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Marriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickRemarry Your Ex || Charlie HorseBack on Segment 222 we asked you to give your spouse another chance if they were willing to fix the marriage. But, what if you’re already divorced, would you ever consider remarrying your Ex? Most everyone would say, “Absolutely not.” However, Mr. Cossick would encourage the complete opposite response. In this segment we discuss why you should remarry your Ex and how to date your Ex.
2021-10-0813 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickA Stroll Down Memory Lane || I Remember That Time#352: The 'Marriage Talk' segment actually began in May 2011 and was brought to this station in 2013 when Sam joined the Salem radio platform. When the segment began, it focused mainly on current events related to marriage. By tip #104 the segment had become much more structured and we introduced the Hot & Heavy tip. We are now on segment #352 and running fairly smoothly. Why are we strolling down memory lane? Because the segment’s beginning, its journey since then, and its current status can be a great example for the marriage lifecycle as well.
2021-10-0113 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickLearned Industrious Theory#336: Dr. Robert Eisenberger is credited with developing the Learned Industrious Theory: Feeling hopeful due to previous successes from a persistent effort. His research found that “reward for high effort involving one or more activities increases the subsequent effort exerted in other activities.” In layman’s terms, if you accomplish something through hard work, you are more likely to work hard at other things. In this segment we apply this theory to marriage.
2021-05-1414 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickLucy I'm Home || Drink Your Ovaltine#308: ‘Lucy I’m Home’ is from the classic TV show ‘I Love Lucy’. Lucy’s husband, Ricky, would enter the apartment and announce his arrival, often times to no response. If you want a healthy and thriving marriage, the first five minutes in the home are crucial. If you regularly halfheartedly acknowledge your spouse when they first get home or worse yet, ignore them, they will eventually lose their enthusiasm for coming home. You don’t have to drop everything you’re doing and run to the door, but a sincere greeting and maybe a hug and kiss will certainly give th...
2020-08-2113 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickThe Color Blue (Pop Quiz - How Well Do You Know Your Spouse)#307: Over the years couples in solid marriages tend to get ‘comfortable’ with each other. Comfortable is a state of mind whereby time together and conversation is relatively effortless. However, since our likes and dislikes tend to change over time, couples need to periodically check their knowledge of their spouse so that their comfort doesn’t turn into complacency.
2020-08-1413 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickWell, That Didn't Work || Spice It Up#306: “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” has been found in several studies to be true, however, that’s only if those separated actually like each other. What if that’s not the case? Ohio State conducted a study which found that 79% of couples who separated eventually decided to divorce. While this isn’t an absolute indicator it should at least point us to believe there’s likely a better option for improving a marriage than taking a break from it. In this segment we discuss a better way
2020-08-0714 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickJust Be || Pregame Show#305: Life is complicated enough without adding a complicated marriage on top. Often times we hear couples say phrases like, “You really have to work at marriage” and similarly, “Marriage is not easy.” But that’s not the way marriage was designed. It was designed to be two becoming one where the couples ‘Complete’ each other instead of ‘Compete’ with each other. The difference between Complete and Compete is the ‘L’ which is the Love you have for each. The more you love each other, the more you will Complete each other. The less you love, the more you will compete against each o
2020-07-3113 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickPity Parties and Blessings || Car Advice#304 When everything around you appears to be out of whack and heading in the wrong: direction, you should stop and literally count your blessings. This is one of those tips which at first seems annoying but actually works quite well when followed. Why does it seem annoying? Because venting is what you do at pity parties. You also invite others to vent with you. So, when someone at the party tries to cheer you up, it’s just plain annoying. In this segment we discuss how to cancel a pity party.
2020-07-2413 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickThe Lighter Side of Marriage || You're Hot#303: We’re living in a world that appears to have gone mad and it's placing major stress on our families. When things get crazy they say laughter is the best medicine. So, sometimes you just need to laugh. With that said, in this segment we take a look at some quotes about the lighter side of marriage which may contain more truth than we’d like to admit.
2020-07-1712 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickThis Is The Big One || What's the Point#302: Redd Foxx who played the character Fred Sanford on the comedy show Sanford and Son, made famous the line, “Elizabeth, I’m coming to join you, this is the big one!” When he didn’t get his way or when something was said that he didn’t like, Fred would grab his chest, stumble around, and pretend he was having a major heart attack, “This is it, the big one." As husbands there has likely been a time or two when we’ve seriously considered the Fred Sanford way.
2020-07-1013 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickShoemaker's Kids || Extended Stay#301: The saying, “A shoemaker’s kids have no shoes’ refers to someone who often neglects the ones closest to him. To apply that concept to your marriage you can ask yourself two questions, Does your spouse feel loved by you as much as everyone else feels loved by you? And, Does your spouse get the best of your attention or just the crumbs that are left over? Pressure Test Your Answers with the ‘Test of Time’ Exercise. In the Hot & Heavy section we discuss that 54% of couples are okay with an average intimacy time together of just 19 minutes.
2020-06-2612 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickSecret to a Great Marriage || Re-Connect#300: While Love and Physical attraction are often cited as the key to a good marriage, there is another aspect of marriage, a secret way of doing marriage that couples who have the best marriages know quite well. It goes well beyond a physical attraction and a choice to love…it’s Adoration. Adoring your spouse requires a fusion of your feelings and your choice to love. It’s when physical desire and commitment form a bond so strong it can’t be negatively influenced by any situation.
2020-06-1913 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickHappy Wife, Happy Life || Happy Husband, Happier Wife#299: Happy Wife, Happy Life is an old & well know saying, but is there any truth to this marriage advice? A 2014 Rutgers study of 394 couples married at least 39 years concluded the answer to that question is, Yes. In this segment we discuss why. In the Hot & Heavy section we discuss something the wife can say to her husband that will radically change his mood to the best mood ever.
2020-06-1215 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickConstructive Criticism || Obliterating Your Marriage#298: How to Respond to Constructive Criticism from Your Spouse and a clean discussion about the real impact adult entertainment has on your marriage.
2020-06-0512 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickStubbing Your Toe || Ready for Take-off#297: Most of us can hold our temper in all kinds of situations but when you stub your toe all bets are off. The Bible says ‘love’ covers or helps us to look past all kinds of offenses, but when your spouse does that one thing that hurts like you stubbed your toe, it’s the straw that breaks the camel’s back, the thing that opens the floodgates of all the other pains and it all comes flowing out. Three Ways to Respond When Your Spouse Stubs His/Her Toe…Teapot, Editor, Pacifier.
2020-05-2912 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickGardening Tips for Marriage || Enjoy the Fruit#296: There has been no shortage of stories about people building gardens during the quarantine. As they tend to their garden, they will soon realize maintaining a garden is very similar to maintaining a marriage. Just like a garden, you can’t let your marriage go unattended and expect it to be healthy and thriving. Gardening Tips for a Healthy Marriage.
2020-05-0816 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickFreedom Friday || Boom or Bust#295: Happy Freedom Friday. As the economy begins to open back up and we start transitioning back into our normal routines, let’s not forget a few lessons we should have learned from the Coronavirus quarantines. We also discuss how a bust in your intimacy time for the past six weeks will return to a boom very soon.
2020-05-0113 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickWe Need to SSRR || Slippery When Wet#294: With the continuation of the lock-ins, family members will certainly begin to get on each other’s nerves and fuses will get shorter. As the tension gets hyper inflamed it’s only a matter of time before the battle of words begins which is almost impossible to stop before deep emotional wounds are inflicted.Stopping the out-of-control argument spiral will take a direct, bold, non-negotiable action that mandates a shift in your mindset, “We need to SSRR”SSRR stands for Shut-up, Sit Down, Reflect, then Re-engage. This strategy is not an attack against your spouse, it’s an...
2020-04-2411 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickWhat Am I, Toilet Paper || Intimacy is like Ordering Pizza#293: While it may not be intentional, we often take our spouses for granted, just like we did toilet paper until it became a difficult to find product. Taking something for granted means: failure to properly appreciate someone or something. This is never a good idea, especially when the ‘someone’ is your spouse. In this episode we discuss two ways to avoid making your spouse feel like toilet paper. We also discuss how intimacy is a lot like ordering pizza.
2020-04-1712 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickSlow Your Roll || Instruction Manual#292: As we end a two week Stay-at-Home order and are now looking at another four weeks, many are scrambling to learn how to hold and take on-line classes, how to balance work and personal life now that they are occurring in the same space, and trying to figure out how they are going to emotionally survive being cooped up for another four weeks. We certainly don’t have all the answers but we do think a couple of clichés might help...
2020-04-0313 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickGarbage Disposals || Wind Chimes#291: Men are Like Garbage Disposals and women are like Wind Chimes. A quality three quarter horsepower garbage disposal can process just about anything you put in it. However, sometimes it’s the volume of something that can cause major problems. For example, the eggshells from two eggs is easily processed. But drop in the shells from a dozen eggs at the same time and you’ll be pulling all kinds of pipes to unclog the system. Other times what you put in the disposal is just too difficult to process, such as steak gristle. Put that in the disposal and...
2020-03-2713 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickLast Nerve || Time Out#290: We are in the midst of yet another trying time that will place additional stress and tension on our relationships. Fear and anxiety are typically born in the unknown and right now, we are facing surmounting unknowns. Businesses and schools are closing and families will be spending extended time together. That should be a good thing but unfortunately being ‘cooped up’ in relatively close quarters can cause us to step on each other’s last nerve. How to Step Over and Not On Each Other’s Nerves.
2020-03-2010 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickActive Listening || I'm Too Stressed Out#289: We mentioned a couple of weeks ago that communication is almost always at the top of the ‘needs improvement’ list for couples. We also said communication is really not that difficult if you master a few basic skills. Of all the suggested communication skills, there’s one technique that’s always extremely effective in any communication but especially in a marriage…Active Listening. Active listening is very simple in theory but highly difficult in practice. Follow these rules and you will become an expert active listener in no time...
2020-03-1312 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickTear Down the Wall, Part 2 || Friends with Benefits#288: While the topic of a wall between the US and Mexico continues to be debated, all of us can agree that walls between a husband and a wife need to come down. Unlike a physical wall, marriages have emotional walls that are put in place to prevent us from experiencing emotional pain. A wall can be a topic you won’t discuss or an emotion you hold back such as trust. While some walls in marriage may provide protection from outside influences, walls that divide will actually destroy the marriage. Learn how to tear down the walls, safely.
2020-03-0612 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickNow and Later || Tell Me More...#287: Now and Later is a popular taffy-like candy that was introduced in 1962. The name, Now and Later, was meant to suggest to customers that they are going to like the candy now and then want some more later. Unfortunately, due to overloaded schedules and commitments many couples have grand plans to enjoy more time with each other later but completely ignore enjoying time together now. The problem with that plan is for many marriages, later either never comes or it comes too late.Incorporate the following into your marriage and you will enjoy your marriage Now and...
2020-02-2811 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickMelting Icebergs || Oooh, I Like That#286: In ‘The Santa Clause 3’ movie, Jack Frost is changed into a new person when he experiences the power of a warm hug that melts away his iced heart. While that may be a movie, there’s a lot to be said about the healing power of touch. In general, nonsexual touching causes your brain to release feel good hormones while also reducing your stress hormones. In a relationship that’s become as cold as an iceberg, some simple touching can melt away that bitter cold and reignite the flame.
2020-02-2111 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickV-Day Disasters || Planning to Travel#285: Valentine's Day is a day when we are supposed to express our love for our spouse in special ways. Get it right and it has the potential to be a great day. Get it wrong and it can be a total disaster. In this segment learn how to disaster proof your V-Day expressions of love and what to do the other 364 days of the year.
2020-02-1412 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickWe Need a Miracle || Limited Time Offer#284: Unfortunately, too many couples would say that short of a miracle, their marriage likely will not survive 2020. No doubt those couples have tried counseling, read just about every marriage book written, and talked with friends and family, all with little to no results. The life has been sucked out of their marriage and they feel like they’re gasping for air. If that’s where you are you may be wondering what’s next? You could throw in the towel and most people wouldn’t blame you for doing so. Or, you can do like Kansas City did last week in...
2020-02-0712 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickWindows || Advice For Her#283: Windows in a home provide a view to the world around us. For the most part, that world works diligently against your marriage and family. Here’s how and what you should do to counter those attacks…
2020-01-2414 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickSnowball, Domino, Mindset || Change Course#282: What do the terms Snowball, Domino, and Mindset have in common? They describe the cause and effect of certain interactions. Meaning future interactions will be influenced by previous interactions. This can result in positive or negative future interactions. How each works and how to use them in a positive way.
2020-01-1715 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickThreesome || Song of Songs#281: Within the confines of marriage (or any relationship for that matter), the idea of a threesome will typically be viewed as negative or damaging to your relationship. However, in its basic definition, ‘a group of three people engaged in the same activity’ a threesome can have a positive or negative effect. In that context there is one threesome you can incorporate in your marriage that will actually strengthen your relationship…You, Your Spouse, and God.
2020-01-1012 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickComplaining || Flashback#280: While one can arguably say, “Bacon makes everything better” it doesn’t mean eating bacon is good for your health. For example, studies have shown that five hours after eating a pork chop, red blood cells clump together decreasing the flow efficiency of those cells throughout the body. Complaining is similar to bacon, it may feel good when doing it but long term, complaining has negative effects on the brain and body as a whole.
2019-12-1314 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickBusiness of Marriage: Accretive vs Dilutive || Bottle Warmer#279: We periodically look at marriage from a business perspective, not to make marriage impersonal but to learn how good business practices or assessments can help improve your marriage. In business an action or transaction is assessed by the value it brings to or takes away from the business. A transaction that adds value is accretive. Applying this principle to your marriage, you would assess whether a certain action strengthens or weakens your marriage.
2019-12-0610 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickBad Breath || Good Hygiene#278: If your spouse has bad breath, feet, etc. or an annoying habit such as chewing with their mouth open, clearing their throat, etc. should you let them know? If yes, how should you let them know? How to break the bad news about their bad breath...
2019-11-2214 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickProverbs 31 || Vacuuming#277: When people talk about Proverbs 31 they always talk about this incredible woman. Just how incredible is she? For starters she’s a wife, a mother, a successful businesswoman and a philanthropist. That’s pretty amazing. However, it is rarely ever noted that the Proverb starts and ends with a statement about the husband. If you only focus on the wife’s accomplishments, you will miss two very important points about how to have a thriving marriage.
2019-11-1513 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickSarcasm || Cheap Trick#276: Sarcasm is the use of remarks to mock, criticize or convey dissatisfaction. Unfortunately, many spouses have bought into the lie that sarcasm is a motivator. It’s okay to get annoyed, but when the annoyance is elevated to disgust, sarcasm typically takes over.
2019-11-0810 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickHonest Abe || Trial & Error#275: Abraham Lincoln, aka “Honest Abe” believed in integrity and worked hard to protect his reputation as an honest politician. Along with President Lincoln, we believe honesty is always the best policy. But, just how ‘honest’ should you be with your wife when it comes to sensitive topics such as weight, clothing, or if she asks you if you think someone she's pointed out is pretty?
2019-11-0112 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickGet Real || Passionately#274: Spouses need to quit pretending to be someone they are not just to meet their spouse’s expectations of who they ‘should’ be or ‘want’ them to be. If they’re introverted they will never be extroverted; if they’re more comfortable in casual clothes and restaurants, they’re not suddenly going to start desiring fancy restaurants and formal attire. However, it’s okay to ask them to occasional accommodate your interests, just don’t withhold your love or resent them if they don’t permanently change because they probably can’t, even if they tried.
2019-10-2513 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickTick for Tack || Simple Sayings#273: Does this scenario sound familiar: husband or wife does something stupid or hurtful so their spouse does something similar to even the score. For example, husband buys an expensive gadget he really doesn’t need and they can’t afford, so the wife goes shopping and spends a similar amount of money. Unfortunately, these are common responses that do absolutely nothing but destroy a marriage.
2019-10-1810 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickNo One Cares About Marriage || Anxiety#271: In her book, “I do and I don’t” Jeanine Basinger quotes famed producer, Sam Briskin on his view of marriage in movies: “Why make a picture where a man and woman are married? The main thing about pictures is love or sex. Here you’ve got a man and woman married at the start — who’s interested in that?”
2019-09-2715 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickI Want to be Married...to You || Slow Dancing#270: In a coaching session, the question was asked of the wife, “Why do you want to stay married to your husband?” To the Coach’s surprise, the wife offered only general reasons and struggled to provide qualities that were specific to her husband. After a bit of coaching, the wife identified a couple of things only her husband, by his unique emotional and physical makeup, could bring to the marriage.
2019-09-2012 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickDead Air || Pillow Talk#269: Life tends to get more complicated as we get older. Work becomes more demanding, chores pile up, kids drain the life out of us, and aging parents require more of our attention. It’s no wonder that by the end of the day, spouses find it almost impossible to drum up enough energy to have a meaningful discussion that goes beyond just recounting the day's events. Unfortunately when this happens, mindless activities or ‘dead air’ time, often replaces active involvement in each other’s lives.
2019-09-0614 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickMarriage Myths || Intimacy Myths#268: Unfortunately, many couples venture into marriage with several preconceived ideas and expectations that may not be so accurate. These misconceived ideas and expectations can confuse spouses and in some cases, destroy a marriage.
2019-08-3014 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickDeep Emotional Wounds || Casually Sexy#267: In the heat of an argument things are often said that cut deep to our core. Even if an apologize follows, the one offended will often say or at least think, “They wouldn’t have said it unless they really felt that way, so there must be some truth to their words.” Words like these cause deep emotional wounds that couples often never get past. How to heal and get past deep emotional wounds?
2019-08-2312 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickBe The Ball, Danny! || Bronze Medalist#266: In the movie Caddyshack Chevy Chase’s character is coaching young Danny on how to hit a golfball. His advice, “be the ball, Danny.” I’m not sure how much help that advice will provide for your golf game, but in marriage a slight variation of the advice can be a game changer. “Be your spouse, Danny.” In other words, be ‘for’ your spouse what you need ‘from’ your spouse.
2019-08-1610 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickTiming is Everything || Nope, Never Going to Happen#265: Like it or not, when restoring a marriage it will almost always be driven by ‘her’ timeline. Guys are great at departmentalizing so, once they fix something they are ready to move on. Gals, not so much. Even if the problem gets fixed, it will take her some time to trust that the fix is permanent
2019-08-0912 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickIt Doesn't Matter || Got Time?#263: Oh, the wonderful nuances of marriage, or any relationship for that matter. Spouses tend to talk in code because they really just want to be understood without having to explain every little detail. The coded comments, whether intentional or not, are really just a test to see how much you know, or are expected to know about your spouse. Here are a few ‘tests’ you may face and what you should know about each.
2019-07-2612 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickI'm Great...Right? || That Was Amazing#262: People generally want to be accepted and valued by others, so they tend to brag a little and embellish stories a bit to impress those around them. When a spouse does that with their wife or husband it could be an indication of a more serious issue, that of feeling undervalued. Ways to Reaffirm Your Love and Appreciation for Your Spouse…
2019-07-2112 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickEternal Impact || Ditto#260: Mom’s and Dad’s will have an eternal impact on their kids. Whether the impact is positive, negative or a little of both depends on what mom and dad say and do with and in front of their kids. A thriving home is not only the result of a solid marriage but also one where there is a healthy relationship with the kids.
2019-06-1413 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickSolid Foundation || Smartphones#259: In today’s day and age the dating scene has drastically changed with the advancement of social media and on-line dating sites. Regardless of how you approach developing a relationship, there are some basic steps to follow in order to form a solid foundation.
2019-05-3112 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickFinancial Formula || Romance Formula A+B=C#258: One of the top issues cited by divorced couples and spouses in troubled marriages is money. Not the money itself but how couples handle or mishandle it. In 2018 the average household had just under $7,000 in credit card debt with an average interest rate of 16.46%, which equates to $96 a month in interest payments. When so many are living paycheck to paycheck, it should be no surprise to read in the Bible in Proverbs 22 verse 7: The borrower will be a slave to the lender.
2019-05-2419 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickSecret Recipe || How Things Work#257: Restaurants often have a secret recipe that makes their version of the meal better than the rest. But what about marriage? Is there a secret recipe for marriage that will make your marriage better than the rest?
2019-05-1714 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickShut Up, Sit Down, Re-Engage || I Want To...#255: Responding to your spouse’s inquiries with an emotionally fueled answer will only further aggravate the situation. Proverbs Chapter 15 verse 1 says, "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” So, when the conversation with your spouse begins to elevate, you need to change course quickly or you will run the risk of slamming into the wall.
2019-04-0513 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickThe Crosshairs || Quantity vs Quality#254: Has it ever happened to you where you asked your spouse a simple question and instead of getting a simple answer, they unloaded on you? Here is what likely just happened…
2019-03-2917 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickFamily Provider || Main PrizeWhen asked what ‘Provider for the Family’ means, most men will focus on the financial needs of the family even if the wife also provides some financial support. It’s just how men are wired. However, if you ask the wife what she and the kids need from Dad, most will say the money is nice, but if they had to choose only one thing, they would choose his engagement in the family over a larger bank account. To his wife and especially his kids, Dad’s attention is worth gold.
2019-03-1514 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickSocial Media || Private ConversationsSocial media has become a staple component in a lot of people’s lives as a great way to keep up with friends and family. However, a recent study on the impact of excessive use of social media on a marriage found that couples who had a 20% increase in social media use correlated to a 4.3% increase in divorce amongst those same couples. The study also found that 11% of couples who limited their social media use were happier in their marriage.
2019-03-0812 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickWholly, Holey, Holy || HolisticFor years we’ve dedicated this segment to the Glory, Sanctity, Holiness & Steaminess of marriage. For our 250th tip we would like to expound on the third characteristic and talk about the Wholly, Holey, and Holy aspect of Marriage.
2019-03-0113 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickYoga for Your Marriage || Eating FrenzyIf you take Hollywood’s mock portrayal of discovering your inner self out of the equation, you’ll find several positive benefits associated with the physical aspect of yoga. These include: increased flexibility, muscle strength, and good health which can all help prevent future injuries. Those three benefits can be achieved in your marriage as well. If your marriage is in good shape, it won’t snap when it’s stretched.
2019-02-2213 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickUnreconcilable to Reconcilable Differences || Batter UpFor the past month or so we’ve witnessed our government argue over unreconcilable differences, to the extent the government even shutdown for a few weeks. We see similar patterns in marriages but instead of a temporary shutdown, the marriage often falls apart. Here are a few lessons to learn from the government shutdown to help us avoid a shutdown of our marriage.
2019-02-0811 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickSuper Bowl Marriage || Secret SignalsThis is Super Bowl Sunday so why not correlate the big game to a few marriage tips. If you want to win the Super Bowl it’s going to take a bit more effort than just showing up for the game. Unfortunately, too many couples just ‘show up’ for their marriage. Championship teams don’t start at the championship game, they begin with a plan to get to and win the championship game. The same is true if you want to have a championship marriage. Three areas to master in order to have a championship marriage.
2019-02-0111 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickNot Happening (divorce) || Lighten UpIt seems like every week we hear of yet another couple throwing in the towel on their marriage. Given the focus of this segment, hearing of another failed marriage is saddening and frustrating to say the least. But then there are those that let us know they have chosen to take a different approach…they’re fighting for their marriage. These marriages don’t always survive but more often then not, they do.
** Disclaimer: The following does not apply where there is physical or mental abuse.
2019-01-2514 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickOh Snap...Credit Card Bills“Oh Snap” is slang term that became popular several years back through a series of skits on Saturday Night Live. The phrase is used as a playful indication of surprise or misfortune. Now that we are about a month out from Christmas and Hanukkah many couples are about to have an “Oh Snap” moment right after they receive their latest credit card bill. No worries though, there is a simple way to not let your “Oh Snap” credit card bill create an “Oh Snap” marriage moment.
2019-01-1811 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickGlory, Sanctity, Holiness, and Steaminess of MarriageEvery week we promote the Glory, Sanctity, Holiness & Steaminess of Marriage. Let’s start the new year by defining each of these terms so that we’re all on the same page each week.
2019-01-0413 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert Cossick911 Operator or Firefighter (Emotional Abandonment, part 2)There are two ways to respond to a crisis in your marriage, you can play the role of a 911 Operator or you can take on the role of a Firefighter. Both responses can produce positive results. However, if only one type is used or either type dominates the response, it will create a feeling of emotional abandonment and thereby weaken the marriage not strengthen it.
2018-12-1414 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickCutout Spouse (Emotional Abandonment, part 1)Life size cutouts have been around for decades and are great for promotions but not for replacing an absent spouse. A significant problem marriages face today is the physically present but emotionally absent spouse which can cause a spouse to feel abandoned. Emotional Abandonment is the feeling of being cast aside, left out of, and aloneness. These feelings are expressed with comments like, We have nothing in common; We don’t know each other; and I don’t love him/her anymore. The emotional abandonment is not the problem, it’s all the detours along the journey that need to be add...
2018-12-0712 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert Cossick"My Husband" "My Wife" || Down...a Little Left...PerfectA common reference to our spouse is the title “My Wife” or “My Husband.” Those titles have become so common we’ve probably lost the significance of them and unfortunately, may have even attached a negative connotation to the title. We would like to rekindle the honor those titles really embody.
2018-11-1614 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickStake in the Ground || Hallmark NightBefore you can begin a project to improve something, you first have to assess from where you are starting. If you don’t know where you are you’ll never be able to assess whether or not you’ve made any progress. Marking from where you are starting is absolutely critical in developing a plan for your marriage.
2018-11-0912 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickOpposites Complete || TriggersThe phrase, “Opposites Attract” is true, but most people don’t know why. We tend to be attracted to opposite personalities out of our desire to fill a shortfall in our own personalities. For example, people who shy away from risky adventures will typically be intrigued by those who freely participate in those type of activities. That tension will often create an attraction between the two individuals.
2018-11-0213 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickDead End Streets || I'm Leaving YouRealizing you just reached the end of a dead end street is a horrible feeling. It can make you feel lost and confused. Turning around can be difficult as well. Reaching a dead end in your marriage will feel the same way. But just like reaching the end of a dead end street, following a few simple rules can get you back on course.
2018-10-2612 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickTearing Down The Walls in Marriage || Game NightWalls are used to hold something up, keep something out, keep something in, or keep things separated. A Wall in marriage serves a similar purpose. In a negative sense, a wall divides and separates us emotionally from our spouse and causes long-term damage to our relationship. In this segment we discuss which walls can be broken down and how.
2018-10-1912 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickPreventative Care || Fully EngagedWhen was the last time you had a physical? When it comes to your health, preventative care is always more effective, less expensive, and less painful than emergency care. The same is true for your marriage, so you should have a check-up of your marriage at least once a year. An annual check-up can include attending a marriage conference, scheduling a talk with a marriage coach or counselor, or reading and discussing a marriage book. In this episode we discuss marriage vitals that should be regularly checked.
2018-10-1211 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickPlan for Success || 9:00 PM TuesdayWhether you want to turn your marriage around or just take it to a new level, you not only need to have a plan, the plan needs to be concise and easy to understand with realistic expectations. In this segment we discuss the one page marriage plan.
2018-10-0512 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickBusiness of Marriage (Growth vs Cost Reduction) || MusicalsIn business, instilling a focus on increasing revenue will grow a company at a rate of four times that of efforts focused on reducing the costs of running the business. Translate that into marriage and focusing on growing together will strengthen your marriage four times faster than efforts to fix your problems. The most successful marriages focus on both, but the return on growth will be greater.
2018-09-2811 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickHopeless to Hope || Beach PartyIt is very common to feel hopeless when your marriage is falling apart. Hopelessness is the result of being both physically and mentally spent, totally confused about what you feel, and the fear that nothing will ever change. In this segment, learn how to turn your hopelessness to hope and in the process turn your marriage around.
2018-09-2114 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickThat's Just The Way I Was Made || Stuck in ParkA common response to constructive criticism is to claim, “That’s just the way I was made.” The reality is that’s nothing more than a copout. Just because you were ‘made’ a certain way doesn’t mean you have to stay that way. In other words, the way you are isn’t necessarily the way you should be? Three truths about changing who we are.
2018-09-1412 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickThe Dead Sea Syndrome || Sweet Nothings in His EarThe Dead Sea is dead because it only receives and never gives. Your marriage will become a Dead Sea if one spouse always receives but never gives. In this segment we discuss how to bring life back into your marriage.
2018-09-0712 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickFlush the Toilet || Why Did They Do That?Some men will go out of their way to avoid an angry wife. One husband retreated to the restroom to avoid his angry and yelling wife. From there he called Mr. Cossick for advice. Mr. Cossick’s advice, “Flush the toilet.” He did as instructed and then reengaged in the conversation with his wife. (you’ll have to listen to the segment to find out why this worked).
2018-08-2412 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickMarriage Is (Myth Busting)Most couples don’t have a realistic understanding of what to expect from marriage. Their expectations are often too high which places a tremendous amount of stress on the marriage when those expectations are not met. If you want to build or rebuild a great marriage the first step is to bust a few of the myths about marriage. In this segment we discuss (bust) 5 of them.
2018-08-1011 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert Cossick"I Hate You" Equals "I Love You" || This Little PiggyWife: “You’re the worst husband ever”; Husband: “I hate being married to you”
Words like those will cut to our core, but what’s being said verbally isn’t what’s really being said.The real message might be one of affection and love.
2018-08-0315 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert Cossick"You Talkin' To Me?" || Go To Bed EarlyIn the 1976 film ‘Taxi Driver’ Robert De Niro memorialized the phrase, “You talkin’ to me?” That’s a celebrated line in movies, but if your spouse uses that line in response to a comment you just made, things are probably not going to end well. Studies have found that if the initial three minutes of a discussion includes sarcasm, criticism, or expressions of contempt, there’s a 96% chance the discussion will end in an argument. In this segment we discuss three steps to reverse a bad start to a discussion. We also discuss how going to bed early could lead to less sleep.
2018-07-2012 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert Cossick5 W's of Intimacy || Turn SignalsIntimacy in marriage is so important that we include a Hot & Heavy, PG-rated tip every week to encourage couples in that area. If you want to improve intimacy in your marriage, you’re going to have to discuss it with your spouse. The best approach to discuss intimacy is to use the 5-W’s: who, what, where, when, and why.
2018-07-1311 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickActual State of Your Marriage || Be FlexibleOn a scale of 1 to 10 with ten representing marital bliss and 1 meaning it’s hanging on by a thread, how would you rate the health and wellbeing of your marriage? How would your spouse rate it? There are a couple of rules you’ll need to follow when assessing and discussing the ‘actual’ state of your marriage: Assume Nothing, Stay Focused, and Be Flexible.
2018-06-2912 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickLove in a Paper Cup || What's For DessertSometimes it’s the basics of life that serve as a great foundation for a thriving marriage such as the absolute confidence that you will always be there for each other. We’ll bring back a 1971 song to encourage you in this area. We also talk about whipped cream and chocolate syrup in the Hot & Heavy discussion.
2018-06-2212 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickIf It Ain't Broke || I'm BoredWe all know the saying, “If it ain’t broke...don’t fix it.” If you apply that rule to your business, in time you will likely no longer be able to attract customers. We just saw this with the demise of Sears. The same is true in marriage because we change, our likes and dislikes change, and what we enjoyed in our 20’s is likely not achievable or as enjoyable today. If we want our marriages to stay desirable and attractive to our spouse, we may need to change a couple of things.
2018-06-0813 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickPlease Stay and Dating AppsPart 1: ‘Open Arms’ by Journey is the story of a couple who drifted apart, then separated, and but now the husband is asking his wife to try and make it work, “So here I am with open arms hoping you’ll see what your love means to me.” If your spouse is willing to talk, willing to sincerely try,…maybe your willingness to also try or try again is the right answer. Part two: how Dating Apps are killing the Dating Scene
2018-06-0115 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickThe "Me Tooer" Syndrom || ChemistryA “me-tooer” always has a similar story or similar experience no matter the subject. If you’re always playing the role of the “me-tooer” you may not know it, but you’re actually sucking the life out of the conversation, not contributing to it. No relationship is threatened more by the “me-tooer” than the relationship with his/her spouse. Over time, the spouse will quit sharing their own experiences which leads to separation and eventually the end of the relationship.
2018-05-1814 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickTemporary Truce || Stop Right ThereA permanent truce or avoidance from talking about tough topics can ultimately destroy your marriage. However, a temporary truce can actually lead to a solution. Learn the difference in this segment. In the Hot & Heavy portion of the segment we discuss breaking your intimacy time into two phases separated by an overnight break.
2018-05-1112 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickThe Business of Marriage (S.W.O.T. Analysis) || Missed SignalsA standard tool in business is a S.W.O.T. analysis. It’s when you identify the Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats of and to your business. You then put into place a plan to take advantage of the strengths, and opportunities and to reduce your weaknesses and any potential threats. The same analysis is a great tool for taking a marriage to the next level.
2018-04-2711 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickGame On...Bring It! (Competing Against Your Spouse) || CampfireSports fans are often more competitive than the athletes themselves, especially when it comes to defending their teams. Spouses can be just as competitive with each other, especially when defending their opinions. In this segment we discuss: How to Avoid Turning Your Spouse Into Your Competition…
2018-04-2005 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickIs Your Affection Mandated or Voluntaryd?When it comes to celebrating sports teams, fans get a bit crazy. The sports merchandise industry recently topped $48 billion. When it comes to celebrating our marriages, we can get a bit crazy too. An estimated $18 billion was spent on Valentine's Day. Unfortunately, unlike celebrating sports, celebrating our marriages is often a forced or mandatory event. On the flip side, when your celebration is voluntary, a basic marriage becomes a great marriage.
2018-04-1313 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickGo Ahead...Make Her Cry || Candles, Soft Music, and PatienceDoes your wife cry about your marriage? There are typically three areas that cause a wife to cry about her marriage. If you want to divorce proof your marriage…make your wife cry tears of joy in three areas. In this segment we discuss all three. In the Hot & Heavy discussion we discuss patience.
2018-03-2312 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickBelieve Me || It's My DutyHow trustworthy are you? Studies found that you must follow through on 90% of your promises to be considered trustworthy. Below 55% and you are not at all trustworthy. If you want to build or rebuild trust in your marriage, you’ll need to take extra care to think through your ability to honor your word. Unfortunately, just intending to do something is not worth much.
2018-03-1714 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickTake a Number...Blowing Off Spouse Time || Proactive vs ReactiveWe have 24 hours in a day of which sleep, work, routine chores, activities, meals, and kids will burn up most of that time leaving only an hour or two eat day for your spouse, maybe. It’s no wonder so many marriages are falling apart when all that our spouses hear us telling them is to, “Take a number and we’ll get to you as soon as we can.”
2018-03-0213 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickValentine's Day with Sam and DeniseIn this special edition of Marriage Talk, Sam’s wife Denise joins the show to discuss Valentine’s Day gift ideas.
2018-02-0912 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickWait, What Did You Say?Guys, have you ever said something that sounded great in your head, but somehow when you actually said it, your wife heard it in an entirely different context? In this segment, Sam and the crew answer the question: Can a husband recover after hearing his wife say, “Wait, what did you just say?”
2017-07-2114 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickPrepare for Partying without ArguingSpecial Guest, Denise Malone, Sam's wife fills in and talks about how to prepare for a party without arguing, keeping fireworks in your marriage and much more.
2016-07-0111 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickPrecious GemstonsMarriage is similar to a precious gemstone, it should be cherished for a lifetime. In this segment, Sam and Robert discuss the symbolic meaning of different gemstones and how each can represent your unique marriage.
2016-04-2911 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickSpecial Guest, Denise (Sam's Wife)Sam’s wife, Denise, joins the show today to share her thoughts about how to manage holiday stress and avoid taking it out on your spouse. Denise gives five ways to reduce stress while focusing on your spouse at the same time. Sam and Denise have a lot of fun and are just adorable to listen to.
2015-12-1810 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickCranked Up and Cleaned UpDo you yell when you get frustrated with your spouse? Well, checking your heart rate may just be the solution to prevent that from happening. If that doesn’t work, Sam and Robert suggest taking a shower together. In this segment we will explain the heart rate theory and how a shower can make it all better.
2015-06-2713 minMarriage Talk w/ Sam Malone & Robert CossickGive Me Some Money, HoneyOne of the most common topics couples argue about is…Money. It’s always on the top 10 list and usually lands in the top 3 of things couples argue about. Learn four simple steps to keep money from ruining your marriage and hear what made Sam Malone blush.
2015-05-2211 min