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TG Garage TalksWeek 3: Work, Sex, and Worship with Joe and Caleb.Joe, Caleb, and Chachi process week three and touch on the themes of work, Sam Jolman’s teaching on sexuality, and worshiping with Rev 5. The guys also unpack the difficulties they’ve experienced this week as well as their hopes for the coming 5 weeks of the program.2025-06-2528 min
The Naked GospelThe Sex Talk You Never Got: Sam JolmanTherapist and author Sam Jolman joins the Naked Gospel to talk about his book and deep dive into the beauty awaiting the lover within every masculine heart. He walks a wonderful balance between clinical expertise and pastoral sensitivity. Few men are as equipped as Sam to engage this vitally necessary work of calling men back to their native habitat: our shared Edenic estate wherein we adore, with reverence and awe, the beauty of womankind.Buy Sam's book at the link below, and check out his website as well!https://amzn.to/45GMwBJhttps://www.samjolman.com2025-06-031h 04
TG Garage TalksYoung Men and Their Sexuality With Sam JolmanCory and Sam dive into the many facets of what it means to be a sexually whole man. Today’s conversation revolves around a young man's sexual and romantic awakening, how God designs our sexuality as a road to worship, and how to pursue sexual wholeness in our culture.Buy Sam's book "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality" in the link below on Amazon or anywhere else books are sold. https://a.co/d/7i0gK7G2025-05-2145 min
The "Surviving Saturday" PodcastSex, Story, and the Hope of Healing with Sam JolmanY’all… we’re blushing just a little over this one. Because today, we’re going there — with therapist and author Sam Jolman, who joins us for a gracious, grounded, and yes, occasionally awkward conversation about sex, story, and the deep hope of healing.Sam’s new book The Sex Talk You Never Got is the kind of resource we wish we’d had at 13, 22, and honestly, last week. We talk about what we learned (and didn’t) growing up in the church, how shame got tangled up with desire, and what it means to honor our bodies — and eac...2025-05-1948 min
Husband MaterialWhat Does It Mean To Objectify Yourself? (with Sam Jolman)What does it mean to objectify yourself? Sam Jolman explains objectification, why and how we objectify ourselves, and what healing and repentance can look like. Sam Jolman (MA, LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness. He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was further trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through the Allender Center at The Seatt...2025-05-1229 min
The Dad Whisperer PodcastHow to Have “The Sex Talk” with Your Daughter You Never Got (Interview with Sam Jolman)Hey Dads…Today on The Dad Whisperer Podcast, I’m joined by author Sam Jolman, who is a licensed trauma therapist with a masters degree in counseling and over 20 years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. Today we’ve titled our powerful conversation, “HOW TO HAVE ‘THE SEX TALK’ WITH YOUR DAUGHTER YOU NEVER GOT.” This is an episode you definitely want to listen to and share with other GirlDads as you gain skills to have more intentional conversations with your daughters about sex.2025-04-2439 min
Shame(less) PodcastBecoming a Godly Sexual Man: What the Church Never Taught You | Guest: Sam JolmanWhat if everything you thought you knew about sexual purity missed the bigger picture?In this powerful episode of the shame(less) podcast, Ken Freire sits down with therapist and author Sam Jolman, who wrote The Sex Talk You Never Got, to explore what it truly means to become a godly sexual man. They unpack how the church’s teaching on purity culture, while well-meaning, often left men with more shame than freedom—and why it’s time for a better conversation about sexuality, desire, and the body.Together, they dive into: The difference betwee...2025-04-1544 min
Three Percent"The Sex Talk You Never Got" with Sam JolmanLearn more about Sam: https://www.samjolman.com/Read more of Sam’s writing on Substack: samjolman.substack.com/Follow Sam on Instagram: www.instagram.com/samjolmanSummaryIn this episode of the 3% Podcast, hosts Jamie Haigh and Blake Roberts engage in a profound conversation with therapist Sam Jolman about masculine sexuality, trauma recovery, and the importance of open discussions around sexual health. Sam shares his personal journey and insights from his book, 'The Sex Talk You Never Got,' emphasizing the need for healthy conversations about sexuality, especially for me...2025-04-0754 min
The Allender Center PodcastRevisiting “The Sex Talk You Never Got” with Sam JolmanLast year, we had a powerful conversation with author Sam Jolman about his book The Sex Talk You Never Got—one of our most-listened-to episodes of the year. Now, Sam returns to share more about the book’s impact and to dive deeper into its themes. This time, he and Dan explore the biblical story of Amnon and Tamar in 2 Samuel 13, a tragic account of lust, power, and sexual violence that resonates deeply with age-old struggles of the human heart. Sam unpacks how a man’s sexuality is shaped not only by personal choices but also b...2025-04-0453 min
Delight Your Marriage477-How to be a Good Sexual Man: Interview with Sam JolmanHow to be a Good Sexual Man: Interview with Sam Jolman Men, have you ever wished someone had sat you down and given you the sex talk you really needed—not the awkward, surface-level version, but a conversation that spoke to your heart, your masculinity, and how all of that relates to your sexuality and how God designed you? That’s exactly what therapist and author Sam Jolman offers in his book The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality. I was deeply honored to have him on the Delight Your Marri...2025-04-041h 09
The Christian Podcast CommunityThe Sex Talk You Never Got A Conversation with Sam Jolman The Caleb Gordon PodcastThe Sex Talk You Never Got || A Conversation with Sam Jolman || The Caleb Gordon Podcast
I sit down with Sam Jolman to discuss S*X and how it’s a beautiful gift that God created for our good! Your SEXUALITY is WORTH a BETTER CONVERSATION.
This episode is sponsored by: revo financial - https://revofinancial.com/
2025-03-2840 minThe Caleb Gordon PodcastThe Sex Talk You Never Got A Conversation with Sam Jolman The Caleb Gordon PodcastThe Sex Talk You Never Got || A Conversation with Sam Jolman || The Caleb Gordon Podcast
I sit down with Sam Jolman to discuss S*X and how it’s a beautiful gift that God created for our good! Your SEXUALITY is WORTH a BETTER CONVERSATION.
This episode is sponsored by: revo financial - https://revofinancial.com/
2025-03-2840 min
The Best of YouEpisode 150: The Great Sex Rescue—Debunking Harmful Messages About Intimacy in Christian Marriage with Sheila Wray GregoireIn this thought-provoking episode, Dr. Alison talks with Sheila Wray Gregoire, groundbreaking author of The Great Sex Rescue. They confront harmful misconceptions about sexual intimacy within Christian marriages, amplifying the often-overlooked voices of women.Sheila shares powerful insights drawn from her extensive research involving over 20,000 Christian women, challenging damaging narratives and revealing startling truths about sexual satisfaction, obligation, and intimacy.You'll learn:* The 4 harmful teachings that negatively impact sexual intimacy* Why “sex as obligation” is so destructive for women* How to reframe your sex story with your spouse...2025-03-2740 min
The Couch Next DoorFriends in SinglenessIn this episode, we’re joined by Bridgett Blood, a certified Connection Codes coach, podcasting from Nashville, TN. Bridgett helps Christian singles process sexual shame and connect with their desires without compromising their core values. She’s here to prove that you can live a life that’s both hot AND holy—and she shares some of the ways she coaches and encourages others in this space. This episode isn’t just for singles! We also dive into: ✔️ How those in relationships can better see and support their single friends ✔️ A fresh perspective on why friendship is a lifel...2025-03-201h 15
Broken to Beloved Podcast038: Moving from Sexual Shame toward Sacred Play with Sam JolmanIn this episode, we dig into how most men never got a proper "sex talk"— just rules about staying pure and anatomical basics, without any guidance on how to handle feelings, desires, and attraction in a healthy way. Jolman shares how men can learn to appreciate beauty (whether it's a sunset or steak) without spiraling into shame or lust, and explains the important difference between arousal and desire.Jolman pushes back against the fear-based messages many people got from purity culture. Instead of seeing all sexual feelings as dangerous, he suggests we can be "lovers" in a br...2025-02-1848 min
Become Good Soil179: The Sex Talk You Never Got, with Sam Jolman (Part 2) "If you can’t be kind to yourself, you can’t change."– Sam JolmanFriends,I’d like to invite you to savor with me a breathtaking excerpt from Sam Jolman’s book as we plumb the depths of the intersection of God’s kindness and our sexual stories: We take the risk to call shame what it is: a damn liar. We turn the tables on shame and question it. That starts with getting curious about what provoked it. Maybe it’s lying to you...2025-01-2942 minBecome Good Soil178: The Sex Talk You Never Got, with Sam Jolman (Part 1)
The Gospel is an invitation to be curious, rather than ashamed, about our sin.
– Sam Jolman
Friends,
Decades ago, a wise man made an observation about the masculine journey that has stayed with me:
“Finances are not about finances, and sex is not about sex.”
It’s been over 10 years since I received this disruptive counsel, and my own and the experience of men I walk with have verified its truth again and again.
Yet when it comes to the power and signi...2025-01-1559 min
Blended Family Breakthrough201. Step Up Enjoyment and Safeguard Your Relationship by Taking FUN Seriously [w/Rich & Christa Clark]How serious are you about creating enjoyment and fun in your relationship (and in your home)?You probably started off your relationship experiencing lots of enjoyment as you were getting to know each other and falling in love. But as the busyness and stress of blended family life set in, maybe your enjoyment started to wane a bit. The truth is, if you want to increase enjoyment and safeguard your relationship, then you've got to take FUN seriously!Our friends Rich and Christa blended their family 13 years ago. Although they've had their share of...2025-01-071h 18
Pirate Monk Podcast442 | Sam Jolman | Bless the ArousalOn this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about different seasons of life. They share how important it is to balance parts of life, including: work, friends, play, and scheduling.
Our Guest: Sam Jolman shares how he asked his brother to clarify sexual questions for him. They discuss how many people are sexually awakened and then immediately shamed. Sam shows us how to welcome one's sexuality, learning to respond with awe instead of lust. He talks about the different experiences of coming to sexual intimacy regulated and unregulated. And Aaron discusses how he raises his Ebenezer.
...2024-12-0559 min
Sexy Marriage RadioLust and Desire | Sam Jolman #705In this episode, I'm joined again by Sam Jolman as we explore the complexities of male sexuality, emphasizing the importance of understanding and embodying one's sexuality without shame.
We believe there is a need for deeper conversations around sexual behavior, relational dynamics, and the impact of maturity on sexual potential. We also touch on the challenges of navigating desire, vulnerability, and the interpretations of lust within a faith context, advocating for a more nuanced approach to sexual education.
We explore some common misinterpretations of biblical passages regarding lust, the biological responses to beauty, and the...2024-12-0446 min
Sexy Marriage RadioLust and Desire | Sam Jolman2024-12-0446 minBecome Good Soil174: Fieldnotes with Pablo Ceron (Part 3)
Love, as Paul and the New Testament present it, is not action—
not even action with a special intention—but a source of action.
– Dallas Willard
Friends,
Thousands of years ago, Saint Paul penned his breathtaking discourse on Love.
It’s been misunderstood, watered down, and robbed of its beauty by overuse. Yet the life of God still pulses through, if we but let these old words visit us in a new way:
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for...2024-11-1940 min
Undaunted.Life: A Man's Podcast by Kyle ThompsonSAM JOLMAN | The Sex Talk You Never Got (Ep. 676)In this episode, we welcome Sam Jolman to the show. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor and author of the new book The Sex Talk You Never God: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality. In this interview, we discuss why he decided to write a book about sex, why the “sex talk” with children should not be one talk but hundreds, why he thinks we have lost the heart of male sexuality, the difference between things being sexual vs. sensual, our disagreement about what leads to lust and sexual sin, his issues with the so-called “purity movement” in churches in the 1...2024-11-141h 27
Fatherhood from the HeartHealing Sexual Trauma with Sam JolmanKeywords
masculinity, toxic masculinity, emotional expression, sexual shame, healing, therapy, male identity, self-love, shame, vulnerability, sexuality, attachment, pornography, parenting, communication, body image, affection, children, sex education, emotional health
Summary
In this conversation, Efrain and Sam Jolman explore the complexities of masculinity, the challenges men face in expressing emotions, and the impact of shame on male sexuality. Sam shares insights from his book, 'The Sex Talk You Never Got,' discussing the importance of understanding and reclaiming the essence of masculinity while addressing the issues of toxic masculinity and the subtle forms of sexual...2024-11-1350 min
Husband MaterialPlay, Awe, & Porn Addiction: A Polyvagal PerspectiveIn this episode, you'll learn two powerful antidotes for porn addiction: play and awe. Ready for a deep dive into neuroscience? According to Polyvagal Theory, play and awe are both "blended states" that regulate your autonomic nervous system through connection instead of disconnection. Play is not peripheral. Awe is not optional. These experiences are essential for the health of your brain!Watch the video at www.husbandmaterial.com/play-awe-pornRelated podcast episodes:Porn And Polyvagal Theory (with John Kilmer)Why Men Need To Play (with Dr. Michael Crocker)Master Your Nervous System (LIVE)2024-11-1120 min
Essential Church PodcastEpisode 169: A Conversation with Sam JolmanAndrew is joined by special guest Sam Jolman on this episode. Sam is a professional therapist with over twenty years of experience. He specializes in men's issues and sexual trauma recovery. Sam provides both context for the new book he is releasing, as well as how his own story of sexuality — both the beauty and the baggage that come along with it (03:22). Sam and Andrew go on to discuss the nuances of discerning beauty and lust, what it means to be moved by others without it becoming deviant, along with directing the thanks of such beauty to the One wh...2024-10-3136 minEssential Church PodcastEpisode 169: A Conversation with Sam JolmanAndrew is joined by special guest Sam Jolman on this episode. Sam is a professional therapist with over twenty years of experience. He specializes in men's issues and sexual trauma recovery. Sam provides both context for the new book he is releasing, as well as how his own story of sexuality — both the beauty and the baggage that come along with it (03:22). Sam and Andrew go on to discuss the nuances of discerning beauty and lust, what it means to be moved by others without it becoming deviant, along with directing the thanks of such beauty to the One wh...2024-10-3136 min
What We Really Want: Conversations About Connection20 | Sam Jolman: Sexuality Always Lives in a Story"Send us a message! (questions, feedback, etc.)"There are times when you know you're hearing/reading/experiencing something very important. That's how I felt as I read through Sam Jolman's book The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality. Men's sexual desire has been attacked, abused, neglected, and misunderstood for as long as it's existed. Men have been stereotyped as uncontrollable lust monsters who cannot control themselves. Purity culture and other harmful messages have made men feel guilty for being sexual creatures and for even having desire. 2024-10-2954 min
With You in the WeedsBONUS EPISODE: "The Sex Talk You Never Got" with Sam JolmanDid you ever get “the talk?” Do you remember feeling encouraged and hopeful, or were you left feeling awkward, ashamed, confused and with more questions than answers? Whatever you might have learned about sex when you were growing up, your view of sex has likely been shaped by our sexualized culture that reduces sex to body parts. At the same time, you also may have been influenced by a church culture that emphasizes “purity” as the sole focus of your spiritual maturity. Yet both of these messages minimize or ignore the...2024-10-251h 01The Best of YouEpisode 126: Restoring Wonder & Play in Intimacy—Navigating Sexual Brokenness, Safety, and Vulnerability with Therapist Sam JolmanDid you know that by adulthood, most people have experienced some form of sexual wounding?Today's conversation with Sam Jolman, therapist and author of the new book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got," is one of my absolute all-time favorites. Why? It truly surprised me.It’s so rare to find a nuanced conversation about sex—especially in a world where we’re constantly tugged between a reductive view of “purity” and an equally reductive sense of “permissiveness.” This conversation is packed with absolute gems—there’s d...2024-10-2443 min
I Dare You PodcastEpisode 144: The Sex Talk You Never Got: How to Create Happier, Healthier Relationships with Sam JolmanSam Jolman (MA LPC) is a trauma therapist with over twenty years of experience specializing in men’s issues and sexual trauma recovery. He is also the author of “The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality”.
Being a therapist has given him a front-row seat to hear hundreds of men and women share their stories. His writing flows out of this unique opportunity to help people know and heal their stories, and find greater sexual wholeness and aliveness.
He received his master’s in counseling from Reformed Theological Seminary and was furthe...2024-10-2238 min
PSR PodcastThe Sex Talk You Never GotIn this episode, I welcome Sam Jolman, a therapist, author, and father, to discuss his book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality." Sam shares his journey into counseling, emphasizing the importance of meaningful conversations about sexuality. We explore the impact of shame and purity culture, and the distinction between normal arousal and lust. Sam highlights the need for competent counseling and open dialogue to foster a healthier understanding of men's sexual formation. This episode is a heartfelt call to reclaim the beauty and complexity of human sexuality as God designed it.2024-10-1837 min
The Strong Women PodcastS5 11: Ditch “The Talk”: How to Sexually Disciple the Next Generation With Kristen Miele In our sexually confused culture, “The Talk” just doesn’t cut it anymore. But neither does silence about sex, especially from the Church. If talking to the next generation about sex makes you feel overwhelmed, unprepared, or just plain awkward, this conversation is for you! Kristen Miele, founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, equips us to disciple the next generation toward healthy, God-honoring sexuality. Sex Ed Reclaimed The Identity Project Our Bodies Tell God's Story by Christopher West The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality by Sam Jolm...2024-10-1647 min
Connection CodesThe Sex Talk Men Never Got with Sam Jolman(135)Therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to discuss the topic of masculine sexuality. They discuss the ways men’s sexual identities are shaped by early experiences, cultural messages, and religious teachings. Sam shares stories and insights on how men can reclaim their sexuality by embracing vulnerability, addressing shame, and learning to see sex as a form of play rather than performance. The conversation also touches on common challenges in sexual relationships, the importance of open communication, and how better sexual education can lead to deeper emotional connections.
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Guys Like UsMasculine Sexuality with Sam JolmanThe Guys Like Us is joined with Sam Jolman who is a therapist by trade and an author. In this episode we explore the current sexuality talks (or lack thereof) in the church and culture. Join in to hear about the importance of play and beauty in our sexuality and how to combat lust and fleshly desires. For all the latest podcast releases, join our newsletter at www.theguyslikeus.com!2024-10-1400 min
Hole in My Heart PodcastEpisode 227: Recovering Our Souls From P*rn Addiction | Sam JolmanA new Barna study says 54% of Christians watch p*rnography. This number is only 7 percentage points behind the percent of all U.S. adults who consume it (61%).
We need help. How can we get the help we need for our addictions at a soul-deep level? Author and therapist Sam Jolman is here to assist.
Together, we discuss:
—Is male sexuality just extra broken or what?
—How can we (as men and women) process our first encounter with p*rnography?
—How can we as parents help ready our kids for a porn-pervasive world?
—What can we do if...2024-10-1150 min
The Something New Show"The Sex Talk You Never Got" with Sam JolmanWhat does it mean to "Reclaim the Heart of Masculine Sexuality" in a healthy way? In this powerful episode of The Something New Show, host Jordan Linscombe sits down with Sam Jolman, a highly respected therapist specializing in men’s issues, marriage counseling, and sexual abuse recovery. Sam shares profound insights from his 20 years of experience, offering wisdom on the most neglected aspects of men’s lives, healthy sexuality, and healing. Sam is a Licensed Professional Counselor with a Master of Arts in Counseling. He has also been trained in Narrative Focused Trauma Care through The Allender Cente...2024-10-0454 min
Recover Your LifeEp.30 The Sensual Man: Reclaiming Your Lover Heart with Sam JolmanIn this powerful episode of the Recover Your Life Podcast, host Bridgett Blood is joined by trauma therapist and author Sam Jolman (MA LPC) to explore his groundbreaking book, The Sex Talk You Never Got. With over 20 years of experience in men's health and sexual trauma, Sam offers invaluable insights into reclaiming masculine sexuality in a way that honors both men and women.
Together, they dive into the concept of the "lover heart"—a profound understanding that at the core of every man’s sexual identity lies the essence of a lover. Sam and Bridgett discuss how men...2024-09-2555 min
Behind Our Smiles Marriage PodcastEpisode 157: Whatcha Listening To?Happy Fall! Instead of bringing you a new episode of our podcast, we want to share with you some of the podcasts we’re listening to! If you’re looking for other podcasts to binge on, these are a great start! WowGod.com Morning Focus Daily Devotional Manly with Andy (The Sex Talk You Never Got w/ Sam Jolman) I Love that Song (Consumed by Fire) Mental Health w Dr. Mork (Panic Attacks) To connect with us on social media: Facebook Instagra...2024-09-2413 min
Enneagram and MarriageReclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality w/Marriage Therapist and Writer Sam Jolman, Type 4Today's must-listen podcast episode is a vital piece of the sex talk you never got - a conversation about sexual issues as they show up in almost every marriage as a result of shame and contempt born of most men's first encounters with sex because of the earliest introductions to sex via pornography and other counterfeit distortions with marriage therapist and author, Sam Jolman, Type 4 (4-4 pairing). Here we bring a respectful conversation geared toward the reminders of the God-given gift of wonder, awe, and innocence that you can truly bring into your marriage for a renewed sense of...2024-09-2351 min
Manly with AndyEpisode 86 - Sam Jolman - The Sex Talk You Never GotIt's time to have the talk with ourselves and therapist Sam Jolman wants to help you reconnect with your innocence, awe and joy. We'll look at a time when the people of God looked to their past to be reminded of their future. And Justin, Liam and Caden were on a hike when they found something from the distant past and it's unearthing them into the Hall of Heroes.2024-09-0329 minSexy Marriage RadioSensuality vs Sex | Sam Jolman #689This week, Dr. Corey chats with Sam Jolman, a fellow counselor and the author of The Sex Talk You Never Got. We talk about the importance of sensuality and play in sex and relationships.
We emphasize the need for men to slow down, savor the moment, and engage their senses in order to fully experience pleasure and intimacy. And we also highlight the role of playfulness in sex, suggesting that couples should approach it as a form of play rather than a task.
By cultivating a sense of awe and prioritizing pleasure, couples can create a...2024-08-1431 min
Sexy Marriage RadioSensuality vs Sex | Sam Jolman2024-08-1431 min