ...2021-03-1035 minSingle You "The Podcast"25. Adreeahna on: His years of promises, then he just disappears and comes back after 10 months.. how did she handle that situationWhat would you do if you dated a guy for a few years. He promised marriage and when you're about to move to be with him... he disappears for 10 months. Then comes back talking about “how are you?” on snapchat.
👉🏽 That’s Adreeahna’s story and she shares it on this episode of Single You the Podcast. Yep he came back but how she handled ‘closure’ and the red flags she passed up. You can learn from her story. Happy listening and I hope you have your notebook.
You know that's why I do this. I want you to learn...2021-03-041h 05Single You "The Podcast"[ TIP ] So you say you're a Proverbs 31 woman or want to be. You say you want a Good/Godly man. Let's talk...I hope you listen with open ears. I'm not here to judge you but if you don't listen to this episode you won't know that. I'm very aware that this message isn't for everyone... but it is for the women I feel called to guide. Because what's the vision for your life sis? No judgement but the way I define judgement and the way cancel culture defines it, is extremely different.
Isn't your body a temple? Do you want to be lukewarm? Jesus and the Samaritan woman, let's talk...
Did you listen? Wh...2021-03-0325 minSingle You "The Podcast"24. I dated him and you probably did too (Jhall; former Fboy confessions)I dated him and I bet you did too. On today's Single You the Podcast; I speak to Jhall. He is a former Fboy and he has confessions for us. From his toxic journey to the man he is today.
He's spilling all the tea and I got all the questions. Bring your note book because who he use to be... we need to learn how to dodge that.
Reach out to Jhall here on IG and read his blog here.
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Did you listen? What were your takeaways? Please share wit...2021-02-251h 14Single You "The Podcast"[ Tip ] You knew he wasn't for you in the beginning but you passed up THIS red flag for the story you wantedI use to be so confused about my gut and the feeling I would get about men. Why did I feel like 'he is not for me' and I don't have a tangible reason? What does the gut feeling actually mean? Am I too picky? I had to learn what it meant to listen to my gut and how to use it to detect the people who aren't for me. Energy is real and we have to start trusting ourselves. The guy feeling is your God voice.
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Did you listen? What were your takeaways? Ple...2021-02-2412 minSingle You "The Podcast"23. Never let a guy save you for later with Kaitlyn HermanWhat happens if a guy says "I'm too busy" but still wants to keep you as a 'friend'... how do you handle that situation? He doesn't want to be in a relationship but a freinds-with-benefits situation... he's ok with. How you handle that situation? Let's talk...
A quote from Kaitlyn Herman: We ALL have a purpose. At 25, I'm lucky enough to have found mine. Whether you're 23 or 63, I will help you navigate your life to find that purpose. I will help you live an authentic life that you've only dreamed of living. I will...2021-02-1857 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Tip ] How and why my ex controlled me (my personal story)I should have left him when this happened but I didn't. I go over some of the reasons why I didn't in this episode.
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It’s Reka here! In case you were wondering what I really do... outside of posting about my workouts, Champ & Thor, my beautiful Pitbulls and discussing relationships... I am a certified NLP Life Coach aka the Single Girls Life Coach.
In September, after 18 years in radio, I stepped down from...2021-02-1717 minSingle You "The Podcast"22. Now Elana: From never getting married again to 10 years in with Riggs. (Part 2)Elana got married young young and divorced months later. Why?
She was then in a relationship where she didn't even want to kiss this 'good man.' Why?
Her friend Riggs (from episode 21) was always there for here as a FRIEND and that's it. How did they transition to lovers? Was it weird? What conversations did they have BEFORE they got serious? What's different with Riggs than any other man she dated?
Before Riggs she was absolutely just use to dysfunctional relationships. She grew and learned a lot from those relationships. Elana will sh...2021-02-111h 18Single You "The Podcast"[ Tip ] 3 Character traits to watch out for in Men (with Elana Riggle)We often times by-pass the weight that a relationship is putting on us because our misguided hope makes the weight seems light.
Elana has been happily married to Riggs for 10 years now. But before that she was married and divorced quickly. She has had a few dysfunctional relationships. We can learn from women like her, so I asked her to give us 3 things she knew that she didn't want in a husband and she passed on those gems to us.
Did you listen? What were your takeaways? Please share with me on IG...2021-02-1016 minSingle You "The Podcast"21. Riggs: From Never Getting Married Again to Happily Ever After. What's Different? (Part 1)(Andy) Riggs was married in his early 20s. That did not last but why?
He has now been married over 10 years. That is lasting why?
We also cover:
1. 3 Things not to do in a relationship
2. 3 Things that is keeping their marriage happy.
3. They don't have kids. He explains why! (not that he had to but I wanted to ask for you).
(Andy) Riggs can be found on:
IG = RiggsRadio
Facebook = Riggs Radio
His Podcast = Riggs off the Radio
2021-02-041h 18Single You "The Podcast"[ Tip ] Don't Do These 3 Things in a Relationship (Guest Riggs)𝐒𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐛𝐲 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠/𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 ‘𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐍𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐃𝐨’… Riggs has 3 things you shouldn’t do in a relationship.
Riggs went from ‘never getting married again’ to ‘happily every after’ with his wife of 10 years (12 years together).
𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐞 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞.
How are you learning about what makes a healthy relationship? A healthy marriage? Seriously how?
Ps. Yes we discuss that TERRIBLE relationship between Kelly and that damn red power ranger (Andrew) of Bling Empire on Netflix. A dysfunctional relationship doesn't have to be your normal.
(Andy) Riggs can be found on:
IG = RiggsRadio
Facebook = Riggs Radio
His Podcast = Riggs off the Radio
Did you listen? What were your takeaways? Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka
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Want to know if he's lying to you sooner rather than later? My 4 step st2021-02-0311 minSingle You "The Podcast"20. Do good men actually slide into DMs with Shanice. Her Fiancé did.Sick of being played? Shanice explains how she got ghosted after she drove 2 hours to meet up with a guy who never showed.
Through her story she shares 4 tips on how to better gage if a man is playing you or not.
(1) Stop giving men the benefit of the doubt.
(2) Those stupid rules you make for you not to come off as “annoying” to a man —stop with the rules.
(3) Ask all the questions. Being afraid to ask the questions puts you in situations you didn’t ask for.
(4) Listen t...2021-01-281h 40Single You "The Podcast"[ Tip ] This is Toxic Texting with ShaniceI want you to start shifting your mindset in the way that people talk to you and how you talk to people. Start thinking about emotional intelligence and what it means.
Are you watching Bling Empire on Netflix? You know the relationship with Kelly and Andrew, the red power ranger... that's a relationship I don't want you to have sis.
In this Tangible Tip Wednesday we go over another example of what you should NOT allow in your relationship. This is corny sis and I want you to know this isn't apart of the ups an...2021-01-2709 minSingle You "The Podcast"19. What I Wish the Church Taught Single Women (With Pastor Marlando Jordan)Why is their so much pressure in the church to get married? How should we be dating?
"What you believe is what you do." - Pastor Marlando Jordan
The books we suggested you can buy here.
The Right One by Frank Martin and Jimmy Evans
Relationships Goals by Mike Todd
Relational Intelligence by Dharius Daniels
"So what you believe is what you do. So if somebody says, "I believe it's important to pray and talk to God every day and I believe I should read my Bible every day." Then the lady sho...2021-01-211h 21Single You "The Podcast"[ Tip ] Finding Purpose Before Marriage because a Man Doesn't Actually Complete You (With Pastor Marlando Jordan)Do you value yourself? Do you know who you are sis? Are you proud of you?
Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.
- Proverbs 29:18
In finding your purpose:
1. Prayer. Ask God to reveal to you, who you are.
2. Searching your heart. Ask yourself the same question.
Who are you in Christ? What is your identity? Who are you outside of dating, a man and your kids?
2021-01-2017 minSingle You "The Podcast"18. Dai: On How She Got Over Her Abusive Ex and 'Found' Her Husband.She writes:
Dig, isolate, ache from being lonely, GLOW.
Like many late 20-somethings I've had my share of failed relationships, the most prominent being an 8 year live-in one. "Common law married". I'm not gonna spend so much time on the particulars, but we weren't meant to be. For 6 months I spiraled and acted out every annoying and "smh" worthy moment that almost every woman has after a heavy breakup. Lately, I've seen it replayed in SO many young women, so I felt the need to write this post in hopes that if you do need it...2021-01-141h 22Single You "The Podcast"25. [ Tip ] Your Vagina Doesn't Actually Know If He's The One Sis. With Dai Loving-HearneSo what is it supposed to feel like when you find your match? Butterflies or no? What I can tell you is this: Yep. Your Vagina Doesn’t Actually Know if He’s The One or Not sis.
Let’s stop leaning heavy into those butterflies. I have a problem when it comes to following your heart with out logic and strategy behind it.
Listen to Daishaundra as she explains the difference between when she had butterflies in the beginning of dating her abusive ex and what she felt in the beginning of dating her husband B...2021-01-1311 minSingle You "The Podcast"24. Can You Only Find True Joy in a Relationship? With Cameo KingSociety will definitely make us think so. That only true happiness, joy and fulfillment come inside of a relationship. Cameo and I (Reka). use to think this way but we don't anymore.
Life moves in the direction of your most dominate thought and when we thought that way we ended up trying to cook our way, force our way, serve our way, submit our way into a man’s heart to prove our worth…. Have You been There? Trying to get out of that cycle?
Sick of the emotional heavy-lifting that you do to love men wh...2021-01-071h 43Single You "The Podcast"23. [ Tip ] What do we get when we try to serve our way into his heart? When we compromise? With Cameo King𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐞 compromise 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘪𝘮 𝐢𝐧 a 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩?
You often enter into relationships trying to cook your way, sex your way, force your way, serve your way, submit your way into a man’s heart to prove your worth…. don’t you?
All to be chosen by a man who sat back and reaped the benefits of your affections. Are you sick of that?
Oh and how about the emotional heavy-lifting that you do to love men who aren’t capable of loving you back in a healthy way. Aren’t you sick of that too?
This is a conversation between Cameo and I about how we use to operate in relationships and if you still do — no judgment — but stop. Here’s why...2021-01-0616 minSingle You "The Podcast"22. [ 3 ] The Dating Mistakes I Hope You Leave in 2020. Happy 2021Did you listen? What were your takeaways? Please share with me on IG @ justmeReka
Grab my FREE SYA mini = 3 writing prompts to help you Discover Your Worth + the How to Get Over Him [video + worksheet ] LINK: bit.ly/SYAMini
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Xo Reka
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleyou/support2020-12-3121 minSingle You "The Podcast"21. [ Tip ] Will He Really Change Because You Want Him To? With Cameo King[ Your Wednesday Tangible Tip ]
A man will get himself together for the right woman... Do men really change because we want them to?
I mean you’ve been there right girl? Trying to wait it out— waiting on him to change. Not wanting to quit “because he’ll change for me eventually.” I can love him into changing, exhausting and extending yourself for what? Definitely not reciprocity.
This is a conversation between Cameo and I about how we use to operate in relationships and if you still do — no judgment — but stop. Here’s why...
“I don’...2020-12-3019 minSingle You "The Podcast"20. Sis, Slow Down The Dating Process with DJ Robinson[ Your Wednesday Tangible Tip ]
She writes: I met a guy last weekend and we slept together. He hasn't text me back until now. We had a good time, he kissed me (first) and it was in front of someone who's flirting with him while I was beside him. I just felt over the moon because no one has ever done that for me. But I realized he never asked me any questions about me. So it got me thinking... does he want to know about me or did he just want a one night stand. I didn't...2020-12-2422 minSingle You "The Podcast"19. He Likes Other Women's Pictures On IG + Do You Give Him Your Password? With Mike Zacchio [ Your Wednesday Tangible Tip ]
She Writes Am I wrong for getting upset that my man keeps liking other women's photos on Instagram? Or upset that he follows 90% predominantly women? It causes a lot of strain on our relationships...
Plus. The ol' "do I give him my passwords because he asked" dilemma. I use to think why. not "I have nothing to hide." In fact I did and it never changed his trust in me. He still accused me of being sneaking and cheating. What I've found out is that most people who are accusing you o...2020-12-2320 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Tip ] How to Make a Guy Wait for Sex with Mike Zacchio [ Your Wednesday Tangible Tip ] [Bonus]Welcome to Single You the Podcast.
Today's tip: How to Make a Guy Wait for Sex with Mike Zacchio. Your Wednesday Tangible Tip drops every Wednesday at 6a.
The tip comes from Thursday's full episode that drops the next day. New episode of Single You drop on Thursday at 6a.
Tomorrow's full episode? = How to Know When to Leave Him with Mike Zacchio (4 tips).
Happily Listening and please remember to subscribe and rate this podcast! Please.
IG = justmeReka
Email = Reka@justmeReka.com
Do not hesitate to message me! T...2020-12-0910 minSingle You "The Podcast"17. Soooo are all men bad? Are they all liars? The Male Perspective with Guest DJ RobinsonIf you are a single woman who is dating and looking for Mr. right, what is your biggest dating challenge in finding a good guy?
Most women say: the biggest challenge they are liars, cheaters, no ambition, no standards, no morals, 3 (or more) kids and baby momma drama.
But is that true? Should we just throw the whole male species away? Is there still hope... let's talk with my cousin DJ Robinson, he is in fact a male haha
Xo Reka
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Support this podcast: https://pod...2020-12-031h 13Single You "The Podcast"[ Tip ] Do You Have to Change Who You Are to Get & Keep a Man?Guest DJ Robinson [Wednesday Tangible Tip] [From EP 15]
XO Reka
IG = justmeReka
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleyou/support2020-12-0205 minSingle You "The Podcast"[ Tip ] Help I'm w/this this Guy that Doesn't Work... am I Wrong Because I want More? [Your Wednesday Tangible Tip] [Bonus from EP 15][ 𝗛𝗲𝗹𝗽 ] 𝗦𝗼 𝗜'𝗺 𝗪𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗚𝘂𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗗𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸. 𝗔𝗺 𝗜 𝗪𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴 𝗕𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗜 𝗪𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗠𝗼𝗿𝗲?
𝘏𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯'𝘵 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘢 𝟿-𝟻 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘐 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘶𝘱 𝘧𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘢 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘭 𝘰𝘯 𝘚𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘦 𝘩𝘦’𝘴 𝘢𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘣𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘩𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴 𝘥𝘰 𝘪𝘴 𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘮𝘺 𝘬𝘪𝘥𝘴 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘐’𝘮 𝘨𝘰𝘯𝘦 ...𝘢𝘮 𝘐 𝘸𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦? 𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐’𝘮 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴, 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦? 𝘈𝘮 𝘐 𝘴𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨?
XO Reka
IG = justmeReka
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleyou/support2020-11-2508 minSingle You "The Podcast"15. 3 Reasons Why You Keep Falling For the Bad GuyWhy do you keep falling for the bad guy?
Maybe because time is moving and you feel like you’re not?
Have you thought "I’m happy for all of my friends who are married with families but I can’t help but feel like sometimes life is passing me by."
Am I taking the words right out YOUR mouth girl?
You feel stuck and you thought ➡️ having the kids and getting married would make you happy?
It didn’t and now you’re divorced and you know something is missing but you can’t figure it out. You...2020-11-1917 minSingle You "The Podcast"14. Stop Making it So Convenient For a Man to Date You. [ Here's How ] D. Irvin's journey back from that 10 year abusive relationshipJoin Single You Academy Here: www.single-you.com/join
Reka's IG = justmeReka
D. Irvin's IG = @therealsupad
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Atlanta, GA (October 2020) - D’wayna Irvin, affectionately known as “D. Irvin”, is a woman who certainly lives up to her moniker. A product of New Orleans’ 9th Ward, the polarizing entrepreneur, influencer and author has experienced it all – from crime, fast money and near-death experiences, to betrayal and heartbreak – all in the name of love and loyalty. However, that way of life nearly destroyed hers, until she made a change for the bette...2020-11-1252 minSingle You "The Podcast"13. "I Want to Be Valued First" Stacey J's Journey Back After that 5 Year Abusive RelationshipLearn from her story! One of the things that helped me heal from the pain I inflicted on myself by being with my abusive ex, was finding and learning from women who had been through what I went through. I loved feeling like I wasn't the only woman who made 'stupid' decisions for a man. I also was able to learn from those women.
Here is what Stacey J. wrote on her Facebook:
I became single after a 5 year relationship ended in January 2020. What I once thought would end in married ended i...2020-11-051h 35Single You "The Podcast"12. What Does It Look Like-- If You Don't Know Who You Are?This is a Personal Story of mine and my intention is to always help you feel less alone, while inspiring you to choose you.
xo, Reka
IG = justmeReka / Reka@justmeReka.com
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleyou/support2020-10-2910 minSingle You "The Podcast"11. I Don't Love Myself? What Does That Mean?How you answer this?
"Like how do I not love myself? Because I'm in a relationship where I’m unhappy? That automatically defines me as not loving myself? Why do people say that? I feel like I'm down to do anything. You wanna go across the country? Let’s go, you wanna go to the casino at 3a? I’m down. Help me understand?"
xo,
Reka = @justmeReka
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleyou/su2020-10-2207 minSingle You "The Podcast"10. Top 3 Traits That Make You Good at Relationships! Do You Have Them?James is back! He's married and I always loved talking with him about relationship and marriage.
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I know what I went through and I share my story as well as the stories of my clients. 𝗪𝐡𝐲? So you see you’re not alone.
𝐂𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲? This was just a strategy call.
𝐌𝐞: 𝐃𝐢𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬?
Her: No. My parents never really talked with me about that sort of thing. Honestly, I think I learned most of what I learned about relationships from television.
And I realized later that I was really young and they were... all the characters in the shows were like in high school.
So they were all like dating and having relationships. And I couldn't wait to be 16 and have a boyfriend.
...2020-10-1514 minSingle You "The Podcast"9. How Did Jackii Finally Break Away From Her Long Dysfunctional Relationship?Learn from her story! One of the things that helped me heal from the pain I inflicted on myself by being with my abusive ex, was finding and learning from women who had been through what I went through. I loved feeling like I wasn't the only woman who made 'stupid' decisions for a man. I also was able to learn from those women.
I hope you learn from Jackii's story!
Xo, Reka
IG = justmeReka
www.single-you.com
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sh...2020-10-0852 minSingle You "The Podcast"8. How to Get Unstuck From "Him"𝗛𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗻𝘀𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻?
Reka I’ve been meaning to ask you but in my time of confusion I want to move forward. but my actions are showing me— I just want to stay stuck.
You’ve answered the question so many times however I still can’t seem to understand it. I know what I am but why can’t I believe it?
I know I am beautiful inside and out, I am kind, outstanding, funny, loving, wise. I fell in love with a toxic person.
However I know my worth and value but it seems like I don’t because I let this guy miss-treat me?
After 10months with him...2020-10-0111 minSingle You "The Podcast"7. [Bonus] Can There Be a Marriage Without Cheating? The Fall Out of Those EntanglementsThe Fall Out of Those Entanglements. That time I talked about Will & Jada and cheating with James. James was my co-host at the time on Power 99.1. While I no longer do the morning show on Power 99.1 -- I kept all my juicy audio.
xo, Reka
IG = @justmeReka
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Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/singleyou/support2020-09-2433 minSingle You "The Podcast"6. Why we shouldn't look up to Will & Jada Smith𝙄 𝙡𝙤𝙫𝙚 𝙢𝙚 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙒𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙎𝙢𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙅𝙖𝙙𝙖 but this whole “entanglement” thing has got me thinking about YOU. How even Beyonce and Jay Z are normalizing that cheating is just the price of admission to a marriage.
It's not. I'm calling bullshit, sweetheart.
I don't want you to idolize them. It worked for them. Maybe they are happy, but the fact is you just don't know.
I don't want you thinking...
“Well that's just normal, I mean, he's going to cheat on me and that's okay." - It is not okay.
If you don't want that in your relationship, you don't have to have that. 𝙏𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙞𝙘𝙚 𝙤𝙛 𝙖𝙙𝙢𝙞𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝙩𝙤 𝙖 𝙜𝙤𝙤𝙙, 𝙩𝙧𝙖𝙣𝙨𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙢𝙖...2020-09-2306 minSingle You "The Podcast"5. Stop Doing This, Just Because He Likes You! I remember when I posted my first blog back in early 2018. I did it the midst of full shame of what I allowed a man to put me through but I knew that my story would be healing for me AND other women.
I didn’t know then I would create Single You but 𝙄 𝙠𝙣𝙚𝙬 𝙄 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙖 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣, 𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣, 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙬𝙤𝙢𝙖𝙣 𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙘𝙤𝙢𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙄 𝙟𝙪𝙨𝙩 𝙬𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝. I knew that sharing my story and pushing aside shame, was the formula.
“𝙋𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚 𝙬𝙞𝙡𝙡 𝙖𝙡𝙬𝙖𝙮𝙨 𝙖𝙙𝙢𝙞𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙨𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙜𝙩𝙝 𝙗𝙪𝙩 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙧𝙚𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙩𝙤 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙬𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙨” - 𝘾𝙝𝙖𝙙 𝙑𝙚𝙖𝙘𝙝
Cut to 2020 and I’ve helped MORE than just one woman...
I have a story I want to share with you about one for my clients. Let’s see if YOU can relate to one of my clients. I continue to share knowing if you see you in me and/or my clients, then you will..,
1. Feel less alone 2. Know I can help YOU
Me: So why Single You? Why do you want to work on yourself now?
Her: I date the same type of men because, like you said before, it's like I'm happy that they chose me. So it's like...2020-09-1709 minSingle You "The Podcast"4. He never hit me. So how did I know my relationship was abusive?#AskReka How did you concluded that your relationship was abusive? I think it's a word women struggle with because we're programmed to think abuse is JUST physical abuse.
Do you listen to my podcast and you think "I need more. I wish I had steps".... that's exactly what "Single You" is.
What is “Single You”?
An online community and resource for single women. The primary purpose of “Single You” is
to get you to a place of loving yourself. Knowing your worth and understanding that you’re...2020-09-1012 minSingle You "The Podcast"3. [Bonus] Awarded Woman of Distinction by The Girls Scouts of Eastern Washington and Northern IdahoDude they made me cry!! Getting “flowers” for the gift my Grandmothers, parents and God gave me weird. I’m supposed to be doing this but I really really really do appreciate the love— especially the day (doing mornings) before my last day on Power 99.1
I’ll have a letter for the Tri Cities that I’ll read on air tomorrow at 7a (September 10, 2020)
xo, Reka
I help women discover their worth. So that you can stop tying your identity to men and stop being a people pleaser!
www.single-you.com and IG @ just...2020-09-0913 minSingle You "The Podcast"2. Why I stayed in that abusive relationship? Can you relate?I didn't have a strong relationship with God until I hit about 34. I always believed in God and grew up in the church but (for me) because I didn't seek a true relationship with God. Because I didn't question the things I was told and not told, I began to rush and try to get into relationships. Which sadly set me up for failure. I was so naive and I thought that when a guy told me he loved me, he meant it.
Relationships don't have a "user manual" or do they?
Why did I st...2020-09-0357 minSingle You "The Podcast"1. A Red Flag VS. a Character Flaw? How to Know When to Leave Him.Sidenote: If you're listening to this after August 2020-- the videos will still be available for you to view in Single You once you become a member! Also the 1-month free promo is over.
#AskReka
👉🏽 Hey Reka, I have a question or thought that’s been on my mind, I find myself asking often, what’s worth it? So in relationships now days we have a list of red flags, which is a good tool, I feel like these times we are quick to tell people to leave relationships, to see the red flags a...2020-08-2713 minSingle You "The Podcast"[Trailer] What is "Single You" The Podcast?Dropping every Thursday at 6a PST / 9a EST starting August 27, 2020
I intend to help you see that you have authority over your life.
No one gives us a manual when we are born. No one gives us a book of instructions for our birthday. Which is weird because don't you have an instruction manual for your TV, your car, and everything else that you do not know how to use at first.
We're born, for the first time and we're just expected to be great at being human. We're given a name and e...2020-08-0611 min
The Race Conversations (via) The justme(Reka) show from Power 99.1A Conversation with, Frances Chvatal. She's Running for a local House of Representatives seat in the 16th District, Position 1Frances Chvatal is running for "House of Representatives" 16th District, Position 1 (This is a local, WA State position).
✅ You should have your ballot, if not now by Friday-- which will tell you if she's on your ballot or not. (I got mine)
Call the auditors office if you don't have your ballot soon.
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Benton County Auditor; (509) 736-2727
Franklin County Auditor; (509) 545-3538
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➡️ Take your time to VOTE but have your ballot in BEFORE 8p on August 4th. Drop your ballot in an official drop box.
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Not registered to vote but want to vote? You must be registered by July 27th to vote locally for our August 4th primary...2020-07-1744 min