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SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S2 Ep 8: Our Polyamory Dating AdventuresIn this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we delve into our personal experiences with polyamorous dating, shedding light on the nuances and dynamics we've encountered. 💫We discuss:🛤️ Our Polyamorous Dating Journeys: Sharing stories from our paths in the polyam dating scene. ⚤ Gender-Based Experiences: Exploring how dating differs for a man and a woman in polyamory. 🌈 Sexual Orientation Dynamics: Discussing the contrasts between Sundiata's heterosexual perspective and Shani's sexually fluid experiences. 📱💬 Navigating Dating Apps and DMs: Our adventures and lessons learned from using various platforms and approaches. 🔄 Evolving Dating Strategies: How our approaches to...2025-04-1553 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S2 Ep 7: When Jealousy Strikes In PolyamoryIn this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we delve into the complex emotions of jealousy and envy within polyamorous relationships, sharing personal experiences and insights. 💫We explore:📚 Defining Jealousy vs. Envy: Understanding the distinction between these emotions. 🛤️ Personal Stories: Sharing moments when we've felt jealousy or envy, and instances where metamours have experienced these emotions towards us. 💖 Understanding Compersion: Discussing the concept of feeling joy from a partner's happiness with others. In our "Well, That Went Left" segment, Sundiata recounts a relationship that took an unexpected turn, leading to a breakup. Join us...2025-04-0855 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S2 Ep 6: Polyamory Beyond The Throuple StereotypeIn this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into the misconception that polyamory is solely about mff triads (male-female-female) or throuples and explore the rich diversity within polyamorous relationships. 💫We discuss:🔄 Understanding Triads: Defining closed and open triads, and their dynamics. 🛑 Stereotypes in Polyamory: Addressing the common portrayal of polyamorous relationships as mff triads . 🏛️ Patriarchal Influences: Examining how patriarchy shapes perceptions, including biases towards MFF (male-female-female) versus MMF (male-male-female) triads. 🛤️ Our Journey: Reflecting on our initial thoughts about triads and how our perspectives have evolved. In our CNM & Polyamory Terms segment...2025-04-0145 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S2 E5: Our Paths to Sexual LiberationIn this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we delve into our personal experiences with sexual liberation and how embracing polyamory has transformed our intimate lives.We discuss:🛏️🔒 Our Sex Lives Before Polyamory: Reflecting on our intimate experiences prior to embracing non-monogamy. 💫💞 Our Sex Lives Since Polyamory: Sharing how opening our relationship has enriched and diversified our sexual connections. 🕊️💡 Reflections on Sexual Liberation: Exploring what sexual freedom means to us and its impact on our personal growth. We also spend some time explaining the Sexual Attraction Spectrum of asexual/ace, demisexual, graysexual, hypersexua...2025-03-2556 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S2 Ep 4: Why Marriage Isn't For UsIn this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we explore our evolving perspectives on marriage and why we've chosen a different path for our relationship. We discuss:🔄 Shifting Beliefs: How our views on marriage have transformed over time. 🏛️ Patriarchy's Influence: Understanding marriage's roots in patriarchal structures.🔗 Compulsory Monogamy: Challenging the societal push towards monogamous relationships.🏠 Nuclear Family Norms: Questioning traditional family models and their limitations. 📊 Hierarchical Structures: Why we reject relationship hierarchies in favor of equality. In our Relationship Philosophy segment, we delve into egalitarian polyamory—a philosophy that emp...2025-03-1834 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S2 Ep 3: Navigating Metamour Relationships in PolyamoryIn this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we’re talking all about metamour relationships—the unique connections between your partner’s partners. We explore: 💡 What is a metamour? Defining the role and what it means in polyamory. 💬 Our personal experiences—the highs, the lows, and everything in between. 🪞 How we perceive ourselves as metamours—personal reflections. 🌱 Hopes & fears—what we wish for in our metamour dynamics. Episode Segment: Consensual Non-Monogamy Terms Polyamory comes with its own language, and in this segment, we break down: ❌ Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DAD...2025-03-1151 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S2 Ep 2: Nesting in Polyamory: Living Together & Blending FamiliesIn this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we’re talking about nesting—our decision to live together as a polyamorous couple and how it has shaped our relationship and family life. We explore:🏠 Why we chose to nest – How and why we got to the point where we wanted to live together.🔄 Our nesting experiences – The joys, challenges, and surprises since moving in together.💡 Gender roles vs. team roles – How we navigate household responsibilities in a way that aligns with our values rather than societal expectations.👨👩👧👦 Blended family dynamics – How we co-parent and build a harmonious home with multiple relationships in mind.💖...2025-03-0435 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S2 E1: Parenting & PolyamoryEpisode Description:We’re back for Season 2! 🎉 In this episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into parenting and polyamory, sharing insights from our own experiences as parents navigating consensual non-monogamy.We discuss:👶 Our family dynamic – How many kids we have and their ages.🧠 Conscious parenting – How we foster open-minded, emotionally intelligent children.💬 Introducing polyamory to children – When and how we talk about our relationships.❓ Questions kids ask – The curious (and sometimes funny) things they want to know.🤝 Co-parenting journey – How we collaborate to create a supportive family environment...2025-02-2544 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S1 E8: Sex in PolyamoryClick above to listen to the audio ⬆️Click below to watch the video on YouTube ⬇️Description:In Episode 8, the final episode of Season 1, of SunShan & Rainbows, we’re diving into the topic of sex and how we navigate open communication about sexual experiences with other people. We discuss the balance between autonomy and responsibility, sharing how we manage risk, prioritize safety, and maintain transparency in our polyamorous relationships.Plus, we’re excited to introduce our "Sexy Time" segment, where we give you a behind-the-scenes look at the fun and exciting details of our intim...2024-10-2236 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S1 E7: How We Communicate About Our Other Relationships in PolyamoryClick above to listen to the audio ⬆️Click below to watch the video on YouTube ⬇️Description:In Episode 7 of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into the ways we communicate about our other relationships and the importance of maintaining openness and clarity in polyamory. 💬 We share the questions we ask each other, the kinds of updates we give (and sometimes don’t give), and how we handle logistical communication around dates and travel with other loves.This episode also features a segment on how we navigate conflict using Authentic Dialogue, a communication tool that helps us...2024-10-1544 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S1 E6: Redefining Relationship Labels & Titles in PolyamoryClick above to listen to the audio ⬆️Click below to watch the video on YouTube ⬇️Description:In Episode 6 of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into the purpose and significance of relationship labels and titles, particularly within the context of polyamory. We explore the commonly used title "partner" and introduce a new, meaningful title created by Sundiata called "Libbei." 💫 Join us as we unpack how these labels shape relationship expectations, agreements, and dynamics, and why finding the right titles can make a profound difference in our connections. We also touch on how relationship labels are evolving in...2024-10-0835 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S1 E5: The 5 Relationship Buckets - A New Approach to DatingClick above to listen to the audio ⬆️Click below to watch the video on YouTube ⬇️Description:In this insightful episode of SunShan & Rainbows, we dive into the Theory of Sustainable Relationships, a philosophy developed by Sundiata and expanded by Shani. This unique approach to dating and connection challenges the common "romance or bust" mentality, where relationships are often discarded if they don’t lead to or maintain a romantic connection.We introduce the 5 Relationship Buckets, a framework that encourages deeper understanding of connection through five pillars: Familial, Platonic, Intellectual, Attraction, and Sexual. Th...2024-10-0148 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S1 E4: How We Met & Our Early Journey in PolyamoryClick above to listen to the audio ⬆️Click below to watch the video on YouTube ⬇️Description:In this episode, Shani and Sundiata take us back to the beginning of their love story, sharing how they first met and the early days of their journey in polyamory 💖 From their initial connection to navigating the complexities of consensual non-monogamy, they discuss the challenges, triumphs, and lessons learned along the way.Listen as they reflect on the emotional growth, trust-building, and communication strategies that helped them overcome obstacles and create a strong foundation for their relat...2024-09-2456 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S1 E3: How Shan Got to Non-MonogamyClick above to listen to the audio ⬆️Click below to watch the video on YouTube ⬇️In this episode, The Shan of SunShan – Shani Goodson – shares her deeply personal and transformative journey toward embracing consensual non-monogamy. 🌟 Shani opens up about her life experiences, exploring the challenges and breakthroughs that shaped her understanding of love, relationships, and personal freedom.Listen as Shani reflects on how her upbringing, family dynamics, and moments of self-discovery led her to rethink traditional relationship structures and pursue a more open and authentic connection style. This episode is filled with insights on vulnerabilit...2024-09-1720 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S1 E2: How Sun Got to Non-MonogamyDescription:In this captivating episode, The Sun of SunShan – Dr. Sundiata Soon-Jahta – shares his deeply personal journey that led him to embrace consensual non-monogamy. With candid stories, Dr. Sundiata takes us through the pivotal moments of self-discovery, growth, and transformation that shaped his unique approach to relationships. Listen as he explores the challenges and rewards of breaking away from societal norms, the profound insights gained along the way, and how his experiences have helped him cultivate meaningful connections in his unconventional love life. Whether you're curious about non-monogamy or simply seeking inspiration for auth...2024-09-1035 min
SunShan & Rainbows ☀️🌈S1 E1: Introducing SunShanDescription:In this debut episode, get to know SunShan – Sundiata and Shani – the dynamic hosts of our podcast. We share personal stories about our upbringing, family life, and the unique paths that shaped our relationship. You’ll learn about the origins of our unconventional love story, what inspired us to explore consensual non-monogamy, and why we felt compelled to start this podcast. Join us as we take you behind the scenes of our journey, offering a glimpse into how our experiences with family, culture, and personal growth influenced our approach to love and connec...2024-09-0326 min