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Owning Her Authority Podcast | For Ascending Women Ready to Boldly Amplify Their ImpactLet's Redefine Success and Pursue Fulfillment with Holistic Life Design Coach Sasza Lohrey (Goals With Soul Summit)As we come to the end of The Goals With Soul Summit, I'm thrilled to be joined by Business & Holistic Life Design Coach, Sasza Lohrey, for a conversation about how we find a balance between working towards your goals and enjoying the present moment.In this final episode, Sasza shares with us how our goals can serve as our "north star" and provides a direction for us to pursposefully move, without sacrificing our enjoyment of life and the unexpected twists and turns it may take.We'll ask ourselves questions such as:What story do...2023-12-2144 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Your relationship with yourself is the portal to everything you wantSasza was recently interviewed by Stella Stephanopoulos as a guest on the Everyday Endorphins podcast. We received so much positive feedback from it that we decided to reshare it here on the BBXX podcast! Stella interviews Sasza about building a deeper understanding of ourselves and how the relationship with ourselves is the pathway towards creating deeper, more intimate, relationships with others. They explore why many people tend to find romantic partners when they least expect it, what it means to date intentionally, the role of patience and timing, and how Sasza manifested her partner through a love l...2023-05-1649 min
Everyday EndorphinsEP #106- Advice on Intentional Dating, Focusing on The Relationship to Self, and Tapping Into Your Divine Energy with Sasza Lohrey, Founder and Host of BBXX: Let's Get IntimateSasza Lohrey, host of the dating podcast BBXX: Let's Get Intimate, and I explore the following topics in this episode:
Why building a deeper understanding of our *self* is the pathway towards creating deeper, more intimate, relationships with others
Why we typically find romantic partners when we least expect it
What it means to intentionally date
The manifestation technique that Sasza used to find her current partner
Reframing self care as a form of self respect
Why the slow burn is the best, and how to be patient with yourself while dating
Tapping into the divine feminine energy...2023-04-2049 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: An Easy Trick To Feel Better ImmediatelyThis piece of advice will change the way you think every day. It will help you cultivate more empathy for others and more appreciation for yourself in everything you do.2022-12-0616 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: How To Make The Right Decision Every TimeHave you ever felt stuck in "analysis paralysis"? It's time to think differently about how we make decisions. Here's an easy trick so that you can make the right decision—every time. This perspective shift changed my life.2022-11-2918 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: Jealousy vs. EnvyWithout realizing it, most of us don’t use these words correctly. While envy tends to seem like just a stronger version of jealousy, the psychology and meaning behind it are of important difference. We love to examine the way that subtle linguistic differences can shape the way we communicate and connect with one another :)2022-08-3108 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: Thankful vs. GratefulDo you know the difference between giving thanks and expressing gratitude? While similar in some ways, the use cases for each are different and, as always, we love to examine the way that subtle linguistic differences can shape the way we communicate and connect with one another :)2022-08-2910 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Casual Conversations: The Paradox of PerfectionVitale Buford is an executive coach, international speaker, and author of the book, "Addicted to Perfect," in which she explores her 10-year struggle with Adderall and perfectionism. If you hear the word "perfectionism" and you don't think it's relevant to you, please have a listen anyway. This episode is going to surprise you. We talk with Vitale about the deeper issues that perfectionism stems from as we learn about its relationship to self-worth, personal criticism, codependency, abandonment, and its role as a coping mechanism. We also discuss the danger of living a life focused on...2022-08-2440 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: Contradiction vs ComplementationStudies of highly creative people and highly successful people, such as the one by the psychologist bestselling author Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, have shown that a dynamic set of seemingly opposing characteristics is a very important part of what makes them tick. “Contradiction” or perceived cognitive dissonance is hard for our brains to process, so we often categorize the world and people into boxes, think even of our of ourselves as being either at one or the other end or the other of the spectrum for many personality traits. The world isn’t so simple and neither are we. The goo...2022-08-2209 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Casual Conversations: Sexual Liberation for Deeper ConnectionWe continue the endlessly glorious conversation about sexually connetion as a path to deeper understanding ouselves, the ability to explore more dynamic versions of ourselves, and more connection in our lives - inside and outside the bedroom. Tune in to learn why you deserve great sex, what the key ingredients are, and how it can positively transform countless other areas of your life! Join us as we continue to change the culture & the conversation surrounding intimacy and relationships!2022-08-1731 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!En Español: Definición del Amor¿Cuál es tu definición del amor? Hablamos sobre esta pregunta y más con Lorena Bassani. Lorena es una periodista, entrenadora de conciencias, y pionera blogger. En adición de amor, hablamos sobre definiciones alternas del final feliz, tomar el control de nuestras vidas, como controlar nuestras emociones, y sus cursos.2022-08-151h 17BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: Curiosity vs. CriticismWhether it’s meeting a new person or talking to someone in our family, there is a point at which (even well-intentioned) questions can come across as uninvited criticisms. How do we walk that fine line while trying to learn about someone else or draw it ourselves when someone else has stepped over our own boundaries?2022-08-1013 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!All Day I Dream About Sex: Threesomes, Middle-Aged Sex, and FantasiesWife wants a threesome? Listen to this episode! This week, we’re joined by Dr. Justin Lehmiller, who has our dream job: sex researcher. He joins us to talk about his latest book, Tell Me What You Want, where he surveyed thousands of Americans about their most explicit fantasies. We talk about how sex changes over the lifetime (hint: middle aged sex rocks!), the most common male and female fantasy, how to talk about your sexual fantasies with your partner, and what your fantasies may mean.2022-08-081h 39BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Untold Story of Adversity and ResilienceMeg Jay, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist and an Associate Professor of Human Development at the University of Virginia. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR and BBC. "Resilience" is of the defining attributes in facing adversity, but resilience isn't just "bouncing back" from a difficult challenge. In fact, resilience might be a lot different than you think—and you might be a lot more resilient than you give yourself credit for. In today's int...2022-08-051h 19BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Casual Conversations: Sexuality and CreativityHani Lees Dresner is the Founder of the sex-positive ceramics company, Gashtrays. Hani emphasizes celebration vs exploitation of the naked body in her work and she believes that sex-positivity and body-positivity are crucial steps towards battling sexual and mental health. She sees her work as a “subtle protest” that aims to provoke conversation in a way that is approachable. We talk about the story behind the Gashtrays movement, her nude-positive family, the hilarity of the human body, and the relationship between sexuality and creativity. She also talks about us her beautiful handmade vulva and penis artw...2022-08-0353 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Shameless - A Sexual ReformationNadia Boltz-Weber is a New York Times Best-Selling author of the book “Shameless: A Sexual Reformation," an ordained Luther Pastor, and the founder of House For All Sinners & Saints. In our conversation, we dispel the shame that so frequently underlies our beliefs about sex and sexuality. Nadia brings a clever—and extremely comical—point of view to the topic of sex and religion. She argues that sex, sexuality, and pleasure aren't the opposite of religion and what the church stands for. In fact, she argues that, if you look closer, in reality they stand for and value a lot...2022-07-251h 08BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Humans of Intimacy: Keep It SimpleBBXX Founder, Sasza Lohrey, interviews her sister-in-law for a follow-up of our last of Humans of Intimacy, "Teamwork Makes The Dream Work," to get the other side of the story. We talk about her life story, what shaped her view of relationships growing up, common misconceptions of relationships, foundational qualities of a relationship, lessons in communication, the role of luck, how to stay positive in difficult moments, and lessons learning in parenting.2022-07-2014 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Power of Expressing ApologyWe discuss the five languages of apology, their relationship to the five love languages, tips for a healthy relationship, expressing apology, as well as the power of apology in conflict resolution. Dr. Jennifer Thomas is a bestselling author, TEDx speaker, leadership consultant, and psychologist who helps people know what to say in any situation, including one of the most complicated situations of them all: when giving an apology. She has co-authored the book, “When Sorry Isn’t Enough” with Gary Chapman, author of the bestselling book and the world-famous concept of the “5 Love Languages” in which they...2022-07-181h 12BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Recommendations & Reviews: The Culture Map"One of my all-time favorite books and a life-changing lesson on communication." —Sasza Lohrey, BBXX Founder2022-07-1307 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Communication is KeyDeborah Tannen is a Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown University and the author of countless books about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships. We learn about the different ways we each interpret conversations and interactions and break down the foundational concept of individual conversational style. We explore the “metadata” of conversations, demonstrating empathy vs. power, the influence of family in shaping our communication, the role of communication in a partnership, and gender differences in communication styles.2022-07-111h 28BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: Celebrating The Small WinsFact: big wins are impossible without the small wins along the way. "The journey is the destination" might sound cheesy but the reality is that we won't always make it to where we're trying to go. Even if we do, it's vital to acknowledge how much work we put in to get there; the big wins never feel as good if we haven't celebrated the small wins.2022-07-0607 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Mental Health Around the WorldLilly Wang spent two years traveling the world learning about what mental health looks like in different countries and across cultures. She also spent that time developing a much deeper understanding of her own struggles with mental health. As we explore the definition of mental health and how it looks different around the world, we talk with Lilly about the lessons learned from her journey and how travel allows us to discover a more authentic version of ourselves.2022-07-041h 17BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Casual Conversations: The Art of Self-DiscoveryWe talk with one of our favorite men’s coaches, Mike Sagun, about physical touch, closeness, and male intimacy. We learn about his journey to self-discovery, how he has changed over the past few years along the way, tools for exploring your own identity, and whether or not people can ever truly start over. Lastly, we touch on the art of giving compliments, the vulnerability it requires to give them—and the power in learning to receive them.2022-06-2946 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Power of Our StoriesWe talk with Dr. Jamie Goldstein about the power of story and the practice of narrative therapy. We discuss how stories create meaning, the importance of recognizing that stories are multi-dimensional, and how language shapes our stories and our identities. We learn about how to identify a “dominant narrative,” separate the person involved from the actual problem itself, and the healing capacity of “externalization.” Lastly, we share tools and actionable advice for exploring aspects of narrative therapy on your own.2022-06-271h 16
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!En Español: El Poder de la Mente Sobre el CuerpoHablamos de la diferencia entre el sexo y la sexualidad, las dinámicas de la sexualidad, la vergüenza y la liberación, la mente como nuestra herramienta más poderosa, el rol clave de la comunicación, la importancia de conocernos a nosotros mismos, y la definición de la intimidad. Nuestra invitada, Michelle Pollmann, es una psicóloga chilena especializada en terapia de pareja con sede en Santiago de Chile. 2022-06-2258 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Masculine vs. Feminine vs. HUMANWe talk with Stefanos Sifanos about his personal journey from trauma to healing and continued self-development. We talk about masculinity and femininity, the differences between what is traditionally referred to as masculine vs. feminine energies, and how, in essence, they are simply a range of human characteristics that we all possess and should seek our own personal balance between. We learn about social ecology, men and emotions, the fear of rejection, and what determines self-worth. Stefanos also teaches us about the difference between isolation vs. solitude, its role in healing, and the importance of healing ourselves in order to build...2022-06-201h 05BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Humans of Intimacy: Teamwork Makes The Dream WorkBBXX Founder Sasza Lohrey interviews her very own brother for the pilot episode of an exciting new sub-series, Humans Of Intimacy. He talks about what influences his view on relationships growing up, how his perspective of relationships has evolved, and what advice he would give to the younger version of himself. He discusses how he learned to express himself emotionally, struggles in the beginning stages of his relationship with his now wife, lessons learned in communication, the role of authenticity, and how to be true to yourself in a partnership.2022-06-151h 12
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Complexity of Simplicity“Simple” behaviors carry complex meanings. We discuss the keys to a healthy relationship with Dr. Kate Balestrieri. We learn about attachment theory and how it plays out in adult relationships, as well as the role of fear, risk, and vulnerability in relationships. We talk about the definition of trauma, healing, and how to look for relationships that will help you heal so that you can reach a deeper level of intimacy with yourself and others. Dr. Kate Balestrieri is a licensed clinical and forensic psychologist and the founder of Modern Intimacy.2022-06-131h 13BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Recommendations & Reviews: Boogie NightsWhen I decided to watch Boogie Nights with a few friends, I was expecting a comical satire of the porn industry in the ’80s. I was surprised to find that, instead, it was a less comical yet much more profound cultural statement piece that I had expected.2022-06-0805 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!A Guide To Self CareWe dive deeper into our discussion of anxiety and self-care as we discuss boundaries, meditation, mindfulness, and journaling with Rashawnda Williams. An expert in self-care, she shares easy, practical steps and actionable advice and tools to deepen your self-understanding and self-development. “Self-care isn’t selfish” might sound cliché but it also happens to be extremely important, healthy advice to live by!2022-06-061h 21BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: The Many Roads To HappinessThere is no one single path set out for us. There is no single destination where we might end up and be happy. There is no one person that we could build an incredible relationship with. There is not just one "right" decision. And there is no one single version of who we are. Besides, how boring would it be if there were?2022-06-0108 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Accessibility and Equity in Mental Health CareWe talk with Dr. Earl Turner about accessibility and equity in mental health. We learn about new guidelines focused on intersectionality (gender, age, sexual orientation, etc) as well as new guidelines focused on race and ethnicity. We also discuss stigma as an obstacle to treatment, how to normalize mental health care, the importance of role models, and society’s treatment of the black community. Dr. Earl Turner is a licensed psychologist and professor in Los Angeles. He is a member of the American Psychological Association (APA) and the Association of Black Psychologists (ABPsi), and he was recently elected as the 2020 Presi...2022-05-3050 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Casual Conversations: Don't Apologize for Being HumanWe talk with health & wellness influencer Jo Encarnacion (@gofitjo) about childhood, friendship, emotional support, the power of owning your feelings, the importance of authenticity, and how she doesn’t apologize for showing human expression. We hear about her experience coming into her own sexuality, struggles through marriage, and how she gave her daughters “the talk” that we all wish we had gotten.2022-05-2531 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Sexual Liberation and the Wisdom of AgingDr. Christina Pierpaoli Parker talks with us about the pros and cons of aging—from the psychological benefits to the physical complications. We discuss sexual dysfunction, sexual liberation, the evolving role of sex as we age, how to connect deeper in our relationships later in life, and the life-changing lessons we should all learn from the wisdom of aging. Dr. Christina Pierpaoli Parker is a post-doc in the Clinical Geropsychology doctoral program at the University of Alabama. Her research has been published in the Journals of Aging & Health, Sex & Marital Therapy and The Clinical Gerontologist, and her writing explores psychoeducational inter...2022-05-231h 17
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!En Español: Sexualidad e IgualdadEsta semana, conversamos con la emprendedora Estrella Jaramillo sobre la realidad actual de la tecnología orientada a mujeres, la importancia del lenguaje y la comunicación en relaciones, la infidelidad y la nueva monogamia, el papel del hombre en la igualdad de género. 2020-10-1956 min
The Salty ClubIntimacy, communication and why good connection = good sex with Sasza Lohrey @BBXX.worldMeet Sasza Lohrey. Sasza is the Founder & CEO of BBXX, a digital platform for intimacy and wellbeing. She is also the host of the BBXX podcast, “Let’s Get Intimate!” which hosts provocative and entertaining conversations with experts in order to challenge the way our culture conditions us to talk about sex, intimacy, and healthy relationships. BBXX was created in order to help people better understand themselves, so that they then can form deeper and more fulfilling relationships with others.In part 2. of this 2-part interview, Sasza and Caitlin discuss:– What is intimacy and how can we c...2020-10-1837 min
The Salty ClubHow we can build better relationships for a better life with Sasza Lohrey @BBXX.worldMeet Sasza Lohrey. Sasza is the Founder & CEO of BBXX, a digital platform for intimacy and wellbeing. She is also the host of the BBXX podcast, “Let’s Get Intimate!” which hosts provocative and entertaining conversations with experts in order to challenge the way our culture conditions us to talk about sex, intimacy, and healthy relationships. BBXX was created in order to help people better understand themselves, so that they then can form deeper and more fulfilling relationships with others.– In part 1. of this 2-part interview, Sasza and Caitlin discuss:– How can we cultivate a strong com...2020-10-1838 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Cohabitation, Gender Roles, and The Summer of LoveWe learn about the history of cohabitation and its impact on marriage vs. divorce and we talk about the evolution of societal norms, gender roles, and hookup culture. Arielle Kuperberg is a millennial generation sociologist whose research examines how social norms in romantic relationships have changed since the ‘60s, with a focus on the intersection of work, family, and gender. 2020-09-2544 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Lies We Tell Ourselves About The TruthWould you like to be more involved with BBXX? Sign up here [https://bbxx.world/] to be a part of our brand new BBXX platform—a.k.a. your go-to resource for all things intimacy & relationships! You can find the show notes and more resources here https://bbxx.world/podcast/episode-51-the-lies-we-tell-ourselves-about-the-truth/ What does it mean to lie? What does it mean to tell the truth? And what about the gaping grey area in between? Our guest this week, Judi Ketteler, is a storyteller and award-winning writer who has had her work featured by publications such as The New York...2020-09-2456 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!An Industry of Injustice (4/4)Would you like to be more involved with BBXX? Sign up here [https://bbxx.world/] to be a part of our brand new BBXX platform—a.k.a. your go-to resource for all things intimacy & relationships! You can find the show notes and more resources here https://bbxx.world/podcast/episode-50-an-industry-of-injustice-4-4/ This is the fourth and final episode in our series exploring culture, the media, and sexual exploitation in the U.S. We started off the series and now wrap up the series by interviewing documentary filmmaker Benjamin Nolot, who is also the Founder of Exodu...2020-09-221h 47
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Episode 49: This Is Actually Happening (3/4)Would you like to be more involved with BBXX? Sign up here [https://bbxx.world/] to be a part of our brand new BBXX platform—a.k.a. your go-to resource for all things intimacy & relationships! You can find the show notes and more resources here https://bbxx.world/podcast/episode-49-this-is-actually-happening/ This is the third episode [of four] in our series exploring culture, the media, and sexual exploitation in the U.S. We learn of shocking stories behind the porn mogul PornHub, misconceptions of human trafficking in the porn industry, and what we can do to change the sys...2020-09-221h 14
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Episode 48: Standing By vs. Being An Ally (2/4)Would you like to be more involved with BBXX? Sign up here [https://bbxx.world/] to be a part of our brand new BBXX platform—a.k.a. your go-to resource for all things intimacy & relationships! You can find the show notes and more resources here https://bbxx.world/podcast/episode-48-standing-by-vs-being-an-ally/ This is the second episode [of four] in our series exploring culture, the media, and sexual exploitation in the U.S. “Rape is not exclusively the product of a few bent and twisted minds but a result of [cultural] belief systems.” In this week’s podcast int...2020-09-221h 24
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Episode 47: Sexual "Empowerment" Sells (1/4)Our interview with filmmaker Benjamin Nolot is the first in a series of four interviews that explore the relationship between culture, representations of sex in the media and in porn, and sexual exploitation. This interview starts the series off by exploring hookup culture through the lens of one of his documentary films. We begin to examine patterns of the media and social influence—and to understand how strong their power is over us, whether we realize it or not.2020-09-221h 33
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Casual Conversations: Communication, Mindfulness, and Pleasure“Communication is the bedrock to make your bed rock.” Dr. Laurie Mintz shares wisdom about mindfulness as a powerful tool for sex, stress, pandemics, and life in general. We would truly appreciate your feedback. Please help us build a better BBXX for you by sending your questions, comments, or criticisms to hello@bbxx.world or by texting +1 (415) 888-4742 :)2020-05-3038 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: Operational DefinitionsSometimes we have a conversation with another person about one concept that has two very different meanings for each of us. More often, we don't even realize it. It’s such a simple concept yet one that can completely transform the way we communicate with and understand other people. We would truly appreciate your feedback. Please help us build a better BBXX for you by sending your questions, comments, or criticisms to hello@bbxx.world or by texting +1 (415) 888-4742 :) 2020-05-2808 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: Memory TissueAs hard as we might try to forget or "get over" things, the body still remembers them. Studies show that suppressing emotions can do damage not only to our psychological health but also to our physical health. We would truly appreciate your feedback. Please help us build a better BBXX for you by sending your questions, comments, or criticisms to hello@bbxx.world or by texting +1 (415) 888-4742 :) 2020-05-2819 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Nutrition Facts of LifeIn our conversation with Nati Valderrama, we talk about how health and nutrition affect our relationships, how to portray your authentic self, social media vs. real life, and what it means to lead a “balanced” life. Nati Valderrama is a bilingual Health and Wellness Coach who works with clients around the world to find balance in their lives. She teaches workshops in both English and Spanish and is based in Santiago, Chile. Help us build a better BBXX for you by sending your feedback to hello@bbxx.world :)2020-05-2558 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Casual Conversations: The Lost Art of Letter WritingWhether writing a thank you note to a neighbor, a love letter to a partner, or slipping someone a piece of paper with your phone number on it, handwritten notes can serve not only to deepen existing relationships but also to create new opportunities for connection. Aficionado Lauren Popish teaches us how to rediscover connection through the lost art of letter writing. We would love to know what you think. Please help us build a better BBXX for you by sending your feedback to hello@bbxx.world :) 2020-05-2531 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: Attribution TheoryIn an attempt to better understand other people, we might attribute their behaviors to inherent personality traits or specific circumstances. But guess what? Like most things, we're often much farther off the mark than we'd like to believe. We would love to know what you think. Please help us build a better BBXX for you by sending your feedback to hello@bbxx.world :) 2020-05-2208 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Food For Thought: Coronavirus vs. ConnectionAn introduction to our new series, “Food For Thought”! Please send feedback to hello@bbxx.world :) 2020-05-2105 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Bonus Episode: The Psychology of SolitaryOur interview with Dr. Terry Kupers delves into mental health and prison, specifically, the extreme conditions of isolation in solitary confinement and the effects of these conditions on the human psyche. This interview is by no means meant to compare what we are experiencing in quarantine with the extreme conditions that one experiences inside correctional facilities—let alone solitary confinement. However, it is meant to give us some perspective, help us better understand a bit more about the human condition, and perhaps give us a new lens with which to understand ourselves, each other, and systems in our society that ne...2020-05-191h 12
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Love, Loss & The Meaning Of Life (2/2)Some of the biggest regrets in life are not the things we say but the things that are left unsaid. What are the conversations you will look back and wish you would have had? Morgan Brown, Founder of "Conversations I Wish I Had" and Sasza Lohrey, Founder of BBXX, share their personal experiences with loss in the most raw, vulnerable interview thus far on the BBXX podcast.2020-05-081h 01
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Love, Loss & The Meaning Of Life (1/2)Some of the biggest regrets in life are not the things we say but the things that are left unsaid. What are the conversations you will look back and wish you would have had? Morgan Brown, Founder of "Conversations I Wish I Had" and Sasza Lohrey, Founder of BBXX, share their personal experiences with loss in the most raw, vulnerable interview thus far on the BBXX podcast.2020-05-081h 05
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Live Workshop: Navigating Anxiety During COVIDHow to Mindfully Navigate Fear + Anxiety during the COVID-19 pandemic. A guest workshop hosted by Michelle, the founder of Holisticism, featuring Amanda Huggins, a professional anxiety coach and the founder of Anxiety to Empowerment. IG: @holisticism & @anxietytoempowerment2020-04-301h 00
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Body Knows BestOwen Marcus is a men’s coach and the Co-founder of Evryman, a company focused on men’s emotional wellness with the purpose of destigmatizing men’s vulnerability and empowering individuals to build deeper connections. He teaches us how some of our biggest “problems” are unhealthy coping mechanisms that we have unknowingly adopted. He talks about the role of physical/somatic experience in shaping emotional experience, how suppressing our emotions creates PTSD pathways in our brains, and the power of "changing your mind” over “learning new techniques.” Lastly, we talk about how connection is the essence of being human, what...2020-04-211h 00
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!(Un)Censoring PleasureIn this week’s episode, we talk with Alexandra Fine, Co-founder & CEO of Dame Products. We discuss the importance of getting to know all the different versions of ourselves, how to acknowledge the contradictions within each of us, and whether people can actually change. We talk about sex as a part of society, the power of cultural influences, and the limitations of binary thinking. We learn about Dame’s mission to close the "pleasure gap"—and the dangerous implications of a discriminatory advertising industry that continually censors content related to female sexual wellbeing. In case you didn’t...2020-04-141h 00
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Bring On The Heat (2/2)You probably don’t know much about menopause… and the things that you do know might be based on stereotypes more than actual facts. That’s because, unfortunately, despite being an important—and inevitable—life stage for literally every woman on earth, it hasn’t been studied very much! (shocker) In this week’s interview, we talk with Jill Angelo about the myths and stigmas of menopause, the lack of resources and support for women going through it (aka, eventually, all women), and the ways in which we can all—men, women, and folx—better normalize and create greater visibility surround...2020-03-2623 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Bring On The Heat (1/2)You probably don’t know much about menopause… and the things that you do know might be based on stereotypes more than actual facts. That’s because, unfortunately, despite being an important—and inevitable—life stage for literally every woman on earth, it hasn’t been studied very much! (shocker) In this week’s interview, we talk with Jill Angelo about the myths and stigmas of menopause, the lack of resources and support for women going through it (aka, eventually, all women), and the ways in which we can all—men, women, and folx—better normalize and create greater visibility surround...2020-03-2638 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Myth of Marriage (2/2)In this week’s conversation with Stephanie Coontz, we discuss the history of marriage, its social and political significance, and the changing paradigm in the modern world. We learn about the factors surrounding marital and sexual satisfaction, the importance of egalitarianism, and the lessons to be learned from single people and same-sex couples. Lastly, we speak to the importance of cultivating a sense of community and trust through casual connections and small interactions—particularly in today’s perpetually disconnected world—and the ways in which putting more energy into interactions with friends, coworkers, and even strangers can actually help strengthe...2020-03-1029 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Myth of Marriage (1/2)In this week’s conversation with Stephanie Coontz, we discuss the history of marriage, its social and political significance, and the changing paradigm in the modern world. We learn about the factors surrounding marital and sexual satisfaction, the importance of egalitarianism, and the lessons to be learned from single people and same-sex couples. Lastly, we speak to the importance of cultivating a sense of community and trust through casual connections and small interactions—particularly in today’s perpetually disconnected world—and the ways in which putting more energy into interactions with friends, coworkers, and even strangers can actually help strengthe...2020-03-1036 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Same Page, Different Book (2/2)In our conversation with Nick Epley, we discover how little we know ourselves, how much less we know other people, and yet how incredibly good we think we are at both. We learn about the power of context in shaping our feelings, the importance of reciprocity, the magic of gratitude, and how all of these play a role in “designing a good life.” Nick Epley is a Professor of Behavior Science and Director of the Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He teaches an ethics and happiness course to MBA students called...2020-02-2642 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Same Page, Different Book (1/2)In our conversation with Nick Epley, we discover how little we know ourselves, how much less we know other people, and yet how incredibly good we think we are at both. We learn about the power of context in shaping our feelings, the importance of reciprocity, the magic of gratitude, and how all of these play a role in “designing a good life.” Nick Epley is a Professor of Behavior Science and Director of the Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He teaches an ethics and happiness course to MBA students called...2020-02-2643 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Humans In Progress (2/2)In our latest interview for our new “Changemakers” edition of the podcast, we’re joined by health and wellness guru Jo Encarnacion, a.k.a. @GoFitJo. We talk about battling depression through health and fitness, intimacy vs. sex, the double-edged sword of social media, lessons from parenthood, and the wisdom of womanhood. We learn about how to embrace imperfection, the power of viewing rejection as "redirection," and the reality that we are all a constantly-evolving "work in progress." 2020-02-1121 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Humans In ProgressIn our latest interview for our new “Changemakers” edition of the podcast, we’re joined by health and wellness guru Jo Encarnacion, a.k.a. @GoFitJo. We talk about battling depression through health and fitness, intimacy vs. sex, the double-edged sword of social media, lessons from parenthood, and the wisdom of womanhood. We learn about how to embrace imperfection, the power of viewing rejection as "redirection," and the reality that we are all a constantly-evolving "work in progress." 2020-02-1133 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Strength In Our Scars (2/2)In our interview with Dan Doty, we discuss the therapeutic benefits of nature, the importance of healing old wounds, and the power of presence. We also explore why society has taught us all—but particularly men—to use repression as a coping tactic. Our biggest takeaway? Hurt people hurt others. Trauma shapes who we are, how we react to situations, and even the way our genes express themselves. The good news? People who work on *healing* themselves have an immense capability to help others heal others. Dan Doty is a men's coach and the co-founder of Evryman, a men’...2020-01-2130 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Strength In Our Scars (1/2)In our interview with Dan Doty, we discuss the therapeutic benefits of nature, the importance of healing old wounds, and the power of presence. We also explore why society has taught us all—but particularly men—to use repression as a coping tactic. Our biggest takeaway? Hurt people hurt others. Trauma shapes who we are, how we react to situations, and even the way our genes express themselves. The good news? People who work on *healing* themselves have an immense capability to help others heal others. Dan Doty is a men's coach and the co-founder of Evryman, a men’...2020-01-2133 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Masculinity & Authenticity (2/2)In this week’s interview with Mike Sagun we talk about masculinity—from boyhood to manhood. We deconstruct toxic masculinity and discuss how to nurture more emotionally fit men, from awareness programs in youth to promoting connection for happiness and longevity later in life. We also talk about the healing power of owning your failures and flaws, the definition of living authentically, and we learn how to craft our own purpose statement and discover our “ikigai.” Mike Sagun is a men’s coach and the founder of The Unshakable Man, an organization focused on men’s total health & wellness, success, pur...2019-12-1035 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Masculinity & Authenticity (1/2)In this week’s interview with Mike Sagun we talk about masculinity—from boyhood to manhood. We deconstruct toxic masculinity and discuss how to nurture more emotionally fit men, from awareness programs in youth to promoting connection for happiness and longevity later in life. We also talk about the healing power of owning your failures and flaws, the definition of living authentically, and we learn how to craft our own purpose statement and discover our “ikigai.” Mike Sagun is a men’s coach and the founder of The Unshakable Man, an organization focused on men’s total health & wellness, success, pur...2019-12-1028 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Addiction & Intimacy - From Harm to Healing (2/2)In our interview with Dr. Robert Weiss, we learn what it means to be an “addict,” how narcissistic tendencies perpetuate addiction, and what our upbringing has subconsciously taught us about healthy relationships and dependency. We also discuss the importance of a support system in the process of recovery, how to support a loved one, and what lessons about ourselves and how our past experiences have shaped us that everyone — regardless of being an addict or not — can learn from addiction. Dr. Rob is an expert in the treatment of addiction and adult intimacy disorders and the author of "Prodep...2019-11-2025 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Addiction & Intimacy - From Harm to Healing (1/2)In our interview with Dr. Robert Weiss, we learn what it means to be an “addict,” how narcissistic tendencies perpetuate addiction, and what our upbringing has subconsciously taught us about healthy relationships and dependency. We also discuss the importance of a support system in the process of recovery, how to support a loved one, and what lessons about ourselves and how our past experiences have shaped us that everyone — regardless of being an addict or not — can learn from addiction. Dr. Rob is an expert in the treatment of addiction and adult intimacy disorders and the author of "Prodep...2019-11-2025 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!New Trailer: Let's Get Intimate!Sexuality, intimacy, identity, and culture. A podcast about relationships — but really about self-psychology. We dare you to join us on our journey to better relationships — through deeper knowledge, better understanding, and a rediscovery of yourself! 2019-11-1101 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!You Can't Be What You Can't See (2/2)In our interview with Elizabeth Reed, we discuss the media’s influence — for better or for worse — on LGBTQ identity, culture, and interpretations. We learn how “identities are constituted within, not outside of representation,” we discuss how to combat media invisibility, the ways that the LGBTQ community faces discrimination, and how the media is central in articulating everyone’s identity. Elizabeth Reed is a cultural sociologist and lecturer at Goldsmiths University in London whose research focuses on LGBTQ relationships and families, contemporary childhood, and the role of media and cultural representations in identity-making. _________________________________ To check out sh...2019-11-0636 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!You Can't Be What You Can't See (1/2)In our interview with Elizabeth Reed, we discuss the media’s influence — for better or for worse — on LGBTQ identity, culture, and interpretations. We learn how “identities are constituted within, not outside of representation,” we discuss how to combat media invisibility, the ways that the LGBTQ community faces discrimination, and how the media is central in articulating everyone’s identity. Elizabeth Reed is a cultural sociologist and lecturer at Goldsmiths University in London whose research focuses on LGBTQ relationships and families, contemporary childhood, and the role of media and cultural representations in identity-making. _________________________________ To check out sh...2019-11-0640 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Why Relationships Fail vs. Flourish (2/2)In our two-episode interview with Dr. Ben Karney, we learn how and why some relationships manage to remain satisfying over time while others tend to deteriorate. We discuss what questions people should be asking themselves before getting married (but usually don’t), how cultural institutions reward married couples, the positive correlation between effective communication and sex, and question how much of marriage success comes down to luck. Two of our favorite takeaways from this conversation are 1. There is no “right time” to have a difficult conversation. 2. Work is a distraction from relationships, not vice versa. Dr. Ben...2019-10-1531 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Why Relationships Fail vs. Flourish (1/2)In our two-episode interview with Dr. Ben Karney, we learn how and why some relationships manage to remain satisfying over time while others tend to deteriorate. We discuss what questions people should be asking themselves before getting married (but usually don’t), how cultural institutions reward married couples, the positive correlation between effective communication and sex, and question how much of marriage success comes down to luck. Two of our favorite takeaways from this conversation are 1. There is no “right time” to have a difficult conversation. 2. Work is a distraction from relationships, not vice versa. Dr. Ben...2019-10-1533 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Evolution of (Non)Monogamy (2/2)In the second episode of our two-part interview with Dr. Heath Schechinger, we talk about how to craft a relationship that’s right for you, more about jealousy and how it relates to anxiety, and envy, different approaches to talk to your partner about CNM relationships, and we learn more about the American Psychological Association Division 44 Consensual Non-monogamy Task Force. Dr. Heath is a researcher and psychologist at The University of California, Berkeley. Visit BBXX.WORLD for more information, links, or to give us your feedback, etc :)2019-10-0130 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Evolution of (Non)Monogamy (1/2)In the first episode of our two-part interview with Dr. Heath Schechinger, we talk about terminology and learn the nuances between different types of non-traditional relationships. We touch on jealousy and how much there is to be learned — regardless of what type of relationship you’re in — from the important communication required to navigate such a complex emotion. We talk a lot about how much there is to be learned from all of the open communication required for non-traditionally structured relationships, and lastly, we discuss the evolution and the expectations of monogamy. Dr. Heath is a researcher, psychol...2019-10-0143 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!"Pleasure Is The Measure" (2/2)In the second episode with Dr. Emily Nagoski, she explains the difference between “liking” something and “desiring” it, attachment theory, it, responsive vs spontaneous desire, and how our desire is a system of “accelerators” and “brakes” that, once understood, help us take the driver’s seat of our own desire and pleasure. **Please remember to rate and leave a review for our podcast! Give us your feedback Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Sign up for our digital "book" club — a twice-weekly curation of the best digital content about identity, sexual...2019-05-1434 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!"Pleasure Is The Measure" (1/2)In the first episode of our two-part interview with Dr. Emily Nagoski, she explains amazing fact that male and female anatomy is actually made of up the exact same parts, she helps us understand that we’re all “normal,” and teaches us how we can learn to listen to (or tune out) our internal voice — with compassion. Dr. Emily Nagoski is the author of the New York Times best-selling book “Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life.” **Please remember to rate and leave a review for our podcast! Give us your f...2019-05-1431 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Sex Sells? Or Insecurity Sells... (2/2)In the second part of our conversation with Caroline Heldman, we talk about the consequences of marketers and the media having the power to shape our culture. We learn that the average teenager is consuming 10.5 hours of media a day and we ask: What happens when the people with the most influence over them are the same ones who profit from their low self-esteem — and care more about their wallet than their wellbeing? We also touch on the mental health crisis of millennials and whether or not social media should be called “anti-social” media. Caroline Heldman is a professor...2019-05-0328 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Sex Sells? Or Insecurity Sells... (1/2)In the first episode of our two-part conversation with Caroline Heldman, we discuss the role of culture and the media in defining femininity and masculinity, the harm of gender roles, and the way they shape our economy. We also touch on the double-edged sword of social media in creating social movements vs. hindering socialization. Caroline Heldman is a Professor of Politics with a specialty in media, gender, and race — and the president of The Representation Project. **Please remember to rate and leave a review for our podcast! Give us your feedback Follow us on In...2019-05-0338 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!DON'T Fake It 'Til You Make It (2/2)You don't have the exact same sexual preferences for frequency, duration, and time of day as your partner? Welcome to the club! Population: everyone. No one has the same exact libido. Therefore, everyone has mismatched libidos! So, what do you say we start learning from it, instead of just letting it get in the way? In the second episode of our two-part interview with Vanessa Marin, she teaches us how to learn from our libido and how to "turn down our partner without rejecting them." She also talks about how to cultivate more kindness towards our body — even when it...2019-04-2420 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!DON'T Fake It 'Til You Make It (1/2)The expression "fake it 'til you make it" or "fake it 'til you become it" works for many walks of life — but not in the bedroom and not in relationships. We can't expect ourselves to be able to connect deeply with someone when we're not being our true selves — and more importantly, if we don't feel as though we can be our true selves with someone, then why should we want to be with them? In the first episode of our two-part interview with Vanessa Marin, she shares her personal story about learning why faking orgasms needs to end — and teac...2019-04-2427 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Mindfulness For Sexual ConnectionFact: Maintaining a fulfilling sex life in a long-term relationship is no simple feat. Fact: It doesn’t just “happen”. The couples who are happiest with their sex and intimacy are also those that dedicate attention, time, and energy to it. In this episode, Dr. Stephen Snyder shares a few tools that can help you navigate this complicated yet extremely important topic, such as mindfulness techniques to help you reframe — and reclaim — your sexual connection. Want a list of all the best quotes and amazing resources mentioned in each episode?! Check out our show notes, plus lots more g...2019-04-1245 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Keeping It "Casual" (2/2)Do you have positive, negative, or neutral associations with casual sex? What role does it play in “hookup culture” and how can we positively influence the expectations — and the outcomes of it? In the second episode of our two-part interview with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we debate both sides of hookup culture — both the good and the toxic ways in which it manifests itself — and how we can work to make casual sex more pleasurable and intimate for those who wish to engage in it. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova is a researcher, sex educator, and adjunct professor at NYU. What...2019-03-2232 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Keeping It "Casual" (1/2)What does “casual sex” mean to you? Does it have only one definition or are there different kinds? How does your brain — and your heart — react to it? In the first episode of our two-part interview with Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, we discuss “casual sex” — the very wide spectrum of how we define it, cultural differences in how we view it, and how self-esteem and dopamine play important roles. Dr. Zhana Vrangalova is a researcher, sex educator, and adjunct professor at NYU. Give us your feedback Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website2019-03-2235 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Birds & The Bees (2/2)What was your sex education like- in school, from friends? What role did technology play in your education? How do you define consent and how would you explain it to a child? In the second episode of our two-part series, we discuss different ways to understand as well as teach consent, and developmental phases going into adolescent sexuality. Give us your feedback Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Sign up for our digital "book" club — a twice-weekly curation of the best digital content about identity, sexuality, intimacy, and re...2019-02-2833 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Birds & The Bees (1/2)Did you get "the talk" from your parents when you were young? When and how did you "explore" your own body? Did you use the correct names for intimate body parts? How did your childhood exposure and experiences shape your adulthood beliefs and actions? In episode one of our two-part conversation with Logan, we focus on sexuality through the scope of cultural influences, young children, and how to navigate the complicated landscape when parenting during those early developmental stages. Give us your feedback Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX we...2019-02-2835 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Love & Death“Love and death are the greatest gifts given to us, but mostly they are passed on unopened.” — Rainer Maria Rilke Dr. Jordana Jacobs argues that if we go on pretending we are going to live forever, we are actually suffocating our capacity to give and experience love. In this episode she talks about how only in accepting our inevitable mortality can we truly transform our relationships and begin to live- and love- to the fullest. Give us your feedback Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Sign up for our dig...2019-02-1535 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Communication- Mind and BodyIn this conversation with Roger Kuhn we talk about communication through the lens of sex, intimacy, technology, and culture. Roger Kuhn is a somatic therapist, practicing therapy centered around the relation of the body to the mind. He also focuses greatly on culture and how it shapes, challenges, and ultimately influences our experiences, both inside and outside the bedroom. He is currently completing a PhD in Human Sexuality and runs a private practice in San Francisco, CA. Give us your feedback Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Sign up f...2018-12-1332 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Power of Sexual Healing (2/2)"God loves you like a lover, and longs for you like a lover." This is just one of the many surprising examples that Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers found while researching sexuality in religious scriptures. In this episode, she discusses how the Western church actually used to be sex positive- so where did everything get turned around, and why did religion end up cultivating and capitalizing on sexual fear and shame instead? Dr. Tina Schermer is the author of the book "Sex, God and the Conservative Church," founder of the Northwest Institute of Intimacy, and an advocate for Positive Se...2018-11-2923 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!The Power of Sexual Healing (1/2)Sexual shame is a global issue, but it turns out that in the US it's "even worse that we thought it was." From religion to media, in school and at home, we are bombarded messages about our sexuality that can be subtle yet extremely damaging to ourselves and our relationships. How do we cure sexual shame in order to reclaim not only pleasure but above all else- our mental health and wellbeing? Dr. Tina Schermer is the author of the book "Sex, God and the Conservative Church," founder of the Northwest Institute of Intimacy, and an advocate for Positive S...2018-11-2226 min
BBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Redefining Masculinity and "The Million Dollar Point"Masculinity, prostate pleasure, shame, and multiple orgasms. In this episode we talk about the evolution of masculinity over the last few decades- from different cultural stereotypes, to new challenges, and the consequences of "toxic" masculinity. Our guest on the show is Charlie Glickman, the author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, with whom we also discuss the role of shame in men's pleasure and the "Million Dollar Point," a seldom talked about spot that allegedly allows men to have multiple orgasms. Show Notes! Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Si...2018-11-1540 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Creating Body Maps and Reconnecting with PleasureTara Galeano is the founder of Boulder Sex Therapy, where she runs workshops for women to reimagine their bodies and rekindle their sexuality- particularly after cancer. Tara tells inspiring stories of the women she works with and talks with us about the ongoing process of discovering your sexuality through your life and throughout body changes- which is something all of us have to deal with eventually in some way, and we probably all need to improve upon. Show Notes! Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Sign up for our digital "...2018-11-0833 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!(In) Fidelity in The Time of Technology“As with every other technology, somehow we find a way to adapt it to use for sex.” In this episode, Ari Tuckman talks about the ways in which technology is changing modern-day relationships, particularly in regards to the ways in which we understand fidelity vs. infidelity. Ari is a renowned psychologist and sex therapist, the author of three books, and has given over 300 talks worldwide. Show Notes! Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Sign up for our digital "book" club — a twice-weekly curation of the best digital content about identity, sexualit...2018-11-0839 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Let's Get Cliterate! Narrowing The Orgasm Gap“People should use their scale and the ultimate goal would be to have the same type of stimulation with a partner as they have when they are pleasuring themselves.” A brilliant piece of advice from our guest, Laurie Mintz. She is the author of Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It, a professor at the University of Florida, and an advocate for female pleasure- helping both men and women learn more about how to better achieve it. Tune in to learn more about how current college students are “the most misinformed generation about sex ever,” how to be...2018-11-0835 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Today's Not So "Liberated" Sex Culture (2/2)In the second part of our conversation with Peggy Orenstein, we analyze the effects of pop culture, how sexualized it has become, and the ways this affects how young girls are living their first sexual experiences. Peggy talks about how these first sexual experiences tend to be a performance rather than a reflection of feelings- as a result of misleading ideas from the media regarding what empowerment and being a "feminist" actually means. Peggy Orenstein is a New York Times best-selling author of the book Girls & Sex and was voted one of the “40 Women Who Changed the Media Business in...2018-11-0825 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Today's Not So "Liberated" Sex Culture (1/2)Welcome to the very first episode of the BBXX Podcast, “Let's Get Intimate!” We're here to discuss everything you never learned about sexuality, intimacy, communication, and healthy relationships. Peggy Orenstein is a New York Times best-selling author of the book Girls & Sex and was voted one of the “40 Women Who Changed the Media Business in the Past 40 Years,” by the Columbia Journalism Review. Our conversation with her was so good that we’ve made two episodes of it! Show Notes! Follow us on Instagram! Facebook BBXX website Sign up for our d...2018-11-0827 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Episode 0: Google doesn't have all the answersA short explanation of why we created this podcast, along with clip highlights from a few of our first episodes. 2018-11-0603 minBBXX: Let's Get Intimate!Let's Get Intimate! - The BBXX Podcast2018-11-0601 min