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The Public Nuisance PodcastThe Public Nuisance Podcast #056 Far Diesel with Gerard Healy & Fra LaverySend us a textWelcome to a new episode of The Public Nuisance Podcast with me, Sean McComb.This week we welcome Gerard Healy & Fra Lavery to the podcast.We cover weight-loss plans turned winning streaks, ten undefeated fights, two belts, driving tests passed, boxing as a second language for respect, ticket sales running careers, paying opponents’ hotels, bad decisions abroad, ring-walk nerves, sports psychology, shy kids finding confidence, sober weekends, change built one session at a time and much more....
2025-12-0945 min
The Survival Project004 - Biting The Bullet: Crohns To Colostomy - Sean FrancisIn this episode of The Survival Project, I sit down with Sean Francis. Diagnosed as a teenager, Sean battled years of misdiagnosis, recurring abscesses, and relentless pain before finally opting for life-changing stoma surgery. What followed was a story of resilience, recovery, and rebuilding — from regaining his health and returning to work and training, to finding confidence, love, and laughter again.Sean opens up about:- Living with Crohn’s disease as a young man- Adapting to life after stoma surgery- The mental toll of chronic illness and how family supp...
2025-10-0754 min
Grow Your Practice PodcastAm I Really Making Money in My Practice? Ft. Sean Healy of Accounted4 LLCDo you ever wonder why your profit says one thing—but your bank account says another?In this episode, Chad Madden sits down with Sean Healy, founder of Accounted4 LLC, to break down:-Why profit isn’t the best way to measure your practice's health-How to understand cash flow (without being an accountant)-The top 2 predictive metrics every PT owner should track-Why your balance sheet is more important than your P&L-What to clean up before selling your practice-Sma...
2025-06-0543 min
Will Power Podcast by Will HumphreysHow Great Leaders Build Transparency, Accountability & Team Success with Sean HealyWhat makes a great leader? In this conversation, Sean Healy dives deep into leadership development, company culture, and the power of embracing failure as a learning opportunity. Sean Healy shares powerful insights on the following:How transparency, accountability, and structured communication shape high-performing teams. Learn Why feedback is the foundation of trust, How SOPs keep teams alignedWhy cultural fit is critical for long-term success. If you're a leader, manager, or business owner looking to drive business growth and employee satisfaction, this episode is a must-listen.Send us a textVirtual Rockstars specialize in...
2025-04-0139 min
From Iron Maiden to IronmanEpisode 15: with Sean HealySean Healy chats about how he got involved in triathlon following his football career and how the love of the sport would see him conquering Ironman courses in Austria, Germany and Lanzarote. Sean continues to go from strength to strength, a few months shy of his 70th birthday - a true inspiration to us all. From Iron Maiden to Ironman: https://amzn.eu/d/jm0vv9p
2024-11-091h 03
Sean Carroll's Mindscape278 | Kieran Healy on the Technology of Ranking PeopleWe claim to love all of our children, friends, and students equally. But perhaps deep down you assign a ranking to them, from favorite to not-so-favorite. Ranking and quantifying people is an irresistible human tendency, and modern technology has made it ubiquitous. In this episode I talk with sociologist Kieran Healy, who has co-authored (with Marion Fourcade) the new book The Ordinal Society, about how our lives are measured and processed by the technological ecosystem around us. We discuss how this has changed how relate to ourselves and the wider world.Support Mindscape on Patreon.Blog post with transcript: https://www...
2024-06-101h 15
Sean Carroll's Mindscape: Science, Society, Philosophy, Culture, Arts, and IdeasKieran Healy on the Technology of Ranking PeopleWe claim to love all of our children, friends, and students equally. But perhaps deep down you assign a ranking to them, from favorite to not-so-favorite. Ranking and quantifying people is an irresistible human tendency, and modern technology has made it ubiquitous. In this episode I talk with sociologist Kieran Healy, who has co-authored (with Marion Fourcade) the new book The Ordinal Society, about how our lives are measured and processed by the technological ecosystem around us. We discuss how this has changed how relate to ourselves and the wider world.Support Mindscape on Patreon.Blo...
2024-06-101h 15
Ambitious Accountants PodcastInnovative Accounting for Business Growth with Sean Healy, President of Accounted4In this episode of Ambitious Accountants, we're excited to welcome our first guest from the United States, Sean Healy, President of Accounted4 LLC.Sean's journey in accounting is a testament to innovation and client-focused service. His leadership at Accounted4 LLC has revolutionized the way businesses, especially in healthcare, approach their financials. From automating manual processes to providing actionable financial insights, Sean and his team have been pivotal in transforming accounting from a mere number-crunching exercise to a strategic tool for business growth.But what truly sets Sean apart is his commitment to making accounting accessible...
2024-01-2539 min
The GeoholicsEpisode 167 - Sean Healy, Liability AttorneySO...MUCH...ADDED...VALUE!!! The guys were joined this week by Sean Healy (this was Sean overload!), an equity partner at Lewis Brisbois and the Administrative Partner of the Phoenix, Arizona office. His practice includes litigating and defending professional liability, general liability, and product liability matters. He is a former prosecutor and current member of ABOTA who has tried 46 jury trials, 126 bench trials, and numerous arbitrations. Some of the topics discussed include challenges of being a prosecuting vs defense attorney, importance of contracts, litigating for/with licensed professionals, E&O insurance, expert witnesses, best advice for professional service providers...
2023-03-291h 21
The Profit ExpressBuilding a Global Brand Locally: Sean DowdellStarbucks. Target. Coca-Cola. We can all name a global brand. Even if you’ve embraced that you’re not known around the world, you still have a brand. My guest today is here to show you how you can grow into a powerful local or regional brand. This week’s guest is Sean Dowdell, founder of Club Tattoo, a brand that is today worth $30 million. His new...
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2021-08-0442 minTim Healy – Healy Success SolutionsBuilding a Global Brand Locally: Sean DowdellStarbucks. Target. Coca-Cola. We can all name a global brand. Even if you’ve embraced that you’re not known around the world, you still have a brand. My guest today is here to show you how you can grow into a powerful local or regional brand.
This week’s guest is Sean Dowdell, founder of Club Tattoo, a brand that is today worth $30 million. His new book, Brand Renegades, tells the story of how he and his wife Thora disrupted the tattoo industry. Download this week’s episode of The Profit Express to hear how Sean found su...
2021-08-0442 min
Technologies Impacting SocietyUniversal Basic Income With Dr. Sean HealyPodcast 10In this podcast, I got to speak with Dr. Sean Healy of Social Justice Ireland. Sean is the Director of Social Justice Ireland. It was back in 2018 when we first spoke - fast forward now to 2021 and there's never been a bigger and greater need of Universal Basic Income, post Corona and with a new Data Economy emerging.Follow Social Justice Ireland on Twitterhttps://twitter.com/SocialJusticeIVisit Social Justice Ireland website for resources and communityhttps://www.socialjustice.ie/Join here...
2021-05-1522 min
Technologies Impacting SocietyUniversal Basic Income With Dr. Sean HealyIn this podcast, I got to speak with Dr. Sean Healy of Social Justice Ireland. Sean is the Director of Social Justice Ireland. It was back in 2018 when we first spoke - fast forward now to 2021 and there's never been a bigger and greater need of Universal Basic Income, post Corona and with a new Data Economy emerging.--------------------------------------Follow Social Justice Ireland on Twitterhttps://twitter.com/SocialJusticeIVisit Social Justice Ireland website for resources and communityhttps://www.socialjustice.ie/--------------------------------------
2021-05-1522 min
Sean Healy: ToolsYou Should Really Know What I NeedHow assuming your partner is a mind reader affects communication
The idea that the more we love someone the more skilled at mind reading we become causes more problems than it solves!"You should know what I need if you really loved me!" This isn't helpful and in part stems from childhood where it was our parent's job to interpret our requirements. Depending on your family system that often didn't work so well either!Healthy dynamics involve communication and willingness to clarify. As we grow and mature our needs change and also how...
2021-01-2016 minSean Healy: ToolsToxic Relating and Dynamics of PolarityThe impact of extreme relating polarities on our wellbeing
One indicator that you may need to access the kind of relationship you are in is seemingly radical relating swings. The relationship brings you both the highest highs and lowest lows. How can someone treat me so well one moment and so horribly the next?When they are good and showering us with attention it feels amazing and then when they withdraw and freeze us out it feels like such a lonely and desolate place.How can one person be so charming and then...
2021-01-1121 min2021-01-0416 minSean Healy: ToolsObserving Anxiety Dynamics In RelationshipChallenging automatic responses to create healthier relating
When anxiety rises in the relationship, each person’s automatic anxiety management patterns start to get easier to see.One member of the relationship starts to go into fix-it mode and the other starts to shut down.Perhaps instead of talking to each other about the present points of friction, we start to complain to third parties. It may become so predictable that you already know who your partner will go to first to complain about you to. On the flip side, they probably know who yo...
2020-12-2934 minSean Healy: ToolsLooking At Types of Self AbandonmentProviding self-support when we have been taught the opposite
There are many ways in which we can give ourselves away and not provide adequate self-support. We are human and compassion for self is required when exploring this area of life.What did I learn from my family system about choosing togetherness and the temporary approval of others at the expense of my self-approval? This has significant ramifications in both our professional and personal lives.In this episode, we look at a couple of self-abandonment categories, namely emotional self-abandonment, financial self-abandonment and physical self-abandonment...
2020-12-2220 minSean Healy: ToolsEmotional Affairs and Relationship NeglectPrioritising sharing with our partner to avoid threatening the relationship
When we first get into a relationship the conversational exchanges can be highly invigorating, fascinating and rewarding! Over time, however, they can become less so, if we don't continue to make them a priority.We can benefit from meaningful exchanges with multiple others so that the burden of our emotional well being is not placed squarely in the hands of our partner. However, if we begin to find that conversations of significance are progressively being had with a person or persons other than our partner...
2020-12-1520 minSean Healy: ToolsFeeling Like You Are A Parent To Your PartnerWhat we can do to avoid patterns of unhealthy relating
There are a number of dysfunctional relating patterns that we can fall into over time in our romantic relationships. These patterns lower desire and build frustration and resentment.Some examples of adults falling into a parent to child style of relating are the Peter Pan and Wendy Syndrome and/or what's known as paying your partner's mummy or daddy bill.I want a partner who meets all my needs without me having to do much. I want a partner that heals all the...
2020-12-0622 minSean Healy: ToolsTime Audit & Planning MisperceptionConducting a time audit to improve your quality of life
We spend so much time in our lives but rarely allocate space to specifically observe how we are using our time. Time is a non-renewable resource so how it is spent can become very significant and precious.However, it is easy to slip into habits, get lost on the internet or have time simply seem to vanish on us. Conducting an audit may help us to become aware of small adjustments that could yield big returns to our life quality.This...
2020-11-3017 minSean Healy: ToolsDo What I Tell You So That I Can Feel BetterHow to self-regulate instead of trying to control others
Depending on the type of family system we grew up in, one of the things we learned was that telling others what to do was the way to feel less anxious. When you behave and think as I want you to then I can feel ok.This episode looks at the belief that we can control the way others think, feel and behave. Sometimes it works but rudely people then start thinking for themselves again! I want the people around me to be confident and free-thinking...
2020-11-1720 minSean Healy: ToolsWhen Taking Care of Everyone Else Means You Miss OutLearning self love & the difference between healthy & unhealthy care
Growing up some of us learned that the way to seek love, validation and approval was to give, give, give. We may have even gotten really skilled at anticipating and meeting the needs of others before they themselves even became aware of what they needed.Over fixation on others can lead to resentment and exhaustion in us especially as we wait in vain for someone to give to us. When is it your turn? It can get so imbalanced that we can become uncomfortable with receiving...
2020-11-0218 minSean Healy: ToolsIntimate Relationship With No IntimacyPrioritising intimacy for emotional nourishment
At first, it's as if we can't get enough of one another. Can't spend enough time together, can listen to our partner speak for hours, crave their touch and attention. However, the allure of our cherished one and their mutual fascination on us starts to drop away with the demands of life.If we aren't mindful we start to have less and less moments where we feel seen, known and heard by our partner. Eventually, we can be in a relationship and yet feel alone.This episode looks...
2020-10-2721 minSean Healy: ToolsDealing With An Emotionally Overwhelming FamilyManaging emotional overreacting learnt from our families
Families can be intense and sometimes overreact emotionally to certain situations that present themselves. When we grow up in emotionally intense families we can experience family members becoming highly anxious about our life choices.Emotional outbursts, uninvited advice-giving, ridicule and talking behind other family members backs about them can end up being the order of the day. The emotional education we directly or indirectly received in our childhoods can have a huge influence on our present-day adult relationships and even affect our professional environments.This e...
2020-10-2021 minSean Healy: ToolsFamily Roles and Family AnxietyHow family roles affect our personal & professional lives
Our family system has its own way of dealing with issues of intimacy and anxiety. One of the ways in which we find our place in our family system is to take on roles.These roles have unhealthy and healthy expressions. They can serve to keep the family enmeshed and family anxiety suppressed. The more challenged or dysfunctional the family, the more fixed the roles can get. Someone in the family may get cast as the troubled, messed up one whilst a sibling becomes the golden child.
2020-10-1323 minSean Healy: ToolsHow To Deal With Family GuiltStanding up for self while remaining connected
In family systems that are too enmeshed any stand one makes for self even if it is perfectly reasonable can trigger anxiety in the family system. One way in which you can be pushed back into the fold, so to speak, is to be guilted back into behaving like everyone else again. What do you mean you're not coming to dinner? Everyone else will be there! Mom will be so disappointed! Don't you think about others?Learning how to make a stand for self in a hea...
2020-10-0622 minSean Healy: ToolsKeeping The Standards Up In RelationshipThe importance of standards in supporting long term relationships
I don't know about anyone else, but the fairy tales that I heard as a child tended to promise that after the initial barriers to love were beaten, it was happy ever after! I thought all you had to do was find your soul mate and the rest would be easy! The reality is somewhat different and it turns out that if you want your relationship to continue to be meaningful, some expectations of effort need to be still met.When a couple hasn't ha...
2020-09-2922 minSean Healy: ToolsTools Episode 133: Risk Taking and Informed ConfidenceUnderstanding the relationship between confidence and educated risk-taking
When I'm feeling more confident then I will take on the world! Unfortunately, it doesn't seem to work as well that way. As a person who likes to find the easiest way out, no one is more disappointed than me about this.Genuine, informed confidence comes from engaging in the world, braving to risk even if that means facing temporary failure. Through taking risks and succeeding my confidence in myself and my abilities grows.Through taking risks and falling short but working out how to mo...
2020-09-2217 minSean Healy: ToolsManaging Personal Limitations That Prevent SuccessHow to work with limitations for greater success
I find it so interesting how many successful people have managed to turn adversity and their own self-limitations into something that works for them or that they can work around.We all have areas of life or aspects of our personalities that we see as not up to par. The relationship and strategies that we utilise to address where we feel weak can be the difference between getting where we wish to go and falling short.In this episode, we explore this topic and some way...
2020-09-1418 minSean Healy: ToolsAvoiding Success TrapsHow do we get in our own way of staying at the top?
It is one thing to get to the top of your chosen profession and a whole other ball game to stay there.The majority of individuals who reach their chosen idea of success might make it, but very few actually sustain that level.This episode looks at some of the pitfalls that can get in the way of staying at the top. How do we get in our own way? What can we do to ensure that what we have...
2020-09-0820 minSean Healy: ToolsDeveloping Your Specific Success FundamentalsThe fundamentals of doing well in life
With every idea of success, you can generally find individuals who have employed different strategies to get to the same place. The great thing about books and the internet is they provide us with so much information and so many ways to get where you want to go. The downside of having the internet and thousands of books on success is that they provide us with so many ways to get where we want to go.This episode looks at some of the fundamentals that seem to appear mo...
2020-09-0117 minSean Healy: ToolsMoney Conversations in RelationshipHow to make money talks a source of joy rather than pain
Money issues are one of the largest points of friction for couples. This episode looks at some of the things that can be implemented to make money more a source of joy than pain in our relationships.Couples can clash over a number of factors around money but one, in particular, is around its allocation and spending choices. Do we save or do we splash out on a holiday?Being able to schedule consistent, open and focused discussions on money issues in...
2020-08-2421 minSean Healy: ToolsEpisode 128: Knowing When It Is EnoughLetting go of perfection to enjoy our achievements
Sometimes the messages we received about success in our childhood feed into our drives as an adult.Am I succeeding for me or because it is what I believe others have wanted for me?Messages like "Be Perfect!", "Mistakes aren't tolerated!" and other such versions of these mean that we can be driven to excel past levels that actually return sufficient joy. It can be important to reflect on the sometimes crippling downside of perfect, so that we can ease up on ourselves a...
2020-08-1022 minSean Healy: ToolsLow Conscience Individuals and Exploiting VulnerabilityHow low conscious individuals use vulnerability to their advantage
A small aspect of the population who aren't bothered by guilt, shame and remorse in the ways that most of us are, seek relationships of self opportunity and exploitation.Many of these individuals thrive just below the line of detection and have worked hard to get their exploitation game refined. There are many elements to these challenging individuals and the way they approach life.This episode looks at how they seek vulnerability as a doorway to move into our lives and businesses for their o...
2020-08-1019 minSean Healy: ToolsPreparing For When The Kids Leave HomeNavigating the transition of kids leaving home
When it is time for the kids to leave home and we are faced with the empty nest there are a number of elements to consider. This episode is about addressing some of the areas that you may need to plan for ideally ahead of time.How does our identity and interaction with our child begin to move from just parent to child exchange to adult to adult exchange? How will we negotiate time spent together and when to catch up?Now that the kids have lef...
2020-08-0414 minSean Healy: ToolsThree Strikes & Out in RelationshipThe importance of giving our partners a chance to course-correct
Have you ever experienced or know someone who has an abrupt end to a relationship you thought was going well? It may be because you had a couple of strikes against you but they weren't communicated.In a business apart from a clear set of dos, don'ts and performance expectations, there is often some sort of warning or strikes system. If you transgress in such a way that your standing in the business has been impacted but not enough to be fired, you get a w...
2020-07-2819 minSean Healy: ToolsLow Conscience Individuals & Social HidingUnderstanding the exploitation tactics of low conscience individuals
There is a small percentage of the population that are not influenced as much as the rest of us by guilt, shame, anxiety, behaviourally appropriate boundaries, remorse and excessive empathy. Whilst they are small in number if you are unfortunate enough to find yourself entangled with them in a business or personal dynamic of significance then the damage can be great. Unlike in the movies where, as an audience member, it is made clear or clarity develops as to motives of exploitation of certain individuals, real life isn...
2020-07-2222 minSean Healy: ToolsWhen Boundary Setting Will Not WorkDealing with habitual boundary violators
The irony is that the individuals that we deal with in our business and personal lives that we most need firm boundaries with are the people who are most likely to completely ignore our boundaries.The majority of the population respond well to boundary clarification and are willing to work towards better more mutually compatible relationship and project outcomes. However, more research is emerging regarding low conscience or character disordered individuals who have made ignoring, violating or avoiding the healthy boundary requests of others an absolute art form. This art for...
2020-07-1321 minSean Healy: ToolsBrain Priming and Decision FatigueHow to stay effective at work, and relaxed at play
This episode looks at ways to help our brain assess states of effectiveness and high performance.How often are we attempting to focus on work and yet our mind is drifting off to thoughts of the weekend?On the flip side when the weekend finally arrives and it's time to relax we can't keep the office out of our minds.What are some of the ways in which we can help the brain to stay in work mode when needed and...
2020-07-0716 minSean Healy: ToolsEmpty Promises In RelationshipWhy keeping promises is vital for relationship health
Sometimes we make vows or our partner does, to do better in the relationship going forward. Great sentiment but with no substance on exactly how that looks, time and time again we can be left feeling deflated as nothing actually changes! This leads to resentment which can be a relationship and passion killer.When we agree to " what specifically " trying harder looks like going forward then it is harder to be evasive.This episode is a little shorter than others but the topic of committing to...
2020-06-2213 minSean Healy: ToolsHealing From A Toxic ChildhoodEffectively addressing the effects of childhood trauma
If you grew up in an unhealthy family system of one form or another then you need to adapt and mould to try to survive your childhood. Some of those adaptations can end up being assets later however some get in the way of living a fulfilling and successful life as an adult.This episode looks at some of the potential areas a person may need to focus on in order to heal and have peace of mind. We can face challenges in feeling safe in intimate relationships or e...
2020-06-0823 minSean Healy: ToolsEssential Negotiation Points For Relationship4 essential areas that keep a relationship on track
Modern relationships are challenging and there are some many ways to get distracted and get off track as a couple.In this episode, I explore the exceptional framework of Dr Pat Allen, who is in my mind one of the most effective contributors to making modern relationships work. Dr Pat Allen identifies four key areas that are essential for couples to negotiate to keep the relationship on track.Those areas are Time, Space, Money and Play. In this episode I will look at little deeper...
2020-06-0119 minSean Healy: ToolsWhat To Do With Boundary Violations - Part IIDealing with boundary violations in business relationships
This particular expands on episode 117 by looking at boundary violations in the business setting. Depending on where you sit in the hierarchy of the business you are in will mean a potentially different approach to poor behaviour. The higher up you are the more power you have to demand what is allowable treatment for you and to police that.This episode deals with some of the elements you need to take into account when you aren't so high up the food chain. What can we do when we p...
2020-06-0120 minSean Healy: ToolsWhat To Do With Boundary ViolationsHow to effectively & healthily approach boundary violations
People shouldn't annoy me, treat me poorly or violate my boundaries! The reality is that from time to time people can and do.This episode is dedicated to looking at some of the ways in which we can approach this inevitable situation in the most effective and healthy way. How specifically am I reacting to this perceived poor treatment and how do I get to a place of best thinking, feeling and reacting in response.I can't control what others will do but I can control wh...
2020-04-1322 minSean Healy: ToolsRevisiting Boundary Dynamics Part IIUnderstanding and learning from boundary clashes
In this follow on episode regarding boundary dynamics, we continue with some of the themes from episode 114 and add some extra elements.Sometimes when we have a perceived boundary clash with another person it can be truly accidental. We all grew up in different family systems and had possibly different areas that were considered taboo and no go areas. Some of the areas that can differ around what is appropriate and what isn't are areas such as money, religion, politics and sex to name a few. In our...
2020-04-1322 minSean Healy: ToolsParenting Role With Adult ChildrenReinventing an equal relationship with your children
As children grow, they move through different stages of development on the journey to adulthood. As their yearning for individuality emerges and especially as they reach late teens, early twenties the relationship with them begins to change. It can be very challenging and anxiety-provoking to the parent to step out of their directive role into a more adult to adult relationship.What used to be a comfortable, familiar relationship is let go and new dynamics emerge for relating to your adult child as an equal. How, especially in m...
2020-04-1323 minSean Healy: ToolsRevisiting Boundary DynamicsSetting effective & mature boundaries
Setting boundaries and parameters around what you consider ok treatment and what you don't consider ok treatment is vitally important. This is an area that, as adults, is constantly up for review and improvement.How do I set boundaries that people are going to respect? What strategies do I employ when setting boundaries?Are there times where I have set boundaries effectively? When have I been ineffective and what are the key differences?This episode looks at some of the refined and nuanced aspects of setting frameworks of...
2020-04-1320 minSean Healy: ToolsPower Dynamics in Relationship Part IIUnderstanding emotional drivers & finding solutions together
There are key areas in which couples can find themselves in a struggle for control. Areas such as who gets to decide, leader/ follower dynamics in the relationship and what we do with our money.Even the healthiest couples can get into power struggles in these areas and have to work through challenging conversations to work out what will work best for them going forward. What can make these discussions even harder is being too emotionally overloaded.Before having these discussions do I need to be clear on wh...
2020-04-1322 minSean Healy: ToolsPower Dynamics In Relationship Part IHow to work through power struggles
It is unavoidable that even in the healthiest of relationships there will be from time to time minor or significant power struggles. How we navigate these going forward can be the difference between staying together and breaking apart.This episode looks at some of the key areas that couples tend to struggle for control over and what can be red flags that there are areas that may need updating. How do we navigate through our money, time and intimacy decisions as a couple, and how might we look to...
2020-04-1322 minSean Healy: ToolsFathers & Family SystemsNavigating modern fathering & creating strong bonds
Modern relationship and parenting paradigms are changing so rapidly. The old ways of the father role being only the provider no longer fits the requirements or the family's expectations.This episode looks at a couple of focuses that can really help fathers navigate with more effectiveness in the modern family landscape. Children grow up so quick! How can we ensure as fathers and stepfathers that our relationships are strong, intimate and lasting? How do you make the most of the privilege of fathering?
2020-04-1315 minSean Healy: ToolsCovid & Relationship StrainPromoting relational health in stressful circumstances
We are going through exceptional times! External pressures can help to bring a couple together or pull a couple apart. How in times of increased anxiety and strain to we build our connection, love and support for one another. Minor differences can be amplified in periods of extended stress. This episode looks at a few things to be mindful of, and also what to do to promote relational health.All the best in this challenging time and beyond!
2020-04-0613 minSean Healy: ToolsMisconceptions Regarding Abuse DynamicsDispelling the myths around Abuse
Abuse dynamics are so painful and can fill us or those witnessing what is going on with fear, anger and confusion. This may be a challenging episode for some to hear and as always make sure you have adequate support for yourself if you feel you need it.This is a complex area which I feel requires even more general public awareness and education.The episode draws from a number of areas but I certainly wanted to mention Lundy Bancroft author of Why Does He Do That? and Sh...
2020-03-0324 minSean Healy: ToolsRecovery From Toxic Family Systems - Part IIHow the inherited inner critic impacts recovery
Recovery from having grown up in a very challenging family system can mean that you need to take several avenues to healing. If we have wounding that affects our relationships as adults, our ability to feel safe and also the level of effectiveness in problem-solving, then there can appear to be a lot to do.This episode looks again at dealing effectively with the inner critic and how it can impact recovery. The inner critic can affect our self-compassion, self-regard, and our ability to effectively self protect.
2020-02-1822 minSean Healy: ToolsRecovery From Toxic Family Systems - Part IAddressing areas of family wounding to achieve healthy adult relationships
Our early family experiences fundamentally influence the kind of relationship quality we have as adults. What did we experience growing up, and what types of strategies and coping methods did we take on to get through?This episode looks at some of the areas of wounding that can need addressing in order to have better, more genuine and intimate adult relationships. One of the reference sources for this episode is the book Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving by Pete Walker.The recovery journe...
2020-02-1824 minSean Healy: ToolsSibling Rivalry and AbuseHow sibling dynamics can shape our present state
The relationship that you have with your sibling/siblings and cousins can be the longest relationships in your life. Depending on your experiences growing up these relationships can be of massive support, considerable pain or both.This episode looks at how these relationships were shaped by our experience in our family system growing up and how they play out in our present adult relationships.Were you forced to compete for attention? Did you feel that you were constantly compared?How has the past sh...
2020-02-1819 minSean Healy: ToolsRed Flags Early in DatingEarly warnings signs for potentially abusive relationships
The early stages of dating can be an amazing time full of optimism and hope for the future! Finding a partner that enriches our life is the ideal!However, for some, they can find that what began so amazingly has turned into a nightmare where they are left wondering how did we get here and when will the person I first fell in love with be returning?Abusive dynamics tend not to show themselves early, in fact, on the surface, everything can look amazing.Ho...
2020-02-1820 minSean Healy: ToolsGetting to Know your ParentsThe benefits of knowing your parents beyond the parent/child dynamic
One of the most intense, influential and challenging relationships we can experience in our lives can be with one or both of our parents. The parent/child dynamic for some has meant chasing parental approval all our lives or actively trying to push away from what we perceive to be overbearing parental intrusion into our lives. This intrusion for some of us doesn't seem to abate just because we have become an adult.It is amazing that we can be around someone all our li...
2020-02-1817 minSean Healy: ToolsWedding Day and Married LifeHow you can give your marriage every chance at success
A wedding is an amazing symbol of love, commitment and unity! It is an opportunity to share and celebrate our relationship with those we love. It is great that we really enjoy the day and invest time in making sure on the day it all goes smoothly. Given we put that much time and energy into a day in our relationship, how much time do we invest in the planning of our life together and our marriage?Some planning and structure in our marr...
2020-02-1126 minSean Healy: ToolsRevisiting Arguments in RelationshipsUsing arguments for understanding rather than winning
As a couple, the health of our argument style can be far more important to the overall success of our relationship than what we fight about or how often.In healthy relationships, there are certain rules, parameters and boundaries that are not crossed due to the mutual respect we carry for one another and the relationship overall. The argument backdrop isn't about winning at all costs, proving the rightness of my argument, maintaining the one-up position but rather about using this experience to know more about one another...
2020-02-0425 minSean Healy: ToolsRecovery After A Toxic RelationshipChallenges that may come up during the recovery journey
It would appear to be logical that after we leave a toxic relationship it instantly gets better and only improves from there. Unfortunately, when it comes to the road of recovery it can actually be an extreme roller coaster with a lot of mixed emotions. It is sometimes harder to recover from a toxic breakup than it is from a reasonably healthy relationship breakup. It is so important to have a good support group around yourself as you begin to rebuild. It is also important to mo...
2020-01-2725 minSean Healy: ToolsThe Immature Romantic PartnerUnderstanding the behaviours & dynamics of partners with maturity issues
Even a healthy relationship takes work and compromise over time, not to mention the many challenges that life seems to throw at a couple! It can be challenging at the best of times. It can get even harder when we appear to have found ourselves in a relationship with someone who is reluctant to grow up and step up. This episode looks at some of the behaviours and dynamics that you may have to deal with on a continual basis if your partner seems to have som...
2020-01-2525 minSean Healy: ToolsReceiving the Crumbs of Love in RelationshipGrowing your relationship with self
This episode happened to emerge from the recesses of my brain because I was wondering about how it is that sometimes I have settled for so little lovingness and put up with so much below standard behaviour. I was on the track of thinking about that in relationship with others, and then realised it was more reflective of my relationship to me. This episode is a bit of a muse and a ramble through the concept of standards of treatment and levels of tolerance.How is it that, so...
2020-01-2118 minSean Healy: ToolsSafeguarding self in a Toxic RelationshipAdvice for navigating unhealthy realtionships
Whilst there are some red flags that exist in the early stages of relationships, unfortunately it can take some time before we really become aware that the relationship we are in is really unhealthy.Whilst this episode is by no means meant to be taken as specific advice as everyone's challenging situation will consist of elements of its own uniqueness, there are however some general points of consideration that may help make a difficult situation a bit easier to navigate. I hope this episode helps those in challenging situa...
2020-01-1520 minSean Healy: ToolsSupporting People who are in Toxic RelationshipsEffectively offering support to those in abusive relationships
Given that abusive dynamics are unfortunately so common, there is every possibility that someone we love could find themselves in an abusive romantic relationship where both their physical and mental wellbeing is being damaged.Effective support through this period requires some understanding otherwise we can unintentionally be playing into the hands of the abuser. The person who is experiencing threat, coercive control, domination and denial of their basic human rights needs to be met with full support and compassion.However, we can be swept away in...
2020-01-1223 minSean Healy: ToolsNegative Effects of Power Over ParentingOvercoming conflicted feelings about success
Depending on what type of Power Dynamic we experienced growing up, certain consequences can arise. If we learned that it was ok to share around the power and control depending perhaps on who was best equipped in the moment to direct, then we might find ourselves very comfortable to move between moments of leading and following.However, if we experienced fixed positions relative to power and control where one person was always in the "superior position" regardless of competence, expertise or appropriateness then we can come away with mixed messages and...
2020-01-0724 minSean Healy: ToolsAbuser Mindset and EntitlementUnderstanding the role of entitlement in the abuser’s mindset
Abusive behaviour and mindset in Intimate Relationships is highly complex and certainly not always well understood! The more insight and clarity we have the more effective our interventions can become. When it comes to romantic relationships, abuse dynamics stem from beliefs, attitudes and thinking patterns that are often underpinned with a sense of justification and entitlement: ‘If you don't submit to my power and control then I am entitled to utilise whatever tactics I deem necessary to make that happen.’‘No matter wh...
2020-01-0521 minSean Healy: ToolsChildren Witnessing Toxic RelationshipsHow exposure to abusive relationships impacts children’s present & future wellbeing
It can unfortunately sometimes be easier to think that if something didn't happen, or isn't happening to my kids directly, they won't be that affected! Witnessing toxic, abusive exchanges between one's parents on a consistent basis can impact children not just at the felt level, but can influence attitudes and beliefs about what an intimate relationship consists of. I may come away thinking that because people love me they get to hurt me! When we see a romantic relationship that is heavily tipped in the...
2019-12-2923 minSean Healy: ToolsThe Seduction Of The AbuserThe ups & downs of the cycle of abuse
The abuse cycle can be confusing as it can consist of periods of relative peace between partners and in the household in general. The calm before the next storm can lull us into a false sense of hope that things may finally be getting better.Part of skilled abusers keeping us plugged in is the fostering of false hope and keeping us believing if we just try harder, just love them more, just give in to more of their demands it will all change.This...
2019-11-3023 minSean Healy: ToolsNarcissistic Abusers Vs AbusersUnderstanding the abusive mindset in intimate relationships
Clarity and education are so important when dealing with challenging people! If we can't understand the behaviours we are looking at, we can make excuses and justifications for poor behaviour.Does our intimate partner appear to only have entitlement and control issues with us or do the consequences of their belief in their own superiority create issues right across all areas of their life?Does my partner only appear to lose control when dealing with me but doesn't appear to be overly combative when it comes...
2019-11-1721 minSean Healy: ToolsRaising Children with a NarcissistNavigating the challenges of co-parenting with a narcissist
Growing strong healthy and well-esteemed children can be a journey at the best of times! But what happens when we end up having to do this with a partner or ex-partner whom we find tremendously challenging to get along with or who isn't even interested in getting along.What can we do that would help ensure the best environment we can create within our control to support our kids.Although each family situation is unique there are some common touchpoints of attention that may help...
2019-11-1526 minSean Healy: ToolsDisagreements in Relationship Part IIGrow closer in times of conflict
Modern relationships are challenging and as we mentioned earlier a good relationship doesn't mean a conflict-free relationship. How we fight is more important over time than what we fight about.In this episode we continue to look at the resources and focuses that can really help a couple to grow closer even in times of conflict.There can be multiple areas of challenge and friction for a couple, not to mention differing priorities from time to time. How can we make the path forward as calm and...
2019-11-0820 minSean Healy: ToolsDisagreements in Relationship - Part IHow can we meet in the middle for the long term success of our relationship?
Healthy relationships aren't conflict-free and require compromise from time to time. When we are choosing to make our romantic relationship a priority then working through differences in personality, preference and culture become necessary.Differences can become so much more challenging depending on how we approach them. Research indicates that how we fight is far more impactful long term than what we fight about. Couples expert Esther Perel refers to this as fight form.There are certain aspects of...
2019-11-0220 minSean Healy: ToolsMore Insights On The Inner CriticUnderstanding & making an ally of the inner critic
The kind of relationship that we foster with our Inner Critic can foster success or cause us to give up on our dreams. The number of times that my inner critic has convinced me, in one way or another, that I am not presently good enough… or even that the potential in the future of being good enough is slim happens with alarming regularity!What are some of the ways in which unhealthy inner critic presents and flattens our confidence?How can we keep on tr...
2019-10-2423 minSean Healy: ToolsMaking Progress in Life Part IIDaily strategies for achieving success
So you have established the areas of importance to you in your life, and some evidence for how you might like to continue to improve.This episode looks at a practical daily strategy for achieving that success. How do we manage unplanned interruptions? How do we get back on track? How can we bypass frustration?In this episode, we address goal setting with built-in secondary and tertiary targets for those days when life decides it has plans for us other than those we set out to achieve.
2019-10-1618 minSean Healy: ToolsMaking Progress in LifePractical planning for getting more out of life
There is a saying for which I don't know the origin. "Structure provides freedom."Some structure also helps with progress and human beings tend to do very well when they set a goal and feel that they are making progress towards that goal.This episode is about setting up some broad structure so as to begin to set up a practical plan for getting more of what you want out of life. Once you nominate some categories of importance to you such as health, friends...
2019-10-1019 minSean Healy: ToolsAvoiding Drama TrianglesUnderstanding and responding to drama triangles
There are a number of ways in which humans behave when drama, anxiety and intensity increase between themselves and another. Some responses are helpful and lead to resolution. Other methods actually make matters worse.One way in which anxiety and friction are managed between two people is to pull in a third party to vent and complain to. There are helpful versions of this and unhelpful versions.This episode looks at the triangle dynamics that can form as a response to increased stress and what are the...
2019-09-1620 minSean Healy: ToolsLooking at Affairs Part IIIWhat to do when faced with the reality of an affair
In this final episode of looking at affairs, we look at what to do if we are faced with the reality of unfaithfulness.What are some of the better ways in which to support ourselves through such a challenging time?Do you stay or do you go? Are there larger considerations?How I respond now will either help my future moving forward or adversely affect my future relationship health. How can I best support myself? How specifically do I start...
2019-08-3022 minSean Healy: ToolsLooking at Affairs Part IIRed flags to look out for & how to deal with an affair
Continuing on from part 1 with the idea that monogamy can no longer be safely assumed in the modern relationship arena, what can we do?How can we continue to have honest and open discussions around the strong possibility that at some point temptation will present? Denial and refusal to have the challenging conversations can leave us very vulnerable indeed.In this episode, we explore possible red flags that our partner could be engaging in an affair. What can we watch out...
2019-08-1621 minSean Healy: ToolsLooking at Affairs - Part IChallenging assumptions about why people are unfaithful
The way the modern relational landscape is moving it has never been more important than now to begin to examine some of our outdated assumptions about why people are unfaithful.As long as there has been committed relationships there have been affairs. We need to be able to accept that they happen and begin to work out better ways to approach and deal with them when they do.The idea that "It will never happen to me!" is a very high risk idea to hold. How...
2019-08-1521 min
Inside LivingParenting & People Dynamics with Sean HealyIn this episode Elizabeth Mucci and Lauren Kress speak with Sean Healy - an expert in people dynamics with 20 years experience in the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and is a certified NLP Trainer.
To find out more about Sean and the work he does head to: http://emergencetraining.com.au/
The Inside Perspective is sponsored by Life on the Inside, For Happier Healthier Familes. To find out more visit: https://lifeontheinside.com.au/
2019-07-2446 minSean Healy: ToolsHow The Talented View FeedbackHow can I use feedback to better enrich my life?
Those that excel in their chosen field of endeavour have a very different relationship and idea of feedback than the rest of us. Feedback and peer review is an opportunity for advancement. It is an essential tool for improving in life, love and business.How can we get better at utilising feedback to advance?This episode looks at what the successful tend to do regarding feedback and getting the most out of it for themselves.When we are truly open to...
2019-07-2220 minSean Healy: ToolsGetting My Kids to Listen to MeHow do I as a parent make it easier for my kids to hear me?
Modern parenting is challenging and one of those challenges is getting the kids to listen to our sage words of parenting wisdom! The reality is we can't make anyone listen who doesn't want to but we may be able to maximise our chances of increased receptivity in our children.This episode looks at some of the ways that parents get in their own way when trying to lovingly guide their children through the journey of life. One way to get...
2019-07-1215 minSean Healy: ToolsRomantic Relationships and BoundariesStrengthen your romantic relationship by discussing boundaries
Boundaries in romantic relationships are so important and add to connection or distance depending on how we respond to them. Boundaries are about what is and isn't ok in relationship for us, and it is very likely that our partner’s ideas, or at least some of them, will be different from ours.Boundaries in relationships is a vast area and will vary from couple to couple. However, there are ways to approach the discussion of boundaries in a way that can maximise receptivity. If done well and fr...
2019-07-0122 minSean Healy: ToolsSymptoms of How a Family Manages GriefHow can we process our loss in a healthy way?
The loss of a dearly loved one is painful! These moments in life can have a very significant effect on individuals but also on the whole family system. A family can be pulled apart by their grief and unresolved conflicts resurface at this time or we can come together with greater compassion, love and closeness than ever before.One way in which we can manage the experience is to over focus and over worry about others. It is important to be present to support and...
2019-06-2017 minSean Healy: ToolsTips for Starting The Second FamilyHow to create the best new family dynamic we can
The most rapidly growing relationship style is the remarried or step family relationship. Some individuals are not only on their second family but beginning the third.It is important to know what can make this journey so much more challenging for not only the new couple but the children they bring into the new arrangement.How can we best support the children, ourselves and our present partner going forward to create the best new family dynamic we can?Through developing a...
2019-06-1019 minSean Healy: ToolsKeeping Our Romantic Relationship HealthyKeep the magic and desire alive
Modern relationships are changing and under pressure like never before thanks to all the external demands of our everyday lives, career and social pressures.The thinking and expectations for people have changed around relationships and it has never been easier than now to leave if it isn't working out.This episode looks at some key elements for helping us to create stability in our relationships whilst also keeping alive the magic and desire. Relationships no matter how suitable require continued work and investment. It can be...
2019-06-0221 minSean Healy: ToolsOver Involved at Work and Under Involved at HomeHow much time are we spending where?
Do I consistently bring my best thinking and most positive self to the business, whilst family and home is where I go to shut down?Nothing wrong with the home being a place to regenerate, but if all our family sees is our most shut down, preoccupied self it really leaves our relationships vulnerable long term.It can be so easy to slip into these patterns as a relationship progresses, especially if our family model was something like, dad worked all the time and mum looked...
2019-05-2019 minSean Healy: ToolsEnjoying Success Without the GuiltEmbracing our success
Many of us learned a healthy work ethic from our family system. However, what many of us didn't learn was a healthy reward ethic!Entrepreneurs, businesses owners and anyone working towards success and financial reward, may find that when they get there they are filled with guilt about taking advantage of what they have achieved.What will my family think? What will my staff think?Part of adult maturity is being able to see objectively both the strengths and weaknesses of the family system, tribe that we grew u...
2019-05-1524 minSean Healy: ToolsRecognising Power PlaysWhat kind of power dynamic am I in right now?
The ability to become aware of what type of power game others have got you in can be vital to avoid being exploited! Power With means that we are working to achieve our goals and desires but not at the expense of others. People playing Power Over however are doing things very differently and are counting on the fact that you won't recognise what they are doing.Backhanded insults, withholding important information, consistent misunderstandings at your expense are all part of the game for...
2019-04-2625 minSean Healy: ToolsInsight into GaslightingUnderstanding the manipulative strategies of gaslighting
Gaslighting, deliberately influencing another's perception of reality for advantage takes many forms.This is a vast topic with many ways to keep someone in the dark, misinformed, defensive and off balance. Episode 72 looks at some of the strategies that are employed to exploit people. Through understanding and greater recognition, we aren't left as vulnerable to being taken advantage of. Some exploiters have greater elegance and facility than others and can use a number of these tactics together in order to create for themselves the impression they want to foster....
2019-04-1820 minSean Healy: ToolsDealing With Covertly Aggressive PeopleHow to understand and approach fundamentally aggressive people
It is wonderful to see that in business we are moving more towards embracing emotional intelligence and that the psychological safety of people in the workplace is a key component to more profit.However, with the move towards more feelings sensitivity, there may be some unexpected downsides. This type of environment could make it easier for covertly aggressive people to avoid detection and promote their win at all costs agendas!There are individuals who employ any tactic available to keep themselves in a position of a...
2019-04-1123 minSean Healy: ToolsI Apologise for How I ApologiseHow to apologise effectively
Ever been on the receiving end of a hollow or what you felt was an insincere apology? There is a way to apologise effectively and then there are plenty of ways to deliver an apology that can lead to more disconnection and frustration.The ability to deliver an apology that works can leave the receiver feeling acknowledged and validated. Who wouldn't want that?This episode looks at what to do to deliver an apology that works and also what doesn't work. Genuine apologies lead to repair and this leads...
2019-03-2814 minSean Healy: ToolsArtful Vulnerability in ConversationPromote deeper, richer connection between ourselves and others.
Ever tried to have a conversation with someone where you thought you'd risk showing yourself only to find that you came away feeling frustrated and unacknowledged?The ability to share effectively in conversation relies on both parties involved. There is the responsibility of the sender and the responsibility of the receiver. This episode looks at the message sender and what we can do to promote deeper, richer connection between ourselves and others.What are some of the key elements to consider when we want to...
2019-03-2116 min