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Sex at Every SizeLadies in LoveThis week in fatphobia we’re talking about Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos who’ve recently discussed how they keep the spark alive while filming in different locations. There’s some fatphobic undertones that we discuss. Personally, Cassie is a big fan of Kelly Ripa, but it’s important to recognize problematic patterns even when people we like are perpetuating them. Our listener question is from a woman in a relationship with a woman this week and it's about how to handle differing sexual desires regarding length of time spent and the activity menu. Then we have wi...
2023-04-2536 minSex at Every SizeA Very Dull PodcastThis week in fatphobia we’re talking about Gwyneth Paltrow’s terrible podcast interview with Dr. Will Cole. We also chat briefly about our childhood favorite, Gilmore Girls and the appalling amount of fatphobia in it. We’re skipping a listener question this week because I'm still exhausted from last week’s question. Then we have wins of the week where we talk about CBS’s Survivor and the changes they have made over time in order to keep up with the changing social landscape of its audience. Become a patron at patreon.com/sexatever...
2023-03-2756 minSex at Every SizeBlue LegumeThis week in fatphobia we’re talking about The Blue Zone Diet. What is a “Blue Zone” and why is boiling down a way of eating as a path towards health problematic? We got on an excellent tangent about Christianity, capitalism, and other societal structures which work together to keep us from communal living. We’re answering a listener question about desire discrepancy between a cis/het male partner and a cis/her female partner and breaking down the mythology around men having inherently high sex drives. Then we have wins of the week! Cassi...
2023-03-2048 minSex at Every SizeWe're Baaaack!This week in fatphobia we’re talking about the new American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines on treating children in larger bodies. As a little pallette cleanser we’re offering a review of That 90’s Show. We talk about how they handle sexuality and fat characters. We’re not having a listener question this week since we have so much to go through with the AAP guidelines.Then we have wins of the week! Cassie talks about an ad on Dear Hank and John that Hank Green recorded where he very delicately talked about resolution...
2023-02-2055 minSex at Every SizeBodies Aren't TrendsThis week in fatphobia we’re talking about an article from the New York Post titled Bye Bye Booty: Heroin chic is back. It’s bad enough for a fashion trend to be named after a drug, but to boil bodies down to trends as though we should be treating our bodies as accessories is just.. Gross and dangerous.Our listener question this week is from a cis/het couple who’s feeling disconnected after years of a intense work hours which have recently shifted and how that’s impacting their sex life currently.
2022-12-0543 minSex at Every SizeCuddling DilemmaThis week in fatphobia we’re talking about a new report out from The New York Times on Diabetes prevention where they actually cited the environmental and life factors as necessary to preventing the disease! Our listener question this week is from a cis/het couple who’s feeling like they’re not getting what they signed up for in their intimate relationships. We talk about the concept of aftercare, altered circumstances, as well as communication. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie tells a funny sex story about he...
2022-11-2232 minSex at Every SizeGroundbreakingly Behind The TimesThis week in fatphobia we’re diving into a review of Disney’s new short Reflect. The short is about a fat ballerina and we have a lot of thoughts and feelings about this one!Our listener question this week is from a cis-female woman about her cis-male partner’s discomfort with “plastic dicks”. We break down how to determine core values around sex and sexuality in relationships and once again encourage communication in order to establish boundaries!Then we have wins of the week! Cassie’s win is about workin...
2022-11-1438 minSex at Every SizeTaylor Swift is the ProblemThis week in fatphobia we’ve gotta talk about Taylor Swift. She had some pretty blatant fatphobia in her video released for the song Anti Hero. We talk about how she’s changed the video to remove the most blatant imagery, and discuss whether we think that was enough to address the mistake. Our listener question this week is from a cis-female woman about her cis-male partner. It’s something we found on a Facebook page that we felt really allowed us to have a nuanced discussion around porn. We’ve tried to talk about porn on t...
2022-11-0253 minSex at Every SizeEating for StimulationThis week we’re doing a solo episode with Cassie! I’m going through some of the perks that come with being a member on Patreon. The bulk of the episode goes through a blog post available to Patreon subscribers about ADHD & Eating for Stimulation. I offer commentary along the way and hope you’ll learn something both about the subject matter as well as how you can advocate against fatphobia in the way you discuss eating behaviors. Patreon is now live! Become a patron at patreon.com/sexateverysizeLinks for ResourcesHealthl...
2022-10-2424 minSex at Every SizeVulnerability RequiredThis week in fatphobia we’re talking about Kanye West’s recent interview with Tucker Carlson. In the interview he uses Lizzo’s body/weight to criticize the cultural move towards body & fat acceptance. Of course, he does this Ye style by getting really conspiracy theorist with it. We break down the phrasing he uses and the claims he makes highlighting the misogyny and fatphobia within them. Our listener question this week is from a cis-female woman about her partner shaming her for needing/wanting to use a vibrator. We discuss the cultural expectations around orgasms and who get...
2022-10-1744 minSex at Every SizeFluff it a LittleThis week in fatphobia we’re talking about Bryce Dallas Howard’s role in the new Jurassic World movie and the interview she gave where she discussed being asked to lose weight for her role in this third installment of the franchise. DeWanda Wise also discussed her body being criticized for being too muscular and it just goes to show that there’s no right way for a woman to be in Hollywood. We have some excellent tangents this episode! The include: why Hailey doesn’t read romance novels when she clearly should and TikTok Toilet Time. Gotta lis...
2022-10-1039 minSex at Every SizeRelatively VanillaThis week we’re talking about fatphobia in children’s media. Hailey talks about a TikTok making the rounds where the humor is partially reliant on the child’s body size. Cassie talks about Inside Out and how the characters’ bodies seem to be a part of their characterization as well. Our question this week is about being in a new relationship with someone and figuring out the right time to introduce some of your kinkier ways. We also touch on the hows and whys of getting into something that you’d never really thought about doing sexually.
2022-10-0338 minSex at Every SizeJokes First?This week we’re doing a deep dive on Aries Spears' follow-up comments on the fatphobic crap he said about Lizzo. We’re calling out all the -isms we see pop up in his commentary and also pointing out the way that these types of comments contribute to patriarchy and domestic violence on a macro level.Highlights:“What is wrong with holding people accountable!?”“Oh so, we’re supposed to fuck you for your money, but we’re also gold-diggers and leaches..”These interviews do get progressively worse as they go on, so while we...
2022-09-2636 minSex at Every SizeOvercoming the HumpIn This Week in Pop-Culture we’re talking about Lizzo and.. whatever the hell his name is? Aries Spears? He did an interview where he said some heinous crap about her appearance and was wildly fatphobic. We break down the different ways that even the interviewer participates in this. We talk about the unique ways that fatphobia impacts women vs men and especially women of color. Our listener question this week is from a woman who’s annoyed with her partner for making sex jokes and innuendo as a way to initiate sex. We talk about how to co...
2022-09-1332 minSex at Every SizeWho are you influencing?In This Week in Pop-Culture we’re talking about modern body positivity on the social internet from straight sized influencers. Victoria Garrick is a body positive influencer who posted a video recently showing how videos can be photoshopped as easily as photos can be. While this is wildly valuable information, we’re not convinced it doesn’t also hit the same parts of your psyche that are impacted by before and after photos which we’ve ranted about before. Our listener question this week is from a cis woman who’s asking about how to handle a partner who...
2022-09-0640 minSex at Every SizeCorrelation & CohabitationIn This Week in Pop-Culture we’re talking about a CNN article titled Is Losing Weight an Important Health Goal? This article is a part of a larger series on disordered eating and diet culture. We break down some quotes from medical professionals used within the article and consider the validity of those statements.We go on a bit of a tangent about capitalism, “quiet-quitting”, and the idea that “people just don’t want to work anymore”. Our listener question this week is from a 29 year old cis woman trying to navigate a sexual relationship with her part...
2022-08-2940 minSex at Every SizeWest Coast HotIn This Week in Pop-Culture we’re talking about Melanie Lynski who played Rose from Two and a Half Men. She did a recent interview talking about what Hollywood life was like for her early on in her career in terms of fatphobia and body image. We bring it full circle by drawing attention to the ways that the entertainment industry has changed to be more inclusive.Our listener question this week is from a 33 year old woman about how to overcome negative body image in order to enjoy sex. We go over some tips for how to...
2022-08-2249 minSex at Every SizeHe's a Representative!?CW: There are a couple mentions of SA in this episode.In This Week in Pop-Culture we’re talking about that jackass Matt Gaetz. Matt Gaetz is a US House Rep from Florida who responded to the backlash following the repeal of Roe v Wade by saying that the people who are fighting for abortion rights are mostly fat and unfuckable. He called out a woman on Twitter who then raised hundreds of thousands of dollars in his name to donate to various abortion funds. Our listener question this week is from a 29 year old wom...
2022-08-1534 minSex at Every SizeThe Merits of Reading RomanceThis week’s episode is a solo episode. Cassie dives into a series of points on the benefits of reading romance novels. We’ve talked about it on the podcast before and now you’re getting an exclusive look at the random thoughts she’s working on cobbling together into a cohesive essay for her blog.Some of the highlights include: using romance to increase your desire for sex, increasing your awareness of the nuances within your own sexual fantasies, and thinking critically about how to balance core values with your sexuality. Patreon is now live! Bec...
2022-08-0814 minSex at Every SizeExcuse me, sir, this ride isn't weight inclusive.In This Week in Pop-Culture we’re breaking down a story about a water park ride that turned down a young girl due to weight limitations and her father going to the media about it. We use the segment to discuss how we can use personal harms like this to advocate for larger systemic changes towards weight inclusion. Our listener question this week is about sexual compatibility within a long-term partnership. We talk about how its unreasonable to expect yourself to have spontaneous desire before every sexual encounter and what you can do to make peace with res...
2022-07-2836 minSex at Every SizeDoubling DownIn This Week in Pop-Culture we’re breaking down how two different celebrities handle being asked to do better. Both Lizzo and Bette Midler have had a misstep recently and we talk about how each of these were handled differently and who did it well. Our listener question this week is about how to navigate living in “the lifestyle” with adult children who may or may not cross paths with you and also tiptoes into a discussion on various kinds of consent. Then we have wins of the week! We’re still feeling a little bit heavy...
2022-07-1942 minSex at Every SizeWe Found™ LiesThis week we’re sick of articles about celebrities abdominals, so we’re breaking down a shitty new fad diet so you don’t get duped by it! We go over their faulty logic and sketchy claims as well as their co-opting of anti-diet language and inclusive imagery in order to trick you into thinking it’s not really a diet. Our listener question this week is about helping a male partner feel more excited about your sex life. We talk about how to prioritize your sex life in a long term relationship and how each partner has to ta...
2022-07-1143 minSex at Every SizeInfluencedThis week we’re introducing a new segment called We Read the Comments So You Don’t Have To! We came across a Yahoo article about Sarah Nicole Landry of The Birds Papaya and went down the rabbit hole of reading the comments. We break down a couple of comments and find the cultural/societal/social constructs that are embedded within them. Our listener question this week is about having a new partner who’s not into post-sex snuggling. We talk about logistics and communication around this issue as well as compromising to get needs met within relatio...
2022-07-0536 minSex at Every SizeI Want Passion!This week Hailey’s telling us a story about her work as a registered dietician where she was asked to perpetuate fatphobia and how she managed the situation without having to do that! We also talk about James Patterson’s recent reverse racism yikes moment. Our listener question this week is talking about if and when it’s ever okay to get divorced over an unsatisfying sex life. It turns into a conversation about being loved the way you want to be loved. We talk about how people can really misinterpret the needs of their partners in order t...
2022-06-2737 minSex at Every SizeAny Sex is Better Than No SexThis week Hailey’s asking Cassie about childhood sexual development which turns into a great discussion on not equating pleasure to orgasms only. Our listener question this week is about neurodivergence, fat sex, and long-term partnerships with mismatched desire. Check out the links below for some resources to improving sex in fat bodies. We also talk a lot about how to find a sex therapist for you. Then we have wins of the week! Hailey’s is about learning how to communicate really well and Cassie’s is about a woman winning a court case holding...
2022-06-2042 minSex at Every SizeSwallow ThatThere’s a new Top Gun movie and we have thoughts.. starting with the fact that we have no idea what the theme, setting, or plot of this movie is. We talk about how the original female love-interest has been swapped for another actress and the cultural implications of this casting decision. Our listener question this week is about carrying the mental load in long term relationships, obligatory sex, and we even give a few pro-tips on giving oral sex to a penis owning partner! Then we have wins of the week! Cassie’s win this w...
2022-06-1341 minSex at Every SizeFollow the PleasureThis week we remind Hailey that Jessica Simpson is still a thing! Jessica Simpson has been making waves on Instagram over some saucy photos of her body. We point out the ways in which her trainer’s plan is a repackaging of Health at Every Size in order to perpetuate diet culture. Our listener question this week is about being afraid of sex. Then we have wins of the week! Cassie’s win this week is about going to Physical Therapy and Hailey signed up for a half-marathon!Tangents include: The impact of faith...
2022-06-0643 minSex at Every SizeNormal Boob ThingsWe are unfortunately talking about Sports Illustrated again! Yumi Nu is one of the cover models for the 2022 swimsuit edition. We talk about the importance of representation and we break down some of the history behind Sports Illustrated and the ripple effect it can have on our culture as a whole. Instead of a listener question this week Cassie is asking Hailey a question about her job as a Registered Dietitian. Hailey goes on to break down how she works as a dietitian without perpetuating diet culture and fatphobia. Cassie crushes Hailey’s win of the...
2022-05-3045 minSex at Every SizeI Like Bread But I Also Like CheeseWe’re talking about c-section scars in Sports Illustrated this week. We had a discussion on the importance of representation for all different kinds of bodies in the media.Our listener question this week is about insecurity in sexual relationships. We go into the differences in individual sexuality and partnered sexuality. We give some ideas about how to communicate feelings of insecurity without making accusations. We also touch on the concepts of attraction and the role of porn in sexuality. Then we talk about the barriers that can be involved with insecurities and contribute to low desire fo...
2022-05-2345 minSex at Every SizeDo You Send Up a Bat Signal?This week in fatphobia we’re talking about Kim K’s Met Gala crash diet and Lili Reinhart’s response to it. Then we dive into the episode of Survivor that aired on 5/4/2022. There was a powerful discussion on race that happened in the episode and we felt compelled to share it from our white lady lens in case it might be helpful to you on your anti-racist journey! There are some spoilers mentioned, so if you’re not caught up, skip ahead a bit!Our listener question this week is about how to break out of the cycl...
2022-05-1647 minSex at Every SizeDon't Assume Boundaries!This week we’re talking about an episode of the new season of The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel and refuting the tired old trope that fat women aren’t sexually attractive. We also touch on how we’re trying to move away from the black and white thinking of tossing off everything that is problematic in one way or another. Yes, this show portrays fatphobia. Yes, that is problematic. However, the show also does a wonderful job of tackling issues of racism and feminism. Then we answer a listener question about fetishes and break down how to work on inco...
2022-05-0941 minSex at Every SizeSuperman & Sexual AwakeningThis week we’re breaking down a quote a friend of Hailey’s sent in about “eating addiction” highlighting some of the finer points of how diet culture and fatphobia spread from one context to the greater culture as a whole.We answer a listener question about sexual compatibility within a marriage and try to work through some different ways this can be worked through. Sexual awakening post-purity culture is a theme throughout as well. We also talk about the woes of smart watches and determining whether or not it is a part of the problem o...
2021-07-0741 minSex at Every SizeHow Bad Must It Be?This week we’re talking about Amanda Lee, the TikTok creator who posted about her experience with a fatphobic gastrointestinal medical specialist. We break down the incident that happened to her as well as the problematic way that her interview for The Today Show was framed. We answer a listener question about a couple who takes a break, then chooses to get back together and has some resentment leftover. Stay until the end where Hailey talks about how she discovered the modern medical marvel of cough drops. Episode highlights:“How bad mus...
2021-06-3040 minSex at Every SizeAn All-You-Can-Eat BuffetCONTENT WARNING: at about 24 minutes we talk a bit about childhood sexual abuse. Skip ahead about 2.5 minutes if you need to not hear about that. There is another brief mention at 29:30 that lasts about 90 seconds.This week we’re talking about the importance of identifying behaviors that people engage in versus the diseases they may or may not have. Instead of a listener question, we’re talking about an article about sex education where we break down the ways that good sex education can be made into an inflammatory article. Around 27 minutes it sou...
2021-06-1645 minSex at Every SizeI'm Not a F*cking HistorianWe’re breaking down the differences between body positivity & and fat-activism this week. We ask the all important question: are we obligated to speak out about injustices when they happen in order to be a good steward of the social internet?We also tackle a listener question about growing up in purity culture and how it has impacted their sexuality into adulthood and marriage. We discuss how religion doesn’t have to be all or nothing and how we get to decide which values align for us.Episode highlights:“Please don’t promote diet cult...
2021-06-0946 minSex at Every SizeBest White Guy I KnowWe honestly cannot believe that we got this far into the pod before highlighting Hank & John Green in a whole segment, but fear not, this episode is the one! Hank posted some great videos on TikTok highlighting the strange way we look at “health” with regards to food and we break that down this week. Then on their podcast, Dear Hank and John, John talked about how focusing on the nutritional value of food has never been helpful for his mental health and we fell in love all over again. We briefly touch on Cassie’s time working...
2021-06-0238 minSex at Every SizeEat the F*ckin MuffinThis week we talk about Will Smith’s new “health & fitness” journey *eyeroll*. We dig into the idea of “discipline” and how we tie that to the morality of body size and healthism. Then we break down the phrase “out of shape” and try to decide how we feel about the message it conveys. Special tangents featuring Jonah Hill and Lizzo. In our listener question segment has us tackling some questions from folks about pornography and why “sex addiction” is not a phrase you’ll hear us using much. We also talk a little about how you might navigate porn e...
2021-05-2644 minSex at Every SizeWe Love a TangentThis week we’re talking about Billie Eilish and her recent photoshoot and interview for British Vogue and everyone’s right to shift their image to include their sexuality. Somehow we also touch on The Chicks, Colin Kaepernick and the differences between wanting celebrities to use their platform for good vs. being told to “shut up and _____”. We also mention Hank Green for the first time on the pod. Can’t believe it took us this long! We answer our first question from a same sex couple this week!Episode Highlights:“Whoa, I sounde...
2021-05-1943 minSex at Every SizePolicing FantasyThis week we’re talking about the Derek Chauvin verdict and holding space for the work that still needs to be done (by white people) to dismantle White Supremacy. We also answer a listener question about navigating disagreements with partners about visiting strip clubs. IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCMusic: https://www.purple-planet.comIG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA...
2021-05-1243 minSex at Every SizeHealthismThis week we tackle the impact of before & after pictures on social media and answer a listener question about low desire and difficult communication about sex.IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCMusic: https://www.purple-planet.comIG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working...
2021-05-0540 minSex at Every SizeToo Much Stuff HappeningThis week we tackle our first listener question from a man. It’s on a group sex experience gone awry. Also, Khloe Kardashian--victim AND perpetrator..?IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCMusic: https://www.purple-planet.comIG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with cl...
2021-04-2840 minSex at Every SizeShe's Just Saying to LIVEThis week we’re talking about Lena Dunham and her new clothing line. We answer a listener question about examining internalized fatphobia and whether or not it’s ever “okay” to want to lose weight.https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/05/style/lena-dunham-body-positivity-11-honore-spanx.htmlhttps://11honore.com/collections/11-honore-x-lena-dunham IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPC Music: https://www.purple-planet.comIG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC
2021-04-2142 minSex at Every SizeFat is Not a FeelingToday we talk about "fatphobia" as a term and the pros and cons of using it. We also do more chatting about the differences between Eating Disorders and disordered eating!https://www.self.com/story/fat-activist-fatphobiaMaintenance Phase Podcast @maintenancephase http://maintenancephase.com/Music: https://www.purple-planet.comIG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working...
2021-04-1442 minSex at Every SizeJust Calm DownA brief segment on the Atlanta shooting & "sex addiction" & how toxic masculinity contributes to shootings. Plus answering a listener question on having orgasms solo vs partnered. IG: @sexateverysizeGmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCIG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's d...
2021-04-0740 minSex at Every SizeFat People Have Been Telling YouBroaching the subject of racism & fatphobia today and answering a listener question about how to love your body!IG: @sexateverysizeEmail: sexateverysize@gmail.comCassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLPCIG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices...
2021-03-3143 minSex at Every SizeNo Boss Babe Vibes, Plz.Talking about how fat bodies on social media are highlighted in the greater media and how Jennifer Garner's post-baby body is apparently STILL news. We answer another listener question about how to meet people outside of your male-dominated job!IG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in...
2021-03-2444 minSex at Every SizeA Game ChangerThis week we're talking about a recent drug trial study and answering a listener question about open relationships. IG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with clients on issues of body image, sex, and sexuality. She's done training in perinatal mental health and practices from the Health at Every Size Model. She's currently working towards a PhD in Clinical Sexology w...
2021-03-1740 minSex at Every SizeTrailerHere we introduce ourselves so you can get to know us a little before we dive right into our first episode!Please email us questions, comments, concerns, etc.sexateverysize@gmail.comFind us on social:@sexateverysize@cassiewillnauerlpcIG: @sexateverysize Email: sexateverysize@gmail.com Cassie:IG & TikTok: @CassieWillnauerLCPCAbout the hosts: Cassie Willnauer, MA, LCPC, NCC Cassie Willnauer is a licensed therapist serving the Kansas City area. She specializes in working with...
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