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Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 2: Perpetrators' Weaponization of Mental Health and Addiction Against SurvivorsSend us a textHave you ever seen survivors’ mental health or substance use issues turned against them by a domestic violence perpetrator? Have you been concerned about a domestic violence survivor’s treatment being sabotaged by an abusive partner? In this podcast, David Mandel, Executive Director and Founder of the Safe & Together Institute and Ruth Stearns Mandel explore these questions. They also talk about how a perpetrator pattern-based approach can help protect survivors against these behaviors. The show is broken down into three major themes: What is weaponization of mental health and...2022-01-171h 02Partnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelSeason 3 Episode 1: "This is a collective male problem:" An interview with international journalist Grant WyethSend us a text(Apologies the sound quality of this episode is slightly less than we'd like.) In their opening episode of Season 3, Partnered with a Survivor co-hosts , David Mandel & Ruth Stearns Mandel, interview international journalist Grant Wyeth. Grant Wyeth is a researcher at the Asia Institute, University of Melbourne, and a columnist for the Diplomat. He has written extensively about men's violence against women. In this interview, Grant offers an international perspective on: The backlash against the advancements of women Male supremacist groups and their influence on politics how Richard Gardener's "ideology" of pare...2022-01-1050 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelEpisode 4: Gender Double StandardsSend us a textRuth Stearns Mandel and David Mandel discuss gender double standards and how they impact the work with families. David shares some of his personal experience as male becoming engaged with the issue of male violence against women, and explores how the understanding of men's behaviors can help end victim blaming. The conversation also considers how marginalized men have been denied their importance as fathers. Now available! Mapping the Perpetrator’s Pattern: A Practitioner’s Tool for Improving Assessment, Intervention, and Outcomes The web-based Perpetrator Pattern Mapping Tool is a virtual...2020-01-2343 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelEpisode 3: Language and professional terms which cover up realities of abuseSend us a textIn this episode of Partnered with a Survivor Ruth Stearns Mandel & David Mandel discuss professional and mental health terms commonly used which hide perpetrator responsibility for patterns of abuse. They discuss how this impacts victims moving through systems which are not grounded in a practice of pivoting to focus on the perpetrator's patterns of behavior. David & Ruth also discuss viewing the effects of abuse only as a pathology, a deficit in victims and how this does not honor the full reality of how bodies respond to abuse and harm, and how...2020-01-1548 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelEpisode 2: Victim BlamingSend us a textVictim Blaming is a constant element of the failure of systems and individuals to appropriately and effectively address violence and safety. We find victim blaming as a common element no matter where we train in the world, no matter what cultural context we encounter. Why is this so? How does victim blaming impact victims and survivors in their willingness to work with systems, how do systems engage in their own forms of fear based 'coercive control' to try and coerce victims into safety to the detriment of well-being, nurturance and parent child bonding...2020-01-1340 minPartnered with a Survivor: David Mandel and Ruth Reymundo MandelEpisode 1: Coercive Control and ConsentSend us a textIn this premier episode of the podcast, Partnered with a Survivor, Ruth Stearns Mandel and David Mandel, partners in their personal and professional lives, have a far ranging and personal conversation about the relationship between coercive control and consent. Touching on the defense strategy used by Harvey Weinstein, the re-victimization of a British national in a Cyprus rape case to the founding principles of the United States, David & Ruth dive deep into the topic of how coercive control shapes our understanding of consent, and harms our ability to support survivors. 2020-01-1233 min