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Lead & Create2025-07-2938 minDepth Dialogues Podcast2025-05-0858 minYapa Yapa Öğreniyoruz2024-08-1322 minLove & Philosophy2024-08-121h 01What Works2024-08-0131 minWhat Works2024-07-1836 minPerennial Wisdom2024-06-1712 minThe Pocket Contemplative2024-06-0628 min20 Minute Books2024-04-0337 min啊!是猫咪呀
啊!是猫咪呀S4.E1 致婚姻:仿佛永远分离,却又终身相依本期节目的主题是:亲密关系中的权力斗争。节目灵感来源于我们近期观看的一系列婚姻主题影视作品,如《再见爱人》、《坠楼的审判》以及假期期间重温的《婚姻故事》。这些作品让我们不禁思索,婚姻究竟是一种什么样的关系?权力不对等究竟在人与人的亲密关系中造成什么样的影响?在这些婚姻题材的作品中,我们经常看到,随着婚姻中双方角色的转变,原有的权力关系发生了变化——有时朝着更加不平衡的方向倾斜,有时则趋向平衡。但无论是哪种情况,原本关系中的双方都很难适应在新的权力格局中找到相处之道,结果是让关系走向破裂。亲密与权力看似是对立的两极:权力的运作往往伴随着一种冷酷、功利和无情,目的是为了控制、压制和驯服,强调的是个人主义;而亲密关系则提供了温暖、包容和接纳,本应是权力斗争的避风港。然而,现实中,越是亲密的关系,当中的个体越是充满生命力,也越容易激发出激烈的权力冲突。因为这种冲突不仅仅关乎表面的权力角逐,而是触及到最核心的自我和身份。在今天的节目中,我们将详细探讨亲密关系中的权力是什么,它与常见的权力关系(如商业竞争、政治斗争)有何不同,以及为什么我们认为在任何长期的亲密关系中,权力斗争是不可避免的也不应该被避免的。在节目的最后,我们还将提供一些建议,帮助相爱的人们面对和应对关系中不可避免的权力斗争,以构建更具有生命力且相互滋养的关系。内容|时间线Part 1: 亲密关系中的权力动态[00:07:17] 婚姻:长期的、相爱的、彼此承诺、积极投入的双人关系[00:09:50] 亲密关系中的权力本就是一个矛盾的概念[00:10:27] 亲密关系中权力斗争的特殊之处[00:17:34] 二元权力社会影响模型——权力动态如何在双人关系中运作、影响关系的[00:18:29] 权力来源:个人特征、性格、能力[00:35:29] 六大权力基础:实施权力影响的武器库——奖励权力、惩罚权力、合法权力、专家权力、参照性权力、信息权力[00:43:27] 权力影响策略:让一个人实现权力结果的战略战术[00:47:08] 权力结果:双方的相互影响的尝试在多大程度上改变了每个伴侣的目标态度以及行为[00:47:42] 权力作为一个动态系统,每一次权力结果都会进一步影响一开始双方的权力基础,个人特征Part 2: 父权制下的婚姻生活案例一:陈红和李华[00:48:30]关系里的权力不平等是最初如何形成并且根深蒂固的[00:52:21] 在关系中窒息的爱人,为何不逃脱?[00:54:17] 案例二:《婚姻故事》[00:57:48] 父权制下的婚姻悲剧[01:12:14] 女性在婚姻中长期被压抑后第一次获得权力的无所适从[01:13:19] 两性面对失去的不同反应:女性的隐忍和男性迫切夺权的攻击力[01:17:48] 法庭戏:失控的权力对峙,彼此作为加害者难辞其咎[01:19:41] 无论离婚的过程是多么荒唐和徒劳,都是必然要经历的[01:24:51] 案例三:《再见爱人》王诗晴与纪焕博[01:28:39] 恋爱中的祛魅[01:31:16] 男性脆弱:无法处理关系中的「去势感」[01:36:32] 权力斗争中应激式伤害对方的习惯,成为了逃脱不掉的争吵模式Part 3:势均力敌[01:44:52] 权力斗争下关系的三种状态:绝对压制、无休止的争夺、势均力敌中的平衡[01:46:09] 完全没有权力斗争的关系,是什么样的?[01:48:04] 1)绝对统治下的关系:以控制为目的,服务于控制狂的Ego[01:50:14] 2)顺从者主导的关系:做关系中主导方的身份寄生虫[01:51:38] 波伏娃:什么是极致「恋爱脑」?[01:59:07] Being Alive:一段关系中的生命力来自于权力的流动和相互制衡[02:02:00]  萨特的爱情观:他者对我们的生命意味着什么——爱人的眼:「它看了我一眼,走了我世界的一部分」[02:09:24]  爱人揭露了自身的秘密,却也是一个永远的未解之谜[02:15:22]  爱情是权力斗争中种种不可能间的博弈[02:18:31]  如何维持好双人关系中的微妙平衡?[02:22:23]  真爱(Authentic Loving)是拥抱彼此的特别[02:25:16]  相互依赖(Interdependence) :个体性和共同体之间的平衡[02:28:52]  承诺 (Commitment):想象我们共同的未来安托万·德·圣埃克苏佩里:“爱不在于彼此凝视,而在于共同朝着同一个方向眺望。”💰打赏(推荐使用) 爱发电:https://afdian.net/a/ahsmmy🐱听友群添加小助手wx: badaolaoyu🎵音乐谭维维 – 晚婚Ian Post – I Must Be DreamingDaniHaDani – Everlasting FlowerRomeo – Fragility8opus – Impromptu in F Minor Well Meet AgainStephen Keech – Black HoleDaniHaDani – Echoes of RemembranceRan Raiten – In DoubtRaviv Leibzirer – Piano Sonata No 14 in C Minor Op 27 MoonlightMarco Martini – Little Touch of HeavenBeò – This Life of TimeSebastian Pangal – The Grand Chopin Nocturne📚引用Stanley, S. M., Rhoades, G. K., & Whitton, S. W. (2010). Commitment: Functions, Formation, and the Securing of Romantic Attachment.Simpson, J. A., Farrell, A. K., & Rothman, A. J. (2019). The Dyadic Power-Social Influence Model: Extensions and Future Directions.VanderDrift LE, Ioerger M, Arriaga XB. (2019) Interdependence Perspectives on Power in Relationships. 王浩、余国良:亲密关系中的权力认知 (心理科学进展)Skye Cleary: Existentialism and Love萨特:存在与虚无
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