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The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 100 - I've Got Some Thoughts About That: AMA with ClientsSend us a textI started this podcast to contribute to the conversation around people-pleasing and perfectionism. Now, as The Ex-Good Girl Podcast reaches the 100th episode, I am extremely proud and grateful. My goal has always been to share tools, strategies, and stories to help you overcome challenges that result from good girl programming and live the life you want.It has meant so much to hear from all of you along this journey about the skills you’ve implemented and the progress you’ve made in your lives and relationships. Today, I’m answer...
2025-02-0543 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 99 - Breaking Down Patriarchy with Amy McPhie AllebestSend us a textIn this episode, you’ll hear my conversation with Amy McPhie Allebest, a writer, teacher, and feminist historian whose work has helped shape my understanding of patriarchy and expand my worldview. In her podcast, Breaking Down Patriarchy, Amy offers thought-provoking insights that inspire continued learning about the roots of patriarchy in society. Today, she shares some of those powerful ideas and personal stories, which I hope you find valuable as I have. Here’s what we cover:How “good girl” programming contributes to white feminism and upholding patriarchyWhy feelings of fear, guilt, and sham...
2025-01-2957 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 98 - Resentment: It's Not Coming From Them with Sara WilhelmSend us a textHave you ever felt resentment building, only to realize your own choices have led you to that place? A huge source of resentment is mistakenly blaming others for decisions that we are responsible for, but recognizing your power to control this can be transformative. In this episode, my guest, Sara Wilhelm, shares her recent breakthrough in understanding her resentment, and how she has made a plan to move forward in the direction of living more according to her values. Here’s what we cover:The steps to take you from feeling resentful to...
2025-01-2248 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 97 - Stop People Pleasing: Current Members Share!Send us a textI want every woman to have the ability to create a life of her choosing, filled with the freedom to embrace her desires. I’ve worked hard to create a program that helps women achieve this, but the real magic of my Stop People Pleasing program comes from the women themselves who are willing to take risks, expand their capacity for feeling uncomfortable, and develop the skills needed to live authentically without the weight of constantly pleasing others. In this episode, I’m so grateful to be joined by four amazing women from my p...
2025-01-1554 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 96 - What to Do When You Mess UpSend us a textMistakes are a part of life–we all make them, whether it’s with ourselves, with others, or in pursuit of our goals. Even as we grow emotionally and strive for greater self-connection, our inner critical voice often shames us for every misstep. In this episode, I explore why self-compassion is key when we mess up, and how leaving self-criticism behind is essential to lasting growth. Here’s what I cover:Examples that illustrate the way we were conditioned to fear making mistakes and the lasting impact this hasHow to address the parts...
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Worthy Mother PodcastHow to Stop People Pleasing and Start Living for Yourself with Sara Bybee FiskDo you feel stuck in patterns of people-pleasing, especially as a mom? Sara Bybee Fisk, a master certified coach specializing in helping women break free from people-pleasing, is on the podcast to discuss how to stop people-pleasing and start living a more authentic, connected life instead. Through the episode Sara explains how to identify the roots of people-pleasing and perfectionism, their effects on our relationships, and how to heal.In the episode, Sara and I talk about:Why so many women are people-pleasers and the impact of these tendancies on our relationshipsChoosing to stop people-pleasing despite...
2025-01-0745 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 95 - How To Set Goals That Actually Work with Goli KalkhoranSend us a textWhen it comes to goals and to-do lists, the unrealistic expectations we often have lead to feelings of inadequacy and overwhelm. Whether you want to set a goal for the new year or achieve a task this weekend, today’s guest, Goli Kalkhoran, shares why we often overreach and how to set practical and fulfilling goals that lead to success instead of shame. Here’s what we cover:How it's possible to change your mindset so you feel good about yourself no matter what you achieve in a dayAn exercise to illuminate the...
2025-01-0155 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 94 - We Are Thinking About Time All Wrong with Vikki YaffeSend us a textWhen we don’t get to cross something off of our to-do list, we often blame ourselves for poor time management. However, the founder and creator of the Time Hacker Method, Vikki Yaffe, joins me today to offer the perspective that the problem is not us, but the mindset about time we’ve been taught to have. Vikki teaches people the skills to collaborate with time more flexibly, and I’m so grateful to have her on the podcast to share tips and tools to stop feeling shame around time and trust ourselves instea...
2024-12-2537 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 93 - How To Get Out of the Planning Trap with Priyanka VenugopalSend us a text“I just need a really good plan,” is a phrase that offers overachievers a sense of security, but the cycle of planning is often what holds us back from achieving our goals. In today’s episode, Dr. Priyanka Venugopal joins me to discuss why plans alone don’t deliver the desired results and how embracing a different, more informed strategy can lead to greater clarity, growth, and success. Here’s what we cover:Why just having a plan on paper is never going to create lasting results because we have to go the extra...
2024-12-1849 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 92 - Grief Around the Holidays with Susie RuthSend us a textThe hopes and expectations we have going into the holiday season make this time of year particularly susceptible to feeling grief. In this week's conversation with Susie Ruth, an end-of-life coach and grief specialist, we discuss strategies for navigating grief and offer insights on how best to support someone grieving during the holidays. Here’s what we cover:The reason why we are more susceptible to feeling grief during the holidaysWhy the acronym B.R.A.T.S. will help you remember phrases and actions that DO NOT help you process your gr...
2024-12-1133 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 91 - Good Girls, Glinda and Upholding the PatriarchySend us a textWhen we cause harm to someone else, the good girl tendency is to feel shame and defensiveness. Instead, if we get to a place where we are generous and can grieve our mistakes, we can move on to be better versions of ourselves. In this episode, I talk about how the themes of Wicked relate to my journey of becoming an ex-good girl and the importance of self-compassion when you have to question your beliefs. Here’s what I cover:How the representation of power structures fueled by patriarchy in the Wicked mo...
2024-12-0426 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 90 - Why I Love Wicked and You Should TooSend us a textIn this episode, you’ll get a glimpse into my musical-loving heart as I discuss the feminist themes of the movie, Wicked, and moments in the film that took me back to a time when I had to realize a hard truth. Here’s what I cover:Why we all deserve to have beliefs consistent with having autonomy and being able to find what we like and what we want to doHow the song “Defying Gravity” helped me through a challenging time in my lifeWhy the realization that something that provides goodness and safe...
2024-11-2718 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 89 - Things that Matter Most Right NowSend us a textIt’s normal to want to bypass feelings of fear, worry, and sorrow during this uncertain time, but we miss the opportunity to create a vulnerable, trusting relationship with ourselves and our feelings if we send these big emotions into exile. In this episode, I discuss how moving forward starts with processing our emotions. Here’s what I cover:Why distraction from difficult emotions is not a bad thing when it’s balanced with emotional connection to yourselfA visualization exercise to help you process your feelings in a way that builds deep emotio...
2024-11-2020 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 88 - How To Have More Holiday Magic this SeasonSend us a textWith the holiday season fast approaching, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of parties, errands, cooking, and cleaning that keep us busy. In this episode, we’ll look at how these people-pleasing behaviors can leave us feeling disconnected from the meaningful connections we seek most during this season. Here’s what I cover:Why connection is the true magic of the holiday seasonThe unintended consequences of trying to feel connection through people-pleasingHow to develop a framework to go through this holiday season in a better than last ye...
2024-11-1321 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 87 - Settle-Proof Your Dating and Relationships with Lily WombleSend us a textDo you feel trapped by the “rules” of modern dating? I’m thrilled to be joined by dating coach Lily Womble in today's episode to talk about how to break free from those dumb dating rules. I want each one of you to find the relationship you’re meant to be in, and that starts with making sure you never have to settle in your dating life ever again.Here’s what we cover:How Lily Womble created a dating solution so she'd never have to settle againFeeling free in your datin...
2024-11-0657 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 86 - Bodily Autonomy with Dr. Stephanie Hack, the Lady Parts DoctorSend us a textSo many of us women have not been properly educated about our bodies and how to know what is best for them. Today, I’m joined by Dr. Stephanie Hack to discuss how we can empower ourselves to advocate for what we want and need.Here's what we cover:Hygiene advice for women that reflects love and care for ourselves and rejects the shame we are taught to feelHow certain programming targets the shame women feel surrounding our bodies to sell to usGeneral female anatomy and how using the anatomically co...
2024-10-3059 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 85 - Why Feminism Still MattersSend us a textOn my recent trip to Bolivia, I had an interaction that reignited my thoughts on feminism. In this episode, I explore why feminism remains a vital lens for understanding our world and shaping our actions. Here's what I cover:How my journey with feminism started with negative perceptions because of my upbringing in the Mormon ChurchWhy feminism is important for EVERYONE, not just womenHow We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie opened my eyes to the broader implications of gender equalityThe story of when I spoke up to advocate for...
2024-10-2323 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 84 - Belonging to Myself with Serena HicksSend us a textGet ready for a deep and inspiring conversation with Serena Hicks, a trailblazing business coach who’s shaking up how we view success and belonging. In this episode, Serena and I explore finding self-acceptance and navigating life when you feel pulled between different worlds.Serena Hicks is a business coach driven by freedom—financial, personal, and spiritual. With a background that includes MTV News and an Emmy from The Tyra Banks Show, she blends corporate success with deep personal insight. Serena champions inclusivity and empowers others to thrive on their terms. Thro...
2024-10-1642 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 83 - The Drama Triangle with Andrea ParksSend us a textHave you ever felt stuck in the same patterns in your relationships, unsure how to break free? In this episode, I sit down with Andrea Parks, a therapist who dives deep into the hidden dynamics that hold us back. Andrea shares how we can shift out of these roles and start truly healing and reclaiming our power. Tune in as we explore how these patterns can keep us stuck and how, through her unique perspective, Andrea helps guide people toward healing and empowerment.Andrea is a therapist and facilitator who specializes...
2024-10-0957 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 82 - We are Smart Enough to Invest with Kara GaisieSend us a textThis week, I’m excited to dive into a conversation that challenges traditional norms around money and investing. My guest, Kara Gaisie, is here to help us break free from outdated beliefs that have kept women from fully stepping into their financial power. Kara Gaisie is a wife, mom, and master-certified financial coach who helps women entrepreneurs break free from the cycle of overworking to reach financial independence. After spending over 15 years as a CPA in Corporate America, Kara launched her coaching business in 2019, focusing on achieving financial freedom without compromising her...
2024-10-0243 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 81 - Stop ApologizingSend us a textWhat have you been apologizing for lately?I’ve realized I’ve been apologizing for everything, and in most cases, none of my actions have warranted an apology. Tune in this week to slow down and take a moment to examine the things you apologize for. Do they all actually warrant an apology, or has your “good-girl” programming been taking over? Join me as I share my two hard and fast rules for when to apologize and learn how to get yourself out of auto-pilot to a place where you can...
2024-09-2521 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 80 - When the Internet Mob Comes for You with Sandy Connery and Jeni BarcelosSend us a textThis week, my guests and I invite you to join a conversation we’ve been having over the last few years about women in business and the power of using, or not using, our voices in the face of cancel culture and online scrutiny.I’m thrilled to welcome Sandy Connery and Jeni Barcelos, friends, business owners, and co-founders of Marvelous Software. Sandy and Jeni, with their courage and resilience, share their experience facing the internet mob in 2020, how they navigated the situation while keeping their business afloat, and what they wish...
2024-09-1849 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 79 - I Wanted Something Just for MeSend us a textI am so excited to share my story with you of how I and three of my travel companions and friends came to found Yapay Bolivia, a nonprofit organization dedicated to alleviating poverty through sustainable healthcare solutions. This isn’t your average story–it’s a tale of thrilling and sometimes frightening medical events, the kindness shown to me by some of the most inspiring and wonderful women I’ve ever met, and the profound transformation I underwent. It's a story of compassion for the previous version of myself that made...
2024-09-1141 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 78 - Unconventional Choices: Alternative Relationship Structures with Ali Ryan and Laura JurgensSend us a textThis week, I continue my series on unconventional choices by exploring alternative relationship structures. I am incredibly thankful to my guests, Ali Ryan and Dr. Laura Jurgens, for sharing their insight on alternative relationship structures and their experience and advice on navigating them with love and respect. Ali Ryan is the CEO of Ali Ryan Coaching. Ali is a certified feminist integrative coach dedicated to disrupting the status quo in parenting and leadership and shifting intergenerational cycles of trauma. With influence from her unique background and personal journey, Ali helps families a...
2024-09-041h 03The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 77 - Unconventional Choices: Single Mom by Choice with Carla Moats and Paige DempseySend us a textWelcome to the second episode of my special series on Unconventional Choices. I am so grateful to my guests, Carla Moats and Paige Dempsey, for sharing their journeys to parenthood. In a society that often scrutinizes solo parents, Carla and Paige exemplify courage in making a choice that aligns with their values—the choice to become single mothers. In addition to being incredible solo parents, Carla and Paige are each incredible coaches, too. Paige is a certified Life and Relationship Coach dedicated to helping women have better relationships by fostering authentic, empo...
2024-08-2832 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 76 - Unconventional Choices: Childfree By Choice with Amber Taylor, Pauline Yan, Melissa G Wirt, and Dr. Susie Castellanos HansleySend us a textI’m thrilled to kick off my “Unconventional Choices” series with an incredible lineup of guests and fellow coaches—Amber Taylor, Pauline Yan, Melissa G. Wirt, and Dr. Susie Castellanos Hansley—all of whom have chosen to remain child-free. Together, we challenge societal norms and our “good-girl” programming as we discuss the pressures of motherhood and womanhood while celebrating the empowerment that comes from intentional choices. This conversation is for everyone interested in the diversity of women’s experiences and embracing our unique journeys without shame or judgment. I can’t wait for you to listen.
2024-08-211h 02The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 75 - How To Drink Like a Woman Who Loves Herself with Colleen KachmannSend us a textI am so grateful for my conversation with this week’s guest, Colleen Kachmann, where we tackle an important and often tricky topic: drinking. Tune in as we explore how drinking is tied to perfectionism and people pleasing and how, thanks to her own journey, Colleen is helping women rise above it.Colleen is a Certified Master Life & Recovery Coach who uses cutting-edge strategies in nervous system regulation, growth mindset, positive psychology, and self-directed neuroplasticity to help women reconnect with a higher sense of purpose so they can feel passionate and po...
2024-08-1441 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 74 - The Female Double Bind and How to Get OUTSend us a textWith everything happening in our world right now, especially politically here in the United States, we need to talk about the female double blind–the impossible double standards to which women are held that create no-win situations for us. So many examples of this show up in our everyday lives and are perpetuated by the media, and it needs to stop. In this episode, I delve into these double standards and the language that reinforces them, all aimed at keeping women from attaining leadership and power. As strong women, it’s time...
2024-08-0722 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 73 - What I'm Working On At The MomentSend us a textThis episode is all about honesty and vulnerability as I share what I’m currently working on in my life. While I’m a coach, I’m a person, too. As a person, I struggle with and navigate many challenges, especially those specifically related to womanhood. These experiences, part of my ongoing journey of growth and learning, make me a great coach and, despite what negative self-talk might try to convince me, a great human, just like you. So, if you’re struggling with anything or working through something, I want you to know tha...
2024-07-3115 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 72 - Sneaky People PleasingSend us a textDid you know that people pleasing can be subtle–even sneaky? People pleasing goes far beyond the stereotypical inability to say “no.” In this episode, I reveal the people pleasing tendencies that catch us off guard–things like excessive politeness, perfectionism, and difficulty setting boundaries. Because it can show up in so many different ways, you need both deep self-connection and a capacity for discomfort to break free from people pleasing. Join me to learn how to recognize all of your people pleasing behaviors and how to increase your threshold for discomfort so you can...
2024-07-2421 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 71 - I'm Not Living The Beautiful Life I Could Be with Angie WilsonSend us a textI’m so grateful for my beautiful conversation with this week’s guest, Angie Wilson. Angie Wilson is a certified life coach specializing in helping women love their lives after divorce. With a master's degree in social work, Angie brings a rich background of experience to her coaching practice. She worked as a therapist and case manager for two years before dedicating 15 years to being a full-time homeschooling mom to her four amazing kids.In this episode, we dive into our shared background of growing up in conservative, religious families and how...
2024-07-1746 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 70 - "I am so F*cking Proud of Myself" - Conversations with Women Who Have Stopped People PleasingSend us a textI am so grateful to have had the opportunity to sit down with Allyssya Gossett, Abby Wolfson, and Jayne Newman to dig into what it's like to be a woman programmed to people please—and what it's like to be a woman who stops. Allyssya is an educator and life coach who helps women step outside their comfort zone and into confidence so they can live the life they imagine. Abby is a child sleep coach, a parent coach to single moms by choice, a former pediatric nurse practitioner, and a mom...
2024-07-1054 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 69 - Awareness, Capacity and Skills Part Two: Listen In On This Coaching CallSend us a textWelcome to part two of my series on how to make lasting, positive changes in your life. In part one, I shared my framework for change and three things you need to make it work: awareness, capacity, and skills. In this episode, I share a conversation I had during a coaching call with an amazing client. During this call, we discussed how she uses awareness, capacity, and the skills she's been learning in our sessions to stop abandoning herself and stop people pleasing. I am so grateful that she agreed to share this s...
2024-07-0335 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 68 - The Three Things You Need to Make a Change: Awareness, Capacity and Skills Part OneSend us a textDo you know what you need to make a change? I do. I can’t wait to share my framework for change with you. To make a lasting change, you need three things: awareness, capacity, and skills. In this episode, I share real-life strategies and examples of these three elements, and I invite you to join me on July 15 from 1-2 PM PST for a free skill-building workshop. It’s easy to get stuck on the “skills” part of making a change, which is why my Stop People Pleasing group coaching programs and workshop...
2024-06-2621 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 67 - Expanding Your Capacity for Pleasure with Danielle SavorySend us a textI’m excited to welcome Danielle Savory back to the show this week. Danielle is a master-certified coach, podcast host, and expert in neuropsychology, mindfulness, sexual pleasure, and intimacy. When she last joined us in episode 25, “Sexual Power with Danielle Savory,” she left us with the wisdom that “a woman's ability to be present in her body, to seek out and create pleasure for herself, to know what she wants and needs, and to be able to ask for it is the pinnacle of self-connection.” In this episode, we take a deep dive into what...
2024-06-191h 04The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 66 - From Stuck to SecureSend us a textThis week’s podcast is an invitation. An invitation to stop feeling “stuck.” An invitation to step into the security and self-connection you need to move forward. Most importantly, it is an invitation to join my masterclass and workshop series, From Stuck to Secure, designed specifically for individuals seeking to improve their relationships, gain self-connection, find real belonging, and break free from people pleasing. In this episode, I share my personal journey of going from being stuck to being secure in my relationships. I emphasize the power of security, particularly security within yourself. Withou...
2024-06-1232 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 65 - The People Pleaser's Guide to Co-Parenting with Mikki GardnerSend us a textI really enjoyed my insightful and empowering conversation with this week’s guest, Mikki Gardner. Mikki is a mom to a teenage son, a Certified Life + Conscious Parenting Coach, the host of the Co-Parenting with Confidence podcast, and the bestselling author of the People Pleasers Guide to Co-Parenting Well. After navigating her own divorce hurdles and emerging stronger, she has made it her mission to help moms gain clarity so they can navigate divorce and co-parent with love and confidence. This week, we discuss co-parenting, whether we are still married to the person we...
2024-06-051h 01The Ex-Good Girl PodcastThe Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!Send us a textBecause everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes.Until then, listen to some of your old favorites, get caught up, or join my Stop People Pleasing Facebook group by finding the link in the show notes below.I can't wait to connect with you. Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/...
2024-05-2903 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastThe Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!Send us a textBecause everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes.Until then, listen to some of your old favorites, get caught up, or join my Stop People Pleasing Facebook group by finding the link in the show notes below.I can't wait to connect with you. Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/h...
2024-05-2203 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastThe Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!Send us a textBecause everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes.Until then, listen to some of your old favorites, get caught up, or join my Stop People Pleasing Facebook group by finding the link in the show notes below.I can't wait to connect with you. Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/h...
2024-05-1503 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastThe Ex-Good Girl Podcast is taking a break!Send us a textBecause everybody needs a break sometimes, the Ex-Good Girl podcast is on a four week break. We'll be back on June 5th with new episodes.Until then, listen to some of your old favorites, get caught up, or join my Stop People Pleasing Facebook group by finding the link in the show notes below.I can't wait to connect with you. Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps://pages.sarafisk.coach/difficultconversationshttps://www.instagram.com/sarafiskcoach/https://www.facebook.com/SaraFiskCoaching/...
2024-05-0803 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 64 - How I Created a Secure Relationship With My HusbandSend us a textI am so grateful to have a secure relationship with my husband, but it wasn’t always that way. Earlier in our relationship, I was terrified of being left by him, and I built myself an armor of hyper independence and dishonesty. I pretended to be ways I wasn’t to stay safe and “belong” with him. This lack of safety and insecurity in our relationship, I eventually realized, existed because I wasn’t safe with myself, and it wasn’t until I learned to create that safety with me that I could start to cre...
2024-05-0140 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 63 - Writing Your Way Back to You with AshMae HoilandSend us a textI’m incredibly thankful for Ashmae Hoiland for creating such an engaging conversation this week. Ashmae is a talented writer, painter, and maker.Ashmae’s upcoming essay collection, Letters to a Leaving Mormon, will be released on November 1, 2024. Ahead of its release, we wanted to speak about how writing- one of the most ancient practices of humankind- helps us to better know and understand ourselves.Because of all of the programming we get through school and what constitutes “good“ writing, many of us are hesitant to write. We often believe...
2024-04-2452 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 62 - Acceptance is the Path to PowerSend us a textWe have this idea that acceptance means approval, that if we accept when something goes wrong—when a boundary is crossed, when someone disappoints us, when we get rejected—we’re saying it’s okay. When this is how we define acceptance, we avoid it; and when we avoid acceptance, we reject reality. We avoid processing our unmet expectations; we avoid the grief that comes with unmet expectations; and ultimately, we keep ourselves stuck ruminating on what should have been. When we don’t accept what is, we use up all our energy thinking a...
2024-04-1027 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 61 - How Working on My People Pleasing is Honoring Me with My Grief with Elizabeth HesterSend us a textToday I have Elizabeth Hester joining me on the podcast. She’s a current member of the Stop People Pleasing group coaching program that started back in January. She’s a mother, teacher, and lifelong student. She’s also the owner of multiple UPS stores in North Carolina. She’s been processing her grief from the loss of her husband in the ways that work best for her. Grieving goes hand in hand with people pleasing- it’s all about getting comfortable with uncomfortable feelings. While in the group program, she’s learned how to stop...
2024-04-0322 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 60 - Exploring Non-Traditional Relationships with Kimberly MathisSend us a textI’m so grateful for my guest Kimberly Mathis and this week’s fascinating conversation. Kimberly is a queer therapist-turned-general life coach with an ADHD brain who helps people change what feels unchangeable. She teaches her clients how to make their own decisions and navigate difficult relationships - including the one they have with themselves. She works with clients 1:1, loves sharing her work and life with her community on Instagram, and hosts a podcast called, "Decisions Change Everything." Healthy, respectful relationships can come in many forms. Traditional Western society pushes a heteronormative narrative abou...
2024-03-2756 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 59 - Transparency as a Woman in the Self-Help WorldSend us a textI want to have a conversation with you about the tension in this self-help marketing space so that you know where I’m coming from. I want you to know what my values are and I want you to know what I'm striving for. I want you to look at the lens of your own values through the products that are being marketed to you, because it is relentless. Making informed decisions about the self-help industry is so essential. Marketing can be misleading. We’re blamed for our problems and then sold products to f...
2024-03-2024 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 58 - Stories from Inside Stop People Pleasing Group Coaching ProgramSend us a textThis episode features conversations I did with four current participants of my Stop People Pleasing group coaching program: Natalie Hagwood, Elizabeth Sherman, Kelly True, and Gini Ewart. I hope that by hearing their stories, you're inspired to see what is possible for you, and take a little peek into some of the things that I teach. When each participant joins, I ask them the same questions about their experience. I feel like it helps potential participants to see firsthand accounts of how the program worked for others. We talk about what the program’s...
2024-03-131h 24The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 57 - What If Your Marriage Was A Tool For Liberation? with Maggie ReyesSend us a textMaggie Reyes is a wonderful marriage coach who I had the honor of having as a coach myself. Maggie helped me get to another version of my marriage that has been just so delightful. She has a podcast called “The Marriage Life Coach Podcast.” Maggie’s double-certified as both a Life Coach and a Sex, Love and Relationship coach by two of the most innovative thinkers and teachers in the self development industry: Brooke Castillo and Layla Martin. She also graduated from The Life Coach School (LCS) in 2012 as Certified Professional Life Coach. Ba...
2024-03-0642 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 56 - How To Advocate For Yourself in a Medical Setting with Sara Hughes ZabawaSend us a textThis week, Sara Hughes-Zabawa LCSW, CDWF joins me to talk about advocating for yourself in a medical setting. Sara is a therapist, licensed clinical social worker, Certified Daring Way™ facilitator, yoga instructor, & wellness coach. She’s passionate about helping clients thrive as they enhance the quality of their lives through fostering improved awareness, insight, skill-building, and quality education and resources. She also has first-hand experience with self-advocating in medical settings. Health issues leave us vulnerable. We're so used to deferring to an authority figure that rather than asking the hard questions, we often stay...
2024-02-2853 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 55 - How to Remodel a RelationshipSend us a textThis episode is all about relationships. As humans, we’re wired for connection and meant to have a variety of dynamics in our lives. Friendship, intimacy, and pleasure are necessary in life, as well as our independence. Life is the balance of independence vs. interdependence. In this episode I offer tools to help assess if you want to keep/continue to invest in the relationships in your life. This is your opportunity to consider your own needs first. Once you’ve assessed your relationship goals with yourself and others, you can move forward with...
2024-02-2136 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 54 - Grief is Part of the ProcessSend us a textGrief plays a big part in the journey to stopping people pleasing and perfectionating. It's the death or the changing of a former life- a former way of seeing the world, a former way that we used to relate to each other in relationships, a former way that we used to be rewarded and recognized. It comes up a lot in my group coaching program, Stop People Pleasing, and in my work with individual clients. As we change for the better, we lose parts of our past, sometimes including relationships. We create new...
2024-02-1428 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 53 - Imposter Syndrome with Kori LinnSend us a textIn this episode, Kori Linn and I discuss Imposter Syndrome. Kori is a life and career coach as well as the host of the Satisfied AF podcast. She helps clients, listeners, and social media followers create more satisfaction & delight in every area of their lives. Imposter syndrome points the finger at individuals and burdens them with being “better” or improving. It burdens the marginalized individual with changing so that they can fit the system without criticizing the system. People socialized as girls and women are literally trained to have imposter syndrome. We're socialized to se...
2024-02-071h 01The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 52 - Let's Talk about Infidelity with Andrea GilesSend us a textThis week I’m joined by Andrea Giles. She's a certified life coach and has a podcast called “Heal From Infidelity”. Andrea helps women sort out the confusion, grief, fear, doubt, and frustration that comes when infidelity (as well as other forms of betrayal) occurs in their marriage. Today we talk about our life stories and what got us here. We’re both on healing journeys and were part of similar religious worlds. Andrea shares her story of loss, dating, and parenting. Vulnerability and validation can make betrayal or being betrayed complex and tricky...
2024-01-311h 11The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 51 - The Size of Our Wanting is the Size of Our LifeSend us a textOur wanting is essential and important. Women feel shame around wanting because we’ve been taught to not want things. “Don't be needy or selfish.” How many times have you heard or felt this? Do you choose not to hope or strive for your heart's desires because it's easier to not want than to be disappointed? Wanting is opening up to your curiosity on your path to self-discovery. You can want impossible things. You can have a big beautiful full thriving life doing what you want to do. I want you to love who yo...
2024-01-2428 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 50 - The Power of a Consult with Laura SullySend us a textFor this episode, Laura Sully joins me to share her experience having a consult with me. Booking a consult with me is the best way to start your journey with stopping people pleasing. When you start working with me, I’ll give you tools that are immediately useful in your life. Then we’ll get into processing emotions and dive deeper into the roots of people pleasing in your life. After working with me, you’ll see yourself in a completely new light and will be able to move through your days confidently. Your a...
2024-01-1722 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 49 - What If 2024 is the Year You Stop People Pleasing?Send us a textWhat if 2024 is the year you stop people pleasing? What if you started to create a world around you where you feel respected by yourself and others? The universality of our preprogramming aka good girl programming silently shapes us. We can learn to overcome the discomfort, and gain the respect we desire from ourselves and others. It’s possible to belong, feel loved, and feel respected by others and ourselves. This is your year and I’m here for you. Can’t wait for you to listen. Find Sara here:https...
2024-01-1039 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 48 - Food and People Pleasing with Elizabeth ShermanSend us a textElizabeth Sherman joins me this week to discuss midlife and the changes women experience on different levels. Humans socialized as women experience emotional, physical, and mental changes as they get older. Health should be the overall goal but our society's ways of thinking mess that up. Diet culture and the patriarchy are such negative influences. Food and emotions co-relate - we have to learn to listen to ourselves. Have the snack you want, then unpack why you wanted it and are leaning into certain comfort behaviors. Are you paying attention to you, or...
2024-01-0355 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 47 - People Pleasing and Parenting with Andee Martineau, Part 2Send us a textAndee Martineau and I continue our conversation this week about people pleasing and parenting. Tolerating failures and disappointments with your children can be challenging but it is possible to deal with. The need to fix, save, and/or rescue can be consuming. As a parent, you have to be true to yourself and respect yourself first while also respecting and loving others. Stopping the patterns and the cycles of people pleasing is possible with awareness. Find Andee here:https://connectmethodparenting.com/https://www.instagram.com/andeemartineau/https...
2023-12-2734 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 46 - People Pleasing and Parenting with Andee Martineau, Part 1Send us a textAndee Martineau and I have a long history together. She introduced me to coaching. She has 6 kids and I have 5. We home-schooled our kids together and have a common religious background. She’s a true friend who’s been there for me and is along for the ride. Parenting is a hard job and learning how to stay healthy, balance, and manage everything life throws at us is a lifelong process. We can develop the skills to regulate our nervous system, handle what life throws at us, and stop people pleasing while parenting, as w...
2023-12-2035 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 45 - How Claiming Authority Changed Everything for Me: A Conversation with Kara LoewentheilSend us a textMy mentor, teacher, friend, and colleague joined me to talk about how claiming authority changed everything for us. Kara Loewentheil, J.D., is a Master certified coach, host of the top-rated podcast UnF*ck Your Brain, and creator of The Clutch, a feminist monthly coaching program that has helped tens of thousands of women across the world liberate themselves from the inside out. Women are conditioned to believe power and authority are negative. We notice power and authority if it’s being used against us or being used to do harm, but...
2023-12-1350 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 44 - My Favorite SentencesSend us a textIn this episode, I discuss how to navigate uncomfortable situations this holiday season. Unwinding the way we operate out of people pleasing and perfectionating is especially tricky during the holidays. Holidays kick up a lot of difficult emotions and situations. The way to get through this season is to honor your own desires, which starts with listening to yourself. Then, you can have the conversations needed to set new expectations. Expressing your own wants and needs is hard because we want to appease others and not create discomfort. Have a listen and let...
2023-12-0625 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 43 - How to Create Secure Attachment in RelationshipsSend us a textWe are programmed to constantly worry about whether we are safe and loved. This comes from attachment styles we develop early in life. It can be helpful to identify your attachment styles because you can have a different style with different people in your life. In this episode, I’ll give you an overview of attachment styles so that you can think about what yours might be. Our attachment style can change- it's not a fixed verdict. We can do the work to heal the parts of us that limit our comfort in re...
2023-11-2931 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 42 - How to Make Sense Of Your Chronic Pain with Deb MalkinSend us a textIn this episode, Deb and I talk about repressed emotions and how they relate to physical pain. Deb Malkin is a feminist mind/body coach, specializing in using the tools of neuro + bioplasticity and consciously curious hypno-coaching to help people unlearn pain and emotional stress symptoms. As a queer, fat, radically unapologetic human with their own unique mind and body, Deb joyfully works with everyone. They bring an awareness of how the intersections of social conditioning, family narratives, and biopsychosocial determinants of health (racism, sexism, stigma...) impact our felt sense of wellness/wholeness...
2023-11-2246 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 41 - Synthetic Gratitude: Why It Sucks and What To Do About ItSend us a text“Just be grateful for what you have.” How many of you have heard this before? This is synthetic gratitude, which is a form of gratitude that is expected of women to provide and perform- to show we are staying in our place. I think understanding how synthetic gratitude works will be really helpful. In this episode, I’ve broken down 4 things that I've noticed due to synthetic gratitude and how to change it for your betterment. Can’t wait for you to listen! Find Sara here:https://sarafisk.coachhttps...
2023-11-1526 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 40 - How To Disappoint Someone and Not Die Of Guilt and ShameSend us a textThis episode is out just in time for the holidays, giving you a chance to wrap up the year with a little extra kindness for yourself. In this episode, I'll reveal seven life-changing steps. These steps might sound simple, but they're not necessarily easy to implement. It's worth keeping in mind that letting folks down is just part of life, and I'm here to help you deal with the worry and fear that can come with it. Uncomfortable feelings are something we all face from time to time, and the trick is to...
2023-11-0837 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 39 - Midlife Magic with Jen BerlingoSend us a textI have an extraordinary guest this week! Jen Berlingo, MA, LPC, ATR (she/her) is a midlife coach, a licensed professional counselor, a nationally registered art therapist, and a master-level Reiki practitioner. She wrote a book called Midlife Emergence, which reached #1 in several Amazon categories. She is also a visual artist and created the painting on the cover of her book. Jen is a dynamic being who assists in helping others to hone in on their own desires and live their truth. In this episode, Jen and I go into the challenges that...
2023-11-0150 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 38 - Why are the Holidays so Hard?Send us a textLet's talk about holidays and expectations. We want to make special memories for our loved ones but often put our own needs to the side to please everyone else. Boundaries can be tougher with family because of our upbringing. From gifting to decorating then planning, shopping, and cooking… the list goes on. I’m stressed out just talking about it! But there is a way to reduce that stress and make yourself genuinely happy while doing kind things for others. This episode is an emotional survival guide to the holidays and I’ll be dis...
2023-10-2529 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 37 - Boundaries with Olivia VizacheroSend us a textI am so excited to continue discussing boundaries this week with my special guest Olivia Vizachero! She is a Master certified life coach who helps people choose themselves as their top priority. When we decide to set a boundary and resistance comes up, that's where the work is. We can’t control how others react, we can only control ourselves and our thoughts and actions. Until you set a boundary, you will continue to feel discomfort. Which discomfort do you want to take on - the one that creates the best life for yo...
2023-10-1853 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 36 - The B-word: BoundariesSend us a textBoundaries are about learning to share the power in any situation by identifying actions within your control. This week's and next week's episodes are all about boundaries. I have a special guest joining me next week, Olivia Vizachero, who will help me continue the conversation. Being a good girl means not having boundaries. It means that you are constantly prioritizing other people, putting off the things you need to do, and putting yourself, your needs, and your wants after everyone else's. You're praised and rewarded for it. But there’s another way of op...
2023-10-1129 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 35 - Women Talking: Movie Review with Chelsea PaxtonSend us a textThis is a powerful episode about an important movie, ”Women Talking”. I'm joined by Chelsea Paxton as we delve into the film's themes and the significance of language and speaking up. Sadly, women are often not taken seriously and are taught to suppress their feelings. Questions like "Are you really hungry?" or "Did that really hurt?" are dismissed with responses like "You’re fine," undermining women's experiences. It's crucial to change this lack of belief. Society often tries to dictate our roles, but reconnecting with our bodies and wanting is a challenge we can ov...
2023-10-041h 20The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 34 - Why Finding Your Voice Matters with Kristin JensenSend us a textThis week my vocal instructor Kristin Jensen joins me to discuss finding our authentic voice. There are so many rules around how women's voices are supposed to be used. Women often soften or dull their voices and don’t feel comfortable speaking freely and openly. Good Girl programming can block you from finding your soul's voice and makes you bury your needs deep down within. Kristin and I are here to help you find your voice within and express yourself honestly. Find Kristin here:https://www.kristinthevoicewitch.comhttps://www...
2023-09-2739 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 33 - Good Girls and Money with Keina NewellSend us a textThis week my guest is Keina Newell. Keina is a financial coach and founder of the Wealth Over Now program. We discuss our relationship with money and get into the connection between money and people pleasing, codependency, and perfectionism. Keina discusses how budgeting can be therapeutic and comforting. She talks about how gaining awareness about how you’re spending your money can change your ability to save and achieve your goals. She has her clients ask themselves when they’re shopping: “Why am I buying this thing? What is the feeling that's motivating it? Do...
2023-09-2048 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 32 - Good Girls and ADHD with Kristen CarderSend us a textThis week the amazing Kristen Carder is joining me to talk about ADHD. I’ve been looking forward to this for a while. She is an incredible coach with 10 years of ADHD expertise and also my friend. I’ve started to become curious if I have ADHD after looking at the symptoms. It's mindblowing once you make the connections and realize that this might be something you struggle with. ADHD intersects with the "Good Girl" programming in that masking behaviors are often present in both. After Kristen’s diagnosis at 21 years old, she starte...
2023-09-1350 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 31 - How Good Girl Programming Masks ADHDSend us a textThis episode is an intro to the gender diagnosis gap with ADHD and our ingrained masking behaviors from social pressures to be a "Good Girl". Masking behaviors are the ways in which we perform, pretend, and suppress our emotions to be accepted. “Be polite, be nice, be on time”...all of this keeps us from attending to our real ADHD symptoms. You can be free of the shame, anxiety, and masking, it just takes time and finding the right resources. There are significantly fewer women properly diagnosed because we are performing and just tryi...
2023-09-0628 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 30 - You're Not SelfishSend us a textHow many times a day do you find yourself thinking, 'I’m selfish for doing this for me instead of doing something for someone else.' You're not alone. Rather than prioritizing our own well-being, women often give themselves only scraps of our day for self-care. Cultural expectations put women into roles that often call for them to be selfless, aka the caregiver or the nurturer. Humans who have been socialized as females tend to feel held to the “rules” of gender roles from the past. These ingrained expectations are further perpetuated by media...
2023-08-3028 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 29 - Ten Reasons Why Coaching Works to Stop People PleasingSend us a textWouldn't you love to have the golden ticket to a happier life? I got you! In this episode, I dive into the ten reasons why group coaching is effective in putting an end to people pleasing. If you're intrigued, mark your calendar for the week of September 18th, when my next group coaching course kicks off. I'm offering a variety of options, from a free consultation and webinars to enrollment in my comprehensive Stop People Pleasing course. I understand that coaching might seem unfamiliar to many, but that's exactly why this episode is...
2023-08-2326 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 28 - People Pleasing as a Trauma Response with Sara Hughes-ZabawaSend us a textIn this week's episode, I'm joined by a special guest, Sara Hughes-Zabawa, as we explore the topic of people-pleasing as a response to trauma. Sara's passion lies in guiding clients toward thriving and enhancing their quality of life. She achieves this by cultivating heightened awareness, providing insights, building crucial skills, and offering top-notch education and resources.People-pleasing often emerges as a deeply ingrained trauma response. Stemming from a desire to evade conflict or seek validation, this coping mechanism involves prioritizing others' needs and expectations over one's own well-being. Individuals who engage...
2023-08-161h 37The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 27 - Inside the Stop People Pleasing Group ProgramSend us a textThis week, three of my friends and clients, who are also coaches, have come together to discuss my Stop People Pleasing Group Program. This podcast episode provides deep insights into my program and its potential to enrich our daily lives.Joining me are Kami Kirby, a parenting coach; Chelsea Paxton, who specializes in guiding women recovering from high-demand religions; and Laura Bond Williams, a coach and Pilates instructor. They embrace diverse roles as mothers, partners, wives, daughters, business owners, and employees, weaving a rich tapestry of human interactions and relationship experiences.
2023-08-091h 15The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 26 - I'm Turning 50! (And I have a present for YOU!)Send us a textIt’s my 50th birthday this week and I never truly believed my life could be this good! My life is fulfilling, rich, and brimming with joy, opportunities, and meaningful friendships. It's both nourishing and beautiful, yet also challenging. I couldn't have imagined being where I am now, but here I am. I know many of us are walking together on this path. That's how I see us – co-travelers, supporting each other as we navigate the journey of creating a fulfilling life based on our wanting. So, I wanted to take a moment to r...
2023-08-0232 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 25 - Sexual Power with Danielle SavorySend us a textIn this episode, Danielle Savory and I dive into the importance of giving ourselves permission to experience pleasure. Danielle is a master-certified coach, podcast host, and expert in neuropsychology, mindfulness, sexual pleasure, and intimacy. While sex and intimacy are essential aspects, it's also about fostering a deeper connection with our bodies. The burden of internal abuse can have both mental and physical consequences. By reconnecting with our bodies, we open up the potential for healing and the ability to experience emotions precisely as we desire. We experience separation from our bodies in many...
2023-07-2651 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 24 - The Powerful Combination of Choice and VoiceSend us a textA revolution happens when women say what they want, especially when their words align with their real feelings. When you can express how you really feel, it makes you feel more comfortable standing up for yourself and setting expectations. One of the key aspects I teach my clients is how to articulate themselves effectively during difficult conversations. We are capable of updating the relationships in our life to match our wants and needs. Connecting to our own wants and needs is a process but it can be an incredible journey. One of the g...
2023-07-2031 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 23 - How To Say What You Want to SaySend us a textIn this episode, I'll be sharing my personal experience with speaking up for myself. It's not easy, but it's incredibly rewarding. I hope this episode can help you understand the unease that comes with expressing your true thoughts. The anxiety that arises from speaking up can be overwhelmingly strong, but it's crucial to embrace this new discomfort as it ultimately benefits you. I am not here to dictate what you should say; instead, I want to help you develop an awareness of why you struggle to voice your desires. By recognizing the influences...
2023-07-1236 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 22 - From Conversion Therapy to LGBTQ Advocacy with Elena Joy ThurstonSend us a textThis week, I am joined by Elena Joy Thurston. Elena Joy is an inspiring LGBTQ speaker, trainer, and founder of the nonprofit Pride and Joy Foundation. This foundation is dedicated to reducing the rates of suicide and homelessness within the LGBTQ community. Elena Joy is also featured in the award-winning documentary, Conversion, and has delivered a viral TEDx talk on surviving conversion therapy.Back in 2017, Elena Joy was a stay-at-home mom of four, deeply entrenched in her Mormon community. However, she began to question her happiness and realized that she was not...
2023-07-0554 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 21 - Loving Our LBGTQIA+ Kids with Andrea Parks and Wendy MontgomerySend us a textThis week, I'm thrilled to have Andrea Parks and Wendy Montgomery joining me as we delve into how our upbringings shape us as parents and the transformative power of remaining loving and open. Andrea is a Clinical Therapist, Coach, and Reiki Master, while Wendy is an Empowerment, Life, and Enneagram Coach. Both of them proudly embrace their roles as moms to queer and transgender children. Together, they share their stories of their children coming out, encompassing both the beauty and the pain experienced on this journey. These families exude deep love for their...
2023-06-281h 05The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 20 - "I Will Not Lose Myself" with Hannah Carlisle and Michelle CallSend us a textThis heartfelt conversation sheds light on the possibility of discovering your true self and living authentically. Hannah Carlise and Michelle Call, therapist/life coach, join me in discussing coming out later in life and navigating conservative religious upbringings. Choosing ourselves may be challenging, and dismantling the barriers of societal conditioning takes time. If you find yourself constantly neglecting your own needs, it's time to break that pattern. Hannah and Michelle's stories serve as proof that you can liberate yourself from guilt and shame and live from your heart. Whenever you feel doubt, remember...
2023-06-211h 06The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 19 - Pleasure is a Human Right with Dr. Sonia Wright, MDSend us a textThis is an exciting episode! Dr. Sonia Wright and I discuss pleasure and sex. She has opened my mind in so many ways and I hold her very close to my heart - We were in the same Master Certification class. Dr. Wright is not only a medical doctor and pediatric radiologist by training, but also a trained sexual counselor, master-certified life coach, and a passionate advocate of sexual empowerment. She's also a toys enthusiast and a midlife sex coach for women. Together, we delve into sexual intimacy, sexual orientation, gender, and women's...
2023-06-141h 01The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 18 - What Needs To Be Said with Alex ReeganSend us a textI am thrilled for you to tune in to this important episode of the Ex-Good Girl Podcast! In this episode, my dear friend Alex Reegan and I delve into the significance of feeling acknowledged and seen. Alex is a remarkable individual—a trans man, interfaith minister, author, speaker, and transformative spiritual coach. Growing up in an evangelical Christian family, he faced tremendous barriers in expressing his true identity. This led to years of battling depression, anxiety, and addiction as he sought to break free from the oppressive beliefs that constrained him.Th...
2023-06-071h 11The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 17 - Good Girls and Body Image with Corinne CrabtreeSend us a textThis week on The Ex Good Girl Podcast, I had a very special guest on this episode: Corinne Crabtree. She is an expert in helping women lose weight and feel as amazing as they truly deserve. Over a million women have taken her free weight loss course, and now she serves more than 14,000 paid members in the no BS weight loss program.The diet industry has perpetuated a damaging mentality about what we should and shouldn't eat and how we should live. It takes time and support to break down the...
2023-05-3152 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 16 - F*ck Around and Find Out with Melanie ChildersSend us a textIn this week's episode, we f*ck around and find out! Our special guest is Melanie Childers, one of my closest friends in the business world. If you haven't found a business bestie yet, I strongly recommend you do, because Melanie plays a crucial role in reminding me of my true self and my immense capabilities. She's the driving force behind The Bad Bitch Mastermind, and you can find her podcast, The Bad Bitch Entrepreneur, on any podcast platform. During our conversation, we deal with processing emotions and how our past experiences have...
2023-05-2453 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 15 - The Power of Having a Coach with Krista St-GermainSend us a textMy former coach, Krista St-Germain, interviewed me for her podcast The Widowed Mom a while ago, and I'm excited to share it on The Ex-Good Girl. During the interview, we discuss people-pleasing: defining it and ways to overcome it. We also explore how our connection with ourselves can vary from person to person. This episode is particularly special to me as Krista has been incredibly helpful in my life. It serves as a reminder of the profound impact a good coach can have. People-pleasing can come at a significant cost: the amount of...
2023-05-1754 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 14 - Mother-Daughter Relationships with Karen C.L. AndersonSend us a textIn this week's episode, Sara interviews Karen C.L. Anderson, a Master certified life coach and author who specializes in coaching about the mother/adult daughter relationship. They discuss the challenges that often arise in this particular relationship, exploring the generational aspects and the societal shift towards acknowledging trauma and the importance of emotional expression. Karen shares insights from her own journey of estrangement from her mother and the subsequent healing process, emphasizing the need to separate one's identity from the expectations imposed by the mother-daughter dynamic. They delve into topics such as...
2023-05-101h 14The Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 13 - Healing in a Community of WomenSend us a textCommunity is an essential aspect of life, and when women come together and share their stories, it can be one of the most powerful forms of learning.When women unite, we can achieve great things and make a positive impact on ourselves and the world. Starting a new journey may seem daunting, but it can be made easier by breaking it down into manageable steps. I'll begin by asking you, "Why?" Why do you do the things you do? Why do you feel comfortable doing this? Why don't you enjoy doing...
2023-05-0330 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 12 - Our Story, Part 2Send us a textIn this episode, My husband and I share many life experiences that have helped shape us into happier, healthier individuals. We prioritize authenticity with ourselves and each other, even though navigating life and relationships can be complex. We've come to realize how much we're influenced by outside forces, and we've learned to condition ourselves to be loving and respectful to all, including ourselves. We show up to honor each other's experiences and choose each other consciously every day. Unearthing self-love requires de-conditioning from things that were forced upon us. Remember, you own your...
2023-04-2641 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 11 - Our Story, Part 1Send us a textMy husband Dan and I are excited to share this episode with you. We'll be discussing the reality of marriage and partnership, including our upbringing, the beginning of our relationship, marriage, children, and how we've grown both individually and as a couple. It's essential, to be honest with ourselves and others, and we'll be diving deep and getting real. Additionally, we'll explore ways to integrate self-care and break free from the patriarchal influences of our society. We've learned a lot through our many years together and are grateful to share our insights with...
2023-04-1935 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 10 - Five Challenges That Will Change Your LifeSend us a textDo you suppress your true emotions just to avoid conflict and keep the peace? Does your body feel relaxed, or is it trying to tell you how you really feel? Perfectionism, people-pleasing, and codependency can take over our lives. But we can learn to become detectives in our own lives and stop this toxic behavior. Eventually, the changes we make will align with our decision-making process.In this episode, I explore the Five Challenges that have helped me become the most authentic and real version of myself. We need to be...
2023-04-1235 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 9 - How to Have Your Own BackSend us a textLearning to have my own back is the most powerful thing I've ever done for myself; it unlocked my potential. Many women internalize their mistakes, leading to a spiral of shameful thoughts that can be very draining. But how can we shut that down? If we bully ourselves, then we're not safe with ourselves, and we're not safe anywhere. You deserve that essential safety. In this episode, I'll help you identify the bullying voice in your head and shut it down. Imagine yourself as a younger version of yourself. Would you allow someone...
2023-04-0531 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 8 - Women Wanting: A Guide to Your SuperpowerSend us a textWhat is it that you truly desire? After much personal reflection and research, I've come to realize that women's wants and desires are our secret source of power and direction. My goal is for you to have a greater sense of your desires and to understand why it's essential by the end of this episode. Unfortunately, our disconnection from our own desires happens at a very young age. We are raised by caregivers who provide us with love, belonging, and acceptance. However, this also means that children are often seen as less than...
2023-03-2928 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 7 - Too Much and Not EnoughSend us a textThe patriarchal, capitalist, Western way of life imposes certain values and expectations on the way women think, feel, and choose to live. When we fail to meet these expectations, we can often feel lackluster or unsatisfied. Even if we do attain these expectations, there is always another critique looming about the deficit in our lives. In this episode, we will discuss how perfectionism is a manifestation of these societal pressures, and explore ways to shift our mindset to focus on being better, rather than perfect. It's possible to feel accomplished in this society...
2023-03-2220 minThe Ex-Good Girl PodcastEpisode 6 - The Goldilocks ZoneSend us a textIn this episode, we will explore the concept of the Goldilocks Zone. Our Western patriarchal society often tells women that there is a "right" way to be, and as a result, we can feel like we are either too much or not enough. We have been programmed to be hypersensitive to the opinions of others and to internalize those thoughts as if they are facts. There is a balance to be found between being selfish and being a people pleaser. It takes time and guidance to find what feels right for you.
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