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Weaponized MarriageCreating Margin: The Time Audit That Saved Our MarriageIn this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt dive deep into a week that started with incredible connection and ended in emotional distance. They reflect on how easy it is for busy, entrepreneurial couples to lose intimacy; not for lack of love, but for lack of margin. From managing businesses and parenting a four-year-old, to forgetting the simple power of presence, they unpack why time doesn’t heal disconnection; intentional time does. With humor, raw vulnerability, and practical insight, they share how a date night turned into a collision, and how that moment of fr...2025-07-2234 minWeaponized MarriageSeven Rituals to Make Your Marriage Divorce-ProofIn this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt share seven simple yet powerful rituals to strengthen your marriage and make it divorce-proof. Drawing from their own journey as entrepreneurs and parents, they emphasize intentional habits like daily check-ins, heartfelt hugs, and playful flirting to foster connection and resilience. The episode tackles the critical role of open money conversations, revealing how financial stress, not infidelity, is the leading cause of divorce. With candid insights into their own struggles and breakthroughs, Dr. Ryan and Kendra offer practical steps to protect your relationship from...2025-07-1524 minWeaponized MarriageTrust, Truth & Transformation: What Happens When You Stop HidingIn this powerful and unscripted episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt open up about a life-changing week marked by bold decisions, divine downloads, and radical relational healing. From putting a cabin under contract on pure trust to celebrating new friendships, and diving deep into a transformative plant medicine journey, this episode captures what it looks like to live from your heart, not your head. The Hewitts share raw insight about emotional safety, the freedom of truth-telling, and the power of mutual ownership in marriage.For the first time, Kendra describes what it...2025-07-0830 minWeaponized MarriageSetting Marriage Targets: Building a Shared Vision for Your RelationshipIn this episode of The Weaponized Marriage, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into the transformative power of setting balance targets; intentional goals for your marriage, family, and key relationships. Moving beyond vague resolutions, they share their proven framework of Facts, Feelings, Focus, Fruit to create meaningful, measurable targets that strengthen your partnership. From candid reflections on their own journey; like navigating flight upgrades for a couples’ trip to Spain or planning a cabin purchase; Kendra and Dr. Ryan reveal how to align on a shared vision while embracing discomfort for growth.Whether it’s scheduling date...2025-07-0138 minWeaponized MarriageWhat You Resist Will PersistIn this episode of Weaponized Marriage, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into the concept of "what you resist will persist," exploring how resistance to personal challenges can impact a marriage. Kendra shares her journey of overcoming resistance to hormone replacement therapy (HRT), couples therapy, and her recent ADHD diagnosis, which she initially avoided addressing. She discusses how reading The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov opened her eyes to patterns like the pursuit-withdrawal dynamic that strained their relationship. By embracing these challenges, Kendra found new ways to connect with Dr. Ryan, fostering empathy and understanding. The...2025-06-2429 minWeaponized MarriageHitting the Repair Button in Your MarriageIn this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt shared an account of a recent conflict that left them feeling disconnected, revealing how they worked to hit the "repair button" in their relationship. From miscommunications about schedules to the weight of parenting and caregiving stressors, they unpack how their Enneagram personality types—Kendra as a Six and Dr. Ryan as a Three—fuel their reactions and challenge their recovery. With guidance from their therapist, Steven, they explore practical tools to rebuild connection, emphasizing the power of proactive communication and mutual support.Kendra and...2025-06-1738 minWeaponized MarriageWeaponized Marriage: Crucial Conversations for ConnectionIn this episode of Weaponized Marriage, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into the often-avoided topic of money in their relationship, unpacking the emotional and practical challenges of managing finances as a couple. With raw honesty, they share their journey of navigating financial disconnects, from running a business together to struggling with collaborative money conversations. Drawing from a recent therapy session, the Hewitts reveal how past avoidance, guilt, and defensiveness have created barriers to a shared financial vision, and they commit to breaking this cycle with weekly meetings. Their candid discussion offers listeners a relatable lens into the...2025-06-1026 minWeaponized MarriageNaked in a Whole New Way: Sex, Money & Marriage’s Two Most Powerful SymbolsIn this episode hosts Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt celebrate their 20th episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast by diving into one of the most important and under-discussed truths of marriage: the profound connection between sex and money.After nearly a year of weekly therapy, a shift in their sessions unearthed something that might be the next frontier of vulnerability for many couples. Their therapist Steven revealed that most relational challenges stem from two core symbols in marriage, sex and money, and while they’d spent a year working on sexual intimacy, they were only now stepping in...2025-06-0340 minWeaponized MarriageDon’t Wait to Have Fun: How Travel Can Rekindle Connection in Your MarriageIn this heartfelt and energetic episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt reflect on their recent kid-free trip to Spain and why building fun into your marriage is essential at every stage. Sharing stories from their Mediterranean wedding adventure, cultural insights, and a few laugh-out-loud moments, the Hewitts dive deep into how travel, spontaneity, and breaking routine can breathe life back into a relationship.From dancing until 4 a.m. at a multilingual wedding to rediscovering how rest doesn't always mean relaxation, Dr. Ryan and Kendra explore how stepping outside your daily patterns helps...2025-05-2722 minWeaponized MarriageStaying Fit Together | How Couples Prioritize Health in Real LifeIn this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt unpack the real rhythms, decisions, and priorities behind staying physically fit as a married couple in their 40s. They go beyond “five health tips” and talk about real-life: busy schedules, hormonal shifts, sex, energy, parenting, and what it actually takes to build a strong body and stronger partnership.Dr. Ryan shares his expertise on fitness programming, training pyramids, and strength-based longevity, while Kendra opens up about her evolving approach to nutrition, metabolism, and the emotional labor women face. Together, they talk about how they’ve ali...2025-05-2055 minWeaponized MarriageLetting Your Man Lead: The Hidden Dynamics of Marriage PolarityMany women carry silent resentment in marriage, not because they want control, but because they’ve had to take it. In this episode of The Weaponized Marriage, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt unpack a viral Instagram post that ignited deep conversation around polarity, leadership, resentment, and emotional safety in relationships. They explore why so many women feel exhausted, unseen, and emotionally starved, and how men can unintentionally contribute to their wives' disconnection, not through malice, but by abdicating leadership in key areas like emotional presence, household dynamics, and communication. This episode doesn’t just diagnose the problem, it o...2025-05-1344 minWeaponized MarriageResentment & Reactivity: Breaking the Cycles That Keep You StuckIn this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Kendra and Ryan Hewitt dive into two of the most damaging patterns in marriage: resentment and reactivity. Why do women tend to harbor resentment while men lean into reactivity? And how do these hidden dynamics quietly sabotage connection, intimacy, and trust? Sharing personal stories—from missed lunches to deeper wounds—they unpack how old patterns creep into everyday moments and what it takes to break free. Whether you're keeping score or struggling to control your reactions, this episode will open your eyes to new ways of showing up in your marriage with...2025-05-0638 minWeaponized MarriageLooking Up: How God Rebuilt the Foundation of Our MarriageIn today’s heartfelt conversation, Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt share a story they’ve never fully told before; their unexpected journey back to church, back to God, and deeper into their marriage. Sparked by an emotional Easter weekend and a powerful message about "looking up," they reflect on how reconnecting with faith shifted the foundation of their relationship. From the profound experience of being baptized together to learning how to stop forcing outcomes and start trusting God’s timing, Kendra and Dr. Ryan open up vulnerably about anger, healing, personal growth, and the power of spiritual intimacy. Whether you’re...2025-04-2932 minWeaponized MarriageLust, Lies, and Protecting Your MarriageIn this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into a thought-provoking discussion sparked by a recent church sermon on the Sermon on the Mount, focusing on the complex topic of lust. With humor, vulnerability, and real-life anecdotes, they explore how lust, attraction, and sexual energy impact marriages, drawing from their own experiences to offer practical insights for couples. From addressing the stigma around sex in Christian culture to unpacking the emotional and physical dimensions of lust, Dr. Ryan and Kendra tackle how to channel energy back into your relationship and avoid the...2025-04-2236 minWeaponized MarriageParenting on Purpose: Not by DefaultIn this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into what it means to parent with intention—and how that journey forces you to confront your own childhood, unhealed emotional wounds, and reactivity patterns. This one’s for you whether you’re knee-deep in diapers or raising teenagers… or even if you don’t have kids, but you're realizing you still need to reparent yourself.Dr. Ryan opens up about the unexpected emotional chaos triggered by fatherhood, while Kendra shares a moving story of emotional regulation with their daughter Lily that reveals how genera...2025-04-1536 minWeaponized MarriageHealing Together: Our Marriage After Plant MedicineIn this episode of the Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt open up about their journey with plant medicine and how it has profoundly impacted their individual healing and their marriage. They discuss the fears, breakthroughs, grief, and gratitude that emerged from their three journeys together, and how these experiences allowed them to see each other in a completely new light. From uncovering childhood wounds and unresolved trauma to rebuilding intimacy and connection, this episode explores what it really means to heal as a couple.The Hewitt's also break down common misconceptions about plant medicine...2025-04-0832 minWeaponized MarriageRoommates or Teammates? How to Rebuild Intimacy in Your MarriageIn this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt get honest about the subtle red flags that slowly erode intimacy, trust, and connection in modern marriages.They’re calling them what they are—silent assassins—and they unpack five of the most common signs your marriage may be in trouble… even if everything looks fine on the outside.From roommate syndrome to emotional jabs masked as jokes, score keeping, avoiding real conversations, and even secretly fantasizing about escape—this episode pulls back the curtain on the small habits that create distance o...2025-04-0133 minWeaponized MarriageCan Hormone Imbalance Kill a Marriage? Here’s How We Fought Back TogetherIn this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt peel back the curtain on a topic many couples are curious about, but few are talking about openly—hormone health and how it impacts marriage. Whether you’re in your 30s, 40s, or beyond, this episode is a wake-up call to the unseen ways declining hormones can silently erode connection, sex drive, and overall vitality.Dr. Ryan shares his personal journey into testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) after years of physical burnout and chronic underperformance despite high-intensity training and a “healthy” lifestyle. Kendra gets vulnerable about he...2025-03-2541 minWeaponized MarriageMarriage & Grief: Why Most Couples Struggle to Communicate After LossIn this episode of Weaponized Marriage, hosts Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt dive into one of the most challenging yet transformative aspects of relationships—navigating trauma and grief together. Kendra opens up about a deeply personal experience: the day she came home at 12 years old to find her father had passed away. Decades later, the emotional impact still lingers, surfacing in unexpected ways. But how do past losses shape the way couples communicate, connect, and even trigger one another?Kendra and Dr. Ryan explore the tension between shutting down versus confronting emotions, the natural differences in how me...2025-03-1838 minWeaponized MarriageThe #1 Marriage Secret No One Talks About (But Should) with Steven and Marianne KalasIn this transformative episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt welcome two of their most influential mentors—marriage therapists Steven and Marianne Kalas. Known for their unconventional and deeply effective approach, the Kalas` duo shares profound insights on marriage as an institution, personal growth within relationships, and how couples can truly thrive.Listeners will learn: • Why marriage is a “people-growing machine” and how embracing this truth can transform relationships. • The importance of becoming the resident expert on your spouse’s patterns, traumas, and triggers. • How modern couples misund...2025-03-1149 minWeaponized MarriageAre You Growing Apart? How to Save Your Marriage Before It’s Too LateIn this episode of Weaponized Marriage, hosts Kendra and Dr. Ryan Hewitt tackle a question that many couples face—what happens when one person in the relationship starts growing, but the other doesn’t? Is it possible to maintain connection when priorities shift, fitness journeys begin, or one spouse pursues personal development while the other stays the same?With candid conversation and real-life examples, Kendra and Dr. Ryan dive into the reality of how relationships evolve. They share personal insights, including how Dr. Ryan’s bodybuilding competition initially created tension but ultimately became an opportunity for deeper connec...2025-03-0428 minWeaponized MarriageHolding Space vs. Solving Problems: The Marriage Skill Every Couple NeedsIn this episode of the Weaponized Marriage podcast, Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive deep into a concept that is often misunderstood but crucial for building intimacy and trust—holding space. Most couples think they know what it means to listen, but are they truly creating a safe, judgment-free environment where their partner can be fully seen and heard?Dr. Ryan and Kendra explore how men and women process emotions differently—why men tend to problem-solve while women seek to be understood. They break down why reacting defensively can kill emotional intimacy and how learning to hold spac...2025-02-2524 minWeaponized MarriageThe Truth About Marriage: Why Hiding Your Pain Is Destroying Your RelationshipIn this episode of the Weaponized Marriage podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into one of the most uncomfortable yet transformative truths about relationships—honest, raw communication is the key to true intimacy. Too often, couples bury past traumas, suppress difficult emotions, and avoid the deep conversations that could actually set them free. But what happens when you finally face the dark side of your marriage head-on?Dr. Ryan and Kendra share their personal journeys of emotional suppression, trauma, and the breakthroughs that changed their marriage. Dr. Ryan reflects on his experience at Landmark Forum an...2025-02-1838 minWeaponized MarriageGetting Naked in Your Marriage: The Truth About Emotional IntimacyIn this eye-opening episode ofThe Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt dive into the raw and unfiltered truth about emotional vulnerability in marriage. Inspired by a recent conversation with their therapist, they explore what it truly means to “get naked” in a relationship—both physically and emotionally.Many couples unknowingly build walls between each other, hiding behind unspoken fears, past wounds, and silent resentments. Dr. Ryan and Kendra share how emotional nakedness—the ability to be seen, heard, and fully known—is the key to deep connection and long-lasting intimacy. They unpack the damaging effects of...2025-02-1333 minWeaponized MarriageFrom Roommates to Lovers Again: How to Reignite Passion in Your MarriageOn this episode of The Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt break down why investing in marriage is non-negotiable if you want lasting connection, intimacy, and trust. They share their raw, real journey from nearly divorcing in 2016 to rebuilding their relationship stronger than ever.
Drawing from their experiences as married business owners, they reveal how ignoring key aspects of marriage—communication, leadership, and intentional connection—can lead to resentment and disconnection. Dr. Ryan opens up about his struggles with leadership and how his avoidance of finances, planning, and emotional investment eroded trust. Kendra shares how...2025-02-0636 minWeaponized MarriageWhy Most Marriages Fail—And How to Make Yours UnbreakableIn this raw and unfiltered episode of Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt take listeners back to where it all began—their lowest moments as a couple. Before they became the powerhouse duo they are today, they were two business owners struggling to survive in their marriage, drowning in miscommunication, misaligned expectations, and unresolved wounds from the past.
From their whirlwind first year of marriage - buying a house, starting a business, and diving headfirst into entrepreneurship - Dr. Ryan and Kendra share how the lack of vision, leadership, and emotional connection almost led th...2025-02-0616 minWeaponized MarriageTrailer - Welcome To The ShowIn this episode of Weaponized Marriage Podcast, hosts Dr. Ryan and Kendra Hewitt cut through the noise of traditional marriage advice and bring an unfiltered, high-impact approach for power couples ready to dominate every aspect of their lives together. This isn’t about playing small or settling for mediocrity; it’s about building a resilient, unstoppable partnership that thrives in the face of chaos.2025-02-0501 min
From Inside-Out003 - Dr. Ryan HewittDr. Ryan Hewitt (in his own words): In 2010, as a newlywed, a young doctor of chiropractic, and an inexperienced business owner, I had no idea what I was getting myself into.
The next five years were a whirlwind of trying to launch a business, be a good husband, and figure out how to lead my life. The stress was overwhelming, and I unknowingly found an escape: CrossFit. It became my outlet, not just physically but emotionally, helping me carve a path in fitness and identity. I poured countless hours into pushing my body to the extreme, se...2024-11-141h 08