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Bare MarriageCelebrating Episode 300! With the Best of Becca's Bloopers and One LinersSend us a textWe're celebrating episode 300 with a "Best of Becca" compilation! Rebecca and I react to her most memorable moments from the past six years of podcasting—from rabid raccoons to pooping in the shower to Gerald not being able to slay dragons. We also reflect on how the evangelical landscape has shifted since we started, why we're no longer in "please speak up" mode but in "shake the dust off your feet" territory, and how our focus has evolved from "fix the church" to "help people take radical accountability for their own health and we...
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Bare MarriageEpisode 299: What Does the Bible Say about Divorce for Abuse? Feat. Helen PaynterSend us a textDoes God really tell women they need to submit to abuse and stay in marriages where they're being raped and harmed? Today's interview with Dr. Helen Painter is one you need to hear—whether you're stuck in an abusive marriage getting horrible advice from your pastor, or you know someone who is. We're diving deep into what the Bible actually says about abuse and divorce, and spoiler alert: God does NOT require women to stay in abusive marriages. Please share this episode with anyone who needs to hear this life-saving truth.CO...
2025-10-091h 06
Bare MarriageEpisode 298: Purity Culture, Date Rape, and Porn: plus Joash Thomas and the Justice of JesusSend us a text Two major studies today prove what we've been saying: purity culture makes people unable to recognize marital and date rape as actual rape, and male porn use hurts women regardless of their attitude toward it—though religious women suffer more because of the scripts we've been given. Then I interview Joash Thomas about his book The Justice of Jesus, where he explains how Western Christianity lost biblical justice because colonizers taught a purely "spiritual" gospel to benefit themselves. We've got to understand that following Jesus costs us something! EVENTSOc...
2025-10-021h 07
Bare MarriageEpisode 292: Hear Sheila Answer Men’s Questions about Healthy Marriage & SexualitySend us a textRecently Sheila was on the Three Percent podcast, talking about what healthy marriage looks like. The hosts asked Sheila questions a lot of skeptical men had—so we thought the bigger Bare Marriage universe needed to hear this! Listen in as they play devil’s advocate, and ask the questions so many men have when they hear what we say about libido, about mental load, about porn, and more! Let’s change the convo in a healthy way. And thanks to the Three Percent podcast for letting us share this recording!CHEC...
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Bare MarriageEpisode 291: How Professor Neil Reaches Young Men Stuck in MisogynySend us a textSheila Wray Gregoire interviews Professor Neil, a popular social media creator who critiques toxic masculinity and problematic topics he finds in the manosphere. They discuss how certain Christian pastors and influencers spread harmful messages about gender roles, sex, and marriage that mirror incel ideology. Through reviewing harmful clips from pastors Josh Howerton & Josh McPherson, professor Neil shares his approach to changing minds through facts and research.TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workAnd check out our Merch, or any o...
2025-08-141h 03
Bare MarriageEpisode 289: Why Fiction Makes You a Better Person (Why We Don't Hate ALL Books!)Send us a textIn this season finale of the Bare Marriage Podcast, Rebecca, Joanna, Connor, and Josiah discuss the powerful benefits of reading fiction for personal growth, empathy development, and critical thinking. They share their personal journeys back to reading after University & adult life interrupted their childhood love of books, explore scientific research on how fiction affects the brain, and provide practical advice for getting back into reading. The episode concludes with an inspiring poem about women's value and calling by Porsche Vu (The Poetic Activist).BECOME ONE OF OUR MONTHLY DONORS:
2025-06-261h 03
Bare MarriageEpisode 288: Is Sex a Want or a Need?Send us a textIs sex is a human need within marriage? Let's address the tension between those who see "need" language as potentially coercive and those who feel legitimate sexual desires shouldn't be shamed. Psychological research does classify sex as a human need, but the real issue is how couples can co-create a reality for a mutually satisfying sexual relationship. Rather than pressuring reluctant partners, couples should focus on building marriages where both people genuinely want and enjoy sexual intimacy.BECOME ONE OF OUR MONTHLY DONORS:We're aiming for 50 new...
2025-06-191h 03
Bare MarriageEpisode 283: When the Church Stole Your Sex LifeSend us a text What happens when church doesn’t seem safe? Or when, in retrospect, you realize it wasn’t, even if you threw yourself into it at the time? Today Dr. Andrew Bauman joins us to talk about his new book Safe Church, and then Rebecca and Sheila read reader’s stories about how the church stole their sex lives—and what we can do about it. TO SUPPORT US: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Goo...
2025-05-151h 14
Bare MarriageEpisode 280: The Problems with the Book The Love Dare--And How It Papers Over Real ProblemsSend us a textThe Love Dare, based on the movie Fireproof, has been a huge best-selling marriage book for two decades. But does it actually contain good advice? Today on episode 280 of the Bare Marriage podcast, we show how The Love Dare simply regurgitates all the typical harmful evangelical marriage advice, telling women to make themselves smaller; never bring up issues; paper over problems; and, of course, never divorce, even if you’re being abused.OUR SPONSOR:Thank you to our sponsor, Zondervan and the book Saving Face. The church ne...
2025-04-2457 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 277: Why Emotions Aren't Feminine (and Why Women Aren't More Emotional!)Send us a textSo many evangelical pastors teach that men are rational while women are emotional. But is this true? And if women are more emotionally mature than men, then doesn't that mean that men need to learn from women? Listen in as Keith and Sheila dissect several clips from Josh Howerton, Emerson Eggerichs, Josh McPherson, and Matt Walsh.WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife: How Marriage Replaced Ordination as a Woman's Path to Ministry. Learn how women got...
2025-04-031h 08
Bare MarriageEpisode 275: Becoming the Pastor's Wife feat. Beth Allison BarrSend us a textWhat if marriage replaced ordination as a woman's path to ministry? What if we've systematically erased the stories of women ministering in the past, and in so doing silenced women's voices and removed opportunities to serve Jesus? Today Beth Allison Barr joins us to talk about her new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife!REGISTER FOR OUR FREE WEBINARJoin Beth Allison Barr, Sheila, and Karen Swallow Prior on Thursday, March 27 at 9 pm for a FREE webinar (recording will be available afterwards if you can't make it live)....
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Bare MarriageEpisode 271: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells Us About Marriage (and Mental Load!)Send us a textPREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANTPre-Order on AmazonGet other links to Pre-OrderSend in your preorder receipt to preorder@marriageyouwantbook.comTO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch, or any of our courses!Join our email list!Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official...
2025-02-2057 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 255: For Our Daughters—Plus Why Sex Abuse Scandals Keep HappeningSend us a textWe aren’t going to fix the abuse crisis in the church until we deal with the underlying beliefs that actually enable abuse. Today Kristin Kobes Du Mez joins us to talk about her new documentary For Our Daughters, which shows how beliefs about gender, power and politics that are rampant in the church actually contribute to abuse. And Pastor Trey Ferguson joins us to comment on a recent article he wrote explaining how evangelicalism’s views of sex, which ignore intimacy, contribute to abuse too.OUR SPONSOR:Dr...
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Bare MarriageEpisode 250: Not All Men—But How Do We Tell?Send us a textWe know it’s not all men who are predators. But it’s far too many. And a recent horrible court case in France is reminding women all over the world that far too many men are willing and eager to do the unthinkable. The only way to tell who is safe is to look at their words and their actions. And the words of far too many evangelical leaders and authors and pastors are straight up rape culture. After what happened to Gisele Pelicot, I’m not willing to put up with it any...
2024-09-1255 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 248: Making Faith More Tangible in the Holy Everyday feat. Karen StillerSend us a text What does it look like to actually grow like Christ? Like, not from a sermon, or not from some lofty retreat, but just in the here and now? Can we actually grow “holier”? A beautiful conversation with Karen Stiller, author of the book Holiness Here. We tackle envy, joy, contentment—and even grief, as she shares about processing the death of her husband. TO SUPPORT USJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit F...
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Bare MarriageEpisode 247: Ask Sheila and Rebecca Anything! We Tackle Your QuestionsSend us a textSheila and Rebecca are answering your questions today! We covered how to find a new church when you feel like church has let you down; how to start your sex life well; what to do when people don’t think purity culture was harmful; and so much more! And we throw data and nuance into the mix too.HELP US OUT AFTER THE HACKING!Please follow OUR NEW FACEBOOK PAGEIf you see a Facebook page called Endlessly Stories with weird images—that is our old page. Please report it!
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Bare MarriageEpisode 243: Modesty vs. Vanity: Maybe We Need to Shift the Conversation!Send us a textThe evangelical church spends a lot of time giving modesty messages to girls. But we hardly ever talk about vanity--even though the Bible condemns it. Could it be that in all our talk about modesty, we're inadvertently promoting vanity? And perhaps we can't call out vanity, because our messages to boys essentially enable vanity. Join Rebecca and Sheila as we hash this one out!With thanks to our sponsor:If church was your place of deepest hurt, can you find peace and healing with Christ? Check out...
2024-07-2557 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 241: Both Hurt and Healed by the ChurchSend us a textWhat if the church hurt you terribly? Can you still heal? Today Ryan George joins us to talk about how his fundamentalist family covers up his father’s sexual abuse of others—and how Ryan eventually learned the truth and turned his father in. And then Ryan deconstructed so much of what he had been taught—and found the real Jesus. Join us as Ryan George talks about his book Hurt and Healed by the Church.About Ryan's BookRyan’s book Hurt and Healed by the Church Find all...
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Bare MarriageEpisode 227: Are We Creating a Strawman out of Complementarianism? We Respond to CriticsSend us a textSo many people resist admitting that they are actually egalitarians, because they think they have to be complementarian--even if they don't act like it. Today Sheila and her husband Keith dissect the arguments that are often used to say "we're really complementarian"--even when they're objectively not. And we invite people instead to preach what they practice.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko...
2024-03-071h 04
Bare MarriageEpisode 226: What We've Learned 3 Years After Great Sex RescueSend us a textThe Great Sex Rescue turns 3 this week! And it's been a super eventful three years. So much has changed. So let's talk about the feedback we've had, what we've done since, what people are saying--and where we're going from here.To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workOr, for tax deductible donations in the U.S., support our Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko FoundationAnd check out our Merch at our store, or any of our courses!...
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Bare MarriageEpisode 225: Do You Even Want This Kind of Marriage?Send us a textWould our reaction to Christian marriage advice change if we realize how many people who write that advice are actually in abusive or destructive marriages? What if people in those marriages are more drawn to write marriage advice to process how they're feeling?Today we look at two different women that Focus on the Family have held up to be emulated. One is a woman who has written prolifically for them, and when you look at her articles and what she reveals about her relationship, a TON of red flags are...
2024-02-2256 minBare MarriageEpisode 223: The Problems with Lies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss WolgemuthSend us a textLies Women Believe by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth is one of the most popular women’s bible study books used in churches across North America. But what does the book actually teach about marriage? About sex? About divorce and abuse? It’s scary, and today Gretchen Baskerville and Natalie Hoffman join host Sheila Wray Gregoire to analyze the harmful messages in Lies Women Believe.Things Mentioned in the Podcast:To Support Us:Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work ...
2024-02-081h 28Bare MarriageEpisode 210: The Enneagram and Marriage ft. Christa HardinSend us a textJoin our Patreon for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our amazing Facebook group and unfiltered Sheila & Rebecca! https://patreon.com/baremarriageChrista Hardin's new book The Enneagram in Marriage: https://amzn.to/3SmZyxRChrista's podcast The Enneagram and Marriage:https://www.enneagraminyourmarriage.com/podChrista on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/enneagramandmarriage/The study we analyzed:https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/jomf.12863Our new Biblical Manhood Merch:https://sheilawraygregoire.com/product-category/biblical-manhood/Support the show
2023-10-1956 minBare MarriageEpisode 201: What Does a Biblical Marriage Look Like?Send us a textLinks to things mentioned:Our patreon! Join our exclusive, behind-the-scenes group and get extra access to Sheila, Rebecca, and Joanna for only $5 a month!Our amazing Insulated Travel Mugs, that keep water super cold, and keep things hot, too! We've got them in a variety of designs, including Prayer and Tent Pegs, our She Deserves Better slogans, and our Biblical Womanhood MerchN.T. Wright's book How God Became King, and Rachel Held Evans' book Inspired: Slaying Giants, Walking on Water, and Loving the Bible AgainThe article from Desiring God that...
2023-08-171h 07Bare MarriageEpisode 171: Identifying Spiritual Abuse and Trauma ft Dr. Foluso and Johnna HarrisSend us a textLinks to things mentioned:Our patreon community! Join for as little as $5 a month, and get access to our exclusive Facebook group, merch, and more!https://patreon.com/baremarriageThe Bodies Behind the Bus podcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bodies-behind-the-bus/id1601586078and Johnna Harris' Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/bbtbpod/Me as a guest on the Bodies Behind the Bus podcasthttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/guest-sheila-gregoire/id1601586078?i=1000555692110Dr. Foluso's counseling practicehttps://skillsetcounseling.com/
2022-12-151h 23Bare MarriageUnconditional Respect is NOT a Thing! (Rerun Summer Episode)Send us a textUnconditional respect isn’t a thing.And yet we’re often told that men need unconditional respect, just like women need unconditional love.Links to things mentioned: Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire Dr. Cynthia Long WestfallPaul and Gender: Reclaiming the Apostle's Vision for Men and Women in ChristThe Great Sex RescuePsychology Today article To Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., su...
2022-07-0755 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 136: The Uncomfortable Truth About Waiting for Marriage for SexSend us a textDoes waiting for marriage really guarantee a great sex life? Sheila, Rebecca, and Keith weigh in on this week's podcast!Links to things mentioned:Our patreon! Suport us for as little as $5 a month and get access to our exclusive Facebook GroupThe Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and the all new Good Girl's Guide to Great SexThe podcast on the Sexual Response CycleThis week's post on vaginismus and wedding night sexHere is the link with Knix.com
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Bare MarriageEpisode 122: The Making of Biblical Womanhood ft Beth Allison BarrSend us a textThe amazing Beth Allison Barr is joining me today to talk about women and the history of the church.It seems like people who buy The Great Sex Rescue really like Beth’s book–and they really like Kristin Kobes Du Mez’s book too (and she was on the podcast earlier this year!). Links to things mentioned:Link to the Webinar with Sheila, Kristin, and Beth! The Making of Biblical WomanhoodL. M. M. story mentionedCheck out our sponsor, Femallay!T...
2021-11-1859 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 118: What Are Christian Resources NOT Telling You About Abuse? ft. Gretchen BaskervilleSend us a textWe are thrilled to have a wonderful guest joining us this week! We hope you enjoy Sheila's conversation with author Gretchen Baskerville, as they discuss some extremely important points we need to include in our conversations around divorce in the Christian church.Links to things mentioned:The blog post that goes along with this podcastGretchen Baskerville's SiteGretchen's book The Lifesaving DivorceGretchen's article on the 12 Half Truths in Focus on the Family's Article about Divorce and KidsGretchen's Video on Love...
2021-10-2159 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 117: All about BOOBS!Send us a textWe have a VERY special guest joining later today! For the first time ever we have Sheila's mother, Elizabeth, here to share all her wisdom! We hope you enjoy today's episode all about boobs, and breast cancer awareness!Links to things mentioned:Link for breast self-examMarried Sex on Amazon--many of the reviews refer to the breast problemFemallayOur puberty course The Whole StoryPost on Developing Bust EarlyTo Support Us: Join our Patreon for as li...
2021-10-1455 minBare MarriageDo You Know What Your Wife Has Been Taught About Sex? - Start Your Engines 17Send us a textHere we are with another 'Start Your Engines' edition of the podcast! Join Keith and Sheila as they discuss some strange things your wife might believe about sex, and Rebecca and Sheila as they break down an interesting perspective on how the men's lust message can mess up women too! Links to things mentioned:The Great Sex Rescue: Our new book, that looks at how harmful some of these messages have beenSupport our research by joining our Patreon group! Even for as little as $5 or $8 a...
2021-04-2949 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 97: That Weird 70s Sex EraSend us a textWe've been going back in time on the blog and looking at how different eras viewed sex, so this week on the podcast we're bringing more of that conversation! Listen in as Sheila, Connor, and Rebecca break down what led to the sexual revolution and how the church responded to it at the time.Links to things mentioned: Come support our peer-reviewed research and getting into more social media channels!Connor's review of the 1970s sex bookMy review of The Act of MarriageO...
2021-04-2248 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 86: You are NOT methadone for your husband's porn use!Send us a textThis week Sheila and Rebecca are digging deep into just how bad some of the advice out there is for Christians dealing with porn use in their marriage. We need to talk about this better, everyone!Thank you to Michael John Cusick for stopping by to help give us an even better look at what healing and recovery can look like for the many people struggling with pornography.Links to things mentioned:Our Porn series in April (read the first; the rest are linked from...
2021-02-0458 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep. 15: What if Lust ISN'T Every Man's Battle?Send us a textAnd we're back with a new 'Start Your Engines' episode! The whole team is practically here today, as Sheila, Keith, Joanna, AND Rebecca all join in to discuss this all too common teaching that 'ALL men will struggle with lust!'Links to things mentioned:The Great Sex RescueTwitter thread we readBlog posts:Noticing is Not Lusting12 Things Churches Can Do to Help Men Overcome LustWhy Bouncing Your Eyes Doesn't Honor WomenKeith's epic post on lustTo...
2021-01-2857 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 84: On Sexual Boundaries and Rape Culture in the Church ft. Ruth EverhartSend us a textJoining us on the podcast this week is Ruth Everhart, author of the book 'The #MeToo Reckoning'. We hope you find today's podcast a helpful step in the larger conversation in how we need to handle and address sexual assault situations in the church.Links to things mentioned: Last spring we had a number of posts and podcasts on the problem with the gatekeeping message--namely that it can hinder arousal. Some of them are: Arousal: The missing piece podcast; And the let's bring back making out post.
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Bare MarriageEpisode 83: Talking Back to Purity Culture ft. guest Rachel Joy WelcherSend us a textThis week we are joined by author Rachel Joy Welcher, as we discuss all things purity culture - and where it went wrong! We so appreciate Rachel joining us and giving her insight!Links to things mentioned:Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire The Great Sex RescueRachel's book: Talking Back to Purity CultureRachel's TwitterWhy arousal can be difficult for women if they don't understand the sexual progressionMore information on women and pornRebecca's book: Why I Didn't Rebel
2021-01-1453 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 82: Stripping Everything Bare (New Year, New... Name?!)Send us a textWelcome back! We are excited as we begin our rebranding process from To Love, Honor, and Vacuum to… *drumroll* Bare Marriage! Listen in as we discuss what led to this new name choice and our thoughts on how we see 2021 going, as we focus on a Jesus-centered marriage!Links to things mentioned:Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire The Great Sex Rescue Sheila's post on the Harvard StudyMore info on the Harvard Grand SurveyThe article on 'Mediocre Leaders'Our response to Eme...
2021-01-0744 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 80: Unconditional Respect is NOT a Thing.Send us a textAnother week, another episode of the TLHV podcast! A special thank-you to our guest Dr. Westfall for helping shed more light and give new perspectives on a passage in scripture that we read so often! We hope you enjoyed today's episode, and while we know we got pretty technical with some context and vocabulary, we believe it is very important that we look at these topics as clearly as possible to gain the best understanding.Links to things mentioned: Follow Sheila on Instagram: @sheilagregoire Dr. Cynthia Lo...
2020-12-1055 min
Bare MarriageEpisode 78. What Does Emotional Maturity Look Like? ft. Marc Alan SchelskeSend us a textWe want to give a special welcome this week to our first non-family-member guest, Marc Alan Schelske! We hope you enjoy our discussions today all about emotional intelligence and emotional maturity.Links to things mentioned:Marc Alan Schelske's bookMarc Alan Schelske's websiteMarc Alana Schelske's PodcastWorkbook mentionedTo Support Us: Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our workFor tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the B...
2020-11-1947 minBare MarriageEpisode 77. Why It's Hard For Victims to Share Their Stories of AbuseSend us a textSheila and Rebecca decided to take the time this week to further flesh out a podcast topic addressed a few weeks ago, that was perhaps not portrayed in the best way. Thank you for making the 'To Love, Honor, and Vacuum' podcast part of your week! Links to things mentioned:The Blog: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/"Rushing Forgiveness Ruins Intimacy": https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/08/10-reasons-why-rushing-forgiveness-ruins-intimacy/Pre-Order 'The Great Sex Rescue': https://www.amazon.ca/Great-Rescue-Sheila-Wray-Gregoire/dp/1540900827Be a part of 'The Great Sex Rescue' Launch...
2020-11-1238 minBare MarriageThe One MAJOR Roadblock to OrgasmSend us a textJoin us for another week of the To Love, Honor, and Vacuum Podcast, where Sheila explores some of your comments on how the beliefs we internalize affect a couple's sex life. Link to the blog: http://www.tolovehonorandvacuum.comLink to Pre-Order The Great Sex Rescue: https://www.amazon.com/Great-Sex-Rescue-Recover-Intended/dp/1540900827Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide...
2020-10-1539 minBare MarriageEpisode 74. Having Troubles with Orgasm? You are NOT Broken!Send us a textThis month on the blog we're going to be talking lots about orgasms! Do you struggle with having orgasms? Do you see your body as something working against you, not for you? We're here to help talk about these things!And today we have Sheila, Rebecca AND Connor all hopping on the podcast to give some great thoughts about how we talk about women's sexuality, how we view our sexual needs, and how we can increase the likelihood of orgasming!Blog post mentioned from Monday: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/10/you-are-not-broken-if-you-cant-reach-orgasm/Blog...
2020-10-0839 minBare MarriageEpisode 73. Questions on Sexual Abuse and the Road to RecoverySend us a textJoin us this week as Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach discuss some important topics -- sexual abuse and when to seek professional help.Links to things mentioned in the podcast: The need for licensed counselling : https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/03/question-your-biblical-counsellor/Dan Allender's book: https://www.amazon.com/The-Wounded-Heart-Dan-B-Allender-audiobook/dp/B01ATOK6H8"98 Ways You Could Be Sinning Against Your Husband": https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2019/06/sinning-against-husband/Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Gr...
2020-10-0140 minBare MarriageEpisode 72. What if Frequency and Libido Differences AREN'T the Real Issue?Send us a textThis month on the blog we’re discussing all things ‘Libido’! Listen in to hear Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach and Sheila Wray Gregoire talk about what could possibly be the key to unlocking your spouses’ low libido, and perhaps make you rethink how you see 'frequency' in relation to healthy sex! Blog Posts Mentioned in this Podcast: How frequently should a healthy couple have sex?:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/09/how-much-sex-should-you-have-every-week/How to see Every Man’s Battle Differently: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2017/06/every-mans-battle-is-wrong/How to see Sex from a D...
2020-09-1744 minBare MarriageEpisode 71. Are Sex and Talking Really the Same Thing?Send us a textThis week Sheila is flying solo on the podcast, and getting a bit more controversial! Listen in to hear her discuss the concept of how being content with your sex life can perhaps cause it to flourish even more, how sex and talking are NOT equivalent, and how Christians should better handle speaking about divorce. Links for Things Mentioned:Free Sex Pep-Talk Course! https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/sex-pep-talk-course/This week's mentioned post: https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/09/libido-can-high-drive-spouses-be-content-with-sex-frequency/My Post on "Are you to blame if your h...
2020-09-1036 minBare MarriageEpisode 70: How To Handle Complicated EngagementsSend us a textHow do you handle it when tough conversations come up and loved ones are making decisions you don't agree with? Especially when marriage and engagements are the starting point for those hard conversations?Today Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach from To Love, Honor and Vacuum talk through different Reader Questions and come up with some tips on communicating and how to discuss issues such as pornography and past trauma with your fiance! Some links mentioned in this podcast:The Honeymoon Course!https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/t...
2020-09-0338 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep. 11: How NOT to Flirt With Your WifeSend us a textWhat if, when flirting, your signals keep getting crossed and for some reason your wife doesn't respond well to your advances? In today's episode, Sheila and Keith, (plus Rebecca and Connor!), sit down to break down why flirting and groping are different things, as well as how to optimize your timing and context when flirting! Check out the blog for so much more on this topic, and fun challenges to do with your spouse!http://tolovehonorandvacuum.comSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
2020-08-2737 minBare MarriageEpisode 69: Let's Talk Sexual Favours... and Pain?Send us a textWhat do you do if you can't/don't want to have intercourse, but other forms of sex are actually uncomfortable?Some Christian books tell women they should give sexual favors, because they're "simple" and take a "minimum of effort." Today Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach from To Love, Honor and Vacuum look at the complete picture--what this should look like in a healthy relationship, and how to think about it if one of you actually is physically uncomfortable.Because, as always, sex is supposed to b...
2020-08-2036 minBare MarriageEpisode 68: Are Women Responsible For Their Own Orgasms?Send us a textAnother Thursday, another episode of our podcast!It's Sheila Wray Gregoire and Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach from the To Love, Honor and Vacuum blog, discussing expectations of the effort we put into sex and making one another feel good!And yes, we're still filming from Sheila's closet because the sound is best there! :) Check out the posts mentioned in the podcast: The Honeymoon course:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-honeymoon-course-start-your-marriage-and-your-sex-life-off-well/Rebecca's blog post:https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/08/can-christians-please-stop-talking-about-disciplining-babies/Support the showJo...
2020-08-1329 minBare MarriageEpisode 67. TMI: All about PERIODS!Send us a textWhy do we feel such shame? How can we help men be more sensitive to women--without being creepy? And how can we as women be empathetic towards each other? These are questions Rebecca and I tackle in this week's podcast.Plus we'll discuss why using tampons does not impact your virginity (why do we even think that's a thing? Sheesh!).Check out the posts mentioned in the podcast: Our Whole Story puberty course!https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/the-whole-story/And our period series--check out our f...
2020-08-0636 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep. 10: How Husbands can be Sex Heroes!Send us a textToday Keith joins me for yet another episode of our ‘Start Your Engines’ edition of the podcast to discuss how husbands and wives approach to sex can vary greatly, but how neither one is wrong! Blog posts mentioned in this episode:“Should I Tell My Husband if I Fake Orgasm or Fantasize During Sex?”https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/07/should-i-tell-my-husband-if-i-fake-orgasm-or-fantasize-during-sex/“Understanding Sex from a Woman’s Perspective” https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2020/07/understanding-sex-from-a-womans-perspective/Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
2020-07-3034 minBare MarriageEpisode 66: The WEIRD Sex Questions!Send us a textThis week--how do you untangle sex problems, especially because there's usually not just one problem? And how to tell if there are red flags that something's really wrong!Thanks to our sponsor Ann Mainse, whose wonderful devotional Coffee with Him helps any woman walking through rough times--whether cancer or betrayal or heartache or disillusionment--find peace. Raw and real, Ann shows how we can be honest with God in the darkness.https://amzn.to/30CfBLAPosts mentioned in this podcast:The 5 Step Plan for Untangling Sex...
2020-07-2342 minBare MarriageEpisode 65: Awkward Newlywed Sex QuestionsSend us a textSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
2020-07-1643 minBare MarriageEpisode 64: Sometimes a Vagina is Just a Vagina!Send us a textSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
2020-07-0944 minBare MarriageEpisode 63: Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your PastorSend us a textWe often go to our pastors for marital advice and answers to tough questions. But what about the questions you can't ask them? In preparation for my Sex Questions You Can't Ask Your Pastor tomorrow at 9:00 PM Eastern Time.If you want to sign up, just follow the link to buy your ticket, which comes with a FREE copy of my book 31 Days to Great Sex, and a FREE copy of Spicy DaresSign Up for the Webinar HereBlog Post ExtrasSupport the showJoin...
2020-07-0237 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep.9: Honey, Just Give Me a List!Send us a textWe have been talking about the concept of mental load and the emotional burden of taking care of kids and the household. And when your wife is feeling overburdened bu all the things she needs to track, it's hard for her to get invested in the bedroom. It's so important, then, for husbands to get invested in the household, but is asking her to make a list really going to help the problem? Let's discuss!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her...
2020-06-2545 minBare MarriageEpisode 62: Are We Man-Bashers Now?Send us a textI've been talking on the blog about the mental load of housework and how it often falls on the wives, even when they are the one who works outside the house. I have also been saying that men can step up more because being a man doesn't make them less capable. Curiously, that sentiment has earned me the title of man-basher from some of my male commenters. So Let's talk about that.Podcast Extras9 Thoughts That Can Change Your MarriageSupport the showJoin Sheila...
2020-06-1837 minBare MarriageEpisode 61: Are Your Standards for Housework Unreasonable?Send us a textLet's talk about minimum community standards and how they can be used to reduce your mental load and get you and your spouse on the same page in terms of housework!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
2020-06-1155 minBare MarriageEpisode 60: Splitting the Mental Load of HouseworkSend us a textThis month we are doing our series on emotional labour. In keeping with that trend, today's podcast is all about how much of a mental load it is to be solely in charge of housework, and how to find a healthier balance with your spouse.Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to...
2020-06-0447 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep.8: What About Gender Differences?Send us a textWhat are the differences between men and women, and how important are they actually? Have we been focusing on the wrong thing?Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, FREE resources...
2020-05-2840 minBare MarriageEpisode 59: Should Women be the Gatekeepers of Sex?Send us a textSo much of the teachings out there for young women is that when they are dating, they must be the gatekeeper and stop physical interactions from reaching their boyfriend's 'point of no return.' Let's talk about how this mentality often ends up holding women back from enjoying sex once they are married.Honeymoon CourseSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good...
2020-05-1418 minBare MarriageEpisode 58: Quarantine with Your SpouseSend us a textToday we talk about about how to handle being cooped up in the house spending all day every day with your spouse. It's not just something to get through, but something you can even grow to love! Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm C...
2020-05-0742 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep.7: Is Your Wife Being Held Back by the 'Duty Sex' Message?Send us a textWe have found the the message that "women NEED to have sex regularly or else their husbands will stray" Is very harmful to their enjoyment of sex. But we also found that they often don't get that message from their husbands. Their are a lot of great husbands out their whose wives are still struggling because they have heard this message at church or in books or from media .So let's talk about how you can replace that message with something better and help your wife find sex sexy again. Also, Connor comes...
2020-04-3038 minBare MarriageEpisode 57: Marital Rape, Consent, and Obligation SexSend us a textWe need to talk about what actually constitutes rape and consent in marriage, and where obligation sex fits into the conversationPodcast Extras on the BlogMarital Rape1 Corinthians 7:3-5: What do the verses really mean? Do Not Deprive: What if it’s actually women who are being deprived?Why We Need a New Definition of SexHave we made sex into an entitlement?Why submission doesn’t mean letting yourself be hurt (a look at the book Created to be His Helpmeet)Sexual trauma & The...
2020-04-2350 minBare MarriageEpisode 56: "Sheet Music" is Really Explicit!Send us a textToday, Rebecca and I review sheet music and talk about how a book that gives overly explicit sex advice can become just plain creepy.Honeymoon CourseSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out...
2020-04-1638 minBare MarriageEpisode 55: Reacting to "The Act of Marriage"Send us a textI read out some quotes and anecdotes from Tim LaHaye's book, The Act of Marriage, to my Rebecca to get her reaction.Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!Check out all her courses, F...
2020-04-091h 11Bare MarriageEpisode 54: What do Porn and Coronavirus Have in Common?Send us a textCOVID-19 is everywhere in the news right now, and people are scared. But while everyone is talking about the novel coronavirus and our response to it, I want to discuss the similartities between COVID-19 and porn use, particularly in terms of what we should do about it.Podcast ExtrasWhy Every Man's Battle FailsWives Are not to BlameSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage...
2020-04-0244 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep.6. Do All Men Lust?Send us a textIt's time to rethink 'every man's battle' and talk about what lust really is, and how to really combat it.Podcast ExtrasThe Church View of Lust Disrespects WomenAre Men Visual?Masturbation in MarriageWhen She’s Always Left HangingWomen Deserve Orgasm, tooWhy Women’s Fireworks MatterSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good...
2020-03-2641 minBare MarriageEpisode 53: Re-imagining the Sunday Service?Send us a textWe live in a rapidly changing world where information is available at the touch of a button, yet the Sunday church service has stayed pretty consistent. Is it time to shake things up?Podcast ExtrasBeing Lonely in a Group of People10 Ways to Break Into A New Church and Find FriendsWhat Happened at Willow Creek?10 Signs You’re in a Legalistic ChurchWhen Women Start Saying No to Church ActivitiesThe Case Against Sermon-Centric SundaysSupport the showJoin Sheila at...
2020-03-1944 minBare MarriageEpisode 52: Are You a Community Giver or TakerSend us a textCommunity is an important part of our life, but what do you do when you have trouble finding it? Or when you've found it, but can't join it? Or when you feel you have a little too much of it, and people are giving you unsolicited advice? All that and more on today's episode!Podcast ExtrasMaking Community at ChurchPodcast: Getting Your Life TogetherCanadian Pediatric Society Screen GuidelinesAmerican Academy of Pediatrics Family Media PlanSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare...
2020-03-1243 minBare MarriageEpisode 51: So Many Reader Questions!Send us a textMy reader questions are coming in faster than I can write posts on them, so for today's podcast I am going to answer a bunch of my readers questions about marriage, sex, and everything else!Podcast ExtrasCan You Divorce for Abuse?Why I’m Anti-Divorce but Pro RemarriageIs the Husband the Tie-Breaker?Are Husbands Supposed to "Get Their Wives Ready for Jesus?"Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue Sh...
2020-03-0540 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep.5: Finding Good Sex AdviceSend us a textThere are a lot of unhelpful or harmful teachings about sex out there, so let's talk about how to discern the good from the bad. Also on this episode, Rebecca and I will talk about how to navigate your wife's hormonal cycles when it comes to the bedroom!Spicy DaresPodcast ExtrasSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide...
2020-02-2755 minBare MarriageEpisode 50: Recovering Your Sex Life After a BabySend us a textThe idea of having sex after giving birth is daunting, especially after complications. And if we move too fast, we risk making recovery even harder. So let's talk about not just how to start having sex again, but how to get back to enjoying it!Podcast ExtrasSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good...
2020-02-2041 minBare MarriageEpisode 49: What Does it Mean to Be a Sexual Being?Send us a textValentine's Day is coming up, so let's talk about what it means to be a sexual being, how the world can sometimes take our sexuality away from us, and how we can reclaim it!Podcast ExtrasSexy DaresWhy I didn't RebelSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's...
2020-02-1344 minBare MarriageEpisode 48: How Do You Feel Comfortable in Your BodySend us a textWhen I surveyed women for one of my books, I asked them to name three things about their body. Most of them really struggled to come up with one, but they had a whole of things they DIDN'T like. So let's talk about how to not just accept our bodies, but to LIKE them. Because after all, they're the ones God gave us!Podcast ExtrasSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better...
2020-02-0639 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep.4: When Your Wife Won't Have SexSend us a textLet's talk about a big issue we hear about a lot: Sexless marriages. Whether a wife is withholding sex because of her husband's behaviour, because she doesn't enjoy it, or just because she finds it gross, let's figure out why she cut things off, what a healthy sex life should look like, and how to get there!Podcast ExtrasSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want...
2020-01-3043 minBare MarriageEpisode 47: When Something is Bugging You in Your MarriageSend us a textSomething’s wrong in your marriage. So what do you do about it? This month I’m running my iron sharpens iron series, about how marriage is supposed to make you better people. But it can’t do that if we don’t speak up when things are wrong! So today on the podcast I’m continuing my discussion about how to confront your spouse if something’s bugging youPodcast Extras9 Thoughts That Can Change Your MarriageSubmission PodcastSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marr...
2020-01-2336 minBare MarriageEpisode 46: Love and Respect Wrap UpSend us a textIt's one year this week since I ran my huge Love & Respect series. I've written about how Love & Respect treats sex horribly and harms marriages off and on throughout this last year, since the original week-long series ran. And now, on this one year anniversary, I've been tying up some loose ends, including dropping my 5500 word open letter to Focus on the Family questioning their support of Love & Respect, as we cap off our discussion.This Episode's Blog PostSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
2020-01-1657 minBare MarriageEpisode 45: Drawing Boundaries Around a Spouse's Bad BehaviourSend us a textLet's look today at how to draw boundaries and actually see progress in messy areas of marriage. We're in the middle of our iron sharpens iron series on the blog, where I'm talking all month about how marriage is supposed to make us better people. I'm afraid that, too often in marriage, we tolerate small things early in the relationship that then become engrained habits that get worse and worse and worse. By speaking up and doing something about behaviour that is damaging to your spouse, to you, and to the relationship you...
2020-01-0942 minBare MarriageEpisode 44: Last Year's Frightening Revelation About Christian Teachings on SexSend us a textLast January, I read Love and Respect for the first time, and it was like a bomb had been dropped. I knew I was going to have to talk about it. One thing led to another and 2019 became a pretty big year. So let's recap on some of the big changes and talk about where we are going from here, answering a few reader questions along the way!Podcast ExtrasProductivity BundleSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out h...
2020-01-0236 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep.3: Give Your Wife the Gift of Good SexSend us a textLet's talk about what you can do to really get your wife involved and enthusiastic about your bedtime escapades. Because good things come when her pleasure is your focusToday's Links:Podcast Extras Post"Do Not Deprive" PostGood Girl's Guide to Great SexSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good...
2019-12-1935 minBare MarriageEpisode 43: Family Trouble Around the HolidaysSend us a textWith Christmas coming up, it's time to talk about something many of us dread: Navigating tricky family dynamics at holiday gatherings. Rebecca, Connor, and I are going to talk about both toxic and non-toxic family situations.Why I Didn't RebelPodcast ExtrasWhen to Walk AwaySupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The...
2019-12-1242 minBare MarriageEpisode 42: Is It Your Fault If He Watches Porn?Send us a textSo often I hear the sentiment that the reason so many good christian guys are using porn is that their sexual needs are not being met by their wives. Not only is this blaming wives for their husband's sin, but it simply isn't true most of the time. So I am going to talk about this issue and lay down some facts about why porn use starts, how it affects mirriages, and how we can move past it!Here are the links from today's podcast:Today's Podcast ExtrasFocus on...
2019-12-0540 minBare MarriageEpisode 41: All About ErectionsSend us a textMy husband who is a pediatrician joins me on the podcast to address a slew of reader questions about erections. There's really not much more to say than that!Links:31 Days to Great SexThe Whole StoryTo Love Honor and Vacuum BlogSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Guy's...
2019-11-2128 minBare MarriageEpisode 40: How Do You Know When Someone is Grooming You?Send us a textToday let's talk about a very serious topic. With all the cases of pastors and other influential people in church using their power to sexually abuse members of their congregations, and the recent news about Christian comedian, John Crist, I want to talk about how to recognize the patterns and processes of people who are trying to groom others for their own purposes.Read the Podcast Extras HereCheck out "Get Your Marriage On" HereComplete My Marriage Survey Here!Support the showJoin Sheila at...
2019-11-1437 minBare MarriageEpisode 39: Postpartum BluesSend us a textMy grandson is 2 weeks old now, so I will be talking with my daughter about the difficulties of the road to recovery after a baby. It's a topic that people often don't talk about, but it is so important to have understanding and compassion for those going through it. On a related note, I also address a reader question about overcoming vaginismus.Take Our Marriage SurveySee Today's PostSupport the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great...
2019-11-0730 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep. 2: Starting Conversations About SexSend us a textToday is Halloween and the last Thursday of the month, which means I am once again speaking to you men out there. And this week we are talking about how to start those uncomfortable conversations about sex with your wife when you think you should both be getting more out of your sex life.Here are the links mentioned in the podcast:Post "Why Your Husband Wants You to Read This Blog"To Love Honor and VacuumGet Your Marriage On31 Days to Great SexSupport...
2019-10-3139 minBare MarriageEpisode 38: How To Actually Get Your Life TogetherSend us a textToday Rebecca and I talk about one of the big ways in which we as women today are making our lives a lot more difficult than they need to be. So let's talk about areas of expertise, social comparisons, and asking for help when we need it.If you want to read the post that accompanies this episode, head on over to "To Love Honor and Vacuum!"Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She...
2019-10-1727 minBare MarriageEpisode 37: "We Have a Newborn, Husband Wants and Xbox!" and More Reader QuestionsSend us a textToday we are answering reader questions from marriages that are past the honeymoon stage and are now working on sorting life out. One reader asks what to do when your husband won't come to bed with you and stays up playing video games. Another asks if it is wrong to want a great marriage, not just a fine one. And a third reader asks what to do if your husband who is hooked on games wants to buy an Xbox at the same time your child is due!Links mentioned in the...
2019-10-1038 minBare MarriageEpisode 36: The Honeymoon Years of Sex (Figuring it Out)Send us a textKicking off October's series on the stages of a sex life, we are addressing a number of issues and questions regarding the beginning of marriage. We will be talking about boundaries during engagement, what to do when the honeymoon years of sex aren't as mindblowing as you expected, and why the best sex is usually had after 15 years of marriage! As always, check us out on the blog, and to enter my giveaway for 31 Days to Great Sex or the set of Sexy Dares, you just have to sign up for my Newsletter!
2019-10-0340 minBare MarriageStart Your Engines Ep. 1: Understanding Female SexualitySend us a textI have had many women asking me to do a podcast for men so they can get their husbands to listen and understand women better. So, starting this week, the last Thursday of each month will be a men's episode called "Start Your Engines." Ladies are of course still welcome to listen in, as it's still relevant for you, but I am speaking more directly to the men here. We start off our first episode giving an overview of the often overlooked differences between male and female sexuality!I recommend you check...
2019-09-2639 minBare MarriageEpisode 35: Using the Bible to Gaslight Women?Send us a textThis is a long one. Recently, the author of Love and Respect sent out an email to his readers addressing some complaints he often receives about how his teachings from the book are applied. And his response sent up a sea of red flags. So, I have brought my husband on to discuss our issues with it. If you want to check out the blog post that accompanies this podcast, you can find it here. And as always, if you like the podcast, leave a rating and a review!Support the...
2019-09-191h 14Bare MarriageEpisode 34: SexonomicsSend us a textWhat do economics have to do with your sex life? More than you'd think. Today I talk about that in depth, and also address reader questions and comments about how to live with joy together in the middle of the mundane. Finally, Rebecca and I address the criticisms we have received for teaching women how to reduce their risk of being sexually assaulted. Check out the challenge blog post, Mother.ly, and the post for this episode!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check...
2019-09-1238 minBare MarriageEpisode 33: What's Stressing Out Your Marriage?Send us a textLet's talk about how a seemingly small financial decision can have a domino effect that may create stress in your marriage. Also, how can we use routines without letting them take over our lives? Don't forget to check out the amazing "Get Your Marriage On" app, and check out the blog at To Love Honor and Vacuum!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The...
2019-09-0532 minBare MarriageEpisode 32: What Does Headship in Marriage Really Mean? It's All Greek to Me!Send us a textWe're going to be getting a little academic today as I look at the Greek and the Hebrew used in the Bible to shed some light on the discussion about what it means for the man to be the head of the family. Rebecca and also talk about family support and family boundaries. As always, check us out on To Love Honor and Vacuum!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage...
2019-08-2839 minBare MarriageEpisode 31: The Only Way to Grow Your MarriageSend us a textI think we often go looking for marriage advice hoping for some easy fix that doesn't really require effort or change. But that's not how to get the most out of marriage. Starting now, the blog and the podcast will both be focusing on action steps. Each week, I will issue a challenge to help you grow your marriage. Also in this episode, I address a reader question about dating a long-distance woman who lives with a highly restrictive father, and Rebecca gives her thoughts on unhealthy views of female beauty! For more, c...
2019-08-2237 minBare MarriageEpisode 30: Yoga Pants and Why We Need a Better Shame-Free MessageSend us a textWe have had a lot of conversations on the blog about modesty recently, and questions about yoga pants and women who wear revealing outfits at church always come up. In this episode, My daughter, son-in-law, and I go in depth on the topic to break down some of the unhealthy teachings and talk how to build each other up in Christ!As always, check out the extras on the blog here!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The...
2019-08-1541 minBare MarriageEpisode 29: The Lonely GenerationSend us a textIn light of recent events, I want to talk about the isolation and loneliness pervasive in today's society and address what we can do as individuals, parents, friends, and church members to connect with one another on a more effective level. As always, check out the blog for all of the extras right here!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!Check out her books: The Great Sex Rescue She Deserves Better The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide The Good Girl's Guide...
2019-08-0845 minBare MarriageEpisode 28: Taking Back SexySend us a textThis month I am focusing on taking back "sexy", so for today's podcast we are discussing how sexy isn't shameful. My daughter comes on to talk about lingerie that can make you feel sexy and comfortable at the same time. I also talk about how sometimes it would benefit us to adopt a broader approach to our faith rather than to become immobile or ineffective due to a narrow spiritual world-view. Check out the extra's for today's blog post here!Support the showJoin Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
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