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Reuben Recommends#23: Navigating Stressful Relationships - Drama Triangle (Transactional Analysis) - Live TalkThis is a recording of a live talk I gave at a tech company called Kaluza. If you'd like to book me to give a talk at your company or charity you can reach me on reubenwachs@gmail.comEverything I talk about is linked below:RESOURCESCounselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan ChatterjeeThe Stress Solution - Dr Rangan ChatterjeeStutz - Netflix Yoga with Kassandra playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0...2023-12-1435 minReuben RecommendsQ&A from live talk at KaluzaEverything I talk about is linked below:RESOURCES Counselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan ChatterjeeThe Stress Solution - Dr Rangan ChatterjeeStutz - Netflix Yoga with Kassandra playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTwHow to deal with anxiety - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&t=149sHow to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - https://www.youtube.com...2023-12-1409 minReuben Recommends#22: How To Reduce Stress and Be Happier - Live Talk at CAEHey I hope you all enjoyed the talk I gave at CAE Technology on Point. Here is the list with everything I mentioned in the talk:RESOURCES:4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan ChatterjeeThe Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee Stutz - Netflix Yoga with Kassandra playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTwHow to deal with anxiety - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&t=149sHow to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks...2023-02-2849 minReuben Recommends#21: Why I Do VeganuaryHappy 2023 everyone and I hope you enjoy the video! After watching, if you're interested at all and you’ve got any questions such as, why not just vegetarian instead of vegan? Or where do you get your protein from? Then please feel free to message me and ask You can find the things I mentioned below: The Game Changers - Netflix Earthling Ed’s Ted Talk - Arguments Against Veganism - Youtube A Meat Eater’s Case For Veganism - Youtube Gousto Sending you all big love!2023-01-1105 minReuben Recommends#20: Top Recommendations for 2023 - Books, Films, Series, Ideas, Fun Facts and QuotesHi and welcome to the Annual Reuben Awards where I give you my top recommendations for 2023! Here is everything that is mentioned in the podcast!Best Non-Fiction No bad parts - Richard Schwartz Stolen focus - Johann Harri Best Fantasy Lord of the silver boy (Troy) - David Gammel The Blade Itself - Joe Abercrombie Sci-Fi Speaker of the dead - Orsen Scott Wells Best Comedy/enjoyable Book And away… - Bo...2022-12-2130 minReuben Recommends#19: Your Emotions, Anger, Acceptance, Receiving Compliments, Feedback, Not JudgingWelcome to my first edition of What Have I Learned This Month?In this episode, I talk about:Limits on your emotionsThe importance of releasing angerThe power of the groupAcceptanceReceiving compliments How it can only takes a couple times to become much more comfortable with somethingFeedbackNot judging othersI hope you enjoy!2022-11-2234 minReuben Recommends#18: The Top Idea In Your Mind, The Most Important Thing In Your Life, PerfectionismToday I discuss Paul Graham's blog post 'The Top Idea In Your Mind' and how what we naturally drift to in the shower is more important than you thinkI also spend a few minutes covering perfectionism and our journey as human's and therapy clientsSubscribe to know when the next monthly episode comes out I hope you enjoy!2022-10-0322 min
Truth & TranscendenceEp 49: Reuben Wachs Guest Host - Blame, Accountability, Facilitating Growth & Building ResilienceBlame, Accountability, Facilitating Growth & Building ResilienceIn this episode my friend and ‘podcast buddy’ Reuben Wachs interviews me. We explore how I came to be the coach and facilitator I am today, and the part played by my early childhood exposure to bohemian alternative living. We discuss resilience - what it is, why it’s especially important today, and how we might develop it. This is a lovely episode for anyone who would like to understand more of the ‘hidden secrets’ of humanistic psychology.Reuben started his career working in music, running underground music events...2022-07-011h 12Reuben Recommends#17: Catherine Llewellyn - Building Resilience, Facilitating Growth, Accountability and BlameIn today's episode with Catherin Llewellyn, we talk about:Blame When we hold other people accountable for our sufferingWhen we need everything to be right to feel joy?How people learn from who they decide to learn from How to facilitate others growth And building resilience I hope you enjoy!You can find Catherine's work and contact details at:Website: Yesyounow.todayPodcast: Truth & Transcendence E-book - What is Humanistic Coaching and Why do we Care? https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Humanistic-Coaching-Why-Care-ebook/dp/B01...2022-06-011h 11Reuben Recommends#16: Doing a 'Should' Detox Exercise - Live with Amy GuerrierIn this episode Amy takes us through an exercise called a Should Detox. Working on how we speak to ourselves and others can drastically change our lives and I think you'll all enjoy what Amy brings here. You can find her at www.wholeheartedaf.comor at wholehearted.af on instagramEnjoy!2022-05-1626 minReuben Recommends#15: Amy Guerrier - The Importance of Choosing Joy and PlayToday we're talking about why you should consider choosing joy and play in your everyday decisions and in your weekly and monthly plans. Play is a fundamental way that we create joy in our lives and it is often one of the fastest ways into creating great relationships. I believe that this is an essential part of life that we miss out on when talking about our health and happiness and I was glad to hear Amy's thoughts on how to bring it more into our lives. Amy Guerrier is a play facilitator and practitioner, as...2022-05-041h 09Reuben Recommends#14: How Trauma Impacts Therapy, Projection, Shame, Projective Identification, Sexual Abuse*Disclaimer* - Talk of childhood sexual abuse in this episode. Please take care of yourself if you feel that this may bring up things for you. This recording is from a presentation I gave on my counselling training about the impact of trauma in the therapy room. In it I discuss:TraumaShameTreatmentSplittingDissociationand Projective Identification. I hope that the episode is useful2022-04-0132 minReuben Recommends#13: Nicholas Malin - The Unspoken Silence of Men’s SufferingThis week we discuss the unspoken silence of men's suffering. We cover a ton of ground and we really hope that you enjoy the episode. To find out more about Nick and his fantastic events, you can find him on facebook at:Brothership Connection: https://www.facebook.com/groups/668263904528233/and at his website: https://www.nicholasmalin.com/online-group-work/The two books I recommend are:Under Saturn's Shadow by James Hollis and The Truth by Neil Strauss Enjoy!2022-03-011h 43Reuben Recommends#12 - The Annual Reuben Awards - 2021Welcome to the first Annual Reuben Awards. Here is everything that is mentioned in the episode!Best Non-Fiction Book:Becoming Myself: A Psychiatrists Memoir by Irvin YalomBest Fiction Book:Schopenhaur’s Cure by Irvin YalomWhen Nietzsche Wept Irvin YalomMonma and The Meaning of Life: Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom Best Comedy Book:Round Ireland With A Fridge by Tony HawksMost Useful Book:A Complaint Free World by Will BowenOveral best Book:The Schopenhauer Cu...2022-02-0124 minReuben Recommends#11: The Impact Of Change On Relationships, Why We Should Want To Change OthersHi everyone, I have decided to share my live appearance on the Delightful Dissent Podcast with Matthew Bellringer. In this podcast we discuss the accusation of 'you've changed' and also how we should desire people to change. We also cover how we should be using the eastern view of compassion and acceptance to bring about positive change. I hope you enjoy the conversation!2022-01-0159 minReuben Recommends#10: How to Help Someone Who Doesn't Want HelpIs it possible to help someone who doesn't want help? In today's episode I am going to share with you some ways that will hopefully shed some light on this idea. I cover: Why they may not want to get helpHow to communicate with them through the LEAP methodWhat to do when you finally offer helpand How to work on yourself to improve your chances Thanks to Dr Xavier Amador and his book I Am Not Sick, I Don't Need Help for the amazing work. Enjoy!2021-11-0148 minReuben Recommends#9: Recommending Irvin Yalom, The Lazarus Heist, Ted Lasso & Bo Burnham's InsideIn this episode I recommend: Becoming Myself by Irvin YalomWhen Nietzsche Wept by Irvin YalomThe Lazarus Heist podcastTed LassoInside by Bo Burnham Funny Dreams podcastand then I share two fun facts and two lovely quotes. Have a wonderful October2021-10-0126 minReuben Recommends#8: pt. 2/2 - Your Script Pattern and Drivers - (Transactional Analysis)Hey there, a reminder that this is the second half of the Life Script podcast, so if you haven't had a chance to listen to that first, I'd highly recommend you jump back to episode #7 and then you'll be able to enjoy this one even more. In the second half of Life Scripts, we cover the 6 script patterns of:UntilAfterAlwaysNeverAlmost 1 & 2Open EndedAnd the 5 main drivers:Be PerfectPlease OthersBe StrongTry HardHurry UpI...2021-09-0138 minReuben Recommends#7: pt. 1/2 - Understanding Your Life Script - (Transactional Analysis)Here it is! 2 months in the making but hopefully worth the wait! In this episode we go on a journey into understanding your Life Script through Transactional Analysis. I use the book TA Today to guide us through the understanding and exercises and I hope that through this you will understand yourself better and increase your awareness for your own patterns that you follow. In the podcast I talk through: What is the Script?The Script in adult lifeLife positionsInjunctions & Counter-InjunctionsYour Script process& DriversI...2021-09-011h 13
Delightful DissentYou've changed? - Reuben WachsEver been told in accusatory tones that "you've changed"? Had a sense that your desire to change things for the better - for yourself and others - is a personal failing? That by growing and developing it feels like you've somehow let someone down.
Join me and Reuben Wachs as we explore the tension between acceptance and development, and what happens when "you've changed". We'll look at how much control we have over change and what happens when we do. We'll see how we influence the direction of change in positive ways without forcing it. We'll share...2021-08-191h 00Reuben Recommends#6: When you're in your Parent, Adult or Child Ego-State - (Transactional Analysis)Today we're talking about a core counselling and psychology theory: The Ego-States. Please note: I am using the book TA Today by Stewart & Joines to base my understanding of the theory and therefore I use examples and quotes throughout the podcast. I don't cite throughout however, otherwise it would interrupt the flow. If you would like to learn more then I highly recommend buying the book. In this episode we go into: 1. The basics of Parent, Child, Adult and why it’s applicable in therapy and in life.2. Splitting each of the pa...2021-07-011h 01Reuben Recommends#5: Nicholas Malin - An Introduction To Jungian Shadow WorkWelcome everyone to my first interview, with the wonderful Nicholas Malin. In this episode we talk about: The Basics of What Is The Shadow How Does it Often Turn Up Why We Need to Integrate The Shadow ProjectionHow to Spot the ShadowHow to Work on the ShadowNick also leads us through an exercise and a 6 minute meditation at the end. I hope you enjoy this conversation and you can find Nick at: https://www.facebook.com/nic.malinhttps://nicholasmalin...2021-05-151h 32Reuben Recommends#4: The Philosophy of Creating Happiness, Finding Meaning & Should We Want to Change People?Welcome to the big philosophical chat about knowing when you're struggling, happiness, meaning and whether we can and should want to change the people around us. Including 2 new jingles for you! Philosophy Rap: https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/philosophical-flow/s-5wOKLKmwgcnExercise Break: https://soundcloud.com/reuben-wachs/exercise/s-vUrwCDd5UKzHere is everything mentioned in the podcast:Viktor Frankl - Man's Search For Meaning: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/4069.Man_s_Search_for_Meaning?ac=1&from_search=true&qid=1HF3dPZ6TF&rank=1Bertrand Russel - Conquest...2021-05-031h 02Reuben Recommends#3: Are You Codependent? & Why We Do The Things We DoResources Mentioned:Facing Codependence by Pia MellodyBootcamp For The Brain by Derren BrownVideo: https://www.redbull.com/us-en/videos/from-avoriaz-with-love-speedriding-valentin-dellucIt took a few seconds to load, so just click it, wait & full screen! In this episode I talk about what codependence is and how it can play a part in your relationships. I also go into Derren Brown's new audible series, which looks at how the brain works through behavioural economics. Lastly, I share some lovely quotes and some fun facts! I hope you enjoy part 2...2021-04-1920 minReuben Recommends#2: Your Internal Family System and How To Think In PartsHey everyone, In this episode I focus on Internal Family Systems Therapy and I explain how using this in your life can be incredibly beneficial for yourself and those around you. (Small trigger warning: I talk about concepts that may make you self reflect on past events. If you’d rather not do this, then don’t worry and it’s fine to just skip this episode) Books mentioned: Internal Family Systems by Richard SchwartzThe Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haigt-Part 2 will be coming out in two we...2021-04-0137 minReuben Recommends#1: Recommending Yalom, Philosophy, Psychotherapy, Negotiation, Feminism and AbuseAll links mentioned: https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-site/post/1-yalom-philosophy-psychotherapy-negotiation-feminism-and-abuse-quotes-and-factsHey everyone, I hope you enjoy today's podcast which recommends two books, four podcasts, a hilarious video and a wicked series for you to enjoy over the next month. I also finish with a couple powerful quotes and two great new facts. I love sharing resources as I believe they can have a hugely positive impact on people's lives as they have done for me. If you have any questions, recommendations or thoughts on the things mentioned in the podcast, please reach...2021-03-0124 minReuben RecommendsTrailer: Reuben RecommendsHey, my name is Reuben Wachs and I am a trainee counsellor and a lover and sharer of audio content and books. On Reuben Recommends, I will be sharing my favourite books, audiobooks, podcasts and videos of the last month. Plus, I’ll be sharing my favourite quotes and facts. For any links mentioned, please visit my blog: https://reubenwachs.wixsite.com/my-siteTo keep track of my ongoing reading, you can follow me on Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/89300378-reuben-wachsTo contact me with any questions, recommendations or whether yo...2021-02-2501 min