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The Sex After Kids PodcastTired of Couples Counselling? Try These Relationship-Saving AlternativesSend us a textIn this episode I share when my partner and I went to couples counselling after the birth of our first child. From my post-partum anxiety I was experiencing resentment and contempt and didn’t want this to be the theme of our relationship. In this episode I cover: 04:05 Why I hated admitting they needed help 06:12 Why everything wasn’t all my partners fault (much as I wanted it to be) 08:11 Why stress was the root of all our challenges14:45 And why couples counselling wasn’t going to bring our...2025-07-2920 min
Becoming #UnfuckwithableStop Blaming Your Mental HealthHey guys! This is a topic that i feel is SUPER important to Talk about because I find that there are a lot of people out there who are struggling with their own mental health and I would love to share with you guys what I found was really helpful when I was trying to understand myself and my brain at a deeper levelA huge part of supporting your mind is the lifestyle that you choose to live. Starting to understand the things that you are consuming can give you the awareness of...2025-07-2513 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastThe One Secret That Changed My Sex Life After KidsSend us a textIn this deeply personal episode, I’m sharing the one secret that helped me go from six months of shut-down to regularly saying yes (and even initiating!)—without faking, forcing, or bypassing my body’s needs.My vagina had a tantrum last week and we are going to talk about it. Whether you're the higher libido partner wondering what’s going on behind the “no,” or the lower libido partner who wants connection but feels stuck in shutdown—this episode is for you.In this episode we cover: 00:00 – The on...2025-07-2229 min
Buraco Atrás do PôsterBadP #25 - Vagrant Story (ft. Leon do Galinha Viajante e Patrô do Regras do Jogo)No episódio dessa semana vamos explorar as ruínas de Lea Monde nesse grande clássico esquecido do PS1! Não esqueça de upar suas armas, e vem com a gente nesse buraco!
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00:00:00 - Abertura e recados
00:06:52 - Como conhecemos
00:22:14 - Produção, influências e ambientação
00:41:16 - Introdução e mecânicas
01:07:41 - Enredo
01:23:25 - Conclusão do enredo e encerramento do episódio
01:46:55 - Dramatização de e...2025-07-111h 48Becoming #UnfuckwithableI was begging to be put in a....Hey guys!! In this episode I wanted to talk about the darker parts that I went through in the last 5 years. Being put in absolute isolation left me with nothing but my mind and that was a very scary thing to be left alone with. I wanted so badly to be understood, but I knew that no one that was around me could understand exactly what I was going through and that is why I wanted to be put in a mental institution. I wanted to be around people who could understand the things that were going on inside...2025-07-0621 min
Buraco Atrás do PôsterInterlúdio #68 - Daggerheart, FBC: Firebreak e Lies of P: OvertureFalta uma semana para discutirmos Vagrant Story com dois convidados, e nesse Interlúdio Ágata, Jojo e Mateus recebem um deles, Leon Cleveland do Galinha Viajante, para falar de RPG e joguinhos eletrônicos (um é recomendação e o outro é um alerta, infelizmente).
Arte da capa: @RachelShiroganeoficial no instagram
Citados no episódio: Final Fantasy Tactics; Monster Hunter; Resident Evil 6; Vagrant Story; Podcast Galinha Viajante; The Darkness 2; Daggerheart; Critical Role; Matthew Mercer; Geek & Sundry; Felicia Day; Will Wheaton; Dungeons & Dragons; Wizards of the Coast; Ashley Johnson; Laura Bailey; Liam O’Brian; Marisha Ray; Dragon Ball Z; Powered...2025-07-0437 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableIt's Scary at First but...Hey guys!! Welcome to SEASON 2 of the podcast! I took some time off of podcasting and honestly just took a rest time in my life due to a mental health reset and trying to capture the clarity of where I wanted to head in both my life and the direction that I wanted to take my career. In this episode I talk about what it really means to start choosing yourself. When it comes to choosing yourself, it goes wayyyy deeper than just enjoying your own company and being mindful with the company that you keep around you, yet...2025-06-2727 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastFixing the Mental Load Won’t Save Your Sex LifeSend us a textFeeling resentful, disconnected, or just done with intimacy because you're the one holding everything together?Or maybe you're doing your share—and still hearing that it’s not enough?This episode is for you.We’re diving into the mental load: what it really is, how it impacts your nervous system (and your sex life), and why even splitting things 50/50 doesn’t always fix the spark.Spoiler: doing the dishes isn’t foreplay if you’re not emotionally connected.👇 In this episode, you’ll...2025-06-2531 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastFrom Touched Out to Turned On: 5 Truths You Need to HearSend us a textStruggling with low desire or no sex after kids? You're not alone—and you're not broken. In this episode of The Sex After Kids Podcast, sex and intimacy coach Sofia from The Happy Vagina Project shares 5 mindset shifts to help couples reconnect, reignite desire, and break out of the dreaded “Not Tonight” cycle.Whether you're feeling touched out, rejected, or just numb to the idea of intimacy, this episode offers practical tools and emotional clarity to bring back passion, play, and connection—even if it's been months (or years...2025-06-1827 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastThe Real Reason Your Partner is Avoiding Sex (And Why It’s Not What You Think)Send us a textEver found yourself thinking, “Why are they always avoiding sex?” Or maybe you’ve felt the sting of rejection and started to question your relationship, your desirability, or your skills in bed.This episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast flips that narrative on its head.We’re diving into the real reasons behind intimacy avoidance—especially after becoming parents. Spoiler: it’s not about being broken or unwanted. We’re talking about stress, nervous system overload, the orgasm gap, and how to rebuild connection without pressure or resentment.💥 In...2025-06-1027 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastThe 3 Basic Bitch Tips That are Changing My Sex Life After KidsSend us a textFlirting with the D-word (Divorce)? Or just feeling like roommates with a mortgage and a laundry pile that never ends? So many couples are experiencing the same thing, but they don’t have the secret sauce I’ll share in this episode. Today we are talking all about the small, not-so-sexy things that make a massive difference. I’m talking: ✨ Undivided attention (yes, even for 3 minutes) ✨ Actually using your words (thank you, Daniel Tiger) ✨ Shutting your mouth instead of offering solutions (it’s a challenge, I know)We get real a...2025-06-0320 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableComing Out of SurvivalHey guys!! This episode is more emotional and intmate than my other episodes since as I was recording this episode, I was unlocking more and more about what has been keeping me stuck in a constant cycle of believing in myself and then letting self doubt creep in. Self sabotage is a REAL thing and I have been wanting to get clarity on why I kept repeating the same self sabotaging patterns. I am so grateful to have this epiphany about what has kept me stuck because now that I am aware, I can finally let go and move...2025-05-3118 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastLet’s Get It On: Rebuilding Erotic Energy When Life Is Anything But SexySend us a textWe have another bedroom dispatch for you this week on the Sex After Kids Podcast. In this episode, we’re throwing out the Bridgerton fantasy and getting real about what it takes to feel sexy when you’re touched-out, overstimulated, and secretly fantasizing about alone time with your book boyfriend.Listen as I walk you through how I use my signature Time Together Blueprint to turn awkward into awesome in four little steps. This one’s for the mamas in messy buns and dads trying to figure out how to connect again...2025-05-2712 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableHow Anger & Pain are Communicating to YouHey guys!! In this episode I really wanted to share the "secret sauce" of what I did to understand my emotions at a deeper level, which helped me transform my life. It's easy to get caught up in the emotions in the moment of when something bad or unexpected is happening in your life, but it is so helpful when you can understand that in the long picture life is actually helping you grow and become a better/more healed version of yourself. Being able to understand and LISTEN to your body when it is communicating to you can...2025-05-2612 minThe Sex After Kids Podcast6 Myths Killing the Bedroom Vibes After KidsSend us a textWhat if the stories you’ve been taught about sex—what it should look like, feel like, and mean—are the real reason it’s not working? In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we’re unpacking six cultural myths that sneak into your bedroom and sabotage connection. From spontaneous desire to sexual obligation, we’re breaking it all down—and offering a new way forward. 🎙️ What we cover: • 3 ways women are conditioned to override their bodies • 3 ways men are taught to tie sex to self-worth • “What if...2025-05-2020 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastWhy playing by the rules of consent can reset your sex life after kidsSend us a text What if the hottest thing you could bring into the bedroom… was a question? In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we’re talking about consent—not the swipe-right kind, but the long-term, tired-parents, messy-realities kind. Consent isn’t just about saying “yes” or “no.” It’s how we build trust, support nervous systems, and create sex that feels good for both of you. We cover: • What consent really means in a long-term relationship • How it breaks down quietly after kids • How to reframe consent as sexy not stiff •...2025-05-1439 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableDamaged to Devoted to My Inner PeaceHey guys!! In this episode I wanted to share my expierence of how I started my healing journey. As someone who used to be very shy and used to struggle a lot with social anxiety, being stripped of everyone and everything that distracted me from having to look within myself to explore and discover what was REALLY going on was a very essential path that I needed to go through in order to find my purposeA lot of people think that their purpose is the thing(s) that you do, but it actually...2025-05-1230 min
Lovergirl EvolvingPatience, Patterns, & Pacing in Dating: learning the difference between aligned & availableIn this vulnerable & validating episode of Lovergirl Evolving, Sofia and Adri dive deep into the messy middle of dating after a breakup 💔➡️💗. Adri opens up about her current slow-paced situationship and what it’s teaching her about compatibility, emotional availability, and the art of being self-aware AF. From decoding attachment styles to navigating work-life balance in love, this convo is a masterclass in emotional intelligence, healing, and learning to date yourself while dating others. The girls spill all the honest tea 🍵 on what it really takes to build something healthy, aligned, and lasting.BIG TAKEAWAYS2025-05-0753 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastGetting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body During SexSend us a textThis week we have another bedroom dispatch from my sheets to your ears. I share these to normalize what real sexy times look like and to show you how my I use my own tools in my real life - so you can see who they work for you. This week you'll hear how I turned complaining about my body into a lovely romp in the hay with my partner using my Time Together Blueprint - four simple steps to go from a maybe to a yes and have a great t...2025-05-0614 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableSensual, Sexual, Erotic & Sexual PleasureHey guys! (This episode is a little more SPICY than usual episodes) In this episode I really want to talk about how I was able to fall in love with my body, mind and create such a healthy relationship with food. Growing up I did not have the greatest role models when it comes to the relationship with food and so I shamed myself for so long and the way I coped with what was happening when I was younger was through eat. Going through this journey has brought such a great appreciation and awareness of how much sensual...2025-05-0511 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastFinding a New Sexual Self After KidsSend us a textIn this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, we explore one of the most tender and often unspoken transitions parents face: grieving your pre-kids sexual self. Whether your relationship with sex was neutral, fraught, or thriving before kids, the shifts that come after can feel disorienting — and sometimes heartbreaking. Join me as we talk about:Why your sexual identity changes after kids (and why it’s totally normal)The four types of changes that impact post-kid sexuality: physical, emotional, cultural, and spiritualHow body changes, emotional shifts, and cultural narratives can sabo...2025-04-2926 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableDealing with Narcissistic PeopleHey guys! In this episode I wanted to share the things that I have learned over the past few years with having to deal with a lot of men that were abusing me in a narissistic way. This is in no way to spread hate to men, I personally think that women can be just as cruel, but I have experienced more from dealing with narcissistic men. These are the things that I do now when I am confronted with someone that I see has narcissistic tendencies or behaviors. I really hope that you are not confronted with these...2025-04-2713 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastLet's Talk Duty Sex (After Kids)Send us a textIf you are a parent you have likely at some point or another engaged in duty sex - sex that you had because you felt you had to or felt pressured to - to keep the peace or to keep your partner happy. You don't need to be a sexologist to know that this can have an impact on your relationship. This week we break down a study by Dr. Cami Hurst on Duty sex. We'll talk about- how duty sex is different than maintenance sex- how duty...2025-04-2236 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableDon't Give Into this TrapHey guys!! In this episode I wanted to share an expierence at the gym where I had two choices. I wanted to explain how I felt and most importantly why I handled the situation the way that I didMost of all, I wanted to share that people can be pretty shitty sometimes and that means to not waste your time, nor your energy on shitty people because they aren't looking for a solution, they are looking for attentionOh and BTW if you guys want to support me...2025-04-1911 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastUsing a Pleasure Diet to Bring Back your Libido After KidsSend us a textAre you the fun police in your house? Always 10 steps ahead of what your kids and partner need, hardly ever just in the present moment. This could be what's killing your libido. In today's episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast we talk about:- how stress creates armour against pleasure- how pleasure is the medicine you need to combat stress and create connection in your life- what the mental load has to do with libido - three practical ways to bring pleasure into your life...2025-04-1835 min
The Marriage & Motherhood PodcastEp. 188 - Talking About Sex With Your Spouse with Sofia AshleyLet us know how you enjoyed this episode!Navigating Communication and Intimacy in MarriageIn this juicy episode, I am joined by Sex Coach for Busy Parents, Sofia Ashley, to discuss the intricacies of talking about sex in your marriage - particularly if you are unhappy with sex in your marriage and you'd like things to improve. We talk about overcoming common obstacles to open dialogue about intimacy.Connect with Sofia!Podcast: Sex After Kids PodcastIG: thehappyvprojectThank you for listening!If you resonated...2025-04-151h 26
ALIGNED Podcast with Ashley HämäläinenHow to Let Go of Anger (Feminine Rage) and Open to LoveWhen our GUIDED sister Sofia told me that she fully released the anger that she had been carrying for years by doing a simple practice that we shared with her, immediately I knew how important it was to bring her on the show to share her story. And it's not like she has her entire day to spend sitting in meditation or something - not at all. She is a mother to three small children, one being a newborn, has a lot on her plate and says in this episode that she just falls asleep if she does a...2025-04-091h 44The Sex After Kids PodcastSex After Delivery - What to Expect and How to PrepareSend us a textThis week's episode is for the new parents out there. If you are a seasoned vet make sure to pass this on to any new and expecting parents you know. We are going to talk about :- the 6 biggest myths about sex after delivery and how they will create bad habits for your sex life into the future- my top tips for staying connected through the early years. - my favourite tool for reconnecting to your body after baby and feeling safe to start having sex a...2025-04-0835 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastHow to Have Better Conversations About Your Sex Life with Marriage Coach Michelle PurtaSend us a textThis week on the podcast we have guest Michelle Purta, a marriage and communications coach. This week she will guide us through how to start the conversation about our sex life and how to move forward if we are stuck in a cycle argument on this topic. Michelle and I had to record this conversation three times due to some tech glitches so we thank you for your listening patience. Together we cover: - why conflict is key to growth in your relationship- why your conversations derail an...2025-04-0254 min
The Modern Mom PodcastWhere Did My Libido Go After Kids? And How to Get it Back with Sofia AshleyIn this candid episode of the ModernMom Podcast, certified sex coach Sofia Ashley gets real about the challenges of maintaining a healthy sex life after kids. As a mom and stepmom who’s reinvented her libido three times, Sofia shares her personal journey and practical tips for parents struggling to reconnect with their sexual selves. From debunking common myths about libido to offering actionable advice on how to reignite intimacy, Sofia brings the real talk and magic needed to transition-proof your sex life. Tune in for an empowering conversation on why a healthy sex life matters and how to get it...2025-03-2721 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastAvoiding Sex? Support Your/Your Partners Nervous SystemSend us a textIn this episode we are doing a deep dive into one of the key ingredients of a great sex life - the nervous system. When we talk about creating safety for ourselves and our partner this is what we mean - working with the nervous system to get out of fight or flight. When your partner is avoiding talking to you about sex, avoids sex, or rushes through sex - there's a nervous system issue happening. When we understand it we can solve it to make sex a fun, safe and playful place...2025-03-2552 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastYour Fantasies Might Be Killing Your Sex Life After KidsSend us a textIn this week's episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast Sex Coach Sofia talks about how your fairy smut, daydreams about your ex and porn usage might be killing your sex life and what to do about it. No shade to fantasy, erotica or ethical porn here - and it be both helpful and harmful to our sexual connection. In this episode Sofia breaks down:how fantasy can fuel great sexpectations that lead to frustration and disapointmentthe part of your brain that is giving up when real life do...2025-03-1832 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableThis Changed My LifeHey guys! Welcome back to this weeks episode! I really wanted to share this episode because I know what it can feel like when you are struggling, and especially when someone has hurt you so badly that it is hard to trust anyone or allow anyone to get close to you. Story telling is one of the best tools that I used early on in my journey of personal discovery and it helped me reframe the situation that hurt me in the past and to be able to forgive not only myself, but the people in my past. Being...2025-03-1808 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastTalk to your Vagina to Find Your Libido After KidsSend us a textIn this episode Sofia talks about an often overlooked way to reconnect with your body, your pleasure and your libido after kids. We'll cover: - why talking to your VJJ is so important - 3 ways to get to know your body better (without self pleasure) - how becoming BFFS with her VJJ changed the game for her sex lifeLinks: OMGYES. https://start.omgyes.com/join?irclickid=TFV3CQQ8TxyKRcgXysTwJXMIUks1HGxseyng100&irgwc=1&source=impact&medium=affiliate&campaign=5279043Email sofia@thehappyvaginaproject.com to learn more abou...2025-03-1228 minThe Sex After Kids Podcast5 Parenting Tips That Have Transformed My Sex LifeSend us a textIn this episode, host Sofia shares the lightbulb moment when she realized the parenting tools she was using to support her family to more peaceful moments and cooperation, could help her find more connection and less conflict with her partner, both in and out of the bedroom. Join her as she walks through her five favourite strategies and how they help her to be a better mom, a better partner, and a better human. The parenting program I accessed for FREE was through the Strongest Families Institute. 2025-03-0539 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableThe BEST Revenge is…Hey welcome back to this weeks episode! This episode was really fun to talk about with you guys because it just shows that you can grow in not a lot of time. The person that I used to be versus the person that I am today are very different and it has to do with the amount of respect that I have for myself. If you have ever struggled with standing up for yourself, social anxiety or taking everything that people say to your heart - I can relate to you SO MUCH. I used to struggle with all...2025-03-0210 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastWhy focusing on the P in the V has got you stuck in monotonous sex - and what to do insteadSend us a textThis week on the Sex After Kids Podcast Sofia explores more sex alphabet soup. This week she breaks down:One of the biggest misconceptions about sex that will keep you trapped in the monotony of maintenance sex. How opening up to Discovery Mode is going to unlock more excitement and anticipation in your sex life after kids. Why embracing a new P and V (hint they are not penis and vagina) will help you come back from lacklustre and infrequent sexy times after kids. Make sure to follow us @thehappyvproject on Ins...2025-02-2529 minBecoming #UnfuckwithableNavigating Life With BipolarWelcome to the first episode of this podcast! I am so exicted to release this Podcast where I want to be a Big Sister Figure who you can go to for advice you might be searching for. I know that the thing that changed my life was a empowering podcast who was by a women and I hope to help empower a bunch of you out there to feel better about themselves, act on the things that you may fear and to create such a deep relationship with yourself that you attract everything that you deserve into your life...2025-02-2121 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastHow welcoming masturbation into your marriage will improve your sex life after kidsSend us a textToday we are talking about the M word. Masturbation or self-pleasure can be a super taboo topic, especially when we bring it up in the context of long term relationships or marriage. In todays' episode Sofia tackles the reasons we avoid self-pleasure in our LTR, and makes the case for how the right kind of masturbation practice can actually make you a better lover. Got questions? send em to Sofia@thehappyvaginaproject.com. Access the Sex After Kids Summit Couple Goals VIP Pass and get all the replays of 20+ sessions yo...2025-02-1836 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastThe Mighty Orgasm and Other Famous RiversSend us a textI have something special for you on todays' episode. A throwback to 2015 when I did a Pecha Kucha talk (who remembers that cultural moment) and I gave a talk about orgasms and rivers. It's 6 minutes, totally hilarious and I hope it moves you. 2025-02-1135 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastHow the Good Mother / Good Father Archetype is Blocking Your IntimacySend us a textIn this Episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast I was inspired to reflect on the ways that the archetypes of the Good Mother and The Good Father affect our ability to have great bedroom time. I was inspired by a new book coming out called The Good Mother Myth: Unlearning Our Bad Ideas About Being A Good Mom by Nancy Reddy - to explore how the stereotype can limit our ability to sink in to amazing sex after kids. I also take this opportunity to explore the myth of the Good Father...2025-02-0436 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastStop Avoiding Scheduled Sex and Do This InsteadSend us a textI get it… you are le tired of people telling you to schedule sex… cause it’s lame, not spontaneous, unsexy, or how the F are you going to be able to guarantee that your libido is going to show up on demand. In this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast we break down your hangups about scheduled sex, four reasons to get over it anyways, and I break down my four step formula for scheduling a sex date that DOES NOT SUCK. No pressure for your libido to show up, no...2025-01-2838 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastHow to talk about your sex life after kidsSend us a textIn this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast Sofia shares a session from the 2024 Sex After Kids Summit. If you have ever wondered how to open the conversation about your sex life after kids, or if it feels impossible to get what you want in your relationship now that kids are in the mix, this episode is a must. Let's talk about why its so hard and what you can do it about it. Grab your free Sex After Kids Reset Roadmap.Want to catch more sessions...2025-01-2136 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastDo you really have no time for sex? Or is it something else ?Send us a textIn this episode of the Sex After Kids Podcast, Sex Coach Sofia Ashley challenges couples to explore what they are doing with their time, and how those choices impact their intimacy and their relationship. She explores four reasons why you might be using lack of time as a distraction from the root cause and how to use even 30 minutes a month to get back into the saddle of your sex life after kids. Grab a your FREE Sex After Kids Reset Roadmap Call here. 2025-01-1418 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastBedroom Diaries - Managing Big Emotions During SexSend us a textHave you ever had big feelings come up during sexy times - frustration, irritation, sadness, anger, annoyance? Those big emotions are often a sign that memories and traumas are coming up to be processed. Sometimes, in our sex lives post-kids, those memories can be the very thing blocking our desire to get into the bedroom in the first place. In this episode I walk you through how I managed some tricky feelings in a recent romp in the bedroom and the breakthroughs it revealed for me. TW - some very brief...2025-01-0724 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastWhy waiting for your sex drive to come back is the hard way to a fun flirty relationship after kidsSend us a textIn this episode Sofia explores why so many women are just "waiting for their sex drive to come back online" to have a better sex life. She explores why this thinking is the hard way back to a fun and flirty relationship and what couples who have a thriving sex life after kids do instead. She shares dispatches from her bedroom to illustrate how tuning into intention instead of desire, turning stop signs into yield signs in your body, and communicating playfully can get you back to the sex you crave after children. 2024-12-1824 min
Never Too Festive: Parenting with More Joy & Less Mom Guilt35. Navigating Intimacy After Kids: Actionable Tips for Increasing Pleasure with Sex Expert Sofia AshleyLoved it? Hated it? Not sure? Send me a text!Ever wondered how to maintain a thriving intimate relationship amidst the whirlwind of parenting? Elizabeth Hambleton hosts an eye-opening conversation with intimacy coach Sofia Ashley, who shares her personal experiences and insights into sexual well-being. From understanding the profound effects of motherhood on libido to tackling stigmas around discussing sexual needs, this episode is packed with real talk on preventing relationship dissatisfaction and divorce through open communication.Sofia and Elizabeth aren't here to tiptoe around the complexities of intimacy for parents. They address the societal...2024-12-131h 03The Sex After Kids PodcastOvercoming Sexual Self-Consciousness: Reclaiming Your Inner SpectatorSend us a textIn this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast we explore the concept of 'spectatoring' during intimacy and the impact of societal expectations, particularly the male gaze, on sexual experiences. Sofia shares personal anecdotes and offers practical tips—reclaiming your inner critic as a cheerleader, curating a healthy media diet, and using mindfulness to drown out negative thoughts—to help parents reconnect with their sexual selves post-parenthood.00:00 Introduction to the Podcast01:01 Understanding Spectatoring and the Male Gaze01:45 The Impact of Spectatoring on Sexual Experience08:00 Personal Experiences and Overcoming Spec...2024-12-1115 min
The Not Your Mother's Pelvic Floor PodcastEpisode 64: Sex Coach Sofia Ashley on Finding Your Sex Drive After KidsIn Episode 64 of the Not Your Mother's Pelvic Floor podcast, Aliya chats with Certified Sex Coach Sofia Ashley all about how to get your libido back after having kids. In this episode, you'll hear Sofia and Aliya chat about:Where Sofia learned about periods, tampons, STIs and sexWhat it was like to feel disconnected from her body growing upWhat happens in our body (and our pelvic floor) when we have an orgasmThe surprising things that can impact our sex drive after having a babyWhat "libido" is and what influences our arousalSpontaneous vs scheduled sex...2024-11-2056 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastSex Into your Sixties - Secrets for Success from Long Term Lovers - Sex After Kids Summit Sneak Peak Interview with Helen Rowlands - Holistic Sex CoachSend us a textToday I am sharing a bonus interview from the Sex After Kids Summit with Holistic Pleasure Coach Helen Rowlands. Helen is in her 60s and has been married for 45 years. I sat down with her to talk about she's living the best version of her relationship yet with more love and more satisfying sex than ever. We talk about her sexual renaissance in her 40s, understanding each others sexual types and needs, and the importance of having mentors and role models who show us what can be possible in a long term relationship. 2024-11-1939 minThe Sex After Kids Podcast5 Ways Shitty Sex Ed is Messing with Your Sex Life Post KidsSend us a textIn this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, Sofia delves into the significance of sex education and its lasting effects on adult sex lives, particularly after having children. The conversation covers several key points, including the failure of sex education to address pleasure, the importance of self pleasure, the need for detailed anatomical knowledge, and the impact of societal shame on sexual well-being. Through personal anecdotes and reflective questions, listeners are encouraged to reconsider their past sex education experiences and how they have influenced their current sexual relationships. 00:19 The Impact o...2024-11-1231 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastCreating the Positive Feedback LoopSend us a textIn this episode of the 'Sex After Kids' podcast, we discuss the importance of creating a positive feedback loop in your sex life. Sofia explains the concept of feedback loops and how positive sexual experiences can lead to more enjoyable and relaxed future encounters. Conversely, stress, trauma, and negative experiences can cause a negative feedback loop, making it difficult to enjoy sex. The episode offers practical tips for partners to help each other break free from these negative loops, such as taking the pressure off sex and practicing consent. 00:24 Understanding Positive...2024-11-0514 min
Get Your Marriage On! with Dan PurcellCreate A Party Your Libido Wants To Come To with Sofia Ashley There's a lot of stress in parenthood (and regular life) that presses on the couple's relationship, which Emily and I know firsthand as parents to 6 children. And I know that maintaining intimacy and being lovers while also being parents and good at our jobs and other responsibilities is a challenge many of us face, which is why I'm so interested in this topic today. And I had so much fun recording this episode with my guest, Sofia Ashley. She's a hoot! Sofia has been a sex coach for 10 years and has a program...2024-11-0144 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastThe Four Secret Ingredients for a Fab Sex Life - After KidsSend us a textIn this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast, we explore the four secret ingredients essential for a fulfilling sex life post-parenthood. Listen in to find out what the nervous system, communication, your relationship to pleasure and your mindset have to do with reclaiming your sex life after kids. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast00:37 Setting the Stage with 'Easy'07:24 The Naked Sexy Fun Times Cycle14:43 Four Core Ingredients for a Fantastic Sex Life15:10 Nervous System: The First Ingredient19:50 Communication: The Second Ingredient2024-10-2929 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastWhat's wrong with my libido after kids? Part 3Send us a textIn this final part of our mini series explore the shifts in our sexual landscape after kids we examine the intersection of cultural, spiritual, and societal influences on our sex lives after having children. Listeners are invited to reflect on their personal beliefs and the impact of societal and religious messages on their 'sexpectations.' The episode emphasizes the need for communication, intentionality, and understanding to overcome myths about natural sexual prowess. By addressing issues like gender scripts, poor sex education, and religious shame, the discussion aims to help couples enhance their intimacy...2024-10-2532 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastDitching the Great SexpectationsSend us a textToday we are talking all about Great Sexpectations - those sneaky "shoulds" that are killing the vibe in your post baby bedroom. Whether it's falling prey to gender traps (scripts about how he and she should behave in the bedroom), expecting everyone to be a five star sex god, or believing it's all for his pleasure - a better sex life is beyond what we think we know about sex. We'll explore: 00:00 Introduction: The Power of Talking About Issues00:03 Comfort Zones and Silent Stress00:11 Support and Readiness to...2024-10-2525 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastUs Against the Problem - Tackling Your Sex Life Together After KidsSend us a textThis episode of the Sex After Kids podcast delves into common challenges couples face in their sex lives after having children, focusing on the detrimental effects of the blame game and the significance of teamwork in overcoming creating a new sex life together. Sex is a team sport - let's talk about how to support each other to get to pleasure town. 00:32 The Biggest Mistake in Post-Kids Sex Life00:50 Blaming Yourself or Your Partner03:41 Common Thoughts and Misconceptions05:07 Quit the Magical Thinking05:40 Taking Action and Working Together2024-10-2513 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastWhat's wrong with my libido after kids? Part 2Send us a textIn this episode of the Sex After Kids podcast we continue our series exploring what factors impact libido and our desire and drive to have sex and connect with our partner after kids. In part 2 we explore the emotional dynamics at play including: the importance of communication, equitable division of labor, and modeling healthy intimacy for children. Practical advice, including resources like 'Fair Play,' and reflections on trauma, shame, and societal expectations round out the conversation. The episode encourages listeners to engage in dialogue and reflect on their personal experiences.00:00 I...2024-10-2525 minThe Sex After Kids PodcastWhat's wrong with my libido after kids? Part 1Send us a textIn the next three episodes we are going to start by helping you map the new sex drive landscape post-kids. So many clients I talk to don't know where their desire or interest for sex went after kids - and the truth is, there are a lot of potential culprits. So let's help you get to the bottom of it. In the first of the three part mini series we'll explore the physical dimensions of change in your sex life after kids. 01:34 Understanding the Libido Brick Wall04:07 Four...2024-10-2525 min