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Conversations with Dr. JenniferDiscomfort for Growth: A Crash Course in Differentiation Theory**We have lots of exciting announcements (including 2024 event tickets), read all about them HERE**
Egodystonic. Enmeshment. Sense-of-self. Differentiation.
These words and the ideas they represent can be unfamiliar and even downright intimidating when you first start listening to Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s podcasts and courses--it can sometimes feel like learning an entirely new language! But, as with learning any new language, the more you immerse yourself by listening and learning, the more clear these transformative concepts will become.
In this NEW podcast episode, Sherrae Phelps interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about her unique approach to coaching an...2023-12-1246 minConversations with Dr. JenniferLove Over IdeologyI am heartbroken to share with you on this Mother’s Day that recently my mom was diagnosed with a serious illness. An illness that will take her from us sooner than any of us had expected.
Sherrae Phelps and I recorded this podcast episode last year, long before my mom’s diagnosis. The plan was always to publish the episode for Mother’s Day, but it feels particularly poignant to be releasing it now, in light of this diagnosis–to be celebrating my mother’s impact on me as I confront the reality of losing her.
I...2023-05-1241 minConversations with Dr. JenniferUnderstanding AnxietyIn this NEW PODCAST episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps and Kristi Bassett for a frank discussion about anxiety. During the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers an important distinction between fear and anxiety and gives practical tips on how we can each learn to better cope with the uncertainties of life.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
*Fear vs Anxiety
*How to increase our tolerance for anxiety and uncertainty
*Supporting family members with anxiety
*Anxiety medication 2022-11-1748 minConversations with Dr. JenniferWomen and The ChurchIn this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps to discuss ways Latter-Day Saints can navigate this period of transition within the church with strength and integrity, and what we can do as individuals to contribute to the development of our community.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Misunderstandings that interfere with equality in the church
* The problem with prioritizing validation over integrity
* How to move past feelings of resentment and anger
* Mother-in-Heaven
* Making room for growth in y...2022-07-0846 minConversations with Dr. JenniferNavigating a Midlife CrisisIn this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps for a powerful discussion about the often disillusioning middle years of life, and what we can do to remain hopeful, engaged, and productive during this phase of our development.
Listen to the full episode to learn more about:
* Coping with the disillusionment that comes during middle age
* Coping with loss and the finiteness of life
* Stoicism
* Metabolizing regret
* Finding purpose in the mundane and routine.
* Finding your spark and a sense of meaning
Show N...2022-04-2053 minConversations with Dr. JenniferNavigating Religious Challenges with IntegrityDr. Finlayson-Fife joined Sherrae Phelps to discuss how to navigate religious challenges with integrity, from the best within us. Listen to learn more about...
- How to truly sustain church leaders
- Relational and moral development
- Acting out of the best in you in regards to religion
- Using your faith to live well and love others
To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join...2022-01-0141 minConversations with Dr. JenniferHelping Teens Navigate Their Sexual Identity
Sherrae Phelps and Dr. Finlayson-Fife recorded a timely and thoughtful conversation about navigating your sexual identity as a teen and what role parents can play in that process. Listen to hear more about...
- Normal development in the highly vulnerable and impressionable time of teenage years
- How parents can help their children be thoughtful and honest as they sort out their sexual identity
- How to navigate your relationship with the church when you have an LGBTQ child
- How to demonstrate to your child that you can handle difficult conversations and that you are...2021-10-0145 minConversations with Dr. JenniferNavigating Differences with IntegrityDr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed by Sherrae Phelps of the Ten Thousand Hours of Writing project to discuss differences in marriage and how to navigate them. Listen to here more about...
- The difficulty of navigating differences, especially religious differences, in marriage.
- Self-indulgence vs self-definition.
- The paradox and tension of marriage.
- How to determine with integrity if a difference is too big for the marriage.
- How we choose to navigate difference may matter more than the difference itself.
You can find more about Sherrae's work...2021-05-2452 minConversations with Dr. JenniferGrowing Beyond Transactional FaithIn this new podcast episode discussing faith and faith development with Sherrae Phelps, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the topic of...
Transactional Faith and how we grow into a higher understandings of Faith.
Listen to this episode to hear more about...
-The different stages of spiritual development
-How to develop a stronger sense of integrity
-Trials, blessings and how to understand the relationship between the two.
AND we are having a Valentine's Day Sale on all of our online courses! Ta...2021-02-0246 minConversations with Dr. JenniferObedience and IntegrityDr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps to talk about the topic of obedience. They discuss questions such as…
-When is it good to yield to the authority of another?
-What is the difference between the choice to comply based in moral courage vs. obedience that is dangerous?
-What is the risk in valuing obedience as an inherent virtue, and how do we reconcile the value of humility with moral responsibility?
To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcomin...2020-06-2121 minConversations with Dr. JenniferDiffering Views and Beliefs Part 2In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about how to respect the differing views and beliefs of others as well as how to approach difficult or uncomfortable conversations about religious topics. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com.
"It’s easy to be threatened by change and to want to call it evil. Our first instinct to something that is foreign or with something we don’t know is that it must be bad. It’s just in our DNA to do that...2019-09-2414 minConversations with Dr. JenniferDiffering Views and Beliefs Part 1In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about how to respect the differing views and beliefs of others as well as how to approach difficult or uncomfortable conversations about religious topics. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com.
Some of the questions addressed include:
Are all conversations discussing conflicting beliefs valuable to engage in? What about controversial conversations? Is there value in listening to ideas that scare us? Are there times when it is morally courageous to give others platforms...2019-09-1315 minConversations with Dr. JenniferIs it Ever Virtuous to Submit?In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of submission. In this episode you will learn more about what submission means and how it can be driven either by fear or moral courage. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com.
“When submission is a virtue, it’s an active choice to yield to something because you think it will create the greater good. It’s not driven by fear; it’s driven by moral courage.”
– Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Sher...2019-09-1216 minConversations with Dr. JenniferThinking and Acting For YourselfIn this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of thinking for ourselves. In this episode you will learn more about how to make your own decisions based on your integrity and moral compass rather than approval of others. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com.
“One of the things that interferes with our ability to think for ourselves is our need and desire for approval—our desire for other people to acknowledge or validate what we do. The more we depe...2019-09-1235 minConversations with Dr. JenniferForgiving OthersIn this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Sherrae Phelps on her podcast Ten Thousand Hours of Writing. They discuss the different “versions” of forgiveness and how to forgive in a way that is healing and not harmful. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps and her podcast, you can visit her website at https://tenthousandhoursofwriting.com/.
The main question that this episode explores is this: What are some misconceptions about forgiveness? And in what ways is counterfeit forgiveness, or “doormat forgiveness”, hurtful, harmful, and destructive?
To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website...2019-09-1228 minConversations with Dr. JenniferIndulgent SufferingIn this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of indulgent suffering. In this episode you will learn more about how to act out of virtue and integrity and how to let go of immature thought patterns that can be harmful to personal development. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps and Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast, visit her at Www.Tenthousandhoursofwriting.Com.
Often to determine if something is right or good or God’s will, we use pain, suffering, and sacrifice for a measuring stick. Wh...2019-09-1215 min