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The Unfiltered Truths PodcastThe Tools That Saved Me: A Personal Guide From the Brink | Homecoming Epd 18There's a story I don't often share. It’s not in the highlight reels—it’s from the year my light went out. I found myself on a cold floor, in a room I didn’t recognize, living a life that felt like it belonged to someone else. All I wanted was one thing to help me catch my breath.If you’ve ever felt that way—overwhelmed, lost, or drowning in your own life—this episode is for you. I’m sharing the three practical, non-theoretical tools that I used to navigate my darkest moments: the Permission Slip, the Somatic Comp...
2025-12-2215 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastThe Strategic Reset - End Burnout Unlock Creativity in 4 Steps I Homecoming Epd 17STUCK IN HUSTLE CULTURE? Learn the 4-STEP STRATEGIC RESET framework to END BURNOUT, activate your brain's creative mode (Default Mode Network), and TRADE EXHAUSTION FOR CLARITY. In Homecoming Episode 17, host Sandra reveals why pressing pause is your most powerful move for breakthrough success.🔗 FULL PODCAST: https://pod.link/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xMGJjMmZjZTgvcG9kY2FzdC9yc3M🎧SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/2LF3COgTMuovC5oMHUjhzK⏱ CHAPTERS (Click to Navigate):00:00 The Treadmill Analogy- Modern Burnout01:30 Welcome& This Episode's Purpose02:15 From Hustle Culture to Strategic Reset05:00 Neuroscience Behind Resets(DMN Explained)20:00 Real Cost of Never Pausing35:00 The 4-Step Strategi...
2025-12-1417 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastThe Family You Choose: When Friends Become Your Foundation | Homecoming Epd 16What is the sound of someone truly seeing you? It’s not in the big declarations—it’s in the quiet “I knew you’d need this” or the 2 AM “I’m here.” This episode is for anyone who’s found family in unexpected places… or is still waiting to find theirs.I’m Sandra, a medical scientist and host of The Unfiltered Truths Podcast, and in this raw conversation, I share:✅ The 3 pillars of chosen family—and why it’s not a “Plan B”✅ How to build a psychological safety net with friends who become family✅ Why chosen family is linked to longer, happier li...
2025-12-1320 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastWhy You Can't Let Yourself Be Happy (The Internal Permission Slip) | Homecoming Epd 15Do you achieve a major goal but immediately ask, "What's next?" instead of feeling happy? You're not alone. In this episode of our Homecoming series, we're tearing up the invisible "contracts" that make us feel guilty for experiencing joy. It's time to write yourself an internal permission slip.In this episode, you'll discover:· The 3 "Invisible Clauses" that steal your joy: The Striver's Clause, The Caretaker's Clause, and The Vigilante Clause.· Why your brain tells you that happiness must be earned through struggle.· A powerful guide to writing yourself a "Permission Slip" to feel worthy of your own happiness.· The hidd...
2025-11-3020 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastResilience is a Lie (Here's what works) | Homecoming Epd 14What if everything you know about bouncing back is wrong? I was broken on my kitchen floor—and that’s where I discovered that “just be strong” is the worst advice you can get. This video reveals why the common idea of resilience is a lie and gives you the real, practical system to put yourself back together.Watch to discover:🔹The 3-step "emergency protocol" for the moment you completely shut down (the 60-second reset)🔹How to stop an anxious spiral using the "5-4-3-2-1 Tethering Method"🔹The "One Brick" rule to rebuild your life without feeling overwhelmed🔹Why t...
2025-11-3025 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastThe Hustle Culture Lie That Keeps You Sick & Stressed | Homecoming Epd 13Feeling drained, disconnected, and like you're never enough? Hustle culture is lying to you. As a medical scientist who worked 5 jobs into severe burnout, I uncovered the truth—and found the way out.In this episode, I’m sharing the exact steps I took to heal. I break down the real, biological cost of constant grinding (like cortisol damage) and expose "hustle culture" as the toxic trap it is. This isn't about working harder. It’s about working smarter and reclaiming your peace, your creativity, and your life.IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL LEARN:00:00- My Burnout Breaking Point (Working...
2025-11-1834 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastYou Feel Like a Stranger In Your Own Life (Here's Why) | Homecoming 12Feeling like an imposter in your own life? That haunting question, "Why don't I know myself anymore?" is a sign you've lost touch with the most important person: you. This isn't about loneliness; it's about self-abandonment. In this episode, we explore the work of belonging to yourself—the foundation for beating loneliness, imposter syndrome, and building a life that truly feels like your own.If you deflect compliments, hear everyone's voice but your own, or feel disconnected from the person in the mirror, this is your homecoming.IN THIS EPISODE, WE COVER:0:00- The Hook: The Loneliest Feeling Isn't Be...
2025-11-1830 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastThe Hard Truth About Who Shows Up When You Fall Apart | Homecoming 11When crisis hits and you completely fall apart, who actually shows up? In this raw conversation, I share my personal story of devastating loss and the shocking realization about who was—and wasn't—there for me. This isn't just about friendship; it's about understanding the difference between fair-weather friends and all-weather souls.If you've ever wondered who you can truly count on in your darkest moments, this episode will change how you view your relationships forever.🔍 KEY MOMENTS:0:00 The shocking reality of who shows up in crisis1:04 Personal welcome & podcast introduction3:08 My personal story of devastation and betrayal5:04 The crucial...
2025-11-1813 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastWhen Joy Feels Like Betrayal (How to Stop Feeling Guilty for Your Success) | Homecoming 10I got the promotion I’d worked years for – and immediately felt like I was betraying my best friend. For 3 months, I hid my biggest achievement because her job search was failing. This is the raw truth about why we feel guilty for our success and how to finally celebrate your wins without shame.💔 In this vulnerable Homecoming episode, you’ll discover:1. Why your brain tricks you into feeling guilty for success (the psychology of “joy guilt”)2. The 3-month silence that almost destroyed a friendship3. How to share your joy without feeling like you’re “rubbing it in”4. The exact phrase I use...
2025-11-1810 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastHow I Rewired My Brain After "The 3 AM Money Thoughts That Kept Me Awake & Broke"? | Homecoming Epd 9Struggling with sleepless nights over money? You're not alone. In this deeply personal episode, I unpack the 3 toxic money stories that fueled my financial anxiety and stole my sleep—the Imposter, the Catastrophe, and the Shame. I'll share the exact tools I used to break the cycle of panic and finally find peace with money.If you're tired of lying awake at 3 AM worrying about bills, your future, or why you can't get ahead, this episode will give you:• The 3 Money Stories That Keep You Broke & Anxious: Discover how the "Imposter," "Catastrophe," and "Shame" stories silently run your financial life...
2025-11-1821 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastThe Loneliness Epidemic: Why Men Have No One to Call | Homecoming Epd 81 in 5 men have no close friends. It’s a five-fold increase since 1990. This World Mental Health Day, we’re breaking the silence on the male loneliness epidemic. Why do men have no one to call, and what is the real cost to their mental and physical health? This isn’t just a conversation; it’s a toolkit for healing. We dive into the societal pressures that force men into silence and provide 3 actionable solutions to build the meaningful connections you deserve. CHAPTERS / KEY MOMENTS:00:00 – The Shocking Stat – 1 in 5 Men Have No Close Friends03:28 – The “Brotherhood Gap”03:45 – The Data: Gallup & Pew Research Finding...
2025-11-1819 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastBeyond Fear: The Science of Starting Over | Homecoming Epd 7Is fear holding you hostage from the life you want? In this deeply personal and science-backed episode, I dismantle the psychology of fear and provide the practical tools you need to finally take the leap. This isn’t just motivational fluff—it’s a proven roadmap for building unshakable courage.👉 WATCH NEXT: If financial anxiety is your biggest fear, watch “The 3 AM Money Thoughts That Keep You Broke & Awake”: https://youtu.be/6K0TP4CyqqgIn this episode, you will discover:1. The shocking phone call that forced me to quit my job and choose my mental health over a “perfect” career.2. A simpl...
2025-11-1817 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastI Was Silent Too. This is What Suicide Prevention Looks Like | Homecoming Epd 6I was silent too. This video is my personal journey through suicidal pain and the exact turning point where I found hope. Created for Suicide Prevention Month, this is a raw look at what prevention truly looks like—breaking the silence, challenging the lies, and holding on.CHAPTERS / KEY MOMENTS IN THIS EPISODE:0:00 The Silent Message No One Sends02:04 The "Why": The Internal Prison of Pain02:52 The Signs: Seeing Past "I'm Fine"04: 25The 3 Devastating Lies Pain Tells You06:18 The Aftermath & A Personal Plea08:38How To Help Someone You're Worried About09:33 What To Do If You're Struggling11:55 Hope & Healing Are Re...
2025-11-1815 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastThe secret that tore my family apart. UNFILTERING IT ALL! | Homecoming Epd5This is the raw and emotional story of how one hidden truth shattered my family's reality—only to rebuild it with a stronger foundation. In this video, I reveal the deep, personal secret that wasn't a source of betrayal, but a hidden legacy of love and survival that forever changed our understanding of our own history. This is a journey through shock, revelation, and a healing that redefined the meaning of family. Whether you’re seeking hope within your own family story or just need a reminder that not all secrets are dark, I hope this truth resonates with you...
2025-11-1817 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastI Forgot My Father For 20 Years (This Brought Him Back) | Homecoming Epd4I forgot my father for 20 years. This is the story of how a journey back to my village and a single photograph, hidden in a childhood drawer, brought him back to me. It’s a journey into grief, memory, and the moment I learned that some boxes are meant to be opened. CHAPTERS / KEY MOMENTS:0:00 The Box We Never Open1:07 Returning Home After 20 Years3:49 Memory Lane: Every Stone Has a Story5:50 The Silence That Held Its Breath7:04 The Museum of My Past9:05 Opening the Forbidden Drawer12:15 The Photograph That Brought Him Back16:15 My Uncle’s Story: “The Bicycle Day”20:21 Collecting...
2025-11-1834 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastI Never Got The Apology I Waited 20 Years For (Here's What I Did) | Homecoming Epd3I waited 20 years for an apology that never came. This is how I found freedom without it. A story for anyone who has been held hostage by someone else's silence.CHAPTERS / KEY MOMENTS:0:00 The Unspoken Storm1:17 The Café & The Power of Community4:01 The 20-Year Wait For An Apology5:11 The Realization: The Apology Was About Me7:04 The 5 Tools That Rewired My Brain7:11 Tool 1: Prayer & Spiritual grounding9:30 Tool 2: Professional Therapy10:48 Tool 3: Leaning on My Support System11:41 Tool 4: Journaling & Unsent Letters13:07 Tool 5: Mindfulness & Self-Care15:45 The Final Step: Choosing to Forgive17:07 The 4 Lessons That Changed Everything19:02 Reaching Out & Releasing The Pain20:18 Your Invitation t...
2025-11-1822 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastI Cut Off My Family For 20 Years Because of a Lie (The Truth That Healed Us) | Homecoming Epd 2I abandoned my family for two decades believing they didn’t love me. This is the raw story of how one lie almost destroyed everything—and the 3 powerful tools I used to rebuild what I’d broken.CHAPTERS / KEY MOMENTS THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING:0:00 The Lie That Cost Me 20 Years With Family3:45 How Cultural Silence Created Misunderstanding9:08 The 4 Root Causes of My Self-Deception11:30 My Biggest Fear: Rejection16:00 The Devastating Impact on All My Relationships23:14 The Loneliness of SuperficialConnections25:15 Missed Opportunities & Emotional Exhaustion30:36 The Turning Point: Choosing to Break Free31:02 Tool 1: The “Receipts Jar” Method34:46 Tool 2: Talking to Myself Like a Best Frien...
2025-11-1849 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastI Avoided My Family For 20 Years After My Dad Died (What Happened Next) | Homecoming Ep1I swore I’d never return to the village that took my father. For 20 years, I carried that anger—until one spontaneous bus journey changed everything. This is what healing actually looks like.CHAPTERS / KEY MOMENTS THAT WILL MOVE YOU:0:00 20 Years of Avoiding Home1:44 The Spontaneous Decision to Return4:00 The 10-Hour Bus Journey of Fear6:17 Cold Feet: Almost Turning Back8:42 The Overwhelming Welcome I Never Expected10:14 The Guilt of 20 Years of Bitterness11:43 How Grief Clouds Everything13:09 The 7-Day Healing Journey14:13 The Generosity That Shamed My Anger16:01 Meeting People My Father Touched17:35 The Realization: Everyone Grieves Differently18:45 The High School Reun...
2025-11-1825 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 12: What Men Can Do, Women Can Do Too - This Debate Got HEATEDThis gender debate got so intense we almost stopped recording. When medical students and professionals clashed over money, power, and biology - the results were explosive. No filters, no apologies.CHAPTERS / KEY MOMENTS THAT WENT VIRAL:0:00 The Statement That Divided Everyone9:11 "Men Should Control Money Even If Women Earn More"13:33 "Two Captains Can't Run a Ship" - Leadership Clash16:24 "Men Always Expected to Provide" - Stereotypes19:12 University Points: "Are Women Being Belittled?"23:25 The Boy Child Crisis: "Men Are Being Compromised"27:27 Real Story: "I Was Suppressed For Being a Woman"29:13 "Are Women Emotionally Intelligent Leaders?"34:16 Consent Debate Gets AWKWARD39:09 "Men...
2025-11-171h 05The Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 11: I Was a Prisoner of My Comfort Zone for 8 Years (Here's How Exposure Set Me Free)For 8 years, I was trapped in a low-paying job, terrified to leave. I was a prisoner of my own comfort zone. This is the story of how I finally broke free, 5X'd my income, and found a career I love—all by understanding the life-changing power of exposure.In this deeply personal episode, I break down:The exact "prison job" mindset that held me back for nearly a decade.The calculated risk I took with no safety net that changed everything.The brain science behind exposure (dopamine & neuroplasticity) that builds confidence.Powerful psychological concepts like the Zone of Proximal De...
2025-11-1747 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 10: Why Your Love Language is WRONG (The Childhood Attachment Secret)Your love language might be silently sabotaging your relationships - and it all started in childhood. In this raw, unfiltered conversation, we expose the hidden connection between your attachment style and why you feel unloved even when your partner is trying.🔍 You'll Discover:The 4 attachment styles that secretly control your love languageHow your parents' "tough love" programmed your relationship patternsWhy you're either "clingy," "distant," or constantly feel misunderstoodThe mental health impact of mismatched love languages (stress, depression, conflict)How to EVOLVE your love language without faking itThe "genuine desire" foundation that makes love languages actually workReal stories: From silent tre...
2025-11-171h 17The Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 9: The Self-Care Lie Everyone Believes (Why Your Burnout is Not Your Fault)You’ve been told self-care is selfish – but that’s a dangerous lie that’s keeping you burned out, resentful, and empty. In this raw, personal confession, I break down exactly how putting yourself last is secretly destroying your relationships, your faith, and your mental health.💥 You’ll Discover:• The cultural and religious guilt trips that keep you from prioritizing yourself• How I went from burnout and resentment to energized and present (personal story)• The 5 pillars of self-care most people completely ignore• The neuroscience of stress – exactly how cortisol destroys your body• Why “you can’t pour from an empty cup” isn’t just a clich...
2025-11-1745 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 8: Sex Education: They Never Taught Us: STIs, Consent & Safe Sex TruthsWhat did NOBODY teach you about sexual health and relationships? In this unfiltered conversation, we break down everything from STI prevention to consent, family planning, and the real sexual health challenges most educators avoid.From personal stories to medical perspectives, this is the comprehensive sex education we all wish we had.🔍 KEY MOMENTS TO WATCH:(00:00) Introduction to unfiltered sex education(00:51) What comprehensive sex education really means(02:00) Importance of informed sexual health decisions(03:04) Personal story: The campus "don't get HIV" pep talk(05:15) Real consequences - roommate pregnancy story(06:06) Medical perspective on STIs and symptoms(07:25) Late bloomer confession and first experiences(08:11) The...
2025-11-171h 03The Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 7:How Childhood Trauma Shapes Your Entire Life: Our Unfiltered Stories.In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Sandra and Wilfried embark on a journey back to their earliest years, uncovering how childhood experiences silently design our adult lives. They share untold stories of family, trauma, and rebellion—from a terrifying home invasion that changed everything, to the strict rules that built resilience, and the unexpected moments that defined their careers. This is more than a conversation; it's a masterclass in understanding how your past shapes your present, and how to break free from the cycles that hold you back.Whether you're healing from your own childhood, raising children, or si...
2025-11-171h 09The Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 6: The Silent Treatment Trap: How to Fix Communication Breakdowns in RelationshipsWhy does the silent treatment destroy relationships? In this raw conversation, we uncover the real reasons communication breaks down and practical strategies to fix it. From timing difficult conversations to decoding hidden messages, we share personal stories and proven methods to bridge the communication gap.If you've ever felt unheard, misunderstood, or stuck in communication loops, this episode will transform your relationship.🔑 KEY BREAKTHROUGHS:(00:00) Introduction & Easter greetings(01:02) Fundamental differences in male vs female communication(02:01) Biological vs learned communication styles debate(03:10) Modern masculinity: Should men share feelings?(04:04) The vulnerability dilemma in relationships(05:09) Why texting ruins relationships(05:40) "We need to talk" - W...
2025-11-1752 minThe Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 5: The Psychological Trap That Makes You Spend Money (Even When Broke)Why can't you stick to a budget? The answer isn't willpower—it's psychology. In this raw conversation, we unravel the hidden psychological triggers of emotional spending, from social media FOMO to deep-seated emotional trauma. We share our most expensive mistakes (a 6-million-shilling breakup spree) and the practical steps that finally helped us gain control.This is more than a finance talk. It's a journey to self-awareness and mental freedom.🔍 KEY MOMENTS:(00:00) Surprising gender differences in problem-solving(01:01) What emotional spending REALLY is (not impulse buying)(03:04) Our personal triggers: Stress, excitement & heartbreak(09:11) The SHOCKING 6 Million Shilling Breakup Story(11:11) Neuroscience: How dopamine hijac...
2025-11-171h 02The Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 4: First Date Rules Men & Women SECRETLY Follow (The Unspoken Truth)What REALLY makes a first date successful? In this brutally honest 2-hour conversation, Sandra and Wilfred break down the unspoken rules of modern dating that nobody teaches you. From reading silent signals to navigating the "smashing" debate, this is the dating playbook you wish you had.💥 WATCH TO DISCOVER:- The compliment that actually makes women UNCOMFORTABLE- Why men run from women who move too fast physically- How to read body language and silent signals- The truth about who should like whom more in early dating- First date mistakes that kill attraction instantly⏰ CHAPTERS - WATCH THE MOST VIRAL MOMEN...
2025-11-171h 07The Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 3: We Asked 36 Deep Questions About Adulting - The Answers Changed EverythingWhat if you sat down and answered 36 brutally honest questions about adulting? In this raw 2-hour conversation, Sandra (medical scientist) and Wilfred (software engineer) go beyond surface-level advice to uncover the deepest truths about growing up. From mental health breakdowns and family pressure to finding purpose and navigating failure—this is the conversation about adulting you wish you had with your best friends.⚠️ WARNING: This conversation gets deeply personal and may change how you view your own journey into adulthood.⏰ CHAPTERS - KEY MOMENTS THAT WILL KEEP YOU WATCHING:00:00:00 - The Experiment Begins: 36 Questions for Adulting00:07:15 - We REHEARSE Difficul...
2025-11-172h 00The Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 2: Your Money Mindset is Broken (This Will Fix It)Is your relationship with money holding you back? In this raw, 1-hour+ unfiltered conversation, Wilfred and Sandra break down the deep psychological ties between your money and your mental health. We share our personal journeys through financial rock bottom, the shame of "Black Tax," the danger of greed, and how we started the journey to rebuild everything. This isn't just about budgets; it's about healing your money mindset from the inside out.📚 WATCH OUR OTHER VIDEOS:• https://youtu.be/qM_d_U0kmbg• https://youtu.be/6K0TP4Cyqqg⏳ CHAPTERS: (Key Moments)00:00:00 - The Shocking Truth About Your Money Mindset00...
2025-11-171h 07The Unfiltered Truths PodcastEpisode 1: Meet The Truth Tellers (The Raw Origin Story You Won't Believe)This is the unbelievable true story of how an introverted software engineer and extroverted medical scientist started a podcast after meeting in a book club. In this raw first episode, you'll witness the authentic moment this entire podcast was born.🎙️ You'll Discover:How Sandra thought Wilfred was a GIRL from his WhatsApp messagesThe hilarious first meeting where Wilfred didn't speak for 2 HOURSWilfred's shocking spiritual journey from Catholic to Jehovah's Witness to AtheistSandra's unwavering Christian faith and personal experiences with GodTheir unfiltered debate about relationships, cooking, and gender rolesThe exact moment Sandra knew Wilfred would be her perfect co-hostBehind-the-scenes of how t...
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