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The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit94 - Talkin' 'Bout Reactive Defense AKA Reactive Abuse - Let's look at how we show up around abuse, mistreatment, & chronic defensiveness (ahem, emotionally immature parents) and reclaim our power.Have you heard about reactive defense, AKA reactive abuse? This is super important to know about if you've been in relationships with abusers (your family counts!), especially when narcissistic abuse is at play and YES, even chronic defensiveness. We're getting clear on what this looks like and how to get off the hamster wheel so we feel focused, clear, and powerful and not like we're about to lose our damn minds. Want to work with Remy? Go here.Find us on:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided...
2025-11-0832 minThe Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit93 - Human Design for People Pleasers - For all you human design types & newbies alike, we're getting a map into your people pleasing tendencies AND learning how to heal it.It's the 3rd epi in my people-pleasing series! I have been DYING to know what human design really is, how it works, and if it can help us with people pleasing. Turns out, not only can it help, it can give you a map that shows exactly where your people pleasing started, how it works, and how you heal it. Human design expert and confidence coach Kelly Hughes joins me to show us the way. Want to work with Kelly? Check out her incredible courses, and use code PATRAUMAPARTY at check-out for 10% off:90-minute Human Design...
2025-10-2548 minThe Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit92 - The People Pleaser Guide: How to Deal with Conflict - Less people pleasing, more conflict resolution strategies for standing in power and authenticity, bb.This is episode 2 in my people-pleasing deep-dive! One of our biggest fears as people-pleasers is speaking up for ourselves during conflict—it can literally make us feel like we're going to pass out from anxiety! So how do we move from the knee-jerk "Sounds good, no worries!" to a thoughtful, authentic: "Actually, here's what I need..."? In this epi, psychologist, author, relationship expert, and podcast host Dr. Tracy Dalgleish joins me to get into what's underlying our people-pleasing patterns, why people-pleasing actually leads to MORE conflict, and how we heal. Looking for more episodes on people-pleasing? Try ep...
2025-10-1150 minThe Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit91 - People Pleasing at Work Gotcha Down? If you're a people pleaser from 9 to 5, it's time to start setting boundaries so you can take your power back.It's my first in a series on people pleasing! We're looking at it from all angles, starting with people-pleasing at work. We do it to stay safe, even to get ahead in our careers—but it's actually sabotaging our success! The problem is, half the time, we don't even know we're doing it, and the other half, we've people pleased before we even have a chance to think about what we're saying (soooo frustrating)! In this episode, executive coach, TED Talk speaker, and founder of Encourage Coaching, Katie O’Malley, joins me to talk about how we overcome the trau...
2025-09-2749 minThe Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit90 - When Should You End a Relationship? - How get out of toxic connections and into reciprocal, loving relationships as recovering people pleasers and children of gaslighters.How do you know when it's time to end a friendship, or any relationship for that matter? How do you know when you're just being "dramatic," like your family of origin always told you you were, and when you're self-advocating and standing in your power? How do you balance healthy boundaries with healthy compassion, especially when a person's toxicity is coming from being abused themselves? In this episode, we're doing a deep dive into when it's time to call it quits, so that you can stop feeling drained and disrespected, and start feeling loved and cared for. ...
2025-09-1331 minThe Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit89 - How to Heal Anxious Attachment Style Part II - A deep dive into healing anxious attachment, bc it's time to enjoy secure attachment, babe.We've all been there—trying to figure out the exact right way to phrase the text so we sound cool and aloof when actually we've been crying for the last two hours. Anxious attachment style can suuuckkkkk so bad because it's rooted in deep feelings of not being good enough, not trusting people, and not loving ourselves. But what if I told you there's nothing wrong with YOU? Not just to hype you up (which, I'm your forever hype girl), but literally, technically - anxious attachment is a *healthy* response to a *really unhealthy* situation. You're not f*cked up...
2025-08-3057 minThe Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit88 - Anxious Attachment Style, Breakup Edition - Codependency in relationships can surge in the breakup stage for anxiously attached folks—let's get you out of despair and into thrive mode.Being anxiously attached in a relationship is hard enough, but anxiously attached during a breakup?? The feelings of abandonment, the hopelessness, the sense that you'll never get your life back—it can be a real codependent spiral. In this episode, we dive into what the breakup process can look like for anxiously attached folks, what lies we tell ourselves in those dark moments, and what we need to know to get back in alignment with our TRUE selves.Go here if you'd like one-on-one coaching, a birth chart reading, or a tarot reading with Remy.Instagram...
2025-08-1627 minThe Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit87 - Burnout Recovery 101 - How to break free from people-pleasing and emotional exhaustion (and the subconscious childhood wounds behind it)A lot of times, we think the antidote to burnout is a nap or a vacay (which, no shade, we love a vacay) but a lot of us are struggling with burnout from our own—often *subconscious*—repeated behaviors like perfectionism, overachieving (in an attempt to feel worthy or valid), people pleasing, or not setting appropriate boundaries. AKA, the call is coming from inside the house. In this episode, I welcome therapist and yoga instructor Amanda Baker to join me as we get into all things burnout—what it looks like, the role our nervous systems play in it, and ho...
2025-08-021h 04The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit86 - Tired of People Pleasing? - How childhood conditioning controls your work, love life, & confidence (and how to finally respect yourself without feeling drained)Do you ever get mad at yourself because you didn't hold a boundary? Are you SO over what a people pleaser you can be? Has anyone ever told you you need to respect yourself like they were talking to kindergartener and you STILL, to this day, carry that shame around with you? This is your epi, hunny. We're getting into the connection between people pleasing, boundaries, and self respect, and why self respect is actually a lot more complicated than your (kind of rude, TBH) friend realizes. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading...
2025-07-1927 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit85 - Is My Mom a Narcissist? - This one's for the daughters of narcissistic mothers—and the dudes and non-binary folks—let's dig into the signs of a narcissistic mother, the impact, & how we heal.Real talk—narcissistic mothers unleash a reign of terror over their kids, and for MANY of us, we don't even realize it for years and years! We may even adore, worship, and endlessly praise our mothers (which is what many narcissistic mothers groom their children to do BTW). The way it impacts our self-worth and ability to set boundaries is WILD. In this epi, I welcome coach and host of the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers podcast, Matilde Crocini, to get into what this abuse looks like, how it impacts us, and her 3-step process for recovering from it. (PS you can...
2025-07-051h 09
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit84 - Limerence Symptoms Driving You Crazy? - Obsessive love ain't love, y'all, & your limerent object isn't all that. Let's show you how to stop obsessing over someone else so you can LIVE.Literally romantic obsession SUCKS. The longing is so intense, and there's no way to satiate it. In this epi, we get into how your unmet childhood needs are feeding your limerence, how we work with them, and why self-love is both the key AND just the beginning. Birth Chart Reading Giveaway Rules! Leave me a rating and review, screenshot it, post it on your Insta story, and tag me: @thepatraumaparty. If you leave it on Apple Podcasts, you'll get 3 entries. If you just do a rating on Spotify (since you can't do a review), you'll get 1 entry. W...
2025-06-2131 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit83 - Need Help with Anxiety? - The spin-outs suck—get help with anxiety & learn anxiety management techniques with Dr. Stephanie LopezAnxiety isn't just about your thoughts, it's about whether or not you see *YOURSELF* as capable enough to handle life (OOF!). In this episode, I get into this and SO much more with anxiety expert Dr. Stephanie Lopez (you can check out her FREE training for ditching anxiety here). If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informationa...
2025-06-0753 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit82 - Did You Grow Up Without Affection? It's time to start healing the impact of being unloved as a child, babe.In this epi, we're getting into the symptoms of growing up without a parent who supported and hyped you up or even hugged you—it can show up allll over your life—AND we're getting into how we heal. (Don't worry—it's a huge heartache, but we're starting small.)If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for inform...
2025-05-2437 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit81 - Not Feeling Good Enough? How to deal with Imposter Syndrome, anxious attachment, perfectionism, and more by building self worth.NBD just going through life feeling like you're always the problem because you weren't treated like you were good enough to be heard, seen, respected, or loved as a kid! In this episode, psychotherapist Kelly Lewis joins me for a deep dive: neglect, anxious attachment, conditional love, perfectionism, and having to earn approval—and how all of them are related to not feeling good enough. Plus we look at social factors like fatphobia, homophobia, racism, and sexism, and how THEY create the feeling that we're not good enough. We'll also look at growth & fixed mindsets and imposter syndrome, and th...
2025-05-101h 10
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit80 - Dealing with Political Anxiety? We're getting into how to stop catastrophizing (and feeling empowered instead).Are you feeling like you're always on the brink of a panic attack while a government of racist, sexist, xenophobic, homophobic oligarchs squeezes every last ounce of democracy out of our country? Then this one's for you.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a subst...
2025-04-2643 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit79 - Healing After a Breakup - We're just out here overcoming breakup grief, healing heartbreak, and moving on after a relationship with somatic practitioner Laurie JamesHealing after a breakup suucckkks—the grief, the anger, the fear. In this episode, I sit down with somatic practioner Laurie James to talk about The 4 E's (we especially love "expel"), self-compassion post-breakup, and even breakups with friends and family. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is in...
2025-04-121h 15
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit78 - Suffered Sibling Violence? We're talking how to recover from sibling abuse trauma and sibling emotional abuse (and how to heal, hunny).A lot of families don't take sibling abuse seriously—behavior they would never accept from a bully at school, they completely gloss over when it's happening at home. How do we heal from that trauma? And when it continues into adulthood, can we even mend the relationship with our sibling? In this episode, I coach Jackie through these questions, letting go of what isn't working so that she can reclaim her authentic self and integrate what was lost along the way.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.
2025-03-2955 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit77 - Feeling Helpless and Hopeless? How to deal with Learned Helplessness through somatic healing so you can feel optimistic again (yes, really).Does your internal monologue ever sound like, "I'll never get better," "I'll never have the life I want," "I'll never fall in love"? Then this one's for you, baby! Learned helplessness is when we learn (often in abusive households growing up) that we don't have any control over the harm being done to us, so we just stop trying. We basically learn to be helpless. In this episode, somatic marriage and family therapist Katrina Foster joins me to talk through how learned helplessness impacts our lives and how we heal from the bottom up. If you'd like...
2025-03-151h 01
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit76 - Still Spiraling from a Sexual Assault? We're getting through this together by healing sexual trauma (so you start to feel like yourself again).After a sexual assault, you often spiral into a hole you feel you'll never come out of. In this episode, Rima writes in to ask for help with the feeling that she will be never the person she was before she was assaulted. For clarity's sake, the phrase "sexual assault" is an umbrella term that applies to many experiences, including but not limited to rape. If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted, you can reach out to RAINN at 800.656.HOPE (4673).If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot...
2025-03-0127 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit75 - Got Irrational Beliefs? Let's heal those self defeating beliefs stat with cognitive behavioral therapist Judith Belmont.So much of what we think about ourselves and the world is A. not helpful, and B. operating on automatic without our even knowing about it. If we think we're not good enough, not worthy of love, always going to be broke, never going to feel happy again, etc. etc., we're letting self-defeating beliefs run the show of our lives. In this episode, I'm joined by therapist and author Judith Belmont to talk about how we work with those self-defeating beliefs, so they don't work us.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or...
2025-02-1548 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit74 - Toxic Gratitude - Is living in gratitude bumming you out? Toxic gratitude may be to blame.People keep telling Maggie to write gratitude lists to help her while she's struggling emotionally. But every time she tries to do it, she feels worse and sometimes even cries, which makes her feel like there's something wrong with her. Is there a part of her that's resisting happiness? or is there a problem with gratitude?If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are pr...
2025-02-0135 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit73 - The Abandonment Wound Unpacked: How to heal from the trauma of abandonment in relationships when no one had your back (but should've).Anyone else feel like they're not good enough for people to stand up for them? Anyone else get a hit of unworthiness when people don't have your back? In this episode, LCSW Sydney Linden joins to talk about the different ways it can look to go unprotected in childhood, what core beliefs it creates for us in adulthood, and what it looks like to heal. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.com
2025-01-181h 00
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit72 - Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers - Gather round—we're walking away from a narcissistic parent (even when they're gaslighting you).Chloe's father is a malignant narcissist, but now that he's dying, she's deeply wrestling with her decision to go no-contact. How can she truly be a loving, forgiving person if she refuses to be in contact with him? In this episode, we talk about healing the wounds of being in relationship with a narcissistic parent and redefining what "love" means when it's time to go no-contact. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.com
2025-01-0449 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit71 - Overly Empathetic Much? - Buckle up, we're getting into how too much empathy is a toxic trait.We think of empathy as always being a good thing, but like everything else, too much of a good thing can be toxic. I call "toxic empathy" (not a clinical term, BTW, just my term), the phenomenon that occurs when we empathize with others to the point that we can't feel our *own* feelings. We can't feel anger when people hurt us, or we order a cocktail we don't want because our friend doesn't want to drink alone, etc. etc. It robs us of our boundaries and our autonomy, often leading to self-abandonment. In this episode, I welcome marriage...
2024-12-211h 11
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit70 - Are You a Recovering Parentified Daughter? - It's a whole ass process to reclaim self-worth after a childhood of neglect (but it's time, bb).Teal grew up being super parentified by her addicted mother. The house was dirty, there wasn't food, her mom was at the bars, and Teal was in charge of her siblings. In this episode, we dig into the self-limiting beliefs around self-worth that resulted from Teal's struggle (the people pleasing, resentments, and lack of self-knowing) and look at what it means to heal. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.com
2024-12-0758 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit69 - Emotionally Deprived as a Child? - Let's talk how to build resilience as an adult (even if your parents sucked).A lack of encouragement in childhood leaves a deep mark on us—it can impact our sense of self-worth, of safety, of resiliance—you name it. Sometimes it's easy to see that we weren't encouraged, but for many of us, we don't even realize that it's at the root of many of our struggles. In this episode, I welcome writer and therapist Solasta McIntyre back to the show to talk us through how a lack of encouragement impacts children's developing brains, what the repercussions look like in adulthood, and how we heal.If you'd like a one-on-one coac...
2024-11-231h 06
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit68 - The Attachment Wound That's Still Hurting You: How to heal the mother wound (and the father wound, too—bc he also messed up) with Toni Nagy.There are so many ways to approach healing the mother wound, and what works for one person won't necessarily work for someone else. That's why I was SOOOO excited to have hilarious comedian, internet star, badass feminist, daily meditator, mental health advocate, and sweet baby angel Toni Nagy on the show to talk about what her process has looked like in working through the mother wound (plus we get some dad stuff in there, too, so. humble brag). If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want...
2024-11-091h 05
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit67 - Got Romantic Obsession? - How to beat limerence and get over that love obsession of yours.Never heard of limerence? You know that feeling when you don't know if someone's into you, but you can't stop thinking about it, you get stuck in daydreams about them, and you're just waiting with bated breath for the next time they talk to you? It's that feeling of romantic obsession that keeps you stuck on people who don't reciprocate, and turns out—it's a trauma response. In this episode, clinical social worker and psychotherapist Amanda Ichihashi Jagerman joins the pod to talk about how limerence works, where it comes from, and how we overcome it. If you...
2024-10-261h 09
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit66 - Are You Being Discarded? - Hop in, we're learning how to navigate being in relationships with an addict AND how to heal when you're being discarded by a narcissist (yes—they're related).Lucy writes in about being "discarded" by her ex-boyfriend who struggles with addiction. She wants to figure out why he's acting this way—she wants it to make sense. How do we navigate relationships like these? If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, coun...
2024-10-1238 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit65 - Wanna Know How to Heal Loneliness? - Growing up lonely sucks, and it follows us. We're getting into how to overcome loneliness and isolation (so you can thrive, hunny).It's not something you can slap a dinner party on and call it good. Chronic loneliness is often carried into adulthood from childhood—usually due to neglect. In this episode, I talk to psychotherapist Zara Neukom about how chronic loneliness starts, how it impacts our lives, and what it can look like to change from a lens of hyper self-reliance to one of mutual support. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.com...
2024-09-281h 11
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit64 - Cheating Trauma? - Recovering from infidelity trauma is no joke—but it IS possible.Many of us have been cheated on—but also, many of us had parents who cheated. In this episode, Robin writes in to share the trauma she experienced as a child around her dad's cheating, and the way it impacts her still as an adult. We talk about what our inner child needs in those moments, why our worthiness gets tanked when we're cheated on, and why learning that a partner is cheating is actually really helpful information.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to...
2024-09-1439 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit63 -Do You Have a Fear of Getting in Trouble? - We're diving into the fear of being in trouble so you can rebuild confidence like the baddie you are.You know that feeling of being in trouble that makes you want to throw up? sob? jump out of your skin? It's really common, but especially when you grew up around dysregulated adults or were abused as a kid. It's not just emotionally exhausting, it also sends your body into emergency mode and can cause all kinds of illnesses (!!!). In this episode, somatic practitioner Veronica Rottman talks us through what lies beneath the feeling of being in trouble, how it affects us, and what it looks like to heal. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth...
2024-08-311h 07
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit62 - Wondering How to Heal Rejection Trauma? - The wound of rejection is an ass kicker—let's talk about how to have compassion for yourself & how to overcome feeling like a failure. You got this.After getting rejected from countless job interviews, Aaron started believing he was a failure, stuck in a rut that would never change. In this episode, we dig through the past to find and heal old beliefs, while looking for new ways of relating to the pain of rejection and lack of control.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informa...
2024-08-1741 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit61 - Pleasing Everyone But Yourself? - If you've got that people pleaser resentment, we're setting boundaries without guilt and getting our power back, babyyyy.As a recovering people-pleaser, I can ONE HUNDRED PERCENT attest to the fact that we are motivated by fear. It's a survival tactic that tons of us learned to navigate abusive or chaotic childhoods. But the problem is that it doesn't end in childhood—we take people-pleasing into our friendships, our sex lives, our living situations, our professional spheres—literally everywhere. In this episode, I welcome therapist and people-pleasing coach Emily Nader to the pod to talk about people-pleasing without even knowing you're doing it (fuucckkkk), the connection between people-pleasing and anxious attachment, how we heal the instinct to peop...
2024-08-031h 15
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit60 - That Feeling When You Feel Like a Burden - Being an over giver, feeling like an inconvenience—it's all part of a vicious cycle (but we're clearing it, bb).After her painful, messy divorce, Erika is isolating from her friends. She doesn't want to be a burden on them or fail in her role as the "reliable" one. Together, we process the underlying emotions of feeling unchosen, unwanted, and unworthy.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be...
2024-07-2048 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit59 - Got Resilience Goals? We're breaking it down: How to be emotionally resilient, how to embrace challenges, and basically how to be a badass.We're back! My hiatus has come to an end, and I'm jumping back in with psychotherapist and certified grief specialist Courtney Carver to talk about resilience—my brain's least favorite activity! (Big fan of despair, loves it). We get into why it's so important, what it looks like, and how TF we do it. PS! There's a vulnerable moment in this epi that I almost cut out, but I decided to keep it because I think it can be easy to interpret resilience as not being impacted by trauma anymore or being "over it." I hope this fe...
2024-07-061h 01
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammitUpdate and Poll!Oh hi! More epis soon (like, very soon)! But in the meantime, please listen to my hate rant about my movers and also take this poll and LMK what you think about this new idea. TYYYY!
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2024-06-1308 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammitWhen Life Gives You Lemons: How to deal with shame and embarrassment (+UPDATE EPI!)Just popping in to say what's up and give some updates. ALSO sharing some brief thoughts about everyone's favorite and least icky topic: shame. Feels like I left a long message into a friend's voicemail TBH—that's where we're at rn! More soon. xIf you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseli...
2024-03-1014 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit58 - How to Persevere When the Sh*t Hits the Fan: the ability to bounce back, baby.She's taking a break! This is my final epi before I head out for a few months (back in March), and I'm leaving you with some thoughts on resilience for your new year. May you wear something slutty as the ball drops, and I'll see you in 2024.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.com
2023-12-3035 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit57 - Oh Hi, We're Healing the Abandonment Wound - For anyone navigating the abandonment wound in relationships (& literally everywhere else)—we're reclaiming self worth this time.Ughhhh. Getting honest with ourselves about our abandonment wound can give us all the ick. But did you know that your abandonment wound is actually a super intelligent response to abuse? and that it actually means your system is operating exactly as it should? In this episode, I welcome somatic practitioner Veronica Rottman to the show to talk about how the abandonment wound lives in the body and what it looks like to heal.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me he...
2023-12-171h 13
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit56 - How to Get Over Body Image Issues (But Really) - We're breaking that bond between appearance and self esteem.Look. Our culture is bonkers when it comes to body image. There is no escaping the constant pressure to check a myriad of aesthetic-related boxes (thin, tall, young, blah blah blah), and it can feel like we can't really start our lives until we've [*insert prerequisite to living life here: lost 10 lbs, gotten clear skin, had a facelift, etc. etc.*]. And (FYI) if we've experienced trauma, we're at a greater risk of experiencing body image trauma, so. Fuck. How do we relinquish that need to control how people see us? And how do we heal that part of us...
2023-12-031h 03
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit55 - Don't Trust Men? - We're getting into how to trust men and how to open your heart to love (of all kinds) with those masculine types.Anyone else find themselves talking about men like they're a terrifying alien species? There's obviously a lot of cultural rhetoric around distrusting men ("men are dogs," "a good man is hard to find"), but even the quip is rooted in trauma. So when we're out there trying to heal from [*insert numerous possible traumas here: assault, betrayal, abuse, systemic misogyny, being over-sexualized, etc.*], and the trauma seems to get stacked one on the other in real-time—in our own lives *and* in the world around us—where do we even begin? In this episode, I welcome The Heartbreak Doula Tati...
2023-11-201h 15
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit54 - Got Regret for the Past? - We've got the tea on how to stop worrying about past mistakes, how to let go of regret and guilt, and (this is huge) how to see the whole situation differently.Regret can absolutely take us down. It can diminish our resilience, hope, and faith in life. BUT—cool fact—it can also be a key tool in retrieving the parts of our authentic selves that we've lost along the way. In this episode, I welcome Renee Tate back to the pod to help us understand the ways we work through the pain of regret, and the ways we tap into the power of regret.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:
2023-11-201h 00
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit53 - How to Overcome Victim Mentality - It's time, babe.Here's my stance: Sometimes we just ARE victims. There's no way around it. But sometimes we're coming from a place of "victim" or powerlessness without even knowing it—it's just a loop leftover from childhood that's still going on repeat, and it has us showing up as if we don't have choices, as if we have no agency, as if people or the world is out to get us, or as if it's all just too hard. This pattern is a true bummer because it holds us back in so many ways. In this episode, I welcome somatic behavioral th...
2023-10-261h 02
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit52 - Mother Issues Symptoms Got You Down? - We're healing the mother wound stat.It's a big mamajama. The pain of not having a mother or caregiver who was present, tender, affectionate, wise, kind, warm—it becomes SUCH a pain source in our lives, seeping into our relationships, our ability to connect, our sense of self, our ability to open to abundance—you name it. In this episode, I welcome intuitive guide Bridget Nielsen to walk us through the impact of such a profound wound, and what deep healing can look like.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to c...
2023-10-251h 32
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit51 - Feeling Stuck in Life? - What to do when you feel powerless, bc ain't nobody got time for that.Ughhhhh there are so many ways we can feel stuck—stuck in jobs, stuck in relationships, stuck in a situation that won't just go TF away, or even stuck in our own compulsive behavior that we can't seem to get a grip on. Behind that is such a deep sense of powerlessness, and for those of us who experienced chronic trauma, that powerlessness is second nature. In this episode, registered clinical counselor and psychotherapist Zara Neukom joins me to help us get to the root of these cycles and provide clarity on how to heal and get ourselves unstuck....
2023-10-251h 24
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit50 - Trauma Bonding Recovery Is Here! - How to heal from trauma bonding like a champ.It's my 50th episode!!! [*Insert many emojis*] Thanks to everyone for coming along with me on this trauma ride—we out here healing! This week, I welcome clinical psychologist Dr. Lindsay O'Shea to the show to talk us through healing from trauma bonding in childhood and adult relationships—what those bonds look like, how they impact our mental health and attachment styles, and how we reclaim ourselves and leave these toxic cycles. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:I...
2023-09-101h 29
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit49 - Recovering from Religion - We're releasing shame from religious trauma (amen, honey).Thank you for your patience! So many listeners have requested this topic. In this episode, I welcome Patruama Party listener and trauma-informed health coach Brittanie Pope to talk to us about her trauma being raised in the church—from disassociation, to shame, to losing trust. I also welcome licensed marriage and family therapist Willow Katz to the show to talk us through finding your center again, releasing shame, and learning the value of authenticity. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here...
2023-08-271h 16
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit48 - Q+A! - We're digging into how to end a situationship, how to stop negative self-talk, and something for the cinemaphiles...In this episode, I answer questions about situationships, chronic negative self-talk, and my favorite movie!If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are provided for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you need to speak with a professional, you can find one local to you and reach o...
2023-08-131h 15
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit47 - Dealing with Suicidal Thoughts? - Feeling suicidal is common, and so is passive suicidal ideation—you're not alone, and help is here. We got you.Anyone else want to crawl into a hole when this topic comes up? It is SO vulnerable and SO painful to talk about the times we've had suicidal ideation, but it's actually pretty common, and if you suffer from CPTSD, it's even more common. In this episode, I welcome my dear friend and the founder of yoga and wellness platform Coincide, Courtney Higgins, to have a real, honest conversation about what it looks like to go into that space, how we can work with those thoughts, and how we can help our friends who are having suicidal ideation. Also...
2023-07-301h 16
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit46 - Are You Setting Healthy Boundaries? - Setting boundaries at work is hard, setting boundaries with family is harder (and the list goes on!). Let's get change the pattern, bb.Boundaries are literally THE life lesson. Like, if we learn nothing else before parting with this earth, let us learn what the hell healthy boundaries are and how tf we maintain them. In this episode, I'm joined by consciousness guide Pam Curran to talk us through her take on healthy boundaries, why "You suck" is not a boundary (womp womp), and how we maintain what she calls "soul esteem" in our quest for healthy boundaries and healthy relationships. PLUS, she introduces the toxic communication pattern of DARVO to the pod. BLEW MY MIND. Here's a case study in case...
2023-07-161h 15
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit45 - Taking Things Personally - Wondering about hypersensitivity and how to stop taking things personally? You've got questions, we've got answers.Turns out we all do it and turns out it's no buens. Not only does it make us feel like shit, but it also puts a huge strain on relationships. Not to mention the fact that sometimes taking something personally can lead us to deep depression and suicidal ideation. In this episode, I welcome marriage and family therapist Renee Tate back to the pod to talk about why we do it, how it impacts our lives, and how we heal. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here....
2023-07-011h 19
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit44 - Feeling Invisible Much? - Being heard and feeling seen is a non-negosh in relationships, baby. Let's get healing.Cool fact: One time when I was like 16, I painted a girl looking terrified while someone covered her mouth with their hand so she couldn't speak. WHAT?? I'd forgotten about it completely until I was recently combing through old photos and was like: WOWWWWW this is f*cked. So many of us grew up feeling like we were invisible, powerless, and voiceless, and then we grew up and came to feel exactly the same way—it impacts our relationships, our communication, everything. In this episode, I welcome licensed clinical social worker, spiritual herbalist, and tarot reader Nat Strafaci to th...
2023-06-181h 24
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit43 - Emotional Flashbacks from CPTSD - There's no healing from complex trauma and PTSD without addressing the emotional flashback sitch—let's do this.We're not talkin' nostalgia, baby! Emotional flashbacks happen when we experienced ongoing abuse as children, and then we get a whiff of that experience as adults, (like, maybe you hear people yelling in the apartment next door or someone takes a long time to text you back (in the case of neglect or abandonment)) and suddenly our emotional state is F*CKED. The crazy thing is how often we have these flashbacks *without ever knowing that that's what's happening*—and instead of taking care of our post-traumatic stress, we go into a shame spiral thinking we're fucked up and cr...
2023-06-031h 12
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit42 - Healing Emotional Neglect - Stumped on how to heal childhood emotional neglect? We get it, and we're changing that ish for good.Emotional neglect! Just rolls off the tongue. It's a fun form of trauma that doesn't get the fanfare it deserves (all y'all out there searching CPTSD and anxious attachment style while emotional neglect is just over here alone in the corner ). But seriously—it's a tough topic to talk about because it's the *absence* of a thing. It's what *didn't* happen. And so it often goes unnoticed and unhealed, when actually the effects of emotional neglect go SUPER deep and show up all over our lives. In this episode, I welcome back intuitive healer and coach Jess Taylor to ta...
2023-05-201h 14
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit41 - Healing the Father Daughter Wound - Get in, cuties, we're healing the father wounds that broke your heart.DEEP BREATH. Let me just start by saying, I HATE the term "daddy issues." It's SO sexist and misogynistic that men abuse their daughters, and then women become the ones who are shamed for it. So if you're feeling stigmatized for struggling emotionally because of your relationship (or lack thereof) with your dad, please know that you can let go of that shame. You aren't responsible for the abuse visited upon you, AND—when we're hurt right at the center of us—it's imperative that we get honest about how it's impacted us so that we can grow out of t...
2023-05-071h 13
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit40 - Looking for Happiness Outside Yourself? - NBD, just not sure how to find happiness in yourself. MVP life hack comin' atcha.Sigh. We've all done it. We do it all the time. We do it in our relationships, in our search for relationships, with body image, in our careers: "If only I had this thing, I'd be happy. I'd be okay." Such a fuckin bummer. In this issue, I'm joined by somatic therapist and NLP coach Michelle Keinan to get to the root of why we do this and what it looks to heal so that we can finally feel whole within ourselves.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy...
2023-04-231h 06
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit39 - It's Healing Financial Trauma 'o Clock - The trauma of poverty, the trauma of money—it sticks with us in a lack mentality. Let's wave baiii & get that abundance mindset going.It already sucks to be broke, but for a lot of us, there's a lot more to money trauma than that. There's the feeling that you're not safe, the feeling that God or The Universe has abandoned you, the feeling of depression associated with money scarcity. In this episode, I welcome trauma psychologist and leadership coach Isha Vela to the show to talk about the connection between money trauma and relationship trauma, the somatic approach to understanding money fears, and how we heal our relationship to money. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading...
2023-04-081h 05
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit38 - Intermittent Reinforcement in Relationships - Intermittent reinforcement abuse is a total mind-f*ck—we're breaking free, bestie.Hold up, wait a minute! [Insert Salt 'n Pepa rap] DO YOU KNOW ABOUT INTERMITTENT REINFORCEMENT??? It basically explains why we get stuck in relationships with people who treat us like human ball sacks! You guys. It's science. It's real. Lab rats were involved. And we HAVE to address it if we want to find relationships (romantic, platonic, professional—you name it) that actually meet our needs and make us happy. (Pro tip: Are you anxiously attached? Yes? Then you're even MORE likely to stay in relationships that involve intermittent reinforcement.) In this episode, I welcome licensed therapist and yo...
2023-03-251h 03
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit37 - The Trauma of Weaponized Guilt - Guilt trip manipulation in relationships gotcha down? That ish is no joke—let's heal it.Turns out there's healthy guilt (like when you realize you need to apologize for something) and unhealthy guilt (like when your parents make you feel like shit for holding them accountable). When guilt is weaponized against us, especially as children, it can turn into shame, and shame can—and WILL—turn into a whole clusterfuck of mental health bummers. In this episode, I welcome psychotherapist Allison Ly to the show to talk us through reclaiming a healthy relationship to guilt.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want...
2023-03-121h 13
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit36 - Dating Trauma: Being Ghosted, Being Single - Dating sucks, real talk. But there *are* healing strategies and hot tips (aka hawt tips, swoon).Literally how does anyone survive dating—it's truly the worst. And if you're insecurely attached, it's straight up a minefield of triggers waiting to take you down. Then there's the alternative: never dating anyone—also terrible!! In this episode, I welcome somatic psychotherapist and coach Felicia Keller Boyle (@the_bad_therapist) to get into peak dating nightmare: BEING GHOSTED! (dun Dun DUN!) alongside the trauma of being single for like, ever.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:Insta...
2023-02-261h 12
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit35 - Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness - Wondering how to stop jealousy in a relationship, how to deal with jealousy with friends, etc.? Get in, baby, we're shifting that sh*t.Mmmmm... that cool feeling that you're gonna claw someone's eyes out and smile while doing it. Jealousy sucks. It makes us feel powerless, and insecure, and it brings up all our shit. In this episode, I welcome licensed clinician Andrea Brognano to talk about why jealousy feels so shameful, what lies underneath it, and how we heal. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this...
2023-02-1258 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit34 - Got a Phobia of Men? If a fear of men (aka androphobia) and toxic masculinity is coming up, this epi's for you.We're mixing things up! This week, I welcome the creator and host of the Other Men Need Help podcast, Mark Pagán, onto the show to join me in a conversation about the deep and enduring bummer that is toxic masculinity. We talk about objectification, shame, hyper-independence, the male ego—and get into what's helped us work through the pain points so we're not sitting around traumatized af (and traumatizing others as a result).If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here. Want to connect? Find me here...
2023-01-291h 25
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit33 - Suffered from a Traumatic Shock? - The symptoms of psychological shock go DEEP, hunny. Let's get you out of the shock and anxiety loop and into thrive mode.Truly, shocks should be illegal unless they involve large sums of money mysteriously appearing—NO FUCKING THANK YOU to shocking violence, betrayal, death, life transitions—the list goes on. In this episode, I welcome therapist, artist, and soft boi amateur poet Solasta McIntyre to the show to get into how shocks impact our mental health, the way shock and grief work together, and how we move through shocks without shutting down and telling the world to ef off forever. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to...
2023-01-151h 16
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit32 - How to Fix Trust Issues - Shaking your fist at the sky, asking, "How do you get over trust issues and find betrayal trauma recovery??"—then this one's for you.TRUST: WTFFFFFF. Like what? You can believe a person is 100% on your team while they just straight up lie to your face?? WHY DOES THIS GET TO BE AN OPTION?? In this episode, I'm joined by licensed professional counselor and CEO of Apple Tree Counseling LLC, Michelle Kauble, to talk about how betrayed trust impacts our mental health, what we do with the heartbreak of broken trust, and how we can work with trust in healthy ways as we let those traumatizing relationships and situations fade our rearviews.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart...
2023-01-011h 20
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit31 - How to Overcome Perfectionism - Comin' atcha: How to love yourself unconditionally and stop beating yourself up over mistakes.Turns out perfectionism can look all kinds of ways, including not doing anything because you won't be perfect at it! It's honestly a total mind fuck that keeps you in situations you don't like and exhausted from all the effort. (It will come as no surprise that perfectionists were pretty much always exposed to some kind of trauma early on.) In this episode, I talk with marriage and family therapist Robyn McKenzie about what it looks like, why it happens, and how we fix it (but like, not in a perfectionism way, just in a chill, super-gentle-with-ourselves way).
2022-12-181h 15
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit30 - Learning to Trust Yourself - Self-trust evading you these days due to people pleasing, parentification, or narcissistic abuse? It's time to heal, hunny.It should be easy, right? We just ask ourselves what we want or what we feel, and voila! But for a lot of us, that gauge got effed up somewhere along the way. So, after we've made a decision we regret, after we've become knee-jerk people pleasers, after we were gaslit for years and came to doubt our instincts, after parentification, narcissistic abuse, or other CPTSD-inducing forms of abuse—how do we start to trust ourselves again? How do we make decisions in our own best interest? This week, registered psychotherapist, and founder and clinical director of New Moon Ps...
2022-12-041h 34
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit29 - Got a Fear of Vulnerability? - It's a fun 'lil package: fear of abandonment, fear of rejection, fear of opening up—it's so real, but it's also possible to heal it (phew!).Vulnerability is literally the lifeline between you and all joy, and yet, simultaneously, it's fucking TERRIFYING AND TRAUMATIZING. Wth?? In this episode, Doctor of Clinical Psychology and The Anti-Soulmate Love Coach, Kari Lu Cowell (email: antisoulmatelove@gmail.com), joins me to sort through how we work with vulnerability in ways that feel safe for us, what it looks like to trust *ourselves* with vulnerability, and whether anger is really a secondary emotion that we hide our vulnerabilities under or if it's just another gateway to connection (OR BOTH). ALSO! The book Kari was thinking of is called Eloquent Rage...
2022-11-201h 11
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit28 - How to Let Go of Resentments - Not sure how to forgive someone who hurt you emotionally? or if you even should?? We're working with the feels so you feel better.Ever feel like drop-kicking people? and then rolling their bodies into a kiddie pool of dog poo? and then spraying them with a firehose every time they try to get out? and then yelling, "You look great!" while taking their picture? Then this one's for you, baby. In this episode, I welcome licensed marriage and family therapist Neda Ehya to the pod to talk about working through—and working *with*—resentments. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:Instag...
2022-11-051h 15
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit27 - Healing Parentification II - Parentification trauma & emotional parentification: huge bummers—let's dive in & heal.Just when you thought you'd learned all there was to know... In this episode, psychotherapist Amanda Ichihashi Jagerman joins me to dive back into the conversation on parentification: how it affects our attachment styles, the impact it has on our central nervous system, and how, as adults, we can interact in a healthy way with the parents who parentified us. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provid...
2022-10-231h 38
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit26 - Healing from Betrayal - The effects of betrayal on the brain & the symptoms of betrayal trauma are no joke—let's address that ish and recover, bestie.Literally betrayal is just a fucking nightmare. Cheating, lying, backstabbing—they just send you into a new, shit reality where suddenly there's no ground beneath your feet. But did you know that from a psychological standpoint, child abuse is also considered betrayal?? And that it can set you up to allow betrayals (of all kinds) into your life as an adult? That's just one of many things that mental health therapist and licensed clinical social worker Emma Bridges and I cover in this episode, along with how it affects our attachment styles, what self-limiting beliefs we create to survive it...
2022-10-091h 16
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit25 - Healing the Feeling That You're Too Much - "Why do i feel emotions so deeply? Why am I so overly emotional?" We've all asked ourselves those questions, now we're healing the beliefs behind 'em.It's honestly a very chill feeling. It's like: I'm too much. My feelings are too big. They make people reject me. And so I'll never be loved! Cool cool cool. In this episode, I welcome marriage and family therapist Sarah Breunig back to the pod to talk about transforming out of the heartbreaking belief that we're too much.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on...
2022-09-251h 22
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit24 - We're Healing from Parentification FRFR - Call it what you want—older sibling syndrome, spousification, a huge bummer—the effects of parentification in adulthood are no joke, so lets fkn GO.Parentification and emotional incest are considered "invisible" forms of abuse because they often go unnoticed, but the repercussions are, to be frank, a huge bummer. In this episode, I welcome psychotherapist Amanda Ichihashi Jagerman to walk us through what parentification is, how it affects us as adults (cough *no boundaries* cough *lack of identity* cough *depression* cough cough), and how we get on the path to healing from it. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail...
2022-09-111h 33
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit23 - What Is Complex PTSD & How Do We Heal It? - C PTSD symptoms suck—this epi's like a fun-size complex ptsd treatment for all the homies looking to heal.So there's PTSD (you've probably heard of it), but there's also Complex PTSD—where you experience trauma over months or years. It's like PTSD for overachievers (*sob emoji*). In this episode, I sit down with marriage and family therapist Renee Tate to talk about the symptoms of Complex PTSD and how we shift out of that toilet bowl of sadness.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provide...
2022-08-281h 22
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit22 - Fawn Trauma Response Cramping Your Style? - Nothing says "I had an abusive childhood" like having the fawn response in adulthood—let's get you back to your inner badass, baby.We all know fight or flight, some of us know freeze—but did you know about fawning? It's a whole new way to respond to trauma (weeeee!). It usually starts in childhood when we learn from our parents or caregivers that it isn't safe to say no, assert our needs, or fight back. Then we bring it into adulthood and—lo and behold—we can't stand up to people, even people who abuse us (*collective "fuuuuckkkk"*). In this episode, I'm joined by psychotherapist Liz Marks to talk about healing the fawning trauma response.If you'd like a one-on...
2022-08-141h 10
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit21 - A Lil Internal Family Systems Healing Journey - Internal family systems theory (IFS for short) is here to heal shame & fear, babyyyy. Meet our cute 'lil Internal Family Systems podcast epi.Did you know we have different personalities (aka "parts") in our heads battling it out with each other and our "selves" all the time?? In this episode, IFS therapist Carissa Aresta joins me to talk about Internal Family Systems—what it is, how it works, and how we use it to dismantle shame and fear and get on the self-love train—plus she demos for us! Side note: I cry in this epi!! You've been warned.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect...
2022-07-311h 02
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit20 - Wondering How to Do Shadow Work? - You've got shadow work questions, we've got answers. Welcome to your healing era.OOF. One of the hardest things in working on yourself is being like: Maybe this is actually about me? In this episode, I'm joined by somatic Enneagram coach and co-host of The Enneagram Typecast podcast, Caryn Berley. We get into what the shadow is, how it shows up personally and culturally, and how we work with it so it doesn't work us.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe inform...
2022-07-171h 08
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit19 - Not Feeling Safe? - If feeling safe emotionally hasn't made your bingo card in a minute, let's get into it—why you feel unsafe and how we shift it.TW: This episode talks about physical assault. Feeling unsafe from childhood, feeling unsafe in your body, feeling unsafe in your country—it's all fucked, and it can affect every single aspect of your adult life. In this episode, I'm joined by intuitive healer and coach Jess Taylor to talk about the root of feeling unsafe and what we can do to shift it.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.com
2022-07-031h 11
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit18 - Feeling Unwanted Sucks - Feeling unlovable often starts with some form of child abuse, and that sh*t sticks with us—let's get you feelin' yourself again.Nothing like showing up to the party of life with the overwhelming feeling that people don't really love you! So cool, so chill. In this episode, I get down into the depths of feeling unwanted, unloveable, and disposable with psychotherapist Solasta McIntyre (therapywithsme@gmail.com).If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only. None of the material presented...
2022-06-191h 29
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit17 - The Trauma of the Patriarchy - NBD just trying to maintain sanity in a patriarchal society that gets off on violence and domination! Let's call this BS out and rewire for healing, y'all.Did you know the patriarchy is the root of capitalism (ie your rent doubling overnight and forcing you to post TikTok vids of yourself crying while packing), colonialism (sup Puerto Rico! sup Hawaii!), misogyny (mmm.... a spiritual organization teaching us that women are evil! so spiritual right now! and totally unrelated to our insane rape statistics and maniacal abortion laws!), and white supremacy (shout out to ICE for sterilizing brown women at the border without their consent! shout out to every police officer who's shot an unarmed black person—AND THEN GOTTEN AWAY WITH IT). The patriarchy isn't an ab...
2022-06-051h 25
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit16 - Let's Talk About Healing After Loss - Coping with grief is capital "p" Painful. We get into the different types of grief (aka the stages), grief symptoms, and the integration process.Grief can look so many ways—from chronic childhood pain, to breakups, to the recent loss of Roe v. Wade. In this episode, I'm joined by psychotherapist Kevin Brody to talk about integrating grief and allowing joy after a significant loss.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a...
2022-05-221h 15
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit15 - Oh Hi, Transgenerational Trauma - Healing intergenerational trauma is A LOT—the cycle of trauma is so real—but so is the support, starting now.Even if you weren't around for a traumatic event, you could still be experiencing aspects of the trauma that have been passed down from generation to generation. In this episode, I'm joined by marriage and family therapist Renee Tate to talk about how intergenerational trauma works and how we heal it.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational pur...
2022-05-081h 09
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit14 - How to Fix Anxious Attachment Style - Healing anxious attachment is the real deal, baby—those anxious attachment triggers are no joke! Let's get you feeling secure.What's up to all my anxiously attached homies! WOW is it a bummer to constantly fear abandonment in all our relationships. BUT—cool fact: Like the other insecure attachment styles, anxious attachment can be healed. In this epi, I'm joined by psychotherapist Rachel Holzberg to talk about how we move toward secure attachment and away from the despair and loneliness of anxious attachment. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe inform...
2022-04-2455 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit13 - Parent Rejection - Hop in, we're taking on family rejection trauma and parental rejection.The first eight years of your life are the most important in wiring your brain and establishing how you feel about yourself and the world around you. If you felt rejected by your parents, that wiring will stay with you for the rest of your life (NBD, just forever) unless you actively work to unlearn the coping mechanisms you took on as a child. In this epi, I'm joined by psychotherapist Liz Marks to talk about the different, sometimes subtle ways parental rejection can look, how it shows up in our lives as adults, and how we can let...
2022-04-101h 13
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit12 - Toxic Shame Gotcha Down? - Treat your shame spiral to a therapy moment.This week, I'm joined by Manhattan Wellness associate therapist Eliza Davis to get into shame—how it gets passed down, how to know you're experiencing it, what it does to the body, and how to work your way out of that shame spiral of doom. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe contents of this podcast are for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is inten...
2022-03-271h 04
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit11 - Narcissistic Abuse Recovery 2 - If you've been a victim of narcissistic abuse, let the healing commence. Again.Narcissism #2! 'Cause it's a doozy. Therapist Jon Lee rejoins the pod to go even deeper in the discussion of healing from narcissistic abuse, covering topics like implicit memories and reflexive responses after narcissistic abuse, overcoming perfectionism, internal fragmentation & compartmentalization, healing techniques that go deep, and more. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only. None of the material pr...
2022-03-131h 26
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit10 - Healthy Boundaries - Not sure how to set boundaries? (Woof, we get it.) Setting boundaries in relationships is a real doozy, but it's 100% doable.UGH, why is it so scary to set a boundary?? In this episode, I talk with therapist Jennifer Teplin of Manhattan Wellness about healing that fear at the source so it stops effing up our lives.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, co...
2022-02-2758 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit9 - Been Dealing with Rejection? - If you've been wondering how to get over fear of rejection in romance or that sting of relationship rejection—look no further.Romance can be a minefield, let's be honest. In this episode, I'm joined by marriage and family therapist Jasmine Eddy to unpack the trauma of romantic rejection.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. If you need t...
2022-02-1345 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit8 - Narcissistic Abuse Recovery - If you've been a victim of narcissistic abuse, let the healing commence.Ever encounter a narcissist? What a monumental shitshow that is. In this episode, I talk to trauma therapist Jon Lee about the traits of narcissists and people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the trauma of cultural narcissism, and healing from narcissistic abuse from parents and partners. Please Note: I mistakenly misgendered Jon during the recording; Jon's preferred pronouns are they/them.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provid...
2022-01-301h 03
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit7 - How to Heal from Codependency - Recovering from codependency is hard as hell, but it's also a non-negotiable for our sanity, so let's fkn go.Sometimes we're coming from a codependent place and we don't even know it! And if you grew up in a dysfunctional household, chances are you took on codependent behaviors just as a means of survival. In this epi, I'm joined by marriage and family therapist Sarah Breunig to talk about healing the trauma of codependence.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podc...
2022-01-161h 09
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit6 - The Anxious Avoidant Relationship Trap - Chasing emotionally unavailable people is an exhausting hamster wheel—let's get you off.This week, I dig into the massive bummer that is the absolutely MAGNETIC attraction between people with anxious attachment style (generally, people who feel super anxious about relationships and connection) and avoidant attachment style (generally, people who are emotionally unavailable for relationships and connection). I'm joined by artist, therapist, and disco lover for life Solasta McIntyre (therapywithsme@gmail.com) to look at why we do what we do, what's behind the dynamic, and how to heal.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to conne...
2022-01-021h 17
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit5 - Literally How to Feel Happy - It's not just about how to be positive, it's about restoring faith in humanity & the goodness of life—let's do it.For traumatized folks, it can feel like life is a predator, and you are the prey. In this episode, I sit down with therapist, writer, and spiritual mentor Liz Hummer to talk about regaining faith in the goodness of life when your anxious brain is wired for fear and despair.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes...
2021-12-191h 06
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit4 - Are You a Depressed Mother? - Motherhood can be HARD. If you're a struggling mom, let's talk about it (and get you support!).Real talk: Motherhood can be SO. EFFING. HARD. In this episode, I dig into the trauma of motherhood with the founder and CEO of Mothership Rising, Laura Emanuel. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. If you...
2021-12-051h 10
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit3 - We're Healing from Toxic Positivity - In a world of spiritual bypassing and spiritual narcissism, we're getting our heads right (with just the right amount of woo for us).From affirmations to visualizations to gratitude lists, manifestation culture (*cough, The Secret, cough cough*), has been making anxious and traumatized people feel like doomed spiritual invalids for A MINUTE. In this epi, I talk with intuitive healer and manifestation coach Jess Taylor (soulhealingwithjess.com) about manifestation for people who try to visualize a flowing stream but end up visualizing a car crash instead (weeeee!!!).If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.com...
2021-11-211h 02
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit2 - Growing Up with a Borderline Personality Parent - Having a borderline mother or father while your brain is developing is *intense* (understatement)—let's get you some help.Unpredictable rage, emotional enmeshment, lack of boundaries. This week, I dig into the trauma of being raised in chaotic environments— specifically with parents who have Borderline Personality Disorder—along with therapist, writer, and spiritual mentor Liz Hummer.If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, cou...
2021-11-071h 03
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammit1 - Legal Discrimination & Mental Health - We're digging into Texas abortion law SB8 & self-care around laws designed to attack us (not chill for the 'ole mental wellbeing, let's just say).This week, I welcome psychotherapist Julia Willinger to talk about Texas' new anti-abortion law, SB8, and mental health hacks for laws that target us. If you'd like a one-on-one coaching session, birth chart reading, or tarot reading with Remy, go here.Want to connect? Find me here:InstagramTikTokEmail: patraumaparty@gmail.comThe information provided on this podcast is for informational purposes only. None of the material presented is intended to be a substitute for psychotherapy, counseling, professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. If you need to speak with a profession...
2021-10-2456 min
The Patrauma Party - Heal from trauma, improve self worth, and learn to love yourself, dammitIntroWho, what, why, and all the things.
2021-10-1712 min