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The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast206 Relationship Sticking Points, Pt. 1: Money & DatingIt is said that death and taxes are inevitable but so is running into relationship sticking points. Sooner or later, every intimate relationship faces several challenging issues, and if the relationship is going to last, they must be handled successfully. In this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, talks about money and dating. Not only will you get some mindful suggestions as to who pays for what and why, and when money responsibilities begins to change in dating, but more importantly, you’ll learn three underlying commitments that allow you to work through any relationship sticking poi...2025-02-1759 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast205 Roy’s Rants (Vol. 3): Valentine’s Day Edition: Roy Rants About the Struggle to ConnectIn this edition of “Roy’s Rants,” which is back by popular demand, Roy rants about Valentine’s Day and our struggle to connect. While most of us want to find a life partner, it seems that we are growing further and further apart. Men are increasingly less interested in relationships and women believe that the more self-sufficient they become, the less interested men seem to be. In this V-day episode, we discuss what divides us and what needs to happen so that we can finally connect with each other. 2025-02-101h 01
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast204 The Big Five in ’25: 5 Big Ideas that Will Make 2025 Come Alive: Pt. 5: Improving Your People SkillsWe all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same. In this, the last episode of the series, Roy talks about how to improve your people skills. Being successful professionally or personally is largely about the quality or depth of your connection with other people, so in this episode, y...2025-02-0350 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast203 The Big Five in ’25: 5 Big Ideas that Will Make 2025 Come Alive: Pt. 4: Making “Whole-Body YES!” DecisionsWe all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same. In this, the fourth episode of the series, you will learn how to make decisions you won’t regret. You’ll learn about your three centers of intelligence—intellectual center, emotional center & instinctual center—and why having them aligned is so imp...2025-01-271h 00
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast202 The Big Five in ’25: 5 Big Ideas that Will Make 2025 Come Alive: Pt. 3: Making a Big, Bold Statement to YourselfWe all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same. In this, the third episode of the series, Roy invites you to make a big, bold statement toward yourself, an act of self-love that will catapult your life and make you feel alive in ’25. You’ll be presented with sever...2025-01-2050 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast201 The Big Five in ’25: 5 Big Ideas that Will Make 2025 Come Alive: Pt. 2: The Year of the EnneagramWe all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same. In this, the second episode of the series, Roy challenges you to make the Enneagram of Personality the focal point of your life this year. He feels, as millions do, that the Enneagram is the deepest, most accurate personality s...2025-01-131h 03
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast200 The Big Five in ’25: 5 Big Ideas that Will Make 2025 Come Alive: Pt. 1: Living from Your Zone of GeniusWe all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same. In this, the first episode of the series, Roy share what it means to live life from your “zone of genius.” You’ll learn that everything we do, personally or professionally, falls into one of four zones: Incompetence, Competence, Excelle...2025-01-061h 01
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast199 Quantum Completion: 10 Questions That Can Make ’25 Come AliveMost of us approach a new year wanting it to be the best year of our lives. And while there may be many positive actions we can take to make that happen, the truth is most of us are holding ourselves back in some way. In this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, presents 10 questions that can help you identify what might be holding you back and keeping you from fully coming alive in ’25. Don’t miss this episode. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: ...2024-12-3034 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast179 The Five Steps to Letting Go of the Past, Pt. 1Most of us know how important it is to let go of our past and its pain. If we hold on to the past, we live with suspicion, projection, and worst of all, repetition (if we don’t learn from the past, we’re destined to repeat it). Most of us want to release our baggage and experience the inner freedom it brings, but the problem is no one ever tells us how to do that!!! Until now. In this episode (and the next one), our host, Roy Bia...2024-08-1238 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast178 Roy Biancalana Interviews Lyla, a Former Client of HisIf you are interested in changing the trajectory of your love life—and after listening to the previous episode, how could you not be!—you are probably considering working directly with Roy. But because it’s a big decision, you might be interested in hearing from someone who’s “been there, done that.” Well, ask and you shall receive. In this special episode, Roy interviews Lyla, a former client. They discuss her interest in coaching and why she chose Roy. They talk deeply about all the components and resources included in the coaching p...2024-08-0551 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast177 Five Signs You Need a Relationship CoachThis is probably the most important podcast Roy has ever recorded. Yes, on the surface it looks like he’s simply promoting his coaching practice, but in reality, something much, much deeper takes place. Roy is offering the solution to your disappointing love life. In fact, three major themes are addressed: (1) You want a great relationship with all of your heart, and you know it’s possible; (2) Your relationship history, up until now, has been disappointing and painful; (3) You are more than a little concerned about how or if it will ever change. 2024-07-291h 10
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast176 Michael Singer on Learning to Prefer RealityPerhaps you’ve heard the phrase, “You just can’t make this stuff up!” It speaks to how reality is often stranger than fiction. That is certainly true in our world today—have you been paying attention to politics in the U.S.?—but it’s often equally true of our personal lives. How do we respond (or how can we respond) when life is not unfolding the way we’d prefer? How do we handle reality, when reality is stranger than fiction? Well, in this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, shares a talk give...2024-07-221h 01
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast167 Four Types of Guys Women Should Avoid: A Discussion of Toxic MasculinityWe are obsessed with superheroes. Whether it’s Batman, Spider-Man, The Hulk, Thor, Captain America, or Iron Man, it seems we’ve always been fascinated by the Masculine superhero archetype. But if there is a quintessential icon of masculinity, it’s definitely Superman. For men, there’s something about ripping open our shirts at the first sign of trouble and revealing a big red “S” on our chests. Well, that’s not really a fantasy. Our host, Roy Biancalana, says that if you rip open the shirt of ANY man, you will find a big...2024-05-201h 00
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast4 Kinds of Guys Women Should Avoid: A Discussion of Toxic MasculinityIt’s fair to say that we are obsessed with superheroes. Whether it’s Batman, Spider-Man, The Hulk, Hercules, Thor, Captain America, or Iron Man, it seems we’ve always been fascinated by the Masculine superhero archetype. But if there’s a quintessential icon of masculinity, it is Superman. For men, there’s something about ripping open our shirts at the first sign of trouble and revealing a big red “S” on our chests. Well, that’s not a fantasy. Our host, Roy Biancalana, says that if you rip open the shirt of ANY man...2024-04-221h 00
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast163 The Path of Spiritual Awakening, Pt. 2: The Decision—The Moment Your Spiritual Journey Begins“Pain is a portal to profound spiritual growth,” says our host, Roy Biancalana. He shares that there is a moment in every person’s life, a dark-night-of-the-soul type moment, where we realize that the well from which we’ve been drinking is dry. It’s at this crucial moment that our spiritual journey CAN begin. We can recognize that our strategies for happiness haven’t worked (and will never work), and in that moment of despair, we can begin an honest search for answers. In this, the second episode of a 5-part series...2024-04-221h 09
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast162 The Path of Spiritual Awakening, Pt. 1: The Description—What is Awakening & Why You Should Be InterestedMany think that spiritual awakening leads to a boring life, one of abstaining and renunciation. They fear it means never having any fun and sitting on a cushion all day saying goofy words like, “Om” and “namaste”. But in this 5-part series, you’ll learn that the opposite is true. In fact, our host, Roy Biancalana, says enlightenment leads to a life of engagement, playfulness, and authenticity, a life where the past is powerless, loneliness disappears, and drama ends. In this first episode of the series, you’ll discover not only what spiritual...2024-04-151h 03
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast161 Roy's Rants (Vol. 2): 4 Things Single People Rarely Do and it Makes Roy’s Head ExplodeRoy is back with another epic rant! The first time Roy unloaded (episode #136), he ranted about things that drive a conscious relationship like himself insane. In this episode, which might feel like someone waking you up out of a deep sleep by dumping a bucket of cold water on your head, Roy rants about 4 things that surprise and confuse him, things that just don’t make sense. People say they want to attract a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship and yet they don’t do the very things that are needed to make it happen. It leave...2024-04-071h 04
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast144 Laws of Life & Love, Pt. 5: The Law of HealingJust as there are laws of physics that govern reality, so there are laws of relationships that govern our pursuit of intimacy. In this special series of podcasts, Roy discusses five “Laws of Life & Love,” showing us that if we align ourselves with these laws, we will experience healthy, sustainable relationships. But if we don’t, if misunderstand them or go against them, our relationships will never be fulfilling. In the final installment of this 5-part series, Roy addresses the Law of Healing. The fact of the matter is...2023-12-1159 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast136 Roy Rants! (Vol. 1): What Drives a Conscious Relationship Coach Absolutely InsaneIn this fiery yet playful episode, Roy gets some things off his chest. He rants about some general relational dynamics that drive him nuts, but then he goes after men, women, dating coaches, relationship podcasts, Hollywood, online summits—and even himself! No one is safe; no one gets a pass; everyone is taken to the woodshed… all in an effort to create healthier relationships. Buckle your seat belt, folks, and get ready for an epic rant as Roy points to a bunch of issues that drive him absolutely insane. Additional Resources Roy ma...2023-10-161h 17
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast126 Quantum Insights: What I Have Learned from My Most Important Relationship Teachers, Pt. 8: The Last TimeOur host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well. In this episode, which is the last of an 8-part series, the “quantum insight” is about The Last Time, and it comes from Sam Harris. The idea is that when we recognize that we will do everything for the last time, it brings a greater degree of presence and richn...2023-08-0746 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast125 Quantum Insights: What I Have Learned from My Most Important Relationship Teachers, Pt. 7: Medicine JourneysOur host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well. In this episode, which is part seven of an 8-part series, the “quantum insight” is about Medicine Journeys, how substances like Psylocibin (magic mushrooms), MDMA (ecstasy) and other psychedelics—if used the right way—can open us to profound spiritual realizations. Roy shares not only what he’s...2023-07-311h 00
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast124 Quantum Insights: What I Have Learned from My Most Important Relationship Teachers, Pt. 6: Personality Blind SpotsOur host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well. In this episode, which is part six of an 8-part series, the “quantum insight” is about our Personality Blind Spots, and it comes from what Roy calls the best personal growth tool in the world today, the Enneagram of Personality. Discovering and dissolving your Personality Blind...2023-07-241h 09
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast123 Quantum Insights: What I Have Learned from My Most Important Relationship Teachers, Pt. 5: Sexual PolarityOur host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well. In this episode, which is part five of an 8-part series, the “quantum insight” is about Sexual Polarity, and it comes from one of Roy’s most influential teachers, David Deida, the world’s leading expert on masculine/feminine dynamics. Sexual Polarity is the basis of attract...2023-07-171h 12
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast122 Quantum Insights: What I Have Learned from My Most Important Relationship Teachers, Pt. 4: Body IntelligenceOur host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well. In this episode, which is part four of an 8-part series, the “quantum insight” is about Body Intelligence, and it comes from Roy’s former coach, Diana Chapman, co-founder of The Conscious Leadership Group. Body Intelligence, and its cousin, Emotional Intelligence, are keys to making healthy...2023-07-1057 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast121 Quantum Insights: What Roy Has Learned from His Most Important Relationship TeachersOur host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well. In this episode, which is part three of a 7-part series, the “quantum insight” is about The Success Formula, and it comes from a surprising but powerful teacher in Roy’s life, the game of golf. You don’t need to be a golfer to experience...2023-07-0353 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast120 Quantum Insights: What Roy Has Learned from His Most Important Relationship TeachersOur host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well. In this episode, which is part two of a 7-part series, the “quantum insight” is about The Human Condition, and it comes from Roy’s favorite spiritual teacher, Michael Singer, author of The Untethered Soul. Understanding yourself, including your deepest relationship motivations, is the key to creat...2023-06-261h 14
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast119 Quantum Insights: What Roy Has Learned from His Most Important Relationship TeachersOur host, Roy Biancalana, has had the privilege of learning from, and being trained by, some amazing relationship teachers, and in this series, he shares insights that not only produced a quantum leap in his life, but they are sure to significantly impact yours as well. In this episode, which is part one of a 7-part series, the “quantum insight” is about Radical Responsibility, and it comes from Roy’s long-time friend and mentor, Jim Dethmer, co-founder of The Conscious Leadership Group. Radical responsibility is the key to creating the life and love...2023-06-191h 05
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast118 "911—What's Your Emergency? Help! I've Been Dumped!", Pt. 3When you have an emergency in the United States and need help, you dial 911. Well, sometimes we encounter relationship emergencies or dating disasters—and we need help, too. In part three of a 3-part series, our host, Roy Biancalana, offers “emergency assistance” for the dating disaster of being dumped. If you’ve had the heart-breaking experience of being dumped or divorced—or if you’ve done the dumping or divorcing—then you have three choices: you can retire, rebound, or reflect. The choice you make will determine if the trajectory of your love life s...2023-06-1249 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast117 "911—What's Your Emergency? Help! I've Been Played!", Pt. 2When you have an emergency in the United States and need help, you dial 911. Well, sometimes we encounter relationship emergencies or dating disasters—and we need help, too. In part two of a 3-part series, our host, Roy Biancalana, offers “emergency assistance” for the dating disaster of being played. If you’ve had the agonizing and paralyzing experience of connecting with someone sexually only to discover that they only wanted “one thing,” then don’t miss this episode. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: ...2023-06-051h 05
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast116 "911—What's Your Emergency? Help! I've Been Ghosted!", Pt. 1When you have an emergency in the United States and need help, you dial 911. Well, sometimes we encounter relationship emergencies or dating disasters—and we need help, too. In part one of a 3-part series, our host, Roy Biancalana, offers “emergency assistance” for the dating disaster of being ghosted. If you’ve had the awful and frustrating experience of connecting with someone only to have them disappear (like a ghost) without a trace, then don’t miss this episode. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: 2023-05-2952 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast115 The Intersection of Spirituality & Sexuality: A Talk by David DeidaOur host, Roy Biancalana, has had many “mentors from afar,” including Eckhart Tolle, Michael Singer, Jim Dethmer and Sam Harris. But perhaps the mentor that’s had the most impact on Roy and his work is David Deida. David Deida is widely considered THE leading expert in the world when it comes to sexual polarity and masculine/feminine dynamics. (He charges $85,000 a day to speak at corporate events!) In this episode, Roy shares a live talk Deida gave where he clearly articulates his perspectives on men, women, attraction and the intersection of spiri...2023-05-221h 13
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast113 A Single Woman's Biggest Challenge: The Most Important Thing a Woman Needs to do in Her Search for a PartnerThere are a lot of challenges women face and feel in their search for a life partner, but in this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, identifies a woman’s BIGGEST challenge. And the best part is, he not only identifies the challenge, but he also shows women exactly what to do about it. The premise is simple: If women work through their biggest challenge, they will allow themselves to attract lasting love. However, as you’ll hear in the episode, Roy encourages men to listen too because the more they know what a...2023-05-081h 11
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast112 A Single Man's Biggest Challenge: The Most Important Thing a Man Needs to do in His Search for a PartnerThere are a lot of challenges men face and feel in their search for a life partner, but in this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, identifies a man’s BIGGEST challenge. And the best part is, he not only identifies the challenge, but he also shows men exactly what to do about it. The premise is simple: If men work through their biggest challenge, they will allow themselves to attract lasting love. However, as you’ll hear in the episode, Roy encourages women to listen too because the more they know what a...2023-05-0153 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast111 The Birthday Battle (Roy's Birthday Edition)Since this podcast originally dropped on Roy’s birthday (April 25), he’s devoted this episode to discussing the very common but very powerful feelings that can arise around birthdays. So, whether you’re turning 30 and you thought your career would have taken off by now, or if you’re turning 40 and you thought you’d have started a family by now, or if you’re turning 50 and having a midlife crisis because it feels like you’re living someone else’s life, or if you’re just feeling old and past your prime, this podcast is sure to offer he...2023-04-2455 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast110 Wisdom for "The Search": How Looking for a Partner is Like Looking for a HouseWhen this podcast was recorded, Roy and his wife, MaryMargaret, were looking for a new place to live. And as they searched for a house, Roy noticed how similar it is to searching for a partner. Roy felt like he was “single” again, searching for the “one.” In this episode, Roy shares what we can learn about our search for a partner from his search for a house. He points not so much to the desired outcome (the right partner or house), but more to how we are going about the search itself. You’ll learn that...2023-04-1746 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast106 The Case for ChivalryIn this playful yet poignant episode, Roy makes the case for chivalry. While we should celebrate the evolutionary changes in masculine/feminine dynamics that have occurred since the 1950’s, Roy argues for retaining some of the “old-fashioned” ways men and women treat each other. Roy argues for men to be “gentlemen,” opening a women’s door, picking up the check and even walking on the curbside of the street. But he also challenges women to embrace feminism yet allow themselves to be treated as special—not weaker or unable or inferior—but simply as the special creatures...2023-03-2028 min
The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast094 What It's Like to Work With Roy: A Deep Dive Into Roy's 4-Month Individual Coaching ProgramFor 90+ episodes, Roy’s been sharing wisdom and insight on how to attract healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships. He’s also spoken about the value of coaching: how it changed the trajectory of his love life and how it can do the same for you. So, in this episode, Roy does something that is long overdue. He goes into detail on his 4-month, individual coaching program. He shares not only what’s involved but he also describes the atmosphere or the feeling tone of what it’s like to work with him. As the new...2022-12-2637 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastHow to Stay Single: Mastering THE Attitude That Will Ruin Your Love LifeSometimes right-leaning Fox News and left-leaning CNN have guests on their networks to share an opposing point of view, and that’s admirable. They give those who disagree with them an opportunity to share their perspective. Well, in this episode, Roy does the same thing. In this episode, Roy turns the mic over to someone who stands against everything he stands for. As you’ll hear, Roy admits it’s a very risky thing to do because his whole purpose is to help people “attract lasting love,” but in the spirit fairness and...2022-12-1259 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThree Subtle Forks in Your Relationship RoadThere are “forks” in everyone’s relationship road, critical choice-points that often determine the direction of your love life. Some are major and obvious—the decision to be exclusive or to be sexual or to move in with one another, to name a few—but others are more subtle…but no less important. In this episode, Roy talks about 3 “subtle forks in your relationship road.” Though they are subtle and rarely talked about (Roy hasn’t addressed them before), nevertheless, they are critical. For example, do you remember the Space Sh...2022-10-2456 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastNavigating the 4 Relationship "Seasons" — The Construction SeasonOn the journey to a life-long commitment or marriage, relationships go through four “seasons” or phases. And within each “season,” there are particular issues that need to be navigated with skill and wisdom if a relationship is going to last. In this episode, Roy addresses the fourth and final “season,” which is, Construction. Once you’ve gotten yourself “in shape” for something real (the preparation season), and once you’ve met someone with whom you feel healthy chemistry (the attraction season), and once you’ve established that you’re compatible (the exploration season), you can begin constructing the fo...2022-08-0147 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastNavigating the 4 Relationship "Seasons" — The Exploration SeasonOn the journey to a life-long commitment or marriage, relationships go through four “seasons” or phases. And within each “season,” there are particular issues that need to be navigated with skill and wisdom if a relationship is going to last. In this episode, Roy addresses the third “season,” which is, Exploration. Once you’ve gotten yourself “in shape” for something real (the preparation season), and once you’ve met someone with whom you feel healthy chemistry (the attraction season), the dating “season” begins, which is all about exploring compatibility and commitment. How do you navigate your w...2022-07-251h 00
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastNavigating the 4 Relationship "Seasons" — The Attraction SeasonOn the journey to a life-long commitment or marriage, relationships go through four “seasons” or phases. And within each “season,” there are particular issues that need to be navigated with skill and wisdom if a relationship is going to last. In this episode, Roy addresses the second “season,” which is, Attraction, and it’s largely a discussion about chemistry. There are so many issues to consider when it comes to chemistry. For example, did you know that there are two kinds of chemistry, one is healthy, and the other isn’t. And how much chemistry is enough? And if...2022-07-181h 10
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastNavigating the 4 Relationship "Seasons" — The Preparation SeasonOn the journey to a life-long commitment or marriage, relationships go through four “seasons” or phases. And within each “season,” there are particular issues that need to be navigated with skill and wisdom if a relationship is going to last. In this episode, Roy addresses the first “season,” which is, Preparation. Just as the key to being successful in a marathon or triathlon is about how we prepare and train before the race begins, so it is with our love lives. Are we prepared to go the distance? Are we ready for something real? Find out in this i...2022-07-111h 00
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastEnneagram Fear Types: The Observer, The Loyalist & The AdventuristIn episode 66, Roy laid a foundation for the Enneagram personality system, explaining its incredible importance and value. The Enneagram describes nine personality types, or nine faces of the ego and it is the deepest and most accurate personality system in the world today. Knowing your type allows you to uncover the unique way you sabotage yourself in relationship and what to do about it. In this episode, Roy goes into detail on the final three types: The Observer, The Loyalist and The Adventurist. Listen in and find out if this is your type and how it might...2022-07-0456 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastEnneagram Shame Types: The Helper, The Achiever & The IndividualistIn episode 66, Roy laid a foundation for the Enneagram personality system, explaining its incredible importance and value. The Enneagram describes nine personality types, or nine faces of the ego and it is the deepest and most accurate personality system in the world today. Knowing your type allows you to uncover the unique way you sabotage yourself in relationship and what to do about it. In this episode, Roy goes into detail on three more of the nine types: The Helper, The Achiever and The individualist. Listen in and find out if this is your type and how...2022-06-2758 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastEnneagram Anger Types: The Challenger, The Peacemaker & The ReformerIn episode 66, Roy laid a foundation for the Enneagram personality system, explaining its incredible importance and value. The Enneagram describes nine personality types, or nine faces of the ego and it is the deepest and most accurate personality system in the world today. Knowing your type allows you to uncover the unique way you sabotage yourself in relationship and what to do about it. In this episode, Roy goes into detail on three of the nine types: The Challenger, The Peacemaker and The Reformer. Listen in and find out if this is your type and how it...2022-06-2059 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastQuantum Questions (Pt. 5): What is My Personality (Enneagram) Type and How is it Sabotaging My life and Love Life?This is the fifth and final installment of the “Quantum Questions” series and it might be the most life-changing question of all: What Is My Personality (Enneagram) Type and How Is It Sabotaging My Life & Love Life? Roy, our host, often says to his clients, "If I had a prayer it would be: 'God, please make my clients fall in love with the Enneagram'." It's that important. The Enneagram is a profoundly deep and accurate personality system. It describes nine personality or ego types, and knowing your type will show you your relationship sabotaging behavior and w...2022-06-131h 01
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastQuantum Question (Pt. 4): Why Am I Single?In this 5-part series, #1 best-selling author and certified relationship coach, Roy Biancalana, shares 5 questions that have the potential to transform us and bring about a quantum leap in our love lives. This episode explores the fourth quantum question, Why Am I Single? What if it's not because "all the good ones are taken or gay," or because "I've just not met the right person yet," or because "I'm not skinny enough, attractive enough, wealthy enough or young enough." What if you're single because you are unconsciously sabotaging yourself in some way, or because yo...2022-06-061h 05
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastQuantum Questions (Pt. 3): Why Don't I Feel Alive, Passionate & Motivated?In this 5-part series, #1 best-selling author and certified relationship coach, Roy Biancalana, shares 5 questions that have the potential to transform us and bring about a quantum leap in our love lives. This episode explores the third quantum question, Why Don't I Feel Alive, Passionate & Motivated? Very few of us feel so depressed that we can hardly get out of bed in the morning. But if we're honest, many of us don't consistently feel alive, passionate and motivated either. Why not? Why do we often feel blah, bored or bummed out, instead of waking u...2022-05-301h 03
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastQuantum Questions (Pt. 2): What Am I REALLY Feeling?In this 5-part series, #1 best-selling author and certified relationship coach, Roy Biancalana, shares 5 questions that have the potential to transform us and bring about a quantum leap in our love lives. This episode explores the second quantum question, What Am I REALLY Feeling?, and it's all about growing in both emotional and body intelligence. Many of us "live in our heads," having lost contact with our emotional and bodily wisdom because of painful experiences or because of our childhood conditioning. But if we want a felt sense of well-being and if we want t...2022-05-2358 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastQuantum Questions (Pt. 1): What's Here, Now?In this 5-part series, #1 best-selling author and certified relationship coach, Roy Biancalana, shares 5 questions that have the potential to transform us and bring about a quantum leap in our love lives. The first question, What's Here, Now?, not only explains what it means to be present, but it equips us with our "unarguable truth" which is the key to relating authentically. If you want to attract and/or experience an authentic, open and honest relationship, then you need to ask and answer the quantum question, What's Here, Now?. Additional Resources Roy m...2022-05-161h 08
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastWhat to Do When Your "Picker" is BrokenMany people feel like they have a knack, or a particular skill, for picking the absolutely wrong partners. They feel like they always choose the people the shouldn't, and for some reason, reject the very people they should. If you've ever felt like your "picker" is broken, then don't miss this episode. The host, Roy Biancalana, offers 2 options on how to end up with the person best suited for you. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy’s...2022-05-091h 00
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastFire Your "Relationship Coach!": 5 Ways Your Mind is Keeping You SingleMichael Singer has famously said, "We treat our minds like God or Guru, but it doesn't know anything! It's wrong all the time, yet we still listen to it. Ignore the mind as you would a financial advisor whose advice has always been wrong." In this playful yet powerful episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, explains that we all have a "relationship coach" living in your heads and if we want to have a meaningful, healthy love life, we need to fire them immediately! Roy touches on 5 ways our minds sabotage our love lives and keep...2022-05-0255 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastBreak Ups: How I Wish I Had Handled Mine (and how I hope you handle yours)It's not a matter of IF you will go through a break up (or a divorce or get dumped), but WHEN. It's just a part of life, we all go through it. You've probably been there. Our host, Roy, certainly has. Multiple times, in fact. Most of us have experienced the ending of a significant relationship. It doesn't matter if you are the dump-er or the dump-ee, how you handle a break up will, in large part, determine your emotional well-being and the quality of any future relationship. So, whether you've experienced a...2022-04-251h 02
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastRelationship Sabotaging Personas: Do You Have One?A "relationship persona" is a fear-based way of relating that always leads to drama and unhealthy, short-term relationships. In this episode, Roy Biancalana outlines 9 of the most common relationship personas and shows how they sabotage our ability to attract lasting love. If you want a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship, then you must discover and dissolve your relationship persona. So, don't miss this episode! Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: h...2022-04-181h 03
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastHow to End Drama (if you want to)Most of us love watching drama on TV or in movies, but not so much when it happens in our own lives. In this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, discusses two kinds of drama: internal turbulence or suffering and external conflict or discord. You will learn not only about "the drama triangle," a model that explains the three roles we (and others) play when drama is occurring, but more importantly, but you will learn how to end drama the moment it begins to appear internally or externally in your life. Additional R...2022-04-111h 05
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastTriggered! What We Can Learn from Will Smith at the OscarsUnless you've been living under a rock, you're aware of the incident between Will Smith and Chris Rock at the 2022 Oscars. In this episode, our host Roy Biancalana, doesn't spend much time dissecting what happened—everyone has done that. No, he talks about what we can learn from Will Smith, because all of us get triggered to one degree or another. We all know that if we act on our triggers and the stirred up energy within us, we will do real damage to our relationships and ourselves. So, learning how to deal wi...2022-04-041h 02
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe 3 Most Unpopular Secrets to Genuine Personal Growth (Secret #3)Those of us who listen to podcasts (or read books) are usually interested in learning, change and growth. It's in our nature. And yet, genuine, measurable growth, the kind that is clearly recognizable to us and everyone else around us, is rare at worst and slow at best. Why? Why is change and genuine growth so difficult and rare? Well, in part one of this three part series, our host, Roy Biancalana, shared that working on our weaknesses is the first secret to genuine growth. In part two, he said that having unrealistic...2022-03-2853 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe 3 Most Unpopular Secrets to Genuine Personal Growth (Secret #2)Those of us who listen to podcasts (or read books) are usually interested in learning, change and growth. It's in our nature. And yet, genuine, measurable growth, the kind that is clearly recognizable to us and everyone else around us, is rare at worst and slow at best. Why? Why is change and genuine growth so difficult and rare? Well, in part one of this three part series, our host, Roy Biancalana, shared that working on our weaknesses (rather than focusing on our "superpowers") is the first secret to genuine growth. Now, in...2022-03-2153 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe 3 Most Unpopular Secrets to Genuine Personal Growth (Secret #1)Those of us who listen to podcasts (or read books) are usually interested in learning, change and growth. It's in our nature. And yet, genuine, measurable growth, the kind that is clearly recognizable to us and everyone else around us, is rare at worst and slow at best. Why? Why is change and genuine growth so difficult and rare? In this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, shares 3 unpopular secrets to genuine personal growth. Do them and he says you'll see incredible results; ignore them and any growth you experience will merely be cosmetic, like putting l...2022-03-1459 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastWhy Intimacy is Better WITHOUT CompatibilityCompatibility is a critical component of successful, sustainable relationships, but in this episode, relationship expert, Roy Biancalana, explains that in one important sense, intimacy is actually better WITHOUT compatibility. We all know that "opposites attract," and on the surface, that seems like life is playing some sick joke on us. Wouldn't it be better to be instinctively attracted to someone who is a lot like us? To that question, Roy offers an emphatic "NO!" In fact, he says it's far better for your relationship and for your individual growth to be with your psychological, financial...2022-03-071h 10
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastWhat Men Want: Straight Talk for Women on How to Be Irresistible to (good) MenEven though all men (and women) are different, there are qualities of the feminine that all men of depth find attractive and even irresistible. In this episode, Roy Biancalana not only describes the 6 qualities of a "radiant woman", but he discusses 4 ways women darken their radiance, which keeps them from being irresistible. Ladies, if you want a man to claim your heart and be devoted to you, please listen to this podcast! Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com 2022-02-2858 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastWhat Women Want: Straight Talk for Men on How to Be IrresistibleEven though all women (and men) are different, there are qualities of the masculine that all women of depth find attractive and even irresistible. In this episode, Roy Biancalana describes 4 "kinds of men" that women do NOT want, but then he goes into great detail about the 4 qualities women crave and find irresistible in men. Guys, if women have been yawning rather than yearning for you, please listen to this podcast. And ladies, no matter what you're looking for in a partner, you should be looking the qualities Roy describes. Additional R...2022-02-2151 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe Way of a Yogi: Michael Singer Describes The Spiritual PathOur host, Roy Biancalana, feels that Michael Singer is the best, most down-to-earth spiritual teacher in the world today. However, Michael Singer doesn't do interviews. So, in this episode, you get the next best thing—a live talk given by Michael Singer at his facility in Florida. Roy has heard Singer speak live almost 100 times, and he feels that this talk offers the most complete description of the spiritual path and what it means to be a spiritual person. If you're interested in awakening and spiritual growth, don't miss this episode. ...2022-02-141h 24
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe Chemistry Question: Understanding the Difference Between Healthy & Unhealthy ChemistryMost people think that chemistry is obvious: either you're attracted to someone or you're not. But often, it's not that simple. In this episode, Roy Biancalana will help you understand the difference between Persona (Unhealthy) Chemistry vs. Polarity (healthy) Chemistry. Additionally, this podcast addresses questions like, "If you don't feel attracted to someone initially, can it grow over time?" and "How do you know if there's enough chemistry and attraction to sustain a relationship long-term?" This is an important topic, so don't miss it! Additional Resources Roy may have m...2022-02-0749 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe Dating Manifesto, Pt. 3: The Path to a Healthy, Sustainable, Intimate RelationshipAre you sick and tired of disappointing relationships that end in drama, discord or divorce? If so, then you might be ready to adopt what our host, Roy Biancalana, calls "The Dating Manifesto." It's a declaration to love and live according to 10 Conscious Commitments which have proven to create healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships. If you are interested in learning what it takes to create a fulfilling relationship that lasts, then this podcast is for you. (This is part two of a three part series.) Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on t...2022-01-311h 08
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe Dating Manifesto, Pt. 2: The Path to a Healthy, Sustainable, Intimate RelationshipAre you sick and tired of disappointing relationships that end in drama, discord or divorce? If so, then you might be ready to adopt what our host, Roy Biancalana, calls "The Dating Manifesto." It's a declaration to love and live according to 10 Conscious Commitments which have proven to create healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships. If you are interested in learning what it takes to create a fulfilling relationship that lasts, then this podcast is for you. (This is part two of a three part series.) Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on t...2022-01-241h 06
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe Dating Manifesto, Pt. 1: The Path to a Healthy, Sustainable, Intimate Relationship, Pt. 1Are you sick and tired of disappointing relationships that end in drama, discord or divorce? If so, then you might be ready to adopt what our host, Roy Biancalana, calls "The Dating Manifesto." It's a declaration to love and live according to 10 Conscious Commitments which have proven to create healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships. If you are interested in learning what it takes to create a fulfilling relationship that lasts, then this podcast is for you. (This is part one of a three part series.) Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on t...2022-01-171h 07
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe Soulmate Signature: 5 Signs They Are "The One"How do you know if someone is "The One"? Is there a "soulmate signature," a specific set of signs that tell you it's safe to go "all in" and completely give yourself to a relationship—whether that's living together or getting married? Our host, Roy Biancalana, says there is. In this powerful episode, he lays out 5 specific signs that indicate that you've found your soulmate. If you've had a tendency to make mistakes and pick the wrong partners or misplace your trust, then you don't want to miss this episode. Additional Res...2022-01-1056 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastA Mindful Approach to Weight LossAt the start of a new year (when this podcast originally dropped), many people make resolutions about losing weight. But most of us have made those resolutions before, and yet, here we are wanting to lose weight again. If you want to lose a few pounds, or if you've struggled with your weight, don't miss this podcast. The host, Roy Biancalana, share the mindful or conscious approach to weight loss and compares it to the conventional wisdom that we've all tried and doesn't seem to work. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on t...2022-01-0352 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastMonogamy vs. Ethically Non-Monogamy: Mindful Perspectives on a Variety of Relationship TypesThough the idea of open, non-monogamous relationships have been around for a long time, they are being talked about today more than ever. In this episode, Roy Biancalana discusses everything from traditional monogamy to a variety of ethnically non-monogamous relationship types, including open relationships, polyamory, friends with benefits, swinging and one-night stands. If you're curious about these things, and especially if you want the mindful or conscious perspective on these types of relationships, don't miss this episode. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: ...2021-12-2756 min
The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastIntelligent Dating: Understanding Red, Yellow & Green "Lights" (flags)Dating, especially in the digital age, can be a crazy, frustrating and confusing endeavor. Making intelligent dating decisions is not only an important part of attracting lasting love, it's critical to your sanity. In this episode, relationship coach and #1 best-selling author, Roy Biancalana, shares insights on how to identify and deal with "red flag," "yellow flag" and "green flag" issues in the dating scene. If you want to protect yourself against unnecessary pain and heartache, and know when to completely give yourself to a relationship, don't miss this episode. ...2021-12-2056 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastMastering Masculine/Feminine Dynamics: A Talk by David DeidaIn this episode, Roy, the host, shares an audio clip from a live talk given by the world's leading expert on masculine/feminine dynamics, David Deida. David describes how the masculine shows up as "presence" and the feminine as "radiance," but more importantly, he shows how those expressions grow through three stages leading to healthy chemistry, long-term attraction and sexual polarity. As you purse intimacy, these are critical issues to understand. Don't miss this episode. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: David Deida's Website: ww...2021-12-1342 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastFlirting: A Crash Course on Making a ConnectionFlirting is neither an art form, nor is it difficult, yet many are intimidated by the idea and feel they're not very good at it. No matter how long you've been out of the dating scene, there is no need to be confused or scared. In this episode, Roy points out that there are two ways to flirt: The Conventional Way and The Conscious Way. The first leads to short-term, game-playing connections, the latter to long-term, authentic connections. If you're interested in the long-term, authentic variety, then don't miss this episode. 2021-12-0753 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastConscious Compassion: How to Help Rather than Harm the People You Care AboutWe all aspire to be people who help, give and show compassion to the people we care about, whether it's a friend, sibling, co-worker or an intimate partner. But sometimes it gets complicated. We can attract people who are hurting and in need of help only to find ourselves over functioning and creating co-dependence. Or we can offer compassion and help but wonder if we're actually enabling rather than empowering, and therefore harming the person in question. In this powerful episode, Roy explore healthy or conscious compassion, the kind that neither...2021-11-2950 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastRelationship Completion: Making Space for Love to AppearWarning! — Your ego is going to hate this podcast, but if you want to attract lasting love, you need to listen to it. If you want to attract a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship, there has to be "space" in your heart. No one else can be in there. Yet, it's not uncommon to have a former lover taking up space in your heart. Whether you are still in love with someone or hung up on them in some way, or if you harbor anger and bitterness towards someone, you are, in reality, still INVOLVED with th...2021-11-221h 13The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThoughts on Long Distance RelationshipsAll relationships can be difficult, but long distance relationships present a unique type of challenge. In this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, shares that there are a couple of crucial questions you have to ask yourself if you're in, or considering being in, a long distance relationship. Whether you live in a remote area and a long distance relationship is basically your only choice, or whether life has mysteriously put one in your path, Roy offers some valuable wisdom and guidance that will help you navigate this complex issue. Don't miss this episode!2021-11-1533 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastBecoming a Coach: Impact, Independence & IncomeHave you ever considered becoming a coach? No matter what kind of coach you may want to be (life coach, relationship coach, business coach, wellness coach, etc.) being a coach offers impact, independence and a great income. In the episode, Roy Biancalana, the host and a certified relationship coach himself, shares all about his one-year coach training and certification program. (Yes, he coaches individuals, but he also trains people to be coaches.) If you want to make a difference in people's lives, enjoy the freedom that comes with working for yourself, an...2021-11-0833 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastLearning to Trust Again: How to Open Your Heart After You've Been HurtTo one degree or another, we all have "baggage." Everyone has been hurt, betrayed, deceived, ghosted, gaslighted, lied to or disappointed. That pain can cause us to build a wall around our hearts in an effort to protect us from further pain. But although those walls will keep us safe, they will also keep us single. In this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, shares how to let go of the past, open our hearts and learn how to trust again. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the...2021-11-011h 00The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastHow to Find Love: A Talk by Michael SingerMichael Singer, the author of The Untethered Soul, is Roy's mentor from afar and his favorite spiritual teacher. In this episode, Roy shares a recording of talk he heard Michael give in 2019 at The Temple of the Universe, Michael's home base, just outside Gainesville, Fl. It is filled with truth about "how to find love," and it's so powerful that Roy wanted you to hear it. For info on Singer's books, visit www.theuntetheredsoul.com, and to purchase any of his talks or to learn about his live teaching schedule, visit www...2021-10-2559 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastSoulmates & Teammates: How to Never Get Dumped (or Divorced)In this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, shares that people with a feminine essence seek a "soulmate," while people with a masculine essence seek a "teammate." Those are very different things. A masculine person's priority is "his" mission, and so "he" seeks a teammate to support "his" success. And a feminine person's priority is the flow of love in "her" life, so "she" seeks a soulmate. The key to never getting dumped (or divorced) is learning how to support each other in our very different priorities, and this episode will show yo...2021-10-1850 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastRewrite Your Love Story (Make it a Happy Ending!)One of the most powerful issues to explore in your love life is how your childhood and past experiences have affected and influenced your view of love, relationships and intimacy. In this episode, relationship expert, #1 best-selling author and host, Roy Biancalana, shares how stories like, "love is pain," or "love is sacrifice," or "love is controlling," can sabotage our love lives and keep us single. Don't miss this important discussion. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com ...2021-10-111h 04The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastThe 7 Best Personal Growth Books Ever WrittenIf you are interested in personal development, real spirituality and great relationships, then you need to read what Roy (the host) believes are the 7 most important and powerful books ever written. He counts down from 7, sharing why each book made the list and he even reads a short excerpt from each book. It is worth noting that Roy's humility keeps him from putting any of his 3 books on the list, even though he says they are worthy of it! LOL! In all seriousness, there are a number of books that you must read...2021-10-0456 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastSpirituality 101: The Basic Insight that Launches an Authentic Spiritual LifeWhy is "The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast" talking about spirituality? What does that have to do with finding a life partner? Everything. In this episode, Roy shows that true spirituality and healthy, conscious relationships go hand-in-hand. In fact, without learning "the basic insight that launches true spirituality," you are doomed to co-dependent, disappointing relationships. Don't miss this opportunity to deepen your spiritual and relational life. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy’s Relat...2021-09-2759 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastWhat to Do When You're TriggeredIf you're human and don't live in a cave, you get triggered all the time, right? It happens to all of us. The issue is, what do you do when you're triggered? Well, most of us become aggressive, passive, defensive or argumentative—making matters worse. But in this episode, Roy outlines a 5-step "conscious trigger response" that will allow us to end drama and reconnect with the people we care about the most. Unless you live in a cave, you need to listen to this episode. Additional Resources Roy may have mentio...2021-09-2058 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastCuriosity: The Key to Attracting Lasting LoveIn this episode, relationship coach and #1 best-selling author, Roy Biancalana, explains that curiosity is the key to attracting a healthy, sustainable relationship. Let's face it: most people are sabotaging their love lives in ways they aren't aware of, but when we cultivate curiosity, we can experience the "aha!" moments that bring those self-sabotaging behaviors to light so that we shift them. That is why curiosity—a commitment to learning—is the key to attracting lasting love. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website...2021-09-131h 00The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastHow to Be Your Most Attractive SelfWhat is it that makes us attractive to our ideal partners? That is such an important question, and in this episode, Roy discusses the physical, emotional and energetic issues that can allow us to be our most attractive selves. What will be surprising for some is that what makes men attractive is not the same thing as what makes women attractive. There is powerful wisdom shared here, so don't miss this episode! Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com 2021-09-061h 09The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastUnwinding Your Core Story of Deficiency—A Conversation with Scott KilobyWe don't like to admit it, but we all have something called, "A Core Story of Deficiency." It's believing that we are, for example, not good enough, unlovable, or unworthy, to name just a few. In this episode, Roy interviews Scott Kiloby. Scott has developed an amazing inquiry process that allows a person to unwind their core stories and avoid the relationship drama that they cause. Roy doesn't have guests that often, but when he does, it's well worth your time. Don't miss this incredibly important discussion. To...2021-08-3046 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastOvercoming the Fear of RejectionThe fear of rejection is probably the most common fear among single people, and if it's not overcome, it will sabotage your love life and keep you single. In this powerful episode, Roy shares some life changing perspectives on why rejection isn't personal and how to overcome the fear so that you can enjoy the pursuit of intimacy. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ 2021-08-2353 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastRelationship Decision MakingDecisions always come up in relationships: Should you go out with them? Should you go on a second date? Should you take your profiles down? Should you have sex? And so on. In this episode, relationship expert and coach, Roy Biancalana, offers some wisdom and guidance on how to make relationship decisions that lead to healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships. He shares that these decisions can be made from "mind," from the "body" or from "trust." Understanding each is essential to attracting lasting love. Don't miss this important episode. ...2021-08-161h 04The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastCommunication: Learning to Speak UnarguablyBelieve it or not, in this episode, Roy teaches us how to talk! We all know how to talk in a way that creates drama and conflict but very few know how to talk in a way that creates clarity, connection and intimate communion. In very practical terms, Roy shares a simple technique—speaking unarguably—which will radically transform not only an intimate relationship but any relationship. This is part three of a 3-part series. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com ...2021-08-0955 minThe Attracting Lasting Love Podcast021 Communication: Identifying Your REAL Love LanguageWe all know that communication is the life-blood of any relationship, but in this episode, Roy challenges the listener to pay more attention to the motives behind their words rather than what actually comes out of their mouths. You will learn that there are really only two "love languages": Fear and Trust. We are either speaking from fear, which makes us conceal in order to control, or we are speaking from trust, which makes us reveal in order to relate. Identifying your REAL love language will radically change your life and relationships. (This is part two in a three...2021-08-0250 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastCommunication: Let's Get Naked!Most people say they want a relationship characterized by authenticity, transparency and honesty. But what does that really mean? In this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, invites the listener to be a "revealer" rather than a "concealer" by describing 5 devastating results of not being authentic. This is part one of a three part series. Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show: Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/ Roy’s 3 Books: Relationsh...2021-07-2658 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastSexual Intelligence: How to Make Smart Sexual ChoicesIn this episode, Roy discusses the issues surrounding making smart sexual choices. No other issue can lead to such pleasure or pain, and so it's a critically important issue to discuss. Roy talks about the three waves of the sexual revolution. The first occurred in the mid sixties when we evolved beyond sexual repression to sexual expression. The second occurred because of STD's and AIDS, causing us to embrace safe sex. And now we're in the middle of the third wave, which is the movement toward smart sex. Roy shares that smart sex is recognizing...2021-05-3151 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastRelating Authentically: An Interview with MaryMargaret Biancalana, LCSWIn this episode, Roy interviews his wife, MaryMargaret Biancalana. The two of them share the hilarious story about how they met and how each of them took the risk of being incredibly authentic with one another—from the very beginning. Additionally, they engage in a deep discussion about their "incompatibility" and how they handle their significant personality differences. Finally, Roy asks MaryMargaret to put on her "clinician's hat" and share how she helps her clients deal with sadness, anxiety and other difficult emotions. MaryMargaret Biancalana has a Master's in Social Work (LCSW) from Western Michigan Un...2021-05-171h 02The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastCompatibility: What's Important, What's NotChemistry and compatibility are the two essential components of a meaningful intimate connection. But while most everyone understands chemistry, the host, relationship expert, Roy Biancalana, believes compatibility is radically misunderstood. In this podcast, Roy will talk about what's important and what's not when it comes to compatibility in an intimate relationship. Most people put far too much emphasis on some things and far too little on the things that really matter. Chemistry is the energy that gets you into a relationship, but it's compatibility that allows a relationship to flourish and last. Don't miss this...2021-05-1054 minThe Attracting Lasting Love PodcastWhy the Law of Attraction Will Ruin Your Love Life"The Law of Attraction works and that should scare the hell out of you." That is the provocative but very important message of this podcast. Even though the LOA is all the rage and almost every dating and relationship expert sings its praises, using the LOA as your relationship strategy will backfire and actually ruin your chances at creating a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship. The host, Roy Biancalana, not only outlines 9 different reasons why the LOA is dangerous and counter productive, but he also describes a healthier and more trustworthy approach to attracting lasting love.2021-05-031h 05The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastNew Beginnings: Where to Go, How to Approach & What to Say to Create a Lasting ConnectionIn this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, discusses the conscious approach on how to start a new relationship and create a connection that will last. You will learn where to go to meet someone special, how to approach them (or get them to approach you!) and what to say in those initial, crucial moments where first impressions are made. Once a person is "ready for something real" (the topic of episode 006) and once a person has gotten themselves in great "relationship shape," then they're ready for the nitty-gritty details on how to create a "new beginning," a...2021-04-261h 03The Attracting Lasting Love PodcastFit to Be Tied: Getting Ready for Something RealThis podcast is NOT for engaged couples or those thinking about getting married, though its message would apply to them. No, this podcast is for anyone interested in knowing what it takes to attract lasting love. Because we will never be in a relationship that is healthier than we are, this podcast explores what it means to be in "relationship shape," and how to get yourself ready for something real. The host, Roy Biancalana, describes 7 "relationship muscles" that need to be "strong" if a person wants to experience a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship. This podcast...2021-04-201h 07The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast002 The REAL Reason Relationships Are So DifficultLove. Intimacy. Bliss. Are they really possible? Or are they fantasies, reserved for sappy love songs and romantic comedies? Those were the questions the host, Roy, asked himself after he went through a divorce and a heartrending break up with his fiancée. What was wrong? Why weren’t his relationships working? Why was there so much conflict, drama and heartache? If you have ever asked similar questions, take heart. This podcast has the answers. Roy's disappointing love life led him on an inward journey where he discovered the root cause of relationship disappointment, drama and...2021-04-131h 04