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Overcoming Betrayal & AddictionRegaining Trust After RelapseIn this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami answer participant questions about sex, intimacy, addiction, betrayal, and more. They offer resources for therapeutic separation, communication at every stage of recovery and reconciliation, and tools for practicing empathy with betrayed partners. TAKEAWAYS: [:24] Does my partner need to see a psychoanalyst first to get honest about his past? [4:28] What resources are available for communication building in the later stages of recovery and reconciliation? [9:17] How can I work to regain trust after recent relapses? [13:35] How do I...2025-05-0852 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionShould I Stay or Leave?Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami answer participant questions about the importance of combining sex and drug addictions in treatment and recovery, the danger of staying stuck in the rage phase, and who you have control over in healing and recovery (it’s you and only you!). TAKEAWAYS: [:55] Does ‘vanilla’ porn really affect our relationship? I don’t believe it’s hurting my partner. [5:53] What are the major differences between sex addiction treatment/recovery and drug addiction treatment/recovery? [12:25] The importance of tackling both sex and drugs in addiction treatment and recovery...2025-03-2053 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionHow Can I Rebuild Trust?Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami answer participant questions about the challenges of rebuilding trust in a betrayed relationship and the importance of focusing on what you can do as a betrayed partner instead of focusing on what your addict partner can’t or shouldn’t do. TAKEAWAYS: [1:40] My reluctant, betrayed spouse has been gone for a year. How can I approach them about my behavior? [6:43] I feel like I’m seeing the world through a different lens in recovery. Is this typical? [10:33] How can I better understand my partner’s damage and...2025-03-1355 min
The Industrial Talk Podcast NetworkRobert Weiss with MultiVision DigitalIndustrial Talk is onsite at FABTECH and talking to Robert Weiss, President of MultiVision Digital about "Media is essential for your long-term success".
Scott MacKenzie hosts the Industrial Talk Podcast, featuring industry professionals like Robert Weiss from Video for Manufacturing. They discuss the importance of strategic video marketing in manufacturing. Robert emphasizes the shift from ad hoc video production to a planned, integrated approach that aligns with business objectives, such as SEO and sales goals. He highlights the effectiveness of FAQ videos over corporate overviews for better ROI. They also stress the importance of showing human elements in videos to bu...2025-03-0517 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionRecovery On the SpectrumIn this week’s Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Dr. Rob Weiss answers participant questions about spectrum disorders, personality disorders, honest therapeutic disclosure, and the importance of involving qualified professionals in diagnosis and recovery. TAKEAWAYS: [1:08] What are the key differences between the compulsion of a sex addict and OCD? [6:08] The danger of self-diagnosing personality and mood disorders. [11:51] Is the treatment the same for hypersexuality and sex addiction? [16:50] How can my partner have an honest therapeutic disclosure if he doesn’t remember what he did? [20:23] The importance...2025-02-271h 02
Sex, Love, and AddictionQ&A with Rob and Tami: When Do I Need Help for My Addiction?Dr. Rob and Tami share what a couple can expect when they sit down and talk with Dr. Rob in person or over Zoom when they are ready to address their infidelity and addiction issues. How do you know if a residential treatment is right for you? What do you do when your spouse still continues to lie to you after formal disclosure? All these questions answered, and more!
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[0:45] How long does it take to rewire a porn-addicted mind?
[4:50] Addicts think, ‘they can’t live without this’ but when they take a pa...2024-10-1536 min
FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or BetrayalSex Addiction & Betrayal With Dr. Robert Weiss of Seeking IntegrityDr. Robert Weiss, the founding director of Seeking Integrity LLC, dedicated his career to understanding and treating sex addiction. If your partner struggles with any addiction, or you are concerned they might, this show provides vital guidance that will benefit you both. After all, whether or not infidelity is involved, addiction is still a betrayal.
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Idleness of Threats: Dr. Weiss underscores the importance of following through on ultimatums, especially when dealing with addiction. Empty threats can undermine your stance and lead to being taken for granted. If you promise to take action i...2024-09-081h 05Sex, Love, and AddictionPart 2: Why Do Addicts Love to Gaslight?Dr. Rob continues his discussion with Josh Nichols on some of the common tactics addicts and abusers use to gaslight their victims. In this episode, Josh focuses on the person who is receiving the gaslight treatment. Whatever you might be going through, there is no shame in staying with your addict. Sometimes the best thing for your family is to work through the issues, and sometimes the best thing for your family is for you to leave. Each case is individual to the person, but the most important thing you should know is that you’re not crazy and th...2024-07-3126 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Why Do Addicts Love to Gaslight?Dr. Rob talks with Josh Nichols about common gaslighting tactics addicts and manipulative people tend to use. We like to think the world might be full of these calculating abusers, but often times these tactics are used as a knee-jerk reaction and come from a place of survival. Today, Josh offers some tips on how to spot a gaslighter and what you might be feeling from some of their gaslighting actions.
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[2:10] A little bit about Josh and why he wanted to talk about gaslighting.
[2:55] What’s the difference between gaslighting and l...2024-07-1827 min
Salesology® - Conversations with Sales Leaders095: Robert Weiss - Video Rules!Guest: Robert Weiss Guest Bio: President of MultiVision Digital, a New York video production and video marketing company, that provides the full spectrum of video strategy, video production, and video marketing services. Having produced over 1,500 videos since their inception, MultiVision Digital's holistic approach has allowed clients to increase sales, and lead generation, improve SEO rankings, and increase awareness and client loyalty. Key Points: Transition from Sales to Video Marketing: Robert Weiss shares his journey from a sales background to becoming the president of MultiVision Digital. Insights on how hi...2024-06-0330 minSex, Love, and AddictionWhat Does Female Sex and Love Addiction Look Like?Heather Cronemiller and Lacy Bentley join Dr. Rob to talk about female sex addiction and the damage it can cause families. Both Lacy and Heather share their personal experience with being the ‘other woman’ and how, despite it going against everything they believed in, they still continued down a path of destruction. When it comes to any form of addiction, what we're really fighting against is deeply broken attachment wounds. Find out more on today’s episode.
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[2:40] A little bit about Lacy and how she got introduced with Dr. Rob.
[3:20] A little...2024-05-0355 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2: Voices of Hope For, and By, Women Who Have Been BetrayedAnnie and Melissa are two women who have experienced deep marital betrayal in their relationship. The signs weren’t always clear as to what was actually going on, but when the wool had been pulled over their eyes, the amount of emotions, judgment, and pain they experienced took a long time to recover from. This episode is part two of these two women sharing their very personal story of how they found out about their husbands’ addictions and how they got through it.
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[3:15] Hindsight is 20/20. These are real and raw emotions and unfort...2024-03-1648 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Voices of Hope For, and By, Women Who Have Been BetrayedAnnie and Melissa are two women who have experienced deep marital betrayal in their relationship. The signs weren’t always clear as to what was going on, but when the wool had been pulled over their eyes, the amount of emotions, judgment, and pain they experienced took a long time to recover from. These two women share their stories and also share why they decided to stay with their husbands and support them in their addiction.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:15] Today we hear from two women who have gone through painful marital betrayal.
[2:45] Why did t...2024-03-1543 minSex, Love, and AddictionGoing to Therapy Doesn’t Have to Be Impossible with Jason VanRulerJason VanRuler is a therapist, coach, speaker, and author dedicated to impacting those who make an impact. His first book, Get Past Your Past, is all about establishing a mindset of emotional health and resilience to find lasting wholeness. In this episode, Jason shares his personal self-development journey, why going to therapy is so difficult for so many people, and why our natural inclination is to hurt others; intentionally or not.
TAKEAWAYS:
[4:15] A little bit about Jason and how he became a therapist.
[10:10] Due to Jason’s rough upbringing, he knew he had...2024-02-1544 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2: Porn, What’s The Big Deal? with Dr. Sandra ShacharSandra A. Shachar, Ph.D., is a Licensed Psychologist in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and has over thirty years of clinical experience working with individuals, couples and families affected by Betrayal Trauma. She is also the author of The Porn Solution, which dives into the world of betrayal through porn use and what partners can do to navigate themselves through it. In this episode, Dr. Sandra talks about PTSD, intentional listening to your partner, and how to regain your partner’s trust.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:50] How could I compete with a porn star?
[3:40] Women feel like...2024-02-0827 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Porn, What’s The Big Deal? with Dr. Sandra ShacharSandra A. Shachar, Ph.D., is a Licensed Psychologist in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, and has over thirty years of clinical experience working with individuals, couples and families affected by Betrayal Trauma. She is also the author of The Porn Solution, which dives into the world of betrayal through porn use and what partners can do to navigate themselves through it. In this episode, Dr. Sandra talks about the definition of betrayal, why porn affects so many people, and why it’s okay to ask for your needs to be met.
TAKEAWAYS:
[3:20] Is porn cheating?
2024-02-0134 minSex, Love, and AddictionBONUS: Am I Just Having Fun, or Is This a Full-Blown Addiction?Dr. Rob and Tami break down the gray area between just having fun, being “at-risk” for an addiction, and being a full-blown addict. It can be difficult to define the line fully when you’re in the middle of a “good time.” Dr. Rob offers various considerations for you to think about to determine whether you’re barely teetering the line or if you’re in a bad and unsustainable place.
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[:35] I believe my partner is a narcissist and a sex addict. He’s hurting me but I can’t seem to walk away. How can...2023-12-2133 minSex, Love, and AddictionDiscover and Connect with Your Own Inner Voice Again with Lucy BeresfordLucy Beresford hosts LBC Radio’s Sex and Relationships show and she’s the author of 4 books, including the global best-seller Happy Relationships. She works as a psychotherapist at The Grace Clinic, London and from time to time at The Delhi Psychiatry Centre in India under Dr. Sunil Mittal. In this episode, Lucy talks about refinding your voice again after a betrayal, how to create a deeper connection with a partner, and what are the steps forward if you continue to stay in a marriage that had a betrayal in it.
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[5:00] Lucy shares...2023-11-3053 minSex, Love, and AddictionHow to Heal After a Betrayal: Dr. Monique Thompson on Navigating InfidelityDr. Monique Thompson is a Psychotherapist in Dallas, Texas. She has seen over 1,000 couples in her counseling practice over the years and now shares tips and tools for couples to help recover from infidelity. She recently wrote a workbook for couples who are looking to recover from infidelity and shares her industry insights with Dr. Rob on today’s episode. After infidelity, many couples are unconsciously going to war with one another. Dr. Monique shares how you can get back to peaceful territory once again.
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[3:40] Why did Dr. Monique decide to write a bo...2023-11-1646 minSex, Love, and AddictionFoundation of Hope: The 12 Steps Way to Healing from Trauma with Dr. Jamie Marich and Dr. Stephen DansigerDr. Jamie Marich is a facilitator of transformative experiences. A clinical trauma specialist, expressive artist, writer, yoga teacher, performer, short filmmaker, Reiki master, TEDx speaker, and recovery advocate. Marich has taught conscious dance seminars at various conferences nationally, internationally, and online, and has trained more than 500 facilitators in the Dancing Mindfulness practice. She is also the author of several books including the original Trauma and the 12 Steps.
Dr. Stephen Dansiger is a master EMDR therapist and provider of EMDR Basic Training and Advanced Topics Courses with the Institute for Creative Mindfulness, and has helped set up...2023-09-2855 min
Everyday Oral SurgeryNavigating the Craniofacial Fellowship Pathway: Insights on Admission, Motivation, and Career Opportunities, with Dr. Robert WeissCompleting a fellowship requires major time and resource commitments, but for many, the benefits in terms of knowledge, expertise, and career opportunities outweigh the investment.Join us as we explore the fascinating world of craniofacial surgery and fellowship opportunities with Dr. Robert Weiss, a distinguished Oral and Maxillofacial Surgeon practicing in Kansas City. Dr. Weiss shares his journey, from childhood to joining the Facial Surgery Group, and reveals what motivated his specialization in pediatric craniofacial surgery. Discover the significant role his fellowship played in shaping his career, the challenges of balancing family life with fellowship demands, and...2023-09-2744 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2: Couples, Conflict and Resolution with Dr. Stan TatkinDr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, and developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice. In this episode, Dr. Stan discusses the 5 things that break a relationship apart, how to recover from a betrayal, and how to live a pro-relationship life.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:45] How do you recover from a betrayal?
[6:00] In a society, we are forced to grow up for...2023-09-0731 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Couples, Conflict and Resolution with Dr. Stan TatkinDr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA, and developed the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice. In this episode, Dr. Stan discusses what really is the glue that keeps relationships together, why they are so messy, and how you can better define it with the person you love.
TAKEAWAYS:
[3:50] Let’s talk about conflict in a relationship.
[5:05] What do people...2023-08-3137 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2: Sex + Porn Addicts Share About Their Healing Journey with Dr Rob, Larry and JayDr. Rob continues his discussion with Jay and Larry, two men in recovery, to help people understand that addiction is a lot more complex than it seems on the surface. The opinion you have of yourself can keep you stuck in destructive patterns. It’s so important to consciously put yourself in healthy and positive environments, like in a recovery or group program, if you ever wish to break free from the power of addiction.
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[2:00] Larry had this internal dialogue going through his head, “This is just who you are.”
[3:20] Larry’s w...2023-08-1725 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionI’m Sober But I Still Get Turned On by My Own BodyDr. Rob and Tami discuss whether a listener is truly living a sober life. The listener asked if it’s okay to masturbate to pictures of their own body now that they’re sober from porn. Dr. Rob weighs in on his interesting thoughts on the matter. Dr. Rob also answers questions about when is a good time to initiate intimacy with a SA, and much more. TAKEAWAYS: [:45] My addict is doing “borderline” sketchy behavior but hasn’t actually done anything or crossed a line. Should I be mad? [7:10] I’m a female SA i...2023-08-0334 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Sex + Porn Addicts Share About Their Healing Journey with Dr Rob, Larry and JayDr. Rob speaks with two people in recovery, Jay and Larry, about their addiction and the type of damage it has caused their families. Jay and Larry also talk about why they felt comfort in their addictions and how their lives have been improved now that they are sober and aware of their problem.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:25] Why did Jay seek help and go to treatment?
[4:15] Jay was frustrated that he couldn’t fix himself on his own.
[5:25] Larry shares his experience with addiction.
[6:05] Larry was so afraid of conn...2023-08-0334 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionShe Hates My Past. How Can I Support Her?Dr. Rob and Tami offer advice from a husband who has betrayed his spouse. Although he’s been sober for 22 months now, his wife still feels so hurt by his past actions. He automatically wants to be on the defensive when she’s upset, but can’t. What are some of the best ways he can comfort his wife? Dr. Rob and Tami share different approaches to help this couple move forward and toward healing. TAKEAWAYS: [:25] My spouse and I each have our own therapists. Does it ever make sense for us to meet wi...2023-07-2830 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionI’m Not Ready to Tell My Spouse I’m an AddictDr. Rob and Tami answer a question from someone who is “white knuckling” their recovery. They’re not leveraging their resources to the fullest because their recovery and journey to sobriety are still in secret. Dr. Rob and Tami explain why this isn’t considered a healthy path to long-term recovery, despite being sober. TAKEAWAYS: [:50] I really feel like his recovery journey is too good to be true. Is he really progressing, or is it all still a lie? [9:45] I am 100 days sober, but my wife doesn’t know about my addictions...2023-07-2133 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2: Support Groups for Adult Children of Alcoholics with Gary SeidlerDr. Rob speaks with Alcohol Counselor Gary Seidler about the long-term effects children experience when living in an alcoholic home. Gary and Dr. Rob talks about trauma, the importance of storytelling and the ability to vocalize some of your unique experiences with addiction, and they offer clarification on what is considered a true addiction in this week’s episode.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:45] At the root of every addiction, there is some form of trauma.
[4:25] What is the difference between big T and little T trauma?
[7:30] More and more people are talking about...2023-07-2039 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Support Groups for Adult Children of Alcoholics with Gary SeidlerDr. Rob speaks with Alcohol Counselor Gary Seidler about the long-term effects children experience when living in an alcoholic home. What happens to these children when they become older? Should children know about their parent’s substance abuse and sex addiction issues? And what should adult children be aware of now that they’re no longer in an alcoholic home? All these questions and more are answered on this week’s podcast.
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[3:55] A little bit about Gary and his work in the mental health field.
[5:55] Why did Gary pursue this work with...2023-07-1340 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionMy Husband Publicly Exposes Himself for FunDr. Rob and Tami talk about sex offenders in this week’s episode and how to work with someone who exposes themselves to people non-consensually. The listener admits that her husband has been exposing himself in public parks for a number of years and is concerned that there is no hope for this person in recovery. Dr. Rob and Tami talk about how you begin to work a recovery program as a sex offender. TAKEAWAYS: [:50] Will my spouse unlearn his toxic masculinity while in recovery? [4:00] Can you explain a little bit more...2023-07-1329 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionWhy Is My Addict Such a Liar?!Dr. Rob and Tami talk about compulsive liars in this week’s episode and the reasoning behind someone who can’t seem to tell the truth. If you are a betrayed spouse to someone who regularly lies and deceives, it can be hard to understand why lying can be the go-to safety mechanism for protection. Dr. Rob explains further in this episode why some addicts just can’t stop lying. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Why is sex addiction not about sex? [3:35] I had a relapse and my partner is fed up. I want to build t...2023-07-0627 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Religion and Spirituality in Recovery with Jason Swilling MDivDr. Rob invites Spiritual Counselor and Pastor, Jason Swilling, on to the podcast today. Jason works with Dr. Rob at the Seeking Integrity clinic. It doesn’t matter what religion you believe in, or do not believe in, this is a great podcast episode for anyone who wants to understand their connection to a higher power and what that might mean for you. It doesn’t matter if you are Muslim, Christian, or even an Atheist, Dr. Rob and Jason have some answers for you.
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[2:05] A little bit about Jason and how he fou...2023-06-3043 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionHe Just Doesn’t Care About Sobriety. Can An Addict Ever Recover?Dr. Rob and Tami discuss if it’s possible for an addict to get better when he/she shows all the signs of not putting in the work. Will this person ever wake up to the reality of the pain that they’re causing friends and family? And if not, what can the partner do to protect themself from this situation? Dr. Rob and Tami answer all of this and more. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] I’m on my last hope with my partner. Will he ever get sober? [5:35] The path to recovery is bumpy...2023-06-2929 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionCan My Children Inherit This Addiction Disease?Dr. Rob and Tami talk about whether your children can become addicts if there’s been generational evidence that addiction and disorders run in the family lineage. The listener also asks if it makes sense to Dr. Rob and Tami to disclose their spouse’s addiction to their grown children to warn them about this disease being hereditary. This can be a bit of a complicated question to answer, but Dr. Rob and Tami do a deep dive into ways to approach this subject. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] I want to help him heal, but I can’t...2023-06-2229 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionIf They Really Knew Who I Am, They Would Leave MeDr. Rob and Tami answer a question on whether you can become “cured” of narcissism. Narcissism is very common among addicts, especially early in recovery. It’s important to note that there is a path forward to becoming a more empathic person, but there is a specific process to work through to achieve it. In this week’s episode, Dr. Rob and Tami explain that narcissism is often born from deep insecurity and offer important reasons why you should stay sober. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] I think I’m working with a narcissist. Is there a cure? 2023-06-1534 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionHow to Set Healthy Boundaries with Your AddictDr. Rob and Tami answer questions from listeners about setting healthy boundaries and what that might look like. You should never feel compelled to do something just to appease the other person, especially if they’re on a path to recovery. When you set a boundary, it’s not for them, it’s a way to take care and protect yourself. Dr. Rob and Tmai explain more in this week’s episode. TAKEAWAYS: [1:00] I want to help my addict hear, but I don’t know how. What can I do to support him? [3:3...2023-06-0829 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionCan You Cure Narcissism?Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from an addict that is struggling with their own narcissism. Can this condition truly be cured? In this episode, Dr. Rob and Tami explain what a narcissist is and why so many people in recovery have narcissistic traits and qualities. TAKEAWAYS: [:45] How do you work with narcissists? [3:35] Dr. Rob explains how you can work on breaking out of your narcissistic mold. [5:30] Part of recovery is being 100% honest. If you’re honest, your narcissism will get better. [7:55] During the early stage of...2023-06-0134 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionWhy Can’t I Get Past the 9th Step?Dr. Rob and Tami help someone going through the 9th step process and are currently struggling to reconcile with their wife during this process. His partner still feels incredibly hurt and he is wondering how he can make amends while also soothing her. Dr. Rob and Tami give insight on what living amends really means. TAKEAWAYS: [:35] Do addicts also suffer from fertility issues? [6:00] Whatever you’re ashamed of, tell your doctor. You won’t get the help you need unless you’re honest with them. [6:10] He needs to be sober f...2023-05-2530 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionWhen Do I Know It’s Time to Completely Separate from My Addict?Dr. Rob and Tami walk through someone who is struggling to figure out whether they should pour more energy into their loved one or if they should finally make the tough decision to separate. Dr. Rob understands that the listener wants to make sure they’ve exhausted all their options so that they can leave the relationship ‘with no regret’, but he explains why that’s not always the best approach. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Should I stay or should I go? [2:45] I want to make sure I’ve exhausted all possible options before I leave my ad...2023-05-1930 minSex, Love, and AddictionThe Road to Forgiveness with Dr. Rob WeissDr. Rob joins this week’s podcast in a solo episode to talk about the concept of forgiveness. The truth is, there is no true deadline or timeframe as to when you should forgive someone for all the hurt and damage they’ve caused you, so how do you move forward? Dr. Rob shares the stages of forgiveness and offers context and support on why you might still be resentful and/or revengeful towards the person that hurt you the most.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:30] How do you forgive someone you do not trust?
[3:45] Many p...2023-05-1140 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionCan I Learn How to Be Intimate Again?Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from someone who is struggling to be intimate with their life-long partner. As an addict, it is so much easier to act out and live in a fantasy than live in reality. The reality is, we often do not know how to connect and build real relationships when we’re in active addiction. Dr. Rob and Tami share how you can break this toxic cycle and build true and meaningful relationships now that you’re sober. TAKEAWAYS: [0:25] How do I get over cravings as a chemsex addict...2023-05-0533 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionI’m an Addict and I’m Attracted to My Female CoworkerDr. Rob and Tami dive into what should an addict do if they’re working around the opposite sex. Obviously, quitting is not always an option nor does it solve the core problem. Dr. Rob offers advice on how to set healthy boundaries with female coworkers and how to ensure you’re still respecting your spouse in this entire process. TAKEAWAYS: [:35] Should my husband remain abstinent for 90 days? [6:00] What is a love addict? [8:55] It can take two years to really have a good and intimate connection with someone. [1...2023-04-2729 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2: Dr. Jessica Higgins: How Do You Learn to Forgive?Dr. Jessica Higgins is a licensed Psychologist with two graduate degrees in psychology and today she continues her discussion around forgiveness in part two of this episode. Dr. Rob and Dr. Jessica talk about why expressing vulnerability is not a weakness but an opening to a better relationship future, how to recover after a conflict and speak your peace, and why emotional unavailability and lack of connection tend to be more painful than the actual act of cheating in itself.
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[1:30] It is possible to communicate healthy agreements on what is acceptable and un...2023-04-2727 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Dr. Jessica Higgins: How Do You Learn to Forgive?After a huge betrayal, it can be nearly impossible to come back to the center and find forgiveness. Some couples are ready to move forward and to forgive, but they keep getting stuck in the negative patterns of their betrayal, hurt, and distrust. Is there a healthy way to move forward? Should you even forgive in the first place? Dr. Jessica Higgins is a licensed Psychologist with two graduate degrees in psychology. She explains how you can move through these emotions and reach a place of repair within your relationship in this week’s episode.
TAKE...2023-04-2028 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionI’m in Recovery, but My Partner Is in Active AddictionDr. Rob and Tami answer a question from someone who is in recovery, but their partner is not. Is there hope for this relationship? Dr. Rob breaks down why you have to focus on your own journey if you want to get the most out of your sobriety. Maybe your partner will come around, maybe not. Dr. Rob and Tami explain what this means for you. TAKEAWAYS: [1:05] How can I get over the betrayal and his relapse? [7:00] One session once a week is just not going to cut it. [10:30] M...2023-04-1927 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionI’m in Recovery and I Still Have No EmpathyDr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a man who is struggling to find honesty and empathy during his journey through recovery. His therapist believes he should dive into his childhood traumas, but he’s unsure of the reasoning behind it. Dr. Rob explains that the way we feel as a child is how we treat our spouses when we grow up. So, if we felt unworthy of love, unseen, or completely ignored, we will do the same to those that are closest to us. TAKEAWAYS: [1:05] I’m trying to meet a long...2023-04-1828 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionI’m So Hurt. How Do I Even Begin to Process the Betrayal?Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed partner on how to process through everything that has happened to her. She has found out about her addict’s affairs and isn’t sure how to process or begin the journey of healing. Dr. Rob and Tami share some tips to get the process jumpstarted. TAKEAWAYS: [1:05] I’ve been betrayed and my therapist tells me I need to process through the betrayal. What does that even mean? [7:00] Dr. Rob was getting a massage and he started crying. Sometimes “processing” means just that.2023-04-1835 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2: Financial Infidelity and Career Suicide: Can You Recover? with Debra L. KaplanAfter a successful career on Wall Street, where issues regarding sex, money, and power are legendary, Debra L. Kaplan merged her fascination with narcissism, sex, power, and control with her studies in psychology. Debra’s book, For Love and Money, became the inspiration for her groundbreaking clinical work. In part 2 of this episode, Debra continues her discussion around infidelity and money, how to heal after a financial betrayal, and what compromise looks like.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:00] The way a couple handles money is how they handle other issues in their relationship.
[4:35] What should coupl...2023-04-0627 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionMy Brother-In-Law Intentionally Triggered My PTSD. Do I Disown the Family?Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed spouse that experienced sexual assault when she was younger. Her SA partner’s brother was being very disrespectful and chose not to listen to her wishes/boundaries and intentionally triggered her PTSD. When you’re in a situation where you’re with mean or rude family members, what should you do or focus on? Dr. Rob and Tami share their thoughts and advice. TAKEAWAYS: [:25] I have performance anxiety and ED issues due to chemsex. How should I communicate this to my urologist? [4:20...2023-04-0127 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Financial Infidelity and Career Suicide: Can You Recover? with Debra L. KaplanAfter a successful career on Wall Street, where issues regarding sex, money, and power are legendary, Debra L. Kaplan merged her fascination with narcissism, sex, power, and control with her studies in psychology. Debra’s book, For Love and Money, inspired her groundbreaking clinical work. In this episode, Debra talks about the connection between money and our trauma, what the conversations around money mean, and how money is the biggest reason for our relationship's demise. TAKEAWAYS: [2:00] A little bit about Debra. [4:10] We argue about money, but underneath all of that we arg...2023-03-3038 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionHe Watches Incest Porn. Are My Children Safe?Dr. Rob and Tami answer a heavy question from a listener about whether she should be concerned that her husband is around their children after he revealed some of his porn preferences. Dr. Rob weighs in on his thoughts and what you should do when you find out your addict has been watching very disturbing and “not normal” porn. TAKEAWAYS: [:25] My husband suffers from depression and it’s starting to drag me down. How can I better support myself and him? [3:30] Dr. Rob shares a self-assessment to confirm whether your husband has dep...2023-03-2734 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionHis Sexual Fantasies are Out of Control and It’s Turning into Sexual AbuseDr. Rob and Tami answer a listener's question who feels very stuck and hopeless. She feels trapped because it seems the aggression in sex with her addict is getting worse and worse. He has intense sexual fantasies throughout the day and wants to keep acting out with them. Is there hope for someone like this? TAKEAWAYS: [:35] I have performance anxiety. I can’t seem to perform now that I’m sober. [2:20] Intimacy is scary. How do you talk about your performance anxiety? [4:45] My SA husband has relapsed and then slipp...2023-03-1530 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionMy Addict Doesn’t Trust Me! The Audacity. He Thinks I’ll Cheat Back.Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a very upset listener. Her partner is accusing her of being unfaithful after the discovery because he feels she will just want to cheat back after finding out about everything this man has done. She is furious that this man is projecting his insecurities onto her. Dr. Rob and Tami share how this woman can protect herself, heal herself, and move forward from this projection. TAKEAWAYS: [:50] Should my SA husband be treated for OCD? [4:45] I keep thinking I don’t actually want to be...2023-03-1531 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionShe Had a Ring On, and He Respected It. Yet He Still Cheated in Our Marriage.Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a very hurt spouse. Her husband has found himself sexually attracted to amarried woman, and although he was honest with her, she can’t understand why he’ll respect the marriage of a stranger but not his own marriage. What’s going on with this person? Does he have so little care about their own marriage? Dr. Rob and Tami share some insights. TAKEAWAYS: [:25] My SA has no empathy. Is this fixable? [4:40] How do I know if my addict truly wants to change? [1...2023-03-0733 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionHe Cheated. Was My Entire Marriage a Lie?Dr. Rob and Tami share some light into why an addict might betray their spouse’s trust. Was the last 40-plus years of marriage all a lie? The answer is no. Addicts are deeply broken people and, although this is not an excuse, they show love in very puzzling and misguided ways. Dr. Rob and Tami offer some understanding and insight into why an addict might think, and do, the things that they do. TAKEAWAYS: [:25] How do I respond to my addict when he says I don’t appreciate him enough? [9:00] My SA...2023-03-0728 minSex, Love, and AddictionThe Ripples Effects of Adult Children of Sex Addicts with Dr. Ken AdamsDr. Ken M. Adams began his professional career in 1981 treating children, adolescents, and their families. In 1985 he began private practice with the Children of Alcoholic Parents program, an outpatient program for the treatment of adults who had grown up in alcoholic families. He is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT), a CSAT supervisor, and CSAT training facilitator as well as an EMDR practitioner. In this episode, Dr. Ken gives an overview on what an enmeshment relationship looks like, his latest book catered specifically for adult children of sex addicts, and talks about how to recover from a broken home. 2023-03-0243 minSex, Love, and AddictionAddiction: Nature or Nurture? with Dr. Evelyn HigginsDr. Evelyn Higgins is the Founder and CEO of Wired for Addiction. She is a recognized expert in addiction and has 25 years of clinical practice as well as dedicated over 16 years of research and development in the science of addiction recovery. In this week’s episode, Dr. Higgins talks the environment vs. genes and how it shows up in addiction, explores the idea of an ‘addiction cure’, and so much more on this week’s episode.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:00] A little bit about Dr. Higgins.
[4:20] What is considered an addiction?
[6:35] No one sets o...2023-02-2346 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionMy Betrayed Spouse Thinks I’m Disgusting. Can We Reconcile?Dr. Rob and Tami get a question from a SA who is experiencing a lot of shame and distress in his current relationship. After disclosing to his wife all the betrayals and hurts he has caused her, she is having a hard time adjusting to this new-found information. She has expressed that she thinks he’s disgusting for having certain sexual preferences. Is there any hope for him to reconcile and have a loving relationship again with his wife? Dr. Rob and Tami offer some insight into what’s really going on. TAKEAWAYS: [:25] How d...2023-02-1630 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionThe Opposite of Addiction Is Healthy AttachmentDr. Rob and Tami answer a question from someone who is struggling with their ambivalent emotions against their addict. Dr. Rob senses this betrayed spouse has too much investment in the addict and not enough care or compassion for themselves. It’s important as a betrayed partner to practice self-care and to get a support group for your journey also! TAKEAWAYS: [:25] My SA has had a couple of slips since his recovery. Is this normal? [6:25] You don’t have to be nice when he is hurting you! [9:25] Here are some...2023-02-1536 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2: Addiction , Mental Health, and Psychology with the President of the Society of Addiction Psychology. Dr. Aaron WeinerDr. Aaron Weiner, Ph.D., ABPP is a board-certified Psychologist and addiction specialist and speaks nationally on the topics of addiction, behavioral health, and the impact of drug policy on public health. In this episode, Dr. Aaron talks about childhood trauma, whether addicts are inherently bad people and the pain that people often hold deep down that they’ve suppressed and compartmentalized.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:11] Why does relapse even happen? If the addict really loves me, why can’t they just stop?
[3:10] Your betrayed partner is hurt, but they love you and they don’t...2023-02-0937 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionHelp! I Want to Relapse!Dr. Rob and Tami understand that when you’re going through recovery and begin hitting milestones, you start to question why you’re really doing all of this. The journey to recovery is often hard and challenging, but it is worth it. If you’re starting to get that itch to relapse, you need to connect with your community. There is so much healing in your community! TAKEAWAYS: [:35] I’m relapsing on porn due to work stress and anxiety. How do I fight back? [5:50] What are you currently doing to enjoy more of y...2023-02-0230 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1: Addiction , Mental Health, and Psychology with the President of the Society of Addiction Psychology. Dr. Aaron WeinerDr. Aaron Weiner, Ph.D., ABPP is a board-certified Psychologist and addiction specialist and speaks nationally on the topics of addiction, behavioral health, and the impact of drug policy on public health. His perspective is informed by years of experience growing and directing addiction service lines for hospitals and healthcare systems, the current state of medical and psychological research, and his own observations in private practice. In this episode. Dr. Aaron talks about process addictions and how they differ from substance addictions.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:40] A little bit about Dr. Aaron and his career.
2023-02-0232 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionOne Month Sober and I Want to Flip Tables and End It AllDr. Rob and Tami understand that when you're going through recovery and begin hitting milestones, you start to question why you’re really doing all of this for. The journey to recovery is often hard and challenging, but it is worth it. If you’re starting to get that itch to relapse, you need to connect with your community. There is so much healing in your community! TAKEAWAYS: [:35] I’m relapsing on porn due to work stress and anxiety. How do I fight back? [5:50] What are you currently doing to enjoy more of...2023-01-3131 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionMy Boundaries Keep Getting Violated. Do I Need to Just Accept It?Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a listener who seems to have their boundaries constantly pushed and violated. If you feel like you have to accept something unacceptable, take a step back and remind yourself that you don’t! Dr. Rob and Tami offer some perspective on this situation. TAKEAWAYS: [:40] What’s the difference between a trauma therapist vs. a trauma coach? [4:35] You should always get the most qualified person to help you through your issue or problem. [6:20] My partner keeps worrying that I will relapse. What can I...2023-01-2632 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionHe Emotionally Abuses Me, Is He a Sociopath?Dr. Rob and Tami talk about whether someone can be a sociopath as well as a sex addict. This betrayed partner is being verbally abused and is wondering if the addict is suffering from some sort of disorder. Dr. Rob and Tami get real and share why someone might just be plain abusive and not have sociopathic tendencies. TAKEAWAYS: [:40] My partner gets triggered and I never know what to do. How can I help her? [4:30] Can I get my betrayed partner to also help him/her manage my triggers? [7:40] I...2023-01-1928 minSex, Love, and AddictionWhen You Put in the Work, You Will See the BenefitsDr. Rob and Tami talk about how betrayed spouses can take care of themselves, especially if their addict is not showing up in a way that they need to. They also answer a question from an emotional man, who has been in recovery for the last two years, and use it as a showcase on why recovery really does work when you put in the work. When you commit 100%, you will see the results.
TAKEAWAYS:
[:45] My SA husband never wants to have sex. What gives?
[6:10] As a betrayed partner, you need to...2023-01-1927 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionMy Addict Keeps Accusing Me of Cheating. I'm Not! What?!Dr. Rob and Tami answer a troubling question from a listener. Her husband is accusing her of cheating and he even called her a nasty name because he found out someone had a high school crush on her over 40 years ago. What is going on with this person? He’s the one with the addiction, not her, so why is she getting so much heat? Dr. Rob and Tami dive into what might be causing such a phenomenon. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] I need to get organized. I need some sort of structure. How can I do...2023-01-0923 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionHow Does Addiction Affect The Family Unit?Dr. Rob and Tami explain to the listeners how addiction has ripple effects on family dynamics. Many addicts think they’re great parents to their children, but that could not be further from the truth. If you’re not a great partner to your spouse, you are causing ripples of trauma not only in the way they show up but in the way your children are parented. Dr. Rob and Tami explain how addiction affects more than just the addict in this week’s episode. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] How does sex addiction affect the family and the...2023-01-0924 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2 - Healing Work, Healing Home, Healing Me with Doug TiemanDoug Tieman got his start in the treatment field over 40 years ago at the Hazelden Foundation. During his time there, he served as Executive Vice President of Marketing & Development. In 1995, he joined Caron Treatment centers as the President and CEO, a position he’s currently held for 28 years. In part 2 of this episode, Doug shares his own recovery journey and why his wife continued to stay by his side despite the bad reputation and betrayal he caused in active addiction. Doug and Dr. Rob also share when to seek out help if you’re struggling with a substance problem.
2022-12-2923 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionWhy Does My Addict Cause Me So Much Pain? It’s Because He’s BrokenDr. Rob and Tami understand that it can be incredibly frustrating for a betrayed partner to deal with an addict’s head trash and lies and deceit. But why do they bring you into their mess in the first place? Why can’t they just be alone and not hurt people with it? Dr. Rob understands it can be very hard to see through the eyes of an addict, but there is so much more below the surface. At the end of the day, these people are deeply hurt and broken people who are struggling and have no tools to h...2022-12-2237 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1 - Healing Work, Healing Home, Healing Me with Doug TiemanDoug Tieman got his start in the treatment field over 40 years ago at the Hazelden Foundation. During his time there, he served as Executive Vice President of Marketing & Development. In 1995, he joined Caron Treatment centers as the President and CEO, a position he’s currently held for 28 years. Over the last 4 decades, Doug has seen the way professional's and the public’s perception of addiction has changed. In this episode, Doug shares what massive improvements we’ve undergone over the years and what the mental health industry has been doing to deliver better quality results to its patients.
2022-12-2232 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionShould I Leave My Partner After 2 Years?Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a young listener who is wondering if their trauma and attachment style is the problem or if they’re truly incompatible with the person they’re currently with? They don’t know what to do. Life circumstances might have gotten in the way where this person feels resentful towards their partner, but Dr. Rob and Tami share their wisdom and advice on when it makes sense to stay, or to move on, in this week’s episode. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] I resent and punish my partner. Is this a pro...2022-12-1926 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionIf You Don’t Sleep with Me, I Will Cheat on YouDr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed spouse on what to do when your SA partner is trying to coerce you into having intimate sex again, or else there will be consequences. Dr. Rob has some choice words for this person that he will refrain from using. Kidding! He didn’t hold back in this episode. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Suggestions on how to find a CSAT for my betrayed spouse? [1:30] Can you help me understand forgiveness? [9:10] What you’re feeling is accurate. Trust it. [10:50] I don’t want...2022-12-1933 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionI Make the Money, so I Make the DecisionsDr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed partner who is trying to find the help and support she needs, but her SA husband will not fund her therapist because he “makes the money.” What can you do when your partner is not supportive of your recovery and healing journey? He says he’ll find himself a therapist, but his actions have not demonstrated that. Dr. Rob and Tami offer some guidance and advice. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] My husband had an emotional affair and only regrets that he lied about it and not that he...2022-12-0931 minSex, Love, and AddictionBetrayal, Hurt, and Anger: You Can Let It GoDr. Crystal Hollenbeck is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and a Florida State Qualified Supervisor for those seeking a license in Mental Health Counseling or Marriage and Family Therapy. In addition, she is also a Certified Professional Life Coach. Being a Therapist and a Life Coach gives her the unique ability to help clients heal from the past and live their best life today. In this episode, Dr. Crystal discusses what happens when a betrayed partner feels so angry and can’t seem to forgive. Is there ever a way out of this hurt? The answer is yes. Listen in f...2022-11-2445 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionMy Therapist Won’t Hold Me AccountableDr. Rob and Tami talk about whether a therapist should hold their clients accountable. Dr. Rob had some interesting things to say about this. If you’re an addict expecting to have someone else solve your problems or show up for you, then you’re back to your default ways. It’s time to get proactive! TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Why did it go from pretty good to pretty miserable in my marriage with an addict? [6:20] Two months after the discovery and he wants to have sex! He’s also gaslighting me. What should I do?...2022-11-2426 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionWhat’s the Difference Between Letting Go and Forgiveness?Dr. Rob and Tami discuss the difference between letting go and forgiving someone who has deeply hurt and betrayed you. Forgiveness is much like grief and it comes in waves, one day you think you’re doing alright and ready to move on, the next, you’re having a hard time getting up off the floor. If you’re a betrayed spouse, you’re not alone in these feelings. Dr. Rob sheds light on how “letting go” vs. “forgiving” works, in this week’s episode. TAKEAWAYS: [1:00] Why does my husband still have slips? [5:20] With h...2022-11-1730 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionI Broke Her Trust and I Keep Messing UpDr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a man who is breaking his connection with his spouse. When he and she are in conflict, he can’t seem to find a way to make her feel better, show up for her in her pain, and understand. His lack of empathy is pushing their relationship further and further away and he’s afraid of losing her. Dr. Rob shares how you can build empathy with a betrayed partner, in this week’s episode. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] What’s the best way to find a sponsor? [2...2022-11-1031 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionYou Glorifying Your Addiction Makes Me Trust You LessDr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a betrayed spouse who is incredibly hurt to find out her partner still believes his acting out activities were worth it. In cases like these, especially when an addict is new to recovery, you have to communicate your hurt feelings and lack of trust in him. It can be painful for anybody to hear this from their partner and they must know that they’re starting back from zero. More on this in this week’s episode. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] What is considered “healthy” masturbation? [3:35] You need...2022-11-1030 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionI’ve Been in Recovery for Two Years. Why Are Things Not Back to Normal?Dr. Rob and Tami explain to someone in recovery why their betrayed spouse still feels hurt and angry despite him being in recovery for the last two years. Will things ever go back to normal? The answer is no. Dr. Rob explains that “normal” was not sustainable. You were an addict and you were living a lie! As you go forward in your marriage, you have to embrace a new normal. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] My wife thinks she doesn’t respect herself for coming back and forgiving me. How can I show up for her? ...2022-11-0132 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 2 - How to Get Over Betrayal and CheatingDr. Rob breaks down what goes on in a man's and a woman's mind when they cheat and their partner finds out about the affair. In a continuation of last week’s episode, Dr. Rob shares whether it’s possible to recover from infidelity, whether a partner should stay in a relationship with an addict, and how you restore trust again in a relationship after cheating.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:50] Codependency doesn’t actually exist. Dr. Rob explains why.
[3:10] When your partner is snooping through your stuff. They’re look for reasons to stay with you! 2022-10-2749 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionIs He a Chronic Cheater or Is He Just an Addict?Dr. Rob and Tami talk about the difference between being a cheater vs. an addict. If your partner is just out and they’re unable to think about you or have you in mind, they’re immature. The same goes for cheating. The immaturity of cheating is by not having your partner in mind at all when you’re out committing the act. However, with sex addiction, it has nothing to do with immaturity and everything to do with being psychologically broken. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] Are SAs able to compartmentalize or are they just in denial...2022-10-2033 minSex, Love, and AddictionPart 1 - How to Get Over Betrayal and CheatingDr. Rob breaks down what goes on in a man's and a woman’s mind when they cheat and their partner finds out about the affair. Dr. Rob uses a clip from Fatal Attraction to show an example of how a cheating partner tries to manipulate their partner, who is in pain, about the betrayal. In this episode, Dr. Rob explains what intimacy really is and what happens when your needs are not being met.
TAKEAWAYS:
[2:20] Men and women are different. Men have the ability to separate sex from intimacy.
[3:55] How do yo...2022-10-2043 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionIs He Just White Knuckling His Way Through Recovery?Dr. Rob and Tami answer a question from a fed up partner who has stuck by their addict for the last ten years and has finally had enough. Now, he wants to change for the better. Dr. Rob and Tami explore whether their relationship really is gone for good, or if there’s still hope for recovery. They explain the concept ‘dry drunk’ and why some addicts feel like they’ve got it ‘white knuckle’ their way through recovery instead of surrender and be vulnerable. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] He’s been sober for a year but still has a...2022-10-1333 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionIf You Can’t Hold on to Hope, Let Someone Else Hold It For YouDr. Rob and Tami talk about what to do if you’re feeling hopeless in your recovery. If you are someone who messed up in your marriage or you’re the betrayed partner that’s thinking that the two of you will never recover, don’t lose hope! If you’re feeling low and beaten, ask someone in your support group to hold onto your hope for you. We do recover, and things do get better. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] How do I stop triggers and thoughts from becoming behaviors? [5:15] He rarely offers me comfort. Will...2022-10-0733 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionMy Addict Keeps Shutting My Emotions DownDr. Rob and Tami answer a listener’s question about why her husband in recovery keeps shutting her down when she gets vulnerable or shows emotions. Dr. Rob suspects it might be due to guilt and this is why it makes him uncomfortable. Instead of looking internally at the cause, he tries to shut you down to prevent him from feeling his true emotions. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] I’ll make up issues so that I can create distance with my partner. What’s wrong with me? [3:45] It’s better to come back later and be ho...2022-09-3034 minOvercoming Betrayal & AddictionMy Addict Blames Me for His Addictions!Dr. Rob and Tami are not surprised by some people’s behavior, especially when they’re deep in their addiction. A betrayed spouse writes in saying her SA husband does not want to reconcile. He blames her for her monogamy and the feminist agenda for corrupting her and causing him to act out. Can a CSAT help a man like this? Dr. Rob and Tami answer her painful question. TAKEAWAYS: [:30] When can we have sex again? [3:10] Don’t have sex with anyone you don’t trust. [6:10] My SA husband is sexual...2022-09-3027 min
Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And GuideERP 325: Can Prodependency Improve Our Understanding Of Codependency In Relationship? — An Interview With Dr. Robert WeissPeople who care for loved ones suffering from addiction or mental health issues are frequently labeled and even pathologized as part of the problematic and addictive cycle. Dr. Robert Weiss would like to honor, validate, and acknowledge the love and effort of these people who choose to stick around and help their loved ones get better, whether or not they are doing it correctly, because the truth is that most of us are not trained to assist someone who is dealing with these issues. In this episode, Dr. Weiss gives context for codependency and its significance around...2022-06-2158 minSex, Love, and AddictionBONUS: Q&A with Rob & Tami - How Can I Heal My Addiction?Rob and Tami talk about the biggest emotion you should fear in your marriage is not hate, it’s indifference. When they no longer care, that’s when you know the relationship can not be salvaged. They also share how you can recover from a betrayal, and how long it truly takes to ‘heal’ an addiction.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:30] Dissociation and decompartmentalization, how does it work?
[3:50] Addicts don’t trust that people can soothe and comfort us.
[6:25] At the end of the day, reality is what wins.
[8:00] How long does it tak...2021-05-2032 min
Sex, Love, and AddictionREPOST: What is Sex Addition and What is it Not?Welcome to Sex, Love and Addiction 101! Your host, Rob Weiss, is a licensed therapist, sexologist and author of numerous books on sex, relationships and addiction. This podcast is a way to discuss these topics in frank and informative ways. Rob will talk with everyone from experts from around the world to regular people just looking to make their relationships better.
In today’s episode, Rob breaks down what sex addiction is, and isn’t. He also discusses the recovery of sex and love addiction, and resources on ways to further expand your education on the topic...2021-03-2331 min
Sex, Love, and AddictionBONUS: Q&A with Rob & Tami - Can Betrayed Spouses be Addicts Too?Rob and Tami talk about codependency and why the term actually shames betrayed partners, not supports them. They also dive into some of the misconceptions people have about the partners of addicts. In this week’s episode, they share how you can find a therapist that understands you and what you’re going through, and doesn’t shame you.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:25] Is it a good sign my addict is apologizing or is this a manipulation tactic?
[2:15] Dr. Rob, are you offering partner meetings?
[3:50] Can codependency delay the addict’s recovery?
[8...2021-02-0434 min
Sex, Love, and AddictionBONUS: Q&A with Rob & Tami - My Addict’s Therapist Blames Me for His Wrong Doings!Rob and Tami explain in depth what a betrayed spouse is going through during the first year and a half after a reveal, and what a person in recovery can do about it. They also answer listener questions about porn addiction since the age of 10, and what to do when a CSAT therapist sides with the addict and not with the betrayed spouse.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:25] My wife hates me. When will it stop?
[2:25] Dr. Rob explains why it’s important for betrayed spouses to find a place to vent outside of your hom...2021-01-0733 min
Sex, Love, and AddictionBONUS: Q&A with Rob & Tami - You Can’t Fix Your Partner, You Can Only Work on Your Addiction and Your HealingRob and Tami discuss how to best keep boundaries with your mother, how to work through betrayal as a betrayed spouse in a way that encourages your addict to be honest with you, and Rob explains how sexuality works and why you might be attracted to men vs. not.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:45] How can I communicate my boundaries without making it into a threat?
[7:25] There are three rules you want to keep in mind when you want to make it work and there’s been a betrayal in the relationship. Dr. Rob explains.
2020-10-2933 min
Sex, Love, and AddictionBONUS: Q&A with Rob & Tami - When Should We Tell Family About Our Addictions?Rob and Tami dive into whether you can rewire your sexual tastes after being exposed to hardcore porn. They also discuss how to have a successful open relationship (when you’re not an addict) and so much more on this week’s episode!
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:30] Can I rewire my sexual tastes?
[6:10] I don’t think I can handle my partner relapsing. What can I do?
[10:45] How can we have a successful open relationship?
[13:45] Should addicts reveal their addiction to their family members?
[18:00] I stumbled upon child porn an...2020-10-1533 minSex, Love, and AddictionOvercoming the Shame of Porn Addiction & Seeking Help — Dr. Rob Weiss on The Mel Robbins ShowDr. Rob went on The Mel Robbins Show with his colleague Noah Church to help a couple work through the man’s porn addiction. Dr. Rob also offered the couple resources they needed to better understand porn addiction after the show. The male partner has felt a lot of regret over his porn use and wants to better understand how to make it stop. His girlfriend is feeling betrayed and doesn’t know where to go from here. Listen in to Dr. Rob’s insight and advice.
TAKEAWAYS:
[3:55] The girlfriend is worried about what oth...2020-04-1625 minSex, Love, and AddictionLet’s Talk About Porn Addiction — Dr. Rob Weiss on The Doctors TV ShowDr. Rob went on The Doctors TV Show with his friend Alexander Rhodes, from NoFap, to discuss porn addiction and its impacts on today’s youth. The guests on the show discuss whether porn addiction is just used as an excuse to escape criminal behavior, young men preferring porn over sex, and so much more. In this podcast episode, you will be hearing some clips from the TV show and some of its key highlights.
TAKEAWAYS:
[3:20] Is Porn really a health crisis?
[5:20] People who enjoyed porn vs. addicted to porn had a dif...2020-03-2625 min
The Betrayed, The Addicted, The ExpertProdependence... Ending Codependency with Dr. Robert WeissProdependence... Ending Codependency with Robert Wiess is an amazing conversation with another absolute Expert in the Arena of Addiction. If you have struggled with the shame of addiction or feeling the shame associated with loving a partner that struggles with addiction, you will want to experience this conversation.
Robert Weiss PhD, LCSW is Chief Clinical Officer of Seeking Integrity LLC, He is the author of ten books on sexuality, technology, and intimate relationships, including Sex Addiction 101, Out of the Doghouse, and Prodependence. His Sex, Love, and Addiction Podcast is currently in the Top 10 of US Addiction-Health Podcasts...2020-02-2543 minSex, Love, and AddictionBONUS: All We Really Want is a Meaningful Connection with Dr. David FawcettBONUS Episode: Today's episode was pulled from Dr. David Fawcett's podcast "Sex, Love, and Addiction: Healing Conversations for Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Men". Dr. Fawcett had the one and only Dr. Rob on to discuss sex addiction and chem sex in men. Dr. Rob dives into why we shouldn’t separate the relationship with drugs and sex in therapy because it’s often combined and needs to be addressed together. He also believes there’s a lot of benefit for hosting gay and straight group therapies together because the commonality of being men can open up a big dialogue and he...2020-01-1530 min
Sex, Love, and AddictionWelcome to Sex, Love and Addiction with Dr. Rob!Welcome to Sex, Love and Addiction 101! Your host, Rob Weiss, is a licensed therapist, sexologist and author of numerous books on sex, relationships and addiction. This podcast is a way to discuss these topics in frank and informative ways. Rob will talk with everyone from experts from around the world to regular people just looking to make their relationships better.
In today’s episode, Rob breaks down what sex addiction is, and isn’t. He also discusses the recovery of sex and love addiction, and resources on ways to further expand your education on the topic...2018-04-2531 min